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Where are the fathers of these children?? Na only mama and pikin we dey always see.

Africans trying to imbibe European culture. Not again!!!
How would you feel as a parent, when a child you trained up with your sweat and blood, to disregard you in such a sensitive decision making situation? Please, kindly put yourself in their shoes, before making a decision. If you can accept same, then fine, you're absolutely right!

But hey, from experience, it never ends well. This is Africa!!!

Blonchilli:
I think u just read my mind

Read your mind? I think its because I've been in a similar situation in the past. Her nature/personality doesn't make her a bad person, its just that your requirements in a woman CANNOT be provided by her.

Suggestion: Let her go. She'll find someone who doesn't have any issue with her personality.

What I did in my case: I let her go. Now, i'm married to someone who is more down-to-earth (homely), traditional (awesome cook), handle my briefs perfectly in my absence (and vice versa), takes the initiative(enterprising), intelligent, receptive and averagely outgoing. I'm the "sharp sharp" kinda guy, hence a "sluggish" woman will infuriate me.

She's equally HAPPILY married.

I think she isn't living up to some of your expectations; hence, flaring up over little issues, which you think "she ought to have known or handled better".
...My Opinion

Surprised to see nairaland.com's template and content on another domain - www.freeftphosting.org
Could it be a backup plan or what?

freemanbubble:
scam! Them nor dey advert university job like this. Infact people when they work for there nor even dey know whether vacancy dey. They themself dey surprise to see new new staff. University employment recruit na secret!

Walahi! You're very right!!! Couldn't have said it any better.

Good to finally have a feel of Nigerian ignorance. Rinsola is a daughter of the Late M.K.O., hence a Yoruba, from Ogun State. She's also 26yrs old.
You might see her from afar, but to me, she is a friend and I'm very proud of her.
Buckle Up !!! Or keep hating ignorantly.

Yes! The op is right! Got 360k (180k per semester) and 50% school fee waiver from the University of Lagos, as a Masters degree student last year.

Although, prerequisite is 2nd Class Upper and above in 1st degree.

Looking forward to that of U.I.

No problem. I believe the story. But the fact that it worked for them, does not necessarily mean you should work your life around their story. You might get another result!!!

If you are to look back after 50yrs, and try to figure out if u've actually lived for urself or for other vain, irrelevant achievements, what do u think u will see?

Career selection is all about passion. What do you enjoy doing? Are you the flamboyant type? Love to hangout with well-tailored suits? Are you the impatient type? Do you like fast cars, presentations and board meetings with CEOs, Industrialists etc? Or Are you the laid-back type, who isn't all about the "cameras"? A traditionalist, who wants to make a worthy impact, that will stand the test of time?

Forget about the insecurities. If its your passion, you'll always find an option. I see men in their 50s on Marina everyday going to their various offices and guess what? They are bankers!!!

You're lucky to have these options on a platter of gold. I'd advise you think deeply and go for a fulfilling career.

PS: I'm an academic staff in a university.

If with 500k from ur end and you can't do a proper wedding with reception, then u probably need a planner.

One thing I've realised with weddings is that, its usually not ur sole responsibility financially. Often times, especially the SW, the groom and bride's family also contribute. In fact, ideally, your major responsibility is the clothes both of u will wear, rings, box of clothes (optional) and bible.
Others can be handled by the families, depending on how bouyant they are, else you support.

However, know that there are several financial levels of a typical wedding. Be it 50k, 100k, 300k or 3m. Don't do beyond your means.

Nothing wrong with marrying with little beginnings, and coming out strong later on. My take on this is, this was the norm in the days of our fathers and mothers, where not much was at stake. Times have changed and i honestly don't think its wise to "force" oneself into hardship, all in the name of marriage. Marriage is not a do or die affair.

I have seen instances of very small earning couples, going ahead to have children, while praying for better days. My point is, why trouble yourself? Why turn yourself to a beggar because of marriage?

Even if you must get married, especially as a man, ensure you have some income, and stay off child-bearing till things get better than it used to. If couples have been taking the risk and getting out unscathed, what guarantees yours to turn out the same?

Saying Lagbaja has gone into oblivion, is equal to saying, you don't follow his works. Weird MC is hanging there, some where.

azuson:
I have come across this topic several times here and I am in position to advise because I am from Abia and my wife is from Ekiti,I have BSC Economics and she have BSC political science

That is to say when a politician meet an Economist you can figure what we happen in the family.but to be honest,she is the best woman on Earth,she is a real woman.

If u want to marry from other tribe let me give u some tips

In south-west Ekiti and Osun girls are ok, South -East Ebonyi,Enugu,some part of Anambra and part of Abia (aba area) girls are ok, South-south delta, calabar,some part of Rivers (main land) girls are ok

I have not been to other part of the country so I can not tell for those areas

This is personal experience and not based on data

Sometimes, when i see posts from some married peeps, i wonder the reasoning level with which they operate in their families. So, as old and "exposed" as you are, you think just because your wife and her family members are "awesome", then "Ekiti girls are ok"? You don't generalize that way, cos one's personality is dependent on a lot of factors outside state of origin.

For me, i've got absolutely no problem with inter-tribal marriages. I will only advise those going into it to first understand the culture and traditions of their new found love, and if possible, speak each others' languages.

[quote author=abdrazak post=34589886]If you want to live long,
If you want a happy marriage,
If you don't want to live a miserable life.

Look for someone else.

Note: There is always someone better than who you claim to love, except you have issues making female friends. The best move is starting afresh, because i really don't see a mutual affection here.

NEVER BEG ANYONE TO LOVE YOU

Polithiefcian:
My mazda millenium expells black smoke and has caused high fuel consumptn. My mechanc has uorked on it several tyms but d probm stll persists.

Uot is d solutn pls

Check Air filter, spark plug and wires.

Looks as if the site is still a bit unstable

Maybe I'm old school, but I'm still wondering what a N5m wedding looks like. Who knows, the guy or his mother might be celebrities. I'm almost certain tho, that most of the funds will go into hall/tent rentage + decoration.

@topic, the answers are right in your face. Make a pick. Remember, its your wedding, not the mother's. Your decision should be final!

I really wonder what's so special about this Pogba guy... He has been losing the ball like crazy and he's no threat whatsoever, so far, so good.

Instead of "beautiful", I'd rather use the words, "attractive" or "attention-prone" ladies. Generally, fair and averagely curved ladies easily fit into this shade.

I perfectly understand the op's point of view. Now, with experience, these ladies will constantly keep you on your toes, so no one snatch her from you. You're likely to be compared with other men, whether consciously or unconsciously by the lady. You must be "sweet-mouthed". You just have to keep up on all fronts. You're likely to feel insecured. In their world, everything you do must be about them.

Most stunning ladies I've seen get married very fast to a man they barely know, but a smooth talker, handsome and loaded! The man certainly, most times, tends to wanna pay her back in her own coin, for making him pass through all that stress before he married her.

To everyone his own.

Like I said, this is from my own observation, experience and perspective.

This is where some ladies miss it. You want to marry a man, without his family, especially an only child?

I would however advise you to soft-pedal on being too open to a girlfriend... Be wise, so you don't regret. There are times and seasons for everything; i.e. Her being your next-of-kin is a little too soon. Don't put the cart before the horse!!!

Its a complete rout here in Obafemi Owode LGA, Ogun State. APC sweeping through... Would've loved to give exact figures, but...

Its a complete rout here in Obafemi Owode LGA, Ogun State. APC sweeping through...

Right here in Obafemi Owode LGA, Ogun State, all is well and going smoothly, so far, so good!

IronBoi:
Inec na scam, imagine i gt pvc, their machine say its original bt my name is nt on d photo sheet.. N de say i can't vote

Be careful the way you jump into conclusion and calling INEC names. Its most likely you're in a wrong polling unit or voting point.

Those scared of being an umpire at any level at this election, cos of past experiences, could be, cos of the tendency of being partial. Once you're neutral and non-partisan at discharging your duties, the chances of violence will be slim.

I was a Presiding Officer in 2011, now I'm a Collation Officer.

Some will neither vote nor be an INEC official, pls do us a favour, clean ur street on that day, so u don't become completely useless to the nation. #OnlineActivists

Ogun State: This info is for Collation and Returning Officers... The list has been pasted at INEC, Abeokuta Office.

ambrosini593:
Can I go to collation officer training Tomorrow even though I didn't apply? I need suggestions pls

Can't say for sure, but there are specific extra requirements for these positions.

Note: I'm not a Youth Corps member or "just" an ex-corps youth member. I hope u understand my drift?

We, the returning/collation officers are having our training tomorrow and next. Just a point to note that INEC is convinced about the rescheduled date. More news to follow...

Rain confirmed, but has stopped now

Some people are better left alone in the heat of the moment, and that is evident in him calling when he's calm. I feel that's the way he's wired and should be managed as such. I don't think he's immature.

This is an over-flogged issue. The truth is, people won't listen. Logically, you are right on all grounds, but on the other hand, we are Africans/Nigerians, and we love parties! How else do you expect us to show off our wealth? How do we tell, even those who don't care, that we've "arrived"?
People throw parties for the flimsiest reasons - Tokunbo comes from UK, Party!; Chidinma gives birth - Dedication, Naming, Chike goes to Church...

Sometimes I wonder the craze, cos I've never attended a traditional wedding where they brought out horns, pigeon or cowries; it has always been a bible.

We just love the stress, show-off and plenty aso-ebi.

Ideally, just one wedding is enough! But for legality and certificate, one needs the Registry. In fact, registry certificate is more tenable legally than church cert, so why the fuss??

One question for the white wedding comrades...
Will your family take your marriage serious if you do a white wedding without a Traditional wedding?