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Health issues like what and what, because age has nothing to do with health, even a girl of 18, can be very sickly, always going to hospital, and a woman of 40will be very healthy.
Men also get weak as they grow older.

quote author=Womanizer post=96528728]

Girls above 30 are usually better behaved and more focused, their main drawback is health issues.

Before you marry a lady above 30 make sure you scrutinise her health status thoroughly![/quote]

Please the best advice is to give your life to Christ, always study your Bible, and when ever the urges comes, just worship God, or sing praises. Thanks.



quote author=SkyRicks post=96520709]I will be brief

When ever am alone even after returning from a stressful day once am a lone at home I feel Hot this has been on since school days
I masturbate once in a while and I truly want to stop thinking about sex but really can't help it right now.

Note something happened to me when I was 8yrs old our neighbor then who my mom drops me at her place her daughter usually sleep with me anytime my mom drops me at there place, I cried telling Mom I don't like that place but she said she doesn't have alternative and can't take me with her i will add stress mind you my dad is working then in another state and visit during the weekend twice a month.

This continued till I was 15yrs yes I began to go there and she likes me alot, sends me message and never ask for change Sneak me inside her room I began to like the act until we left the state to stay with my dad after some years I began to masturbate before uni and all through my days in sch I have lived with this chronic desire for sexual fantasy within me.

My question:
The desire for sex asin constant thinking of having sex is it normal (may me if not face with tasks make me to lose focus) or I need deliverance.
Is there medication for this desire a kind of cure (am a biologist not a physician)
Am confused right now and it making me desire to visit escort female but lacks the courage to seek there service because of the way people see me.

Thank you, your advise is needed[/quote]

U are stup****d, what is your business if she gives birth or not.




uote author=Kestolove post=96391485]Has adesuwa given birth? She should be more concern about giving birth not lauretta[/quote]

You are a disgusting being, how dare you call a woman childless, or wombless, when it is God that gives children. Kai .u are frustrated beast.


quote author=IamD18 post=96358103]I'll choose a fertile lady over a wombless facially pretty lady! [/quote]

Why uploading iyabo pics instead of the mother pics.


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Unfortunately, your mother is a Niger woman, your sisters too are Nigerias, meaning they are dirty rags too

Such a frustrated human , that is who you are.

quote author=tyup post=96252250]Wahala for who waste time fancying n falling for those bunch of dirt rag tags called 9ja girls[/quote]

u keep writing this rubbish on every post of marriage, when will you have sense?

The fact that you can not stay with a woman for more than one week, does not mean others are abnormal like you, you need mental health Evaluation, please before you think of marriage ,so that you will not bring an innocent lady into your psycho mental health issue.
Have sense,
quote author=slawormiir post=96286182]Damnnnnn niggarrr
Isoright..how niggarrrrs are bold to get married baffles me...
Imagine me as a real niggarrr will be under same roof with one pussy for God knows how long...not to talk of the love and excitement that fades

I tried that shit when i invited..a lady down to my hotel room to spend one week with me
Damnnn shit...after two days the excitement was no longer there...my dickkk was no longer getting excited
Which means married people are just pretending...the love and excitement is no longer there...there are just enduring...he be like say na baby mama go sure me die..[/quote]

I said it before that most of the guys on nairaland needs home training. Lol, they do not know want they want, they keep saying do not spend on a girl, but they will want sex, even Bible says where a man heart is, that is where is treasure will be. Any man not spending on a girl, does not live the girl, ladies take note, sex is not love to men, a man can give you different style, travel from far, to come see you, as long as, he is not taking care of you financially, and your needs does not move him, he does not live you, period







quote author=CalliDora1 post=96168639]Long post. Please bear with me.

This trait seems to be common among some Nairaland men (with apologies to all the men here though) cos I never really experienced such attitude with men ive met offline. So don't know whether they have a nairaland men's association (not the red pillars or mgtow kinda thing though) where they agree to behave likesome. The way they reason sometimes just baffles me.

Ok. So, I met someone here as a friend and I wanted it to stay that way. Along the line, he wanted more than just friendship but I just kept dodging because I don't want any issues as he's a good friend (a born again) and I like our friendly chats and all that. So didn't want anything serious that could jeopardize that but he kept pressing on and stressing until I naturally began to feel relaxed (against my wish) you know how that constant checking on someone tends to make one want to compromise their Stance. So I sort of got trapped.

Now here's the issue. He would always want to know about my biz and job. If I went or not. So I decided to test him. He would always call and ask if I've eaten. So that day, I said no (was fasting) but didn't want to divulge it to him that I was fasting. He called later in the day and asked again, I said I've not eaten, he dropped. I now felt he prolly thought I wanted him to feed me huh??.. I observed he reduced his calls. Third day he called and asked again, I said no. And he said "na wa o" I was like why, he said I'm sorry I can't help. Huh?? I don't remember asking him so I decided to play along. He called in the evening, I still said I've not eaten ( cos I had not broken my fast then) and he said I'm sorry ( I was just laughing within). I asked him, for what? he said because he couldn't help. And since then he stopped calling only to chat after a week to ask if the biz I was pursuing was through. I ignored him and for two months no contact.

Just last night he chatted me up again asking if I've resumed work and I said yes. he then asked if he's free to call me bla bla. And since last night hes been trying to keep up chats but I'm kinda cold towards him and he asked why I'm so cold. Acting like nothing happened.

Now, this is what I feel. so if someone is truly dying of hunger (God forbid) you'll abandon the fellow? or that they can't date someone who's biz is shaky or has not resumed work due to a global crises that affected everyone? I'm not saying anybody should carry someone else's burden ( there was really no burden anywhere as God has been faithful.) but I don't understand what actually played out there and why he's all of a sudden interested again after learning I've resumed work. I don't just understand because I don't want to be rude. Was that a right thing?

I'm really confused here because.. I mean.. I never asked you to help me with anything but being there would have been enough. Calling and chatting would have helped me scale through the bordom I felt that period of compulsory break from work and biz but he went into Oblivion even when I never placed any demands on him.

I bow to men and the way they reason o.[/quote]

The truth is, sometimes guys are the once enjoying the sex you people are talking about, how many guys can make a lady cum, how many guys can give a lady climax, but during sex a guy must cum.

Most ladies are giving their partner sex, not because they want it, but because they do not want him, to go get it from another girl,. Now if you read my write up, you will discovered ,I made mention of other things the girl contributed, u can not tell me, she was not sweeping his house, washing his cloths and also cooking for him and his friends, it is possible she even helped his mother and family to do house chores.

So relationship is not marriage , it is a game, because God does not approve boyfriend and girlfriend, anybody that wins ,in a relationship ,final.


But in marriage , you can not betray somebody you enter convenant with, God will get angry.

quote author=authority2006 post=96162612]

Sex that both of them enjoyed together? Who needs to spend so much these days because of sex that's cheap and plentifully available? Guys spend on ladies for love, not for sex. I don't understand why many of you are always confused about this![/quote]

I pity you, if the mother is good, and not selfish or money conscious, then good, feel free to marry her, but I bet you, if the money is still alive, and she is money coucious, you will regreat the marriage, except you love her genuinely, only love will now keep u with her, a broken relationship, is better than a broken marriage, Igbo culture is too deep and barbaric for outsiders, let them deal with themselves.




uote author=Hassanmaye post=96153374]

No amount of talking will stop from my girlfriend chidinma, only relatives wahala be the problem.[/quote]

He is right, very correct. why spending for her, he was having sex with her, and I am sure the girl was doing house girl job for her, like washing his cloths, cleaning his house, it is possible she has seen, something, that she feels will destroy the marriage, a broken marriage is better than a broken relationship, maybe the boy is a mummy's boy, that is being control by his mummy, or a dirty lazy boy, or a criminal marriage is too golden to be broken, it is better, to quit a relationship, than to quit a marriage now that there are no children.

Highest he can do is to get a lawyer, and Sue the girl, give proffs, and collect all his money. She has done the right thing.




quote author=chiboy1116 post=96158726] u ended saying nothing with so many words .[/quote]

He is right, very correct. why spending for her, he was having sex with her, and I am sure the girl was doing house girl job for her, like washing his cloths, cleaning his house, it is possible she has seen, something, that she feels will destroy the marriage, a broken marriage is better than a broken relationship, maybe the boy is a mummy's boy, that is being control by his mummy, or a dirty lazy boy, or a criminal marriage is too golden to be broken, it is better quote author=chiboy1116 post=96158726] u ended saying nothing with so many words .[/quote]

Break up, is not about female gender alone, we have both wicked male , and wicked females, many ladies got heart broken after investing so much in a man, I have a friend, married a boy with bsc, she was working and the boy did not get a job, she then sponsor him ,from her salary to do master, and PhD, and why he was doing that, the girl was still feeding him, and taking care of their 2 kids, he finish, got a job, and turn to an animal, follow different girls, beat the girl, sleep out, to worsen matter, the house they built, behind the girl, he went to put, a girl there,
each time the wife ask her, when they will pack there, he will tell her, the place is local, they should continue staying in the rented apartment, he kept frustrating the girl to go, he is 9months older than the girl,

Calling her name's, that the girl is his aunty, and mummy, that he is only months older than her, that how will he present the girl outside, as his aunty or what, telling the girl , that he has raised children from outside. He is no longer interested in the marriage.



So you people should just stop , all these nonsense ,like heartbreak is for guys alone, ladies are also suffering heart break, but the truth is,

May God punish and May it not be well with all the men, and women, breaking good and innocent people's Heart.


authorr=Vanzcharles post=96129351]It is a sad thing when there is no mutual love between two people dating or in a relationship.

This guy on twitter just came up to share his stories. Below is the chat between the duo.

https://mobile.twitter.com/DansomanKanye/status/1328415082951438340[/quote]

Speak for Igbo, please other tribes are getting married, building businesses, and not afriad of monopause, everything is wrong with Igbo people , not even their girls, their men too, it is an error to marry them, especially if you are not from Igbo, even if you are from Igbo ,most of their women are enduring domestic violence and family interference, their mothers are errors, always want to control their sons , and control his wife, the men always want the woman to be full time house wife, and they go about telling other women, I have your type at home, very useless tribe when it comes to marriage, only few are ok there.
Avoid them if you want a peaceful home.






uote author=allwell51 post=96148199]“Millions of Ladies in Nigerian are approaching Menopause and yet no man wants to marry them” - Nigerian Lady from Owerri C r i e s out!!

Watch video here

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ap4QsmNIzy8[/quote]

Carrying our car, and our kids,
First correction, it belongs to the two of you.

Now my advice, check your self, do you always stop, her from going to visit her family or stop her from attending family functions, this might be reasons she does that behind your back.

Most African men, have problem, you people are too domineering, too lording, I know of a man, that will never allowed his wife, visits her family, or attend her family functions, he is always against her going, but wants her to always visit his own family, so the wife will always go behind him, so check your self, she did not tell you, because you will not allowed her.


African men, that have this cultural mindset, of I am the head, my wife is just a commodity to produce only children, bla bla bla
Are the worst people to marry.



membersquote author=Souqwaqif post=96059118]Dear All,

Greetings from here. Just needing a piece of positive counsel here. It has been subtle and recurrent but I decided to share this particular one.

My wife travelled for a burial with my kids without my knowledge. I travelled far away for work and call home everyday. Just recently I called very early in the morning to tell my wife I will be coming home by weekend,she somewhat sounded surprised and said instead of me coming on Friday I should come on Sunday.

I didn't say anything,I pretended not to be angry with that. Yet I immediately did a cash transfer for feeding and balance for the kids school fees that same morning we were discussing.

Later in the evening,I expected her to call and update me on the fees payment,but I didn't receive any call,I then had to call but her lines were all switched off,at this point I was worried especially when I couldn't talk to the kids.

I then called a neighbor to help me check if they are at home only to confirm they travelled for burial which the neighbor got to know from a phone conversation between my wife and her sister.

At this point, I called my wife's brother only to confirm that they were having a burial in their village, which I am not aware of,even as an inlaw.

Right now am very upset and I don't want to act in anger,please how can I react to this conspiracy between her and her family carrying my car with my kids to a distant village for burial without my knowledge.

Thanks for mature inputs only:[/quote]

This is how it should be, After all women do fight for men,. Foolish people everywhere, if women are the ones fighting for a man, they will praise the man, call him sharp man, smart man, even buy beer for him, now it is the other way round, some fools are calling her prostitute, and all sort of names, what you will not take from others do not do to others .

No body has the right to cheat in marriage.

quote author=Smartcomed post=96033099]Man who fought with tug who slept with his wife beaten to stupor

Source
https://www.instagram.com/p/CHkixJfF5ws/?igshid=mu8cs2pffgxh

Watch video here

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tOUZxLS_Fxc[/quote]

[Women do not need your help.


quote author=blinking001 post=95928800]I don't help women.[/quote]

You need mental help expert, and you need consult one fast. Thank me later.
if you can not be faithful with one partner, it is a mental problem, because , you can eat one pussy differently ,in differently ways, you have been eating rice for more than 20years, did you stop eating it , but you use different methods to cook it,

Please discuss this with any lady you chose to marry, so that you will not put somebody daughter in frustrations,

Show her this your message ..



quote author=slawormiir post=95968406]Damnnn niggarrrr....
Isoright....so bros op...forget that your statement of he who finds a wife bla bla bla...

So are you telling me you are going to be under same roof with one pussy for years.... won't you get tired?
How una take dey dey bold to get married dey baffles me

Imagine me as a real niggarrr will be under same roof with one pussy for God knows how long...

I tried that shit when i invited..a lady down to my hotel room to spend one week with me
Damnnn shit...after two days the excitement was no longer there...my dickkk was no longer getting excited
Which means married people are just pretending...the love and excitement is no longer there...[/quote]

U not ready for change, u said you tried for only one week it did not work,
I see reason for the bad breath

U are supposed to be brushing 2, all your life, not trying it for a week and stoping, it is not magic, bad breath that came after much negligence over the years, is what you intend to do and cure within just a week, no nah.

U need work for long to get results.




quote author=BadBreathBoy post=95934125]This guy called bad breath have haunted me all the way from primary school down to secondary and even to my university level.

I am still a young 19 years old guy at the peak of youthfulness but this guy is just ruining everything for me.
My self-esteem, public speaking skills, social life, confidence, in fact, everything has been smashed with a sledgehammer right in my face.
I have turned into an introvert because of this bad sickness but will cover it up with "Money on my mind" shït.

I have tried everything possible guys.
Below are kinds of stuff that I have tried and it is not working.

1. Visiting a dentist.
6 months ago, I took all the money I had to go over to the dentist in search of a solution. Had to wait for hours before getting attended to.
When the doctor came in, she first started with some words of encouragement.

Telling me I might not have bad breath and all, people might be thinking they have it but don't blah blah blah.
(So me that have bad breath I don't know what I am saying right?)
After much talk, she recommended flossing and cleaning.
That exercise where water passing through a tiny hole at high speeds is used to remove plaque from in between your teeth.
I had to shell out a whopping 4k for that plus the extra card of 500.
All the money I saved was gone just like that.
It didn't work!!! Bad breath still held me down.

2. Brushing twice a day. I did this for 1 week straight up without any improvement relative to the hard work put in. So I became less consistent with this. Toothpaste I have tried includes, Oral B, MyMy, Maclean, Close up, name it. Didn't work.

3. Garlic and ginger. Some persons here on Nairaland recommend that ginger and garlic can be used to drive off bad breath. The prescription was to swallow it whole before going to bed at night then brush in the morning to remove the after-effects.
I tried this for one week. Didn't work.

4. Mouthwash: I have wasted more than 4k in buying mouthwash but these things are just 2 hours wonder from the moment of application.
I get fresh breath for the time being but after like 3 to 4 hours, the bad breath keeps on coming back. Still didn't work.

5. Hydrogen peroxide: Someone also recommended I use this to chase bad breath.
It also works for sometime after which bad breath comes back. I even tried to dilute less than normal for maximum effects but the only thing I got was an irritating burn on my tongue. I am so not using this guy again!

6. Walnut: Some said walnut could be my Savior so I had to buy them in large quantity to chew but it didn't have long-term effects.
So I ditched it. I don't have money to waste as I am still a student.

7. Chewing a combination of bitter leaf, scent leaf, and guava leaves: Out of intuition, I decided to try this combination. My common sense inferred that since it was bitter, it should probably have some effects on the bacteria in my mouth. But alas! Bad breath wasn't even impressed one bit. I even had to stuff them in my pocket and chew on them while going to class. This was a big flop.
Didn't work at all.

8. Agnes Nwamma Herbal powder: I don't know what to say about this one, because it was even better that I just didn't brush for that day. Very useless in fighting off bad breath.

The funny thing that leaves my jaw-dropping is that my dad doesn't even brush, he uses a chewing stick but still has a very fresh breath than I that used mouthwash, baking powder, toothpaste and still chew the chewing stick to top that.

9. Chewing gum like Clorets, Methos: I have to be frank about these gums, they kind of aggravates the bad breath. They are simply applying salt to injury so I just stopped using them altogether.

Pls Nairalanders, help me out here. There have been lots of people who found a solution to their problem on here, so I doubt mine will be different.
Pls, I need something else to try that will not dig a hole in my pocket as I am still trying to stand on my feet.
I need a permanent solution not 3 hours wonder.

Lala pls push to the front page so I can get a large set of solutions to fight this off.

I don't want to resume school like this.
I am tired, I am weak, disheveled, exhausted, dejected, depressed, anguished, melancholic, in fact, I have tayad like this.

My confidence and esteem have been crushed by bad breath. Shyness, inability to have streamlined chat with people, playing deaf and dumb, using hand signals whilst communicating, smiling like a peacock when my opinion is required, staying away from girls, snubbing people, rejecting positions that have me talk to a crowd has taken over!!

Pls, abeg, mbok, biko, I need a solution.
A permanent one at that.[/quote]

Poor African Mindset,
so it is boys that take care of c


quote author=Hndrrxxx post=95877482]So you no get any son??
Who go con take care of you when you are old like this



Wahala fr who get money but no get outliving son[/quote]

[Tell her to report to women of Inestimable values foundation,, she will be glad she did, the NGO will fight for her.




quote author=NwekeUG post=95743848]Woman Beaten And Stripped By Her Employer And His Boys Over Theft Allegation In Edo (Graphic Photos)

A News Anchor with the Edo Broadcasting Service, Osaretyn Asemota-Ero is demanding justice for a 23-year-old lady Joyce Ejemen Balogun, who was allegedly brutalized by her employer over allegation of theft.

IgbereTV reports that the incident happened at a hotel in Utesi, an outskirt of Benin-Sapele Road, Edo State.

According to the victim, she was brutally beaten by the hotel owner and his boys after being accused of stealing six TV sets. After the said assault, the men allegedly took away her pant, bra and blouse.

Taking to her Facebook handle on Friday, November 5, Asemota-Ero wrote:


https://www.facebook.com/100000251592307/posts/3668527206498963/?app=fbl[/quote]

Superior being without senses, who does that, invite your wife and side chick to welcome you, assuming it is two side chics, we can even understand that,
If it were to be a woman now, such will not happened, cos she knows, how to play the game, she knows where to tell the side boos to go, wait, while main man, comes to pick her,

That is what they call superior,besides it is your parent that said as a male child you are superior to your own sisters,

When God says you are the head ,he never said you are superior ,it simply means you are born to suffer, because the head carries load, so you will carry load(responsibilities ). Remember he said you will cultivate the ground, that is hard labour.

So stop claiming Superior.

quote author=BigJoe19 post=95721910]This is the way it ought to be, women should be fighting for the superior gender's attention [/quote]

Correct, on point quote author=MrTAnonymous post=95641162]If you want to see how much a girl likes you, do these 6 things.

Showing love to your partner is one of the ways you can make them feel loved and special. However, you can't know how much your partner likes you. You don't know if they love you more than you do or it is just vice versa. Well, we will get to know that here in this article.

1. Appreciate her more.

One of the ways you can know a girl likes you is just by appreciating her. If she does something for you, appreciate her in a cool manner. Some men don't appreciate their women no matter what they do for them, and that's very wrong. Women love it when you appreciate them and in this way, you can get to know how much she loves you. If she shows you more love and affection, then she likes you more.

2. Compliment her more in front of others.

Unlike appreciating her, you should also compliment her. Make her feel loved, tell her how amazing she is, how lovely and generous she is. Don't ever stop telling your girl how wonderful she is especially in public. Girls love it when their man compliments them especially in front of others.

3. Be more romantic with her.

Girls love guys that are romantic and if you want to know how much she likes you, you have to also be romantic with her. Don't be the boring type, grab her from behind, hug her whenever you want to greet and also give her a peck, hold hands when you're walking together, and do some other romantic things.

4. Easily admit your wrongs and then apologize.

Men can be stubborn and hard when it comes to admitting their wrongs, but if you want to know how much a girl likes you, you need to easily admit your wrongs and then apologize. It won't kill you, just 'I am sorry', that's enough to settle the fight. Easily admitting your wrongs, also shows your level of maturity and how much you respect her in the relationship.

5. Play your role.

Lastly, do your part in the relationship. Support her, make her feel loved if you have spent on her. Encourage her, be supportive enough, and also be there whenever she needs you. Also, don't make her get hurt, protect her, and don't let her cry. In this way, you can know how much she like you.

6. Spend on her.

Last but not the least, spend on her. It is a known fact that girls like being spent on. So they appreciate when their man spends on them.

P.S

Never waste your money on entitled girls; i.e. girls that feel they are entitled to your hard earned money, it ain't healthy for your health and the relationship in general.

Modified:

This is only for those who are in a committed, serious and long term relationships not the casual ones


If you have any reservations, do well to use the comment box.

Incase you don't know na me talk[/quote]

Change the name to Igbo people award of the year, do that fast please , how come no body from South south,



uote author=updatechange post=95633647]Congrats[/quote]

[go and read the post, the wife demanded for divorce , but he refused , why did he refused, not all women can accept a cheating spouse, you want her as a wife and still continue cheating .

Not all woman can accept that shit.
2 post=95398675]Obinna, see wetin you don do yourself. The side chick is on to her next victim while you're 6 feet under.

Our forefathers were smart and that's why they were polygamous. Who the fvck brought about this one man one wife western nonsense. Obinna for just marry the 2 of them instead of being dead now.

Sorry bro. RIP.[/quote]

Telegram234:
But ladies are heartless o.
U can imagine a man going to serious stress and debt just to pay your brideprice and now em don put u for house, u are denying him his food.
If na me, i swear i will pursue u out of my house. Assuming, ur mama deny ur papa dat thing, shey u for exists for dis life.

Immediately u get married the house is no longer your house, but our house, u have no right to kick or pursue a woman out


If s

moneyissweet:
Madam you are even lucky your husband still want to have sex with you.

If na me 3 years i never even touch you talk less of having sex with you.

I guess your husband don't know Facebook and Twitter.

So Facebook and Twitter , will make you meet better girls than the wife, u people keep rolling your self, can you pay Facebook and Twitter girls?


I just pity married men here, listening to all these brats that can not keep relationship for 2months , talking rubbish.



Nairaland is full of useless guys, that has been abused, use and from no homes,


I pity married men here

zudozz:
U get luck say him no keel u..there ...Eeeediot!

Wife beater spotted, let him kill her, he will do it in jail

VEXT:
Stupid women everywhere, divorce her and marry another woman...

,. Do you reason at all, or you just open your mouth and spill rubbish

Is divorce the solution, it is men like you ,that at old age, they become so useless without a wife,
What makes you think the second wife will not do same, the third or fourth will not do same,

Besides marriage talk is not for children nah