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The cries of a who.re.... music to my ears ...

No matter what you do OP, DO NOT SELL YOUR HOUSE ....

Instead collect a loan from the bank using your house as a collateral, then pay off the pressing debt and use the left over cash for a business that can help you repay back the bank ...

But in all your doings, DO NOT SELL THAT HOUSE ....

I wouldn't advice ANY MAN to train a girl to university in hopes of getting married to her ...

Not only do I think it's risky, but it's also foolish to do so ...

Instead marry her first before sending her to school, that's because the headline "wife divorce hubby after she graduates from school" sounds a whole lot better than "girl dumps boy who sends her to school for another man" ...

Op sir....

You wil be a very wicked friend if you watch your friend marry a wh.ore without speaking up ....

Pick up your phone now and send him a voice note, telling him about the kind of woman he intends to marry or best still tell it to him tace to face ...

Once you've done that, allow him to make his decision and support him in whatever decision he makes ...

BUT PLEEEEEEASE...
IN ALL YOU DO, DON'T BE SILENT!!

I see nothing wrong in asking o ...

I mean, I also have use for my money, so if I'm going to give you my hard earned money, I need to know 2 things....

1. What you need it for: I need to know that your needs are more urgent (not more important) than mine...

2. How and when you intend to pay me back: this is the importanta of all importancies ... You don't play rough play with my hard earned money ...

Let's be real with ourselves here...
A lot of women marry because of this same reason ...

Once they see a "serious" man who is well to do, they don't mind dumping even the guy who sent them to school just so they can have the "Mrs" title ...

But if I find out that she is in touch with her ex for any reason other than "official", we're done, talk more of knowing that our marriage is the subject of discuss ...

This is what happens when you love and marry a person because of a superficial reason ...

Imagine loving a person because of weight, height, money, complexion, looks etc...

As important as these things are, they can change with a snap of the finger! It is a whole lot better to love someone for something more concrete like character, value systems etc...

And ladies! Just because you're married doesn't mean you should stop making efforts to being attractive ...

Before marriage, you were a fit and sexy lady that smelled and looked nice, after marriage you become a baby whale that ties wrapper round the house ....

Men are not smiling these days o....
The same effort you took to attract your man, put even more to keep him, if not eh, someone else will take him away ...

A word is enough for the wise!

Wordsfrombimpe:
LMAO na you mature na

With long comment for your mind

No one ask for your opinion

Scroll and skip Timeline

Lmao

Only a foolish person will come to a public platform , create a thread and yet complain when people give their own opinion on the matter ...

If you don't want people's opinions on a matter, then keep it to yourself!!

"men are scum!"
"Men are scum!!"
"Men are scum!!!"

Atleast now we know who are raising these men ....

Men are not smiling these days o ...

With the way things are going eh, I hear Isaiah 4:1 loud and clear ...

And it's like the days of women doing shakara because of se.x is quickly coming to an end ....

If you don't behave, men will outsource, but if you try to do as men do, you go back your papa house ...

Wordsfrombimpe:
You could have scroll pass my timeline

I never ask for your opinions period

Hahahahaha


And here I was thinking I was having a conversation with a mature mind, my bad ...

Maybe next time, you should take your own advice @bolded ....

Wordsfrombimpe:
1. When a lady hardly wears bra and goes around bra less she doesn't care what you think

2. Secondly I dislike when women call your attention and be like Aunty wear Bra

Na you get the Breast

You have no idea what people go through in their life if you see them braless biko fem

Copyright Digital Bimpe The Coach

1. Just as she doesn't care what people think, she also shouldn't care when people perceive and treat her a certain kind of way ....

When you dress a certain kind of way, know that people will perceive and treat you a certain kind of way too....

If you see a person with a military uniform, you don't need a prophet to tell you to behave, naturally there's a certain "respect" you will Accord that fellow...

If you see a person with NYSC uniform, you also don't need a prophet to tell you that, that fellow is most likely a "federal government pikin" and thus you will treat the person accordingly...

When you go out without a bra, you'll be perceived a certain way, so I sincerely hope that you also wouldn't mind being treated that way ....

2. What people go through in life isn't an excuse....

People (especially women) feel that when they misbehave people should "understand" that, they are going through something and that should be reason enough to overlook their excesses...

But my dear...
THE WORLD DOESN'T OWE YOU UNDERSTANDING

If you act a certain way, you will be treated accordingly... If you see someone that cares about you enough to call you to order, take corrections o ...

If only men would learn from this lady and do the same thing when their wives run their mouths like spoilt tap ...

This level of destruction doesn't just manifest in one day, it's starts slowly over time ...

And the fact that it has gotten to this level is proof that nothing was done about it when it was still budding ...

My guess is that she is a single mother ....
Cause there is ABSOLUTELY NO WAY the father of that child will be in the picture and this happens, nahhhh....

PS: For those of you ladies who think that you don't need men for anything other than money, learn from this...

If this is what you want your child to turn into, keep sleeping around till you become a single mother and then watch what your child become an even worse version of this due to the absence of a responsible father figure in their lives ....

Statistically, children of single mothers are far worst off in all ramifications as compared to other children (even kids raised by single father's are a whole better than single mother kids)...

A word is enough for the wise ...

MaddyKane:
You know, you don't have to jump to conclusions. If you love this woman, you just have to adjust to her rhythm and rules of life. And the child will grow up anyway and build his own life.

Why can't she be the one to adjust to his own rhythm and rules of life? Abi doesn't she love him? ...

Indeed women give the worst relationship/marriage advice ...

I've always said it and I will say it again...

"If your wife denies you sex consistently for a period of time without a very valid reason, go outside asap"...

There's absolutely no need staying faithful to a woman who weaponizes a man's primary need (sex) as a weapon against him ...

Lemme take a wild guess ...
You just had your heart broken by a guy you left your ex for ...
Sorry o ...

As for what men want, it's different for different men, but primarily it's RESPECT and PEACE OF MIND...

The guys above me sha ....
Spousal rape is a thing o!!!
Forget all this one you're saying...

If your wife consistently denies you sex please outsource asap, before you "collect your bride price" and end up behind bars ...

As "somehow-ish" as it sounds, it is indeed very possible for spousal rape to occur ...

On a personal note...
If my wife consistently denies me se.x without a good enough reason, I'll have to outsource ...

I see no reason why my needs should be deprived consistently over time without a good enough reason ...

This is wayyyyyyyyyy too childish ...

Men that have been taking women out and spending far more than this haven't been coming online to display this level of childishness, but some women eh...

And I'm willing to bet that that guy has spent farrrrr more on her than she has spent on him, but yet, small outing wey she carry man go, we no go hear word ...

Hmmmm....
Some women Sha...
No wonder someone compared women to children ....

Which kind rough play be this

I can date anybody as long as she RESPECTS me and gives me PEACE OF MIND ...

If she can't meet these two needs, to hell with her money or poverty ...

Yessssssssss!!!
It's as possible as a relationship without billing ...

Madam OP...
It's like you're not aware of the price of diapers and cerelac ...

Let's be real here...
Every marriage has issues...
Though, some more than others, but still...

Now to the subject matter...

Whether or not the woman is richer than the man is IRRELEVANT, the innate need of EVERY MAN is to be RESPECTED and to have PEACE OF MIND, so if the woman can give him this, her wealth wouldn't cause a problem...

If a problem arises on account of the woman's wealth then it must be because of one of four reasons....

1. She becomes disrespectful on account of earning more than her hubby... Blimey, every man whether rich or poor HATES to be disrespected....

2. The man becomes insecure on account of earning less than his wife....

3. Her increased earnings (maybe due to promotion) may cause her to be unable to carry out her "wifely" duties...

4. The hubby expects that now that she earns more, she should take on some responsibilities in the home, and we all know how much women hate being providers ...

Jashub:
You are making assumptions you cannot prove. So it would be safe to say you are still a young pup. When you start shaving your beards come back and tell me . But until then , you know nothing about the subject

Mr. Know it all!!!
Mr. Beards/jaz.z man !!!!
I salute you sir!!!
So because Slynation has an opinion that differs from yours, it automatically means that he is "immature" or in your own words "he hasn't started shaving his beards" ...
No sir, you're the immature one here, for thinking that having an opinion differing from yours is immature ....

You claim he is making assumptions and yet, that's the exact same thing you're doing in your entire write ups...

FIRST ASSUMPTION
"Are you aware that hookup girls are far better than these vultures forming chaste ...?"

How did you come to this conclusion o ye jaz.z man?? Did you go about the streets of your country with a "better-no-meter" to check that the hook.up girls are better than "those vultures forming chase"? Or is this what I know it is - an assumption ..


SECOND ASSUMPTION
"Psychologically, she feels she has lost all hope of marriage and motherhood"

Wowwwwwwww!!!
Not only are you a full fledged ja.zz man, you're also a psychological jaz.z man ...
The assumption that all girls that are into hookup have "lost all hope" is just that - an assumption or is there a statistics to back this up o ye ja.zz man? ..

THIRD ASSUMPTION
"Check the background of those women , you will see that they did not start out as hookup girls"

Mr. Background checker!!
I twa.le for you...
So having checked the background of those married women who date Yahoo boys for money, you came to the conclusion that they all started out as hookups? ...
Wowwwwwwww...
What an awesome facts ...

FOURTH ASSUMPTION
"Women of that calibre do not want sex(because they have seen it all) ; they want a companion"

wowwwwww!!
Not only are you a jaz.z man psychologist, you also seem to know pretty well with accuracy and precision exactly what "women of those caliber" want ...

You good ....

Indeed I have checked the entire nairaland and I have come to the conclusion that no one has this much knowledge and ja.zz like you do ...

I must say that you're a role model to all upcoming ja.zz men like me ...

Have a nice day at work sir ja.zz man know it all ...

This is one of the most amazing piece I have read on nairaland in a while, thanks for sharing OP....

I'm super glad to see that young men are waking up to the reality of the dynamics of intersexual relationships...

GboyegaD:
No one can advice him. He should make a decision/advice himself based on:
Can he still love the child in question as he has always?
Does Shade know the real father and has there been communication during the marriage?
Why did Shade choose to open up now?

This are very valid questions you're asking here sir...

In my opinion the reason why she choose to open up is probably because the real father of the child has come knocking...

I mean, she has successfully hid this for 16years, so why should she open up now, if not that there's a huge chance her hubby would find out? She prolly just wants to soften things up by confessing...

If I were in his shoes, I would stay only because I don't want history to repeat itself (he came from a broken home), but I would NEVER trust or be committed to her ...

On a side note: Paternity fraud will only be reduced drastically if there is a prison sentence attached to the perpetuators of this wicked act...

Having an erection doesn't make you a man ba, it makes you a woman ....

You're right OP...
"Real men" don't have erections ....
Infact sef, to qualify as a man in OP's dictionary, you mustn't have an erection ...

So for all those so called men who usually have erections, please go to the nearest hospital and confirm your gender ....

@Wordsfrombimpe

Men love women with youth, beauty and fertility (a trait that is predominant in younger women) and, women love men with money, status and power (a trait that is predominant in older men), that's how it has been and that's how it always will be ....

We're all hard wired to look for youth and beauty, whilst women are hard wired to look for men with money and status ...

And asking men to date "within their age range" is as erroneous and impractical as asking women to date within their "status/financial range" ...

Both...