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Priscy01:
A Nigerian woman shared her marital woes on a Facebook group and the replies she got are quite interesting to read.

According to the woman, her husband hasn't been intimate with her for 2 years though they live in the same house but they are living like a tenant. She said he married a new wife and brought her home and he now gives his undivided attention to his new pregnant wife and cares nothing for her. She's now asking if she should have an affair with another man who is asking her out, seeing as she is tired of masturbating.

Read what the woman wrote below;
NO SEX WITH MY HUSBAND FOR ALMOST 2YEARS, CAN I HAVE AN AFFAIRS?
My husband has not touched me for almost 2years. Is it still wrong for me to look for someone else?
We are in a marriage of 15years with 3 boys.
Almost 5years ago he asked if I minded if he had a second wife.
I told him I did mind because I hate polygamous marriage setting but he had the second wife anyway and has had several several affairs since.
He hasn't touched me since almost 2 years, we live as flat mates.
He wouldn't let me leave with my kids because he wanted to stay in the house together with his new wife who's pregnant and centre of his attention.
A man has shown interest in me, is it still wrong to have a physical relationship with him, even though I still live with my husband.
I haven't had a physical relationship for 2years. I'm tired of masturbation and dying to be touched and pleasure by my husband but he never look at me!!
I wouldn't mind to have sex with my husband but begging him to is not an option!!
I'm only in this marriage because of my children otherwise, I would have long gone!!
I need advice please."

As expected, lots of advice were given to the woman and most of them will leave you shaking your head.

Read their advice below;

https://www.torimill.com/2018/03/no-sex-with-my-husband-for-almost-2years-can-i-have-an-affair-lady-asks-see-advice.html


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Oluromantic:
I can't believe it's a woman giving this advice. Women like you are rare. God bless you. You're very rational..

akpunda86:
Good day all guys.hope we all are staying safe.Please advice strongly needed.How do you cope with a densely loaded room.In our room my wife box is eighteen when they were bought i dont know.in fact this lock down moving about my room is an issue.
I went to the second room was worst and i keep asking myself what is this with women with load.

Once after the lockdown i want to create an extra room behind so that we shift all behind.is pissing me off.

Guys how u cope with wife loads in room

jeff1607:
Imagine you got kids and just one of them is doing things just the way you like and somehow or most times attention goes to that child leaving the rest feeling unloved. How do you remedy this?

kindly share

Explorers:
Both men ended up in intensive care after falling ill with coronavirus.


Both men had underlying health conditions with a kidney transplant(father) and asthma(son).




Freddie Jr., had known underlying health conditions after he had a kidney transplant in 2012.

After having trouble breathing he was placed onto a ventilator despite his wife attempting to prevent the move because it would see him being placed in to a medically induced coma.

'Calm down,' he told her over the phone. 'I'll be fine. It will just be a few days.'


Sadly, three days later his lung collapsed and she was called in the middle of the night to tell her that he was about to pass away.

She did not make it to the hospital in time and she was even told that she would not be allowed to see her husband's body, but Sandy insisted.

'I'm going in that room,' she told them. 'I don't care what I have to do. I'll sign whatever I need to sign.'

Staff dressed her up in protective equipment with a mask, gloves, gown and glasses.

According to The Detroit News, Sandy was able to walk up his body, touch his hair and rub his cheek and neck as she said her own farewell.

Just one day later, her son who has asthma suddenly became sick with a fever and persistent cough.


Two days later, she received a call from the hospital telling her to come immediately.

He passed away soon afterwards.

D1987:
I am 25 and she is 20.
I am leaving with my brother and she is leaving with her parents,I dated her and she got pregnant then abort the baby without telling me,but the baby didn't go after 6 months she told me I accept the pregnancy cause it was not even showing she is 6 months pregnant time goes on she gave birth peaceful.but before she told me about the pregnancy I have lost my job but still accept her with the pregnancy because of the love I have for her I paid every hospital bills like atnental etc the little I have I give her.after she gave birth i got a job on the march 14 before the COVID-19 outbreak that made the government to tell everyone to stay at home, they paid everybody and I was paid 25k for the half of the salary.I quickly bought diaper for the baby and also buy tea items for her she still complain that her stomach is paining her that there is a drug they proscribed for her to buy which is 1k+,and I gave her 2k and inside the money I will still pay agent that got the job for me half of it,later she requested for money to buy diaper I told her that I don't have money that the one I have naw is for my transport to go work if the lockdown stop,that she should collect from her parents later I can balance her behold the junior sis was their and started to insult me and be putting mouth in our discussion and I was like when did you start to put mouth in my matter I left there house and went to my own house after like one hour I received a call and it was one of her friend that called and started tell me am a useless man that I can't buy ordinary diaper,my dear my blood shake.i approach my woman and ask her if she was the one that gave my contact to her friend and she said no,I also told her what her friend told me on the phone and she heez and said "and so" that was the last day i stop going to their house.
Have I done any thing bad to accept you and the pregnancy you carry for six months before letting me know,don't I deserve a respect from you and your family,
Did she think 95% of guys will do what I did to accept you and pregnancy you carried for six months before I know
I even took my people to come and see your parents.
What have I done to deserve such insult from her friend, especially her friend insult and she wX backing her friend

Please I need a good advice to this cause I can't go there again,God in heaven knows that I didn't ignore her from the beginning the little one I saved from my formal work was what I used for her
Please what advice can you give me

TheOlusanjo:
It is a Sunday and having to remind ourselves of 'the humanity' in us even in these perilous times should take over church preaching today. A Ghanaian man has shared a touching story of how he took up the role of a father shortly after his younger sister died from childbirth complications.

The story obtained from 'Humansofny' page on Instagram is one of a brother and his younger sister who felt so disappointed that she got pregnant and he did not know until she was 7months gone. The man recounted how he had no choice than to forgive his sister and assumed the responsibilities of taking care of her till the inevitable happened.

Read the full account below:

Theyoungmatron:
I have always visited my aunt occasionally and we also live in the same city. She has 4 kids with the last kid already in the University. Her family, that's her siblings has always mediated between her and her husband up until now, cos of the husband philandering.
She was, and still is a very beautiful woman but years of marital anguish had shrouded her beauty and left her sullen. After her last kid left, it seems like she has left her cocoon and has brightened like a star. As the day goes by and the more I visited her, she looks so much different, happy and jovial. Everyone was happy that auntie ND is back and things are looking quite good in the homefront.
Did I mentioned that she has always been the Mrs prime and proper that's why what I saw jolted me like electricity.
There is this particular man that I thought was their family friend, you know, she being in her late 40s, so their friends are like family friends. I saw her with this man laughing, looking longingly and touching. Talking for long hours and she often brings him up in a conversation like it is normal. You know, how you will acquire a new property and always talk about it.. Yeah that's it.
I wanted to ask her who the man was on one of my many visits but I refrained from doing so cos, damn, she isn't my Mom and what do I know anyway.

I decided to bring it here cos what I saw joggled my memory and left me very uncomfortable..... The young man that saw his dad flirting with a tailor must have felt uncomfortable too.

These are the people we look up to for perfection. People that cannot commit sin in our eyes. What happens when they are caught philandering? I was rankled by the advices I got from this young man's thread that it is good for married people to philander. I am married but it has left a bad taste in my mouth.

This is my aunt, I wonder how I would've felt if it was one of my parents.

LORDofODDS:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2020/04/explosion-rocks-benin-houses-destroyed-2/

MyVILLAGEpeople:
But I thought there is no inter state movement for now??.. Or have they opened the borders?.

Duru9:


Which kind wahala be this


I don already buy sniper keep sha

If there's no movement on Monday I won't have any choice than to ease this whole stress I don really suffer this life

Islie:
https://dailypost.ng/2020/04/10/nursing-mother-commits-suicide-over-alleged-pressure-from-husband/

Rgade:
I don't masturbate at all, never have.
I haven't had sex lately cause of the lockdown of course.
But I fantasize at times, and that's when it usually happens.
Depressed and worried? Yes.

whyteteeth:
Eversince this shot down I have been home with my parents and there is a way my dad looks at one particular lady whenever she comes around to buy things in my mother's shop which I think is inappropriate. He teases her and calls her sweet names also. As a guy I have tried not to take it serious since it's one thing a lot of men do but I am beginning to suspect my dad for trying to have an extramarital affair with this said woman. She is beautiful though and she is still a young woman while my dad is in his fifties.

Now today My father asked this same woman who happens to be a female tailor and makes female clothes to help him fix a zip in one of his trousers, which has possibly gone bad.

The woman blushed and didn't really give him much attention or any reasonable answer while he was busy saying it repeatedly till the woman left. I find this a little bit disturbing and inappropriate and possibly giving wrong signals. I mean it's not like it's a new clothe the woman was making for him or something. .

Another reason why I find this inappropriate and indecent is that, the zip can actually be fixed by any of these aboki people that mend clothes. Aboki do pass around my area every now and then, even yesterday they passed. So I want to know if my dad is up to something? And if he is, well i will just know for knowing sake.

Happyfela:
I've woken up and seen three women looking at me like this on different times, ladies of Nairaland, what does it mean biko

truthsayer009:
People underestimate feeding expenses, but that's like the core area where you lose money without traces.

Atleast I know what is spent on rent and school fees, i can bet that most families cannot adequately account for how much they spend for feeding.

adajoe555:
Please I need help, I've been battling with bacterial infection for the past 9 months I keep treating with antibiotics but it's not working..

I went to the lab November last year..the result came out I have staphylococcus aurus and I went to a pharmacy where I was given drugs to take, after taking the drugs I was still having symptoms, I went to the lab again to run test... Now the result showed it was coliform... Which I treated .... Fast forward to February I went to run another test the test still shows I have staphylococcus aurus.. I went to the pharmacy again and the nurse gave me 5days injection and drugs after the medication two weeks later I was still noticing symptoms... I went to the lab again to run another test and still the same. I went to a different pharmacy which they still told me I need to treat again I was placed on 10 days injection and 4 days infusion, which I finished the treatment on the 25th of March.. it's not up to two weeks I started noticing symptoms again I still went to the lab again, just took the result today am heart broken,

Now the result is now showing a different thing mixed bacterial growth of moderate entercoccus faeccalis and coliform in urine

And mixed bacterial growth of heavy entercoccus faeccalis and scanty candida Albican in HVS


Right now am confused I don't know what to do again it's barely two weeks I finished treatment am tired of taking antibiotics and injections and am told it's not too good to be taking antibiotics...

I don't know what am not doing right, because I've not been sexually active for the past 4months and I don't use public toilet either..

I've spent alot on treating myself, am tired of taking antibiotics and injections

Those who have experience these please how did you get rid of stubborn infections


Please I need advice...no insult please.. since I took this result I've not been myself.


I've been contemplating on posting this here. I just have to.

Kraik:
I don't know the right place to post this.

The topic is self explanatory, yeah, I'm the devil, or at least his incarnate. When you see me, and you aren't scared, then hmm..

I've got mind that's so inhuman, in fact, I feel inhuman, I don't love anyone, but I don't hate anyone either, I only hated the ones(liars, thieves, rapists, etc) that deserved to be hate, so I am their judgement.

Devil is the Punisher, but I'm a better Punisher than him. I just want to be normal, but my mind is bigger than I, it's consuming me.

Fredfr33zy:
He is an ENT professor, I feel is something that doesn't relate to the ear. Though I went to another private ENT clinic, I was checked and drugs were prescribed which I took and it didn't go away still. I went back to the professor, he gives same drugs with little additional ones like he using me to do experiment.

Yemialade:
Hi guys
what does it mean to have stretch mark on only your butt and not other part of your body.
I don't know how it appear on my butt, I don't even have it on my breast, thigh, arm
one day when I was getting injected on the butt by a female pharmacist I asked her why I have stretch mark, she told me it is a sign am going to be fat though am a slim lady.
my ex boyfriend told me that it's a sign my butt will b bigger, that the stretch mark won't leave until it does it work.
Guys what's your intake on this.

Yemialade:
Hi guys
what does it mean to have stretch mark on only your butt and not other part of your body.
I don't know how it appear on my butt, I don't even have it on my breast, thigh, arm
one day when I was getting injected on the butt by a female pharmacist I asked her why I have stretch mark, she told me it is a sign am going to be fat though am a slim lady.
my ex boyfriend told me that it's a sign my butt will b bigger, that the stretch mark won't leave until it does it work.
Guys what's your intake on this.

Rgade:
Nlanders this has been going on for some weeks now.
Each time I get an erection, a splitting headache follows immediately around the right side of my brain.
Even the early morning erections are not spared..
Imagine waking up in the morning with a throbbing head, because of elongated jt very frustrating and annoying.
I want to know if this is normal

Sotland:
Are you a feminist?

Yian1:
If someone wants to do some giveaway to people that are really suffering in this situation and are less privileged, how can one get to know the people that really need it on this forum?

Your contributions will be appreciated... Thank you!

LoneRanger28:
I was inspired to pour out my heart after reading this thread (https://www.nairaland.com/5780636/lost-job-girlfriend-dumped-me) by Tankunland .


I really don't know how to begin, as I'm currently typing with tears in my eyes while contemplating suicide. I had to create this new account in order to post this, because I'm active on my main account and a few nairalanders have my mobile contact.

I'm the only child of my mother, raises by her alone. My dad left when I was very young and remarried. All my life mother have been my king and I love her respect her alot.

I graduated 4 years ago and went for NYSC. Started job hunting and sent CVs to so many places, written several tests and got invited for interviews but somehow I never get called. I have so many people promise me a job only for them to stop picking my calls, or they will pick and promise to call back, yet no one calls.

I retired to helping my mom in her shop, while applying for jobs and download YouTube videos at night to learn a skill, but it has been difficult for me since my mom operates a mini bar and restaurant. I go to the shop every morning, I wash the plates, clean the places, fetch water and attend to customers.

My mom is aging and I understand. As at last year she started becoming irritated with anything I do, she finds fault in the smallest thing I do. She will scream at me in public and hull insults at me. I told early last year to let me go to Lagos and join some friends, so that I can actively job hunt but she refused.

She insisted that I should be applying and managing the beer parlour. This beer parlour business does not give me anytime to develop myself because I go to shop Monday-Sunday, morning till night 9pm upwards. And I feel very weak whenever I return home, so I will just sleep off.

I do not have any social life, as I do not have the luxury of time to mingle with friends, I do not even have a girlfriend because I understand that it can be time demanding.

Today after cleaning the shop as usual and fetching water, I told my mom that I need to go home and feed the dogs and also fetch water at home she agreed. It wasn't up to 30 minutes she called me on the phone and said I left her to be suffering in the shop. I was surprised and I replied "mom I just left & I told you what i was going to do at home". She yelled.

I had to end the call, out off the fire I already set for the dog food and dashed back to the shop. On reaching there she started yelling and cursing me, saying I'm very lazy. I felt very sad and said mom but I just left here now, why are you disgracing me in this public place?

She kept yelling, people gathered and she took a knife saying she will kill me. I couldn't utter a word, I cried like a baby and left the shop, came back home. I took my bath, then she came home and started cursing me, cursing my father (that I'm irresponsible like him) that God will punish me.

I kept crying, neighbors had to rush in. She seized my keys and went out with it.

The reason I decided to type this information here today is because this is not the first nor second time that this is happening. All the people that live around my house can testify that o don't do anything stupid, I don't smoke, o don't womanize, I don't steal, I don't disrespect people, I only mind my business and try to see that I do the right things.

But my mom keeps piling pressure on me and telling me that I'm the reason why her life is like this, that she regrets giving bet to me, she says so many words to me. Most times I cry and ask God to just take my life if what I'm doing is not enough.

I don't know what to do, I didn't ask to be born, I wish I have siblings from her, I'm really loosing my mind. I know I'm doing my best, but to my mom I'm not doing anything, yet she refuses to let me go and hustle.

I know suicide is not the way and it is what cowards do, but I'm really tired, I'm drained emotionally, I love her and I really want to make her proud and happy. But nothing seems to be working well for me.

Please someone with similar experience, or someone that understands what I have written up there, please help me, I'm dieing inside, I don't what to do or how to manage this anymore. I think of taking my life but I know it is not the right thing to do.

Please