HONORARYDEGREE: A man of igbo extraction based in Lagos is in need of a second wife.I am 41yrs gainfully employed .Interested person must be light skinned,slim,very beautiful,young not more than 25 years.Women outside Nigeria can also apply.If interested send whatsapp to +2347067866986
After you have been fine with the good ones when you were at the age of 30/40yrs At 41yrs, you decided to look for a younger age,
Olamila: Let me not bore you guys with my relationship history but this girl is my first love, i met her while i was in school 300l. Ever since then i have always been there for her despite even having a low budget as student because I'm not from a wealthy home, even her parents has times10 more than my family. But despite that i try all i could to maintain my role in the relationship because i don't fancy myself asking anything from my girlfriend.
Before anything else i need to tell little about my girlfriend, she is beautiful and nice. Almost every guy wants to woo her and all of that. Aside of that my girlfriend is very stingy to me, she can never allow her anything be in my possession, she doesn't have this idea that we could end up one day though she will always say something close to it only during fun time. But when she is at her leisures she will say how she fancy how husband to be and all of that which i no I'm not the person she could had been referring to. That not even my major issue.
She always been cruel when she asks me for anything and i refuse to give her maybe i don't have or just don't see needs to do so. I also discovered that most of our fun times comes immediately money enters my hand. Because i remember when i was in school my first 800k i made was finished and squandered with her, i haven't dated anyother or even have another girl since i met her. Because i try to make her feel comfortable because i no how many guys wish her to be with her. So secondly i made another 1m i squandered it with her too. But when this money just finish guyz i always see hell in her. This was the ups an downs i was experiencing till i finished my school with her. It was a shame for me upon the money i made in school i graduated with zero account looking for money for my law school. I wasn't fortunate to get any help so i sat back to Hustle. Then i was begging looking for helper to assist me when i saw one big opportunity that i need to take but it the opportunity required money as my account was bleeding zero. I begged everyone including my girlfriend but she told me she doesn't have even if she happened to get money for me i will pay her interest. This words alone made me cry, did you no instead of helping me out she told me I'm not the only one that needs help she also need to invest on her self which she was right i believe her. She later invested her money in one fraudulent sheme which she lost the money.
FastTrack to what is happening now, i later got help from someone who offered me 50k and my mum 20k making it 70k i picked myself up and started my Hustle again. Within three months i made 800k again. All this times i was giving her update about my business and earnings. Could you imagine she had the gut to ask for money despite her behaviors. Because of my nature i don't believe someone's bad nature should change my own nature so i still sent her some money because i also no she is broke.
Since then i just forgot about what she did and all of those stuffs because my money kept coming and i don't keep grudges i keep taking care of her. Now i had issue with my business i want to fix something up i was also telling her. this girl went ahead to start asking me to send her money. I was really disappointed i protested because i noticed when i have money i become very careless. It seems money covers so many things. I just need advice because i think it is time to let her go coz with her nature and type of girl it might end in tears for me. All she do is stay on social media, snap and post and look for who will send her money. No skills, i have begged her several times to look for something to be doing she refused and tells me how her dad won't allow her. She doesn't listen to me, always feel like boss when little money enter her hand. Guys i really love her but i think it is time to seek help because i will regret if this continues.
Do you really need me to tell you to drop that bug or you want to continue to be her life insurance
What do you mean by you love her, if you love someone who doesn't want to be useful in a relationship, do you still think it's love
Pull out and plan well, she doesn't have your interest at heart
This guy just pissed me of with this, why doing so in the presence of your own mother, what message do you want to pass to her and how does he want her to deal with it
Babanlagenius: Honestly I had an experience with a lady I dated for 3 years. We sang together, made love and we thought we would get married but one faithful day I told her I wanted to move on cause I was broke and I needed her to start a new relationship with someone that was willing to satisfy her needs and also ready to get married.
She abused me, cried and begged me to come back that she would wait no matter how long it takes. Albeit, I didn't change my mind.
Few months later, I noticed how I started missing her and always wanting to call her but pride wouldn't allow me. How did she cope without me? How did she forget about me so easily? Is it common for ladies to forget their exes so easily than men?
Please I want to know from you guys cause this is really crux to me.
Those who are truly in love doesn't move on automatically, you must go through the pains of hurt and broken heart
Those who doesn't love sincerely and from the dept of their hearts, always have a back up relationship in case it happens
Championxxx: I am 23 years old guy I ave been staying with my brother in Abuja for the past 8 years , I help him with his shop and his house , everything was fine till he got married his wife carry his two sisters to the house 24 and 19 years old , he said I should leave my room for them I didn’t argue I let them have the room while I am sleeping in the parlour , during lockdown this girl will wake and come to the parlour to watch tv to disturb my sleep , I complained to my brother he said I should keep calm he will speak to his wife which he never does and these girls kept disturbing me meanwhile the older girl stopped but the younger one carry on and I told her to stop disturbing me she has a phone she can press her phone in their room , she insulted me and told me to go and marry I got angry and ask her to leave she said I should do my worst and I landed a thunder slap in her face she held me by my neck screaming when my bro and wife came his wife started hitting me on my back I had to leave the house and went outside to cool down , my brother followed me and said I didn’t do well by hitting his wife sister he said I should go and apologise to his wife and sister , I refuse and asked him why he didn’t stop them when I was complaining bitterly about them but he waited for me to take matter to my own hand now he blamed me he said I should apologise which I did to his wife but not to the girl but that small girl was expecting me to knelt down and beg her , I told her she will wait for eternity.
Since the incidence his wife stopped talking to me , she ordered her sister’s to stop giving me food , the older girl used to dish food for me sometimes when she is not around but I told her to stop because I don’t want her to be in trouble with her sister and I didn’t report to my brother, it’s not a big deal for me I buy foods and eat at work and I only go home to sleep , 2 weeks ago I came home to see my mattress outside in the rain soaking wet , I was confused because it was supposed to be inside the girl room that’s where I keep it and they always bring it for me when is time for me to sleep so how come it was outside in the rain , I asked them they both denied they didn’t take it out and I suspected my brother wife or her youngest sister were the one who did it because they didn’t want me in the house anymore , I told my brother he said I should sleep on the sofa and in the morning I will get a new mattress in his shop but the wife get angry that I will damaged her sofa she wanted me to sleep on the floor with a wrapper but my brother refuse and I slept on the sofa , the next day I spoke with my brother I told him because I am not wanted in his house I don’t have peace of mind there , I want him to rent a self cont for me closer to the shop so It will be easier for me to get to work he refuse saying when he has a bigger house why would I go and leave alone , he said he provide all my needs and the rest the way his wife and sisters are treating me it doesn’t matter that he will never allow me and I told him I want to go back to the village , he said if I leave his house he will disown me and I will not longer be his brother , for 3 days now he stopped talking to me even if I greet him he won’t reply I feel hurt. I love my brother I want to serve him but I don’t want to stay in his house . I don’t know if I did something wrong by asking him to rent a room for me to be living alone? Am confuse please advice me
Sorry for everything that happened
Just make peace until you finally find your way out of that house honorably
Greetings to everyone in the house. Trust we are all enjoying the weekend. As regards to the above-mentioned subject. What is your take on this? Would u allow your partner have a close friend that is of opposite sex? Briefly give your reason (s) and state what you believe should be the ideal arrangement in a family setting.
I was listening to a program on the radio earlier this morning on Raypower FM before power outage. However, I have to put it on this platform out of curiosity to know how we feel about it. Personally, it is a capital NO for me. But of course, one of the 2 callers that called in before power cut termed it as insecurity as nothing seems to be wrong with the idea. Do you agree?
Mod pls help push this to the front page. Thanks.
There is no way people in marriage will stay away from being friends with the opposite sex
Unless as a woman you are a full time house wife and doesn't have any reason to go out beyond food market
It all depends on self discipline
If a woman is happily married and the husband loves her, she wouldn't have a good thinking towards having opposite friends as to keep them and talk adult talks which normally results to and end up dating
As for men, they have an oat to cheat by default, even when he is married to the most beautiful and loyal wife. So men's case is just a different thing
They go as far as approaching a pregnant woman and assure her that he will wait when she puts to he
In this topic, the problem here are the men, they can't just stop lusting on women, ring or no ring
Heathrow44: "never underestimate d power of a woman" is obvious u re a feminist and u protect women all over d world even if they committed a crime! In ur mind women are pure, innocent, can't do harm and should be shielded by d society cos they are women! Is obvious u are already compromised and can't be neutral on this!
atoleybaba: really This is why guys don't come and call out female scammers cos they are scared of being called names......cos he trusted her doesn't give her the right to scam him say no to fraud
You got it wrong, she has displayed an act of dishonesty, the best is to leave her, she will meet her match in another guy
Life is give and take, have you forgotten about karma
Heathrow44: Sharrap! He should go and get his money back ! Crime apologist cos she's a girl like u! Gerrara here jare! U won't tell him now to go and report to the police but If its a man now that duped u, u will knw d nearest police station!
For the simple fact that you are uncouth, I will not return insult to you
I'm in seriously emotional pain. I lost my sweet mother. The cold hands of death snatched her away from me. This pain is so raw and wont go away. I'm so devastated. I need someone to tell me, how do I cope? I feel so alone. I feel so naked without my mother. Does it mean I wont ever see my mother again? I keep wondering if she wont be feeling so cold in the morgue right now? Oh God! Why
I am her only daughter and the bond was so strong. She taught and showed me unconditional love. She always say her children were her greatest achievement. Mummy why didnt you wait for me to do all those things I promised you I will do for you? Why is death so cruel? I'm so shattered right now. I will so miss her dearly. Cant just stop shedding tears . I'm so sad and broken.
How can I cope? Someone please tell me. I cant stop looking at her photos on my phone. I cant stop playing the several short videos I made of her when she was alive. It feels so surreal to accept that my mum is gone! No one can ever ever take her place in my heart.
Continue to rest in peace mum.
Pls accept her death and wish her a happy rest
You have to be strong and she will not be happy seeing you in pains
Be courageous and thank God for giving you such a wonderful mother and also pray for you to live longer than her so that your children will enjoy you more
So I had an argument with my woman some months back about a wife and child bearing the man's first name or his surname.
So I'm pushing the question out here to know what you guys think.
An example...lets say my names are Emeka Frank Udo (Udo being my surname - which is also like my family name) Now I marry and my wife wanna bear Jessica Emeka rather than Jessica Udo (my kids likewise)
What do you guys think?
No curses please...thanks.
This is a very simple case
If you want your own name to move on in addition to your father surname
They can bear Frank-Udo
It's still a reflection of your name and your father's name
But if you want them to bear Frank alone, it will not really relate with the other cousins name
Because of the future, every one must have a root to be identified with
Kiddo01: Thank you very much. Mum is not an option since mum is also afraid of him, saying I should sought out my self that I should have been careful b4 now, knowing the kind of father I have
Is alright
Pls don't be offended, that man may not find it easy at his old age because he has successfully scared the people that will look after him
marvelck: Who get to decide the number of kids a couple should have, is it the husband or the wife?
Cos a lot of naija ladies tend to feel such a decision lies with the wife...
But why na!
It's actually both if them that determines the number of children to have
But the wife takes the upper decision considering the following reasons
Being pregnant is not an easy experience because of the health implications
Labour pains can be very terrible and her ability to withstand it further determines if she can continue counting or not
Providing for them is supposed to be the man's responsibility but where the man fails the woman stood at a certain number like two or three so that the workload will amit affect her ability to cater for them
If a woman can no longer carry pregancy comfortably, there is no need forcing her to have more children
Kiddo01: Hello fellow NL, thank God it's Friday. Happy weekend to everyone. I grew up in a family where my dad is seem to be *STINGY*, he finds it difficult to render financial assistance to us his children, except providing the the necessary feeding in the house. He sales bicycle spare parts and I happened to be the closest of all of the children. I removed few spare parts which I sold to some customers unknown to him, just to assist my self . In 2009,he sent me to the city to learn a trade where I lived with my boss , which to me seem to be near hell since I hardly feed. To cut the story short, the few goods I removed from His goods were what helped me each time I'm at home, I sell them within #500 to #1000 to help assist me in feeding and other minor expenses as an apprentice. Until I completed the work and left my boss in 2011, few goods (of not more than #3000) were left in my room . Just yesterday, my little nephew who had no knowledge of the goods was cleaning up the room and saw the goods and sent them to my dad. I don't know how to defend myself, because one of my brother told me he reported to him that I stole his goods. The age long relationship and reputation I've built with him is about to end . How do I explain the source of the goods, what will I tell him because he is waiting for me to come home and explain the owner of the goods found in my room
For God's sake, if your father was having a good relationship with you, tell him the truth that you are starving and uses it to buy food to it
Stop being afraid of him rather respect him
Tell him how you feel bad going hungry while he is alive
If you continue to fear your father, you will be too weak to handle a woman
Magnito74: Few weeks ago ,I came in contact with my cousin sister ,whom I have not seen in a while. Our friendship got stronger since then and it is becoming hard for us to leave each other. Our bodies could not hold it any longer and we had sex. our love just keeps on getting strong.. I know it's against culture. But what should I do?
Discuss it with eith your mum or your dad to find out if it's allowed
Respect culture and tradition, it was made for a reason
nusdog: I know I let my guards down. So there was this lady who I would call Miss T. She was introduced to me by her senior sister who I knew through a facebook group. Since I told her I needed a girl for a serious relationship, she said she will link me to her younger sister in Akungba, Ondo state.
So, fast forward to when I began speaking with Miss T, she agreed to come to see me in Lagos but complained of not having enough for transport. So due to the recommendation i got that she as a good lady I spent her N11, 000 as transport.
So after sending her this money, only for her to call me on the eve of the day she was supposed to come. that one of her relative was ill. So I just had this feeling that this was too coincidental to be true.
So I tried to cajole her to return the money since I sensed she was trying to play smart with me. She said no problem. That I can send my account number, which I did. After waiting for 3 days, I chatted her up on whatsapp that I'm yet to see any alert from her. Only for her to tell me she needs money for now.
So I said she is supposed to keep her promise of returning it, after which, she blocked her on whatsapp. I contacted her senior sister who linked us and her response too wasn't satisfactory to me.
So I'm really bitter with how the whole episode played, any chances of me recovering my money? just pained why someone will block me on top of my money. Please help.
You know what, consider that money gone
Stop all communication with her
Use your brain next time and search for a girl friend by yourself
Le124: I have a friend who has everything going on well for him,he provides for the house and take very good care of his wife,even go an extra miles sometimes to make sure his wife does not lack anything. But events turn around when the guy lost his job and things becomes very difficult for the man. But the wife his working, suddenly the wife stop cooking for the man and said the man should be doing his cooking, later on because of the covid 19 issue, there one of less down 2hrs can't go to K.G. the man took over too. And now for more than 4months now the man is the one cleaning the house, cooking, washing dishes, and bathing with feeding there son, and the wife will just go to work and come back eat from the man's cooked food and then go to bed and start pressing her fone. But she makes sure that there is food in the house and food for there son to eat. All effort to talk to her has proved abortive. Even her Pastor and some relations have step in and still no change she always capitalise on the fact that she goes out to prove food for the family. That her husband his not even appreciative enough. So she didn't see anything wrong in all what the husband is doing in the house Please what should my friend do? Please this is a serious issue. Please
It depends on their closeness and understanding
If she is doing it deliberately then the man must have hurt her In the past
If the man is not comfortable with it, let him get a job doing
Alexgman1: NAIRALANDERS, There is this very pretty fair lady who lives nearby and always comes to my house to jist, watch DSTV, sometimes play scrabble & chess. As we attend thesame church.
But she doesnt reject drink or food each time i ask or offer to entertain her. Infact she now enters my kitchen freely.
How do I politely stop or reduce her almost everyday visitation? (because of food).
This pandemic is hitting me hard & its not getting funny.
If you have never toast her or bed her
Seat her down in one of her numerous visits and tell her that things are hard and you did appreciate if she stops coming till further notice
If you can't, then get a girlfriend that her presence will scare her off
If you can't with the above two ideas
Start dating her since you itoo weak to talk to her
Evidence1000: My name is David. I'm a 24 year old young man. I'm in my final year in one of the universities in the south west. I'm addicted to gambling. Like, I can't just help it.
The craze for this thing started sometime last year. It has eaten deep into me that it now dictates my mood. The only time I can be genuinely happy is when I win money from bet9ja virtual. If I should loose, it makes me very sad to the extent that I see myself as a useless person.
I've gone to the extent of using my school fees to play virtual and that of my course mate that trusted me so much. Though, I was able to pay my course mate's fees without her knowing the truth, I'm unable to pay mine till now. I always have this mentality that I will win.
Whenever money enters my hand like this, no matter how little, it is to head straight to Bet9ja shop or online. The urge is usually very strong. Sometimes, it seems like there's a force pushing me to do it. Before this lock down, I accumulated a debt of over a hundred thousand naira in a Bet9ja shop in my school environment which I'm unable to pay till now. I know the owner of the shop would be waiting to pick me up with police when I resume. I don't know what to do.
I need help badly. I've prayed to God severally but it's as if nothing is happening. I've even promised God not to play Bet9ja again but I keep on seeing myself still playing it.
Right now as I'm typing this, I just came from a Bet9ja shop where I lost money. Money that is not even my own. Sometimes, I feel like taking my life so that everything will just end but if I remember the pain it would cause my mother, I'll just hold back.
Please for the people that were once addicted to gambling, how did you stop it? Is there any remedy for it because I'm in need of it badly?
I can't sleep at night anymore because I'm always thinking of debts that I've accumulated which has run into over 300,000. All thanks to Bet9ja virtual.
Someone advised me to get a job that would keep me busy so that I won't have time to play virtual but there are no jobs. I don't mind doing any, even if it is a menial job till school resumes.
Please I need your advice. Feel free to bash me because I deserve more than that even.
Please I'd appreciate if you can move this to front page.
Getting a job will worsen your case so far you are still addicted to it
Meet your mum and share it with her and she will assist you emotionally with payers to see you through
shegs2009: Firstly, i am the kind of person that thinks about death always i don't know if it the recent death of my friend that cause it or i am just paranoid, all i know is i have been thinking about it since my teenage years and it gives me sleepless nights until i was visited by an angel who explained it all to me (story for another day). So this morning i woke up remembering the dream i had last night of my dad, who died since 2009. In this dream we were together with my siblings n mum at home, according to the dream he woke up from death after one year and everything seem normal, he was eating and i was asking him of how death was like, he explained to me that he felt he was in a very deep sleep that he can't wake up from and everything he experienced was like a dream, but what i am really puzzle about was during our discussion he gave me his food and i ate especially the meat which i don't understand what it means. i know there are people here filled wit wisdom, i will like to know what you guys think. Note: i am not my father's favorite and he made it known when he was alive
The most important thing in you now is to separate you from death fears, dreams and communicating or relating with any dead person
You have to go more into religion so that you can be pulled out
Made4naijaceo: A video making the rounds on social media has shown the moment some SARS officers tried to arrest a lady in the presence of her boyfriend.
However, there was a quick plot twist after the boyfriend got down on his knees during the staged arrest, and pulled out a ring.
The lady who was crying uncontrollably thinking she was getting arrested over nothing, suddenly let out a wide smile as she hugged her boyfriend tightly.
As they hugged each other, the SARS officers and other eye witnesses cheered them on by clapping their hands for them, and screaming congratulations.
I've noticed these acen-like spots on my face since around 5 years ago. Then, I didn't pay much attention cause I was erroneously convinced into believing it was caused by eating too much oil. Well, I cut down my oil consumption totally and those spots remain there.
The shocking part is they exist only around my eyes. The remaining of my face is smooth except around my eyes.
I have used several ointments including Ytacan and Funbact- A, still no difference.
Recently, somebody prescribed an ointment called "RETIN-A" for me but before using it, I wish to seek advice from the good people of this forum.
Please, do I go ahead to buy the RETIN-A or there's a better option? I need advice, please.
I suggest you Google that Retina and see if it's useful for the purpose if what you need it for
But left for me, pls leave it, it's part of aging
Once you are close to 40yrs just over look it
It happened to my own brother and was left there like that
Some people have theirs lije black patches on the face
Family › Re: . by frozen70(f): 8:13pm On Jul 21, 2020
This is why guys don't come and call out female scammers cos they are scared of being called names......cos he trusted her doesn't give her the right to scam him say no to fraud 