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Ryan03:
Babe calm down na

It's that same calm down, calm down that put her in that stress

What kind of bye force change of name be that

What if its just introduction that they were able to do pending when the proper marriage will take place

What about the name in the degree certificate, won't it clash ❓

They should just over look some things joor

Ryan03:
The husband should have waited na, why the rush?

Una dey gry ❗

Swizbank:
I will try to be short and simple.

I'm the president of a my campus fellowship.
One of my members has caught my attention. She is a new member. The first day I saw her, it was like a a fulfilment come true. Every feature I want in my potential wife is in her, including profession.

Am ready to do anything to secure her before another man does that. But how to do it, without getting "No" as an answer and without giving a wrong msg to other members of the house, is a problem. She is aged 18, am 28.

I even just spoke with her now, but I maintained the discussion at , "How is your prayer life" levels.

Pls I need hints!

It's good you have spotted a wife to be

There are ways of winning a woman's heart without Overy labouring yourself

Start by getting her number

Call her and say hello to her and you are just checking on her

During the day send an sms asking her how she is doing and if she has gotten something for lunch

At night, send messages to her and wish her a good night sleep

Once in a while, visit her or stay close to her to understand her kind of person

Women love gifts, any thing can be gift, even gala or bread and butter, just anything that will serve as meal for her

Don't disclose your intentions yet but keep observing her characters and attitudes, that's the most important aspect of a woman's life not beauty or physics

With time other guys who sees you with her will distance themselves thinking you are the guy there

As time goes on the relationship will grow big and develops to what plans you guys might have for each other

Love and marriage is sweeter when it starts with friendship

Have you asked yourself if you really loves her or you are marrying her out of pity or because you think she needs marriage not you

Having intension to get married and getting divorced at the same time is a very bad feeling

Make out time and discuss with her all your fears,

Pray together towards it and let the will of God be done

It's not a must you will marry her but getting married and feeling divorced is going to be a reoccurring thing once you start it

Learn to be open with your partner in any relationship, it helps to build confidence and trust on each other

These monitoring spirits won even allowed the dead to rest

What took him there when he knows that his case is still pending

It's Iberiberism naw

KingMicky3286:
Hello everyone,

I am the only black person working in my work place in Asia. My salary is bigger than that of the locals due to my experience and educational value.

The locals are always want to know how much I earn as salary.

They are friendly, we don’t have issues as everyone minds their business/work.

I am comfortable with the salary. Should I reveal my salary to them?

You are a potential danger to them due to your vast experience and knowledge

Then, why do you want to expose your self to them

Forget about the face, the mind is sealed and you can't really tell what's hidden in their individual minds

Don't disclose anything to them about your income, let them go to the account section and find out themselves

We have to learn to keep some secrets to ourselves so that our enemies won't get at us easily

Those cloths you see hanging there are for those agbero's who doesn't have a home but sleeps at the bustops

They wash their clothes during evening hours and dry them till day break before workers road user's resumes

Elesta:
Thank you very much. I know I am very capable of being loved right that's y I frowned at his behaviour right from time. Thanks for your advice. I am looking at leaving d country if I get a visa

Thanks too

That's a good move
Keep planning until you achieve your aim

Some of them don't worth dying for

Elesta:
Hello family, I have a long post about my terrible marriage. Please bear with me, I just have to pour everything out because it's killing me slowly.
I am in my mid 30's ,got married to this man in his mid 40's who has never been married before.We attend the same church although different branches, so the pastor of his branch and the pastor of my branch brought us together. We started dating and he seemed head over heels and started talking about marriage immediately. At first, the way he was talking and his reaction to things I wasn't interested and I even told him, but he begged me and the pastor begged me so I overlooked and continued especially considering my age. If I wasn't in my mid 30's and if I hadn't done fibroid operation and so, eager to take in, I won't have made this terrible mistake. We also work in the same place so everything seemed perfect.

Now we started making wedding plans just after one month of dating and we got married 4months after because of church process. It seemed blissful but I stumbled on his messages with a lady he was saying before me and eventually at the same time with me. I discovered he kept begging n begging her even while me n him were dating .he kept telling her to agree to attend his church or dey can be going to their separate churches but the girl kept insisting that they should attend the same church. I. e. he should leave his church and she will leave hers. Don't get me wrong, if this had happened before we started dating, I wouldn't have gotten angry. but all these happened while we were serious and even after he came to see my father, I discovered he was still pleading with her as per church matter. Who does that?? So what if she had agreed for the church matter, he would have dumped me n embarrassed my dad??

I brought it to his notice and he kept saying he never meant it, he was just using it as an excuse not to marry her.

Now in the marriage, emotional abuse never ends. Just fewonths into the marriage, he started behaving somehow bcoz I hadn't taken in. all kinds of insults oh. one day, he said if he knew I couldn't have children he won't have married me. this was just 4months into d marriage. any little thing he complains. on weekends, he expects me to get up by 7am m start preparing his breakfast oh. weekend which is supposed to b for resting since we work Monday to Friday. Every little thing, he keeps saying if he knew he won't have married me.
I still remember how he slapped me several times, he insulted me n i insulted him back, that was what caused d slap. even when he saw me crying he wasn't moved. I have complained to family members and friends ,they have spoken to him, he will change for a while and later go back to his terrible ways.
I have never seen this kind of acrimony between couple. I am not a bad looking person, I have dated people in d past, they didn't treat me half as badly as this one. I was just too unserious. I want to leave this torture. but we work in the same place and I am trying to avoid wagging tongues. I just tired. I have seen and experienced mutual love and it's not like this. I long to share love with someone that loves me just the way I am. I don't deserve to be with this animal. When it comes to food, he eats so angry if his food isn't ready on time.

Please I need advice. he went for test n it was discovered he has low sperm count. that made him humble for some fine but recently he started saying again that if he had married a younger lady, d lady would have been pregnant by now. just imagine this kind of torture. God knows I have absorbed so much from this man

I have read your messages and I have few advice for you

I am not blaming you for what happened but I am blaming the society that doesn't want women to be unmarried

They believe every woman should be married whether you like it or not

Now for you to remain in that marriage and be happy is doubtful

Relax yourself and plan on how to live your normal life with out that man

Behave as if nothing happens, just keep looking at his attitudes and save money for the next move

When I say save money, I mean start planning by reducing cost and save money

That rainny day is coming and when it comes, you would have been prepared for it

Don't be in a hurry to have children or in a hurry to get married because of age, good health and happiness should be your priority.

All those things that you are desperate off can only come from God and with God's approval

It's better you are leaving alone and have peace of mind than leaving with a beast that have no feelings or regards for you

Am sorry to say that your husband is a low life man

He doesn't value anyone and wants the best attention and affection even when he had nothing to offer

When you are fed up of staying with him, pls move out peacefully

Forget about what people will say, if you keep listening to what people will say, you will never ever do anything right for yourself

There is a guy out there that will love you to a fault

This guy still get something to say after sending him to Ebonyi state

He should be careful because they are nit yet done with him

Before he sees himself in sambisa

If truly he saw an 11yrs old boy in his pond and felt he came to steal his fishes and decided to cut his hands

That's the hight of wickedness from a man of his age

Even as poor as they are, still living in a mud house, some one still have bad feelings for her family

May their souls rest in peace

He demanded for it

This guy has refused to upgrade

AmazonTopaz:
Liberalchick, bukatyne, cococandy,choccolate,daeylar, pocohantas and many others I would love to read your thoughts on this

I doff my hat for you

You have said it all

They see themselves as Lords and those that sees women as their helpers are enjoying their homes.

Women be wise, don't allow any man to intimidate you because of your success

Success comes from God,
If he can't cope let him reverse.

They should continue and get married

They are a perfect match

Desperate idiot

Just deport him and his children if found guilty

The snake you are talking about is not just one particular snake but many of that same size

Snakes breeds around your area

Ask other residents if they have ever noticed such snakes around their own compound

Ask the megards how often they see such snakes

Get bitter cola and spread around your compound

There is this particular flower that kills snakes, ask those selling followers to sell them to you then you plant it around you

Keep monitoring them gradually you will eliminate all

With time he will explain to him what all those tattoos in his body are meant for

Miniso:
Who tey u, na dem dey collect sorting die, na dem dey make irrelevant text book a must to buy, na dem go come class laugh with student till semester end. Partiality na deir code of conduct...

Whatever, is still better than carry over

If you can't beat him you join him

All you want is to pass his course

Fountainofyouth:
I decided to bring this to family section because I need matured advice.

In all my life I've only had three relationships because I always weigh the pros and cons before I commit to anything, my past relationships always start with sex, infact I'm always persuaded for a long time before I finally agree and there is never any attraction at first for me, but when sex sets in, the feelings grow and whatnot.

Then I met this wonderful man, we got talking and chating and both clicked at the same time, he is everything I ever wanted in every aspect you can think of but there is a problem, the sexual attraction and love between us is really strong and it's affecting my health, we are both working and we talk and chat for hours every night, we cant do without keeping in touch everyday (we don't stay in same state but we've seen several times) we've not had sex cos there comes a time in ones life that sex won't be a priority or a defining factor in a relationship but I'm always scared, when we fight it always seem as if we would never talk again, my heart beats fast when he misses my calls, I think of him every night before I sleep, a little thought of him makes me wet, when there is a misunderstanding I don't sleep at all, I've tried my best to shut my heart from my head but it's not working, sometimes I pray to God to take this strong feeling I have for him away cos it's just too much, I have never felt like this for anyone in my life before, this is someone that sex isnt involved at all so why this feeling, he says he feels that strong way too but I cant really describe his,

Last week Friday I had to check my BP and it was very high so I told myself this had to stop cos it's not normal, love shouldn't affect ones health this much, so I stopped talking to him, he called and asked what's wrong I said nothing that I just need a break but he wasn't happy with it, he asked and begged that I shouldn't leave him which I said I won't but I didn't tell him he is affecting my health. Since then we haven't talked to each other and it has not been easy for me especially this holiday, sometimes I lay on my bed and cry and groan cos I long to hear from him but I want him out of my head, I need my complete health restored.

Please is this the real deal? Is this love? How do I go about being in control of my emotions without affecting my health? Feel free to ask questions and I'll answer as discreetly as possible, thank you.

Such feelings do happens especially where sex has not been involved

But the moment you have sex,

your mind
Your brain
Your heart beat
Your emotions
Your fears
Your feeling

All will come under your control

Your body has been desiring him and you are trying to resist it, you can't fight nature

You are actually fighting yourself and it will get to a stage, you will develop migraine headache

Just make a weekend or a date with him and enjoy yourself

Men has the ability to control such feelings because they don't attach emotions to sex and relationships

But women attach emotions to sex and relationships that's why their brains normally play pranks on them just as yours is manipulating you amd it will keep doing so until you make love with him

He is a jolly good lecturer and his type do normally pass his students

It's too early in this pregnancy to start subjecting yourself to all this test wahala

Once she can feel the symptoms of pregnancy, both of you should have rest of mind

Pregnancy comes with its own wahala and don't let her have complications pls

With time the pregnancy will develop properly unless she is not really pregnant

What a lucky man, even in such condition death refuses to come

And those that are free, are not as lucky as he is to sat alive

GT07115:
Hi peeps, I am in love with an 18 years old lady who is from a very poor background as mine, I will be 30 this year and I intend settling down maritally this year or early next year, I would have loved her to gain admission before doing anything marriage with her.

I have discussed going back to school with her and getting a trade along, by her consent to it I have gave her money to enroll for jamb and NECO exam which will make her secure admission this year, the jamb result is out and OK pending NECO exam which will start next week.

My problem is the parent are financially handicapped to contribute a dime to her education and we are not married that means the whole stuff is on my head, I would have loved to marry this year if she was already in school or a graduate, I am the first son with responsibility of putting my younger ones through school. I feel I will be shouldering a lot of responsibility, the relationship is just one way sided and the parents don't give a breathing space whenever she spends some hours late in my house, like reminding me we are not married, the whole thing is that I love her, she is a lady I can talk to, and very young and beautiful.

Your eyes were widely opened and your ears are also open before you continued this relationship uptil this cross road

You cannot eat your cake and have it in this relationship ❗

The issue of complaining that she is from a poor home like you, you are trying to hang your bag where your hand will reach to bring it down without standing on a stool that's why you continued

Her parents doesn't allow her to stay long with you any time she visits and they keep reminding you that she is not married to you yet, they are right and very right.

There are graduates and other ladies everywhere but you chose to marry her because you don't want and can not withstand the wahala of slay queen's

The truth is that you want her kind of lady to stay with you because she has to be under your authority, yes that's it

But there are some things you have not considered

Bear in mind that you will solely sponsor her marriage both your side and her family side.

Bear in mind that her siblings will look up to you as in law and you have to live up to expectations

If I should advice you,

Let her get her waec and neco exams first

Marry her if you realy want to and establish a trade for her but bear at the back of your mind that she must go for higher instructions

If you sponsor her education while still with her parents, don't come here and complain that she has followed another man

While she is leaving with you as husband and wife, she can start having kids if the both of you wishes

You want a wife that will be totally submissive to you and you have forgotten that its only ladies form such background that can give you that

In as much ams their private areas like bum bum and chest are covered

There is nothing wrong with it as they won't even lusy for each other

But being total naked before siblings is nit advice able,
before they will start blaming the devil

This is the effect of being a polygamous man.

One man one wife and body will drag anything because they are all from the same womb

For my own understanding,

Submission doesn't mean to be a mumu

It doesn't mean to swallow even the most bitter pill in relationship

It doesn't mean that you are voiceless

It doesn't mean that you are a slave

But this points I meantioned is exactly what men looks out for when they say women should submit

Submission means love with respect and care

That's means its expected return back to the woman from the man

When you are in love you show the following attributes

Respect
Be humble
Be faithful
Loyal
Obidience
Calm
Modest

But if a woman is expected to give out all this,

What are they expecting from the men to return to the women ❓

It should be a two way thing