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9jaDoomCountry:
Everything is wrong with it.

Just taken it easy let me put you through

Pray you marry a woman that matches your destiny

If by an incident or accident, you can't pregnant your wife, due to the effect on your pennies, would you prefer an adopted child ❓

Or you will rather remain childless

If you hide it from your wife and she goes out to get pregnant after much trials from you, will you ask her who owns the pregnancy

If by medical condition, your wife womb can't carry pregnancy to full term after series of miscarriage, and you live your wife and can take a bullet for her

Will you force her to keep trying and dies with it or you follow doctors advice to get a surrogate mother to carry your pregnancy

Kenyan West, has all the money you would think of but his wife couldn't carry more than one pregnancy, for health reasons, he opted for a surrogate mother who had twins for him and right now he is shopping for another surrogate mother because he said he loves children and wants enough heirs to his properties

When you take decisions always put your self in others situation

Until you get married and fa e one or two challenges you will keep reasoning the same way

Help2020:
Hi Nairalanders.

I have been a good follower of this great Forum for a very long time and I must commend how you guys help with meaningful comments whenever someone requests for help.......

Pls I am in urgent need of your advice now....

Pls ignore my grammatical errors...

Here is the story......

I have a friend named Victor, (real name) a Ghanain..

We are close friends and we are about doing some business together. Before I present the real deal now, let me highlight one mistake he made that would have ended our friendship but I ignored it..

It was way back 2014..

We newly became friends then..and coincidentally there was a Muslim girl I feel in love with, and we starting dating. One day I was not around when my (Victor) friend came to meet this Muslim girl (my girl) and tried to kiss her.

She was a flashy girl and very tempting no doubt, but he almost broke the brother code by trying to do that to my girl. When my girl (now ex) told me, I was angry but decided not to ask him and it died like that.

Sadly, on religious ground I was not allowed to marry the girl so we went our separate ways, but I found it difficult to love again because I loved that girl deeply. So I relocated to another city. Kumasi.

Fast forward to 2020.. About 2 months ago my friend Victor invited me to come down to Accra for some business discussion. So I came and I met his wife's sister (real name Abigail) who now lives with them. Sincerely I felt something for her and told my friend strait away that I like Abigail, and I would love to know her more with marriage in view. I also spoke to his wife Abigail sister about how I felt for her sis but I needed their consent before I approach Abigail.

Consents were given by both of them and after few weeks I proposed to Abigail and she asked me to hold on, that she is going to formally inform her sis and the husband because she lives with them, and I quite understand.

About 2 weeks on Abigail accepted my proposal and I was happy, but went ahead to ask why she accepted and she said she has been hearing good things about me, and beside I am handsome (lol), pardon me I was just quoting her..

So we starting dating.

So 2 days ago I had some discussion with my friend victor (Abigail sis husband).

This time this discussion was basically about some issues he's been having with his wife, how he treats his wife badly lately, does not eat at home or spend time with the wife. So I spoke to him about why he should change and allow peace to reign in the house. As I was discussing with him, he then chipped in some issue about me and Abigail.

HE SAID AS HIS FRIEND HE WON'T ENCOURAGE ME TO ENTER THE WIFE FAMILY. THAT HE HAS BEEN IN THE FAMILY AND HE'S BEEN FIGHTING SOME SPIRITUAL BATTLE FROM THE FAMILY..

So I thanked him, I said to him that I will try to pray about it. That I know many family have some spiritual battles, but I will try and fight the battle....

Here I am somehow confused.. Does he genuinely mean well for me? or he just does not want me to marry this beautiful girl?

Less I forget. He also stopped me from introducing this girl into a certain business that would give her some financial freedom..

I am thinking he does not want the best for either me or the girls family....

And given how he speaks about his wife, I think he is heading in the direction of divorce, and maybe he does not want me to enter the family as that may cause some barrier......

All this are just my opinion given how things are playing out....

Pls I need your suggestion...
Thanks

@mods, pls help me move this to front page, I need urgent help pls

I suggest you don't propose to her, keep dating her no matter how long it will take, you will understand what is happening in her family

You can even find out somethings form your friend Victor and use it to ask her indirect questions

Love conquer everything if you love her, it will help in solving the family problems that is if she is affected

Ozid:
Good morning good people of Nairaland. I hope you all are doing great and keeping safe during this period of corona virus endemic..

Pls I need help!! My younger brother has been battling with a certain rash on his head since 2013. We keep on treating and after sometimes the rashes disappear and appear later.

He has used all kinds of creams and was even on pills to treat the rashes yet the rashes refuse to go. Pls is there anybody that knows the name of the rashes and how it can be treated because my younger brother is gradually losing his self-esteem because he can hardly go out without putting on cap to cover the area that is affected by the rashes.

Suggestions, criticism and possible solutions to the problem are welcomed. Doctors in the house your input will be highly appreciated. Attached below is a picture showing the true state of the affected areas

Pls mods move this to FP for wider coverage

You yourself, you know that it's not skin rashes, it's gotten from the hair cut and if untreated it causes bump called keloid

Google it

Erediauwa:
Thank heavens his wife did not cut his hair like one "Samson" in Portugal....


Skin to skin family too sweet abeg, not some surrogate family.


God save our King.

There is nothing wrong with surrogate the most important thing is let the sperm be from the man

Veiniously:
i did it without a condom but i used the withdrawal method

It's 50/50 before you think you are withdrawing, there is the first shot that goes in even without your notice due to the ecstacy

JAMO84:
Kudos to the Chadian army, but stop giving me the crap about President Deby leading anything. He did not fire a single round, he wasn't the commanding officer. He just turned up in military regalia at the bigging of the operation in order to boost the morale of the military personnel!!!

Did I also mention that the Nigerian army pushed the terrorists to the fringe of the lake Chad region were they attacked and killed 91 Chadian soldiers!

I AM DONE TALKING

Stop it naw, can your president do exactly what he did?

Wettoid123:
If you are to do the payment from here urself you will get the car for less than 1.7m incudind shipping and clearing,,but if am to use my money for the transaction it will cost u 2.3m

Lol, business man

Veiniously:
Please am a guy Whats window period?

Ovulation

Wettoid123:
It has affected me badly I bought 2toyota corolla accident car online from U. S before the spread of corona virus hoping the car we be delivered by this month but because of the corona virus everything is at a standstill 96% of Americans are on knockdown and my money is tied down.

Pls find out for me the cost of toyota rav4 2008/2009 in naira equivalent and the cost of clearing here

I need one

pickatyou:
Unless u sell face mask, sanitizer or hydroxyl chloroquine

That's not true, food stuff took it all

stormborn28:
big pola

OK naw, deal with it

Blessedone26:
Hi nairalanders,

I dated my wife for close to 8 years without sex, we went to same school. Though the decision of no sex before marriage was mine. Cos I am a very addictive person, I never wanted to be addicted to sex during my undergraduate days. She later told me she was a virgin then which I never believed and I told her I am not interested in her being a virgin or not.

Fast forward to our wedding night last year, naxo amaria begin they cry my daddy, my daddy, lets do this thing nah, nah tears full bed. So I took her to see her dad the next day and both of them were crying like a baby.

We got back to our location, we made several attempts with no sex, we've seen different pharmacists, we but different lubricants, but a touch of "pola" on the honeypot area, she will start crying of pains, she's so scared to the extreme. Confession: It was after 3 months that we've been trying that I was even also able to recognise the location of virginal, I had been putting the thing in a wrong place initially. ....sorry, ain't a bookworm but a bit spirikoko

I reported her to her parents , they came, brought diiferent lubricants, still we weren't able to reach the promise land . Now we've decided to go the way of sedative drugs .

Is there any side effects to the drugs?

Do I have to get her to sign a paper cos women ain't predictable, that she won't start shouting emotional trauma in the future that her husband drugged her to have the first sex with her. We need kids mehn.

Thanks..

I would have said take her to a sex therapist

But just take it easy with her

Use your finger to do it at times

She can't get pregnant if she continues to behave that way

Both of you should watch a porn video for her to see how penetrarion goes and its supposed to be harmless

Not if your pola is big, you are in for crisis

If this is done in Nigeria, for the wife to be cutting his hair, his family will say that she has turned their son to a dummy

Fabbyking:
I love the peace of mind she gives me, I love that I can be myself around her, I love the way she understands me but physical attribute is generally 40%. Is it a good number for me to proceed?

OK, don't rush, give yourselves time

Concentrate on her and on the relationship but not on the marriage yet

With time you will have a good reason to settle with her

Being happy when you are with her is a great score

Marriage without happiness is as bitter as bitter leave juice

Whogoes:
Good day nairalanders
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I am having a serious issue right now concerning my sexual life . If I am having sex I last longer than expected. I hardly cum and many babes complains about it . Even the one I was looting today have to stop me half way. But I have been untop of her for almost ... I can't really calculate but trust me if I say 20 minutes. All our effort for me to cum was not working. We even had the second round for Me to cum but no way.
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Please help . Matured minds only.
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Eddited : somebody said I should forget condom , I should go raw . The truth is that I didn't use. Condom. Even with raw I can't cum

Your state of mind is the only thing I can pick as your cause for it

Relax whatever is disturbing you

There is no human being without worries

Then do more of fire play don't rush yourself, when the time comes for you to cum, you would have been prepared enough so that when you come up on her you will not stay to long to cum

But make sure she comes before you if not, you have not achieved anything

Veiniously:
what can delay menses apart from being pregnant.. please help me out ladies

If you ever had sex during your window period, that's it, even if you did it with condom

Another factor could be sickness, don't pray to experience that

Fountain123:
just need a word of knowledge from my nairaland guy,a friend of my have been finding it difficult to have a relationship at the age of 33,but I have try to convince him the right one we surely comes is way,but right now,I don't know the negative thought in his mind

Why is he in that situation

Doesn't he have mouth to speak

Doesn't he have dick

Does he associate with people

What is exactly wrong with him

Is he not seeing others

Godoverevery:
My fiancée sleep alot.....I have tried talking to her severally about it but she doesn't want to change.
since she got here on Thursday....all she does is wake up around 8 clean the house,cook,watch CNN ,eat and sleep from like 10am till 5pm....watch TV.....cook... sleep around 8 again till next morning....to make matter worst she using sleeping pill.
As am typing she is sleeping ... sleeping since around 11 till now.
like is really pissing me off.....I tried to engage her in different things to make things lively but she not interested...all she wants to do is sleep.

Note: she not pregnant neither am a boring person.....I just want to no if is normal and please if anyone is experiencing something similar can you share how you dealing and coping with this.

She is the lazy type

She can't struggle to make a living

For the fact that she takes sleeping drugs makes her case to be worst

When she will be pregnant she will sleep her self to stupor

When you get married, You may end up fending for the family alone and do the house chores too to cover up her lapses

What does she do at the moment amd how skill full and intelligent is she ❓

Gabby122:
I opened dis new account 2 hide my Identity.

When I was single I had a girlfriend dat I love so much and she loves me too but was not thinking of settling down dat time den all of a sudden I heard she was getting married. The guy confused ha with money.
Few years after she got married I also got married.

Everything was smooth in our marriages until recently we started communicating and the whole feelings came back for both of us. I realized she is not happy in ha marriage because of so many reasons which I will mention just one.


She told me how she would love 2 b wit me badly and I do 2. Most recently I discovered through our chat dat her husband doesn't satisfy ha on bed because she complained to me ha husband doesn't last more dan 5 mins.

The 2 of us don't stay in the same city, but I will be going to where she stays very soon and I'm planning 2 meet with her to smash ha pussy very well.

My question is, is it true dat what u do 2 others will come back 2 u, wil my wife also allow another man 2 sleep with ha?

Wether you do it or not, is your choice

For your wife, if she has any reason to bed another ma she would do it

futuregovernor:
I was surprised to see my babe this morning, because of the lockdown. We chat and talk normal on phone,didn't know she plan paying me a surprise visit this morning.

She caught me red handed with her junior colleague this morning,the babe has been with me since last week Tuesday,I asked her to always stayed indoor because I got some shit gossiping forum call neighbors. I don't know how they got to find out,maybe they call my babe,I wonder how she got a vehicle from mainland to island.

I didn't know she was the one, because it was early, thinking it was my beg beg neighbor. She got inside and was flabagasted,she left after staring at us for more than 5 minutes,she didn't say anything.....,no movement,were could she be! my eyes are red,she has been with me for 6 years now. our TM coming up by October. Please advice me,say something,do I still have a chance,will she come back!

You messed up, trust is like a sticker, once removed it can't stick well as before

You insulted her by dating her junior

She will revenge if nit now latter, trust women

Go to her and humble yourself and do the needful, don't expect her to behave mature, she will treat you the way she likes

Just deal with it

Francis96:
Good day everyone, I had to open a new account to tell everyone my predicament.
I really like my girlfriend but I'm planning to leave her this Semester before she infects me.
No doubt she is a clean girl but when once she opens her Vjay and I start thrusting the smell that comes out from there is extremely irritating. And once I perceive the smell my Joystick will just fall so I will now be in hurry to cum fast and climb down.
Secondly, the whole room will be smelling of that stuff once we are done. She has been begging me to have raw sex with her but I always declined by telling her that I cum fast if I dont wear a CD that I wouldn't want to cum fast.

Now we are on Corona and ASUU strike, I am planning to tell her the truth via WhatsApp about the smell but I dont know how she would feel.

Please I need advice on how to go about this.

Nobody should come here and drop any comment that seems derogatory or abusive.
I am no longer a small boi, was just unfortunate to gain admission late.

Thanks everyone.

Telling her via WhatsApp shows that you are not matured enough to face a woman to tell her anything

Such will make her miserable that period

I think at this stage, take her to the hospital and explain to the doctor, who will run series of test including vaginal swab test which I tube will be inserted into her pussy to bring our the wet substance, it's harmless

The out cone of the results will be read to both of you at the same moment

The test cannot be more than 3000 but the antibiotics drugs they will prescribe for the treatment will take up to 10,000

You can pay for the text and let her pay for the medicines

You see in relationships, I believe a guy has to make an impact to his woman, doing this make her wants him around Ofcourse it doesn't require money as we think

Don't just leave her lije tgat gor tge time being

Then her personal hygiene should be her top most priority in the region

Every toilet is already infected with tinny germs

She should be rubbing original canesteen crime any time she uses the toilet

If she takes her medication, Committedly, she will be fine in three months

But If she is reluctant to buy the drugs, start your withdrawal from there

berbz:
I really need your advice on this please...

My wife and her mum went to pack everything in our matrimonial home because we had issues. She said she can't live with me anymore. She packed everything and left me with nothing.
She's a legal wife and her mum followed her to pack things from my house.

Can I take her back

You didn't tell us what happened before they came and pack the loads

If you think you want her back, visit them, tell them you want reconciliation and if they insist on inviting your family, do so and avoid anything thst will make you guys have issues that will not get resolved

Most issues married people are having are not always resolved and it keeps building up with fresh ones

Marriage is a very difficult course if you don't pay attention to things your wife is pointing at

But if you think you are done with the marriage, go to them with your family to return the bride price

Ask yourself if you want the marriage or not

Ilola:
My brother in-law staying in my house over 5years now but he will never wash his toilet and my husband feels its OK that I should kn that it is my house and that when he leaves I will still do it afterall and am not happy about it. If he was staying in his apartment as a bachelor will he not wash his toilet himself.

You know what, just buy the small size of harpic and give to him to be washing his toilet and remind him to replace it when it finishes

Start from there pls

yettymuse:
A 12.5kg camp gas I’ve never seen that

There are lots of people using it but I consider them to be fools

agwom:
Source: https://www.dailytrust.com.ng/what-gave-me-courage-to-marry-two-women-same-day.html

Their business not ours

Fabbyking:
thanks for your reply. Let me elaborate my point, I don't feel that tingling sensation of love with her, I see her more of my paddy paddy. Is that good enough for marriage?

Can you tell us what's attracting in her or what you like about her

lilmax:
If you can't answer the question, then you're fooling yourself

Stop it naw �

Fabbyking:
Hi everyone I need advice because am I little confuse

I am in a relationship with a great lady, she loves me and she always have butterflies in her Tommy each time she sees me or hear my voice but I don't feel that way, I see her more as a friend. We can gist d whole day if need be without getting tired or bored, we have complementary goals, we understand each other. I think it's because she is dark skinned n I prefer light skinned ladies. My confusion is that I want to settle down, can I go ahead with her? bearing in mind that inner beauty n character is better than outward beauty. Will it work out? Will the lack of sufficient love from me cause any ripple in future?

Attraction towards her-40%
Love for her-40%
Friendship-90%
Communication-90%
Understanding-90%
Trust-98%

You see, it's best to marry a friend than to marry someone you love because friendship develops to love and the love grows base on the friendship

A friend will find it difficult to hurt you considering what you guys shares in common like gisting and the rest

BULLIONVAN4:
like I said earlier, I couldn't snap all the lines because the market is too big and the eyes of the security agencies are watching and I stopped to avoid embarrassment.

You tried very well, don't mind the person questioning you, let him go yo his state and snap theirs if he thinks it's easy

For the stupidity of the family by not disclosing his true health information

His corpse should not be released to them

They can go for test for those of them in tge House if they wish

Makavelli25:
K

Lol