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This is super creative OP...
Nice one..

You did the right thing OP and your cousin made the right choice ...

"A person's true nature is known not by how he treats those above him or those on the same level as him, but by how he treats those beneath him (those he feels can't be of any use to him)"

Your story made me remember this quote...

Though some may argue that "work attitude" is different from "outside attitude", but that's not entirely true...

A woman that can audaciously try to slap a man at work (or anywhere for that matter) over a misunderstanding that could otherwise be resolved by a conversation is A VERY TERRIBLE WOMAN...

And getting married to such a person is DISASTROUS!!

If your cousin didn't make the right choice even after you advised him, he would've definitely died before his time...

You saved a life OP...
Thumbs up ...

Faber:
One babe is presently seeing me as a maga, she is stylishly avoiding any talk of me banging her, while expecting money and other gifts..

On the other hand am seeing her as FWB, and keep smarting my ways out of her small small billing which will mature into bigger billings once I run them...

Las las we go know who will give up between me and her, one person must chop each other or we end everything in a no score draw

My chief...
Be upfront about what you want from her, like spell it out CLEARLY for her and if she doesn't want the same, then ball...

All her billing format should be avoided like plague, don't give in to ANY of them least she takes you for a foo.l...

Abfinest007:
When I said this guy needs medical attention some people attacked me

I totally agree with you sir, you need medical attention ...

virginprincess:
Yes,you are right,i didn't watch the video i just commented base on the pictures i saw,i don't waste my data on meaningless videos.

Ahhhh...
That explains it then ...

You really should stop making comments on things you know nothing about ...

Enjoy your evening ...

virginprincess:
I know what the girl did was wrong but is that why he should beat her like a thief ,two wrongs doesn't make a right,he should have just ended the relationship.

It is obvious you did not watch that video but rather you rushed to a make an incoherent comment ...

NOWHERE in that video did that guy lay hands on her, NOWHERE!!!

But you're a female sha, so your comment is not at all surprising ...

And to all the guys out there...
If you like don't learn from this...
Continue wasting money on females all in the name of relationship ...

Rearealki:
Okay yea I understand this.

But this particular case, the lady in question actually declined the second time because the guy doesn't profess his love for her.

What do you mean by "the guy doesn't profess his love for her?" ...

I mean...
A guy asking you out and telling you he wants to start a relationship with you, isn't that "professing love?" Abi is there something else I'm missing ...

Did the guy just come and say "hey you, be my girlfriend"? Please throw more light ...

And also...
Please tell that guy to walk away...
'cause unless there are actually benefits(business deals, connections etc) to being friends with that lady, it's NOT WORTH IT AT ALL!!!!

The reason for her action are ATTENTION, BACKUP PLAN & FINANCE....

1. It is a well known fact that most ladies are attention junkies and as such will do anything for some cheap attention, no wonder they expose their bodies for public consumption and make twerk videos online ...

2. She knowing that the guy likes her is something she knows she can use to her advantage... Just in case the guy she actually likes doesn't do the needful, the guy that likes her will be her back up plan and keeping him close by is the only way to ensure that his feelings for her never dies ....

3. Forget that financial stability cr.ap you're saying OP... No matter how much money women have, once there's a man in the picture, she expects him to spend on her ....

So yeah...
Those are the 3 likely reasons why she would want to keep the guy around, forget that whole "friendship" thingy she's using as a font ...

This is stupidity of the highest order ...

If she knew that she couldn't take care of a child why did she bother keeping the pregnancy?

Abi does she derive joy in seeing little kids suffer?

She wanted to have se.x, she didn't use protection...

She wanted to have se.x and she just had to have it with an irresponsible guy...

The guy then left her in the early stage of the pregnancy and SHE KNEW FULLY WELL that she didn't have a financial backbone to nurture a child yet she still went ahead to give birth to one...

What kind of stupidity and wickedness is this?!!!!!

The guy breaking up with her in early months of her pregnancy should've been enough to let your cousin know that, that guy isn't interested in the child...

And now she has had the child, she is looking for a child support system....

This support system is something that should've already been in place before she thought of giving birth to that child for crying out loud!!!!

And even if she does find a way to get cash for child upkeep from the guy, will she also be able to get that dude to be involved in that child's life?

Abi does she think that the only role that a man plays in the life of the child is just centered around finance? LMAO ...

Just so she knows, most kids (well over 75%) raised without a strong father figure in their life, don't turn out well...

Please do your research and see for yourself the potential havock she has caused for that child ...

I pray God helps that poor baby...

And as for that dude, he thinks he is smart ba?
No worries, time will tell ...

In conclusion...

In as much as generalizations doesn't apply to everyone...

In as much as there are exceptions to every rule...

It still wouldn't make some of those things you wrote up there become stereotypes...

This is because majority of men and women perfectly fit into those statements aka supposed stereotype ...



N/B: Please before you come on my mention, kindly check the meaning of the word stereotype to avoid unnecessary banter...

Have a nice day...

3. Women are only good for house work vs men losing access to their kids

Emmm...
Women are not ONLY good for household work... They are also good in other things...

I've met very industrious women who can give men a run for their money in any field...

I've met smart women who can wow any man with their intellectual acumen...

I've met women with so much insights and wisdom...

Even if this women are few, they exist and so I do not agree that women are ONLY good for household work, though I believe they are a whole lot better at it than men are in general ...

For men losing access to their kids, I can't call this a stereotype...

That's because if you observe the family court system, you'll realize that women are given custody of the child for well of 80% of the time...

You'll also observe that a woman is far more likely to poison the hearts of the kids against the dad than their dad would their mum...

You'll also observe that the woman is far more likely to use the kids as leverage to threaten the man just so she can get what she wants...

So no, this isn't a stereotype, it's a statement of fact...

2. Women use sex to get ahead vs men are se.x crazed idiot...

How is this a stereotype??

Which gender is most likely to spread their legs for grades?

Which gender is most likely to spread their legs to get a job or a promotion?

Which gender is most likely to sleep around to gain favours, men??

That is no stereotype chief, it's a statement of fact!

And for men being sex crazed idiots, how is this a stereotype??

Who is most likely to send a girl 100k just for being friends?

Which gender patronizes w.h.ores the most?

Which gender can kill just for a few minutes of pleasure, women? Nahhhhh....

Even though there a exceptions to this rules, I still wouldn't call it a stereotype because a large majority of me and women are guilty of the above supposed "stereotype"....

As educative as this piece is, I do not agree with a lot of things in the write up ...

Stereotypes can be dumb, however some of things written up there aren't stereotypes, there are statement of facts ...

1. Women are weak vs men must provide
Honestly I don't see exactly how this is a stereotype...

If you bring 10 men and 10 women and ask them to fight, atleast 8 of those women will have their ass kicked...

This shows that men are mostly physically stronger than women are, that's not a stereotype, it's a fact ...

As for men being providers, can we actually call that a stereotype??

Just recently a thread was opened asking women if they preferred a ready made man or they preferred building with a man, almost every woman said they preferred a ready made man...

And by ready made, we all know that it is majorly tied to his financial prowess, so how is that a stereotype??

Ladies believe that a man MUST be able to provide if they must take him seriously...

It is for this reason that ladies will abandon the one they love for the one who can provide, so no, I don't think that is a stereotype ...

Threads like this reminds me of Isaiah 4 ...

Your entire family (with good reasons) are against your relationship and you're still considering it? ...

Okay...

First off...
Most women hardly respect men they are older than by a far margin (9years is not 9 days o sir ...)

Secondly...
Most women don't respect men who can't shoulder financial burdens, in other words if a woman starts shouldering more financial burdens than the man, she will lose respect for him....

Thirdly...
There's too many baggage associated with single mothers as compared to girls without kids...

And you want to add the above wahala in addition with the regular marital wahala that other couples face?

Who has done this to you OP?!!! ....
Chei!!!! ...
Guyyyyyyyy....
You're making a very terrible decision...

But alas! It's not my decision to make...
I wouldn't be the one to suffer the issues WHEN they arise, because blimey, it will surface sooner or later ...

You're still too young to consider marriage now...
And I know this because you hinted that you're still staying with your parents...

A man who still stays with his parents and is been fed by them is NOT mature enough to consider marriage, so please sir....

Grow up first...
Leave this marriage talk for now...
When you can stand on your own two feet, then I believe you'll be in a better position to make sound decisions ....

Na man you be @ marlow1962

I thought I was the only one with this ideology ...

I have ABSOLUTELY no issues with celebrities, I mean, they have refined themselves to the point where they have become public figures and that takes real zeal and tenacity and thus should be celebrated...

However...
If my partner were to leave me and run after a celebrity, that'll be the end...

I know ladies will see this and call it "insecurity" and all, but fact is, you can't be with me and act like a crazed lunatic because of another man, that's disrespectful...

So rather than swallow your disrespect, I'd best let you go instantly ...

Oga sir...
If by "everything" you mean...
Pepper...
Cube spice...
Salt...
Palm oil...
Crayfish...
Kerosene/gas...

Then...
Even 500naira is enough for to cook a pot of soup...

No go do pass yourself...
If 2k is what you have to cook soup, then be happy for that, if it's 10k be happy still, after all, they are lots of people who use far less than that to cook, so be happy sir ....

This shouldn't even be a discussion we should be having OP ...

The average woman would rather be with a ready made man than "build" with a man ...

This is because the average woman sees "building" with a man as "suffering" ...

And it's so sad to say that almost every woman is average or below average and thus have this mentality ...

Am I the only one seeing the irony of this post abi I'm thinking plenty ...

Guys just switch the gender first and then read the post again ...

OP sir...
Listen to me....

Every good traits you see in a single mother, you can ALWAYS find those good traits in a girl without kids ...

Is it submission?
Honesty?
Love?
Care?
Name it!!
You can find those same qualities you admire in girls without kids...

So if you can find the same traits in a girl without child, why will you chuck your head for single mother matter?? ...

There's too much baggage involved...
You can't correct the child, as discipline maybe interpreted as wickedness...

When it's time to pay bills, it is "our child", when it's time instil discipline, it is "leave my child alone"...

The biological father of that child will somehow somehow be in the picture...

You'll invariably be compared to the baby daddy... Whether it is your parenting skills, bedroom skills, providing etc, you'll be compared...

The child may resent and disrespect you and prolly see you as the reason for their parents separation ...

Omorrr....
The list is endless and blimey it is soooo not worth it at all....

And besides...
No man leaves a good woman...
The reason why that man left her with the child, may very well be the same reason why you too will leave her in future ...

"When they realised she can breastfeed, the employer gave her a job of breastfeeding puppies."

Women and victim mentality be like 5 & 6 ...

You were offered a job and you could just have easily turned it down! ...

After collecting the cash for the services you offered, you turn back to blame your "employers"? Abeggi shift first ...

I wouldn't ask her out if I were in your shoes, nahhhh there's too many red flags here to ignore ...

I believe that if you like someone and want to be with them, then you should make the move on them and see how it goes ...

Her expecting you to make the move and even trying to shame & gaslight you for not making the move all because she's a woman is a RED FLAG for me, a very big one at that ...

But alas! You're not me and I'm not you ...

Either ways sha...
If you don't feel the vibe, don't ask her out, but Las Las, the choice is yours ...

With the way most ladies are acting, it will make it very difficult for men to go out of their way for them ...

Men sponsor women to school, the moment she graduates, she abandons him...

Men take women abroad, the moment she gets there, she ruins his life...

Men sacrifice for women to go abroad for their education, the moment she gets there, she breaks up with him...

And women still think with how rampant these cases are, that men will still be willing to make such sacrifices for women??

Hmmmmm....
Okay o...

And also, why are most ladies this daft? ...
Can't they use their heads for once?

Your ex ABANDONED you and travelled abroad...
And your HUSBAND sacrificed a lot for you to JOIN HIM abroad, and the moment you get there, what do you?

You leave the one who made the sacrifice for you and go for the one who prolly abandoned you?

Chei!!!! SMH
Indeed the hypothesis that ladies think like children and are attracted to men who treat them like tras.h is slowly becoming a fact ....

1. I wouldn't say nada, but she wouldn't even need a prophet to tell her that the marriage is over ...

2. Is there anything that I will say that can change his mind? Even a fool sef will know that she messed up big time ...

3. Why would I even want to bring peace to that family? I will just advice the man to divorce the woman immediately because he might not be so lucky the next time ...

And guys please don't quote that fellow above me, she's just looking for some cheap attention, don't give her the pleasure by indulging her ...

Divay22:
Lol
Have you taken your time to ask her about her past relationship?
Girls, ain't no fool.. You're complaining here and just maybe her ex treated her like trash even after doing heaven and earth for him...
No girl is ever stingy to the guy she loves except somebody has once played her...

So please, don't fault her.
And if you collect from her endeavor to pay back, that way you'll win her trust and she'll start releasing.

What does her past relationship has to do with this bikonu? .... Does her current guy looks like her ex? Abi is her current guy her ex? ...

Y'all should stop making silly excuses for stu.pid behaviours...

If she hasn't recovered from her past trauma (assuming your assumption is true), then she should stay clear of relationships until she heals and not carry her baggage on her head like gala on express whilst hurting people in the process ...

And what do you mean by "don't fault her"?
If we shouldn't hold her responsible for her stingy behaviour who then should we hold responsible? Her ex? LMAO ...

OP sir....
To know what a signature is and it's relevance on nairaland, kindly check my siggy ...

Only a stupid man will accept a cheating woman back, especially if she doesn't contribute TANGIBLY to his growth ...

SMH ...
Your girlfriend, not your wife or even fiance sef, is asking you for your password and you didn't shun her immediately, chei!!!! Na wa ....

Go ahead sir...
Do what is in your mind...
I have no advice for you ...

I think it's high time a section is created specially for females and children only, because the comments of those females above is proof that there is no difference between how most women think and how a child thinks ...

Oga sir...
You did ABSOLUTELY NOTHING wrong...

However, in marriage the one who is right may have to apologize for being right for peace to reign ...

It is obvious that being right in this won't bring peace to your home... And a home without peace is no home at all...

I would suggest you do what you can for peace to reign (in this case apologizing to your wife and prolly getting her the same thing she longed for) ...

okoroemeka:
this post is very hilarious and stupid at the same time,men are now been harassed sexually,disturbed unnecessarily,stalked and crushed on by the young girls of nowadays especially if they feel you can take care of them, many girls just dress provocatively and will be parading and advertising themselves looking for men on social media ,shopping malls,streets, eatery's,etc

I thought I was the only person who noticed the ludicrousity of the post ...

But since we're already on the matter...

OP...
Can you also tell girls not to collect money, gifts or receive favours from men they're not willing to marry? ...