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HazardMan:
Check my other thread for full understanding biko. She left me

She left you with your pregnancy

Your child needs your care

Simple

Ooo nwagi

bamidelee:
Frozen70 differs from those devil feminists we have here. She experienced, matured, I think elderly too. Not those ones whose mama dey sell roasted corn besides road and forming biz gez on NL.
Dear, more wisdom to you.

Lol, my dear, the premature one's here lacks wisdom and experience

They think it's easy as they say it until it happens to them directly

I may look like a feminist but I differ when it comes to sound judgement

I hate pretence and unnecessary covering of bad characters from both sexes

Dididrumz:
Wrong advice if you ask me.

Instead of advising him to get another female friend to confide in, it is better to tell him to divorce first. Because adding another woman to the picture at this stage will just increase the trouble for him.

So all the men that have side chics increased the trouble in their lives

Try and be in his position and see if its a rocket science to get divorce

uboma:
You are so kind to give the Op time to prove that she is genuinely in need.

Let's hope that she does not disappoint us....

My dear, she goofed herself

All I requested for should be within the house

It was when she requested for my personal number that I knew that she will fail my questions

Honestly I was ready to help

Gloriouscall:
Please can you drop your number so i can send it because am having issues uploading them right now

I know when to drop my number but do the needful here because this is where it started

Don't send them in bulks but in bits

Lekan239:
My parents got married 27years ago, since then it has been hell for my mom. It's as if my mom was forced on him or did the love just seize to exit, this I need advice on, from my brothers and sisters here on what to do next.

It all began in 1993, two years later I was born (1995), then we reside in Lagos but my dad later moved to pH in search of greener pastures. He only comes back home (Lagos) once in a while. My mom tried all her best to cater for her kids during all those period with no help or whatsoever coming from my Dad. It wasn't easy at all.

Fast forward to early 2003, my dad came visiting after two years without hearing from him and then my mom decided we are going with him to pH, he opposed but my mom Insisted. To cut the long story short, after we get to pH we found out my dad was living carelessly, womanizing, his social life is zero because he doesn't drink or smoke but he lavished all his money outside and Care less about his family.

My mom strived and engaged in little business which we managed to survive on. My dad only comes home when he is Short of money and acted low and submissive but as soon as he got some money, he changed immediately.

So 2010 I left pH to the village, was writing waec, looking for admission and so on, later going to lag to hustle around 2013 as I'm the one to foot my education expenses.

2015 I gained admission in a polytechnic, after my OND in 2017 I went back to lag to begin the hustle as I have to further my education, all this period I did not visit my family in Port Harcourt. I went back for HND in 2018 but had to withdraw because of lack of funds, I went back again in 2019 because a family member advised he will foot the bills which he later didn't do.

So because of this covid 19 I visited my parents in pH. My mom was very ill, she can't move nor stand and she has been the one taking care of the family, my father inclusive. My father has been a lazy man who depends solely on his wife for survival. He does not work, he does not stay at home with his sick wife. 6am he will enter the kitchen and eat any food he finds he won't even ask if four of his kids and my mom will eat. He will go and sit down in people's shops around the streets discussing with people's wife's. 10am he will be back home, straight to the kitchen to check if there's any food if my mom had drop money for us to prepare food, he will eat it without even talking to anybody, in fact he owns the kitchen now. He repeats same 2pm, 5pm and night meal also. I'm just so angry right now I don't even know what I am typing again.

After seeing all this behavior i advised my mother to give him some space, she gave birth to four children for him and three of us can survive on our own as we are no longer kids, but she won't obliged it's just as if maybe she is okay with suffering.

Today this morning, my dad did the most outrageous thing, he woke up and started ranting, saying does my mom think he is not going to be rich later, and he won't stay here forever. I got the message he was passing that he is going to leave my Mom if he stumbles upon some money. And I exactly told my mom this statement yesternight too.

Please you guys should advise me on what to do because at this junction, it hurts me a lot having the knowledge that my mom is with man who doesnt care or love her, even at her sick bed, he never for once visited the doctor nor the man of God taking care of my Mom.

I don't want to talk much when it involves a stupid and clueless man

I will advise you take your mother out of their, if she can come down to Lagos with you and go to general hospital, if you ha e a room for your accommodation

She is going through depression and it's killing her slowly

She must have developed BP as that's always the case

As for your dad, he lost his bearing from day one and pride will not allow him to get settled

Leave your father to swim in the river he made for himself

Take care of your mother for now

I don't want her to die under this suffering without eating the fruits of her labour

zexy2030:
what are the differences, she bears the baby and I take the baby from her once he is 5, so its a long term investment.

And you think a woman will bear a child for you and give the child to you after 5/6 years



You better have a girl friend, pregnant her and make baby with her, then move on to get another one and same and on and on since you like children but don't want to keep their mothers

When you get old you will tell me how you will manage your life alone

HazardMan:
About 2weeks ago i had a problem on how to move on without thinking about my ex-girlfriend who is pregnant and with two other children(twins) as well. I cherished her so much but she treated me bad.
I created a thread here on nairaland seeking for advice on what to do. Trust nairalanders na, my factory memory was on reset in no time.
Now the problem i'm having is that she is haunting my dreams. I see the both of us still having affairs in my dream almost every night and it's slowly bringing back the old memories i have tried so hard to forget following the orders given to me here on nairaland by other members.
Please what do i do as this is no longer something physical and out of my control.
No insults please as this is no longer my fault

Some one you pregnanted and left her, what do you expect

She provoked you that was why you left her, that means you don't even care about her pregnancy

Well you didn't state exactly what she did to you and the reason why you couldn't forgive her

You have to explain to us what happened

Meanwhile, she will keep appearing in your dreams as far as she is having your baby

In the interim be giving her allowance to take care of her

Pregnancy can be very demanding and having money at had will make it lots easier for her

That child in her womb needs you to nourish him or her by providing for the mum to feed well and the rest

Tell us the provocation

AustinX:
Hello guys , ma girl have been behaving strange lately so I decided to buy another sim yesterday, I chatted her on whatsapp claiming to be someone who got her contacf from her last year.

So from there on we started chatting , at this point I was chatting to be Uchanna and she was following up accatdingly. I also asked her if she is in a relationship she said yes , so where is the lucky guy from she said she dont want to talk about it. But she spent hours chatting with the so called uchanna. Meanwhile when I chat her with my real contact she talks hours to reply, she always claim she is watching status.



Now I have succeeded in asking to out for dinner tomorrow and she has agreed. So said she is broke n I have agreed to give her son money.


Am feeling sad now cos I love this girl ans we have been dating for almost a year now, I have supported her in everywhere I cant believe she will do this to me.

Am thinking if I should use one of my friends but feeling ashamed cos they know us to be two love birds.

Pls guys an advice from you will go a long way.

Don't do things that your conscience will be disturbing you

That same time you fixed for a date, fix it for her so thst both of you will meet and let her know that you are the one who has been chatting with her

That you wanted to know how reliable she could be

If really she is broke, give her some cash if you have

Women can fall victims to any man if not having a strong will

If you make your girlfriend happy, she will always be there for you and will not accept any advances from another guy because she will a bird in hand that worths more than two in the bush

bestabigaelever:
Thank you
Was looking for traffic

Lol
OK

Try going to their head office at Alausa Ikeja pls

Being a man's is not having a dick

It's the ability to have a firm grip on your family and what it entails is living up to expectations and protecting your family from your fathers family

Hollywayglobal:
Hmm
Mad women sef dey marry

Stop it, you don't know the genesis of the problems

If you think the woman is mad

Then the man has already gone senile that's why he can't hold up his family

For a woman to chase a man out of the home, that man must have been a liability

Inferno001:
You did wrong by agreeing to go buy bread that late in the first place...

That's true

Allsingles:
Most marriage is really suffering, sometimes is caused by the hands the man who can better refer to as the husband is wise enough to handle the challenges facing their marriage.

Giving your family too much chance to control your wife or have a final saying in your marriage can destroy your marriage.
As a man, your sister shouldn't come to your house to remote you, disrespect your wife, and put emotional distress in your marriage.

There should be a boundary, you can never marry your sister. There should be a limit on how your sister should express herself in your marriage.

If you are the husband of this woman, what will be your next action?

She took this to my Facebook group page to seek for advice.

"Please judge me if am wrong. My
husband younger sister is a rude
type. She can talk to anybody
Anyhow. It happens that she came
yesterday evening without notifying her brother. She came
around 8:30 pm.

And we have eaten
night food before she came. My
husband asks her what did she care
to eat because there is no more
soup at home and she said bread. My husband gives her money to go
and get the bread. She told my
husband to send me to buy the bread because
she is so tried to go out.

My husband came to the bedroom to send
me to buy the bread for her. With annoyances, I went to buy the bread. Ma/sir you
can't believe my sister in law said
the bread is not neat that I
should return it. I angrily put the
bread on the table and went back
to the bedroom. You can't imagine my husband came angrily to tell me to
return the bread which I refused to
go.

The next thing I had is dirty
slap on my precious face. I just
went to sitting room angrily to
return the hot slap on her sister's face, my husband beat the hell out of
me yesterday.

I pushed both my
husband and his sister outside and
I locked the door at the back.
They slept outside. Please mum
and dad please judge me if I did anything wrong. Because am
going to court tomorrow to end
the marriage.
Am tired of their
madness
...
https://alldevots..com/2020/05/21-secret-ways-any-woman-can-use-to-win.html?m=1

Anger can lead to madness in every one if not controlled
You and your husband must have been having issues up on issues and this thing that happened is as a result of unending issues

Well I will not blame you for slapping your sister inlaw, she must have need disrespecting you also because your husband slapped you but because you want her to feel the pains of what your husband did to you and you want your husband to know that you have endured enough

Your husband lacks to protect you before his family and such men have nothing to offer in marriage

Am quite sure you pay the rent and other stuff and probably he doesn't appreciate you

Well, going to court is nit a rocket science

You guys can separate and think over your marriage if it worth it

As for your husband, I don't see what is wrong if he had gone to get the bread himself and still return it back as his sister refused to eat it

Then he will tell me is that is respect or insult

There is nothing wrong in your inlaws visiting your home

But respect should not be thrown to the dogs all in the name of being good

Every one should respect himself or her self in every family settings

Juliusmomoh:
Romance section is not a place advertize

Pls allow him things are difficult, let him see if he can make ends meet

Tissaia:
Raising fake alarm Buhari will not do that.
The best president ever

Keep deceiving and disappointing yourself

It's already part of you

arinze198:
Source: https://pmexpressng.com/i-was-a-painter-but-robbery-paid-better-suspect-confesses/

I am yet to understand how this works

He took the phone and transferred 230k from the account before the woman comes out

So he knows the bank the woman uses and knows her pin number

This PM news, I no dey trust am

vertueptime:
I could imagine without Bua and dangotes contributions, its a shame buhari has never contributed personnally anything in his entire years in nigeria, he has never been poor just stingy, may God grant us wealth that will be benefitial to others

A stingy man never cares for others welfare because if he cares he will be asked to contribute

We already knows that we are going to have another shutdown not lockdown

So every one should go to market and restock their homes

Because 14days from now we will see the rising corona infection after incubation

Elyse:
Yes. I've been monitoring him closely now. He becomes suspiciously quiet when he wants to poop so I personally take him to his potty and he will cry until he's done. Can you imagine??

Lol

That's it

They have so many mischievous things to do, your ability to monitor them is the antidotes

Weldone

Keep doing it until he stops crying whenever he wants to poop

Ogbeniyoung4:
Hello Nairalanders, I need help, I need advice, before I left for the United Kingdom in 2017, I got a young lady pregnant, I accepted the pregnancy with all my heart because I do not want the lady to be put to shame, so her parent asked to see me because my parents are late.
After I got to their house, her father was trying to impose a court marriage on me which I felt reluctant about, not that I do not want to do it but due to the emphasis, I wanted to watch the Type of family she’s from.
Nairalanders, she has the worst parent especially her mother, her father depends his life on his widowed concubine, do you know her mother lied to her husband that I’m suffering her daughter, the man came around with his concubine to pick up his daughter and my son.
She’s been collecting money from me and lying to people and her parent that I’m not contributing to child support.
Recently I heard she’s now sleeping around, she’s now the talk of the area, sleeping with married men, her mother is even advising her to take contraceptives, that she shouldn’t use the family planning pill or I don’t know what it’s called anymore because it’s affecting her mentrual whatever.
Her mother is doing charms for her to keep snatching married men, I heard she’s even using her body to beg guys that does charms, in return for money, people’s wife are now calling her to leave their husbands alone because of her mother’s greediness.
Nairalanders, this was the same thing that happened to her late sister, only that, that one doesn’t have a child, she was used because of the mother’s greediness.
Now I’m worried about my son he’s 3 years old and I hope he doesn’t learn all these bad things, I’m really worried about him, and I was told he won’t be released to me until he’s 7 or 10 legally.
Please I need advice, before you insult me, I blamed myself for getting her pregnant.
I don’t care if she’s been used for ritual, since she’s now going on tour from ikorodu to ilorin to anywhere, she doesn’t look after the boy anymore.
Thanks nairalanders, I hope you post this to know your follower’s opinion.
NB: The person who told me all these is a rightful source, I’ve been a good person to the whole of them, he just felt what they doing to me isn’t right.

It may not be easy for you to have that child now unless his mother decides to release him to you

So find out where he school's and pay his school fees directly to the school since she collects money and denied all then fix an amount to give her every month

Leave her to live her life to the fullest and she will sort herself at the appropriate time

Your son may end up in different hands with people of mischievous characters but there is nothing you can do about it

One day the child will look for you

You want to trouble yourself searching for someone that the family doesn't care of his way about

Why not meet the father's family if you think it's a must let them give you the blessings on behalf of her father

Has he been their fit the daughter and suddenly disappeared or he has been their all her life and you want to delay your marriage because of an invisible person

Anyways its your choice

[quote author=Gloriouscall post=89180965][/quote]I will request for pictures, receipts, documents and any other prove for me to help you

If you are sure of your claims, I will give you an accommodation and capital to start something

How old are you ❓

What year did you marry and your marriage certificate ❓

What year did your husband died and his death certificate ❓

How old are your children ❓

Where were they born and their genders and ages

What school do they attend ❓

What were you doing for a living before the demise of your husband ❓

What is your current surname and what was your maiden name before marriage ❓

Pls nairaland bear me witness if you give me answers in less than 24hrs I will surprise you

If she can give me picture prove of these questions and proper answers I will do what I have promise

NB
Don't tell me he did only traditional marriage, so no marriage certificate

Don't tell me that you gave birth in a traditional home so it wasn't recorded

Don't tell me your children doesn't go to school so no school fees receipt or report card

Don't tell me you did not finish WAEC so you don't have WAEC certificate

Because of all these scammers, I need to separate chaf from wheat

Elyse:
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I would spare you all details..

I have a 3yr old cousin. He's adorable and smart, but he has this annoying habit which he started ever since his mother gave birth to another baby. He enjoys pooping on the bed.

He is potty trained and goes to pee by himself, but when he wants to poo, he either sneaks into my room or his parents room and poops right in the middle of the bed( he's very specific about that).

His Mother has scolded and beaten him severally but he hasn't dropped the habit yet. And it's becoming worrisome.

I would love to think it's his own way of seeking attention from his mother but she doesn't neglect him in any way.

How can we get him to stop this habit Please?

He is too small to be behaving weird

Next time he does that, spank him very very well

Hence fort let him always stay within reach of the eyes, when he gets so depressed he will be forced to locate the toilet or his potty

Monitor him for one month he myst not stay alone in any room that has bed

Kape:
How do I even start narrating this my ordeal?
What would you do if you find this on your wife's phone from another guy "i wish you would spend the rest of your life with me", i love you and i will do anything to be with you" and she replied with "i love you more".
This is a girl you married a virgin, young and innocent no ex drama, intelligent and beautiful.

So this is a girl i had always thought i was being unfair to her and always feel i don't deserve her because I've not been entirely faithful, as a man with some change, ladies will always come for you and somehow you can't reject all plus my job does not permit me to be home always. I trust her to a fault and she's an angel in my sight and can do no wrong due to the way i met her and how she carries herself, also a good wife and mother to my kids.

My problem now is, the guy is younger than me, he could be the same age with my wife or a little younger,has some money(all these oil guys) and they are somehow too attached emotionally which makes me feel theirs is beyond the sex.

I always thought as a sharp guy, i have everything under control but i must confess, I'm running mad and don't even know how to handle this like this girl has been playing me all these while or what?

A part of me is asking me to forgive her and assume i wasn't there enough for her emotionally, a part is feeling like i deserve the payback but honestly the African man in me is feeling it's total bullshit for her to cheat on me and in turn act like she's the best thing ever, call me hypocrite, it is what it is, a woman is meant to be forever faithful moreover she is not even aware of anything i did.

What goes around comes around

You have been cheating on her and she is now cheating on you

If it hurts you then stop cheating on her, seat her down and find out what made her to start cheating

Work on her complains

Besides, what makes you think she doesn't know that you are cheating on her

Well the Job of a man is to make sure she doesn't need another man

soulbroken761:
I'm extremely introverted. It has always affected my relationships with people; family, colleagues, and lovers. I've not been in a real relationship before because of my communication issues. So I thought at 24 years, I need to learn how to be in relationship if I get a good guy. My female classmates are married or engaged and I felt left behind
I met my guy and started staying days in his house at a go. I thought it was for the best. He is a good guy even though very broke. Honestly I put myself in this situation.
We would make out but because I was a virgin, coupled with the fact that I have extremely low sex drive, I always told him to stop when it gets to that point. Even his finger hurt like crazy. It caused little quarells but he always told me he would never force it because he loves me.
So this afternoon we were making out as usual and he started touching me down there. It was so dry and it hurt like crazy, as if the skin was peeling off. I think the fan contributed to the dry ess. Anyway I begged him to stop but he wouldn't and I was almost crying. He started trying to force his dickk in but it didn't enter. All the while, I was begging him while trying not to attract neighbors. It got so painful that I bit his arm very hard and that was when he stopped.

He was very very angry, asking what I did that for. I told him he put me through a lot of pain. He went out and came back at night. I saw he was still angry so I slept in the living room, trying to be understanding and not piss him off further. He came and lovingly moved me to the bedroom. I thought all was well and dozed off.

Only to feel my mouth being gagged all of a sudden. I was still confused because I never expected such a thing. He said he had been thinking of what to do to me for biting him. He put clothes in my mouth and tied my mouth very tight, bound my arms together at the back, forced my legs open. I was crying and begging not to let it be like that but he slapped my face.

He grabbed oil and poured it and began forcing his dick inside until it entered and he rapedd me. I just waited helplessly for it to be over. I bled so much. I cried in the bathroom and came out to leave. He started begging, saying he loves me, etc.

I wanted to WhatsApp my dad to tell him something terrible just happened to me but my heart broke when I saw his picture. My parents really tried.

I just wanted to pour out my feelings in this post. I already know it was my fault even though I feel robbed. I would have given it to him if he had been patient. I hope to get over it soon. Typing with tears. I will shamefully get something at the pharmacy in the morning so that I don't get pregnant

Pls relax yourself and sorry about it

You don't keep a goat and yam in the same room

Accept his apology and take your time to ease yourself from the trauma

It's not going to be easy for you but you have to, if not you will hate men

Ctorch:
A trailer loaded with cow and about forty people coming from Zamfara State was intercepted at the Berger end of Lagos-Ibadan expressway on Monday.

The Lagos State security personnel has however ordered the return of the trailer truck from the state.

Watch video here

https://www.vanguardngr.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/Trailer.mp4

Source: https://www.vanguardngr.com/2020/05/video-photos-about-40-people-from-zamfara-hidden-amid-cows-arrested-in-lagos/?fbclid=IwAR2MDvniQxvDx8_Ru13C6gKq0YUnvPWYVnmU3seRJk5K3YqJF_bmBjlgDUY

They have been behaving like the animals they herd

She over reacted

She should have just left that moment and pack her mother's things to leave the house and then face the husband

Now they will go to jail

Her mother must have been staving of sex

Officialgarri:
The part I do not understand according to Wikipedia is, his father's name is ''Oladipo" but from sierra leone.
How come?
They don't want Yorubas to claim him in peace?

Situations like this, the mother is a Nigeria but the father is from Sierra Leone

So the child can bear the mother's surname if its a child out of wedlock or the parents are not married

MSEdLAW:
God bless you!!!

Thanks and bless you too

Nemere2020:
Following the viral video where a woman was seen assaulting a policeman

https://www.nairaland.com/5833164/oyo-woman-slaps-policeman-trying#89141740


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cm_lWy-efSg

The Nigerian Police has reacted:

https://www.facebook.com/127243240651077/posts/3855778747797489/

I appreciate the conduct of the police officers

Now this is what is expected from them, if a civilian has assaults them, they should maintain their peace video it and let it go viral

The officer knows that if he should raise a finger on her, its dismissal but now the reverse is the case

She must face it, that's an assault

If she doesn't get prosecuted other women will continue from their