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MrBrownJay1:
you are focussing on the money while you need to focus on women thoughts here...
definitely not Steve Harvey show but as much as this woman was dumb, you gotta understand something simple here... here is the simple clue: if you have 2 people (Beyonce and some ugly yeye looking street beggar) and they ask the ugly woman what she thinks she is, and she says:"10" do you think that Beyonce thereafter would say that she is a 9 to this ugly woman?!

Yeahhhh ...
You're right chief...
It makes sense from this perspective...
Good afternoon...

fadilaMaikiriki:
1. All these from one woman? Na wa oo. 2. The man own nko?

1. Yes...
Those things I listed up there are the barest minimum I can settle for ...

If she isn't all those things at the very least, then she's too useless to be taken seriously ...

2. It's a personal thingy...
Different women want different things..
So whatever rocks her boat is fine by her ...

Brokeness:
How cheap is it pls

I think you should be able to find something good for like 3k or so🤔...

fortyishcouga:
Why do men who cheat feel outraged when their partners do the same? If you want an angel, why not work hard at being a saint yourself?

Why do women who are broke and wretched feel outraged when they're told to marry men at their level? If they want wealth, why not work hard to be rich themselves? ...

HarunaWest:
Even at that, if you don't have a back up plan aside a job nowadays. avoid marriage. Ladies of nowadays are not patient like our mothers. A man has no option, he must provide. The world has gone materialistic.

Oga what are you saying?! ...
My guy lost his job in the corona period, and he was expecting a child just as the OP is...

His "back up plan" of over 4million plus his land (that had a 3bed room uncompleted building) had to be sold because his wife got so sick...

They lost the baby...
Lost the money ...
Lost the property...

We (his close friends and family) had to pull resources to keep em afloat till God blessed him with another job...

In summary...
Sh.it happens!!!!!!!!
Life could hit you hard and all your "back up plans" could evaporate in thin air within days...

So let's not belittle the OP for getting married...

Exodus15v11:
Ok then. Your current financial state + hers [you lost your job and now doing menial jobs and making less; her own job is owing her] along with her current physiological state [pregnancy] must be the reasons behind her behavioural changes. She has a bit on her plate, so it's no wonder she's stressed. Idk how far along she is, but she should also be on maternity leave and resting at home. While none of these is any excuse for violence, simply talk to her to discuss her needs and exercise more patience with her during this time.

All of you talking about "pregnancy hormone" being an excuse are talking cap ... And if you really believed the bolded, then you wouldn't have typed everything else that's above it ...

And besides...
Don't you think the man also "has a bit on his plate"? ...

I mean...
Being jobless...
Expecting a baby...
Having a toxic individual for a partner...
Feeling unsafe in the house due to your partners mental condition...

And the emotional and psychological trauma that comes with being threatened by someone you call a wife...

Don't you think this is also A LOT? ...

If he then decides to lash out at her, would you also advice her to "simply talk to her to discuss his needs and exercise more patience with him during this time"? ...

Why do we keep making excuses for women's excesses and stup.idity? ...

@OP...
Call your knife wife to order...
From your description, you don't seem like a lazy man, you're doing your best for God's sake! ...

Atleast, you're not sitting down at home and doing nothing ..

And if she can't appreciate the efforts you're putting in, then let her go, this life is not that hard ...

So now that she has burnt your boxers, has the money come out?! ...

And if she can burn your boxers as a "warning" because she didn't get what she wants now, what happens when you can't meet her next demand? ...

Prolly she'll turn you to barbecue ...
Oga address this issue firmly before it gets outta hand o ...

Brokeness:
I will be seeing her this Tuesday to show my sincerest appreciation, but I have nothing to give as form of gratitude.

What do I do pls?

A bottle of wine should do ...

MrBrownJay1:
some women sha....the important question would be: was that babe even better looking than the 1st one?!

Whether or not she was more beautiful is irrelevant ... we're talking about 2.5million dollars here sir ...
(I'm guessing the show was a Steve Harvey show)

Please convert that to your local currency and see how far ...

I wouldn't mind saying I'm a 1 if it will get me that money ...

That lady me.ssed you big time ...

And besides...
The question was "on a scale of 1 to 10", saying 11 is just plain st.upidity ...

Al those shouting "age is just a number" are neglecting one thing ...

It's not just about the OP here ...

Age maybe just a number for him, but how about the lady in question? ...

Is age just a number for her? ..

When they have arguments in the marriage, can she act without bringing up the "I senior you" talk? ...

Or can she afford to not treat the OP as she would her younger brother & respect/submit to him when push comes to shove? ...

These are questions that should be talked about...

And besides...
What's her motivation for being with the OP? ...

I mean, it's no news that women generally prefer older men than younger guys, so how are we sure this isn't a case of desperation? ...

4Humanity4All:
Omoh,is there a way you can relocate from the area?

Because of woman? Lol ...
So if he was married to this girl, would you also advice him to relocate? ...

@OP...
This is not a matter of living in the same street, cause if you were married to her, you practically would be living in the same room(s) ...

So it's one of three things...

1. That girl is naturally disrespectful ...
2. She doesn't respect you any longer (this happens when she has lost interest in being in a relationship with you and wants an out) ...
3. You're acting in a way that makes it difficult for her to respect you ...

If it is either of the first two, then cut off that relationship immediately, if not you'll only hurt yourself in future ...

If it's the third, then you really need to make some adjustments before she cuts you off ...

First off...
I'm willing to bet that, the 6.5million she spent didn't come from her pocket ...

Secondly...
All this just to get attention? Wawu! I thought menascum? ...

Thirdly...
I hope this doesn't come back to bite her in the ass, cause e go bad ....

MrBrownJay1:
dont you think that your parents upbringing and/or the values they instill in you as a child/teenager affects the choices (good or bad) you make in your adult life?!

It does!!
However, whether or not your parents instilled values in you doesn't mean they should be blamed for the bad decisions taken by AN ADULT ...

I'm sure you're aware that an individual can ignore the values taught to them by their parents, ba? ...

And the same way a person can ignore the values taught to him/her by their parents is the same way, they can learn the values that their parents DIDN'T teach them! ...

EVERY ADULT SHOULD BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE FOR THEIR DECISIONS

That dude is almost 20feet tall!! ...

MrBrownJay1:
forget that, because a bf/husband is a mature choice that you take to go ahead and date this yeye woman... but this is someone's DAUGHTER!!! abeg, her parents should come and tell us what went wrong in her upbringing?!

Blame her parents because she's still a child abi she's a toddler? ...

Or did her parents tell her to be giving head to bottles in public when she was young? ...

The only person that should be blamed her is nobody but HERSELF!! ...

That's a grown woman for crying out loud! ...

And even if we assume that her parents didn't train her well, can't she train herself?! ...

At her age doesn't she know that what she's doing is inappropriate and could have dire consequences in future?! ...

Abeg leave her innocent parents out of this ...

This shouldn't even be news sef ...
Marrying a ran through female is a recipe for disaster, for the most part ...

A female who has slept with many men have a very reduced ability to pair bond, that is a fact with evidence to back it up! ...

This is not to say that all virgins make great wives, nahhh....

But according to research, you have a higher chance at a happy long lasting marriage with a virgin than with a ran through woman ...

Shalommy:
Op, you over knack her and that's why she farts. . Man wey no be virgin want marry woman wey be virgin. God no gree!

Girl wey broke die dey fine rich man to marry! God no gree abeg! ...

@OP...
This your story is very funny o ...
Oga said he put one finger, her v.agina swallow the whole hand ...

But on a serious note Sha...
In as much as there are girls that are naturally big down there, your description makes me doubt that your soon to be ex wife was a virgin ...

Islandlady:
And how am I supposed to know all these , am I a man!? see you guys are just plain stupid and support wrongs from your gender blindly,@the bolded what stimuli's is he reacting to in a public place

Nope...
You're the one who is plain st.upid ...
And this thread you created is a proof of that ...

And besides...
Since you're ignorant about the anatomy of a man, why come online and display your gross ignorance? ...

MichioKaku:
Stop disgracing yourself, Google simply show you what you have been searching for with your phone,

A simple Google search would've saved you this disgrace, smh ...

No be today this one start na, e don tay ...

And it is for this very reason I don't feel any iota of sympathy when a female gets treated like trash by irresponsible men ...

Cause they choose these men and upon all the gbas gbos they're recieving, they still choose to stay, so let's show our support for them en mass ...

The grace will indeed be sufficient ...

From the above, I believe there is some history between someone monikers ...

@OP...
Whatever anyone wants to do with his/her life isn't my business ...

If you like...
Sleep with lion or maybe recieve a bj from a hyena, it's your business ....

It becomes my problem when you try to shove it down my throat, which is exactly what these LGBT fellows are doing ...

Some females are funny o ...

Females be like "I need me an elderly man, all these small young boys don't know how to take care of a woman" ...

In other words, they need an older man...

But when the older man now says "he needs a young chick", immediately all hell gets let loose ...

It's like men shouldn't have preference ...

Wuna go Sha dey alright ...
Just have a drink of cold water first ...

frugal:
You're welcome!

Thank you for the correction, typo be falling hands right from time ...

CuriousStudent:
if you like cry and wail over this thread,it wouldn't change her standard.

Better stick to your virgin and continue your campaign against single mothers but let this woman be,you wretch.
She is not responsible for your failures

Gosh! You are a fycking disgrace! Let her be

Hahahahahah ...
Abeg carry your frustrations shift one side bikonu, I'm not responsible for your problems ...

And how much does she earn? ...

Why is there so much hate in the comments of the above monikers? ...

One person allegedly committed a crime and rather than condemn that one person, some people just had to drag an entire tribe into the matter, na wa o ...

brain54:

You have nothing against me or my comment…

Yet you quoted it and even suggested or insinuated it was not only “absurd “ but “stupid “


Keep denying statements you make even when it’s clearly written in black and white. Tells the kinda Moro.n you are.


SMH… comparing a relationship between a man and his wife or couples dating to rules and regulations binding between a country and her citizens. Or an organization and her members.
You for kuku hire lawyer to draft the rules and regulations na.

What is wrong with your head? Even Hitler the dictator would not be so formal with his wife when he goes home to his wife.

Even throwing subtle “shades” and useless “vibes” to your comment trying to sound “woke” meanwhile you have no idea how unintelligent you sound.

Don’t quote me again… I won’t respond to you.

Bloody Nitwit!

Hahahahahah ...
Someone can't bear to have their ideas challenged, oops!! ...

So in your mind now, insulting me makes you look "smart & intelligent" ...

Weldone o ...
The "most intelligent one" ...
The "great IQ prof" ...
You're indeed a "wise" one and we've all been "enlightened" by your comments ...

Please pardon me for challenging the comment of the great IQ prof ...
Enjoy your day "wise one" ...

brain54:
Well first of…
1. Sometimes you people like to over sensitive issues. Even trying to draw sympathy from submissive women against my comment.

2. I never said I had a problem with a woman being submissive. That’s clearly not what I said.

3. I was only reacting to the OP’s idea of a “100 percent “ submissive woman. A woman to obey his every RULES and ORDER. Now to me that’s a robot. Even a kindergarten pupil would have his opinions and rebel against his parents demands sometimes.

Secondly a 100% submissive woman waiting for her man’s every command, RULES, regulations and ORDER (a 100 percent of the time) is not and can never be independent but a useless robot.

In fact that will be a psychological disorder!

1. No one is against you or your comment, so don't get all defensive on me ...

But if you think otherwise, then I guess you're right ...

2. Well...
I never said you said so did I? ...
Or could this be a case of guilty conscience? ...

Like I said, don't get all defensive ...

3. Speaking of rules and order ...
Every country has her rules and order...
Every state has her rules and order...
Every organization has her rules and order...

Does keeping those rules and order makes one a "robot"? ...

I guess the answer to this to clear and glaring even to a "kindergarten pupil" ...

Enjoy your day ...

donbachi:
no.rather, respect for her body,self-worth and should walk around with pride and dignity.

Jokes on you man ...