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why is she the one posting pictures, a sweet marriage does not need social media validation, she will hurt churchill soon, a lady that can betray tonto, lied the man is her brother is not worthy , very soon she will betray the man.





uote author=CuriousMynd post=109076040]

https://www.instagram.com/official_rosymeurer/p/CYQ9WdyjqTz/?utm_medium=copy_link

Reacting to the photo, a troll noted that just like her colleague, Tonto Dikeh, who she allegedly snatched Olakunle from, their marriage will soon crash too.[/quote]

[not all women are liability ,hope you understand this.






quote author=SalafRider post=108984305]E kneel down even inside water, de beg her to become liability. Wonderment[/quote]

Your post reads your brother inlaw helped you, meaning hyour ex wife brother helped you ? If her brother helped you then go back to your wife , maybe is this your girlfriend that destroy everything ,so she can come in to destroy, well it is marriage you must forgive because of the children involved






My best advice is to forgive her, the kids need two of you, let peace reign, even if you guys will not stay together , let peace reign







ote author=Unique357 post=108916743]My wife left me when I lost everything. She took our two children with her and has blocked me everywhere. I couldn't reach her to speak with my children. I have tried reaching her parents to no avail.

But now that things are going well for me, my brother in law lifted me and I am back to business and I have a girlfriend we are getting married next year march by God's grace.

Now my ex is back in the picture making life difficult for my girlfriend. She is blackmailing her and bombarding her with nasty messages to the extend of humiliating her in public, calling her all sorts of names like husband snatcher etc. I am angry with her because she has left me when I needed her the most and this girlfriend stood by me with my poor conditions and now she wants to play victim and putting the blame on my girl.

I want to arrest her and let her rot in jail but on the other side I don't want to do it for the sake of our children who are 10 years and 7 years. I want to deal with her in a calm way because there are children involved . What do you think I should do?[/quote]

[you are a mumu ,what have you bought for your own mother, so people should not live their life again, because of parents, the mother has her own husband nah, why must we heap parents responsibility on children?


Please but the phone if you have money, also take care of your mother,

Forget people telling you it will end in tears, we should learn to give gift to people without having bias mind.



uote author=SankaraSo post=108892975]

You are not smart

Your mother wore Arsenal Jersey and Wrapper to church on Christmas day.

But you want to buy phone of N60,000 for a girl who adds NO value to your life.

Be gathering ancestral curses, you hear![/quote]

Fake story, why do you people always cook up story just to tarnish the image of ladies


There are one million plus one ladies out there .









ote author=hotwax post=108871257]My lovely girlfriend is a sweet woman who always give me sense of assurance. She is very decent, caring and respectful. She is so firm that it took 4 months before we could talk about romance or trying it out.

She is well known in my family circle. I base in Lagos, she stays with her parents in ibadan, but she usually come around when my family members are having a gathering. She will cook for us, do the chores. Everyone grew found of her. My siblings do even ask of her. “Where is Anu? Take care of the lady ooo”. My mom who hardly get along with our girlfriends always ask about her. All these made me to be sure that’s the woman I was going to marry. After all, my people already knew her and they are getting along well. No complain from any angle

The Problem

Late October 2021, I informed her that I would be attending a ceremony in ibadan where stays. She was exited, she even told me she missed me, the kisses, sxx etc. She can’t wait to see me again. I was excited too.
I texted her the hotel address when I got to Ibadan.

She came, we hug, and she started kissing me, but we later calmed down afterall we are just seeing and we still have the whole night. So no rushing. She told me she saw domino pizza opposite the hotel that she is hungry for it. And this is where the devil came in.
She took some cash and prepared to go and buy the piza. She was walking out towards my hotel room door, so I stood to accompany her to the door, more importantly help her with the door. She opened the door before I got there, but I was behind her. A guy also came out from a room not directly opposite mine, (I actually knew when the guy checked in. He was dragging his trawl on the room walkway, so I guess he was a new guest).

As my babe came out, the guy was coming out of his room giving my babe seductive look. Immediately he saw there was a guy behind her, he quickly looked away. He went out of the hotel via the walkway, my babe also followed him because they were coincidentally going towards the same direction.

Truth be told, I never suspected anything. I was even mocking the guy in my mind, my girlfriend is the last person you want to mess with.
She came back with the pizza, sat on the bed, munch while she was busy pressing her phone. I suspected something must have crop up with the way she was busy chatting on whatsapp. She gave me no attention. So I joined her on the bed. With sad face she asked if I have tissue, I asked what happened, she said her period just came now. I said the bathroom has a tissue paper. She went in spent minutes in the bath, came out of the bath, to pick another pant in her bag. (She came with clothes, because she want to spend few days with me). She went back to the bathroom wash, did some other stuff.

She joined me on the bed, put my hand on her padded private. She used tissue paper as sanitary pad. She said sorry, I Bleep up. I said no she shouldn’t feel sorry. Her menstruation is my joy. Afterall you are not here because of sex. We have a lot to talk about tonite. So relax lets enjoy the night. She then told me she can’t spend the night. She has to go on the same day, before evening. She gave me reason that when her menstrual cramp starts she always boil water and other things. Hotel is not the right place for it. I agreed. 6pm, she packed and started going, I was busy on my laptop fixing my office assignments. I stood to see her off. She insisted that I should continue. No need. But I insisted, as I saw her off to the door, she insisted again, go and do your work na. I will take a bike just at the entrance, I don’t know what happened, I just agreed saw her walk out the walkway, I banged my door and continue my work on the laptop.

Then few seconds later, even if she wanted to get a bike, she will still be waiting outside for one, I remembered that the plate I used for lunch still has some leftover food and if not discarded will constitute foul stench in my room. So I picked up this plate to try and place it outside my door so housekeepers could pick it up.

I opened my room door, bend down to drop the plate at my door foot, I noticed someone standing at the door indirectly opposite mine. The person was knocking gently and calling on mobile too. I guess the person is trying to call the occupant of the room. But he/she was being careful not to knock the door loudly. I always mind my business, I said to myself, why do I care, this is a hotel. So I attempted to close my door. But then, something occurred to me, the person is a female and she wore white shirt, exactly like my babe. Out of curiosity, I looked back what I saw made me sick for days. The memory keep hitting my heart like dagger.

It was my woman, I didn’t know she saw me and became frozen looking at me praying I do not look back. But I looked back and saw her. She was shaking with her mouth widely opened. Then while the looking competition was on, the door opened and the guy opened the door waiting for her to come inside, when she didn’t go inside, the guy must have noticed she is looking at someone on the walkway, the guy also came out to see who she was looking at, he saw me and quickly closed and jammed his door.

Then I jammed my door too. She stood on the walkway for 10minutes. Then she started banging on my door. Calling my line. I didn’t answer. She sent text and also whatsapp.

“Its not what you think. I can explain. Something came up. Please open…I need to discuss something with you. I will not leave if you don’t open”. She did all that for like 20minutes. Then she left. That was the end of our 1+year relationship. She too did not bother to call or text after that day.

The whole thing felt like sharp scorpion sting to me. I never believe what I saw. Anything relationship started irritating me. I don’t think I can go into relationship again. These people are quick to call men dogs, but they are public toilet. I prefer to be dog than be where everyone dump their sper_m.[/quote]

Mad man
I hope she sees this, so she will not end up marrying a mad man










uote author=Fmlao post=108797373]I WANT TO Bleep MY GIRLFRIEND'S BEST FRIEND.

THE GIRL DON CODELY GREE TO COME ON A FRIENDLY VISIT.[/quote]

See this maga that is washing plates and washing his wife undies coming here to talk trash


Do you have a house , see this riff raff living in a room, coming here to form alpha male
Bro we know your type , men that come on media to talk rubbish, here ,can not talk shit at home

E choke oo
I will show your wife this message watch out, she will kick you out of the house this evening ,
Let me tell you ,women no longer go back to their father's house, they rent bigger apartment and enjoy their life there ,noore nothing less

Local manugi
Maya
The world has move on
You are still living like a mugu

Send to father house
Mumu how many women go back to father'w house I this generation nah.







You are not doing any women a favour marrying her.
Wake up from your dreams .





quote author=ThiagoKid post=108853619]"My girlfriend called me from office to come and fetch bathing water for her. I had to do it for peace to reign."

"I don't want any rancor between my wife, and i, so i had to beg her for sex. I did it to allow peace to reign."

"I had to watch all the dishes in the kitchen to allow peace to reign. I dont want my wife to wake up, and be shouting."

The abovementioned phrases are nonsensical and insha allah! Wtf?
See bro, if your wife doesn't want peace herself, why don't you take the vawulence back to her? Abi iro palapala wo niyen?

Why can't she allow peace to reign by compromising on her stand? Why must it be you? Osheeey, peacesetter.

See, i already preinformed my wife that:
If she nag, i'm sending her back to her father's house.
If she cheat, to her father's house
If she discomfort my mom/siblings, to her father's house.

I'm doing you a favour getting married to you. So?

Peace ko, wee-wee ni![/quote]

take her back to school let her do her clearance

And graduate.


She did not lie to you, she does not need to tell everyone that she is not a grdaute ,she told you now because of your plans to marry her, she is a good person, some will not tell you till after Marriage

I have known this lady I really want to marry for over 2 years now. Though our friendship have been a casual one. The issue is she told me she is a graduate and then i visited her house over 2 years back I met her mom and she asked me where I came from- my tribe and if I am a graduate and told her my tribe and yes I am graduate.

She said she wants her daughter to marry a graduate because she has done her best to train her school. It was of recent we started a serious marriage relationship and I told my pastor and we both met with pastor already.

It Is now she told me that she did not graduate that she was unable to pay school fees, though she went up to 500level and did I.T but her parents only paid 100 and 200 level school fees. She said she has no result/certificate. I told her am honestly disappointed for hiding this from me ever since and she said it is because I have not really made my intentions know to her.

One of the reasons I like her was being a graduate and I have not dreamt of marrying a non graduate.

Pls your sincere advice.[/quote]

You do not have brain, you lack brain, the nonsense you are smoking does not make you have sense,
She does not need to go carry water on.her head that is an Insult to her person, definitely there are aboki in the area or guys that can help out
The husband is senseless ,telling your wife to go carry water on her head, is disgusting, insultive and disgraceful, the guy is shameless

Thank God for the man I married , he will always pay abokis to fill water in the house if the gen to pump is faulty , he will even shout at me putting any thing on my head.

If I were in.her shoes , I will just buy bag of pure water use it to bath.

Damaged and useless soul, your brain and thinking faculty is already damaged with the kpoli you are smoking, no sensible post or words can come out of your mouth, you need visit a rehab before it is too late ,

It is useless girls riff raff like you that want people that can control them,





mumu general controller,

quote author=Dreytonisback post=108815856][/quote]

kpoli or nonsense you are lighting is fooling you, women do not like men that controls them, stop fooling your self, once a woman sees another good man, she will leave the mumu controller
General .
So get sense , no adult wants to be controlled.
















nerneneranGeneralmauthor=Dreytonisback post=108479774]This has nothing to do with the girl
You're the one at fault for not putting some sense into her head

Women like men they can control but love men that control them , spot the difference
From your write up despite your grammatical blunder , you seem to care about her much

No be person dey marry rich man pikin , yet the rich man pikin go they follow am live inside single room and respect am join

Check that girl WhatsApp archived messages , she go tire you immediately.

Lights up my kpoli in peace[/quote]

You are talking rubbish, what is clear enough, do you ask the guy where the distance from her house to the water is, like us say it is 10minutes drive, she will carry water on her the right?
You must be ment, can you allow your sister carry water on her head always because of marriage , they can pay people to help them fetch water, it is not laziness

Fetching of water is a man's Duty.

And cooking is a woman's duty



quote author=DonBenny77 post=108476976]
Wetin you wan hear again, she's too pompous to fetch bathing water for herself or go to market and prepare food she will eat.
It's clear enough[/quote]

She is right, although her tune might not be very ok the way she put it, but she is right, do you expect her to carry water on her head,
Why not pay boys in the area to fech water in your house when you know water has finsihed, you left it, so that your slave can come do it,



Try and buy food stuff in your house, going to the market is very stressful always ,buy things in bulk.


So wife material means the woman should suffer ,this disgusting mindset of Nigeria men is the major reason homes are breaking


You just want her to come suffer


What is wrong if you pay little boys or aboki in your area to fech water before your girl arrived?



Why not send money to her to buy food stuff on her way coming,

Person just got home , to relax under hot sun, you decide to send the person

Abeg go with your wife material.













quote author=Richdoh post=108476729]I'm a young hard work guy who's planning to settle down someday. I have a girlfriend whom I have gone to see her family with my own family , as in, we have done our introduction, what was remaining was for us to fix a date for our wedding.

But this girl started showing some nasty attitude. There was a day she came to spend weekend with me and I gave her some money to buy some food stuffs to cook, that day i received the greatest shocke of my life , my fiancee warmed me never to send her message like that again that she is not my slave.

As if that was not enough. Another day she came to spend some days with me but when she got to my house I was not at home that day. She went to the bathroom to get some shower but unfortunately there was no water running in the bathroom because we didn't had light for 2days so we couldn't pump water. Normally when there's no water like that we usually fetch from the next compound. Though I live in a room and parlour self contain with water running in my kitchen and bathroom.

To cut the long story short, my fiancee refused to fetch water for herself to take her shower. She had to call me on phone to come home and fetch water for her to take her shower. When I eventually got home at late hour, I took the bucket went to fetch water for her to bath just for peace to rain. I later asked her why she had to call me to come and fetch water for her to bath knowing fully well that I was not around. She said in her house, she does not fetch water that her dad usually call Aboki's and buy water from them. She told me that she can't leave a suffering life of having to fetch water, she can never do it.

Please nairalander is this a good sign or bad sign to watch out for?[/quote]

[The fact that your mother dumped u, and your girlfriend broke your heart is not a criteria to draw conclusions , that all the women in your generation are useless.


You have been damaged, just go for rehabilitation.










yououquote author=BIGPREEK post=108635236]see the way you dey vent your anger for internet, jus accept the fact say Una useless,with only sex to offer jus pleasure, Nigerian women are utterly the worst African women to walk this earth[/quote]

[When you are poor ,you think everybody is a cultist


quote author=Frigga13 post=108669112]Zubby don see his Chi, see as he Dey shine brown teeth.

Ndi cultist.[/quote]

frustrated being, seek for help before is late

Thank you ,he paid for loadge just to knack the girl

He might not even give her any gift , he paid for vacation to enjoy himself
Very selfish human, he is here forming victim

BlaqJosh:
The guy just want to give her birthday d*ck dats all,


why you con dey para

Yes all of them
Your sisters
Mother's aunty .
They are all useless all of them.



If you marry a Nigeria girl she will be useless also






quote author=Savedday post=108624926]9ja girls are out to add more burden to your life instead of softening it.

In mosdii voice: They are all useless..... All of them![/quote]

You think is eveeygirl you can chop and clean mouth, the problem with you guys is that you do not think or ask women questions

He paid for vacation for himself , because he wants sex, why not ask the girl what she wants that will make her happy,
he paid for a loadge tlbecause he wants sex from her .


quote author=Tokskob2008 post=108624865]This is the problem with you guys, always trying to over please a lady. Imagine you spending a lot on a vacation just because of her birthday while there's a guy out there who didn't even do anything except buying her just a gift (which might even not be true or might be their coded word for sex) and she still chose to leave you and run back to his place.

You know what? At times these guys talking about redpills are right, most ladies are just not worth the stress guys go through with them. Best is you chop your own clean mouth and move on.[/quote]

You never get fiance, nah man you want marry,
No wonder you never get, because you keep telling people you want a fiance .

obajoey:
Congrats

I am next

But I never get fiance, I know I am next

My wife come out by fire

You are damaged so you think everybody is damaged like you.

Ofadaman:
It simply means someone is coming in to fvk her whenever you're away, it's an emotional manipulation , pls set up a hidden camera and thank us later.

She's overly excited you're leaving for work, your absence gives her some freedom, this is how she expresses it, don't be naive. Some dude is fvking her left right and center wwhile you're away.

Mumu,leave idle gf for compound alone
Know this and know peace!.

Because you are a problem to her life







quote author=Iamdbull post=108578382]Dbull on this one!!!


Unfortunately my own girl shed tears when am around, dunno why[/quote]

Mumu old man with small sense

You slapped your wife for giving your mum food in the fridge, same food she gave to her mum,
Reason why most ladies do not like mother inlaws they have entitlement mindset,

Uncle. Way mumu your head dey under your mama rapper.



Set your self free before it is too late
















Just wond ring why you did not cook, she want freash food , from a nursin mother instead of her to be the one cooking for the nursing mother, then the mumu son, that has big head without sense slapped the wife ,






quote author=MiddleDimension post=108469675]

YOU ARE MAD WOMAN FOR SAYING WHAT YOU JUST SAID![/quote]

Your mum is evil she is bent in dwatroyi g your marriage, is your wife your mum's slave ? If she can not eat food in the fridge then you cook for her nah

Idiot



quote author=EndRape2 post=108469552]You are a fool and an idiot, your post is irritating me as I read

You lack sense , such a big fool
I 'm a mummy boy
You are a senseless boy

Now let me tell you for omugwo it is the girl's mum that will come anybody she likes

your mum got angry ,she went to buy gift to appease your mum, bla bla bla bla bla

I could not finish reading the post because sounds like your brain is under the coven of your mother
You and your mum needs help

I hope the girl run out of this boy sage very fast

Bighead without sense .

Marriage is not for mummy's boy.









quote author=jaksmillioniar post=108070674]hello room.

I have a problem and it is paining me. I am a matured guy who know what it feels like to be single and maried .

Most People mock me, but I got married.

We had a baby last year, a corona baby.

I am not ashamed to say that at my age, I am still a mummy's boy and she is my number one but I respect my wife.

When I wanted to marry, my wife Never agreed to having a house close to my mum's place.

I felt very bad but I want to make her happy so we moved far. My mom was angry as she knew my wife forced me.

When my wife delivered, her mum came for omugo instead of my mum, and that made her so sad, that she cried and ask if i am a bastard to let them steal her right.

I begged her. She came for naming and left the same day I noticed way my wife was acting rude too because her mum was pushing her.

I told my wife that mum is angry, let us visit her buy her a gift because her place is now far.

She kept saying that her body is not strong for 5 months after delivery and I thought she took me and my family as fools.

I got angry and slapped her twice. When she saw that I was really angry she begged me.

So we went and saw her we are all happy and settled all.

As my child reached 10 month, I told her to tell her mum to go because she's now strong almost to walk.

Her mum left but my mum wanted to come and spend the holiday as she had never done that since she delivered .

When I told my wife, her facial expression changed. When my mum came i travelled but she didnt cook for her but heat soup that was in the freezer to give her.

My mum hated that and she called me crying that what she did to her she won't do to her own mum .

I pretended nothing happened as I got back I bought things from a eatry for family so my mum left after 2 weeks.

I brought up the issue and she said nothing wrong in giving her food kept in the freezer that she gave same to her mum too .

I got angry and beat her up. I didnt injure her. all and some other thing . I love my wife I cant be beating her all the time she promise to change yet nothing. Because of bad character I refuse to take her to eatry.

she denied me sex until I slap sense into her.

marriage has challenges it is s not easy.[/quote]

You are a fool and an idiot, your post is irritating me as I read

You lack sense , such a big fool
I 'm a mummy boy
You are a senseless boy

Now let me tell you for omugwo it is the girl's mum that will come anybody she likes

your mum got angry ,she went to buy gift to appease your mum, bla bla bla bla bla

I could not finish reading the post because sounds like your brain is under the coven of your mother
You and your mum needs help

I hope the girl run out of this boy sage very fast

Bighead without sense .

Marriage is not for mummy's boy.









quote author=jaksmillioniar post=108070674]hello room.

I have a problem and it is paining me. I am a matured guy who know what it feels like to be single and maried .

Most People mock me, but I got married.

We had a baby last year, a corona baby.

I am not ashamed to say that at my age, I am still a mummy's boy and she is my number one but I respect my wife.

When I wanted to marry, my wife Never agreed to having a house close to my mum's place.

I felt very bad but I want to make her happy so we moved far. My mom was angry as she knew my wife forced me.

When my wife delivered, her mum came for omugo instead of my mum, and that made her so sad, that she cried and ask if i am a bastard to let them steal her right.

I begged her. She came for naming and left the same day I noticed way my wife was acting rude too because her mum was pushing her.

I told my wife that mum is angry, let us visit her buy her a gift because her place is now far.

She kept saying that her body is not strong for 5 months after delivery and I thought she took me and my family as fools.

I got angry and slapped her twice. When she saw that I was really angry she begged me.

So we went and saw her we are all happy and settled all.

As my child reached 10 month, I told her to tell her mum to go because she's now strong almost to walk.

Her mum left but my mum wanted to come and spend the holiday as she had never done that since she delivered .

When I told my wife, her facial expression changed. When my mum came i travelled but she didnt cook for her but heat soup that was in the freezer to give her.

My mum hated that and she called me crying that what she did to her she won't do to her own mum .

I pretended nothing happened as I got back I bought things from a eatry for family so my mum left after 2 weeks.

I brought up the issue and she said nothing wrong in giving her food kept in the freezer that she gave same to her mum too .

I got angry and beat her up. I didnt injure her. all and some other thing . I love my wife I cant be beating her all the time she promise to change yet nothing. Because of bad character I refuse to take her to eatry.

she denied me sex until I slap sense into her.

marriage has challenges it is s not easy.[/quote]

[you still do not want to have sense , despite the corrections, when you are quoti g the word of God quote the complete verse not part of the verse to favour your stupid belief, the bible says if you take out of the word he will take the blessing in the bible out of your life
I am sure you know that verse
So be wise.






uote author=AntiChristian post=108422498]

Seems you're more of a feminist than a Christian.

Anyways, your husband will rule over you and you'll submit to him as the Lord.[/quote]

You do not have sense , you are quoting part of a bible verse without quoting the other
1. The bible says husband love your wife, and wife should submit
Now the above verse says a woman should submit to a man that love her .

The book of corinthians, say love
Is not proud
Love give
Love is not selfish
Love does not cheat,
Love is humble
Love does not think of himself but others
Now when a man has all these characters towards a man that is when we can say he loves a woman, and that is when a woman should submit..


Now your second verse of child bearing on pains , same bible says a man will till the ground , meaning a man will labour to provide for his wife, now a man that is lazy and can not till the ground should not see him self as the head , because bible says a man that can not provide for his household is worse than an infidel


See when next you quote bible please quote it complete

Nonsense human like you.








author=AntiChristian post=108379081]I second her!

Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church,
Ephesians 5:22-23

If the wife submits to the husband as she submits to the Lord then she will give him everything to control even her life!

Modified.

To the woman He (GOD) said, “I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” Gen 3:16

So the wife will submit to the husband who would also rule over her!

Women should remain silent in the churches. They are not allowed to speak, but must be in submission, as the law says. Cor 13:34

But must be in submission as the law says! Which law? Maybe the Genesis verse above! or that below!

21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Ephesians 5:21-25

So wives should submit to their husband in everything. How do you define "everything" sir?[/quote]

Marry her from the husband there is nothing wrong, married men are divorcing their wives to marry single ladies , so what is wrong if a married woman divorce her husband and marry you?






You and the woman should get out,and all of you bringing fake relationship jist here he out







quote author=Omicron007 post=107797461]Hello beautiful people.
Let me make this short and precise as usual

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I don't even know how to put this. But let me say that I have been getting emotionally attached to married women/single mothers and I am worried about it.
I am in my early twenties.

Fast forward to my current case. There is this lady that works in the same department with me in a firm. She is married but her husband is outside town. He works and has been away for almost three months.
The lady is very young though she has five kids. She has a banging physique despite birthing five kids.

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She prepares my own food specially and brings it to the office. She calls me frequently after work and she covers or stands for me a lot. There are instances where I have missed briefings, but she held sway for me and made me escape query letters.

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We are very close and she confides in me a lot. Whenever I tell her I am going to see my female friends on a weekend, she is not happy. Instead, she says that I am not getting close to her enough because she is married.

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I have promised to take her out and she has been reminding me constantly. I have been faking different excuses for procastination purposes.

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To be honest, if she was single, I could have done the needful by now. But I am constrained by several factors. I don't want to have issues with her and I want to be in her good books.

I need advice please.[/quote]

Just two months you are all over him, aunty you u are getting old please have sense if this story is real because you do not have for now,

The first time you saw him, you spent three nights in the hotel room with him.

He does not pick your calls at night, red flags one

He does not tell you I love you when you say yours red flag two.

He says marriage is responsibility red flag three.
Anyway my best advice from all I have seen is that uncle just want to chop and clean mouth,
Anyway not all relationship will lead to marriage , just relax and enjoy the relationship.
Take marriage off your mind and be your best.

ngoziwrites:
So, I met this great guy online. After 2 weeks, we met in person and everything was perfect.

It's almost 2 months since we have been together.

He asked me out while we were together and I gladly said yes. (I have met a lot of players�). So while we were together, a discussion popped up and he said he can't discuss anything related to marriage until after 6 months. I pretended not to hear.


I don't know his financial capacity but I know he is doing okay. He controls the family business. They sell trucks, trailers and all. He is also a landlord in one of his father's houses at Festac. We stayed at a hotel. 25k per night. He paid for 2 night and I paid for one night. But during these times, we went to his house.

He said he didn't want me to come to see his place because it's the first time. And he said the house is very hot too.


Our communication is great but he doesn't look like he wants marriage soon. He has said things like marriage is hard work. He has also said in 10 years time, people will hardly be getting married.

Then one night, we were talking and he said I "see my wife as my responsibility"
I will take care of her and of cos, I am okay but I will still be very very rich, so I can't bring in any woman to suffer now" .. That's what I am sure I heard but I was scared to ask him to explain further or repeat himself.

He is actually okay, he has two cars but importantly, he has sense and he is very hard-working. But he is very principled and we have actually had several instances where he doesn't pick my calls at night. It happens often but I am starting to trust him, because sometimes I call by 5am and he picks and says he slept off. Sometimes we would be chatting on WhatsApp and after I call him 20 minutes later, he won't respond. He is not married!

So, I currently earn 450k monthly and I have been able to save something meaningful, so I can start a good business before getting married or after. I haven't stated because I don't know which one yet. I started a restaurant business when I was 23 but it failed.

If I ask him and he says 1 year, of course, I can wait. I will be 26 years next year April.

We will seeing for the 2nd time next week. I plan to ask him when he sees himself getting married but I am scared and the way he carries himself makes me reluctant to ask such.

About two weeks ago, I wanted to even surprise him with gifts. I asked for his account number and office/home address. (He picked me up the last time I traveled to see him, so I don't know the address". Well, he didn't give me these details. He said when it's time I will have them.


Two days ago, he said a friend's younger brother is getting married. He laughed and said people just dey marry. He has once asked me "You dey find husband?" jokingly-

I would like to settle before 27. Is it bad that I am thinking this way? If he says he is looking to get married in 2-3 years, i think it's a bit far. 2023 is still fine. But the problem is he doesn't really sound like marriage is on his mind. He will be 32 next year April too.

We vibe a lot. But he says I love you sparingly. Sometimes I say it and he doesn't respond, he will say tomorrow I will tell u or no, I told u yesterday.

But we are really really cool. I like him a lot and he likes me but I think I like him more. He gives me attention, I don't have to ask.

If I was 23, I won't have a problem waiting 3-4 years. But since I am ready mentally, financially, I am looking for someone who wants it within 6 months to 1 year. I can still try to do 2 years if I get someone great.

[My brother marriage is not boy friend and girlfriend ,if you like date one billion ladies ,you will only get mess up, and damaged when you finally settle down,
All you do as boy friend and girlfriend is sex, in relationship most girls pretend to be at their best, marraige and relationship are two different game, a neat girl in relationship can become shabby in.marriage, if you like date her 100 years
A girl that like sex in relationship , might keep rejecting sex in marraige,


, the more partner you date in relationship, the more damaged your heart becomes which will affect your marriage and how you reacts to your wife or husband.
















quote author=OvertheTop post=108321266][/quote]

Dating alot of ladies is never the solution because it will mess your mind, and most men dating different girls can never have a good marriage research has proven this most ended up divorce withing 5years

If you like date 1 million women , the experience can never be de same with the one you finally settle with. No two women are the same .














author=larryking540 post=108290291] na here your problem take start ,you stayed without it for 9years most women can't stay without it for 6 months ,,,you na rev father ,even father day hide knack ,baba if u dateed alot you would have understand nature of female I swear ,[/quote]

My solid advice is this , I am so proud of you, I am happy to see a man that is ready to make things work, a man ready to build family alter, a man helping out with domestic work, your wife will regreat her actoon soon.

My advice , bring your mother over, but ensure you do not make your mother your wife, take care of your mother and take care of your wife, let there be equal treatment of love,
Concerning prayers ,please keep praying, even if she refused to join your keep praying heaven is a personal race do not let her character spoil your faith.

Concerning sex discuss this with her, let there be sex talk, tell her to explain what the problem is, if she is not enjoying it, both of you need to learn,and improve your sex life.





quote author=50pseamer post=108287053]I would like to share my current situation on this platform , and I will very much appreciate your mature advice on the issue.

I have been having issues with my wife after our first born, we married about 3 years ago, our first born is now about 2 years old, we have been having series of issues In the marriage, my wife argues with me a lot on flimsy issues at times, we do not have constant sex, although I started helping more in the house,I cook and and I do the laundry , and asked her to give me my share of the work, when she complained about work load,I am the only one really working now, and paying 98 percent of the bills.

I told my wife that I will like us to be eating together on the same plate to improve closeness, she refused, she sees arguement as normal discussion, sometimes we have sex once or twice in a month, I have told her I will like us all to attend the same church and pray together, but she still attends her Nigerian church online , where they are always seeing vision , and I do not like her attending that church.she also attends online services of my church with me, but I would like us to be attending one church even if it is not my church.
I asked her recently that we need to be praying together for our marriage even if it is 10 minutes every day, after weeks of no response from her,I approached her yesterday and scolded her about it, she cried and I comforted her, I later asked her at night to come for the prayer,and she said she is not coming.
We live abroad and my mum wants to pay us a visit,
She told me the kitchen is her's and my mum should not enter the kitchen, and I told her that it will be difficult, we can pre cook all our food, But she might need to make tea and I will like her to be able to do that by her self , but my wife refused.
In her church she is attending they already branded. My mother a witch. Even if my mother is a witch, we only need to pray against it, should we humiliate her when she visits us? I cannot make my wife my mother, she does not show me much love and does not show that she cares, neither does she respect me. My mum shows me love that I can feel.

Now we are living like neighbours in the same house.
Do you think she is interested in the marriage or has another plan?[/quote]