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This is the most hilarious thing I've seen today...

A woman coming online to tell men (and women) what men value, isn't that ironic? ...

Sweetheart sorry to burst your bubble, men value only what is VALUABLE!!! If you like, reject his money from now till next year, if you're trashy he will treat you as such ...

He will even be greatful that he has one less lea.ch to worry about ...

Though this has an iota of it sha ....

etrange:
The entirety of your argument revolves around "it's not fair, but it is the world we live in". You've come to accept what men do as the nature of men. You don't think it can be changed or, to be frank, you don't really want it to change because it would cut short on your freedom. So you make your side constant while trying to change a dependent variable. Any science or even social science student would tell you it's a waste of time. It only helps you win arguments but it doesn't bring about any practical change.

One could say that women sleeping around is not fair but it's also the world we live in. However, the truth is, there's nothing like "the world we live". Everything is subject to change. You can't keep doing the same thing over and over again and expect a different result. In our homes, we monitor how the girls dress, how they talk or walk, who they talk to, how they cook, etc., and prepare them primarily to be good dependent humans. We give the boys the laissez-faire to virtually anything. Then at the end, we throw these same boys and girls into the same society and expect one gender to keep saying "no" because, even though it is not fair, it is the world we live in. What you fail to realize is that humans doing anything for money is not fair but that's also the world we live in. And no, I don't need to create threads about women that broke-shame men, we already have a lot of that created by my fellow men.

Seriously, if you're really okay with the world we live in, what then is the essence of this thread? If figuring out a way to live with it is the only option, why are we having this chat? This thread exists because we know that these things could change. The only problem is that we're selective about what we want to change. We want to have it all. We want to keep sleeping around with girls and we also want these girls to be decent virgins so we can marry them later. I don't think anything describes eating one's cake and still having it more that this. This is not a girl vs boy thing. It only becomes that when one gender is not ready to put in the work. But the moment we realize it's our collective responsibility to change things, then all hands will be on deck to reduce prostitution, and believe me, it'll also eliminate broke-shaming men.

My chief....
I didn't create "this"...
And yes you're right, I don't think it can be changed, the world is far too mes.sed up for "this" to be changed, so rather than wail about it, the smart thing to do is work my around it...
Because let's be real here, do you sincerely believe that an age long practice that has been going on for hundreds of years, will simply change because "all hands are on deck"? ...

Your argument is that things can be changed if "all hands are on deck", maybe it can, maybe it can't, but my argument is simply that on this matter all hands will NEVER be on deck, so what's the use of wailing?! The pastor's that have been shouting morality for years, have there been any real change? The government that has placed stiff punishment, has there been any change? And yes, there are people who do anything for money and that's not fair! But guess what? It's the world we live in!!!!!!!!!!!!! Also, those threads you talked about, they were created by mostly women, do your research well sir.

I'm not okay in this world, infact I hate the extent of the moral decay I've come to see, but hate it all I want, I still have to live in reality and the reality is simple.... men and women are held to different standards, they always have been and they always will be and I'm not going to fight it because that's a losing battle in my opinion...

What you're saying sounds very good on paper, but is it feasible to implement? nahhhh, I don't think so... I think if we want real change, let's just destroy the entire world and start afresh ... But getting the hands of 8billion people to be on deck on this matter is literally IMPOSSIBLE in my own opinion...

And you're say reducing prostitution will reduce broke shaming, that's incorrect sir... I would argue that stopping broke shaming is what will reduce promiscuity amongst men...

Lemme paint you a picture with a popular quote amongst ladies...

Imagine telling a man that "broke men deserve no pus.sy", imagine telling a man that "broke men shouldn't have an erection talk more of being in a relationship", do you then expect this man to stick to one woman after he has crossed the borders of broke-ness, not really ....

You're a very smart man sir...
However, I don't think you've come to fully see the world for what it is, or maybe it is I who is too much of a realist-pragmatist to see a possibility for a change....

Either ways...
Show me the "how" (not the "why" behind your ideals and I'll gladly jump on it, but until then, I will navigate my life and that of my family in a way that yields maximum profits from this messed up world ...

etrange:
When anyone speaks up about men sleeping around, you attack the person cause to you, that's a threat to your masculine freedom.

After all, it is in man's nature to seek women for sex. That's a narrative you use to excuse your side while calling out the opposite gender. What you fail to realize is that even if you quote and argue with me till you feel you've won the argument, nothing is going to change. You'd still come back tomorrow to more epistles. I mean, if this idea of calling out women and shouting "to marry these days hein!" was a solution, things would have changed by now.

My chief....
You sound like a smart man who is living in a deluded and fantascious reality...

One thing you need to understand is that Men and Women are different and they're both held to different standards...

In an ideal world, what is good for the gadner would be also good for the goose, but in this reality, it's very far from it...

In this reality sir, it is inexcusable for a man to be broke, but for a woman, not so much... If you bring a broke man and a broke woman and present them before the society, the man will MOST DEFINITELY suffer more backlash than the woman ever will (that is if she will suffer any at all)...

Same thing applies here sir, a woman sleeping around is inexcusable and she is bound to suffer more backlash than her male counterpart...

It's not fair, but that's the reality we live in...

etrange:
This is not blaming men for the promiscuity of women. This is holding men as accountable as we hold women. Men sleeping around and even coming online to boast about it while sexualizing everything and then turning around to criticize the women they sleep with or cry about the rarity of wife material is the most hypocritical thing ever. Where do you expect the good ones to come from? Who do you expect to marry the one's you've slept with? Me?

Don't you find it extremely funny that you lot expect one gender to bear the burden of maintaining morality in your society?

Oga men and women are not the same o!!!!!!
If you understand this, you will see the "erroneousness" of your write up ...

You say men sleep around and yet turn back to criticize the women who do, that's true, but don't very wretched and broke women also criticize men for being broke?? and yet when they do, I don't see you take this stand I don't see you also open threads and make comments that hold women "accountable" isn't that hypocrisy? ....

I'm not saying it's fair sir, but this is the world we live in in ....

And argue all we want, this will not be changing anytime soon, you might as well try and figure out a way around it....

etrange:
You simply cannot raise good girls in a society full of bad boys. It is not practical. Until you change your orientation, your girls will remain the way they are. Nobody likes suffering. With the way boys do yahoo now, they'd do worse if they had vaginas.

You keep talking about men "changing their Orientation", how about the women? Aren't they beings with the ability to choose? Can't they say no to premarital sex knowing fully well that they will be more societal backlash on them than their male counterpart?

Lemme paint you a picture sir...
If you and I were to do business together, let's say you contribute 99million and I contribute 1million, who do you think should be most careful?? You right??

That's simply because if things goes south you have more to lose than I do, so wouldn't it be smart for you to do all your checks and balances? Wouldn't it be smart for you to be extra careful knowing fully well that you're the one who would suffer the most consequence??

Apply the same thing here sir...
A woman knowing that she has FAR MORE to lose when it comes to issues such as this, shouldn't she be the one who is most careful??

I know it's not fair, but it is what it is...

sweetman2022:
Truthfully you might still get a virgin to marry, I can't deny that fact. I just don't accept it when you castigate a woman who prostitute but remain blameless as a man for doing the same thing. A man who sleeps with different girls is not different from a prostitute.

The sooner you realize that men and women are different and are held to different standards the better for you ...

Just as when it comes to financial matters, men are held to a higher standards than women (a woman can be broke and jobless and still be respected by her man, but for a man? Nahhhh, not so much....)

So also when it comes to sexual related matters, the females are held to a higher standards than men ....

It's not fair, but that's how it is ...

@ednut1

An adult female makes a conscious decision to become a who.re and rather than hold her accountable for her own actions, you're blaming other people?? What kind of stupid reasoning is this?! ...

And even if you're saying "demand creates supply" are females piece of goods?! Don't they have free wills to make their own choices?!

So like this now, a man will go and steal and rather than blame him you'll say "well, since there's a demand for rich men and you know that the country is bad, I had to steal to become rich" ...

Mtttwwwwwww SMH ...

@Willbright...
A girl who you've been dating for 2years and plan to get married to next year, not only shoves other men in your face, but also insists on going out with one of them and you're asking unnecessary questions? ...

If you like don't advice yourself ...

Hahahahaha

Romanlanders eh...
Wuna too serious...
Make wuna chill small bikonu ...
This is obviously a joke ...

Hehehehehe

It's the same reason why every lady out there wants to be with a rich man (aka a man who can take care of me) ...

Ghostrye:
He doesn't sound depressed, just apathetic and lacking motivation.

Please look up the definition of depression, and then read his post again ....

jaeyking:
1. Wow the presenter get so much patient, some of us for don help the brother give this guy better blow

2. But why would u do such to your brother's wife

1. As in eh...
The audacity with which this dude is talking makes me want to give him a strong brain resetting slap...

2. Don't you think a better question is why exactly would his brother's wife do this to him (her husband)?

I mean, in as much as this dude deserves serious beatings, isn't the wife even more of a betrayal and a back stabber?

Having stood before hundreds of people to take an oath of faithfulness, prolly went to a court and signed some papers legalizing their union ect....

She broke the oath, broke the trust and choose to not only bed another man, but the brother of her own husband!!!

She even went ahead to have a child for him and even decieved her husband into believing that the child was his!!!

So not only has she broken her hubby's trust and her oath ...

She has also decieved him for 7years...
Cheated on him for 7years...
Lied to him and made him believe that lie for 7years...
Made him take care of another man's child for 7years etc...

As use.less as this man maybe, let's not forget the extent of the betrayal of the use.less wife also ....

Those castigating the OP should atleast be open minded enough to know that there is valid truth in what the OP is saying...

It is VERY RARE to meet a girl who knows anything else asides spreading her legs like sign post and billing the guys she's in a relationship with ...

So until ladies present themselves to be anything better than s.ex objects, guys will continue to bang then and move on ....

LadyD22:
Who gave birth to these people?

I asked myself the same thing too when I saw this erroneous trash you wrote there ....

LadyD22:
Go and marry so you can have your own daughter or better still rape her since she has no right over her body and her reproductive rights , I pray not to have a child like this , the only person to choose whether she wants to remarry and have a child is the woman , because at the end of everything when the baby's big head rips her vagiiina you would only say sorry , so go ahead and rape her

Na wa for the guys above me o ....

Someone is talking in a way that clearly yells "depression" and rather than say something uplifting, y'all are making light of the matter ...

OP sir...
Once upon a time I too felt that nothing about life was interesting, so much so that I couldn't even motivate myself to doing anything profitable at all...

I just did what I had to do at the moment as a routine and that was all, but the one thing that helped me out of it was...

I looked beyond me...

I discovered that once I put other people's problem first (I sincerely hope you understand the context), and put my mind into helping them with their problems, my own problems didn't seem as much of an issue...

So maybe you could try volunteering in NGO's that helps street children and orphans or maybe you could dedicate yourself to being a worker in your church...

Either ways Sha...
Take God seriously, only He alone can help you find meaning in life...
Good luck chief....

Mtttwwwwwww....
This is stupidity at it's peak ...

My only prayer is that this same number of people come out en mass to cast their vote on the D-Day ...

1. They think that the grass is greener on the other side...

2. They feel they deserve better...

3. They feel that their current man isn't doing enough....

4. Money and material stuff...

5. They just want to explore or have the thrill of playing different guys....

The reason why men don't approach military women is not because "liver dey fail them", far from it...

Lots of guys have already given you very valid answers, but if that isn't enough, follow the link and watch the video...


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RCR2SbK4wbQ

Drama...

A lot of women think that men like drama...

For some weird reason they think that exhibiting stupidity/drama makes them more attractive to their man, but nothing could be more further from the truth ...

That is something I will never do ...

How can you discuss your future with a mere girlfriend? Not even wife o, girlfriend! ...

I better look at myself in the mirror and tell who I see there, rather than to tell a girlfriend ...

Isn't it funny that the things that a man is concerned with when choosing a woman is always shamed and that of a woman isn't?? ...

In other words, the standards men have for women are seen as steming from a place of "insecurity" while the standards of women are seen as steming from a place of "knowing what she wants" ....

Nobody will ever ask "why are Nigerian women are concerned with a man's wealth?" ...

No one will ask "why are Nigerian women are concerned with a man's height?" ...

No one will ever ask why women are concerned with xyz in men, but the moment a man says he wants "this" in a woman, booom!!!! They ask why?

It's as if a woman's concern's are accepted without fail and that of a man needs to be explained unless regarded as "insecure" ....

Well, since you want to know why I want a virgin, here it's come ...

I want a virgin simply because I want a virgin, that's it!!! So non virgin single women (aka "likely wh.or.es" should carry themselves to "real men" and stop expecting every male out there to accept their promiscuity ...

OP...
Every business has the potential to be profitable depending on the location where it is located...

Those two business ideas could be a nightmare or a gold mine....

If the location you intend to start those business is situated in a student (young people generally) "infested" area, then I see no reason why you can't start both at the same time, but if not, just back off and do a proper market survey...

If you've done a proper market survey and you do decide to venture into this business, may I suggest that you consider buying a fridge (drinks) and some snacks, so that guys can cool down before/during/after a match/game ....

She cheated on you....
Got pregnant for another man...
Brought it to you house...
Lied to you that the baby was yours...
Committed paternity fraud for years...
Then shed some crocodile tears for you...
And you forgave her and accepted her back??

Hmmmm ....

advanceDNA:
Irresposnsible.? Nigerian women will gladly own the title of irresponsibility if it means they will get plenty money from a man they just met yesterday.... you will hear "did i force him, its just ordinary gift"

I agree with you...
Most Nigerian girls are just irresponsible lowlife beggars...
Infact they can be anything for the right amount...

This is exactly why men should be smarter...
Never spend on a girlfriend what you can't afford to lose...

If you must spend, let it be of your own volition and let it be the crumbs that falls off your table...

That's because once another man who has more money to throw around comes their way, they'll jump ship and say "what did you even do for me sef" ...

OP...

You and I know that the answer to this question is a resounding NO ...

An average girl sees dating as an opportunity to catch out...

Once she has a boyfriend, automatically she becomes an orphan...

Food in the house suddenly finishes...
Her body cream, make up kits, data etc will just vanish in thin air...
Her mother instantly becomes asthmatic...
Her father will then be diagnosed with paralysis...
Her brother becomes epileptic...
Her sister becomes diabetic...
And the list goes on and on...

No wonder lots of men don't take y'all seriously ....

The biggest mistake any man can make is to take responsibility for a girlfriend in the name of love and only an irresponsible girl would expect a man who she is dating to pay her bills ...

Oh pleeeeeease....

Guys have been taking girls out and spent far more than this and yet they didn't come online to post it, so what's the noise for ....

And besides, she didn't do this with genuine intention, she did it for a challenge on Twitter, so "ress" ...

Also, you and I know that she prolly have gotten (and will get) far more from that guy than she will spend on him, so what she did doesn't hold water .

Better add soap as you dey use water o, make your hand no go dey smell like "soakaway" ...

I'll assume you didn't hear me and greet again, and again, but this time I'll raise my voice a little...

If after raising my voice like twice and you still didn't answer me, I'll assume that you're avoiding me and I'll do same...

Explorerx:
Why would a girl act interested only to start snubbing a nigga
There’s this girl at my mum sister Company that usually come close and start talking even when I wasn’t interested and even touching me sexually…..we got to exchange numbers and started calling each other. After speaking with her on the phone like twice she is now giving me attitudes and ignoring my call, later blocked the bitch…..somebody that I haven’t even toast yet……I tire for women o
Una useless

No sir...
You're the one who is "useless"...

So because 1 girl (or a few girls you know) acted in a manner that you deemed inappropriate, you come online and create a thread generalizing that an entire gender is "rubbish"?? All because of one girls actions??

Indeed sir...
You're the "rubbish" one here...

Mutant001:
your first paragraph was an assumption that I made to buttress my claim

You shouldn't use my assumption to conclude what The supreme God of the universe is....I was just speculating
God is all knowing, omniprescence, infallible ommiscience and undescribable

Well men shouldnt try feminity with women so they don't make mockery or caricature of themselves because they are going to fail woefully in that department

I asked him a question he gave me a stupid answer and he asked me the reverse I shoved his Stupidity at his face

If women start imitating men they will be lost in touch with their feminity
And yes women look absolutely stunning in embracing masculinity
Go and check sexy and beautiful Tomboys, studs and butch picture online
But men will look absolutely horrible repulsive and disgusting when trying to immitate women
Example sister ekwitos, mama desperate, angelica

I hope you can see clearly that both of you are the fools

You say what??
That my first paragraph was an assumption??
Hahahahaha ....
I see you have selective amnesia ...
Please go and read your initial post...
I quoted you word for word...
Maybe you didn't see the quotation sign...
Could be a case of blindness too ....

Please eh...
Just before you think of mentioning me again, read slo-w-ly okay, so that you would have something reasonable to say.... That's the only way I can engage you in a discuss ....

Until then...
Enjoy your evening...

OP....
I understand you're hurt...
I know you're disappointed as you expected much more from her,but "die" the matter ....

As long as you're allowed to spend time with your child whenever you want, then however she acts shouldn't be any of your concern...

Since she is using marriage as an excuse to cheat (I'm assuming you both are still in a relationship), then move on with your life...

But make sure you take care of that child