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chukel:
lol. I couldn't resist responding on seeing your opinion on Lexus and avalon. I own both cars and they are very good. Cars are just like you. Take care of them properly and they will be good to you.

Sure

Jewessgratitude:
You said it all.

Thanks

Stone03:
Thank God this is coming from a woman

Lol, the truth have to be told

excessmon:
Based on their views and opinions on issues of relationship... after sampling the general opinions on an average then I came up with the assumptions.... however it is still baseless and factless.....

So pls I will like to know your opinions maybe I am truthful and got it rightly correct

They are not from broken home

They lack experience and yet give advice on an issue they have never came across

chukel:
who is this. Please go to romance section

Lol, monitoring spirit

Argon18:
Please I need your candid advice, I had my first degree in Nigeria, I won a scholarship, now pursuing my masters degree in one of the leading UK Universities, I attended one of the federal universities in south west, toward my graduation, I approach this beautiful, brilliant and intelligent girl that I have been fantasizing our togetherness in marriage, so unfortunate for me that this lady rejected my proposal, I did all I could to convince her to marry me, but all my efforts were in futility, to cut the story short, I moved on, we were level mates, though not departmental mate, and not faculty mate, I knew of her brilliance, and she also knew of my level of academic intelligence, after graduation I used to message her on WhatsApp once in a while to greet her, most especially during festive periods and new months to greet her for new month and new year, but all her late one word responses confirmed to me that she wasn't into me, I gradually reduced the greeting chats until I decided not to send any message to her. Fast forward to last year, I was going to the university library to do some studies, I saw a lady that resembles this particular lady from afar coming out of the library, but I didn't consider putting my mind with the thought that it was just mere distance resemblance, the third step I climbed was a voice from my side saying "Hello" with a finger tap on my arm, I looked into the eyes of the person, it was amazing and surprising that I was greeted by "Favour". We greeted normally and I tried as much as possible not to allow any emotional greetings or talk and not to allow any emotions to becloud my reasonings. I greeted her normally, we exchanged contacts and we departed, I was going to the library for studies, but I could not open a page of my note all I was opening was pages of Favour in my mind, nothing meaningful was gained for almost four hours I stayed in the library, all my thoughts were revolving around Favour, this feelings was greater than ever. But I promised myself not to make any call to her or send any message, I wasn't treated well back in Nigeria when I was doing that, so I made up my mind not to call or text her. Around 9:00pm on the same day, I received a WhatsApp message from her, she greeted me and we discussed for a lengthy time at the detriment of my time. It was during the course of the conversion that I got to know that she won the same scholarship I won in the same year she won hers, we were both happy with ourselves, to cut the story short, as I have determined not to call her or text, after three days, she called me that she'll like us to meet at the corridor of her department, but I declined the request, turning down her request wasn't really coming from my heart, but I needed to regain my manly respect. She asked for the reason for not coming, I told her that our departments are far apart, the call ended on a good note. I got home thinking, contemplating whether I haven't overdo, but I summoned courage. For more than a month, I didn't call or text, all our conversion and discussions were initiated by her, on a particular Saturday, she called me and requested for us to meet and have time together, we met at a cafeteria, she paid for everything we ate, and I asked her to permit me to take my leave after being together for more than one hour, what we discussed was on the rigour and stress that we passed through in winning the scholarship and other things related to schooling in UK, the discussion of the our experiences were interesting to the both party. I took my leave as we had handshakes, she was starring at me as I was going, I looked at her face and caught her red handed, but she pretended not to be looking at me, since all these days I called her twice to initiate talks, after some periods of time there was a break in communication, for almost two weeks we didn't chat and we didn't discuss on phone, I was kinda afraid, thinking maybe she was tired of doing the callings, fortunately, I received her call after thirteen days checking through my call/chat records with her, after this, a day can hardly pass without calling me for at least three time on an average, also, she checks my WhatsApp status every now and then, and she'll always comment on them, I still have deep feelings for this lady, I'm not in any serious relationship, and with what I could deduce from our conversation, I think she's not in a relationship, I'm 60% confident that she really wants me to reshoot my shot. Which I'm actually considering as well, but I'm trying to give it a reasonable time and more conviction because ladies can be funny sometimes. To be honest, her thoughts of affections and feelings have being affecting my academic performance, I couldn't read for 6 straight hours, my reading time has dropped drastically, always thinking of her, my white friends in the department told me to do the necessary on time to remain focus with my academics, but a close friend from Nigeria though senior colleague that won same scholarship told me to still be patient. But her thoughts and feelings have overwhelmed my emotion. What can you advice me to do Nairalanders, I need to make a good grade in my masters, and if this thought should continue more than necessary, this may not be possible. Your advice is needed please.

You are the one creating problem with your self by fighting yourself

Until you feed your heart of love, you will never concentrate

Shoot the shut and you will have a relaxed mind to focus on your education

Every thing God created in human body has its own type of food and will not want to be starved

Your love heart is troubled and hungry for a woman and you are fighting it

Who does that, who fights nature

Adesucess1:
Am in big trouble, am married but i keep remembering my ex boyfriend, What can i do?
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You have to chose between your ex and your marriage

The choice is yours

ogabentley:
For sometime now have been having some financial challenges especially in my business. I went to one of my friend Timothy(real name changed for personal reason) who is from a well to do family for help.
He helped with the little he could and promised to take me to his mom, maybe she will be able to help since his dad travelled.
Since he took me to his mom, this woman has been disturbing me for sometime now saying i should sleep with her if i want her to help me. she went as far as sending me expensive wristwatches and other gifts.
This is a married woman with 3 children and in her mid fifties, her eldest son is a friend of mine.
I dont know what to do she is like my only hope, another of my friend who assisted me with little has adviced me to give in to her demands and get the money and other benefits attached to it.
what should i do am confused

The devil will never give you anything without hoping to get something in return

Stay away from her and stop receiving free gift from her

Look else where

Any funny behavior from you will ruin their family and your relationship with your friend

This is where a good name is better than gold

ShagariBillions:
That’s my friend’s wife, My friend of 8 years called me and sounded angry. He said he’s having issues with his wife, she complains of not being happy in the marriage.
They’ve been married for 4 years, We got married at almost same time but he’s been through trying times and just like every family they’ve had some quarrels but it took a different dimension when she threatened to kill herself and the kids cause she doesn’t want to leave her children with any other person ( sounded strange to me).
She’s demanding that my friend pays for another apartment where she will move to with her kids or he will come back one day and meet the dead bodies of her kids with her.
I’m confused, he wants his kids with him and he is willing to let her go but not with the kids .
WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK?

There must be an underlying problem that needs to be solved but left unsolved and that same problem, has lead to other problems that is triggering every little thing

That woman will soon go gaga if you guys don't find out exactly what the problem is

For her to be requesting for another apartment with her children show that she is not happy with the guy or with the marriage

Don't ask your friend alone

Visit her in the absence of your friend and hear from her

After that get your investigations

No woman is ready to leave her child for another woman unless she wishes, which is rear

ayobamiJR:
I'm now 22. By August 22, I would be 23 years old.

I wish to get married before 2022 but the problem is:

You see a girl that can cook, she's has unacceptable characters.

You see the one that loves you, she nags.

You see the one you think you can settle with, she's just being busy cheating.

What am I supposed to do please, I can't afford to be with the wrong person for my whole lifetime.

Please advice.

As its difficult to get a responsible man as a husband, so it's difficult to get an organised woman as a wife

Oout of 100% character, try and get one with 70%and above

The rest 30% it's either you deal with it or you sort it out

Just accept what will interest you and move on with her

MrCork:
..SIDE CHICKS ALL THE WAY.. accordin to opinion poll.

...all men prefer side chicks coz wife's , single mother or girl friends bring stress, bad luck, illness , Misery , pain & they make u grows fat!!

Why Side chicks:
1. They don't stress u
2. They don't talk about bills
3. They were mini sket
4. They dress sexxxy 24/7
5. They always lightskin
6. They don't nag
7. They don't even want gadddem kids )running around like rabbit)
8. They are loyal
9. We don't mind spending our salary on them
10. They keeeeepit secret!!

THANK ME LATER!!

And you think side chick isn't on a mission

Continue until you have an encounter with one

Lyydia:
There's this guy that we have been dating for 6 months, we love each other very well and we plan on marrying each other.

Here is the deal, we plan on no sex before marriage due to personal reasons. I don't ask for money also, we do cuddle and kiss sometimes. But not sex!

Of recent, he has been acting strange and wants to go beyond our normal cuddle level. I cautioned him about this and he promised to change! But he still does this.

Yesterday it happened again as I got furious and asked him to leave.

Did I overreact? I called, he has not picked up since yesterday.

There was no mutual agreement between both of you

If you agree on no sex for reasons best known to you, he accepted it because he had no option then

It's an agreement with both of you and not one sided

Women can endure sex, but men, chai it takes determination with discipline

That's their nature

Once a man is tensed up, angry, frustrated and feeling bad, he cools down with sex to get some relieves but a wom in such situations will suppress sex

Do you know the out come, it makes her harder

favoryte33:
A friend of mine who stays in d same street with me has been in shock for a week now after his girlfriend gave birth to twins.he was preparing for a naming ceremony unknowing 2 him he's going to be naming 2 babies. i can only his situation as bitter sweet

There is nothing strange about it

He must have been informed during scan and antenatal visit

He should braze up to keep firing or drop arms and face the responsibilities that cones with children

Thats why they have condom advert

Quality20:
I remember growing up that girls were so shy that they can hardly talk or look at a guy,but not anymore these days. What has happened to those damsels who were so shy n reserved. Now u even hear girls toasting guys or trying to predict the kind of xter a guy is likely to have based on previous exposures

The kind of exposure girls are having these days are giving them wrong impression about life, love and relationships

They are in a hurry to taste life, alcohol, sex and wear provocative dresses to attract men, forgetting that they ate the worst heat

Men too are ready to take them to places just to prove to ladies that they are capable

All these nowade them to have high taste and loose self respect

So for them to aspire with all these, theyust remove shame and that's where they lose the grip of being discipline

simplelex:
Although age has nothing to do with maturity, i've found older ladies to be more emotionally mature than younger ladies.. What are your thoughts on this?

Older laddies, I mean people from 30yrs and above have been exposed to life to a certain level, they have gotten beaten once or twice and it has helped to calm them to Maturity

As you are talking they are listening and making senses out of it

They are ready to get settled because they have seen 70% of what life has to offer and understands love because they have seen hatred

They knows that a bird in hand worths two in the Bush

Those between 18yrs to 29yrs are yet to explore, no matter how you talk, it gets in and get out of the ears

They will never understand because they believe they are yet to explore and they will always hope to get a bigger one, even when they know that they have to start from a humble beginning

They believe a bird in hand is less that the birds that are more colourful in the bush

Froshloaded:
I'm asking for a friend tho
I met her in uni, I was ahead of her with a level, she was so beautiful, so we dated for few months and we were very happy, not until she said she is not doing anymore, and we were not having any issues.. And few weeks before she said she wasn't doing, her sister talked to me on phone and said she wants to see me cos she is in my school too..
To cut the long story short I did not Bleep up In any way.... I really love her, and I want her Back�
Please how can I get her back?

You have not said anything

Why did you let her go despite she wanted to go then and out of the blues you need her back

His own was pure madness as a result of hard drugs, am glad he will end up in jail for life

That alone is enough suffering for the rest of his

Those people are the most heartless of the igbo tribe

Killing is the same thing as beating, to them

But how come she believed tgat she is going abroad for greener pasture when its a known fact that women are used for slave sex

If it's a possible favour, those human courier would have done the favour to their siblings

Bluepink:
The way he says it as if he is doing a favour to marry the woman... I've just been laughing at his way of thinking since. This is why I avoiding romance section. Mumu guys too full

Some women still like these kind of men sha

My dear, most guys in this section are not married or doesn't even know what it is to have and keep a woman at home

They think getting married to a woman is doing her a favour, whereas it's a place where over grown male adult is been looked after by a well groomed woman

Only those who are married understands what marriage is all about

For those prematures, handling ordinary girl friend is giving them migraine

BarrSly:
lol so I’m really confused... I really don’t know what to do it’s my first time.

1. I thought of going with a mechanic and I thought to myself that this would be something I shouldn’t do in a hurry so does that mean everyday I’ll be going from lot to lot checking cars haha I go be like who no serious and the mechanic go chop my money for each waka besides, how much will I be paying the mechanic per each trip.


2. When I see the car of my choice would I go to inside bank with the dealer to withdraw and give him cash? Cause I don’t want to do transfer and sit down and be waiting for alert of 2.5m to reflect only God know the kind sweat wen go catch me for middle of yansh.


3. But then if I see a car I like and then pay 3k for vin check only to realize it has accidents history would I just take my mind away and keep paying 3k every time cause trust me Nigerian auto dealers would lie that the title is clean until you do your check yourself on the vin.


4. Ok finally I thought to myself abi make I just align with this kakakibuy gimporters adexfem gazzuzz guys (the big dons) lol to just order from overseas and have it delivered to me here at my backyard in front of my landlady’s dormot....

Kai I’m just confused... guys I need advise....

The car I intend getting is between one of the following;

2002-2005 Lexus ES 300/330
2006 Toyota Avalon
2007 Toyota Camry


And my budget is

2m - 2.2m


Guys please advise me... I’m a young guy my mid 20’s.

All the “awon investors and vanity gang” please don’t come and soapy here I’ve got real estate as well.

Please just advise a brother �


Cc: Marpol

Pls stay away from lexus, it consumes fuel

Stay away from Avalon its problems comes up every quarter

All you need is let the seller follow you to the bank, make a counter transfer and acknowledge the receipt of transfer from the bank, ask him if he got alert if he says no, follow him to his bank to confirm

But tell him this before payment and don't go alone, go with someone incase he starts behaving funny after transaction

poik:
At the risk of making this a gender war which shouldnt, some home truths have to be told. I got interested when you said answerable to yourself and God alone. How exactly? By breeding children outside the sacredness of marriage, becoming a baby mama? If only people knew how God hates that thing. A woman who isnt married but sleeps around with any man she can pay? Or at best, satisfies herself with intimacy gadgets? Come on.

You see this thing called equality, is a paper concept. it is different in reality. A man can have two or more wives and make heaven, but under no circumstance can a woman have two living husbands or he is an adulterer. God allowed it to be so.

I agree that there can be bad or abusive marriages. But i also strongly believe that the signs were there be fore the knot was tied, but the lady was blinded by some sort of sentiment which could be anything. I dont believe God will hand His daughter to a boxer or vile fellow.


Marriage may not be an achievement in the way people put it, but my dear sister, it is important. If you want to eschew society and the respect it accords married women and want to live on your own terms, what about the legitimacy of sex it offers? How can one live a complete lifestyle in gruesome offence to her Maker? I also recognize that it isnt all about sex in marriage, but it is a fundamental human need, and marriage is the only legal ground for that to happen.

So in essence, i will not say that any woman who does not marry has failed, in its most direct terms, but it is something every woman should look foward to at Gods time, while working assidously to be someone's wife. Same goes for the man.

If you want me to accept your comment
Juts tell me where this is written in the Bible

*A man can have two or more wives and make heaven*

This how you men will turn things upside down to suit you guys

Go for scan frost products but pls don't buy from Alaba market, they are fakes

Go to shops like spar supermarket at Illupeju you will get the original one though might be expensive but you get value for your money

If you are using prepaid or intend getting a prepaid pls dont buy anyone with electric bunners

It will zap your energy fast, go for gas burner through out

Go for scan frost products but pls don't buy from Alaba market, they are fakes

Go to shops like spar you will get the original one though might be expensive but you get value for your money

If you are using prepaid or intend getting a prepaid pls dont buy anyone with electric bunners

It will zap your energy fast, go for gas burner through out

AirtimersSport:
i did the doctor said i am negative, with this persistent symptoms, i just want to be sure the doctor didn't make a mistake in interpretation... Doctors in the house pls help

You are actually negative

Your sickness is as a result of over workload on your body

Take a break and have some rest

If possible, take a leave and visit some where else, you will be fine if you did

Make sure you don't allow things to get you depressed

If your environment or any thing is causing depression on you, stay away from that thing for the time being

Joaks:
Dear Nairalander, I don't want to waste much of your time by posting a long epistles.
I'm a masturbation addict and this started when I was in JSS 2 back in 1998.
I never thought its something that won't stop up till now but here i am,still.
Why i moved this to health section is that,its really affecting me health wise. I'm 34 years but if you see me now,I look like a guy in the early 20s.
I because of this got married 4 years ago hoping that it will stop but up till now,there is no changes
Please help me on how to put and end to this.

Please,help a brother

Just discus with your wife, she will help you out with constant love making and moral support

Sanquine:
So why did she do that?

Best known to her

Oma307:
I almost fall in love with you for your comments

Lol, funny you

kunleweb:
My sister. I asked you a question earlier this morning you deflected. Anyway I've dodged two demons disguised as women recently and more before them. Despite my eagle eyes for observation. Permit me to ask the question I asked in a different way, from the divorce cases you come across and problematic marriage.. Women contribute to over 80% of them. True or false. This includes divorce, heartbreak, betrayal, theft and all vices. Women control 80% of issues in marriage issues of recent. Tell me I'm not right. There are better ways to die than from the hands of a woman. It paints a man as a weakling.

God created man to be strong and not to be a weakling

Just give me five valid points you think women are 80% cause of marriage break up

kunleweb:
I won't stress it for a woman. Not fear. I just won't tolerate an infidel under my roof. Even acting like she has my best interest at heart when it's the opposite. I don't want to die from a woman's hands abeg. There are more honorable ways for me to die as a man.

In as much as woman can't run away from giving birth to a child because of their infant wahala and sleepless night with unnecessary crying

A man too should not run away from marriage because of the way women and men sees marriage these days

Marriage requires patients

Marriage requires true love

Marriage requires understanding each other

Anything short of this is dead on arrival

If one us born and breed in lagos, you will understand the concept of being a Lagosian

But if you come to settle in Lagos it will take a little while to settle down

You need not be in a hurry to see the good side of Lagos

It's a gradual thing but you will be confronted with the rough life immediately you drop from the vehicle that brought you to the park

All these packaging is just to turn mens head around nothing else

Ride on its your time