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Your local sense , and mumu sense,

I have said it before not all girls are useless , or worthless but because of what you read here on Nairaland that a man must be hard , a man must handle girls with iron hand , bla bla bla ,

You sent a girl , break up message and you want her to still call to beg you, who are you?

you lie in the first place , you got angry in the first place ,you still sent break up message again , and you want her to call and beg you

You are sick , very sick and very stupid human being ,

I have said it, most of the guys here that comment on relationship , are street boys in ghetto areas ,reason their advice is always stupid and odd

No girl from a responsible home, that has work for her self, can tolerate a stupid useless hard guy, every lady deserve love and care.


Please go and look for your type in ghetto, that you will beat, insult, ad she will still call you to beg you , nonsense.



























quote author=Frank20219 post=106392662]I was in a relationship with a girl for 8 months. I feel she is too much for me. She has everything I want in a woman but she is just too good to be true. She is intelligent, kind, hardworking, beautiful, she has a good job, earns more than me and she is more educated than I am.

For months, she has maintained consistent behaviour and she did not change. That was when I fell in love with her, even when I misbehaved she never insulted me instead she handled everything maturely despite me being older than her.

From the beginning, I kept a little secret from her. I have a daughter from my other relationship. My daughter is 8 years now and she lives with her mother. I pay something to the mother every month but I have not seen my ex or my daughter for 5 years.

From the beginning, she asked if I had a child before and she told me she hates dishonesty. I told her I don't have a child because I sensed she might not want to pursue a relationship with me.

I started to feel guilty when I realised our relationship was getting serious so I started distancing myself from her and asked her to give me some space. She was not offended instead she still kept interacting with me.

Two weeks ago, I broke up with her over text, she did not respond. This is someone who calls me and texts me regularly, but after seeing my break up message she did not call or text me. She did not even acknowledge the break up.

The truth is that I wanted her to beg so that I can open up about my daughter. I know she is emotionally involved with me and at this stage it will be easier for her to accept me despite having a child.

What can I do for her to want me back and reach out first? I still love her.[/quote]

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quote author=okaforlazarus90 post=106378194]So, the bottomline of it all be say, guys no get any problem![/quote]

Pray, what God can not do does not exist, DNA is just a test, talk to God to make the result favour you, God can change the DNA to that of your father now.

You will not be crushed , just pray, first ,
Handle the situation spiritually and see God bring peace into your life.





































uote author=Barrister026 post=106314842]My dad called me on the phone 2 days ago asking if I be coming home for the holiday, which is unlikely of him, because I just left home not quite long and he hardly call. (I school within our state, studying law)..... while we were on the call he mentioned about the Dr appointment. (We normally do routine check-up every 2 months )

Throwing the question to me if I even know my blood group. (I replied, no)
At FIRST I thought it's just a normal question.

Am 21yrs old, eldest among 3 siblings and I think my dad has something planned out, he's an Internet freak even more than I, he's actively online on twitter, facebook, and seeing all the uproars about DNA test here and there on Nairaland, I think he's going to ask me to come to the hospital with him disguising it as me Knowing my blood group (for a DNA test.)

The thing here is am scared, because all my life I have seen people saying never to trust a woman (I love my mom, but still am scared)

What if it's a DNA test (which I strongly believe it is)
What if it's turns out complicated
Would he still accept me? Or abandon me to myself.
So many thoughts running through my head, they are reasons for that.

He's black, I am fair (though my mum says I took his father complexion)


Pls help me...am thinking to stay back in school or go home This evening.
Am confused.[/quote]

You are an idiot , a stupid fool, leave the wife out of this ,if you are keeping the pregnancy ,keep it and take care of the baby your self, do not use it to destroy the peace of mind of the wife,


You found out he is pregnant and you still decide to become pregnant.

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Darhmmy:
We used to be lovers back in uni , We broke up at some point and lost contact. Earlier this year we reconnected at a party and it was obvious we still had feelings for each other.












We started dating and everything seemed nice at first. He never told me he was married. After months of dating , i started to get suspicious as he wouldn't let me visit his home , instead he was always coming to mine and meeting up at hotels. We had a big fight about it and he finally told me the truth. He kept on pleading and asking that we continue dating. I couldn't even leave if I wanted to, I was in love with him.

I am 2 months pregnant and he has been avoiding me. He calls just once in two days and has told me to do whatever I want with the pregnancy , that he is fine with my decisions. I want to keep him and the baby and I'm scared he may ghost up on me. Last night I found his wife and some of his relatives on Facebook and I want to send them texts about it. I really need advise on this.

Your mother told you the man you are with is not your father, I am sure the man that raised you is also aware so why making it look like your mother lied about you .


Nonsense








quote author=FutureIsFemale post=106346912]

https://.com/man-finds-out-who-is-biological-father-is-after-carrying-out-a-dna-test/[/quote]

Mad man,
will getting a side chic pregnant solve the issue, see advice you are giving,
Later you people will be shouting parternity test, you can not eat your cake and have it, once a woman discover the man has side chic and pregnancy outside, she will definitely get a side cook , then what will be the end result?

Just shut u.
.please ignore this mad single guy advice



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...quote author=MASTERYANKEE post=106340194]Get one side chick pregnant not time men[/quote]

And young guys will be assisting him, reason you have too many paternity fraud.











quote author=BabaIbo post=106315113]Pictorial representation of a woman can marry a tree as long as it has money.
Another representation is "A man has no past time, he can always marry even the finest anytime he is ready, unlike a woman."

Oldman, hope you go fit chop this one finish?

The lady is pretty with a nice curvature.


In another news, Glo network is slower than an injured snail. Very anyhow network.[/quote]

Go and rest nah, i do not use wig, not all women are liability, not all women use sex to make money, change your poverty stinking mentality

Go and rest the country is hot, we do not need people like you, with such a disgusting and retardant mindset.


Much love.












uote author=TUANKU post=106287532]
Change the dirty cheap wig on your blockhead before you talk about feeding me
I wonder how many bura you go collect before you go fit feed yourself not to talk of big man like me
Okpo![/quote]

Wife beater spotted, ladies run away from this idiot,
Fool looking for idiotss like himself to support him, so you want to do evil and want your gender to support you,..you have no right to beat a woman, .

What will be your judgement if you offend your woman and she pour you acid?

You are a wife beater ,you have anger issue . Seek for help, stop justifying your madness.


Since the guy is right to hit her, the lady has right to pour him acid


Without any problem

Since you are mad, and you are justifying

Your madness , let everybody justify their madness and see if you can stand.











quote author=Ayo2004 post=106291837]
Mr man,better shut up
You don't know how much a woman can push you to do the impossible with her hurtful words

Not everybody has self control
The woman most likely deserves it
Don't judge if you don't know the whole story

Before u start your "I am a gentleman " brouhaha, remember that these women are doing the most evil things to men because they know the gentlemen will never retaliate.
They burn their man's car,his clothes,punch him,break his tv,scatter his phone,injure him yet simps like you will come and be saying don't touch a woman no matter what.
It trends on Twitter everyday

You would be surprised to hear this woman hit her boyfriend thinking he is one of the gentlemen crew only for the man to do his own back

Una go just sideline your own gender dey support women
These women will always support themselves no matter what,see the way they are defending paternity fraud,they will go to any lengths to support their own but mumu man like you go just dey yarn nonsense because of pussy and nonsense chilvary[/quote]

See idiot, hope when you sleep with his wife , and another man sleeps with your wife, and she becomes pregnant and give you the child ,you will not join the people to shout DNA. DNA.










uote author=agbolahan1991 post=106271761]Her husband has been away for almost a month, I feel pity though have been having a crush on her right from before she got married, now she has a shop beside our office and I can't get my heart off her each day I see her....

Am a married man too but my wife gives me hell, with her anger, bad mouth and ojukokoro
Am not happy as a married man and I really need someone I can talk to, open up to and someone that can relieve the pain in my heart..[/quote]

Idiot, stop using your wife as an excuse, you have been eyeing her before marriage, and that is what is affecting your marriage , because your eyes are outside , you will not be the best to your wife, reason she complains and nags alot, concentrate on your marriage give your wife the love and care you are giving the woman and see wmhiw your wife will change

When you want to cheat, cheat because you are useless, stop pushing blames .





















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author=agbolahan1991 post=106271761]Her husband has been away for almost a month, I feel pity though have been having a crush on her right from before she got married, now she has a shop beside our office and I can't get my heart off her each day I see her....

Am a married man too but my wife gives me hell, with her anger, bad mouth and ojukokoro
Am not happy as a married man and I really need someone I can talk to, open up to and someone that can relieve the pain in my heart..[/quote]

When you were abused did you go for therapy? You need it, because it will destroy your home if you are not properly heal, from the tryna of the past.


Because you were abused by an older lady, you feel your wife can abused your son,
Please any man and women sexually abused as a child should please go for psychological healings before thinking of marriage .



Uncle you are over reacting , she is the mother mother and new born babies bond that way.


See a psychologist on you ur case.















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bobontop:
My wife is fond of kissing my 6months boy in the mouth. I personally don't like this and I have told her to stop it but she refused.

This issue in causing a serious argument in my home and I want to take a serious action since she has refused to stop it.

Please I need advice from experienced parents.

I was abused sexual as a child by a cousin staying with us and there are cases of incest around me. I don't want any of this to happen to my son.

The teenage girl staying with us always sees my wife kissing my son in the mouth and I am afraid she my copy it and start doing it.

Please am I wrong? Am I over reacting? Is it a normal practice? Please advise me.

The leave is good ,so that they can go and do DNA.








uote author=Ecstasy154 post=106284302]
https://thenationonlineng.net/breaking-fec-approves-14-day-paternity-leave/?[/quote]

Mumu, idiot, every woman is a liability, fool, I will feed you and your entire generation.

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End of discussion ..

So sorry if I use abusive words on you forgive me please.
Good night much love from here

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uote author=TUANKU post=106279987]
Okpo why are you mad? Did you mother get married to a drunk who couldn't take care of you?
A pity the man who will end up with a liability like you. Okpo wey mumu.[/quote]

Do not talk with little knowledge, children below to either the mother or father , that can take care of the child simple .


The child welfare is always put into consideration when considering who to keep the child.















quote author=cryptotech post=106275146]Most of our women are ignorant, they will be fighting over ownership of children, did they think they own children in Nigerian?
Children belong to the father not mother, it is father land, the Nigerian constitution says father own the kids
A woman can only take custody of kids if the kids are still below the age of five according to the law
All these useless present day girls should have some sense

If the child doesn't belong to the husband, give it to the owner[/quote]

You are a big fool, that can not read and write , reading the post it is obvious the the things you mentioned are all there .


It is very obvious you are one of the useless men around, that can not provide for his family, shameless fool instead of you to hind your face in shame you are on media talking rubbish , that a woman should support you when you are sick , fool when you were working did you take care of her?, You were busy cheating on her, spending your money on alcohol, now you are here talking trash, that one woman should kill her self because of a fool like you.


















lquote author=TUANKU post=106273730]
Which cave did you emerge from?
My 2 year old can write and spell better than you.
No comma, no punctuation, nothing... just writing like the idiot you are.[/quote]

Go and sit down, what is akpo mentality, from the beggining a man is to provide for the home, that is the only thing most men does , 90percent of men can not assist in domestic chores at home,no woman should support a man financially that can not support in domestic chores,
a woman will be pregnant, she will go to market cook, clean the house, bath the kids take care of the kids, clean , attend to visitors do everything, only one duty that a man is supposed to do bring money, he is looking for a woman to support, him, the question is does the fool support his wife in her own chores , if he does not support her, then let him go and work , for times in a day . That is his duty .


No woman should support any stupid man that is not assisting in house chores or take care of the kids .

2. No woman should support any man that is selfish, he works and keep his money, waiting for a woman that does all chores to bring out her own money why he is using his own money to carry small small girls .













































quotee author=TUANKU


post=106268379]
Any woman that cannot contribute to the wellbeing of her family is a very useless woman.
Marriage is not a poverty alleviation program.
If your husband cannot afford to provide maybe due to unemployment, retrenchment, retirement or sickness and you have the means so you won't pay the bills because you are a woman?
Na okpo mentality be that.[/quote]

Any man that can not take care of his wife is very useless, very very useless , the painful part is that most of this useless men small money that they are supposed to use and take care of their kids, they will use it to carry side chic

Very useless people .



.quote author=TUANKU post=106247281]Any married woman with such mentality na okpo.[/quote]

Please do not drop her both of you arew perfect match, do not bring a gentle innocent girl into your choleric way of life, you need her, you lack empathy, you have high temper, please you need sombody like your type, if you give her hot, she gives you hot,

She is the will of God for you.



Nonsense I am a choleric, do not go and work on your self.















quote author=Modernizer post=106236982]I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove[/quote]

Is hard to move on, but please move on, do not let anybody destroy your heart, protect your heart with all your strength, she broke your heart, but do not let her destroy it.




Move on.




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uote author=Ikemoney post=106248277]good evening all, please i need a serious advice from you guys with out insuit, Please.

have been dating this girl for close to 4 years now, and am madly in love with her, at first i never love her, she did everything for me to love which i am now, have done everything a man could do for woman, i assisted her in setting up her business, i alway ensure she is okay,her family knows me.

we have already start making plan on getting married, before now have been having trust issues with her, when ever her phone is close to me or it rings she is not comfortable, anytime i ask questions she knock it off,she will say they are just friends, at a point i was monitoring her, she knew,friends will call me they saw my girl with some one guy ,that same guy usually do call, have ask her who is the guy, she said they just friends , it was clear she was cheating her attitude towards me change, yet i kept cool for peace to reign and for what i feel for her.

To cut the story short, spoke to her family about it and her brother abroad, now she is angry and she does not want the relationship anymore,have beg her have also send people to beg her, she said never that she has move on, am confuse i really do love her, the worst part she block me on watsup and messager and she is not picking my calls, i feel she dislike me now.

when even i rmember my labour in this i feel so bad with my self, i really don't know how to move on.[/quote]

They should use juju on you, not us, you lack sense.




uote author=Brandonx post=106164477]She looks hurt . Why jump at all.

If you are bold enough to take some decisions then be very bold to face whatever comes out of it.

If she had stayed back the woman can't kill her, she'll just jelely pack her load and leave but if the wife wants to fight, beat her up and leave, who knows luck may smile on her and the man might just wife her and divorce the real wife.

Girls if you want to date men (married ones) please use juju on us .[/quote]

The girl has been paid from the onset by rosy Churchill need girl, is all a set up for the guy to woo her and rubbish her, so the world will think they are innocent.











ote author=jamaicabakare post=106108207]No be small KPO KPO diz bros dey give King Tonto of Lekki Toll gate.

Na God just want fight for Mr Churchill so He brought diz restless Prince upon Tonto Dikeh.

Prince KPO KPO abeg GRI small na...we all know sey Tonto Dikeh no get sense but she no be bad human being like dat.. [/quote]

Do not take her words serious but take her actions serious, tell her if single mothers make it she should leave you and go, lol, if she move then you know she is serious, but she can't.



Women talk anyhow, they talk as they are feeling, but do not mean it, so take actions serious not words.

But jokes apart, try and sit her down and have family meeting ,ask her where you are falling, and also tell her where she is falling, the two of you should reach a compromise to change , in your weak points.



But do not let a woman words hurt you, but let her know you are feeling bad with her words.



.quote author=ademidedavid post=106063595]

Yes, she said single mothers even do well[/quote]

Every marriage has ups and downs,
Both parties moat exchange words,
as long as no Domestic violence , just mamnge your home, but if there is Domestic Violence , run run run....







uote author=ademidedavid post=106054163]

Divorce ke? She said shes not scared and ready to be a single mother[/quote]

When they are talking about marriage, hind your frustrated face, it is not on every post , you post your frustrations,
it is not on every post you should come out and disgrace your mother for not training you, stop disgracing your mother just because you want to talk, it is not on every post ,you let people know that you came from a home that your father is useless and maltreats your mother,
We have responsible and well brought up nairalands members here , brought up by Good mothers and father's here, please allow them comment on marriage and relationship isuues

You can go to slum areas, where your type of family discuss, and add your own advice.

Avoid this comment, this comment is coming from a single guy, or a married man, that comes to media to talk rubbish, but in his house, he worships and adorn his wife and family,
.do not be surprise, this mumu ,wash plates, clean house, and even wash madam panties and also borrow loan to please his woman,
But coming here to talk rubbish,
Avoid them they are many on Nairaland , teenagers and guys that have been damaged .

I am sure you are not expecting me to mention names , but I will not gain anything coming here to lie

I experinced that of teaching Hospitals because of my friend's baby, that was admitted, she lost the baby, I saw how useless students doctors were acting , begging th to come take blood from a baby of six months for test ,rather they were laughing and romancing each other talking and jisting, quote


I have visited private hospitals , and the doors were using Google to read about the symptoms mentioned,
see the very few good Doctors have turn them selves to consultants, where you need pay Hugh fee, before seeing them


The hospitals doctors used phones are big hospitals , biggest in my area, normal registration fee 5k,. Consultant from 30k

There are good Doctors. But majority are jokers.




Many of them are becoming too arrogant for knowing nothing,







uthorr=lordempire post=105918195]

Which hospital have u experienced this pls?
Obviously exaggerated. Why then do Nigerian doctors fare so well in foreign countries?[/quote]

Eyya useless son, same way your father did not commit anything good to your mother, you left your mother to be SUFFERING ,because you feel women do not deserve anything good.

.hope your father maltreated your mother, and hope your sisters marry a man that will maltreat them too,because women do not deserve anything good, including your mother and sisters.





































......quote author=teeste post=105877997]

Let her go back to her teaching job. The more you invested in a woman, the more the regrets. That money could have been used for a life insurance for your children. Women don't deserve this treatment you guys are giving them. That gender wasn't created to give, so putting so much in their custody is a wrong move![/quote]

Bro the poster above is right, you might not be among the useless Doctors but they are indeed useless

Very useless, all they do is for the male doctors to be sleeping with students doctors in teaching hospitals , in some private hospitals they use phone to Google ailment, the few that are better, have turn themselves to useless consultants, collecting useless fee.
Nigeria doctors have killed more lives than natural death.


They are very useless, arrogant and treat patients like patients have leprosy.











quote author=lordempire post=105915128]

You are obviously an idiot.
I am sure neither you nor your siblings have the cerebral competence to see the walls of a medical school talkless of graduating from the University to have adequate knowledge of how important Nigerian Doctors are all over the world.
This is why you can emit such purulent words from your gangrenous cerebral hemisphere.[/quote]

If he is wicked ,then Sue him for stealing, let him , it shows he does not love the girl.








uote author=paxx post=105878252]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vOvfNetlB_k

Man stole his girlfriends 10k to bet with it and won 100m, and gave her 10k back. Now she is furious and wants 40m.

Is she right or wrong?[/quote]

Fool, the fact that ,your mother does not deserve good thing ,does not mean other woman do not deserve it, you are a curse thing, the reason why good thing is not happening in your life, is because you are blocking good things from happening to others,

Continue and you will see karma ,playing for you, when you keep saying people should not buy good things for their lovers,good things will be far from you, idiot, a man buying car for his wife, is buying for his children so that the wife can always drop the kids in school with it,and also take the kids out.



A foolish man like you die last week, he has two cars, cover one, then warn the wife never to touch the second one, the wife can not drive, she does not even know his atm pin, at night he had attack, aroun 1:30pm, the wife went round neigbour to assist with car, none agreed because it was late, his own car the wife could not drive,. She ordered Uber, that late, Uber came , his phone lock his atm hidden, the wife could not withdraw,.
The foolish man, goes to market himself but food stuff, refused the wife to work. He made the woman useless, thinking he is a king,
.well no help came, he died
He died for his foolishness,
He died for wickedness
He died because he thought he was doing wickedness to his wife.


When you do wickedness, it comes back to you.

There is Nigeria used Matrix for sale, you will like it,she will enjoy, less than 2years use, the person needs the cash to travel






uote author=Nacoss25 post=104618622]Good evening all. i want get my wife an SUV this month and budget is 2m. Suggest for me any SuV with the following specification
6 cylinder
4×4
Not Toyota nor Honda. Thanks guys[/quote]