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Samuelde:
So I have been staying with my married elder brother recently, I have noticed his wife doesn't wash his clothes she only washes her clothes and the kids own and manage to wash his boxers. My brother washes his clothes by himself and she will be gisting with him , I think it is disrespectful for a woman to watch her husband washing clothes himself and offers no helping hand.

Why not just appreciate their style or over look them

You can do otherwise when you get married

There is nothing disrespectful about it

It's time we leave couples to live their lives the way it pleases them

He must have been a nice man while alive

extol1:
oh God! if we finish eating every animals in Nigeria, I wonder what we shall tell the unborn generation

We will show them their pictures

donstan18:
Nothing new or shocking, we've lost people more important to us.

What a miserable being you are

crowther15:
What a comment and I would like you explain what you meant in your points above.

What a request, its self explanatory naw

Very funny complain
She is really tired of the house chores

That name hybrid is enough to let you know that it's not the job of a road side mechanic to repair any faults

If one doesn't have two active bank accounts, no need to buy such car

HeWrites:
https://igberetvnews.com/1359025/miracle-16-persons-rescued-alive-okrika-kalio-rivers-photos/

Thank God for their life jacket

These people are just fighting themselves

As if the title determines his life and existence

As a matter of fact, he has even dropped the tittle as he never made use of it for one day

FirstSon01:
Yes, but to get a tokunbo car at that price will be a bit hard 'cause the dealer may bring a Nigerian used car and remove plate number to claim toks or the told car might be an auctioned car that was badly accidented. Also depends on the kind of car you want.
Is it an SUV, saloon or small sized car?
And what brand also??

No car dealer will ever do such, you can't register a car for plate number twice because Road safety has a data base, besides its a criminal offence and such person goes to jail

Ninobraw:
I am a guy of 29 years old and she's 24 years old she is a nurse and she is working and earning good salary, we have been dating for the past 3 years ever since she came into my life things have been moving forward between the space of three years I was able to buy a land and build two flat(almost completed) and also buy a nice car. all this was possible because she was in my life. she assisted me with the money she accumulated before she met me, (2 million naira) gave it to me to add it to the money I was using to build the house, she has really be the best thing that has happened to me. we both has never cheated on each other, I'm very happy having her in my life during the period of covid 19 my business was shut down totally she was the one that sustain me Although and never complained.

she later resigned from her nursing work and started her own chemist shop, I supported her with 300k she rejected it and asked me to add it to the money for house project. she is making some good money from her store any way.

Now we plan to do our marriage by December and I budgeted more than 1 million naira.
the problem is that she insisted that it is too much that I should not spend more than 500k that's been a problem to us but later settle it. because she won't just listen to me she wants me to spend less than that the reason why I wanted to spend more than 1 million Naira was because she deserve it.

so because of that we adjusted the marriage to three months time since it's just 500k I am spending now my question is can I spend 500k for a moderate marriage? And I wanted to do something tangible for her because she deserve more than everything I have, please what other things can I do for her that will be equivalent to everything she has done for me.

since we have been dating she has never ask me for big money and also when ever I give her she always tells me that she gat money that no need to give her, in fact she love me so much that she don't even accept money from me unless gift. now I want to do something tangible for her because since I have been dating her she doesn't allow me spent on her that much, and she doesn't complain

Lucky you, good to hear this from a guy

Well there is nothing that can be used to measure her love and commitment in the relationship

I just like her economic sense and you will achieve more with her

But you can do the following to appreciate her

Love her beyond measures

Respect her and her ideas

Protect her before your family and hers

Make her your priority at any point

Be there for her and never make her eyes get wet talk more of crying

Always seek her opinion and support before you do certain things

Lastly, you can dash her parents one third of the money, that's 50each and let them know that you are lucky to have her in your life

skimena:
in a post like this the ladies always keep silent y?

This how you guys go about looking for women troubles

When they start now you will be complaining

What's a woman business in a man feeling during ejaculation

Women have their own heavenly feelings too and they climax in the same way men does if only you know the right buttons to touch

Fokosobo:
Unfortunately this same experience cannot be said for women, especially Nigerian and African women at large due to the practice of Female Genital Mutilation (circumcision) .

Most of our women have never and can never experience orgasm till they die. They don't enjoy sex at all, all because of the barbaric practice of FGM in Africa

Point of correction, women of this generation are nut circumcised and they do enjoy sex only if you handle her well

If you don't care how your woman needs to be made love to and make her experience what orgasm is, then you have failed yourself not her because she will sort her self out

Uae01Dirham:
Good morning fellow Nairalanders ; trust the day is going on well?
Please I need brotherly advice on this .


I’m a guy ,28 years and I’m self employed. I have a nice girl I’m dating and my plans is to get married by December, but currently I don’t have much funds because I’m planning on setting up business for her after our trad . Insha allah

What I need to know is, is it wise to get married with 4/5 million naira in your account ?


I will still rent apartment in the east (2 bedroom and furnish it )

Do trad and all,



Please no harsh words.

Honestly, you made no sense here or are you telling us how much you have in your account?

Graceful7744:
I know by looking at my post title, someone will say another beggar. I will accept all the insults that will be directed at me with good faith.

Please I honestly need an accommodation, I’m really suffering because of no place to put my head in the night.

A brief information about me:
My name is Grace, I’m from the Eastern part of Nigeria, I have graduated from the university, and I will be among the NYSC 2020 Batch B (I would have joined Batch A but there was an error with my Jamb reg number, so NYSC website redirected me back to my school to make the corrections). I don’t have any family or friends.

I’m a loner almost all my life!

I recently lost my home and I have no one to run to for help. Please I need help to get a place to keep my head, I have been staying in an uncompleted building but is not safe.

I’m not looking for a financial help, I can be able to feed myself at least once in a day, I just wish I can see a girl that can accommodate me just for some time.

I have nothing to offer in terms of sex or anything that is against my faith, that’s why I can’t accept for a guy to help me.

Please help me if you can, I’m very patient, humble, hardworking, obedient, respectful and sincere. I’m God fearing and a very good cook too!

My location currently is Lagos.

Modified:
Please you can send me an email directly,

Gracem7744 @ Gmail

if you like. I’m getting some messages from nairaland but I don’t know how to respond to them.

Can you tell us how you got to Lagos in the first place

zed7:
You will have to be Buhari's daughter or someone very important for a man to do that. But women will trap a truck pusher with pregnancy to get marriage. Women need marriage more than men.

Very poor mind set, that women needs marriage more than men

If both of them don't agree it will not work

Why does a man goes out to marry, its because, he wants the marriage but without the woman its incomplete

So get that clearly

FrMbaka:
Nice but low quality

Ogbeye onu ojor

proxillin:
She has been mounting pressure on me to follow her to meet her parents. We have been in this relationship for a year now. Although she is not the only one I am dating. I am not sure of the other lady, but atleast this one is ready to marry me.

I am not sure if I genuinely love her or not, but a part of me love her..A part of me want to treat her bad, whenever I remember what she did to me in the past.

3 years ago, I started noticing and showing interest in her being my junior sister’s friend. I discussed with my sister who encouraged me to approach her that she had no boyfriend. We were on talking terms before which was an opportunity. So I leveraged on that to get closer to her. When she noticed I was getting closer, she started giving me attitudes, stopped talking to me. Finally she stopped coming to our house. She would give my sister thousands of excuses why she was not chanced to come to our house.

We met at a friends birthday party, to my surprized, she warmed up to me, greeted me. I though she must have repented. While the party was on, I asked her to come to my table and spend sometimes with me, she said “ok”. I waited for hours, she didn’t come. I later saw her in the room with the celibrant. I jokingly said to her “You dey whine me abi”. She just went off, started ranting, she said I should say whatever I want to say now infront of everyone..infront of her friends. “Why do you want me to come and sit with you?” say it now “let the whole world hear”. It was so embarrasing for me. I just said to myself “whats there..are they not aldult?..dem never toast all of them before”.

My sister was there, got angry and left us. She had already warned me to leave her alone. That I am interfering with their friendship. On my birthday, she replied to my whatsapp pictures with love and kiss icons. She went to facebook to like all my birthday pix. Facebook was alerting me as she was clicking. She finally sent me happy birthday..where is my cake..we started gisting again. She apologized for what she did that day, that she was not in a good mood that day (someone who met, joked and laugh with me, even agreed to come sit with me on my table).

We continued chattin for weeks, I made sure I didn’t get intimate with her. One day, my sister was playing with my phone, then saw our chats, read through our chats. She was mad at me. She confronted me and nearly slapped her for disrespect. She later calm down and explain to me that if I knew what this girl said about me on group chat, that I would shoot her if I have a gun. She said she didn’t tell me so that I wont feel bad.
She then show me their caucaus group chat discussing me. Tears was just coming out of my eyes. I felt cold. They were just laughing at me. My sister was just fighting for me shutting them off.

This lady said “how come some men behave like he goat. Why can’t he leave me alone?” “am I the only girl on the planet? Oh God I hate that idiot.” “Gosh, I can never be close to such person talkless of dating him” ANOTHER girl said “That’s how those guys are…you need to disgrace him more next time he try something stupid with you. Blahblah.

That’s when I closed her chapter. Blocked her on facebook, whatsapp, instagram. I moved on. My sister did photoshoot for her birthday and some of her friends came. I saw her and just greeted her, minding my business. Then I was dating another girl then, so it’s a win win for all. She stayed behind, when everyone left, she asked my sister to help her beg me. She knelt infront of me started telling me “she was sorry..she was being childish” This was someone that was in her 24 when I was chasing her. I said I forgave due to pressure from my sister. Since then, she will come to my apartment, do my laundary, cook soup inside my freezer. When she is coming from work, she will branch at my place prepare food on my table. At times she offered to sleep overnite, that she cooked till late in the night, which I will refuse.

But one thing led to another, one day, we had sex. And that changed everything. I couldn’t resist her again. But a part of me still hate her whenever I remember those disgraceful moments. Now she is 26, she want us get married. If I marry her, I may treat her bad.

In a dilema seriously and its giving me headache.

You know what?, she actually hurt your emotions and the trust is no longer there

Just withdrew if you can. For her to make you a public topic among other girls, is more insultive to your sister

Just reject everything attaching you with her and consider her a close case

gambia:
They wont listen to such order.

They will, no one disobeys court order

Investnow2017:
Sorry you missed my humour . Indians worship myriads of gods. I know them.

Is alright

Investnow2017:
Albino Turtle Lives Matter

Then you don't know much about Indians and the things that they adore

At least it wont be killed

themaestro08:
Such a thoughtless comment! Telling him "do your wish" is like saying "here is a rope, go and hang yourself, I don't give a damn". That's pretty vile. you could do better.

I think it would be much nice if you rather offer helpful advice than this venom you spill (yeah, little words like this could have tremendous effect on ones reality)

If you had thought very deep why his family are not I his picture, you will know that there is more to it

For how long will it be in his to keep acting mad

You would have asked him where are his families

If he is really mad as he said let him do what I suggest and you too suggest yours

chii8:
Gbam!!!my sister's husband is the only child of his mother,so when my sister had her first child,her husband's family members all gathered round and was practically worshipping the young boy,at his 2years,I went to visit my parents and invited her and the baby over,my mom asked my sister to return to her husband that we will take care of the boy, after a week,all the boy's unnecessary cries, refusing to eat food prepared for him and his disturbance stopped.The child changed totally,let another relative who is family handle the boy for some weeks let's see.

Exactly ❗, not just one week for a period of time

There are solutions to everything

MadeINchenzen2:
I've heard and observed that most married men complain of this issue, 9 out of 10 men will tell same story of how their wives is no longer desame caring, thoughtful, altruistic, loving, calm, easy-going and peaceful lady she was before marriage.

she is now a nagging, violent, swearing and cursing regret to her husband who now detests staying @ home. He will rather sit @ the bar with friends instead of going home to his wife.

The mere thought of going home after work scares the hell out of him.

I know of a married man with grown kids, he got fed up with the toxic presence and attitude of his wife and pretended he was processing a visa to travel abroad only to change location but was within the country and away from his wife.

He calls her with a foreign number and sends money for their upkeep and needs, he returns home quaterly to see his family as he endures another short stay with his wife and then travels again.

His wife once threatened, asking him not to return but he replied saying his source of income largely depends on his travel.

He revealed, should it not be for his children, he would either abandon his marriage or send her back to her parents.


Now my question is;

Is there a reason or an unexplainable phenomenon that possesses women when they finally move in to cohabit with a man as his wife?


I believe this is the same reason why we have so many single guys out there who may have it all and all it takes to settle down, but due to the fear of the unknown, they have decided to be more meticulous and careful.


Also read;
https://www.nairaland.com/6003143/reasons-why-every-guy-must

Circumstances are one of the major reasons

Badboibipo:
Go through my old thread and see where I talked about having mad episodes. Yes I regularly go mad, I mean completely naked in public for the whole day and I go back home at night till a few days and I repeat the process again. Its been like that for 16 years but I never made it permanent cuz I keep thinking about the admiration I get when I'm not mad and I keep feeling like theres still hope for me. But really what is the benefit of looking good? None. Just the female gender smiling at you from every angle and so? What is great about that? At least being mad u have no worries and u just live to make girls laugh as you are just a statue for people to laugh at. Your life has meaning. I will go again Tomorrow and I'm thinking of destroying all my properties so I really have nothing to come back to. If I lied about anything I just said here let me die in my sleep, I just wrote the truth I swear with my life

This is not ordinary, even your family can't cone to your rescue

It's your life, if you can't seek for help, do your wish

They will start worshiping this one naw as small god

Emuf:
A friend of mine want to know if it is normal. He's close to 38years and doesn't feel anything about getting married. He has enough resources to get married, but he's just indifferent. What could be responsible for this?

Thanks for your inputs.

If he still have a woman he makes love to when the urge comes up, then he is the one delaying himself

Why won't he have urge for marriage, even baby mama, what is he afraid of ?

Is he afraid of women or having children making noise in the house

Well he can remain the way he choses to be, then marry when he gets double of his present age

Juliusdaughter:
One of my exes just had a baby, we were unable to get married because of parental consent.
I have kept my distance since then, we are not fighting, he calls and text.
I do wish to go and visit the baby but I dont know if it makes sense.
Will you allow your ex visit your home cos of your newborn?
No FP please. Just few responses are okay

It's good to visit them, gift the baby and leave their within 30mins

But if you know that it will bring tears to you, just send whatever you have for the baby or congratulate him or her and stop at that point

GuestLog:
Good day parents, sociologists and phycologists in the house.

Please I need to understand why my nephew cries hysterically and uncontrollably for any small reason. He is two years old. You can't even talk to him being serious without him busrting into tears and there is nothing he ever wants. Everyday, you'd only hear his cries from his apartment from morning till night with little breaks.

Let me give an example... If you walk into the room and see him doing something he's not supposed to do and you stop him even in the most gentle tone, he will cry for hours unend. For a male child I'm shocked by his behavior.

His parents are tired of this attitude where even a one year old child touches him and he burst out crying for close to 30 mins.

What is this behavior and is this normal for a child to behave this way? Also note, his speech is incoherent & can't even tell his parents when he wants to poo!

I will advise the parents to relocate him for a holiday to live with a family that will correct his attitude

Some children are better handled by another family once they becomes naughty

He knows that his parents are weak to deal with him

Ouchbabe:
Good morning Nairalanders. My neighbour caught this rare specie of crocodile this morning. I don't want it to end up as pepper soup in someone's pot. Please what can we do to save this beautiful creature? I'm in Lagos (Ajah axis)Anyone with useful information on what we can do should please mention me
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Mynd44

You have to eat it

The parents will procreate more that's their job

Miraculosy:
I have been suffering from this for the past seven months and all I can say is that its been hell for me cos I no longer sleep due to the excruciating pain. I once believed it could be diabolic due to the fact that my parents are late leaving with me two sisters to take care of. I was once doing well but due to the anti biotics and money for injections that have made my shop empty makes me soliciting for help here. Please I now believe that hunger kills faster than any sickness. The pictures are very graphic and I have been a guest for over 2years.

You can't be complaining of a health challenge here and no prove

It's difficult to believe you

Send a picture and send more pictures

Add videos to it

The good ones and those who have will send to you

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