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My dear,

Just plan and pack out of his house

Leave him for nature to deal with him

He can be diabolical and I don't want you to be his apparatus

I am still wandering what you are doing with such a man after reading your story

A man can only have sex or make love to a woman according to his strength

Don't do otherwise, lecture her and let her know that she is over reacting

Once you as a man goes beyond your strength, whatever that comes out of it, that is if you survive it is your own wahala

Go for your new job and make life easy for your family

If he wants to mess around because you have relocated, let him go ahead.

You too will sort yourself out

Your presence can't stop him from messing around

That child is just trying to save and protect his mum

Children doesn't like their mum being manhandled and he feels that's just what you are doing because she moans and he sees that as crying

Learn to act behind him or better still when he is out if sight

He may starts acting funny if he keeps witnessing funny acts

Hadampson:
She wants to be in an organized society.

It comes with a price tag

AgbaraOpic:
“I got pregnant nine years ago while dating my current husband and then the issue of marriage came up.
I wasn’t working then. He told my family and I that he doesn’t want a court marriage for no reason.
My parents tried talking to him, I cried and begged him severally to legalize his marriage with me but he stood his grounds not to wed me in a court.

I involved his family members to help me beg him but they said, he’s old enough to make his decisions.

He even refused to do a white wedding either because my church requested for a court certificate, so we ended up doing only traditional marriage.

I later got tired and gave up on the matter. I was hurt and broken but I resolved to marry him like that just to save myself and my family the shame of having a baby outside wedlock.

My dad was angry and disappointed in him but he didn’t care and because of that my dad vowed to see me a successful and independent woman with or without him.

After I gave birth to my baby, my dad helped me secure a job with a multinational company and things started to turn around for me.
I could now take care of myself and secure a future.
Though I married my husband, but I never forgave him from my heart and it made me not to do anything in my husband’s name.

We currently have three kids together but all my properties are in the name of my children. I never used him as my next of kin either.

Just last month my company decided to transfer me to a branch in Texas and the company is willing to pay for my entire family to relocate with me.

My husband’s business is not doing too well and he’s willing to relocate also but we have no legal certificate to show that we are married.�

Now he wants us to go to the court to legalize our marriage and I have said “No” My dad has threatened to disown me if I ever go with him to court.

He’s been tagging me everywhere as a bad wife who is not loyal to her husband, spoiling my family also.
His family members have been calling me trying to persuade me but I told them I’m old enough to make my decisions also and I have stood my ground just like he did to me nine years ago.”

*What is your advice to this young mother?.*

My dear, that k god for you and your dad

I am glad that what he has planned for you as his wife did not work out

What he rejected at the earliest stage is what he is dying for at the late stage

Let him suffer whatever decision you want to take against him

He was being stubborn and full of pride because he never knew you could be successful

He deprived you your right of marriage

Leave him behind to suffer that's what he wished for you but didn't work out.

If you can go with your children, pls go with them

Worst case he will remarry don't be scared

You too will get someone wishing to take you to the altar

Am glad he shot himself on his feet and now the shot is affecting him

MrHandsome2013:
I think i should give up.
I cant continue like this.
I am over 30 and no sex yet.
I keep having wet dream.
My life have been in mess.
Lack of sex is depriving me so many things in life.
I dont have friends, nothing to write home about.
Just stay indoors all the time.

Why are you not having a girlfriend ❓

You have not stated your reasons for relocation

I believe you can still be happier here and make your fortune then go abroad for vacation

With time you will know if its better to relocate permanently or holidays alone

Relocation to any part of this world is expensive especially when accommodation is involved

Think twice

You have not stated your reasons for relocation

I believe you can still be happier here and make your fortune then go abroad for vacation

With time you will know if its better to relocate permanently or holidays alone

Relocation to any part of this world is expensive especially when accommodation is involved

Think twice

Kapello8:
Hello Guys,

Please don’t Mind my English, am really typing this in tears and pain.

So there’s the babe I’ve been dating, I truly love her and we’ve been setting up my new flat and making plans for our Traditional wedding hopefully this November but something tragic struck and took away all d Joy and Happiness....

This was how it began, she took my phone and went through all my chats and I had some female friends I’ve been flirty chatting with but honestly I I was dumbed to have done dat...

I lied to them that I was single and searching I never accepted that I had a Fiancé just for the fun of it I also lied that she was my cousin and she found out all those stuffs and now she has ended the relationship...

I’ve cried and wept because my stupidity has made me to loose my angel...

She’s an ideal wife I never knew what got over me to just try being flirty....

I have involved my Family and her Family to beg her but she has refused. She told my eldest brother that she can’t love me anymore.

I’ve also pleaded with her best friend and siblings to plead with her but she’s not willing to come back....
I’ve sent her over 50 apology SMS I’ve called her line over a 30 times but she’s not willing to take my calls.

When I call with an unknown number and she hears my voice she will drop the call.
She doesn’t wana even talk to me.


The whole house looks empty without her I just can’t forgive myself for loosing the best gift God gave me. Now I feel so downcasted...

Brothers and Sisters please I need your candid advice. Your Free to Insult me

Am writing this because I’ve not been able to sleep. I can’t Forgive my self. I truly Love her.

Mods please move to front page.

Allow her to calm herself down

She was disappointed with the mess you caused

Keep telling her how dearly she is to you and keep sending those apologies to her

For her to forgive you and accept your relationship again is going to be a 50/50% thing

Good punishment, after suffering the pains, they will forget the pains and steal again

majamajic:
come back ke , they will form their own Church and continue from there

Catholic Churches are so organised that it's not possible for you to pull out and form your own church

Not after being in theological school for 10yrs just to be a Reverend father

She should just return the money back to the man for peace to reign

This northerners, their guys kills without looking back

ecstasy357:
This is d worst advice ever.

Do this and you will surely lose the girl.

Be sending messages day and night and you will appear jobless or like a stalker.

Buy her lunch and u don turn to her lunch ticket.

Understanding her kinda person is a good advice.

Don't buy gifts oooo
Think about it...how many guys do u think are trying to impress her by buying her gifts? Don't be d next ATM.

There's a rule about buying gifts. You don't jes go around buying gifts for every girl u like....who does that?

Don't you think yours is the worst advice ❓

tohyorsih2:
OMG! this is the best advice here!

A bottle of cold pepsi for you ma

Lol

Swizbank:
Thank you. I have her num already. We talk every night.but remember am the leader in the house, how doni explain to other members that my intentions are pure when they see me always hanging around with her. Don't u think it might trigger jealousy and bring division??

Forget about what people will say, let your mind and conscience do that for you

You can still respect yourself while everything is going on just because you are there leader

Know your limits to avoid embarrassing situations

This is what we called a child born with both gold, silver and diamond spoon.

Lucky child

A whole 40yrs of flying in the air with all these crazy air mishaps

He is so lucky

Exempted:
Traditional way of delivery is still the best....

They care and take good care of you

Why are you talking as if you are not exposed to modernity

What can a traditional birth attendants offers to a multiple birth pregnant woman ❓

poksmahn:
I recently started a business about two weeks ago and because of my schedule, i hired someone to manage it for me. Can't be at two places at once. So, I hired a lanky teenager that radiates humility and zeal for the job and since the business started, I have not been hitting the desired target. I was getting frustrated already but i kept consoling myself that maybe the word has not yet gone around about the business.

So yesterday, i decided to spend a whole day at the business and lo and behold, I made a lot of money that day. Obviously, the boy was eating my money. I have no problems with my staff taking money out for lunch but this guy was slashing my money by half. Imagine the greed! And I pay him above minimum wage and told him to take Sundays off. But the guy comes to work on Sundays and works till late. AT first, I was happy with his work ethic but now, i realize that this guy is working for his own half.

And he swore with his life that he's not eating my money. The next course of action is to fire him but how can i prevent this embezzlement from going on with the next guy I hire? The nature of business is a game lounge. I'll be grateful for any advice I can get here.

You should have considered this before going into another opening

I suggest you get your own junior siblings who can Obedient to you to run your business

Bear in mind that you will be cheated at any time you keep someone there

Unless you decides to do it part time

One mistakes Nigeria men are doing is that they expect a woman to struggle and help them stand up well and they think it doesn't come with a price ❓

If you have gained financial from a woman, pls respect that aspect and be cool and calm with her

No one is saying that you are no longer the man of the house, but let her knows that she is your priority

That's all

You can't be harvesting honey and you don't expect the bees to sting you

Who produces the honey ❓

Bee's does, so respect the bee's

Beating her won't hurt her as taking the child away from her

That one alone will make her run mad.

She misbehaved without regards fir her infant and her husband

For the fact that the SARS have gurn but refused to shoot, I respect the officer that led that team

That's how it should be, having the ability not to shoot under provocation

He is the one that actually killed the both of them

Just give him death punishment, no need to waste bullet
He should be locked in the room without food or water till he is dead

Glink2018:
Na lie.
He has a Naija blood-relation. His mother is from ipob state. They are criminally+inclined in their region

Your low self esteem has finally reduced you to redicules and embarrassment and you are complacence with it

It runs in his blood

So wherever he finds himself he will steal

So there is a dustbin for cars ❓

Her death was as a result of the father not being able to control his unbridled tongue

How could you just say to a mother" I divorced you" in the presence of the children

Who doesn't know that children loves their mother's

That Jamb pegged the cut off mark at 160 doesn't make it look cheap

Passing jamb is difficult because its a CBT so giving that cut off is OK

If they gain admission and decides to lose focus in their studies, will you blame jamb again❓

Jamb has done what they deemed fit for students

Go in there and come out with good and excellent grade for graduation

Your husband has succeeded in making you a life senator

Even in the house of God,

She will be restless until she returns that child back to his parents

Lets watch and see