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Singing and clapping vigorously...

He's a miracle.working God *2
He's the alpha and Omega, He's a miracle working God...

This will become my anthem in a new church ...

Reggaemich:
Marriage is known as a holy matrimony for a Reason, don't cheat on her

Your wife, just put to bed, give her sometime to get over the shock

Pregnancy atimes changes a woman's shape, physique,physical appearance, which inturn makes them ashamed or exbarassed of there NEW look/self,
maybe thats why she is afraid of having more sex, just give her time to heal and always encourage and give her assurance, you still love her looks.

With time she will let her guide Down

5months is not just "just" Oga ...
5months is a very long time sir (especially for someone with a very high libido) ...

I know and understand the changes that comes with post pregnancy sir, however just as you're expecting the man to "understand" and adjust in favour of his wife is the same way the woman too should also understand and adjust in favor of her husband!

Telling your husband "I'm tired" for the past 5months and expecting him to understand is not only selfish, but wickedly irresponsible ....

Atleast give that man a BJ or a hj....
Anything at all to relieve him of his s.exual tension ...

She is a woman, yes... she is a mother, yes... But let's not also forget that she is also a wife and she has a responsibility to play as regards that role... And failure to play that role could put her hubby in a position to compromise...

Please note, I'm not in support of cheating, however I'm also not in support of putting your spouse in such compromising position ...

@OP
Talk to your wife sir...
Tell her exactly how all this is bothering you and see if you can work a compromise...
However, be patient and understanding too...
Good luck...

Please castrate that man asap ...

Pedophiles are one of the most disgusting sets of people, gosh!!! I hate pedophiles ..

Ken4Christ:
I read your post very thorough. I insist it is wickedness to neglect the welfare of your child because you feel the woman knew what to do. So, she should take responsibility. This is wickedness and you will not go unpunished.

Okay ...

Ken4Christ:
So the innocent child should suffer? What if that child becomes better than you in future? You will now claim he is your child. People with your kind of mindset are simply wicked. You lack empathy.

So if you have the opportunity to help children that are not yours, you won't do it because they are not your children?

Go back and read my write up again ....
This time, do it s-lo-wl-y ...

Ken4Christ:
I don't agree with you. That child is not a mistake. If you didn't want the child, you should have had protected sex and stop putting the blame on the woman.

OP...
After spe.rm leaves a man's balls, whether or not a child will be born is out of the man's hands... I'm other words, IT IS SOLELY IN THE WOMAN'S HANDS....

Now..
There are so many things that can be done to prevent conception even after having unprotected sex...

And if the woman refuse to take advantage of all those things and yet has a child against the man's wishes then she should care for the child without the man's help!!

The same way you can't force a woman to keep a child against her wishes should be the same way you shouldn't force a man to take responsibility for a child against his wishes!!

Isn't that the equality we've all been fighting for? ...

OP...
Before you think of helping someone, you must be sure that the person is ready to help himself or herself ...

I find it hard to believe that an adult who is really affected by this thing and wants to come out of it, will not go to the relevant authorities the moment she has an opportunity ...

She has a phone...
She goes to school...
She goes to church...
she runs errands probably...
She may even have neighbors...

And not once has she reached out to this people since she became an adult (Thats like 2years)??

Hmmm....
OP sir...
Before you involve yourself in such matters, you must be sure of 2 things....

1. That you have enough evidence to put this man in his place....

2. That you have enough standing to be able to fend against the repercussion of this...

Because there's no point putting yourself in situations that you'll be helpless against when they come to bite you in the ass ....

If you're not sure of this two things, guy WALK AWAY!!!

See rubbish!!!
Omorrr...
Have that insane fellow arrested until she pays for damages ...

The shape of her head is fine o ...
Not very many women have such skull symmetry that's free of gallops ...

Kudos to her ...

How men still cannot understand this in this age and time is what is most surprising to me ...

Most girls love toxic guys!!!
And that's a fact!!!!

It is only after they have had their lives ruined, battered, shattered and scattered that they start looking for the "good guys" and the pathetic thing is that these guys still take them back ....

Tis well sha ....
My son's cannot be this stupi.d ...

Do you still want that bicycle you asked me for or you want something else ..

All of you blaming the teenage girl for this need a psych eval ...

How can you say that a girl who is below the age of consent (below 18) should be blamed for getting pregnant, like how? ...

Rather, put the blame on the irresponsible parents who couldn't teach the girl proper manners and the use.less man who couldn't say no to a child!!! ...

If the girl in question is an adult (above 18), then yes, she has herself to blame but a child below 18? Nahhhh ....

Men pleeeeeease....
Stop thinking with your di.ck ....
Stop justifying pedophilic acts such as this and blaming the girl...

And also, if the man who impregnated a teenage girl is caught, please castrate him asap ....

Gosh!!!!! ..
I'm so disgusted by some of the guys above me ....

OP...
First off, not all women fit this description here...

For those who fit into this description, yes, they deserve to be treated better for those who don't, it'll be a huge MISTAKE to treat them any other way than as you would trash ...

Secondly sir...
Just because you give love does not mean that love is received...

Men and women are very different....
We express love differently and different things register as love...

That a person (woman in this case) is showing "enormous love" doesn't mean that it is received by the person to whom that love is shown...

It's not enough to express love, you must make sure that the one you're expressing that love to, receives it and that my friend is something that a lot of women (and men) fail to do ....

I've said it before and I will say it again, "it is FOOLISHNESS to invest a girl who is neither your mother, sister, wife, daughter etc" but all these feminized men will not listen, it sure does serve him right ...

OP...

There's something called "PERCEPTION" ...
You may not be "it" but acting and looking a certain way could make you appear to be "it" and thus people will treat you as such ...

I'm not saying you should live your life to please people, all I'm saying is that you apply wisdom in your dealings with men ...

There's a way you can act in some places and it'll bring you unnecessary consequences, so just abide by the rules of where you are and avoided unnecessary conflict, that's all ...

How about a man's looks? Who is that a reflection of? ...

Just tell her it stinks na, what's the big deal? ...

Personally, I believe that telling you point blank that you smell down there is help enough, and if you're not willing to up your hygiene, then I'm leaving asap ....

I won't tolerate a person who can't even pay a small price to keeping her body clean ..

So true....
But feminized men who have allowed their entire lives to revolve around women will bash the OP and say trash as always ...

OP...
It's called a voltage guard...
Just go to any good electrical shop and ask them for it...

No be only "incredible experience", na extraordinary one ...

I've always said it, "the presence of Feminism is the absence of chivalry", wuna never see anything ....

In the spirit of equality we muuve ...

OP...
In case you haven't noticed, that girl sees you as a nuisance and the best thing you can do right now is to DELETE EVERY TRACE OF HER IN YOUR LIFE....

Delete her pictures...
Delete your chats with her...
Delete her phone number....
Delete EVERY SINGLE thing...

If you value yourself...
If you have any iota of self respect left in you...
You have even an average amount of self esteem...

You would do well to heed this advice....

Hahahahaha
Nairaland o ....
Wuna no go kee me ...

Either ways Sha...
I await a counter thread that says "not all women are women, na mami water them be" ...

E no go better for the person wey wound solo liadis o ....

Anyways sha...
I've always said it and I will say it again...

It is FOOLISHNESS for a man to invest in a woman who is not his mother, sister, daughter or wife.... Pure and unadulterated FOOLISHNESS, that's what it is

I pray men learn ...

That man dodged a bullet...
May my son's not see these kind of women.... tufiaaaaaakwa!!!!!

One thing ladies have failed to understand is that the same way a man with money is important to them is the same way a woman with little or no body count is important to men ....

So when you sleep around, you reduce your chances of finding a suitable mate, unless you're very good at hiding... That's because if the guy who wants to take you serious knows you've slept around, he will change mind instantly...

GUYS DO NOT WIFE WHO.RES!!

And just before you come on my DM and say things like "the guy is not a virgin yet he wants to marry a virgin" ask yourself why you and other females although are wretched and broke would want to be with a rich man ....

Girls will come and argue and prolly call the OP names, but what the OP said is nothing but THE TRUTH...

I've seen this happen over and over and over again in very many relationships in my years as a counselor...

There's a reason why the saying "nice guys finish last" exist, girls (usually between the ages of 18 - 25) will rarely appreciate a guy who treats them nice...

Check the social media of girls in that age bracket, you'll see guys who call her very regularly to check up on them, you'll see guys who literally worship the ground they walk on, but yet, they'll treat that guy like trash ...

Then the guys who don't even have as much time as these nice guys, the girl in question will kill herself for them ...

Only a foolish man will accept back a cheating woman ...

If she cheats, DUMP HER!! ...

Marriage is on the decline because of many reasons and I assure you that "finance" is not the major reason... It's a reason, but not the major one...

20years ago, 20k then was equivalent to about 100k now, you would assume that if people could marry then (with 20k) why can't people with the equivalent (100k +) marry now ...

If finance was a major factor, shouldn't that mean that people who earn above a 100k would settle down already? But I tell you, almost every male in my life who earns above a 100k is still single and those who earn less are married ....

So I doubt finance is the major reason...

The major reason why people don't want to marry is because they no longer see the need for marriage and why would they??