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Ladies be lying to themselves since time everlasting ...

See them talking about "inner beauty" ...
As if they would advice their brother or son to go for this baby whale ...

Y'all just being delusional ...

@Sweetplum & @Jeon

Most men will sleep with anything in skirts...
So yes, there will be men hovering around her to sleep with her and that's no big deal ...

If ladies can understand that, then you'll realize that men hovering around you for s.ex doesn't make you one bit special ...

Same way you ladies put men in the "friend zone" category is the same way men put you ladies in the "se.x zone" category ...

The main thing here is that "will those men take her serious?", Cause having men take you seriously is what makes you a winner (in this context) ...

Zonefree:
Benin is not backward. You can't stay in your room and be saying rubbish. move out and enjoy life and stop worrying over nothing.

Oga boss....
It's like you're from Benin ....

This is a very good read OP....

Thanks for sharing, but you and i know that the average 21st century female will not take this advice ...

Lemme take a wild guess...
This guy comes from a family that is "okay" ...

[quote author=Youngboss54 post=117300027]alimony is alien to our jurisprudence. At best, the court may order the man to remit a sum for the children upkeep.
However properties jointly owned (where the parties contributed to acquire it) is a different ball game
So if you as a woman is hoping that upon
annulment of your union, the court would ask the man to give you part of his properties, you're on a long thing.
Why such practice is adopted in the western world is the belief, that if a party has been exposed to a certain lifestyle, it would be inequitable for he or her to return to their old position. and so, the law expects you to maintain your ex partner, as if he or she were never divorced.
Note it applies to both the men and women. A clear cut example is that of Adele [quote]The Western court system favours women 97% of the time, only 3% of Alimony is paid to man (I'm guessing you this already), so can we really say it applies to both men and women? ...

You're appealing to well meaning Nigerians, how??

Did well meaning Nigerians tell you to spread your legs like butter on bread?

Did well meaning Nigerians tell you to have unprotected sex?

Did well meaning Nigerians tell you to have premarital sex?

You know you're not in a position to PROPERLY take care of a child and you're sleeping around, mtttwwwwwww ....

I honestly wonder what kind/quality of life those innocent kids will have ...

No o....

Please don't support him okay? ...
He's the "man" so allow him be one ...

His money is for the family while your money is for you ...
Even your parents and siblings too, as a man he must be responsible for them ....

How can he call himself a man when he can't carry samoll responsibilities of you and your family? ...

Hope2014:
Why you talk am, Are all ladies who had relationships with Yahoo boys used.

First of...
It isn't written on their foreheads...

Secondly...
Why risk it??

OP...
If you know she once dated a fraudster (knowingly), took part in eating the money that came from defrauding people, then entering a relationship with her is a very stupid thing to do in my own opinion ...

@Michelle70

What you're saying Is story ...

Apart from a very small minority of women (probably those with some kind of deformity or spiritual matters), EVERY GIRL HAS BEEN APPROACHED BY A GUY IN THEIR 20's ....

If they are still single in their 30's it's because of the choices that THEY made ...

And you saying "it's not their fault" is just childishly naive and not holding women accountable for their choices (which is something we do alot in this part of the world) ...

They made a choice to choose toxic men over the "nice guys", who's fault is that? Nigeria's? Men's? ((Check the contact list of every adult female, you would certainly find a "nice guy" that has been friend zoned))...

They made a choice to put career over relationship, as if they can't do both, who's fault is that? Nigeria's? Men's?

And for every story you've read about married men decieving young girls for marriage, I've read ten's more of girls dumping good guys for toxic fellows, still on nairaland here, or did you miss those too? ...

So what you're saying does not hold water at all ...

MOST WOMEN MAKE STUPID DECISIONS IN THEIR 20's THAT IS AFFECTING THEM IN THEIR 30's AND IF WE CAN'T HOLD THEM RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR CHOICES, THEN WE SHOULDN'T EVEN BE HAVING THIS CONVERSATION ....

Enjoy your day....

Candidlady:
2. Where do you guys met all these kinda ladies .. can't afford sanitary pad without men you need to change the circle of ladies you move with


3. What do you mean by in some regards

4. Wish Ihad a spot you could hit...

Do have a lovely Wednesday Fahvvy

You too...

Candidlady:
1. Read only third paragraph .. threw the rest outta the window

The poster iresponded to was comparing Regina and neds... and my point was,.... without money/affluence that relationship won't work. Hence, my question AS A FATHER WOULD HE GIVE HIS DAUGHTER TO A BROKE OLD MAN?



2. You lie mister. . Even the broke ladies are called broke. How can you say someone male/female would be broke and wretched and wouldn't go through societal backlash

this is a lie

3. Y'all make it feel like we ladies are having it easy


Bros easy with this your lies abeg... on this platform alone Ihave read unprintable things you people call ladies that are jobless.. so say something else


@bolded 1
we are all different... even twins do not have the same personalities

@bolded 2
Vice versa there ended the convo (no arguments)







4. Trash

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5. You are here defending your gender.... lemme ask you one thing

6. Why do you guys call ladies evening newspapers?

1. No wonder ....

2. Lie? Really??
Lemme ask, how often are ladies called "broke" as compared to males?

And besides, if men call a person broke, it's because they are better off than that person, but y'all ladies who call men broke can't even afford sani.tary pad.s without men, so what are we saying ...


3. In some regards, ladies have it SUPER EASY ...

4. Hit a spot here, didn't i ...
Pele o ...

5. My gender? Okay o, lemme keep supporting my "gender" ...

6. Please ask this question to those who use that phrase, I honestly don't know what it means ...

Since she "came from a poor home and she's looking for a better life" why can't she go out to work for that "better life" that she's looking for? Abi is she an invalid or a child? ...

And in your mind you think all men want is to "cuddle and thrust", hahahahha , you good ....

And rather than advice men to "not be selfish" why not advice women who want a better life to go out there and work like every responsible adult should ....

Some people don't think about the long term effect of their post before the come online to write trash ...

She forgets that the internet doesn't forget ...

If her would to be hubby sees this now, does she think the man wouldn't reconsider his marriage plans with her?

Or that he wouldn't put measures in place to make sure that, she doesn't get a dime after his death? ...

Mtwwwww...
SMH ...

Candidlady:
1. Icant be wasting my time reading whatever he wrote... imade my point clear..


Before you come at me with bs

Are you married?
Have you ever dated a lady hoping it leads to marriage?
Why ain't you married?
How old are you now?
And lastly do you have what it takes to get married?

2. Men can stay ages without the thoughts of marriage but when a lady decide to stay single. Y'all will conclude she used up her time when she was young

How stewpid


3. Whatever y'all choose to think of me. Truth is idont care .. Idont know y'all and y'all don't know me.. hyfr we might never even cross paths. . So abeg miss me with that bs of yours


Allah sukaruwa

1. You didn't read and yet you responded? Wowwwwwwww, no wonder your response was so full of sense ....

2. Really??
Like you're comparing men and women?
Probably you think men and women are the same ...

Oya let's play this comparison game...
A woman can be broke and wretched and yet she'll go through life without any societal backlash, but if a man is broke and wretched, he'll be called names...

A woman can be a jobless wife, no issues, but if a man loses his job at any point in time or if his wife is the one paying the bills, he'll be called names...

Sweetheart...
MEN AND WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT....
And we don't play by the same set of rules!!
There are things that a woman will do without any backlash, but if a man tries it, he will hear it and vice versa...

So all this one you're talking doesn't hold water at all!! ....

And the only reason why you're triggered is because this is one of those things that doesn't favour your gender ...

3. Sweetheart, nobody here cares about you, atleast i know that i don't ...
If you disable your account now, I prolly wouldn't even notice it so rest ...



And please before you respond to this, abeg READ, if you know you can't read it, don't bother to respond bikonu

Candidlady:


Epistle of trash to the corinthians

I knew you were not going to have anything same to respond to him... I expected it and sadly, i was not disappointed ...

I'll leave you with a quote your response reminded me of...

"When an average or below average female has nothing coherent to say, she'll result to insults, emotional blackmail and/or demeaning remarks"

I doubt some those who are arguing with the OP read his post at all ...

Whilst virginity isn't a guarantee for a happy and long lasting marriage, it has been shown that marrying as a virgin can eliminate or drastically reduce some issues in marriages ...

And also there's research to show that virgins in general have a happy marriage as compared to their non virgin counterpart ...

So my dear....
I advice you, to avoid stories that touch the heart, choose a virgin over a who.re, e get why ....

Hopeba:
You are a big fool.. the girl doesn't bath? Even if? And mind you some good girls around still don't sleep around.. sucking a clean pussy is medicine itself

Can you please explain @ bolded... how is a clean pus.sy medicinal? And which disease a clean pus.sy cure? ...

Unnecessary Billings from entitled B ...

Maysdevices:
Mr Gaslighter. Read without sentiments.

Why are women different in other countries? Most men would give excuses for the disgusting things Nigerian men do because there are REASONS people do what they do.

There is a counter reason for every behavior. Why do women act that way? If you were a brain scientist and you were asked to perform an experiment, what will you give an answer? Women are entitled brats? We already know that. WHY ARE THEY ENTITLED BRATS? What caused them to behave that way? Are women like that all over the world? Then there must be a reason.

If I ask you why do men cheat even when they know it is irresponsible and will cause great pain to the woman they love, what will you say? You will say men are polygamous in nature. Not men are indisciplined bastards.


A question was posed and I have answered the question as objectively as I can as woman. Whatever else you choose to say, you say out of sentiments.

Why do men take women for granted that approach them first or love them too much or show them too much attention? It’s the same mentality.

For years women have been told that a man is a provider and they take care of the home. Even your mother is the same way, you will not dare repeat most of the things you say about women to her.


Don’t ask questions if you already know the answer.

The reason behind an action doesn't shift responsibility to any other, other than the one who carried out the act

Please read it again, before you respond...

If a man rap.es his wife because she denied him se.x, who do we hold accountable?

Do we hold the man who carried out the action or do we hold his wife who was the "reason" behind his action?

If you can answer this correctly and without sentiment, then you would see the ludicrousity of your earlier write-up ....

Good day!

Maysdevices:
Begging is begging no matter how you twist it.

As for women feeling entitled, it still the fault of your fellow men .

An adult becomes an entitled beggar and rather than hold THAT adult accountable, you're blaming someone else? What kind of myopic and stupid reasoning is this? ...

Just imagine men blaming women for doing money rituals all because women are "singing" that they don't want broke men...

So on account of that, men do money rituals and then blame the women for their actions, how does that sound Biko? Stupid right? Well, that's exactly how you sound right now ...

Or imagine a guy rap.es his wife and says it's her fault because she denied him se.x, sounds just about right, yeah? Indeed you're super "smart" ...

Well, madam smarty-pants...
EVERY ADULT IS SOLELY RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS AND MUST BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE

You don't act a certain way and then blame someone else for it, that's just stup.id and irresponsible...

Most women are entitled beggars because THEY CHOOSE to be entitled beggars nothing else, and thinking any other way is tantamount to stupid.ity ....

This is a very cheap form of emotional blackmail ...

That a man refuses to have something serious with a single mother doesn't mean that he is "ignorant" or "primitive", it just means he has standards ....

And her failure to accept this makes her "ignorant", "primitive" and so stup.id ...

Just imagine men calling women "primitive" and "ignorant" all because women say they want tall men (sighs) ...

Her stupi.dity is indeed legendary ...

PRAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!
PRAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!
PRAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This is what your statistics says "% who reported..."

Truth is women will have a hard time admitting that they're cheats, because of the backlash they'll receive from the society...

Men on the other hand are somehow "praised" for their ability to bed many women...

So you see, males are most likely to exaggerate while the women will take their infidelity to their graves ...



https://www.joe.ie/amp/life-style/amount-men-30-not-sex-nearly-tripled-past-decade-663846

And besides this research shows that 30% of men between the ages of 18 - 30 are either virgins or have been celibate for about a year, so how do you reconcile that madam OP ...

This is very beautiful...

Whether the wedding is big or small ...
Whether the wedding was done the "right" way or not...
Whether it was done this way because the man is "broke" or not...

It doesn't change the fact that they are happily married!!!! ...

FeliciaOja:
I feel no amount of nuture can change your true nature.
If your father is tall his kids inherit tall genes
If you father had hot temper issues and you inherit it. No amount of love can change it.
That is why genetics is stronger

That a person has a genetic predisposition to a trait doesn't mean that, that trait will ALWAYS find expression ...

Lemme give you an example...
Are you aware that diabetic can also be caused by genetics? That is to say, there is a genetic predisposition to diabetes....

However, not everyone who has this genetic predisposition to diabetes end up having diabetes, you know why?

That's because once they discover that they have a genetic predisposition to diabetes (usually from family history), they take measures to put it at Bay and as such, they can live their lives without ever having diabetes even though they have a genetic predisposition to it...

So NO genetics isn't always "stronger" and sometimes "nurture" can triumph nature ...

Secondly...
What the OP described above are social vices: Yahoo, cultism, etc...
And the last time I checked, social vices aren't genetical.... That is, there is no "cultistic genes" or "yoohic genes" in man ...

So how those kids turned out to be, is Majorly environmental, ie, how they were raised ...

First off OP...
Please paragraph your write up to improve readability ....

Secondly...
The down sides of marrying a single mother farrrrrrrr outweighs the upsides and as such I wouldn't advice ANY MAN to end up with one ....

But if you (the man) can find those extremely very rare diamond mines in a single mother, then by all means, please go ahead, asides that, nahhhhhhhhh ...

Slynation:
And see how you shifted the blames to the ladies, how about the nonsense preeq that carried out the act without knowing his responsibilities?? Or do ladies now impregnate themselves

On this matter chief, I blame.the female 100% ....

I'll prove it...
If the woman had stayed faithful to her man, she wouldnt have gotten pregnant for another man...

And if she didn't get pregnant for another man, she wouldn't have even conceived the thoughts of lying/pinning another man's child on someone else...

And if she didn't do that, then there wouldn't be paternity fraud ...

So you see....
Paternity fraud only exist because a woman refused to close her legs and stay faithful to her man ....

You had an argument with your hubby over the phone...
You hung up on him before he could say his peace...
Avoided his calls consecutively for 4days...
Cut him off completely for 9weeks...

And then out of the blues, you send a completely unrelated message without first trying to resolve the old issue and you expect him to be cool with that?
You expect to just come through for you because you finally reached out to him?
LMAO ...

My dear...
The same way you took the initiative to start this matter is the same way you should take the initiative to end it...

The fact that you felt comfortable cutting your hubby off for 9 full weeks is proof that this is not the first time you have given him the cold shoulder over minor issues such as this and so Oga is fed up ...

OP who wound liadis na ....

Grow up son ....