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Mispreeti:
Please I need your advice.

My sister is at the hospital with one of her twins who is seriously ill and I'm in her house taking care of the other twin. I have been here for a week and her husband has been disturbing me for sex. I refused but he is not listening. He touched me while I was asleep and I felt it then I immediately woke up. He pretends to be covering the baby sleeping beside me. I told him i will report him to my dad in the morning. He has apologised and promised not to do it again but I know he is lying because this is not the first time it has happened since I came here.

I can’t go back to sleep and I'm afraid if I close my eyes and sleep, he will come again.

Please should I report him to my dad or give him another chance?

Take that child to your parents house and stay there till your sister needs you back with the child

You can't blame him, he is use to every day sex with your sister and he is finding it difficult to cope and you are just there so he has to loose respect and make that silly move

When you get to your family, discuss this issue with your parents alone

AutoPhone:
I studied Philosophy and we were not thought there is no God! Why we might not be comfortable to call him God, (after all everything and human needs a name to identify with) we know that the world didn't birth itself (We don't believe that evolution rubbish too) but we no there is a supreme force that technology holds the world or makes things work, this we call Supreme Being or Nature as the case may be.


Thanks.

In as much as you tried to explain to me how you guys feels when such issues comes up

Who is that supreme being

Rosskiye:
Your ''business'' with Maiduguri is that 3/4 of the food you consume comes from the North!!!!!!

Therefore it makes perfect sense to build a rail system that facilitates cheaper and faster transportation of farm products, livestock, and other items, leading to lower costs for YOU, the consumer.

That is the ''business'' you have with Maiduguri!!!!

You have forgotten that it's the head quarters of Boko Haram

It will take them a train ride to invade us

MrNipplesLover:
you shall live long.

Thanks dear and you too

The moment these thieves knows that it's an instant death they will think twice

But since the court will be doing forward and backward, they hope to go to jail and come out harder because they can't cope in any other area than crime

emidika:
PLEASE FELLOW NAIRA LANDER KINDLY ASSIST, MY LITTLE HAVE THIS BELOW SSCE RESULT, WHAT CAN SHE BE ABLE TO USE IT For?

CRS= A1
GOVT= C4
LIT IN ENG= D7
CIVIC EDU= B3
ENGLISH= C6
MATHS= B2
BIOLOGY= B3
COMPUTER= A1
COSMETOLOGY=C6.

She really needs your advice pls.b4 now she wanted to do law but help check anything she can do with the above result. Regards.

Assuming she has lit Eng, credit she can ho for law but let her do psychology, sociology, political science and education courses

She should not do philosophy she will be brain washed that there is no God

daddytime:
What?

Such a brazen and clear case of extrajudicial killing.

No matter their crimes, having been apprehended alive, the suspects sure deserved their days in court.

I hope human right orgs will take up this case, and hold someone accountable for this barbarism.

How many of such cases have been taken to court and get quick judgment

This is the best form of judgment

The quickest, at least it will save the cost of feeding them in prison

This is what we want instant judgement once there is prove

proclinician:
If you're working in a bank in a managerial position they make some provisions for you like accommodation, official car, computers and others. However, when you quit your job or ur ass gets fired, it's statutory under the contractual law of torts that you relinquish and vacate from all official properties that have been handed over to you. It's just common sense which unfortunately here, requires quality education to activate. The woman should return the least biro.

Honestly, their is no single sense in the above statement

Work is different from marriage

If you insist, then let him pay her for the number of times he sleeps with her only if he can count it

If she was to be a prostitute she can afford to buy those fans and still take care if her self with the proceed

If you continue to think like that shameless man, don't be surprise you will do same

Chikaaaaaa:
He is the one responsible and the one raping me for 2 years since my grand mother dies I don’t want to marry him because he is not good he is my late mother brother how we marry it can’t be possible anytime I don’t want him to sleep with me he will beat me and lock me outside of the house because I have nowhere to go I will beg him to let me inside to sleep with me I’m not happy I want to leave his place

In as much as I feel about your situation, I don't believe that your mother's family relations are not aware of this incedent

He continues to have you until you expose him

Worst case he will drive you out of his house but at least the community will know that he is the father of your child

He is not at lost for this but you

Have you ever thought of what the effect of you having children from him yet he won't marry you

Report him, if he chases you out others will take you in

Stingy and hopeless man, fan is his greatest assets

emonkey:
I have this situation of infestation by tiny brown ants and they are everywhere but more . Leave a bit of food on the table of kitchen and they soon cover it up. Annoying thing is that they find their way into chairs and beds and bite you painfully. Please suggest how I may completely eliminate these pests from my house. They can drive someone nuts.

Once the membership of that house will drop left overs every where, ants will be their guests

Keep the house clean and remove biscuits and other sugary things away from them

Orikinla:
Almost all the sources we interacted with agreed that there are four Children instead the two popularly shown by the press. They also confirm that the known children of Mr President Ariwera Adolphus Jonathan and Aruabi Jonathan are not biological children! Both of them were adopted after the couple have waited several years to no avail to have children. DavidChuks Blog got across to a native of Otuoke who didn’t want his name in print to confirm these story. The man confirmed indeed that Mr President has not TWO but FOUR children to his name: two adopted and two biological albeit not through First Lady Dame Patience Jonathan.

Further investigation revealed that about five four years after the wedding with no issue forthcoming, His Excellency Goodluck Jonthan came under tremendous pressure to dump his wife. He resisted well until the daughter of a reknowned Lawyer and former Bayelsa State Attornesy General’s Chief F.D. LOTT came into the picture. The matter was not helped at all by the hawks from the Presidents side, who kept insisting that Goodluck Jonathan must try other options. Eventually, Jonathan succumbed and the relationship blossomed. It produced two boys. A desperate Patience still fought on for her husband’s love and later she succeeded in convincing Jonathan to keep the children but not the woman. All this was before the President’s foray into politics. When Jonathan became the Deputy Governor, the lady tried to muscle her way back to Jonathan’s heart using her two sons as a bargaining chip to tie Goodluck’s hand but she met a resolute Jonathan and a fiery patience.


That was how the idea to adopt came. Ariwera Adolphus Jonathan and Aruabi were adopted in Port Harcourt(some Sources say Lagos) from a Motherless babies home. Meanwhile Lotts daughter relocated permanently to Yenagoa in the hope of a reconciliation with the Jonathan’s. By now. Jonathan was the Executive Governor of Bayelsa State and the First Lady Dame Patience Jonathan started to throw her weight around and make life difficult for the lady. As news got to Jonathan concerning the sorry state of the mother of his biological children, he quickly rallied and sent her to the United States of America with her boys and they been there since then. Her father who was appointed a member of the governing council of Niger Delta University in Bayelsa serves as a Liaison between her and the president.

Source: Dr David Chux.O.
Abuja, Federal Capital Teritory, Nigeria
Dr David Chukwumelugaba is a prolific writer,Activist, Blogger, Web developer, Business Consultant resident in Abuja Nigeria.Follow me on Twitter: David Ozoko @ Dr David Official.
http://davidchuks..com/2013/08/disclaimer-this-story-is-not-about.html

What's the big deal about him adopting children whom their biological parents can't afford to keep

The most important thing is that those kids now have a permanent home and they are all leaving happily

Only few men lije Jonathan will do that just for him to have peace at home

TheMaidDepot:
Which of the convenience should a father who is alone in public with his daughter who need to use the convenience take his child to: Ladies or Gent?

He should just look for an open but close place and she will bend down and ease herself once a girl child is upto 2yrs, she can pull her pants down to wee

His father will just hang around for her protection

And if the child is above 5 yrs, she should be accompanied to the ladies, yet the dad will stay by the door side to time her

So what do you want us to do to the women

To sill their lips with supper glue ir what

Every woman has the nagging inborn with them

It's only when things dies work out that they bring it out
. Be transparent, open and protective of your wife, she will limit her miuThat is to say, it is about seven months that I have not seen her. We only talk on the phone,” he said. “I know the importance of her coming to stay in Lafia for some period of time, to take care of the new born baby whose mother is late. I thought it was my own responsibility to help my son-in-law and the new baby of my late daughter. So, I allowed my own wife to come and help.” Then he turned to you and asked rhetorically: “Is that an offence?”

You asked how he learnt about the abominable news. His words: “Two weeks ago, a friend ran into my wife in Lafia and called to tell me that he saw her with bulging stomach. I was speechless with shock and asked, how come? I didn’t want to believe it or confront her on the phone. She has been here since June last year. I decided to visit them to also see how the little boy is doing. I was coming with so much joy, not knowing that I was coming to meet disaster waiting for me. When I got to the house of my son-in-law, I met the shock of my life as I saw my own wife with a protruding stomach. I stood transfixed to the spot as I looked at her, trying to recall if there was any time she told me she was pregnant but I could not remember.

“I quickly asked my wife what happened and she broke down and confessed that Mr. Chori seduced her and they had sex and it became frequent and the result was the pregnancy. She started begging me for forgiveness. She said that she actually allowed him to have his way as a way of checking her fertility status and it turned out to be this way and that she refused to abort it because she has spent 10 solid years with me without a child. She said it is almost getting late as she is no longer getting younger. She pleaded with me not to cause her any embarrassment or disgrace by exposing her to ridicule and shame. She actually begged me to handle the matter in a mature way, but I’m yet to get out of the shock seeing my own wife impregnated by my own son-in-law. My anger knows no bounds. If it were during my days as a military man, I would have used my gun to kill the two of them. But if I do that now, I will be taking the law into my hands. What I will do now is to go back to Taraba. I have asked my wife not to come back to my house. As for Christopher Chori, I leave him to his conscience.”


Chori’s side of the story and battle with conscience

That, Christopher Chori insists, is even a worse punishment than being killed as he doesn’t know how to deal with the continuous tugging of his conscience. For him, it would have been better if Kwange had used the military-issued rifle he was talking about to kill him outright. It would have shortened the emotional trauma he is going through right now.

His story: “After the death and burial of my wife, my mother-in-law came to stay with me here in Lafia, to help look after the baby because my mother is no longer alive; she died many years ago. I work with one of the federal government agencies in Lafia. My younger sister who is equally staying with me is in SS2 and could not combine her studies with taking care of the baby. So my father-in-law asked his wife to come because his first wife who happens to be my real mother-in-law is late.

“I live in two-bedroom apartment. So when she came to take care of the baby with the assistance of my younger sister, I left one of the rooms for them to use while I stay in the other room but I come home regularly to check on them and to ensure that she does not lack anything especially when my younger sister is out in school.

“In the first one month of her stay with me, nothing happened but during the second month, which was July 2019, something happened that left me with so much guilty feelings. My sister went to school. I did not go to work that day, leaving me and my mother-in-law alone in the house. It rained the previous night all through and the weather was very cold. I was checking on them in their room to see how my newborn baby was doing. But when I opened the door, I was she will limit her mouth from running like a tap

Chikaaaaaa:
Yes I need a job and a place to stay please my uncle is the father of my baby I have no report him to anybody apart from my friend and people of here he is single no other uncles or aunties my grand mother dies

I thought you said you were raped, as in you don't know who raped you

So your uncle is the father of your child and you don't want to repot him to your Kins men
. Why not tell him to marry you and both of you will have kids and settle down as one family sinxw it's not a taboo in your place

If you leave his house he will bounce on your junior sister
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Be bold and discuss with your uncle because am sure that baby number 2 will start loading before this year runs out

Johnnyjohnnyman:
I’m 34 years old married with 3 kids, I’m an SSCE holder. I used to work as a chauffeur for this wealthy family for 8 years have been with this family and we become like a family , unfortunately my job ended last year July when my boss relocated his family to Canada because he is a kind hearted man and he compensated me with 300k to start up biz. I did not want my wife to know that my job has ended so I spoke with my elder sister , who is a business woman, she lives in Benin republic to help me with ideas of a profitable biz that will help me to still be able to foot in the bills , she suggested clothing biz and requested 200k for the goods , I sent her the money the next day and she promised me that I will be receiving the goods in a month. I was relieved that soon I will start up something to still be of taking care of my family. My wife knew nothing about it because I did not want her to start worrying about taking all the responsibilities by her own because she developed blood pressure when she had our last child , telling her about my job would have affected her health . I taught when I receive the goods by then she will not feel bad. I kept leaving the house as usual in the morning, just like I was going to work for my wife not to suspect anything. To cut the long story short my sister duped and blocked me , haven’t heard from her since and my wife came to know about everything , she sent my niece (my sister daughter )out of our house and she has been making life miserable for me. She doesn’t respect me ,even my children have no single respect for me. I know that I have wronged her by not informing her about the money but it was a mistake which I’m regretting till now , I can’t forgive myself but the pain and the insults I receive from her every single day , it’s unbearable. I cry every day with no hope , I go out every day searching for jobs and coming back late in the evening when she is already in bed to avoid being insulted by her and I leave early morning before she wakes up, I sleep in the parlour , she gives me food whenever she want , sometimes she only prepare for just her and the kids. Our rent expired on December I suggested that she shouldn’t renewed it , so she can use the money for the kids school fees meanwhile we can move back to my mother house till I can get back on my feet , she insults me including my poor mother, just because I’m poor and she foot all the bills , she doesn’t want to respect me anymore. I was thinking about moving back to my mother house until I get a job then I can move back with her again because living in the same house with her is leading me to suicide . I kindly seek for your advice

You know what, I suggest you sit her down and talk with her if by any chance, you have misbehaved to her in anyway while you are working, then it's the reason for her reactionsif she is not making the house habitable for you

Move to your mother house and have a sign of relieve then start the thinking of the way forward for you

As for your sister who blocked you after sending money to her, inform your family about it

If she agrees, you can move to cotonou and see if the grass s greener there

Then if she doesn't want you to BFF stay with her, get back your money from her and start with okada driving within your locality where its not banned

Gradually you will get back to your feet

Don't get yourself bothered about what people will say ie think about you, you owe them no explanation

Loooooooogstory:
I must say I am seriously concerned about advice most people profere when it comes to marriages that seems to be going through trials and tribulations.

Most comment will be quick to suggest a woman leave a marriage without considering the influence it has on the kids (both in academics and societal relationship) when they grow up.

But when it's a man's case, these people don't suggest the man leave the marriage or Union. But the thing is, Nairaland is supposed to be a problem solving platform and not a problem creating arena.

It's better a woman walks away from violent and abusive marriage than remains there a suffer domestic violence from husband yet get killed

A man can also divorce or walk away is same is happening to him the era of because of my children has gone, so many women died reasoning that way yet left the children because of her death

Marriage is meant to be a play ground for man and woman where love rules and the absence of love with happiness is as good as staying on your lane

Goldenheart:
corpers 33k
Minimum wage 30k

I doubt the reality of the corpers

What is our business with Maiduguri

Why not build to lagos

Hope they lectured them on safety measures

Jeffmonti:
About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help!

This might turn out to be a lengthy read, please bear with me. The bashing and insults will be unnecessary as i have already told myself hurtful things a thousand times over.

So i am 29 and have a girlfriend who’s 25 we are both graduates; she’s a nurse and i am a practicing engineer and we’ve been dating for 3+ years now and preparations are underway to tie the knot this year God willing. Something happened last year, she suggested i move to a bigger apartment so that we can start buying household items and everything necessary to start a home as we are looking to get married soon which we did; i got a bigger place, met her parents she met mine. In a nutshell everything seems to be going well, we even started a business together and set to take on the future together before the devil struck (i take blames for my actions as i am not overly religious)

Around June last year, i met a girl (very fine girl) in the new area i moved to, although i have been seeing the girl around but one day as i was driving in i saw her hiding somewhere close to my compound avoiding the rain with her friends so i took them in until the rain subsided we exchanged contacts and started texting on WhatsApp a few days later. And soon after we started having sex (protected sex), prior to that time i never cheated on my girlfriend.

The sex continued, up to 2 times a week sometimes 3 as it was relatively easy as she lived very close and my girlfriend only visits on the weekend and never sleeps out (she’s from a very good and wealthy family with proper moral upbringing). Most evenings when return from work conji just do me one kind i don cross street other times she calls until we became comfortable having unprotected sex

So late October 2019, the new girl (I’ll call her Lola) texted me that’s she’s not feeling too well and i asked her to visit the hospital to run a test to know what to treat. She came back with a pregnancy test result proving she’s already 3 weeks pregnant, i was sure it was mine but i didn’t panic as she had a bf and i have my gf we were just for the sex at least that’s what we told each other.

So i asked her to remove the pregnancy, but got the shocker when she said she’s never going to remove the pregnancy that she’s 27 and have no desire to marry me or stay with me but she’s going to have the child. Omo my heart flipped. I begged her for like 3 weeks until she got mad and stopped taking my calls, she even moved away from her apartment. So i texted her and arranged a meeting, we sat down and discussed at length but she was still bent on keeping it, i got furious and told her i am not ready to be part of the child’s life if she’s going through with it as i see no reason why she wants to have my child when she knows we are NEVER going to be together, that was when she said she had already told her family that i am not interested in the child and they support her to keep it and let the child bear their family name. I discussed the matter with two friends a boy and a girl and the asked me to let her have the child first.

One month passed fast forward to early December, Lola called 6 times i was so shocked. I couldn’t take her calls. She texted that she’s ready to terminate the pregnancy since i am wicked and unconcerned she rained all manner of derogatory words but i was only concern with her decision to let go. I called and we agreed to meet the following day, I skipped work that day and met with her and her elder sister and elder sister’s friend. The sister and her friend were so mean but i was unmoved; i don already fuckup and ready to take anything to let it all go away because the knowledge of things will destroy my girlfriend.

So Lola entered my vehicle and we drove out, on our way to the hospital for her to terminate the pregnancy plus treatment she’ll take afterwards and for the damages i have caused her. She’s going to need 150k from me, i was furious and told her i don’t have that kind of money talk less of handing it over to her for something like this (i sure don’t know what i cost but i know it’s not up to 50k). She said if i don’t give her what she want she’s going to have the baby and that i should be thankful that she’s coming up with this that if she had listen to her friends advices she would have moved to my house with all sort of troubles (she was right) but i didn’t give in just yet. I dropped her off and ask her to have the child that am not going to give her the money as i don’t have it (I get the money sha).

So two days passed, she called again and after many arguments we agreed at 100k, made her to sign a NDA not to bother me again and all, I transferred her the 100k that night, she confirmed receipt and promised to go with it the following morning and that was the last I have heard or seen or her since then, until 3 weeks ago when another of her sister called from Canada and was asking if i am Me, that she’s been seeking my contact for a while now that Lola friend had to steal the number Lola’s phone and pass it to her as Lola has been hiding my phone number from the rest of the family and she doesn’t know the arrangement i have had with her but i should know that she’s having the child, she just thought i should know that i have a child somewhere when the baby eventually drops.

Knowing fully well that i am a shitty person to have done something terrible to myself and my girlfriend and all our future plans because of cheap sex, but I’ll be a more terribly bad person to have knowledge of a child somewhere and not be in his/her life. I called Lola but she didn’t take i texted her about her sisters call she called back to know who called and was furious, she ended the call (I guess to call her sister back) and called back again in about 20mins and asked me not to ever call her line again. I replied her text she should tell her family not call me as well. I have dodged to her apartment building a coupe times but she’s not been around for weeks as i was made to believe.

So i bought a ring to engage my girl few weeks ago but had to hold first to see how things play out, i can’t go ahead and marry my girlfriend with this kind of secret untold; that will be wickedness from the pit of hell and i still don’t know how to break it to her, it will destroy her.

I jokingly painted a similar scenery to my girlfriend; her response was: she will not marry me because if she does she will kill me in my sleep. That everybody is expecting us to get married this year, she now have high respect from her family because of me and this kind of thing happens both of us will die. Omo fear catch me.

Fellow Nairalanders, this is my predicament please advice a stupid brother. Insults are welcome as I hope to pick a thing or two from your comments. MODs please push this up biko.

I suggest you tell her, be sorber and remorseful if you really are

She will be made at you and can go gaga, but calm her down and assure her it's a mistake and you can't explain how it all started

She will inform her family and its left for you to clear the mess before her family and assure them that you don't intend having Lola as your wife but their daughter

If they pardon you, good luck and if they don't, take a break and come back to her again

You have really break her heart and she will be bittered about it

If at the end it doesn't work out, you ha e to bear it

As for Lola, let her have her baby if she wishes

Go and start looking for another woman

But I bet you, only God will guarantee you of your happiness in this triangle you have put yourself into

You see ehh, I try look at robbers pictures to find out if they were born differently or have a particular features that makes them stealing

But I see nothing on them to identify such

Does it mean that their parents would have use 200 condom to save the entire family and nation of their embarrassment

Casemiro:
So this man has never visited the village for over 11 years only to visit this past December and the unexpected happened!

He was successful and had cars. He started the foundation of a duplex in the village and I guess this is where the envy became unbearable.

I heard they 'knack him jazz', and his left leg has swollen.

There are different hospitals they have taken him to but no remedy.

one doctor advised them to go spiritual about the situation, that he probably stepped on a jazz.

The pitiful thing is that someone claimed this jazz is sold for as little as #20.

Yes, you heard that right, twenty naira!

Once they are not progressing or progressive

They pull down anyone trying to progress in as mysh as that person is not their biological child

Daumandu:
Can This Lead To The Downfall Of Someone?

I just moved in to a bigger city and a better and bigger apartment. I co-rented a flat with a middle aged man.

Now here is the problem, in my business at least in a week, I attend to nothing less than 20 clients but since one month I moved to this apartment I have not seen a single client.

Any day I do my digital marketing I am sure to see at least 10 to 20 enquires but since a month I moved to the apartment no body ever chatted me up for business.

Today I had to withdraw the last 5k in my account. The least amount I ever had in my account was 20k now I only have 500. I am someone that always enjoy the grace of God in my business but now its as if heaven has turned it's back against me. I am seriously thinking of leaving the apartment.

Any Advice?

there are some buildings with a particular design of fancy block, very visible close to the roof

The designed fancy block is just one and it's moulded like a prawn, I was made to believe that any house like that is a society house

That you will pack in there but come out with poly bag

My dear once you have noticed the nose diving of your business since you packed into there, the house could be a society house

Before things gets out if hand, move out temporarily fix yourself with someone else where and see if things can get better then make your observations in your transaction discussion if you are having clients or is still the same thing

If things improve, your next visit it to go there and pack your belongings

bamangar:
Story shared on Twitter by @the_onismate

I was talking with a friend few days back and he said anytime I'm ready to get married, I shouldn't marry any woman from a very rich family with so much attachment to her family. I asked why, he began narrating his wedding journey ordeal.
He's about to wed his woman. He only has N4m but intends spending N150 (court wedding and then feeding the 50 guests they are inviting. Then use N2m for honeymoon in Dubai. But bride no gree. She wants a big wedding.

Upcoming wife said either a big wedding or nothing. And her estimate for the big wedding is N5m.
Upcoming wife said if my guy can't bring out money for the big wedding, she would meet her dad for support. Well, she came from a rich family, her dad will be willing to roll out the cash. But my guy has refused. It would be a crash and dent on his image for upcomingwife to request money from her dad for their wedding.
Few closed family & friends had asked him to yield to up-coming wife's demands for her dad to sponsor the wedding. But my guy said from inception of the relationship, any slightest challenges, she always runs to her dad for solutions and he doesn't like it. He wants to start limiting her going to her parents to seek for solutions to every problems they have.

The girls parents are willing to foot wedding bills just to give their daughter her dream wedding. My guy has refused. Wedding preparations is on hold. My guy no gree, upcoming wife and her rich family no gree.

https://mobile.twitter.com/The_Onismate/status/1222036512394620928

He has two options

Either he sponsors the wedding at his own budget, stand on his feet without assistance from his inlaw, take full possession on his marriage but should not limit his wife from going to her family, that is not done in any way

Let his wife keep visiting hus family for help one day he will relocate far from them or his wife will be tired of going there for advice

Or he should meet his inlaw, do their bidding on how they want the wedding to be, follow them like sheep and after the wedding, he will remain their puppet and a pushover forever

BOYLOVABLE1:
A lady send me a friend request on facebook since early last year which I accepted, from there we started chatting.

According to her that she's from India and she will love to marry, we talked a lot. I asked her so many questions about her and she said so many things that she a single mother.

After two months she went off and I also moved on. Just last week Friday, she appears again telling me that her account was hacked.

She has been sending me pictures also request for mine which I did send, she send both nude pics.

On Friday she also wants me to send mine which I declined. After much persuasion, I sent her my nude, she insisted that she wants to see my full unclad pic.
To cut the story shorter, immediately I sent her my full unclad pic, the next thing I saw was:

"You dey craze, I resemble your mate?". I should better comply or else....
When she is through with me I will know my myself.

I just weak, immediately I blocked her on Facebook. I think she wants to use my unclad pic to scam me. She has been calling me but I refuse to pick the call.

Please what will i do?

Don't mind mind my English construction.

Block her from everything including means of communication

Let her go ahead and publicise it it can only reign for 48hrs

This time around don't accept any friend request on Facebook, it could be her using another means

Don't ever send nude pictures and don't request from anyone

If you want to see nude pictures, go to pone sight and feed your eyes

portplus:
He from a very poor background.

Earning living is key. The plan is to put the car to commercial use after fixing it.

God will provide helper for him

naijacentric:
mumu go to sleep u well so na me put u n ur family for bondage, ritualist like you.

It takes a ritualist to detect one

APOPTOSIS:
Don't you think when you start dealing with him at HOME, he will have another reason to get the SECOND WIFE you have always detested..?

Provided a MAN has money he can always get married at any AGE...

Provided am an independent woman, I can survive without him

Let him get a second wife, he would have trained my kids and they would have grown

If he gets a second wife, he will train those ones children with old age me I would have balanced and watch him stressing himself training those kids if he thinks getting a second wife will make me sad

chiemmanuel:
I give my mother monthly allowance, she also works, anytime she requests for extra money, I try my best to make sure I give it to her, the problem is she keeps asking for money from others, and when they ask of me, she tells them that I rarely give her money

My uncle and aunt had called me to enquire, why i don't take care of her, i had to print my statement of account, for them to see,
Meanwhile I asked my mother, she denied it

She doesn't seem to stop, I don't want it to look that I am neglecting her, I have other dependants also.

PLEASE HOW DO I HANDLE THIS SITUATION WITHOUT CAUSING PROBLEMS

Very simple

Those she reported to that you don't give her money and also denies getting money from you, hence Fort, they are now your witness

Whenever she makes any financial request, give to them she will be going there to collect it from them if that won't work, stop sending money to her through online, go to bank pay across the counter and keep the teller

Get an exercise book note every transaction and date with the teller stapled to each page that you wrote it down

Just keep it as prove of payment

Nonsense, why is she behaving like that, and you said she is your mother

naijafinder:
I am planing on getting married to my Fiancee Ishan Girl, we have dated for more than 2 years. And we have done introduction and planing to get married. I am really worried about getting married to this lady because after our marriage she will be in another city and can only visit my house (Matrimonial home) only for two days during weekend because of her newly secured job in Irrua as a Nurse.

She is an Ishan (Esan) Lady and i am from Delta state but reside in Benin City.

She stays in Irrua Edo state and i reside in Benin City, we are both two hours apart. Her family house is just 45 mins away in Irrua from her place of work in Ishan (Esan).

My major concern is, i will prefer us as partners to be together with our future kids. As it's now if we eventfully get married the kids we certainly be in the lady home town with her family while i am in Benin City expecting to see my wife only at weekend when she is off duty And seeing her doesn't mean i will be able to see my kids often since they will be taken care off or being breastfeed by her or being going to school there.

Note: Her government Job was secured by her Father which am not against. And Beside i have a good Job as an Engineer who travels for work once in a while.

[b]Guys please i really need your advice on this issue. [/b]Should i proceed to marry a lady that will distance away from me for more than 20 years due to her job, because transfer is not guarantee and it could take 4-6 years to work out.

My major concern, its best couples brings up a child to together instead of just the mother. I dont want my kids to see me as their uncle.

Left for me, I don't see why you are bothering your self

She got a job and resides in her state

If you think you can handle the family alone, ask her to resign and move in with you after marriage but don't complain of her not being helpful in supporting the family financially

Some married couples are living 8 hrs far from each other and yet they made it

My advice, get an accommodation and for now settle where she works, weekends go to her and on Mondays leave early to work Fridays get back to her

But bear in mind if you want full control of your marriage and a firm grip,

Pay the house rent she is living

Provide as expected of a married man

Make that house your home and get a room in your own area where you can stay from Monday to Thursday night

With this, you are still in charge and that solves the problem

Just two hours apart is not an issue

You can even be going to work from there as the case maybe

Most of us in lagos stays 2hrs on the road to get to office

So it makes no difference

nigeriagospel:
I have a very brilliant boy of 10 years old heading to jss1 next year.

My plan is, I don't want him to "fed" with just our usual terminologies style educational system that makes many people have nothing to show for their schooling years except knowing to speak English and a certificate alone as skills seems to be the main thing now especially (digital)

My plan is to register him in an IT hub where he can learn programming or a specialise school where he can learn cinematography (music video directing) and also introduce him to YouTube as a good source of learning all these aside the physical institution.

I plan to execute my plan by letting him get the training during holidays instead of the normal lesson and or maybe make him enrol for junior waec from jss2 while he uses one year to acquire the skill before heading to SS 1 .

How good is this plan parents in the house?

I just want him to have a direction at an early age, as in having fun while learning ,I plan to get him some gadget for that.

Pls don't rush that boy

You are about exposing him too early to things that may affect him academically

What's the rush for

What makes you think doing junior waec in jss 2 is the best for him

My advice, leave him to grow as expected of him

During long vacation, engage him with a skill

Don't phantom what will distabilise both of you

honestman1987:
pls, I need advice concerning this issue I am presently going through.
we have been courting for more than three years we did introduction last year and we fixed our wedding for February 2020.
recently my mother called me that a prophet told her that i should not marry her that she is not my wife and that if i go ahead something terrible might happen. please, people, give advice on what to do.

Where is your God, go yo him in prayers and he will answer and put everything right

No amount of advice will give you the desired answer, except prayers