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Wifeoflgbo:
I was previously heavier at 90kilograms but I didn't look very big. He told me at the time that he liked it. And that he liked my body.

But recently I have lost weight. He told me I have done okay but to not gain anymore weight. But to lose more if I can. Even though I am feeling sick from lack of food. My medication is what keeps myle chubby. So I have to eat very little just to lose weight.

I said "I thought you told me you liked my fatter body?" He told me "I was just trying to be nice. I'm not a mean person. But I didn't like your old body. But this one it bust my head!" I felt really upset by this. So I asked him if he was still attracted to me back then and he said "yes" and I asked if he would leave me if I gained more weight. And he said he would never leave me if I'm skinny or fat. I asked him again why he said he didn't like my old body, and he told me he "never said that" 🙄🙄🤦 after he got super excited about my new body for another 20mins, he told me to stop bringing it up and that he needed to get some rest.

So I let it go. But part of me still feels hurt. Feels self conscious.

My husband is igbo and lives in Owerri and I am a white westerner. So maybe I am misunderstanding or the cultures are clashing here?

what's the age difference between you two?
Are you older than him?

Just let it go for your peace of mind

Nbote:
Why didn't she transform when she was with him? If she liked how she was before why did she feel the need for transformation. Make she getat abeg.
Infact she should thank him for dumping her so she could look better

he was most likely the cause of her state. Some of you XYs can cause a woman stress.

Magnoliaa:
And I thought it was y'all that used to advise yourselves to break up with your babes during festive seasons?


What changed now?

Men could never take what they dish out.

These niggas know their bad behavior

ahnie:
Likely ma'am by the time he 'll engage her with his Gloriousgbola
She go forget everything.

STD infested gbola. No thank you

GboyegaD:
There are many doctors looking for residency in Nigeria. Perhaps, now those without connection can get a place for residency.

That said, so that every doctor doesn't become consultant and run away, it is time to look into the earnings of doctor and try to make it favorable such that it is fair enough to make them stay. This applies to every other sector.

Not necessarily. It's actually makes more sense to leave than to apply for residency where you will only suffer bullying, be overworked and strike for any excuse. The number of people writing USLME and PLAB exams far outweigh those who are writing primaries.

Even the lecturers who would teach the doctors are leaving in droves, consultants are fleeing, nurses are fleeing, every one is fleeing and age isn't stopping them.

ahnie:
I strongly believe they'll settle much later.

whether they settle or not. He's still a parasite.
Are you insinuating that she xan overlook his numerous affairs and theft?

ahnie:
The wife almost collapse and burst into hot tears,both families were called for a meeting with the lady opening saying she's done with the marriage as it seems to have taken a toil on her being the bread winner.
As I write she has abandoned their kids with the man and went away with taking anything from their home to another town to start a fresh life.


Reasons for this post is....her husband is still bragging that what belongs to his wife also belongs to him,that he has rights to spend the money


My question is....who's to be blamed?
Should we blame the woman for being too lax with her ATM CARD N PIN which her husband is privy to?

OR

The man that blew the wife's money on frivolities

She did the right thing.
Divorce that parasite of a man

kkins25:
If women choose to not give birth because they deem themselves unfit for the task, that's their problem. Good for them.

For me, it's a game of "let the strongest survive." So if their mental capacity isn't strong enough to bring them to sire children, then they are better off dead. Anyway, not every being is supposed to pass down their genes. It's the law of nature. So.....

Who said anything about making my children my retirement plan? I said, through them I am Immortalized. Do you have too much spec in your eyes?

Winter cannot come for many men. That's radical feminist delusion; too much food has made them lose touch with reality.

Do not forget, your consciousness is a delusion. the living being in you is your DNA, which is doing everything in its power to make sure it survives. If women choose to stop siring children, mother nature will teach them a lesson.

Mother nature has blessed human femailes with sensitive genitals so that sex is pleasant for them. Yes, child birth is risky, but have you seen a hyena giving birth?

I hope u know, women are programmed to seek out males during ovulation. That sensation will be heightened when human population drops.. 😁 😁

Reminds me of Lot, Abraham's Nephew. See what his daughters did? 😂. The moment women's s DNA realize our specie is at risk of annihilation, women will be d ones forcing men to nack them..

Humans! Think you have control over your behavior 🤣🤣I laugh in hyena..

Agree to disagree. You still delusional tho.

I wish the Indian doctor working on womb transplants between women and men can make it a reality.

kkins25:
Yes,of course. I chose to fvck, I chose! How can I be making a sacrifice for that which i've decided to bring into this world? Instead, it is they that would have to sacrifice on my behalf because I may not be able to fulfill all their childhood dreams. Hopefully, I live long enough to ensure they become independent adults.

Child bearing isn't a sacrifice on either the mans part nor the womans part. Sacrifice? On who's behalf? Did the child whisper into their ears to tun off the lights and rub genitals? Come on!

Shockingly, it's only humans that have this audacity! You don't see monkeys tellings it's offspring "I sacrificed for you to live."

Whatever sacrifices I make, it is not for the sake of the children, it is for my sake: Because, only through them can my ancestors and I attain immortality.

This mentality is disgusting. Your children are not your retirement plans. They are not your legacy.

It is disgusting when 2 people rub genitals without thinking of lifelong consequences. Siring a progeny into the world without a plan to raise it properly into adulthood as a contributor to society is how boko harm recruits members and people get houseboys and housegirls.

You all will learn down the line. Fûck around and find out season is here. Winter is coming for many men. Worldwide, a movement of women are choosing to not have children is growing. With time, it will enter this country too. Women are beginning to question if motherhood is worth it.

Solofresh2:
I came across this thread https://www.nairaland.com/7922825/husband-before-ask-wife-what and I see the OP trying to justify the saying "what does a woman brings to the table" anthem by men nowadays.

Saying a woman facing a difficult time giving birth to her child is a sacrifice is a no no.It is natural for a woman to give birth to a child,either difficulty or not.

It is also natural for a man to releases sperm,so as to impregnate a woman.

If a man find it difficult to impregnate a woman, will you call that a sacrifice too?

Infact,sacrifice is when a man provides everything for his woman because it is not compulsory.

Anybody can make money to provide for their own needs, not always waiting for your man to do everything for you.

It is your responsibility as a woman to carry your pregnancy if you want a child.

This is the most ignorant and dumbest thread I ever saw.
Pregnancy and childbirth puts a woman's life at risk.

I remember during youth service when I served in the O&G department of a certain hospital. That year what I used my eye to see and experienced, it traumatized me, I know how many women and babies I saved from the brink of death and disability. heck, I nearly got infected with HIV due to somebody's incompetent and swore that I would rather stay single than open my legs for a worthless man and bear him a child.


Motherhood is not worth it and over rated except if you have a partner who is sensible. Not these poorly trained men who think they are husband material. Many men don't even know what it means to be parents.

Ladies should a man start misbehaving, a pregnancy will not patch your relationship. Go and get birth control if you are not ready for wahala.

telkevog:
The thing tire person o,🤷

Please, is there any substitute to onions? Update us please,
We can't continue like this.

spring onions.

Because stew doesn't taste the same without onions.
Something is always missing

Asawoboy:
How do we say NEPA don bring light with correct English.🙄
Make una bring chair,
grammar go fall from sky today 🤣🤣🤣

power supply has been restored

FreeStuffsNG:
I don't think the questions were set in a professional manner and NUC should look into this. It's way too personal and prodding yet there's no confidentiality clause that those answers will not be used for any other purpose or that answers don't represent the sexual biases of the students.

It's way too unprofessional and I am not surprised that it's all this small small lowly rated schools with mostly inexperienced faculty and student members which should still be under mentorship of top universities.

NUC must look into this and mandate that department to reword those questions and satisfy legal clauses. Imagine the answer a student gives today being used against him or her in the future. This is very mediocre in my opinion.

When they tell you to study very hard so you can merit a placement in top Nigerian universities, please do so o so that you will not end up in chuke-chuke glorified secondary schools like this one. Check my signature for free stuffs!

Apart from question 1b
'Your' should have been replaced with 'a'

There's nothing unprofessional in those questions. The questions are relevant to their course of study and in today's climate.

It is for social work students, I would be more shocked if it was for an engineering course.

A lot of immature people on this forum, especially op

SPAMBOX7:
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God will punish you and the person in the story. May he be sterile after this.
You can sleep with somebody's daughter but not have a baby with the person.

Thunder Fire una. Oniranu.

mariahAngel:
I'm almost quite sure most of you will come here and tell us beans/noodles, but please guys, you can do better those.
Just believe in yourselves. Shock us please.😀

So, what is that dish you know you can confidently cook so well?
No lying o!😌
What dish do you cook best?

Pictures credit: Mariah's

jollof spaghetti.
I can never mess it up.
I used it to snag my bae.
Happy birthday sirjamesjnr

Chee59:
Children are where most people draw the line. Never send anyone's kids without express permission from their parents. What if someone kidnaps them on the road? You can't feel entitled to your friend's children.

Then the friend should also stop feeling entitled to children freeloading in op's house. It's not hard.

Kobojunkie:
When I was a kid my mum used to send us out on errands for her friend. Her friend had kids much younger than we were and she also had a business that kept her busy much of the time so understandably she needed help with babysitting from time to time. I remember having to go babysit her kids or pick them up from school to take them home when their mum was too busy to do it herself. I understood quite well how the relationship benefitted my mother as well, plus visiting the woman presented an opportunity for me to hang out with my own friends at the time.

while I get your point, because accidents can happen when she sends the child on an errand, why didn't the friend tell her directly to limit the errand runs. It screams Judas iscariot behavior to me.

Btw was she sending the children on errands all the time?

Ginaz:
Thanks. I've limited my time with them. one day she came to visit me and said I no longer come to her house. I just smiled to myself , didn't reply her.

she's pregnant currently with her 7th child in this harsh economy. I pray God provides for them, and for me cos the kids still come to eat in my house . I don't know how to drive them away. i feel sorry for the kids who sometimes go to school on empty stomach and eat eba for morning and night for days without end.

she's clearly responsible for her current situation. 7children in this economy. Is labor pain a joke to her? Is family planning a joke?

Unfortunately the kids suffer for parents lack of wisdom.

Be careful sha.

Ginaz:
but if she needs something from me she sends same children to come to me right? I don't want to go into great details what I did for them and plans i intend to do for them. they don't have chairs in their house, they use bench. I have 4 sitter leather chairs , I was thinking of giving her one the same day the daughter told me what her mother said.

There was other things that happened. I had a quarrel with someone it got heated and drew crowds. this my so called friend came and was begging my opponent to be calmed while she totally ignored me. it was when I called her on phone she then pacified me.

I went to see her one day and she told me she went to beg the woman the next morning. I was like what ? did I ask you to do that? while she never visited me to discussed the issue or hear my side of story till date.

I'm feeling weird that she doesn't take me as a friend as I take her to be.

she is envious of you and feels inferior but also feels that she can look down on you since you don't have kids, but she will not stop the kids from freeloading in your house. Sounds like she wants to use you.

Limit your association with such a person because the next thing now is to accuse you of snatching her husband.

Keepamsafe:
From my past posts, you can see that I have been welcoming of different ladies with different interests. Im a young man still in his prime.
Lately, the thoughts of marriage has beclouded my thoughts and reasonings. So, I decided to be entertaining of different girls. Luckily, I found a virgin.

A 19 yrs old 300L student in a federal university studying Micro Biology. A very modest girl with a strict dad.
Talking about her virginity, I have confirmed it both from her words of mouth and while trying to do the do. she is a first class virgin (Done nothing in the past except kissing). We got talking months ago and I can firmly say she loves me and wants to have a serious relationship with me.

But, I have few concerns.

Should I commit to her? Being a young man looking to settle down in a year or two.

Being a virgin, do I have to agree she has a bright future? And won’t be a burden to me both financially and otherwise? As im not yet too financially buoyant.

Do I have any reasons to be scared in the near future that she might cheat? And want to taste what’s outside?

Should I invest in her? Both financially and otherwise as I have just been playing safe with her but she’s been showing me love and sacrifices.

Do I have anything to be scared of if her strict dad finds about my frolicking with his daughter?

Im in a dilemma. Please help.
OAM4J Mynd44 Rocktation Nlfpmod Seun Dominique lalasticlala help for wider opinion please

how old are you? If you can't specify please give me a range.

Apart from her virginity, was there anything else that attracted you to her? Cos you are giving creepy predator vibes.

Biisola:
Yeah I screenshoted it from one of her attention seeking thread.
Her other handles are mercychen,charisgrace and some other I have forgotten.
She's a bitter twin,trying hard to destroy her twin sister marriage.

Pls leave her to her folly.

It is truly unfortunate. May she receive the help she needs.

Biisola:
Please kindly ignore her,why wasting your time on a lonely old woman that has no shame
Like harding123 said,the woman is a mad woman.
See whom you're arguing with?
Does she sound like a normal person to you?

is that her pic, she very average..

Mtcheew!! I was truly wasting my time with her.

Iamtonitoni:
Hmmmmm....All men are the same? well that includes your father, brothers and uncles shay you know? One out of billions of men do you, instead of being particular about him, your bitterness and frustrations no let u reason again say not all men are cheats. abi you don test all men ne? my dear be calming down o

I tire o.

She's lonely and frustrated.

Hardy123:
The OP is a mad woman, pay her no attention pls.

I won't again. Many are mad but few are roaming naked on the streets.

Jewessgratitud3:
Yes I dated him with my full chest and came out proudly to say it here. I enjoyed it while it lasted, rocked even more after that and still bouncing and looking sweet 20. Can you pull off such game and still look great? Heheheheheee... ; 😂😂😂 you've not even started you're already looking shapeless and dented.

You think I don't know you? Even guys here know your ugly past that was you deleted your funmistic account to cover your ugly past on here.

you said I'm here seeking validation, what is this one here?
See the internet never forgets.

what ugly past?

What's ugly about some random comments?
Watching you grasp at straws is an exercise in futility.
Anyway you think you know me but I can't even be bothered to know you. You're that insignificant to everyone here especially me. Is that not why you are writing things like this online. Its obvious your parents were not around to stop you from going astray.

I can't even bother to deal with you, feel free to have the last word since it matters to you. I'm off to work where people matter

Jewessgratitud3:
Shame for what? Did I steal or sleep with any bodys husband? No, tell me cos I don't get it.

You that year that was crying feminist and trying to drag every lady into your misery then boom, one baba just manage say hi, you switched overnight from being a bitter "feminist" to a slave for love and started disturbing the whole nairaland with your excapades with him. What is that one? No be validation you too dey seek. You never see man for you life and jumped at the very first one that managed to hi you. Nairaland full.

You're just a pot calling kettle black. Just shut up if you don't know what to say. Na who no know you you go dey yarn all this dust for.

Three years ( abi na four sef) in a relationship and nothing to show for it in this time and age man still dey play you mugu and you still have mouth to talk. Key holder.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😍🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Me drag every lady?!

I keep my life mostly private and it's working for me.

At least I did not sleep with a dead woman's husband and ex convict, playing stepmother to his six children. A bum who can't even stay faithful to you.

I don't know what you were thinking sha. Were you really expecting marriage? May your foolishness be cured one day. May your curses be broken. What an embarrassing and shameful thing. Always remember you brought this on yourself. I'm logging off to the real world.

Magnoliaa:
Feminists still collect stray bullets insai this mata 🥲.


What we do? 😪

Jesu oko ijo, olugbaala, saanu wa.

I don't know why the old hag is dumping this nonsense on the internet? Reading that story will make you lose a few brain cells. She's just plain daft and I can't baby stewpid people. We are not her mother. Was she expecting accolades for her post?

Is nairaland.com a counselors office?

Has she no shame?

Jewessgratitud3:
Me cry? Haaaa... You don't know though. Hmmm... Seems you're the one who just finished crying because the truth I spoke about you really hit hard.

Atutu puyoyo go and sleep before I dash you another one. Nkpi.

Aunty keep barking na!!
Keep crying!

Dash me wetin? When you have nothing useful in your life to offer. Even a RAG is more useful than you. Wasting your youth on trashy men and regretting now that you're past your prime because you can't afford a therapist.

Ekuke! 404!!

Jewessgratitud3:
😂 😂 😂... See painment. You have resolved to name calling like the local champ you are. you don't need to feel insulted cos I didn't insult but stated clear facts about you / your reality. So, jumping all over the place and trying to slut shame me when in fact you and I know I don't fit into that description is just plain stupidity.

Of course you can't have any ex because no man will approach his fellow man ( you) in the first place. If in your entire life only one man has ever come near you, then you must be uglier than what I've seen in your pics. Pathetic.

Make woman dey in her prime make men no rush am, na woman be that? Tufia!. Even me at 42, young young boys still dey queue and I'm taking my time to select. Even the one that managed to come near you since three years ago still never sure whether to put this ugly duckling for house. Cover your face in shame because your shame dey shame me.

Say no more.

At least I don't need to air out dirty laundry for clout.

I don't need validation like you.

You got the attention you want. You do you sis. Spread those legs from lagos to dubai. Keep allowing them to defile your body thinking you are giving consent..

Fake laugh to hide your real pain.. You'll still log off and cry yourself to sleep while allowing me to live rent free in your head tonight. Good night. I hope you like what you've become. Cos it isn't pretty.

Jewessgratitud3:
Hahahahahaaa.. see? They come talking trash and when you clap back they cry foul and scream ", attitude"!! So you that first attacked me from nowhere have no attitude problems?

Menopause is not a death sentence for your info. And not something to shame someone with because even you will hit it soon and it's not by age... so you see how dumb you are ? For someone who claims to be a quack doctor and
is expected to know better but lacks professionalism in her field of study. its such a shame and only goes to show that you never smelt medical school or while your mates were aquiring all the knowledge and professional training needed for the right code of conduct, you were busy with your hook-up clients.

For your info, if and when I hit menopause I'll still rock it with my beautiful and youthful looks. Thanks to His grace and my parents for great genes.
You haven't reached menopause and already looking like a bat... Now imagine you at menopause, chai!!!

See, talking with you is a total waste of time. You have enough to worry about your life. Let me not add to it.

Owl!

The old hag thinks she's clapping back!! LOL!!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣


when did I attack you?

Stop acting like a rabid bitch barking and biting indiscriminately.

I only wondered what you were doing in a situationship with so many red flags waving in your decrepit face. Surely the guy must have jazzed you. But it seems you are just a cheap slut who opens her legs for any human being with a dick that smiles your way..

Aunty pick a shovel and dig the ground cos even the graveyard is higher than where your standards are.

Looks can only get you so far. At the most you'll just be used and dumped when your crazy starts to show and your yeye starts to smell. At least I don't have bad relationship history nor do I have an ex somewhere with bad things to say about me or a promiscuous history, or a body count higher than your IQ.

It's better to be ugly than be a rabid, crazy used slut and cum bucket like you with nothing to offer but bleached skin and STIs. Rabies has no cure you mangy slut.

What responsible son of Adam will settle for you? Who wants to invoke curses on their generation?

Even love cannot be used as an excuse for retarded choices like that. Love don't fix stupid

Ashewo!!

Now I am attacking you.

talk2hb1:
She foolishly fell in love out of pity, or what’s the meaning of I am managing him. She had her chance, but misused it.

exactly!!

I can't give sympathy to someone like that.

Jewessgratitud3:
Look at this Ewu. Who was unemployed? Who used jazz on who? Dem dey talk you self dey talk... This one wen Dem don turn her finger to key holder for three years now has mouth to say someone was jazzed.

Abeg get lost! Ugly duckling.

Lol!!
Your attitude and behavior stinks worse than a diabetic foot ulcer.

Upon the fine whey you think say you fine, are you not approaching menopause with your reproductivecareer approaching retirement? Very soon your menses will become inconsistent like your sense and the hot flushes, wrinkles and vaginal dryness will set in making you look like a mummified zombie.

Your were stupid then, nothing wrong with that, but this Your reply shows that you are still stupid today. Your age is truly not directly proportional to your maturity.

If coming here for online validation, trauma dumping and fishing for insincere compliments from 'feminists' who may as well be happily married in their homes will make you feel better;
Go queen!! SLAYY!!! YOU WILL FIND BETTER!! Men are trasH!!

I don't give a flying fvck about your feelings and will not participate in your victim Olympics ad nauseaum. Coming to cry wolf when you're for the streets..🤮🤮🤮🤮🤢🤢

Marriage may not be your cup of tea since you have poor taste in men. You are the common denominator in all your past relationship history.

Go for introspection and therapy. You need it. Jesus Christ.

That's my advice for you.