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Etinosa1234:
thanks

You are good

Etinosa1234:
Should I Use And Dump This Girl Or Not?

PLS I have an issue bothering me.
There is this girl in my class that likes me.. but I don't like her one bit. Yes she's fine and all that but the feeling is not jus there.

At first I jus wanted to bang her and break up with her but. I don't want to break her heart...I don't want to be seen as the devil in my class..

Due to pressure from her friends...I jus lied to her that I had feelings for her. Now the thing is paining me badly...

I know that this relationship won't last

Just respect your self and hold yourself

You are matured enough to know when to play with a woman and keep her heart or break her heart

Mymynd4u:
Thanks for ur input dear... I'm sure u fully understood my current predicament

My dear, I do, I understand how you his feels

I hope she does too

maasoap:
The guy asked a question, may be you didn't see it.

Ok

RisenPhoenix:
Can you state truthfully that you have never ever fake cried, or exaggerated an illness or pretended some emotional breakdown just to manipulate a male member of your family or bf into doing something you want? If yes, then you must be an extreme outlier from the norm. Women do this routinely. It is their version of a child's tantrum. They jnow most men get scared at the sight of a woman crying or fainting.

Grow up pls

Oreofepeters:
Get this right, there's nothing like "Honest girl" in Nigeria, the guy above me has said it all

Btw why should you beg a girl? What have you done wrong? All these pvssy niggás matter sef dey tire person

Don't beg your girl when you offend her
Advance a little
Don't beg your wife when you offend her

Thats when you will know why some men pets and begs their wives when they offend them for peace to reign at home

Bola146:
Exactly.. Also there is nothing like. " honest man" especially in Nigeria. Use your brain

That's how they behave when they don't trust themselves

RisenPhoenix:
You're the man! Glad to see woken guys are around.

@op. Faking seizures, fainting, crying, breatlessness are all classical ploys by girls to turn the tables on you and avoid answering questions. They then make you feel that you have offended them by your accusation and you now start begging the person that is supposed to explain herself.

So the seizure was faked ❓

You are a Thomas

Heroclitus:
I'm looking forward to that day when I'll start seeing things from this particular point of view... I really need this kinda mentality badly

Develope the mentality and bear the pains that goes with it

Davash222:
There’s nothing like a ‘Honest Girl’, especially in Nigeria.
She’s just manipulating you emotionally. Don’t fall for all these blackmails from Nigerian girls.

Imagine, she said she has forgiven you?? For what??
Obviously, you’re too immature to be in a relationship with a Nigerian girl.

Stop it naw, if you have been unfortunate to get a sincere and honest girl is because you don't even trust yourself

Let those who finds one keep theirs

Haba

Logan95:
My people, Something really terrible just occurred now.

I have dated my girlfriend for about 6 months, she is the most open individual I've ever met... She has told me most of her secrets. She is a very beautiful and intelligent girl and what really made us thick is that I was there when she had seizures in the past.

To the issue, She answered a call today and I felt suspicious and I decided to confront her immediately, but as she was trying to explain, I cut in and acted with mistrust and accusations that I suspect cheating. This was a major catalyst and it triggered her seizure. I started apologizing immediately to calm her down, she passed out for some minutes after she tried to use her clothes to suffocate herself.

She woke up irritated and I asked her to explain what is happening in her social world. She said it was really nothing and that she feels I don't trust her that's why she reduced telling me personal stuff. That there is no connection between her and the guy.

She said she has forgiven me but she has to leave my house that moment. I asked that I drop her but she refused and packed her belongings that has been here. She later accepted that I'd drop her because I could not stand the shame of her going alone but my car battery decided to die and she eventually entered bike home.

She left by saying she needs space but I feel I've lost her because I'll be once guilty of inducing her seuzures.

Ladies and gentlemen, red pillers, kindly advice me on how to handle this issue.

N:B kindly put into consideration that she is really emotional and her peculiar challenge.

Am glad you are being remorseful over your attitude towards her

This weekend, pay her a Suprise visit

Plead with her to have lunch or dinner as the case may be

In your outing, reassure her of your undying love and a sincere heart

Apologies for what you did out of anger and promise her that you will caution yourself

Be very remorseful about it and assure her of her happiness

After that, you can send a credit to her line or send weekend cash to her account as a surprise

Plead with her to bring back her things that you have been unhappy and restless since she left you and your heart seeks for peace

Am very sure she will respond well

Right now she is bittered and hurt, but a simple sorry will calm down everything

Now on your own part

You have bought a raw egg and if you don't handle it well, it will break

You must learn to trust her, most open minded ladies doesn't keep extra lover, most times they are more faithful

Now you know that she is having crisis, assist her and find out what led to it and how it can be eliminated from her system

People of such nature must be treated and handled with caution

Not that you both can't quarrel ohhh, but make sure you are not the one that will trigger the quarrel
She loves you just as you love her, try and give her happiness and you will enjoy your relationship with her

Once a girl is still single, she will definitely have male admires even married women faces such with a ring on their finger

Give her freedom and she will be more free with you

But bear in mind that if you won't marry her, don't keep her for long

It will devastate her overall health and life if eventually you voys don't settle down

It's not really good to keep a woman for so long, the longer time the relationship takes, the more a woman is assured that it will lead to marriage

fineboynl:
it's a flat compartment. no prepared meter just estimated billing but now we are planning to switch to prepared. just saying they think AC is consuming light and I need to know

It's until you start using it before you can see the consumption

Aloneness:
Thank you dear. It's not easy for me tho. But I will try.

Yes it not easy, you have to try and start now because even if you get employed you must associate with your colleagues and if you have a business you must be very friendly with your customers

Mymynd4u:
My mother wunt go to jail... No oo

Lol
Then report her to her immediate own family, with time she will change

Mymynd4u:
How can we convince our mother to let go of 2 or 3 of her grandchild out of 4 to any one instead of she suffering herself.. This matter is so much that my younger brother & I are losing it. She keep borrowing and borrowing and the creditors always call us to ask for their debt. Mum is so stubborn and too sturborn to let go of any. Abt d 4 kids, their parents aren't 2geda.
We can't save much due to this her problem of debt debt debt debt.


Pls advise me

Leave her, she will collect the debt that will put her in jail

Then you guys will return the kids to either their fathers or mothers

It seems they don't want to take responsibility of their children even if they are from separated homes

Dsimple:
I was out of the country few years ago and lost my three years old relationship in the process because of fear that I may not return in time.
While I was there, I met this woman (my baby mama) on facebook. We started dating online and everything looks perfect, although she had a child in her teenage years, it wasn't a problem for me since it was out of wedlock. One day she told me something weird about herself :
1. That she is a regular sickler (if there's any English word like that but not a sickle cell patient. That her house is like a hospital with different kinds of drugs cos of the ailment.
2. That she normally collapsed and it could happen at anytime.
3. That she has spiritual companions that the soothsayers has confirmed to be the reason why she can't get a husband and that any man she always has used to run from her cos of her bad characters to the extent of her mother urging one rich octogenarian to please marry her, although she rejected him.
4. That there's nobody she can't insults including her husband's family.
Then I promised her marriage if she can promise me she won't insult my family and she did.

When I came back to Nigeria 4 years ago, she came to picked me up at the airport and I used that opportunity to see her family and few months later against all odds, I married her according to the Islamic doctrine.

That was the greatest mistakes of my life and I'm still regretting, she made my whole life a living hell, chased away my family members from me, in fact at a point nine of her own family members were staying with us with the excuse of the insecurity in Jos where her mum resides. Her dad is late.

There's no peace in the house, we quarrel every other day that I was already having a high bp at a time. I reported to her mum, grandma and great grandma yet no changes.
She washes only her clothes without mine, cook for herself alone and always cursing me at every opportunity, she equally deny me sex also.

She travelled to Jos a month before she packed out of my house, immediately she came back, she intensified on the punishment she normally met out at me like her family had advised her.
On Wednesday, 29th May, 2019, during Ramadan fasting period, immediately we ate at dawn, she took her bath and our baby and demanded I gave her money to plait her hair we I did, I never knew that she had stolen my ATM card, at about 3pm, I saw debit alerts from my bank, she is the only one who knows my atm pin, I called her and she didn't pick up my calls ever since.
Please nairalanders, I am missing my child who will be two years on 1/2/2020.
She is 28 years old, her younger sister is also with her their mother with her child too.
The mother has three grandchildren and looking after all of them when their fathers are still alive. She's been away from home since 8 months ago, although we do chat occasionally but she won't tell me her whereabouts. I know we can't continue with the relationship because her mom called my dad that they are coming to pack her remaining loads in the house which is not a problem but they don't want to let me see or have my child back. Her mum kept threatening me to provide her child or go to jail .
PS
Although I'm not rich but what I'm earning was enough to take care of her and the baby even though she contribute nothing to the family.

Please advise.

Hmmm, my brother, you see that child with her, just let her be with the child but make arrangements on how they will allow you to be visiting the child

Any attempt to take a child from a mother is always difficult unless she releases the child willingly

Even court will grant the custody of the child to her because you are free to go and search for another woman to bear for you

You over looked her red signal because of blind love

Pray she finally leaves your life so that you can Start another life

This time around look for someone who's head is correct and not a deranged person

Morhyeen:
Depends on the bedsize
4 by 6 cost #3000
7*7 cost #4000

With duvet or without

If not with duvet, how much is duvet

Do you supply to mainland

Macsjebs:
She may have told him or not he may have chosen to or not to. She just have to give him the full gist of how she craves for it.

It would take a whole lot of mental and emotional consciousness and efforts before that can be erased from her mind.
We are talking about personal happiness and fulfilment here. People go any length just to make themselves happy.

Am glad she will read this and apply sense

mohd001:
To those of you guys, who are so broke and your girlfriend still crazily loves you regardless. please which formular do you use please?? I'm so confused about this magic.

Am not a guy, but I will speak from a woman angle

Being broke or not broke is not the issue, the issue is being lucky to find someone that will give you true love

If you find a lady both of you have true love for, she will hardly discuss anything that will attract expenses

You have to be modest for her to believe that you don't have the cash to give you but you would have assured her of your dying love and time couple with the attention she needs from you

Women want you to prove to them that you can take care of her love

Women understands love like those who love mathematics knows the formula for every equation

Even the penny in your pocket will be enough for giving her a treat

You can't be unfaithful to a lady and expect her to love you without asking for anything but your commitment to the relationship will humble her to your desired woman

Sex is another aspect that keeps a woman glued to a man, some men have dick but don't even knows how to use it on a woman

That's why you see men with small size adds other attributes to hold a woman down

Love doesn't demand for material things because it doesn't depend on material things to grow

It grows naturally when it's real true love

Try using the ac first, if its consuming more if the units, you either reduce the hours you use it or disconnect it

fineboynl:
not that bad. but the tenants would think I'm the consuming it alot.

what about glass top electric cooker?

Don't dream of anything electric cooker, electric kettle, microwave this things zaps it faster than you can imagine

Then for your ac, I thought every flat is entitled to prepaid meter or is it a face me I face you, yes if its face me I face you, if they wish, they can also get their ac, then you can use hot plate and the rest if others are using it

Macsjebs:
It can never disappear, it's like a goal one sets their mind to achieve and the means are available.

Hubby hasn't said he can't from what I see. It's just lack of communication, they are probably so 'religious' or 'traditional' hence intentionally avoid 'sexual/intimacy discussions'.

This is one other thing that differentiate the whites from us. You want your children to get married but you don't want to know their boyfriends or girlfriends, they keep hiding till one eventually clicks and leads to marriage.

There is nothing embarrassing or disgusting discussing your sexual preference with your partners. Don't listen to preachers who say God only ordained missionary style

Do you think she told hubby and he refused to do that or she didn't tell hubby but prefers to experience it out first ❓

I understand hubby doesn't want it, what else ❓

She should wipe it out

Aloneness:
Good day sirs and Mas...
I know this might be quite a lengthy piece, but I want to beg your indulgence to bear with me as I drain out my heavy heart.

I'm an undergrad in my early 20's and in my final year, but I've been depressed all my life because I feel bittered , lonely and battered by my life's experience . One of the major reasons for this is due to me being too sensitive and emotional . It all started when my mom and dad separated , I was just 12 . We were very poor. I grew up watching my dad and mom argue , fight, whilst my baby sister cried for their attention .When my mom left the house , the kids in my neighbour hood use to make fun of me , Cuz they over heard my mom discussing her marriage issues to their respective moms, and my reaction during the fights in the home.

As a kid in sec school, I was ashamed, destabilised, depressed and my grades suffered. My mom later came back , but she ran with us (I and my sis) to her home country (it's African). My school and grades suffered .

I fought my mom, Cuz I needed my dad. I found my way to my dad 1yr8months after, in 2012. I came back and found out that my old man had a short time to live because he had chronic diabetes. I lived with him for 2yrs and he died on May 14, 2014 and I wasn't told because I was writing WASSCE. I cried so much every day when I later heard. I became so quiet, gentle, timid and to crown it all, I became an introvert.

The questions I ask was , "why would the people that brought me to this world abandon me?". Even tho my mom was alife, I didn't feel her presence because she was hundreds of kilometres away and countries apart.

I couldn't afford to go to school the year my dad died Cuz he was poor , he could barely raise my WAEC fee and obtaining a jamb form was an "unnecessary expense" before he died. My uncle came from the south south to take me in. I stayed at home for 2yrs. I never felt so alone all my life.

In my uncle's house, I cultivated a habit of being alone, locking my self up when everyone is in the living room , laughing and talking.

I would always tear up whenever I seize the opportunity to be alone. I kept reminiscing about the times with the last moments with my dad in the hospital, he told me , a time would come when I wouldn't see him, because he won't be around for long, "so, be strong my boy". Whenever I remember this, I cry the more. Every emotional movie scene broke me. Seeing people helpless and less priviledge dropped tears from my eyes. I felt empty always.

I wanted to feel loved, because I wasn't getting any from anyone and since I lived with my uncle and his wife, I don't expect them to treat me equally with their own kids.

I felt like an out cast and a worthless person everytime I saw kids with their parents hugging them, but when I looked around, no one was hugging me . I missed sleeping on mom's laps as child , I missed those times she would make me my best meals. I missed those times my dad talked to me about how he was going to train me through school with the business plans he had made.

Now, the thoughts of never ever seeing him breaks me still, he is never going to see me graduate this year, neither will he see the man I will become nor see my unborn children.

My self esteem was zero, I became timid , and I couldn't make an eye contact for 10secs and I didn't know how it felt to be loved anymore. From my teenage age till my adulthood, I never experienced the love of my mother and father together, or singly . I became overly introverted and pushed everyone away. No friends.

Anytime someone gets so close , I panic because I'm emotional, I care too much and I put in too much energy to ensure they don't leave, but eventually they do because they don't reciprocate my energy.

I mistake the littlest kindness for love, and when someone pushes me away intentionally or not, I'm broken.I felt the people who left me did so because I was worthless, or maybe weird or not cool.

I actually thought I was worthless and doesn't deserve anyone, so I was pushed to discover my potentials .al

It's time you come out of your self imposed prison

I will be blunt here so that I can drive my messages to you

You can't continue your solo life, you will get depressed with it

Being a Nigerian and staying in Nigeria is enough depression

Locate your mum and unite with her

Be grateful to your uncle and his family, they are your savings grace

Learn to be involve in anything they are doing, they are your family and siblings for now

By the time you graduate and start working or searching fir work that's when you will see the true picture of depression

Free your mind of those things you are thinking about they will deter you from moving on

One day you will be set to have a girlfriend or a wif and children , having them will make you talk as much as you are with them , if you keep your introvert nature continuously with you, your wife and children will be happy all the time and you will be the one that will be anoiyed and lonely

So tell me, what else do you think you are doing to your self if not slow and painful death

Even motherless babies and orphans are surving because they chose to mix up with people to learn or expand their scope of knowledge

Kathleens:
I have to create another account for this reason, please i need all the advices I can get to save my marriage and sanity. Recently I have been feeling so Hot after I stopped my baby from breastfeeding. My hubby tries his own possible way to satisfy me but after the sex I will still masturbate to pleasure myself cause I will be fantasizing about someone going down on me with their tongue (I have never experienced that in my entire life) my hubby doesn't do that. This has made to fantasize about other guys giving me the pleasure I need, i went as far as searching the internet for gigolos and having this fantasy with them on my mind. This is crazy, I even contacted one and we fixed a date (he promised to go down on me really hot with his tongue) but I bluffed it cause I really don't have the courage to cheat on my hubby though I have cheated on him a million times on my head. I can't even imagine doing it physically but the thought is always on my head. I need to stop this and the frequent masturbation before it ruins me.

I need all the advices including insults, maybe the insults will reset my head. I am 32 years with four kids. Thank you

You know what ❓

Just erase that tongue stuff down there if you want peace in your life

Hubby is not ready to give it to you

Stop dreaming about it

If you insist, you will get it sweeter outside

But after that what next ❓

Since you already have four kids, if that is not enough to keep you busy, have more kids and by the time you have challenges providing for them, you will think less of having a tongue down there

If you distroy your marriage as you are going like this, you will be out of the marriage and the way and manner that will affect your life will be your business

By then the taste of tongue will definitely disappear

Queenellahrose:
I’m writing with so much pain in my heart because my only child is giving me lots of trouble , she is 14 ever since I had her I cannot conceived again , My husband and I went trough lots of tests we are all okay and perfect so we had to accept that God wanted us to have one one daughter for now and we are still believing God for more children. Where do I start we are nigerian leaving outside of Nigeria ( African country) for the past 8 years we also took along my husband niece who is now 17.

My daughter was a very nice and obedient child working hard at school and has always been making us proud but everything changed when she turns 11yrs she started getting in trouble at school my husband and I are always called for meeting about her not working well and fighting with her classmates and she get punished almost everyday we as parents had heart to heart talk she had made clear that she doesn’t like school and want us to enrolled her at music and dance school , she was only 12 me and her dad were against we had convinced how important education and all we want is the best for her to finish school to have a better job and she can do her music and dance too later.

She was okay and we kept encouraging her and praying for her, things started to get a little bit better even school complained become less . Three week ago I usually leave the house at 6am for work ,hubby leaves before me and the kids were still at home getting ready for school and around 11am I received a called from the police asking if I’m mrs o and chi mum I said yes I started panicking because I taught maybe she had an accident or something, the police officer asked me to come at the station.

I rushed there and what I heard broke my heart in pieces , he explained to me that my daughter and niece and other girls were caught at a hotel with boys smoking , drinking and having sex actually somebody called the police because they had noticed that under age children entered the hotel which it’s a offence so when they police came they had arrested all of them and took them to the station requesting them to give parents details and that’s how they contacted me .

I was ashamed and couldn’t controlled my tears I wept bitterly because when I taught my two girls are angel in fact they were doing the unthinkable , I bailed both of them and I just hated them I didn’t even talked to them to avoid beating them badly , but later when hubby came I didn’t hide anything from him , he was so angry that he flogged them mercilessly , I felt bad for them but the both deserved it , we took their phones away , tablets and tv in their room and they are banned from going outside apart from school and when they both get back from school , they will eat and go and spend the rest of their day in their bedroom until nighttime.

My husband blamed me for everything saying it’s all my fault those girls are becoming bad , the truth is he is the one that has been spoiling them with expensive phones , tablets and designer clothings and pocket money , I was against him pampering them so much because I knew it will become to this but he has always told me he work hard for his children to have better things and now they had become bad , he has put all the blames on me forgetting that it’s all his faults. We are not in talking terms for three weeks and he is not eating my foods anymore. The whole things just give me headaches and sleepless night, it’s almost 3am I can’t sleep my head want to explode with too much thinking

Pls take charge of your emotions before you go berserk

Your daughter and husband will live their life while you will be depressed for their attitude of not wanting to understand your position

Sit both if them down and talk to them

Juvenile in children is intoxicating to them

They are at their pick for now and all they want is exploring

Pls keep your cool and interrogate them in separate period

Don't be supprise it may be your daughter that lured her to what they are doing

Keep counselling them until you achieve your desired result

As for hubby, wake him up at midnight and resolve your differences, don't accept full responsibility but be firm and accomodating in this sensitive issue

Don't cry over it, once they see you cry, you will keep crying because they don't know what you are going through searching for another pregnancy and handling your daughter whom is getting herself exposed

Assuming she is in her early teens, I will say send her home to a family tgat can handle her but if you do that now, that's the end, you will lose your grip

Tell her the dangers in engaging in sex because of hiv

If she really wants to do music, she has to combine it with university education so that she will still be educated and still go into music

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DonFreshmoney:
But why must the keke man hit his car. Let's forget his position for now. (Policeman or not).. if he was to have jambed the keke man, his other keke friends would rush you to even lynch you.

Let's talk true small

You see this keke drivers, they can frustrate you and your car if you should follow them the way they react when they eat your car

For the fact that he is know DPO it's enough reason why he shouldn't have engaged into fighting

Sex is not something to manage, if you are hot in bed and love sex, look for a hot partner

Men, once your wife complains about your inability to satisfy her do the needful and improve on it

Once she taste it outside that's when she will prefer the outside one to the inside one

Women are made for men specifically for sex satisfaction

Am glad they were burn but why burning the vehicle too

They stole the vehicle naw, not there own, Haba

Brandonx:
My Ex- girlfriend who just got married recently (arrangée marriage) still calls and chats with me.

When we parted ways I severed ties with her completely. Few months later she called and texted at first I ignored but after a while I decided to reply her messages and take her calls.

We talked about so many things that happened in the past. She came visiting, we were cool until she traveled back and started acting funny.

I ignored her got into a relationship. She somehow knew about it and she went berserk.
So I stopped communicating with her.

After a few months she called and sent text as usual, we started talking again as my new relationship wasn't too serious.

She requested for my recent pictures, we made video calls. Little did I know she was getting married in a few weeks. I sent her a congratulatory message and she was surprised.

Few weeks after the wedding she called we spoke at length, at a point I asked about the husband, she quickly changed the topic and I also observed she wasn't too comfortable, I told her I was about leaving the house , we should probably talk some other time .
She then said " you asked about my husband, he's fine " I then told her to extend my greetings, her reply was " who do I tell him sent his greetings".
I think we still have feelings for each other.

Give her time to settle down

With time, you will know if she is still comfortable with you

You may still have feelings because it doesn't just go away like that

NaijaOlosho:
A man has been arrested by the Police after giving someone a dirty slap that led to his death in Akwa the capital city of Anambra State.

The incident happened yesterday night at Abakeleke street Awka (club zone), in the photos below, the guy in the red T-Shirt slapped the other guy and he died. No one knows what exactly transpired, but this could likely be due to a misunderstanding between them.

A Facebook user Benneth Odife took to his page to share the incident and wrote:



https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1225422347656450&id=100005660881733

The same hand and anger he would have controlled to avoid him going to jail

FactBoyz:
I am sure that if it were Akinwunmi Adesina the brainy Yoruba genius that visited, nobody would have recognised him.. Nigerian Youths don't value some things.. They prefer to roll with Naira Marley than Chimamanda

The student in question doesn't even know that such a name exist

They are more into musician and actors

As role models

Benwallt:
Lasisi? Never heard of it. I am not sure it is on sale in Benin here. I will look for it anyway, I just hope you are serious

Yeah, is LAZIZ oil, no matter what, it doesn't sleep inside the fridge if you cook stew with it 5 liter is 3300 in Lagos and can be used for 3 months depending on the size of family