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parki:
Marriage is not dating. All those formings when the boy and the girl do before marriage, ends the very day they say i do. Also there are few other things that make marriage boring. Few are thus:
marrying a wife that looks like mercy johnsonn (ugly woman). If one has such wife then one is most likey going to have a boring relationship.
marrying for what you want to gain. These days women/men consider where the guy/girl is working before they accept to marry him/her. If it is not a well ppayng job no marriage. with this consideration, a lot of women/men end up in wrong marriages.

There are countless factors why people have shitty marriages. The views above is just a few from my personal observation so far.

How old are you?

You don't have a man yet, what you have is a boy... a little boy! That's if the reasons are genuine; Otherwise, you have a completely different problem to deal with.

Sometimes it gets annoying when people think the next thing you MUST do is "get married"; Like a sequence. I think, until you feel deeeeeep within you, with a strong conviction that marriage is the best next thing, then don't! Must everyone get married

I was at the office today, and a colleague's husband called her an "oponu", just because she cldnt find a set of keys early enough. I was like, is this what marriage is all about If he could call her an "oponu" in public, God knows what he calls her in private.

Again, marriage is not for everybody. The benefits of marriage can be achieved without a wedding. People should stop making a big deal out of it!

This man has apparently refused to stop living in bondage. Cool!

Some of the responses I've seen here are either childish or not helping @ all. The poster was clear enough to explain his predicament for you to help, not cause more issues. Someone even suggested passing the wife to him to marry... To prove what, perfection? No one is, cause you'll always get ur own fair share of challenges. Abeggi!

Back to OP. Like some pple opined, trust is important in marriage. Infact, more important than love itself for some pple, like me. That being said, its clear that some people respect honesty and ability to build trust than others, including me. It once happened to me, but for breach of trust, I couldn't continue with the relationship, cos I knew the unfortunate incident will keep causing issues in the future, like ur case. I forgive, but don't forget easily.

My take: You shouldn't have married her. But now that you have, both of you should go for very sincere counselling, with the hope to get better.

In addition to what every other person has said, I'm quite lost as to why ur husband hasn't noticed the continuous attention u're receiving frm the man. If he hasn't, then he has some work to do on observing, paying attention and deciphering.

adewasco2k:
this is how to spot them, you dont know what he wants yet but you are giving prices.

that shows desperation and good developers aint despirate

Exactly! Adewasco. You took the words from my "fingers". $700!!!

Read this carefully,
I don't comment on NL unless I have something reasonable to contribute. Now, from experience, since you're the male, its better for you to marry the woman that loves you sincerely, and not the one you love, but doesn't give a damn! Don't worry, time has its way of sorting things out for which ever decision you make.

FUNAAB is one of the most underrated universities in Nigeria. Save for some university living on past glory.

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Why is the idio.t smiling in death. Abi one of the 72 virgins don dey give am head already!

Errmm... The guy looks like SauceKid. Sinzu

What a coincidence! I actually just watched Alakada last week and its still very fresh in my memory. Alakada's storyline is good. The point they were trying to drive home was clear, but... The actresses?? For me, didn't do justice, especially the lead, Toyin and ofcourse the real ajebutter girl. Toyin was funny, no doubt, but no continuity @ all, sometimes she acts like she's clearly faking, like Jenifa, other times, she acts like a real ajebutter. The ajebutter girl, sometimes, you think she's being sarcastic, when she's not. Overall, the actresses brought out an unreal situation. Technically, the film is below par.

Jenifa 1 (not the sequels) is awesome, technically n otherwise.

So technically and delivery, I go for Jenifa.
Story-wise n comic, I go for Alakada.

Clearly, this isnt in the joke section, so, it isn't expected to be funny.

CONVERSATION BETWEEN I AND THE POLICE

POLICE: Hello, Mr Man, Why are you driving against the traffic?

ME: (Looks around and notice my error) Errm... Against what traffic?? There's no sign to show i'm on a one-way.

POLICE: (Shows me the obvious sign) Well, as it is, you are under-arrest, and we are taking you to the station.

ME: (Knowing that my game was up and the possible outcome of arrest was a big bribe, i began to act)
Actually, i'm very confused right now, i just received a call about the demise of my Dad (true, but happened a month ago), that's why i didn't notice the sign. If i was your brother, would you still arrest me, after hearing about the death of our father

POLICE: (Now looking confused).. Errm... You know, when we arrested you, we were three, now we are two. You see, the person that left is our boss and there's no way we can release you on our own. But anyhow, find us something to deliver

ME: As you are looking at me ehn! shinshin i don't have, except you'll buy me pure water.

POLICE: (Picks up the phone and calls superior) Errm... Sir, that guy just lost his father o.

ASSUMED RESPONSE FROM SUPERIOR: Ehn! Collect anything from him na

POLICE: Is it somebody that just his father we should be asking for that kain thing?

ASSUMED RESPONSE FROM SUPERIOR: Anyhow. free him, but shine your eyes wella next time. Na bad market be dis one.

POLICE: Okay you can go.

ME: Issorait (Zooms off)

I'm not sure of how much i would have paid, but i'm certain i wouldn't have been comfortable paying it.

Somebody shout halleluyah!!!!

Truth is, that degree can never get you that kinda money. People with such are usually entrepreneurs or living off family wealth. But then again, your certificate can earn you a kind of recognition, respect, and integrity you can never get with $5milla. @topic, considering all the variables now and in the future, i would gladly pick the popular option.

Been driving a Mazda Xedos '98 model for about 5yrs now. Smooth ride, although mechanics complain of its tight engine area.

oladaeyo: they dont have at the HQ library, just went ther now, i even went to the 6th floor

Follow @NOUNlibrary on twitter and make ur request there. As long as its 300L and above

Kennyfancy: pls am through with my OND
... i would like to know if NOUN offer direct entry...thanks.. looking forward to hear frm u

Yes! but with some conditions. Check http://nou.edu.ng/announcements/Approved%20Admission%20Advert%20for%202014-2015.pdf

oladaeyo: good morning guys, to get exam past questions which of the school library is advisable to go. The SC LIB or the HQ LIB. thanx

Either of them is fine.

Make your past question requests via @NOUNlibrary on twitter for 300L and above.

Ideal scenario: Never snatch anybody's partner, if he/she is in a serious relationship. There are too many ladies or guys out there for you to now start snatching partners. Whats wrong has no other name. Life always has its way of balancing evil/good, which is KARMA.

For some, you tactically incite hatred into the relationship, such that it now deteriorates to an extent where you now come in as the "saviour".

One question, what if you were in the guy's shoes because u ain't perfect yourself, neither is any relationship. Please allow the relationship run its course independently and when they are done (and if they are), you can now come in.

If your partner has ever been snatched, let it go, it was never meant to be. If u've been snatching, there's a likelyhood, s/he'll be snatched (or something similar) from you too, married or not.

From experience: The deflowered before marriage tends to know all d strategies, diplomacies, cunny and mischievous ways of satisfying their husbands and trust me, u need all these skills in marriage (especially when dealing with in-laws) to survive. The husbands usually know their schemes, but its usually presented in a way he just can't refuse. They are strategists, unlike the virgins (inexperienced).

For me, I think they are better lovers to the non-conservatives, and i realise the longer a lady stays without sex, the tighter the vagina is likely to be (virginity theory).

From experience: Being a virgin is an awesome achievement for most ladies, so dey ALWAYS expect that fairy tale, perfect marriage, which if the husband cld provide, good! Virgins have tight vaginas, but note, soon after repeated sex (even after marriage), it will eventually turn out like every other vagina (if not worse, cos of lack of knowledge on vagina maintenance). They usually xpect too much, as dey feel with their virginity, dey've practically bought ur soul.

However, dis is not to discourage ladies from chasing chastity, but a reminder that virginity is just a plus, that could even be ignored by a spouse who doesn't know its "worth".

SONKOko: Ok thanks but no thanks. If you guys think answers given here are wrong, kindly open an official account on Nairaland so you can give your informed answers. Nonsense!

Sorry, I was actually referring to bonafide students of NOUN, not you.

"I don't nid a fellow man, I need a vulnerable lady whom I can pet"

The problem with the above is that she won't be able to handle/take care of issues in your absence, especially when children come into the picture. I view her as an overly dependent lady, which is a turn-off for me. My better half should be able to handle briefs in my absence.

NOUN does not owe it as a duty to give hard copy study material. I repeat, NOUN is not mandated to give hard copy materials. If u've got some, lucky u! You are expected to download study materials from the website. Follow @NOUNlibrary on twitter for official responses to ur questions and stop relying on students, like Ferdimako for uninformed answers

Follow @NOUNlibrary on twitter for up-to-date info and correspondence.

Kazrem: .
Thanks bro, where will Ikeja center be having there own orientation week?

You'll need to go to your study centre for that info, as its study centre dependent. I'm only sure of Abeokuta Study centre, which is on wednesday. But I'd advise u attend the orientation, starting frm wednesday.

Orientation actually runs from next week wednesday through Thursday (3rd and 4th July), depending on ur study centre. Follow the official handle for NOUN Library for up-to-date news. @NOUNlibrary

If you are not following @NOUNlibrary on twitter, then u're missing on a lot. First hand news at your finger tips.

For up-to-date information about the NOUN library and NOUN as a whole, please follow @NOUNLibrary on twitter. Like NOUNLibrary on facebook
These are the official links.

377, Under good authority i'm telling you this.
CONRAISS(Consolidated Research and Allied Institutions Salary Structure) 9: Now depending on your step, Your salary range is between 1,449,363 and 2,109,627 per annum. Where the first figure is for Level 9 step 01 and the second figure, Level 9 step 15.

I don't think you need a soothsayer to choose for you now. Every index points to the obvious choice.

NB: The above figures is consolidated, hence comprises of CONTISS, Rent Subsidy and the 53.3% pay increase. Allowances are all inclusive.