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OB3344:
Guys pls I need your advice biko, my babe told me yesterday that she has started developing feelings for another guy , she added that she's still in love with me though, but she doesn't know what to do.(that I should advice her ) Imagine!
Should I break-up?
Or what should I do ?
Me like this babe die..

Her heart is already shifting to another guy

It's either you accept it and share her with the person or you permit her to go and end the relationship

YxCEc2kUDRp2RWy:
How do I deal with these urges without masturbation or sex?

You are at the pick of your sexual drive

If you can resist it fine a d if you can't go in for a girlfriend

When nature wants to work in your body, it doesn't need your your permission to do anything with your body

So find a way and sort it out

chatinent:
[color=maroon] Hi friends, I need your opinion on this. There's this (say) friend of mine who I misdeemed as friendly not knowing there was sth more to it.
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First of all, I'm single. Not like I'm searching but I really want to be single till I achieve some few things on my to-do. I have a good job too. Marriage is not sth one should jump into. I've turned some advances down majorly because I wasn't ready to settle down: I believe dating should solely be for marriage and not trivialized. (my religious belief I hold unto dearly).
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Back to my tale. She's this kind who complements me and sometimes chat, call and text-message and I return the favour by checking up on her sometimes too by also calling and sms-ing (I was always civil and careful with my words not to incite unusual feelings).
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Fast forward to last week, she called me and asked where this relationship was heading to. I paused for a moment and hung up. I was so mesmerized. Relationship? What relationship? We didn't have that kind of relationship, I thought. With the most pleasant words, I re-called her and explained things to her, acknowledging she was beautiful and never would I undergrad her but that I was just simply being nice and civil and appreciated it that way (but not for anything intimate or relationship). I didn't know those nice words of mine wouldn't work. This girl started pestering my life from that day. I've literally beseeched her I wasn't ready for a relationship but she wouldn't leave me be. She has tried many things; trying to seduce me the day she invited me with the guise of apologizing for her errs, threatening 'female names' (thinking they are my girlfriends) on my contact to leave me (however she got them!)..latest was she telling my friends I broke her heart. In fact, people she told may rightly think it's true because of how she incessantly tell them to talk to me.. I'd be like going to coma when they do! Not as though she isn't beautiful but I AREN'T READY TO DATE! Even if I were, it wouldn't be her! Worst is she is acting as a wife! Cooking and bringing for me and putting me in a position to reject or take it (with the pity 'accept it na' from my co-staffs around). I don't want to embarrass her there but I've explained it countless time to her I'm not interested. As in, what part of the sentence doesn't she understand! .
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Yeah, I know some people will think I aren't a 'guy man' bla bla to have not 'used her' up till now but f your feelings. This is my life. I don't have to be you.
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Note, I haven't had anything intimate with her. We haven't even discussed about anything intimate! She doesn't even know my apartment. You need to see me hiding when going home so she wouldn't even know there. Oh, I'm getting crazy. The only far I think we went was she asking about my marital status which I firmly said I was single and not searching. I even thought she understood. In all I thought she was joking and repeatedly told her to come off it, but she is damn serious about this shit.
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The bomb came yesterday when she told me she wouldn't let another girl snatch 'what she has worked for for years. That she will not let another girl marry her man, that it is her I must marry.'
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I nearly exploded. My head has overgrown its size.
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I don't chase after girls. I don't flirt. Please explain this life to me. Could this just be a joke because I'm beginning to go bananas.[/color]

Both of you are not serious people

Truetalk3139:
Doctors in the house, please I urgently need response to this.

There is nothing like that

You can't plant water yam and expect it to come out as cocoyam just because they bear close names

Even Abuja yam and yoruba yam are never the same

In the case of DNA you get what you put in not even getting the resemblance

Aliencraft:
Except if you are an identical twin

Identical twins have different blood groups and even their Biometrics are different

Their thumb print lines are also different

Gaggii:
Hi guys,

I have a challenge with my relationship, I don't know how to solve it without hurting my partner's ego.

During sex, I like the missionary style, or her been untop, but she likes doggy.

But the challenge is that, anytime am doing doggy, I used to perceive some unpleasant odour.

I once told her jokingly, but she was so angry that she sex starved me for almost a week.(i cannot do without sex for more than 3days).

But the truth is that the pussy oozes, and she cannot do without doggy...the odour is not that strong with other styles.

Please how can I tell her without disrespecting her?

A female friend told me that I should advice to be putting kafura inside her pant, but I don't know how effective is this.
I love this girl, I don't want to lose her because she is good in bed, she can cope with my libido.

Please help!!!

The odour may be coming from her anus combined with the one from the pussy

Just seat her down and tell her you did want to continue giving her, her favorite style but will appreciate if she washes off before game start

Alternatively, since you can't do without sex for three days get nose mask and give it to her

Danielfx:
This igbo girl(Amaka) keeps coming back to my little brother even after receiving royal Rumble smack down from him. My Little brother would shut the door on her and rain punches on her, the girl screams and shouts, pleading for help, it's so horrible.

The worst part is that the girl is an annoying 18year old girl that school in one stupid Polytechnic with my little brother. My brother had two girlfriends in the past and she treats them both thesame, it such a relief that the sensible one left him. This brain*less one is not just Stu*pid but insultive, she lacks simple mannerism and always walked past people without a single courtesy.

Just today, the beating was so intense that the girl was shouting high above roof for anybody to save her.... I just left my room and went to one guest house to rest my head..

My Little brother is as insultive as the girl but it baffles me how girls like guys that treat them like trash and they look down on the ones that shower them with love...

Modified: The girl is now smiling and walking down the street with him.... Use your head, nor go carry Mata wey nor concern you

Only her knows her attraction in him

Muna4real:
Last month, I heard of a story where a Muslim lady was Disqualified from partaking in a pageant because of the hijab she was wearing. Well I just want to give my opinion about this and also educate people about pagents.

Now what is a beauty pageant? A beauty pageant is an event where an intelligent ,smart, and charismatic person is crowned. Now pagenry falls into so many categories. There are male pageants ( Mr world, female pageants (Miss World, Miss universe, Miss globe, Miss planet, miss earth, Miss international, Miss intecontinental,etc,), children pageants (little miss world, little miss Nigeria, etc) Christan pageants (I have seen one in my life), Muslim pagents (world muslimah) ,Miss petite Nigeria ( for short women), Miss bum bum Brazil (very funny pageant ), Miss unilag, Miss imsu, Miss Abuja ,mbgn (most beautiful girl in Nigeria), etc.

The most important thing about pagents is "what is the reason or the objective of the pagent "? Do you know that the miss world pagent is mainly a philantrophic pageant? Do you know that the Miss universe pageant is mainly a motivational pageant? Do you know that the Miss Earth pageant is focused on the problems facing the earth eg global warming, and other natural disasters? Every pageant has a goal. Also every pageant has rules and regulations and also age limit.

Now let's focus on our main topic. The miss world muslimah is a pageant in which intelligent and smart Muslim women can contest for a pageant. The main objective of the pageant is to prove to the world that the hijab cannot prevent you from being crowned as a beauty queen. This also arose from the fact that most pageants are not in line with the laws of Islam and so, Muslim women can not participate. This is the goal of the pageant.

Now before you can contest for the pageant, you have to contest first in your country and then represent your country on the world Muslim stage. Miss Nigeria won it in 2013. But the problem is that not many Muslim organizations are even aware of the pageant not to talk of staging such pageants in Nigeria. An association like muric ,the Islamic association of Nigeria,or even the sultan of sokoto can take up the pageant so that Nigeria can have constant delegates to represent the country in the Muslim world stage. I'm not sure if Nigeria has ever had a representative since 2013.

I would advise the Muslim community in Nigeria to take up the responsibility of sponsoring such pageants and even open up more pageants so that our Muslim sisters can also show the world that hijab and Islam is beautiful.

And lastly, I am not a Muslim lady, I am an igbo girl and a pageant lover. My name is Munachi.I hope to contest for mbgn in the nearest future .i am only giving my advice to the Muslim ladies because I believe that every woman can contest in a pageant.

This will not work here because they claim to be more religious than the imam

Mathias2015:
*THIS SYNTHETIC WORLD!!!*

*_NOW, HOW DO WE SOLVE THIS FAMILY PROBLEM?_*

My husband donated his sperm for IVF without my consent!! We have been married for 8 years with 5 children, 2 boys and 3 girls. His best friend has been married for 3 years without kids.

The wife is my friend. My husband was given One (1)million Naira for his sperm to be donated to my friend, the wife to my husband’s best friend. I was never told about this. Her pregnancy was announced around October 2017.

I was so happy for her, she never disclosed anything to me let alone how she went for IVF procedure. She gave birth to 2 daugthers in August, 2018. They threw a party and painted the town red.

In mid-November 2018, the kids just turned 3 months when one of the babies fell from the rocking chair in their sitting room.

She was bleeding, so they took her to the hospital, only to discover that she was SS, they later took the other one there for test and she is AS. They called my husband 2 weeks ago at 2am early morning on that day to come to the hospital, he wanted to go alone, I said I will come with him as I was also very worried for the baby.

The first thing that shocked me, was that the baby so much looked like my daugthers at that age. She has the big eyes of my husband and my 5 kids. My husband was told to donate blood as he has O negative like the child.

He is the only one to give blood to the baby, as she had lost a lot of blood. After 2 hours there, we went home. I could not sleep, I told my husband directly; ” Is there something about your friend’s child you want me to know?’ he said no. I said ok and slept off.

I noticed he was already awake and left home for work too early. I quickly dressed up and went to the hospital to see the wife. Only to see my husband there with them. I asked them straight if it was my husband that donated his sperm for the IVF? Because my husband is AS genotype like his wife unknowingly, while I am AA like her husband. My husband knew but wanted the One (1) Million Naira.

They did not bother to find out. She told me she wanted to tell me when they were all planning it last year, it was my husband that kicked against it, that I will never agree to the plan. I called his family and my uncle only, as I do not have parents. I told them that I can only remain in this marriage if the 2 daughters of his best friend is given back to me.

They are my husband’s kids and mine as well, or they MUST pay me 2 million Naira, or I will quit my marriage. My husband is a cow. The twins are too beautiful like my husband for me to leave them with that family. My last child is lonely and needs a little one to play with. I know i sound a bit crazy, l’ am sorry i can not think strait anymore. This is just too much for me to handle.

I need advise on what to do next. Thanks

— Anonymous

Your thoughts please?

You may be making a wrong move, yes you weren't in the picture but you later got to know

What if you never knew about it

Blame your husband not them, but I believe your husband is matured enough to decide what he wants lije wise you

You may wish to donate your egg and its your business

Pls calm down and face your home, let the family enjoy their new born

So if you collect those two kids, what do you want them to do now ?

For your information, your husband is likely to go for another donation as the case may be that they will want all their kids from one man

He will do it again and again

Let's not start a fight you won't even finish

Kccheechy:
I'm from the east but I was born and brought up in Lagos. I passed out from the university in my home town. Even though I spent 4 years in my hometown going to the university from my village home, living with my grandma and being surrounded by people who only converse in igbo, I still find it difficult to speak my native language. I understand the language well enough but I have a challenge conversing with it. I always make a jest of myself anytime I try to converse with it because my people end up laughing at me with the conclusion that I can't speak my native language and tag me as "my mama say I be igbo " They see me as though I'm not really one of them. My parents complain about my inability to fluently speak igbo. Funny enough I have two millionaire uncles who are members of my family by extension who don't even hear "come" let alone speak the language. Any time they visit, everyone converses with them in English. Even my grandma who has a hard time speaking English will try to speak broken English with them and everyone respects them a lot. No one ever complains about their absolute ignorance of their native language. But when it gets to me, I will be mocked If I try to speak igbo. The thing just taya me o. I have decided to just forget about trying to speak igbo and continue with my English. (but my children must learn how to speak my language.) Anybody wey no hear English na I'm Cup of tea be dat. I can't kill myself o. Is anyone in this same situation?

Your uncles are rich do they can even speak in French and it will not be a shame as his status matters more than speaking the igbo language yet money will not come out of it

They your uncle has the money to spend on them, that alone is enough respect

Now back to your case, you have to keep trying not to impress anyone but for you to learn it

If you can hear the language, you have the ability to speak if you are devoted to learning it

If non yorubas, like the Igbos can hear yoruba and speak yoruba, then I don't see why you shouldn't

I blame your parents who weren't speaking Igbo language to you guys even as you live in Lagos

Johntemmy:
I am married for over 5yrs now, I love my wife so much and my family. But I don't know what is going on btw my wife and my kid brother(close relative but not sibling), it all started 2016, my brother school in the same State and town am living, he always come around for weekend at my place, and I noticed they get close, I was happy about it.
When i got transferred to work in another State, I started coming home on weekends too, until my wife got sick and I asked my brother to go there and stay with her because he's also on holiday, I think that was how they got so intimate I like the way they play and gist a lot, I was transferred back 2017. but what giving me concern about this' is, whenever he's not around they always talk on phone, video chat, sometimes send pictures to each other, my wife will sometimes block me from viewing her WhatsApp status when she put him there, because I had complained ones about why she used so much romantic words for him. She will always excuse to go and talk to him, when I ask why? she'll say private discussion, I really don't feel comfortable but I think I shouldn't jump into conclusion.
I'm not a heavy eater but my brother is, my wife always give him larger portion, I don't mind but when it's meat, my wife gives him the best meat in the soup, bcoz we always eat together on the same dinning table, I feel uncomfortable & disrespected with this, but I didn't talk, but recently I was checking through my brother phone and saw one of his pics that he took 2018 and unknowingly and unware my wife was sitting down behind him, exposing her breast because of the ordinary singlet she was wearing because she's inside the house but my brother kept this picture since then, I ask him why didn't he delete it, he said "i like it, I don't feel convenient with how my wife shows on it, I ask why he couldn't crop her out of the pics, he keeps giving excuses so i deleted it, and he was mad at me. But this had been a point of concern for me, I don't know what to think and how to handle this....
Please mature minds only! Thanks.
from LIFE MATTERS NIGERIA.

The only way you will get the truth is from their phone chats

You have to be smart because the goat your are rearing is busy eating from your backyard

Now the only way out is to snatch your wife phone from her and quickly glance through your brother page

You have to be smart and brave about it because you want to clear a doubt

If you think that's too difficult for you to do, then go to her network provider you may be allowed to see her conversation chat with the guy

For her to be exposing her cleverages and chatting romantically calls for concern

SSpeter:
A friend is calling off his wedding plans because he thinks his girlfriend lacks integrity. They have known for about 3years and he has not complained about her to me or any one.

Problem started when he got a call from the bank pleading with him to tell his girlfriend to reverse/return the excess amount credited to her account when she visited the bank to make a deposit into her account. He called his account officer to investigate the issue. The account officer confirmed that she got excess of what she wanted to deposit and she has moved all the funds to another bank.

She used the guy as her next of kin that was how they could contact him. He called his babe who denied initially but reluctantly agreed when he divulged that the bank contacted him. Dude became angry and paused all wedding plans.

The lady s begging and has cried her eyes out...what do you think? can you compromise integrity...?

I got permission to write about this here incase you think xyz and my friend is a Nairalander!

For the fact that the mistake was done, she was notified by the bank to return it, dmshe declined despite that she moved the money to another account makes me feel she has nothing to protect not even her name

Even the guy called her she denied before accepting it

I doubt her sincerity

I don't like women that can't take a decision and stand to defend it, be it good or bad decision

Push over things

sassysure:
Oh dear me
Woman, u don't like yourself at all.

Seems you are the type they drummed into them to love and honour their husbands no matter the situation.
Mbok

On a serious note, any man that don't help or encourage his wife to grow don't love that woman. She is just a means to an end. So also women that folds hand and always demand from their husbands.

I won't tell you what to do. U are an adult, act that.
Good luck to you.
U need it.

Don't mind her, she will teach herself what to do

Keep on submitting to him until you submit your atm card and pin number

Okakwa gi mma ka uche gi zuo oke

varmint:
Lol
You seem to have forgotten where you are coming from. Humans will be humans, I pray things don't take a nasty turn, but should you find yourself in a position where you don't earn enough anymore, you'd receive the mockery you've always received.
Invest your money wisely, buy shares, invest in businesses. Since his money couldn't be put in a joint account when he was earning significantly more, why should your money be in a joint property now.
But again, people will be people, you will still give him your money and he will still mock you later.

She is still claiming a learner after all the suffering, well her body get follow come shock absorber

notoracism:
It has always been bad, he is not good with words, only good at saying sorry.

People like that are serial offenders

The words coming out from their mouth can make you lose your sanity

dawnomike:
How and when did it get so bad?

Definitely from day one

But its time to clip his wings or deflate him

notoracism:
Talking?

He is always commanding and want me to follow him and keep quiet.

As the puppet that you are

You better make use of your brain

If you as matured as you are can stand child birth pain, what other pains are you affraid off

dawnomike:
You and your husband have serious talking to do in your marriage

You think such a man have time for jamb class ?

poshestmina:
You have kid(s) already ,why not buy the property in your child's name?

I'm all for unity , submission in marriage buuuuuut this doesn't sit well at all !

Buy properties with your children's name .

It's just common sense!

MODIFIED: Nne ,no vex.i just read the last lines .
Please keep supporting him ,keep contributing , infact solely build from the scratch and give him.

Nne okana amu marriage until omeya na anya fiammm

obi4eze:
Some men are really babies. They're not fit to be husbands.

It's just stupid pride, nothing else

notoracism:
Am a regular nairaland member. A young woman, married.

Am bordered about something serious and I need to take this decision so soon.

Before now my Husband earn 6x more than me, he wasn't so nice with words during that time. I don't demand from him and before we started having kids I buy food stuff at home without collecting a dime, nothing like monthly stipend from him (in my mind, he is my head so I must do as he say). But I began thinking seriously when he'd insult and mock me with my salary, so I started thinking of how to improve and have some skills to enable me earn more. It became serious when I told him to let's have a joint account and I can't type what I heard from him that day, true, I must be a joker to ask who earn that amount to lets jointly own an account.

To cut it short, God helped me and I now earn more than him.

Now, the issue is - he bought a land when I wasn't earning so much, I know well he won't write my name in the document and I never mind seriously, though every move by me is regarded as 'is it becasue I did not include your name in the land document?'. He built the first house with just about 600k of my savings as my own little way of assisting him (I still wanted to assist him, in my own little way and I don't want him to tag me as a zero helper, and yes, my name is not in the document.

He started building the second house when I still earn little, now I earn more and I have given him over 4M for the building. I have some savings on me now and I have an opportunity from a friend to buy his property, he just want to give away because he is away. I have enough to buy this property. My hubby knows about it all (I don't hide things from him) however, he wants me to give him this savings to finish the building and forget property I have in mind.

If I fail to give him this money, he will make the house hell for me. Secondly, I don't want to loose the saving I have if the property my friend wants me to buy isn't genuine, he'd laugh at me.

Am so lost, I don't really have anyone to seek advise from, I need help, I need godly advises to take a good decision, I started working before I got married and I must say my salary then to some isn't small money but to him it's food money, I haven't done anything on my own, no personal investment, I give him all my savings or I use it to buy gadgets and and food at home. (he doesnt buy things at home, I do all the buying, name it - chair, freezer, generator, fans, ac, center table, nameeeeee everything, all he'd say is I bought the land and built it, we got married with nothing in his house, I started buying and thought he'd change, all I hear is am keeping my money for land, then to building) I have been cheated I know.

All married men, I need your advise, don't be bias, I know a fellow woman like me will say go buy your own, but no, I want the best advise to help me now and future.

First of all weldone on your courage to run the home

My advice is this

There is nothing wrong if you choose to buy a land on your name and build it to your taste

Your hubby has pride and peace with pride always think of themselves

But if you don't have the courage to put your name alone, you can add your name and all your children names as the owners

If you allow him to trick you and out his name, well let me not say more

Women are struggling to get propertise too and you will not be the last in that line

But if you want to buy the said land or house of your friend, pls be very careful, most people that we trusted most dealt with us

You can involve your own trusted lawyer and he will verify the documents if they are genuine

Alternatively, get a land and build for commercial purpose so that on the long run, you will have something to train your children

Forget about his harassment and intimidating attitude, he will give up if he discovers that you can make it

kidap:
Dbanj procured the services of controversial and foremost Senior Advocate of Nigeria, Mike Ozekhome (SAN), to slam a libel suit of N1.5 billion naira on the Ms. Seyitan, a lady who had accused him of rape.

The accuser, Ms. Seyitan, had alleged that Dbanj raped her on December 31, 2018, at Glee Hotel in Victoria Island, Lagos.

She revealed that the popular musician after acquainting with her at a party earlier where she had turned down his advances for intimacy –

– had driven all the way from Eko hotel where he was staying and came down to Glee hotel in Victoria Island at midnight 2.40 am

– collected her room’s spare key from the receptionist and forcefully gained access into her room threatening to walk her out of the room naked if she refused him even as he kept his fingers in her vagina and repeatedly raped her.

Hence, On Thursday, 18, 2020, events took a turn as varying reports emerged of D’banj’s arrest of Seyitan.

Information gathered revealed that some policemen allegedly acting on the instruction of the singer, reportedly detained Seyitan for over 24 hours

– and made her delete all chats, social media posts, and other vital information related to the matter from her phone.

However, The incident elicited a wide range of criticism on social media with Nigerians calling out D’banj for intimidation and abuse of power.

Take a look at the statement from Mike Ozekhome

Source: https://wotzup.ng/mike-ozekhome-sues-seyitan-for-1-5-billion-naira-accusing-dbanj-of-rape/

Water don pass Garri

Airforce1:
Met my week old baby for the first time today , the 02-July-2020.

He's such an angel and so cute.

He's actually my second child and I Give God the glory.

Congratulations for his birth

coputa:
So many peole left their home in search for greener pastures and they eventually settled outside their village,where they started a family.These children,may grow up not knowing where they came from,if the parents do not take them home to learn how to speak his language,know his people and culture.this may affect them in future in many ways,because,one day a man must go home,whether you like it or not.another man's iand is not your own.

Children are supposed to be rajen home to their village at least once in five years

But because the parents doesn't have regards for their culture and the cist of the trip, they ignore it and suffer the emotional pains while alive but at a very wrong time

It gives children time to know to know their cousins, grand parents, uncle and auntie

It's ajways helpful on the long run

For those who cares, long vacation is the best time to take then home

Less transport fares and longer holiday period

coputa:
An illegimate child is one born to parents who are not married to each other at the time of the child birth,will that child be considered legitimate,after they latter got married.

No child should be regarded as illegitimate child

It's only the parents that engaged themselves in illegitimate act

Yes he remains a legitimate child to the parents, married or not married

It's when they want to frustrate the mother of the child, they bring in this statement

But their son actually did it, no one is blaming him

No child should suffer from the mistakes of the parents

thesicilian:
It is normal for an employed man to marry a lady with no job. A jobless man has bigger issues to handle than marriage. Except he's marrying a very rich woman who doesn't mind his joblessness.

But must be loyal to him

You see this is one of the reasons you don't treat a child with disdain

She ran away from home and a report was not made for a missing child

When you frustrate a girl child, she looks for a man to run to and when you frustrate a man he takes to drugs and stealing

I blame the step mum who couldn't accommodate her knowing that she is underage

Just look at how the stupid guy handed her over to another idiot

Including dowry and marriage certificates