Sck67: Am married with 3 children one is my step daughter 2 together with him the problem is my husband never listen or take my advice he treat me like his daughter and not his wife he always shut me off the problem we are having is he like wearing this short inside the house he doesn’t go out with it in the compound but for me the short is very inappropriate to wear where theirs children around because you could see his penis shape and he don’t wear pant underneath and his daughter is 9, our first son 3 and baby girl a year and 9 months and when I talk it will cause problem that he has threaten to send me packing and another problem he knows that we are living in room and parlour so the baby sleep in our room he like walking naked in the room when the baby is watching even sleep naked he say baby is too much she don’t know anything and i have to sleep between him and the baby to avoid my baby to see his penis and I have beg him to wear a short anytime we are in bed anothe problem so since the 2 big children went on vacation to my MIL and only the small one remaining with us , he starts staying naked I had to take my baby outside to play so one rainy afternoon he was naked and my baby was playing with me in the room he entered the room naked I shouted at him out of anger I called him a witch and he beat me very badly and warn me not to talk to him like that again. I am sick and tired I want to leave him . He is a cobbler and I sell foods on the roadside , he doesn’t contribute anything and i pays all the bills. is this a normal behaviour for a grown up man , father and husband to be behaving around the house ?
What kind of madness is that
Well get him beautiful boxers and let him have them
Tease him the one you want him to wear anytime he wants to make love to you that it's going to be the signal for love time
Show him the one yo wear when he is angry so that you can know his mood
Any time he goes naked, wear him your favourite and tell him it's your favourite
As for the upkeep discuss with him after love making that you want him to be carrying his responsibilities so that the crown of blessings will not depart from him
You see, dome mad acts or display can only be handled with soft hand if not, it will escalate
Climatology100: I created a new moniker just to conceal my identity as I'm very frequent on travel and Autos sections. I'm worried and I need advice on the next step to take. I dated my ex right from our secondary school days, I was in JS3 while she was in JS2 and our relationship span till I finished my studies in university level though she couldn't proceed to the Uni as she insisted on doing business, she was so successful in her business that she built her own house before she attain the age of 26 albeit in my name(This I found out later while using her laptop as she later admit to it) Things were moving good and steady between us, my parents and siblings know her as she often came over to my parents house, I met with his father once and the respect was mutual. All this while, we never engage in sex until my third year in Uni, she's who she said she is, A virgin as I disflowered her then but things went side ways between us when I was elected as the president of one of the associations in school, she created this sense of imaginary rivals in every ladies she saw with me despite assuring her I'm not cheating on her. In the year 2014,she became pregnant while I was in 400level though I told her I'm not ready for pregnancy as my head was full with so many things then, my CGPA dropped, having issues with my mother as everything was just not positive at that moment as I need to clear my head and pregnancy issue is just not what I need.Well, she told me she will keep it and take care of all the bills involved but I kept a distance from her and virtually from everyone back then. My Dad eventually found out and he called and assured her of his support but she had a miscarriage when she was 7months into it, believe me as I was totally devastated when she called me around 1am to tell me as I and my Dad supported her in every ways possible, I stayed with her for 2weeks before I traveled back home(we lived in different state) 2months before I went for my service year, we had an unprotected sex and it was so emotional that I know there's more to it but I couldn't just concentrate when she asked me if I'm ready for marriage, I simply told her "I'm going for my service, I will be back for you" I never knew she read a lot of meanings to my statement. I have one crazy idea of writing down the dates if I have sex with ladies(This I learnt from my Dad) during my service year, I lost contact with her as all efforts to trace her wasn't forthcoming but I received the shocker of my life when her sister posted her wedding pictures on Instagram( I haven't meet her as she too don't know how I look like as I don't do pictures, I have a phobia for taking shots with camera but we do communicate on phone) The following month, another pictures on FB aibelt a new account by my ex thanking God for safe delivery of her baby girl,i quickly contacted her and we exchanged contacts but I asked her why the sudden development, her response was shocking, she told me "She can't wait for me as she's not educated but I'm, that I'm ladies man and she can't do rivals". 2years pass and I stumble on the baby girl pictures on FB and the resemblance is just out of the world, I quickly checked my diary and it correspond with the month she was born as in the date we had sex to her month of delivery, I contacted her to verify but she kept mute but on our consecutive discussions she always plead with me not to speak about it, she never deny nor agree to it. I screenshots the pictures of the baby girl to my sister as I plan to travel down south to do DNA and if possible take responsibility of her but she told me to let her be that the right thing will be done at the right time by my ex. Lately, I have being having a series of dreams as I keep seeing the girl trying to extend her hands to me but there's this barrier between us. I called my ex yesterday to plead to her to tell me if I'm the father of the girl but she still repeat the same thing, pleading to me to let her go and not to talk about the girl, she even told me the girl is what keep her going emotionally everytime she think about me. She's 5years now and everytime I see her pictures on FB or Instagram I always see myself in her. Should I let her be without playing my role in her life or should I act with force to reclaim her? Advice and Insults are allow.
Hmmmm, this one pass frozen
Well, two things are involved
If you take your child through DNA she looses her marriage, are you willing to marry her
If you leave your child with them, they claim ownership and you feel bad having your child living with a father that he is not
vicmoore131: The issue of who is responsible for the moral decadence in the society today, especially among youths, is indeed difficult to say. A lot of people believe parents are to blame, while others have apportioned blame to teachers. I however wish to say that from the way I look at it, I have every reason to believe that moral decadence among our children, has its roots in parents. In the first place, parents have failed in their duty to bring up the child the way he should, in utter disregard of the Biblical injunction that they should train a child the way he should, so that when he is old, he won’t depart from it. Parents are the child’s first teachers. They, therefore, have a lot to do in training the child before he joins the formal school. But the economic situation in the country today, has made most parents abandon their duty in pursuit of material wealth.
Besides, house helps and maids have now assumed the role of parents. Very early in the morning, both parents leave for work, leaving the child to the care of the house helps. By the time they return in the night, the child has already gone to bed. The child will still be asleep by the time his parents will go out in the morning. When then do parents stay with the child to train him and correct him? Some parents are known to support the child when he goes wrong. Some parents go to the extent of harassing teachers for flogging the child at school. This encourages the child to do even worse things. At home, the child does bad things and the parents support him, so that he will not take offence. Some do not care to flog the child who has done something wrong, so that he won’t die, thereby sparing the rod and spoiling the child. This is as it should be.
Some parents are known to have perpetrated so many immoral things to the glare of the child, forgetting that the child sees his parents as a mirror and copies virtually all they do. When such immoral things as stealing, insult, fornication, bribery and others are done in the present of the child, how then can anyone, especially, the parents turn round to punish him, when he copies these? Though teachers cannot be totally absolved from the blame of youth immorality, parents should not forget that the child only spends about six hours at school. The rest of the time is spent at home. Sometimes, teachers fear to punish the child when they remember that his parents may organize an offensive against them. These days, teachers do their best to train the child but they fail because the child has already imbibed so much immorality from home, that the teacher can’t change him.
Parents encourage immorality among their wards by not querying them when they return late in the night or when they bring home expensive materials as gifts. This is common among girls, who sometimes, bring home boyfriends whom the parents receive warmly. Most mothers even make use of those gifts with their daughters. The boys also do this. Some parents fail to look into the company the children keep. All these are roads leading to immorality. I am convinced beyond doubts that parents are to blame for moral decadence among youths, not teachers because, as earlier mentioned, parents fail in their duty of building the child and charting a good moral path for him in these early ages. At these pre-school ages, his mind is blank and if the mind is filled with immorality, the child grows with it and it will be very difficult to correct him afterwards.
Samuels90: He is really dangerous! good he knows it is a bad thing now. Maybe it is not intentional his environment and some circumstances made him begin to act this way, Maybe. Hope he finds help somehow
Yeah Am glad he has realised that he is not acting like a normal guy
kay29000: A man will always find young girls to sleep with easily and willingly...as long has he has money. Girls want money...the men want to young and fresh ladies. Equation balance.
We already know that they are parasite to each other
TheOdd1sOut: I spent the whole of today indoors. The one friend I have in this world wasn't around for like 3 months so I was virtually alone. No plans for weekend.
I should I have called my bae? My bae changed base early last year and distance has taken its toll. A guyman of mine then told.me that she has found another boo where she is. I realized that my turn with her was over so I just freed her.
Here I am, I haven't asked a girl out since 2016, the latest gf of mine who left me has been with me for 3 years... and I don't know what to do. I just wanked and I am tired of it all. No friends and no bae.
I.am considering that a change of location might help me. What do you guys propose?
Is your location the problem or the people on your location or just you as a person
Learn to socialise with people, you have to start from there
You can't form a forest, it's not possible
By the time you marry, you will find it difficult to accommodate your inlaws
When you start work, you will find it difficult to associate with your colleagues and they are the one to do your appraisal for promotion
Start now and if you have the money to relocate, pls do as you will find yourself in a new environment with new people to Interact with
Scootoo: There is this particular family in our street that love my family and we love them too,the parents of the family takes me and my siblings as thier children and vise versa. The relationship between both families started when they relocated to our street (thier house)last year I was in school then,I travelled home to celebrate the Ramadan festival with my family when I noticed this strange faces coming to our house freely my siblings also go to thier house anyhow I asked my mom she said that is our new family friend, the parents of the family came to greet me for my arrival prayed and said when my siblings said they have brother who is in school they had all been longing to see me, On Eid day they sent me drinks and food and the relationship keep growing stronger. Late last year after the painful death of my mom I thought the relationship between the family will at least reduce but instead it continues to grow stronger,the family had four beautiful children, first born is a guy 21, second is a girl 19, third a girl 16, fourth a girl 10. The second born 19 is black and very beautiful with pointed nose, recently in this lockdown I noticed she's inlove with me and she has been developing this feeling since the day she saw me, it will take forever if I should start telling you guys how I found out,I studied her to be very intelligent and straight forward in her behavior. Very pretty embellished with brain that's what arouses me and I started developing feelings for her too,I don't know if this relationship is going to work because we are too close,her mom loves me alot though she noticed her daughter behavior towards is different I think she knows her daughter loves me,her dad respect me gidi gan,I know if I ask her out she'll accept but I'm afraid I don't want our relationship to affect both families relationship,even my dad noticed her feelings for me but he kept mute, some of my friends knows about it and they ask me if I love her and I said yes, some told me to ask her out some said it will affect both families relationship I should continue if I can face the consequences. Here is my question my NL famz should i forgo the relationship or proceed by asking her out. I'm 23
I am thinking of how you are going to manage this relationship if and when it develops to live affairs
Considering they are good family friends
She is in her late teens
What if the family gets to know that you are dating her and the relationship just ended like that
How will you feel or face them and how will you expect them to trust you and your family again
The worst is that you are all in the same street
I will advise you play the duty if a big brother, ask her about further details on her education plan
Advice her I how to be a woman and keep her self
Scold her when she goes wrong or you see her in the mist of boys or see her hanging with boys
It's better for you to be her watch dog than for you to devour her
Monfeels: I want to share my problem with you guys in the hopes that maybe I'll get some good advice or at least some insight into my problem.
When people first meet me their impression of me is that I'm good looking, cool and intelligent. Most girls usually assume that I have a girlfriend or a legion of side chicks that I Bleep whenever I want to.
The truth about me is that I've never been in a proper relationship with another woman before. All I've had is sexual partners that I stop talking to after I have sex with them, and girls I get intimate with just to control them and get them to fulfil my desire of having a female to own, please me and do my biding, and then I get bored of them and cease contact and move on like I never knew them.
The reason for this behavior is that I don't possess the emotional resources needed to engage in a healthy relationship with another human being. I have no empathy and I usually feel no guilt or remorse for my actions. It's impossible for me to care genuinely for another person. I don't feel people's pain or suffering and I'm not moved by the death of family members or friends. I simply do not care for any other person but myself. I've been this way for a very long time. I lack the ability to maintain relationships with people hence why I lose friends often. Relationships are usually a means to an end for me and when that end is met, I become irritated by the person I've gotten close to.
Despite the fact that I don't see the point in relationships, I still find that I get jealous of couples in healthy relationships. It's not like I want to experience what they experience, just that I am envious of the fact that they are participating in something I can't participate in.
When I find a girl that I want to get close to, I'm usually consumed with jealousy over her previous relationships, and over any current relationship she has with any member of the opposite sex, even if it's merely platonic. All I want is for her to devote all her time to me and shower me with attention and love. The problem with all this is that I don't want to reciprocate this behavior. In fact the idea of devoting attention to, and showering affection on someone else irritates me. It's all pointless, but I enjoy when it's done to me.
Another weird side to all this is that I don't just want to control the girl, I also enjoy making her feel bad, but in a way that makes her crave for me more. I enjoy poking holes in herself esteem, making her second guess the presumably good qualities she thought she possesed, making her not feel wanted by me, and making her do more to please me.
I don't love women, I only become obsessed with them. Obsessed to the point that I'm constantly tortured by thoughts of them being sexual with another guy especially when it's someone she has dated before. I want her all to myself and even if she had sex with someone before I met her or before we became close, I am filled with anger and jealousy whenever the thought crosses my mind, and I want to punish her for that. It's like I want to erase her past and replace it with me. I want to be all she's ever had. I don't want anyone else in her life and I don't want anyone else in her past.
All this must sound crazy to you guys but this is my reality and it's eating me up. I need advice.
Am hearing this from a human being for the first time
For the fact that you dont have feelings for both the living and the dead makes you a dangerous species to be with
Seek the face of God first
Then you will gradually appreciate what he created
PrecioussB: Why is it that older men love to pursue Young girls?
Especially old African men. It is disgusting how they are interested in girls that are old enough to be their daughter.
I have had a lot of old and successful guys ask me out but I always say no thanks.
It is scary, these perverts need to find women their own age. Has this happen to anyone?
When men gets older and have the money, they go for younger ones, who are energetic
Then need them to satisfy their selfish interests but I don't have problems with the men who have been chasing anything under the skirt since their adult hood
My problems are with the young girls who thinks they are rocking life with such men
In as much as those older men cums inside them, they will be fading out gradually, before you know it, they have withered away like flowers then, they will start looking for their mates
By that time their male mates have gotten hooked to the ones that waited for them
If our girls says no to them, they will stick to their wives or look for their age mates
drealdude: @frozen70 You just analysed exactly the issue at hand. If they are treating us like this now, what will happen when as you said, God forbid. I hav tried making him see the truth about them, he usually say we keep our mothers family close while demonising his own,(when every parent take their children first above all others) the thing they pain me nor be small and they capitalise on that, smiling at him and try to influence him about the fmly house
You see, most father's family members are case
You don't know if your dad was hypnosised
Your dad may not be doing it with clear eyes
They want to use your dad to establish their own family, train their children then dump him lije an empty sack
Just look for one among your uncles that you think is better than the rest and start getting close to him
With time, you will understand the games and the role each of them are playing
As for you dad, enough has been said, team up with mum and siblings to form a team that you guys will have a strong bond
Leave your dad let him be playing with those that will deal with him
Never you confront them, so that they won't deal with you.
A child doesn't confront his kinsmen where the father is still alive
harmonyxxc: MY FIRST LOVE JUST BROKE UP WITH ME The love of my life and my first love just broke up with me. We were together for over a year and this pain is unbearable. How do I cope? There is nothing i have not done, i pleaded asking her to give me a second chance, but it seems i was talking to deaf ears So i decided to pour out my feelings using a song title #HELPLESSY telling her how much i missed her... I love her so much it hurt. Follow links below to stream and download music video
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You will definitely cope its a matter of time and it will help you to be strong for subsequent ones
Durentt: To kill sexual urges completely. I am ready To die but i dont want To commit suicide, so i dont want To die from this. I just sex urges out forever. Woukd this work? No jokes please
Just inject both of them and everything will be alright
drealdude: Good morning All, i will be brief, my Dad hail from south AS his son, i have noticed that my dad family members are always conniving against our interest and treating us in such a way that suggest they had an agreement to fustrate us. what is worse is that my dad is oblivious of their plan and treating them nicely like brothers(2)while they plan behind him.
There is an undercurrent of strong hatred towards us and they act in stiff competition against us even when we try to act as one family towards them. they try to show off / compete in terms of who have more money, whose children is better off etc.
i suspect they meet to plan against us. Whenever we go to family events that brings family people together, there is subtle nuance and body language that suggest strong hatred but faking smile at your face.
My questions are
should i go all out against them, tell them to their face / confront them as enemy and tell them stay clear？
is the paternal family important in events like woman marriage(sibling) becos i know they likely shun？
What should be the best and wise way to act in terms of future？
WILL STRONGLY APPRECIATE ALL ADVISE
I think you are too junior to confront them
I don't know your age
You people should talk to your father to fight for a place for you guys
Your father is still alive and they are treating you like this, if he's gone what happens
You and your siblings should seat that man down and talk sense to him over his family
Let him know that whatever good he is doing for them a d neglecting you people is like pouring water on moulded block, it will suck it and still remains dry
Ybaby: Find her a job 2 hours away from home. She is a reflection of your choice so manage the situation. You wanted someone you can control. You have it!
You are very funny
You see when they want women that must be under their control without challenges, they don't know that it comes with a price tag
Family › Re: My Husband Never Listen To Anything I Say by frozen70(f): 4:33pm On May 12, 2020
