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GEJ tho! What does these people take Nigerians for? Fools?

I understand perfectly what the OP is saying. Inasmuchas i don't subscribe to your away matches, i think your problem is real and relatable.

I've experienced your frustrations with an ex. I used to think it could be a size problem, but after much research, i realised it couldn't have been a size problem, as a woman's vagina expands to accommodate all sizes (it may take time for some very large sizes, but eventually it accommodates without stress). Besides, even at the point of being extremely wet, she still complained of pain.

I feel its a medical condition, not sure though.

Yours is even a classic, since you already have a child together

"The evil that men do, live after them"; This is an old adage, now, it is "The evil that men do, live with them".

Going through your previous posts or complaints, one can easily deduce that you are a womanizer. The woman (your wife) must have seen these traces before tying the knots with you, so i see no reason why she's crying wolf now that all is done and dusted.

However, I think you never gave her reasons to trust you, and thats why she was sniffing around.

Mr man, you need to work on yourself and be ready to be a married man, cos i dont agree you're one yet.

boujaye:
[size=20pt]Buhari of 1984/85 is not the same Buhari of today,
this man has grossly depreciated in faculty and idea.[/size]



[size=20pt]Nigerians vote wisely!

GEJ is OK ... regret only![/size]

And you know this, because you're his personal physician

ozoigbondu:
Good one but will they vote they are underaged

More reason why u'll understand his aim, which is impact and not necessarily to garner votes. However, these children have parents and older siblings, dont they?

Yes! Fornication is a sin, but let's take a look at its ethymology.
I'm not sure if sex before marriage is a sin, but Sex before Marriage is NOT Fornication!

FROM WEBSTER ONLINE DICTIONARY

for·ni·cate
\ˈfȯr-nə-ˌkāt\verb
: to have sexual intercourse
Full Definition
for·ni·cat·ed for·ni·cat·ing
Definition ofFORNICATE
intransitive verb
:to commit fornication
transitive verb
:to commit fornication with
—for·ni·ca·tor\-ˌkā-tər\noun
Origin
Late Latin fornicatus, past participle offornicare to have intercourse with prostitutes, from Latinfornic-, fornixarch, vault, brothel
First Use: 1552

Notice that its origin is not even Hebrew, but Latin!

Your perception on sex, before or after marriage is strictly from a moral point of view.

Fornication or whoremonger as a word, relates with prostitutes (i.e. Paid sex)

Our problem is we don't do proper research. We just accept what ever someone else has told us, not forgetting that, that person is as human as you are.

Ideally, love should supercede money, but with what I see, read and have experienced myself, Money sure does buy love.
Not too long ago, a topic made FP about how an abroad returnee met his doom in the hands of a jilted lover, after dating the bride for 10years.

What it should be?? Love > Money.
What is currently obtainable?? Money > Love.

Note: this goes for both gender.

tunrybabe:
Av read all ur comments. And I agree that av been foolish, can't believe this is happening to me. Am I dreaming? I already promised God and d unborn baby that I won't commit abortion, if not d preg is just 3 weeks. Iv learnt my lesson. Thanks to all
To dose that tried to mail me, d mail addy isn't functioning now, u can get me on 080523231**. I need ur sincere advice plsssssssssssssssssssssss.

I like the fact that you agree to have been foolish, but when are u going to get over the foolishness??

Why is your phone number up there?? Please edit that post and replace with another contact means.

Ola400:
please, any news update from Abeokuta Inec office about the training?

I can confirm authoritatively that SPOs commenced their training today in Abeokuta. Know nothing about POs and APOs.

30k Married 120k/annum

Bros, with all sincerity, You are overdoing it! Do you want to commit suicide
And I assume your incoming wife is jobless...

To have thought of it alone, I really admire your courage.

I'm finding it difficult to believe your story btw.

Ola400:
Any news from Ogun State Inec Office?

Was at their office in Oke-Mosan, Abeokuta and was told to wait for text messages. No list has been pasted.

After FFK questioned the presence of Hausa in Buhari's result, a concerned Nigerian asked some questions from the relevant authority and got this response.

I would have expected an enlightened man like FFK to ask the relevant authorites questions instead of spreading unnecessary rumours.

http:///xCk3IvD92f

Epic!

Exactly what is needed in Nigeria. A firm leader, who doesnt take shit from any stray dog.

I'm not supporting anybody, but the action by Buhari or whosoever (e.g. Military tribunal) is a welcome development. For me, it should further give his campaign more boost than the opposite. Its enough embarassment on its own for a sitting President to get killed, how much more sending signals to the outside world how unsecured we are.

Too many things have been allowed to go on with impunity in this country; and that's why we are where we are today.

If, for example, Fashola hadn't stepped on some toes back in the days of the chaotic Oshodi, the whole of Lagos would've still remained the way it was. People were crying wolf then, but now we see the outcome.

NIGERIA NEEDS A FIRM HAND AND THATS ONE OF THE WAYS TO CURB CORRUPTION.

classicB:
Why asking??

trying to see if your nature could be tied to your horoscope.
But its fine if you dont want to.

classicB:
I once created a thread about introvert and extrovert in love, seeking for opinions of my fellow NL members on how to cope but I didn't get any.
Firstly I know it's not all guys that can date a chronic introverted girl like me, a boring home girl. So am really lucky to have a faithful guy like my bf, we will be 4years soon.
The problem now is he has been complaining so much that am boring I cnt change that, it's not my fault. He does most of the talking in d relationship and get bored by the time I stop replying him. I am not this romantic or adventurous extrovert type of a person, I love him so much but I haven't been able to show him tru my actions.
I dnt kiss him, tell him 'i love u' to his face, go outing with him and so on.
I want to improve but I dnt know how, if we get to break up cos of my introverted nature am sure the next bf will leave me cos of that too. Please my fellow introverts how have u been coping in ur relationship with an extrovert? And I need the extrovert ladies to give me tips on how to be more romantic and outspoken I cnt afford to lose a cool and faithful bf cos of this.
I dnt like this introverted nature self.

ClassicB, please when is your birth day and month?

Evina:
Wow. You are just a lazy man with no care for his life, who unfortunately married an unwise woman. That is a wrong environment to raise a child.

So, for the sake of your child/future children, DISCOVER THE MAN within and LET HIM TAKE CHARGE!

OP, take note of this response. However, I won't use the word "lazy", I'd rather use "unmotivated" and maybe "over-pampered". At 37 Please.... Do not put the blame of your "misfortunes" on anyone, I hate it when people do that. You're what you say you'll become. If become a billionaire with authority tomorrow, its cos of the choices you made, and if you run your family wealth to the ground, its still hooked on ur choices. Never ever blame anyone, including your wife for your misgivings. You married her, cos you made a choice. You just have to get up and start running your life and marriage as a man, Cos even if you start a business, you still need that man in you, to sustain it.

Everyone is entitled to his or her opinion based on belief or experience.

For me, based on experience, a cheat has always been a cheat, cos it is often seen as the only way of escape from a "bad" situation.

But since nothing is absolute, there's a possibility that a cheat may not remain a cheat, howbeit negligible.

Boko Haram is somewhat a blessing in disguise for the military. One can only imagine how moribund the military equipment were before the series of attacks by BH.

Still one cant help but feel very sad for the mourning families. May they R.I.P.

Premise: You dated for about 5years.

3 years ago you posted this.

StanleyDivine:
My girlfriend tactically dumped me when I cudnt get a decent job after graduation only to come back now that I am made to tell me how much she loves me n have been patiently waiting n praying for me.Should I accept her back?

First Response

ednut1:
if u do ur will be d greatest fool eva, so dat if u encouter temp financial setback she will take off and u will be weepin, hehehehehe

Another Response

greedie1:
4 even contemplating it, he is a great fool.
4 asking 4 our opinions, he is a greater fool.
If he accepts her back, he ll be d greatest fool

der is dis sayin, i dont really see ow it relates but here goes- one tin abt rat race is even if u win, u r still a rat.

A fool is a fool no matter d height of his foolishness

Conclusion: Like someone said, you dug your own grave!!!

Lesson: Never ever convince or coersce someone into marrying you, it MUST be done willingly.

Solution: Move on, what will be, will be. Afterall you havent legalised the marriage.

anthoniaz:
When is your white wedding?

What has white wedding got to do with his situation
FYI, white wedding is just a repitition.

coded01:
Imagine EPL without Ex-Barcelona Players...

Barcelona still showing class everywhere...

And someone said Messi should come to EPL and prove himself. Prove what There's too much space in an average epl team defence, that's why the likes of Alexis are shining, unlike the automatic bus parking strategy most team employ when playing against Barca.

Messi in the EPL is outright demolition of defences!

This really saddens my heart. Can a christian mount the imam's spot in a mosque, even if he's the President??

Well, I'm not surprised, as I've heard reverred men of God say they are willing to give up divine sanctity at the altar of materialism.

Truth be told, Aliyu must've definitely written a mouth-watering cheque in the name of the church to have condoned such insolence. An ordinary man would've been bulldozed out of the church, after all, all he has is probably 10,000 as tithe for the whole month.

Then again, Our God is a very patient god.

This is inconsequential, as this hand clipper is still being used till this day, Even in Lagos. So no basis for comparison with marriage.

What kind of graduates are we producing in this country? *smh*

From experience: Once had a shy girl, who dated two other guys, aside from the main guy, making three (could be more, but i was only aware of the 3 of them). so i could deduce some facts

1. They are quite easy to convince, hence the cheating behaviour.
2. As africans, to keep your home and family (extended and nuclear), you must be an hypocrite from time to time. Shy girls are deficient in this skill.
3. Shy girls often time may be intelligent academically, but not intelligent, when it comes to life issues.
4. They are very boring and lack drive.

Sorry, if you're the shy type.
My submission is definitely not absolute, just talking based on MY experience.

Hmmm, how on earth did you get urself into this mess? You want to eat your cake and still have it, yet u aint a sharp man. Your wife found out even b4 u started.
Fact 1: If ur wife hadn't got wind of the situation, u wld've gone thru with ur sexcapade, having promised to be "always be there for her".

Solution: Tell everyone (wife and the potential side chic) involved the truth and the current state of things.

Downside: Your colleague will now start seeing you as not being a very bad sharp guy!

Karma has no respect for Marriage or Kids; It always runs its course in due time. The snatcher, snatchee and the snatched, please take note.

Some ladies may not like this:
From experience, intelligent ladies always wait for a "asking out" before you can be termed an item, no matter the closeness or "flowness", you must ask them out.
The other set are the less intelligent ladies. They are the ones you can easily sweet-mouth and off you go, without any form of proposal, which could be dangerous, because some guys may use the undefined foundation of the relationship as a reason not to take any responsibility or commitment.

@topic, almost immediately, cos there must've been some form of chemistry before hand. This strategy helps to drastically reduce the rate of "No" responses.

I’ve never chosen to live my life “normally,” and I really don’t fancy spending my time around “normal people,” either. Why would I?
I guess I’ve always just considered normal things as a dime a dozen – and in a way, that phrase has always resonated with me, too – “a dime a dozen.”

I mean, think about it. Imagine walking into a sushi place and getting two maki rolls for 10 cents. That’s my impression of “normality,” and to be completely honest with you, I’m not particularly seeking that quality in another person – and hardly aspiring toward those standards for my own self, either.
Then again, I’m “complicated.” The Costanza type of complicated. The breed of “complicated” that has a
tendency to leave you with patches of hair ripped out, the type that always manages to fidget while the people around me are trying to pull (or push) in
unison.
That also happens to be the type of “complicated” you should be actively looking for in a person to settle down with, and although it sounds rather
counterintuitive, finding a complicated partner can often simplify relationships.
After all, if you can look past certain nuances in a person – and see the greater good in them – when you hit challenging times within your relationship, you’ll be able to maintain focus on the bigger picture there, too.

Think about any type of puzzle you might’ve come across in your life. Some may have been easy, and you very well might have breezed through them, but
others – the most complex ones – either became a source of great boredom or pride, depending on on whether you gave up on it fast, or saw it through to
the end.
Ultimately, you probably didn’t grow bored of the puzzle itself, or any of its complexities, either – you just grew bored of trying.

That’s the nature of complicated things, they keep you guessing, they keep you working – and if you get tired of putting forth that effort, then hey, that’s your
own prerogative.
Yet, I will say, the best things in life will never come without work.
This is why “Easy Mac” takes just 30 seconds to microwave and costs under five dollars at the nearest gas station. You don’t want to settle for Easy Mac,
though, do you? At least not for the long run.
It might be convenient that night you got a little too stoned, but convenience rarely equates to quality, and isn’t usually ideal.
Sure, “easy” people have their advantages, too. For starters, they’re, well, easy. They don’t rock the boat,
arguments probably don’t pop up with much frequency and Lord knows whenever you’re pulling – they’ll pull, too.
It’s a great quality for those people who look to coast through life without ever needing a detour to seek out in a partner. Although, in my mind – a
complicated mind – I see things differently.
Arguments and disagreements don’t prove incompatibility between people, they prove the existence of emotion within different people. One step further, and they show the infestation of
emotion.

Passiveness, or apathy by any other name, is the flipside of passion. Complicated people are rarely apathetic, as you can see clearly through all of their eccentricity, which means they’re a glaring bull’s eye for other passionate people.
If you consider yourself passionate woman, or have a tendency to gravitate toward things that keep your interest long-lived – I suggest you marry the
complicated guy.

1. Marry the guy who doesn’t give you everything you want the minute you want it.

2. Marry the guy who forces you to think – and just when you think you “get” him, you find yourself thinking some more.

3. Marry the guy who teaches you to see the world differently.

4. Marry the guy whose interests become your interests, simply because of the passion behind them.

5. Marry the guy you don’t view differently despite different stances on things.

6. Marry the guy who isn’t like every other guy you’ve dated in your past.

7. Marry the guy who makes “weird” things “cool.”

8. Marry the guy who keeps you guessing.

Look, I’m not trying to dig up any dead, overused clichés from the year 2014 or anything — but if there’s one word that’s widely accepted across dictionaries as the opposite of complicated, it’s, ermmm, “basic.”
www.radar.ng/art-life/8-reasons-why-its-okay-to-marry-a-complicated-man/

You're either immature or inexperienced

onadana:
it depends on your definition of job.What did you study in school...no job ..no job..have you heard doctors...engineers ..lawyers...accountants,chartered...oooo...say no job...there will be no job when what you read is an obscured course all in the name of going to school.And if you are in the league of those who did not invest wisely in their allawee....you go find job tire.

The issue here is, you were sent clothes cos they think you probably need them. Personally, I'd rather give d needy than give someone who's fed and full, like OP.
Appreciation goes a long way to do more, especially when it comes from those in need. It gives some form of fulfilment. Unfortunately in this case, the appreciation will be far-fetched.
Its quite sad that most Nigerians are hypocrites, cos I see absolutely nothing wrong in making ur stance known to the cousin. Who knows, they may actually look for better ways of distributing their used clothes to those who really need them, instead of wasting them by giving you. However, wisdom is key in the manner you approach the issue. Again, what must be said, must be said!