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Benwallt:
This oil is the best anyway. I can't cook without it, honestly

You need to try LAZIZ oil then comeback and tell me the difference

It's her life, her sex and any man she choses

What's our business, she can, even at the bustop

Lecturers should understand that the kind of discipline you want to put in a child at a university age is as good as teaching the child to start learning how to write with the left hand at that stage

They can hang up against her and waste her

A woman for that matter

How does doing that benefits increases that guys GP

Prosper82:
I Feel Like My Marriage Is Falling Apart

I would like in advance to apologize for the long post but I think some background information is needed so you can assess the situation.

My wife and I have two kids. The oldest is turning 8 soon and the youngest is 7 months old.

Since our first child was born she has been co-sleeping with us. And ever since our sex life has been going down hill.

Now since our youngest child was born he has also been sleeping with us in a queen sized bed. But after two months of very poor sleep, I decided I couldn't follow that arrangement anymore so I went to sleep in the next room.

So since our kids were born my wife has been sleeping with them and now I sleep alone.

As you could imagine, you can't really have sex with two kids on the bed. We have gone weeks and even months without having any sex.
So my wife says that we should have sex in the room where I sleep after she puts the children to sleep.

This to me sounds like making an appointment to have sex. It isn't something you can have if you have to set up a time in advanced. I also miss cuddling with her and sleeping in our bed.


I feel like us sleeping in different rooms and beds has been the biggest hurdle to get back to the point we were before having kids.

We have a crib for the baby and a bed for our oldest daughter where each of the children could sleep separately but she's into attachment parenting so if the children cry (which I suppose they will when adapting to a new sleeping arrangement) is something that she wouldn't tolerate.

I also I understand the 7 month old might need to be breastfed in the middle of the night so she says it's more convenient just to have him nearby in bed than having to get up to breastfeed him but I feel that my daughter should be learning to sleep independently.

Anyway, it's been quite a while without sex and I don't know what to tell her or do.
We have a lot of fights because of this.

I feel that attachment parenting might feel like you're doing the best for the kids, but if it also ends up destroying the marriage and we separate what good would that do for them?

What do you guys think?

In this case, I think she is more into the child than than you

She is taking it too extreme and not really to your benefits

If she doesn't really like having sex with you all the time, it's time she let you know so that you can adjust or sort yourself

Men generally loves sex unlike women

Sir her down and let her know that the tactics she is using the kids sleeping mode or pattern to starve you, is affecting your marriage

That she is depriving you of her body and you have endured enough

That if she continues this way, you will sort yourself but she will have herself to blame in whichever way or dimensions it takes

Meanwhile, the other room should be painted to a colour and decorated for your children, get a Teddy bear of different types for your daughter she will have her Teddy bear sleeps with her, get beautiful bed sheets that will make the room lovely looking for her, girls likes flashy things

Tell her that your are decorating a room for her and her brother so that they can have their own room and when their friends comes around, they can have a private place to play with them

Ask her to list what she wants to be in that room because that where she will be sleeping

You can even paint the room to a cartoon character called princes Sofia, she is a lovely girl character in cartoon

With time she will get use to it, when it is sleep time, learn to be in love, take her their, sleep with her and leave the room when she is in deep slepp, as time goes on she will understand that levels have changed

Your son will soon grow up to join him but he too can still sleep with her and mum in the children room and she can sneek out to your room if he wakes up to look for her you too be ready to bring him to his mum for cuddling

These are roles meant for couples to bond and put the children to sleep

Even if your son refuses to sleep their, give him time, boys like sucking breast even when sleeping so the mum is always needed

With time he too will grow up to join the sister

These are all the things you will discuss with your wife and put it in place and if after this she doesn't cooperate, then she has something in her arsenal

And you won't be blamed for any action you take

Women are manipulative by nature amd always knows her to get their way when it comes to family settings

They understand the home front and knows when to take advantage, that's just their nature

izospindle:
A Friend Wanted Me To Lend Him Money I Told Him This. Am I Wrong?

So a friend of mine told me that his girlfriend is about to lose her admission, because school fee deadline is tomorrow. He asked me to lend him 70k.

I know how he loves this girl so I asked him to fill a form before I give him the money. Am I wrong for doing that?

He started saying a whole lot of things and has not spoken to me since. Note this is half of all my savings and I have a purpose for this particular fund just that the time has not come.

Advice is needed please

Telling him to fill a form is telling him that you have it but needed a commitment before giving him the money

How come he wants to borrow money to pay for his girlfriend school fees

What happens during registration and feeding, he will become a berger till she graduates

And then finally,, she will settle down with another man who didn't know the cross your friend carried for her

Is that the kind of friends you keep ❓

He didn't give you money to keep so you don't owe him, start withdrawing from him because you will be the one to finance both of them yet you Come out as an enemy

And stop giving people impression that you have money, learn to start complaining about money and they will stay away from you

Nonsense

Angelfrost:
It has always been here for decades...

The main issue here causing its spread is poor hygiene and living conditions of individuals and places affected.

What I expect government at all levels, community heads, and families to do is massive fumigation of residences and high risk areas... This spread can be put in check easily.

Lassa Fever is a terrible indictment on our overall living conditions as a people and nation.

Honestly

SipCoke:
I apologize for the long post... So the thing is, I am 22 years old currently in 200 level. My performance is very poor, in fact I'm currently on probation(I'm suppose to be in 300 level by now) and that's not because I'm not intelligent or I'm dull o. it's just that i don't show commitment towards my studies because I've completely lost interest in the course I'm currently studying because of its calculation aspect. I hate calculations a lot. Let me say, I'm more of a theory person. I have tried applying for change of course but i was denied maybe because of my poor performance. My Father doesn't know anything about this. "no issues at all Daddy, my result is good", my response whenever he asked me about my result.

So i have finally decided to apply for withdrawal from my current school to register and sit for jamb again. This time i will apply for a course in a different institution. This course in question is a course I've wanted to study long ago but my current school don't offer it. My friend studies it and I've done research on the course my self. I'm very sure i can do it this time.

Now i don't even know how to approach my father with this. I know I've fvcked up big time. The man will be so so annoyed and disappointed in me but i can't continue like this, i want to get things on track, i want to fix my life and start afresh. Right now I'm just confused and frustrated. Nairalanders, i will need your advice and suggestions. Please what's your take on this?

Am glad that you have discovered that you can't cope at thus early stage

When you get home, meet with your dad and discuss with him, if he is the one you are free with

If you are free with your mum, meet her in private and tell her what you have been passing through, she will advise you on how to present it to dad

But assure them of your good conduct always and promise them of a good grade to make up for the lost years

Forget about how others will react, you owe them no explanation

ecowas:
Grammartical error

Thanks, modified

mrbenjame:
I think I need matured minds to advice me because I’m very confused right now. Please take pains to read my story.

I dated a lady called Susan (not her real name ). For 4 years. I loved her so much and she did too. I met her when She was preparing to enter the university. 6 months into the relationship I went for service. Came back and it was already clocking 2 years. Whenever she visits I always try to make her comfortable. So she took advantage of my care and always wanted me to serve her all the time. Even when she visits from school she would be operating her phone and watch me do what on a normal terrain she should assist me do. As a young guy I try as much as I can to let her know that at least once in a while it would be nice to get my meal served by my woman even if I prepared it (since she doesn’t like entering the kitchen). Most time I overlook it because probably she’s very tired and all that. Sometimes I thought I was just being selfish but I really wanted to feel that woman attributes but I wasn’t seeing it.

Each time we fix time for a date she comes very late and that piss me off to my bone marrow. She never keeps to time. I endured this for a long time because she never turned up early in any appointment. She calls me at late hours and when I try to explain to her that it’s late she gets angry ( I’m talking of 12 am or there about) and I’ll go to work the next day. Anytime she offends me she would want to be romantic so I’d forget her wrongs just to calm me down. But I was suffering inside.

I felt very weak emotionally and decided to take things easy.

Until I met this lady called Benita (not her real name). I liked her. I admired everything about her. So I approached her while we were going back home from work. We had good conversations and I was happy because she was fun to be with. We exchanged contact and we started chatting. Forgive me because I became happy again just talking to her. Whenever we say goodbye when she gets off the bus she times when I’d get home and immediately I step my foot in my house she calls.( already I’ve told her when I’d be home). I invited her to a date in an eatery and she turned up 10 minutes to the time. I was shocked.

I became more involved with her. I invited her home. She went to my kitchen and she said “ your plates are not washed why? I just smiled and told her I’ll take care of that. Before I knew what was happening she’s started washing the plates. I begged her to stop because I didn’t send her to do that and besides it’s her first time in my house. But she refused. I let her (though the plates were not much but I was happy). She started visiting often with food items to cook. And I obliged to assist her. She refused again. We argued until she had her way. I just sit with her in the kitchen and gist while she cooks. To me I felt I was punishing her because all I wanted is that things of such can be done by her once in a while. (I sabi pity person o. Lols!). And secondly I’m not used to a woman doing things for me for a very long time now.

She calls all the time. Talks so lively and very funny. She’s not the miss romantic type but very smart and reserved.

After a while, you can’t cheat karma. Susan found out. She came to know about Benita. And since then it wasn’t easy settling between two of them. But Susan won’t just give up and I think I’m cool with Benita.

Today Benita is in her 100 level while Susan is about going for her service.

Now I’m trying to be responsible to settle down. I talked with my mum and some close friends of mine but they’re tipping Susan for me because she’s out of school and it would make things much easier for me than settling with Benita. But I love Benita now. She makes me happy. What do I do?

The major issue here is who makes you happy among the two women

Your love and happiness is what should concern you not who finished school and who just entered school

Beniter is going to be your best choice

She is ready to serve you as expected of a normal woman

You don't remind her of her domestic duty and she is willing to help

She is cool and her companionship with you makes you more relaxed

Susan is trying to prove to you that she is not a push over and can only do things when it's convinient for her not doing it as a duty or to please you

Be ready to be Susan's house boy on the long run

She is not a wife material

Build Beniter up now and enjoy her as a wife and mother of your children

She is ever ready to learn

Evil fish

Who brought this agains and how did this killer get into Nigeria again

ikorodureporta:
did he come to rape her?? She invited him

You think so ❓

Do you know that a man can misbehave just to have a woman

Babaheekmat:
That's not hijab.

It's more of a Jewish dressing code


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An igbo man.. Hmmm

Am average Igbo man is too busy for nonsense

ikorodureporta:
I blame d woman

Just give me your reason

dawnomike:
The length men go for sex is just sometimes insane...

It's getting out of hand with these generation

Honbright:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/punchng.com/court-stops-el-rufai-from-demolishing-abachas-hotel/amp/

If Abacha were to be alive, would he dare such

agwom:
https://www.dailytrust.com.ng/boko-haram-rejects-n50m-offer-beheads-abducted-adamawa-can-leader.html

They should give the money to the wife

He can't come back to life again but it will help her to move on

Those in Europe has an organised system, they are sure if their economy and can always plan ahead, but the ones here are nit even trusting any one neither are they sure of the economy

Everything depends on how organised a country or system is

Pls hope they added ikorodu round about to agric and mile 12

Its time for those crazy hausa men to go back to their state

They will be driving crazy as if they kept their original life at home but wearing the spare one's while driving like mad dogs

How could a human being be so callous and now he has killed her, someone who was dying slowly

He also lost his job

This devil is just wicked

Eating local rice with the fear of eating stone is the only problem I have with it

So those beast finally killed this man despite his gentle speech and all the praises he gave to those faceless cowards, that they are taking care of him

They should just put the man inside pot, spice him and cook him until he is soften enough for dogs to eat as their own sadine

Randy100:
Frozen70 it has happened now. I told you so.

May his soul rest in peace, I watch the video where he made a comment and ask Nigerians to look after his family

Those Boko Haram are real heartless

unangidot:
Op be very careful with ladies that reply ur gratitude.. they just want to show themself and make y to notice them..

You just made a senseless statement to show how myopic your thinking is and how shallow your brain is

Someone acknowledged my comment and I reciprocated, it started affecting you, why ❓

ufotty2001:
thnks

Thanks too

sonsolo:
Good morning landers.. I would go straight to the point and don't mind any typos..

I've been going out with my girlfriend for like 8months now and everything have been great all along. Then suddenly, I jokingly asked her if she has seen her period which she told me "NO".. She said she's supposed to see it last week and she's surprised nothing came. She's been sleeping carelessly these days and always complain of being tired..

We would be going to the hospital today for a check up but I still have my fears.. I had jokingly suggested we remove the pregnancy if its positive but she came up with her village culture thing that when you abort a pregnancy out of wedlock, that the father will die and any other person in her household and I was like " that's a superstition and doesn't hold any ground in 21st century" but she wouldn't listen..

I will be rounding up nysc by Feb/march while she's a 200L student in unical.. We are not ready for this baby and the news will shatter the both families, our church and friends around and notwithstanding, the news will definitely block my way as I already have my uncle working out a place for me to work in an offshore company immediately I finish my nysc...

Those from the ibo part of Nigeria, how true is this culture?? and what do you suggest we do at this point??. Though I'm praying it shouldn't be what we are thinking

She is already pregnant

You would have thought of these worries a d get a condom of 100 and save both of you from unwanted tension

Besides there is nothing like abortion and father death it's her own opinion

She wants to keep the baby then go ahead and give her the emotional support she will need

If you are not ready and she damages her womb in the process, do you think you will ever be allowed to have another woman ❓

Pregnancy is not a guarantee that you guys will marry

If it works our fine and of it doesn't work out, both of you will learn your lesson

Once you ha e accepted the responsibility that you are the owner of the pregnancy, all you need is each others support

What will be will definitely beif your uncle doesn't want to help you because of it, it means he never wanted to help you in the first place

BligsMiss:
Hi Everyone, please do away with my English I'm writing this from a sick bed.

My name is Aisha, 27 years from Nigeria. I meet this guy 4years ago when I was in school, when you see him, he's religious, he prays 5times daily, he's from a good family.infact he's the most religious in his family, everyone call him Alfa.

This is the number one factor that makes me fall inlove with this man because I knw I'm weak when it's comes to religion, and I need someone who will enhance my family and children in future.

He proposed when I was in school then I said yes, but everything must be done till after my school which is about 2years time then. Later he had the opportunity to travel out of the country for his masters, he called me to come over to ibadan then, I spent a week at his place in Ibadan (No s3x then) he doesn't even make a move. Which gives me 100% assurance that I'm in a safe hand. But we later did before he traveled out finally.

We discussed and planed to go to registry so it will be easier for me to come over later(He's going as a married man).

Everything works fine as planned. My mum gave him very huge amount of money then when we were both looking for money to settle some of his school fee. 2 years later I went for my NYSC. And finished February 2019.

During my final year in school I went for some programming course that I have stated developing Applications, Website for big companies, before I graduated I make more 200k in a month. During my NYSC I opened one big office that I employed more than 8staffs working for me and everything is going well in Lagos.

He invited me immediately after my NYSC and I went to meet him in abroad. My office still function in Lagos til now.

Immediately I got to his place I have started putting some things in place to start my Programming job there and gradually it paying but not that much.

I got a new phone and laptop because he told me he's settling some bills then which I understand. I'm not the lazy type infact sometime I need to do cleaning for oyinbo to help him settle some bills then when i dindt see client for programming work. (If I didn't support him as a wife who will?) I knw it's part of my responsibilities.

Two months after I moved in i got pregnant. We clocked 6months yesterday that I have moved in to his place.

One day I was using his phone to work, I don't even check his messages, (I trust him 101%) one message popped in via messenger from random girls , I was forced to check that day. I saw my husband exchanging nude pics, s3x chat, with olosho, I didn't believe. I just keep quiet and monitored this, some days after, I saw his cousin (I knw her very well) s3xchatting with him also.(I was so mad with this) I can't withstand this I asked him and he denied.

Immediately he got to knw I'm aware of where they communicate. He blocked the ladies off his Facebook. I was glad and keep on with him.

Few days later I found out they changed mode of communication (it's now via e-mail) My God that's always by my side. I wanted to login my email on his PC, immediately I open Yahoo Mail, his messages popped in and he forgot to log out.

I saw some unexpected messages. I saw him patronizing prostitue, watching Indecency even after I have moved In, Exchanging n*de pictures, going to all Adultfinder site to hook up with prostitue. I was so sad and mad. I don't knw what to do because I didn't expect all these.

I called his brother and I told him all these, I screenshot some of these and their conversation for him to knw I'm aware and I keep records.

His brother called him and he said there's nothing like that. That the lady(his cousin)asked him for money blablabla.

I forgive him and forget. We moved on.

Recently, I have not bn sleeping. Infact I can be up from morning to next morning, I think all these are associated with pregnancy sometimes.

3days ago, I was awake alone in the house. I have pressed my phone the thing don hot. I said lemme check some mail on PC. Immediately I opened Yahoo mail. Hmmm!

My husband now have a new email account, new twitter account, new Facebook account all for his cousin, but God almighty that will make him got exposed. He forgot to log out, the house system and this used to be on 24/7.

Could you believe this man still communicate with his cousin, infact they exchanged video sexchat, begging the girl for nude pics and sechat, the lady will now ask him money Inreturn and he will send it to her.

As at a night before I saw this, my husband still send message to prostitue asking for her price , where do they meet bla blabla!

I asked myself if it was a mistake that he did, ever since I caught him and confronted him, why did he choose to continue? Why are they running helter and skelter to keep their conversation going?

Why did he continues with all theses nonsense despite I have moved him?

Wil he stop?

What exactly does this man want? you have never ask me for sex and I tell you No. Even when I was on a bed rest

Is this not a one chance marriage?

This is a man I have loved despite his physical challenges.

This is a man I'm planing to spend the rest of my life with.

This is his cousin, who knows who it might be in future?

Are my children safe?

Is this how marriage used to be?

I have sacrifice alot in this marriage yet all these are happening to me!

God Why?

I went to the hospital yesterday for my 2nd trimester check up, my GP said my BP Is high I need to rest and eat. Right in me i knw there's something I need to talk out, I cannot tell my parent or friend or anyone. I just want to say it out

It's good you have said it out

You know what, pls for the sake of your life and that of your baby

Face your pregnancy for now and stop going through his private mails

The more you know the more it hurts but the less you cared the best for you because what you don't know doesn't hurt you

You may develop complication and may not be able to carry another pregnancy, so that alone can make you go gaga

As for your husband, he has been doing all you mentioned before your arrival and don't expect him to drop it just like that, it's not automatic

After the birth of your child, regain strength and talk it over

With time, he will stop it

The more you monitor him the more he will continue because its not easy for him to drop those dirty habits

Then for his cousin after birth, when you have gotten your strength, call her and let her know that you are aware they are dating and you will appreciate she ends the relationship, simple

The little money you are making now, start saving incase of incasity so that you won't be stranded financially

Men are not different from dogs when it comes to sex but the matured ones among them uses their head not their dick

Mrzfavour:
Am 22yrs n married with a kid . We dated 4 just two months n I got pregnant my family forced him 2 marry me coz of de pregnancy, we didn’t even get time to know ourselves very well. He later did introduction n paid my bride price I moved with him in his family home , we stay like stranger he doesn’t talk 2 me unless it’s necessary ,he keep late night he goes out every weekends n comes back in de morning , he has other girlfriends he has given dem my number 2 insult me , he has no love for our baby 8 months old he doesn’t play with her n he has never put her pictures on Facebook or WhatsApp but he put his nephews n nieces and his friends children there but no his own daughter, since September 2019 he traveled 2 Abuja to work 4 his elder bro in his appliances shop he doesn’t call me but he calls his moda every single day dey will talk for hours without him asking 4 me , when I call or texted he will ignore , his bro, his wife , kids n him visited us for Christmas festival he didn’t even talk to me until dey left on de 3rd of January. his family are not saying anything and dey blamed me saying I put myself in dis mess coz I was supposed to focus on my education n not following him n my family are also saying de same dt i run faster than my shadow n I wanted 2be married so I should endure , I’m just tired of dis marriage I cry everyday not knowing what to do. De reason I brought my problem here is coz he is also a member in dis platform he gives people good advices about marriage but he doesn’t practice de same in our marriage n pls help both of us with advice on how to work with our marriage. Thank you

I think you are the one that need advice

You know why ❓, he is complacent with the way he us handling you but your the recipient of his stupid attitude

The truth is, that he was dating you, never made you his intending wife

Your family, lost it forcing you in, yes you are in but your happiness is outside

My advice for you us to be strong, stronger than him, emotionally, spiritually, stop looking at his face expecting love, he is not really satisfied having you as a wife

Get something doing, focus on your children and find solace in them

Stop breading kids it's not a criteria to pin a man down

Be busy so that you can start earning income and you will realise that you no longer feel anything about him

Generate your happiness, no one should determine what makes you happy and when you should be happy, but you

Leave him to with his ways on his siblings, na him go tire

Stop reporting him to his family, they are laughing at you for Loosing your legs too early to trap him with pregnancy

Be strong and face your self with your children

ufotty2001:
Hello Nairalanders!
Please, I really need your advice most especially from matured men and women. Am a kind of person that don't like associating with ladies because I see them has distractions right from my University time now this has become part of my lifestyle am absolutely addicted to it.
This year will make me 35yrs old I don't have a girlfriend also I don't still have interest of becoming a married man yet reason because am still chasing my career and money.
Am a graduate, also I got qualified as a Chartered Accountant last year, currently am earning 120k per month, Am staying in one room apartment rent of N85k.. have Managed to save up to a N1m as savings.
When I see people earning even 40k married with 2 children I always feel as if something is wrong with me.

You have to change your perception about women

Women are the same all over

It's time you start thinking of settling down, unless you are ready to train your children with your pension moneyuf you still have a lady or woman you go to when you feel lune having sex, I see no reason why you can't keep one at home

For you to have a peaceful home, practise true love and don't want to be in the habit of controlling a woman at home, that's what normally brings out the beast in them

opejulie10:
It’s past 1 am in the morning and I have been coughing out blood and I have the worst stomach ache and body pains,I am even so scared to close my eyes and sleep for the fear of been stabbed, I slept in my kids room ,the locks are spoilt

Rewind to what happened to the previous day.Yes we have been having issues but he has never lifted his hands to beat me,I called him I was pregnant again with our third child and I don’t know what to do,at the peak of my career,I am pregnant again.

I had my first child was I was 19,I was still in school
I had my second child and I almost lost my job as a temporary staff.
I am permanent staff now and was recently promoted,I am pregnant again, I told him I am confused,anytime I tend to move forward in my life,He doesn’t care about the withdrawal method anymore,He makes sure he cums in me just to ruin and burden me,can’t I be free too for once.
Instead of him to find a soothing words so we would find a solution to it,he walked away from the conversation to the sitting room,after waiting for an hour for him to come back,I decided to go the pharmacy to get drugs for my second child,I came back and the gate was locked,I banged the gate,no one answered,I called his line till from 10pm till 12 am ,he didn’t pick, it dawned on me he intentionally locked me out, I was wearing his boxers and a light top,I had to call my brothers to pick me up so I can sleep and go back home the next morning,I called my mom to report him and she told me, he has called him already to open the gate for me when I return home,I got home yesterday morning and he still didn’t open the gate,our neighbor came outside to get something and I used the opportunity to enter the gate.When I entered he wasn’t bothered,no questions,nothing,he just lied down there looking at me,I was so pained and I questioned him why will he treat me that way knowing my condition,he didn’t even answer,he just pick his incoming call and he was directing a lady to come to our house,I sparked and told him if he should bring any lady in this house he will regret his actions , he told me to repeat myself,out of anger I abused him and threw his phone away,the same phone I have been calling since yesterday and you didn’t pick and a lady called you just once in my presence,the phone didn’t ring twice and you want me to keep mute,I abused him and he punched me in my neck and my stomach,maybe I would have been dead if not for our neighbors,it’s midnight now and I have been coughing out blood and having bad dreams that he is chasing me with a knife, I am scared of staying alone with him at home,my parents said I should go and beg him for forgiveness and move on

But I don’t think I can move on from this,I am making plans quietly to leave this country with my children in the next five years,I can’t endure this anymore but for the main time I will pretend all his fine because of my kids

Your parents have thrown you to the dogs

Yes they have, they don't care about your safety but you should bear a traumatic torture until your corpse is being carried out

Your husband is fed up and he is showing you the red flag

If you think he us too stubborn to sit diand settle this keg of gun powder you are sitting on, when it explode, you may be the worst hit on the interim but he will be the worst hit on the long run

Go to your parents and sit them down to explain to them your fears and worries

If they are not giving you the attention you need, make plans and pack to your parents house now that you can walk with your two legs

You can't really stop a man from cheating, give him time to chase enough women while you think of how to get yourself sorted oe

Leaving with a tough and stubborn man is more dangerous than staying with a womanizer

He can bring a woman to sleep in your home, because he feels he has no respect for you and he finances the house

What else ❓

Run for your dear life now that you are still conscious of the happenings

Forget about what people will say, their will always be news for people