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jeromestarks:
So I met a girl on Twitter. We talked and exchanged numbers.
I called her to come over to my place because I needed sex. She agreed and pleaded that I should not play with her heart.

She even asked me to buy her a new phone when she comes. I said no problem.
We agreed that she will see me tomorrow.

After talking with her on phone, I searched for her name on Facebook and found pictures of her and her baby which dated December, 2021.

I won't say anything. I will wait till she comes, fvck her, give her some money (highest 3k) and discard her.

No time to keep olosh0 as a girlfriend.
( I pray I won't contact disease shaa).

What if you contact disease, will 3k be enough for you to treat yourself

I think what you should do is to ask her questions and see if she will open up by herself

Ask her if she is married or have a baby before

If she says no, then le her her go she is not sincere

If she says yes, if you wish you keep her or you let her go

Sex and 3k won't allow you to settle down easily

1phone:
I will be 38! by February. Too much jealousy won't let me have a stable relationship. Upon discovering and confirming that my girlfriend is cheating on me, I break their phones with a serious beating and the relationship ended.

How long should I continue with this? I am not happy that at my age no child, and no stable relationship. I leave alone with a well-pay job here in Lagos.

I nearly killed somebody's daughter early this year all in the name of anger which comes from jealousy. How can I handle this, at a point, I began to think it was no longer ordinary. I need help brethren

The only help you need is with you

You must be ready to accept nonsense, men go through lots of things that is capable of making him loose guard, kill and go to jail

But inside the jail he is regretting and its already late to come out of jail

Control your anger not your girlfriend

Beating them will land you into bigger problems than anger Management

If you wish, go amd marry to a virgin, if she Want to be naughty she will be naughty

So try and humble yourself, you already have the source to feed yourself

Calm down and stop being hot so that you can be lucky to get a humble one

Bvlgari:
"Yawa don gas" as wife and her kids catch husband in his sidechick's home


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=We-t1y663Lc

If I were the woman, I would have just gone there to ask for money for food and provision, double the prices, collect it and go back home to wait for him

When he comes home thinking I will remove the roof on his head,

I will just pretend as if nothing happen and leave him to face the shame
Let his conscience judge him

lifenija:
We dated for 3 yrs even during covid it was tuff man, from no where babe change am for me, we need a break pleaded but omo say nope, i dont take care of her i dont put her first i dont call her daily, omo see excuses upon excuses.

One time she lost 60k belonging to d office she was working i paid it for her

Bought her equipment for her side business
The only thing I no do nah pay her rent.

Even from her salary n side biz I no chop inside n i never bother her.

Her friend told me she met another guy so all 3 yrs was like trash (fear woman guys fear them).

Well 2 days ago made it a yr we spoke, yes after d break up we never spoke she never return my calls she was always busy posting moving ahead, posting new bobo picture n nice places b4 i deleted her number.

Well bobo don tire to spend, now she remember me.

I just tell her i rather remain single than date her again.

Puke

You gave her a little good response

Let her try elsewhere since she no get sense

Goodness34:
first of i dont smoke Do drug or gamble of any kind,
but i have suffer alot.
overthinking is kiling me, currently am 27, no job no business, but i have a business plan to do and change everything about my life but i have no where to borrow. i can even start with 20k,
Am finished, the only qualification i have is Olevel, and a little skill. no hope for common man.
Any suggestion please?

Carry your dream plans to your family for financial help

20k is a small amount of money

Almaigaa:
True. But we no go vote Peter Obi.

There is no problem with that

Babara1994:
We met on Facebook, exchanged numbers and few days down the line, she asked for a date.

Fine, I obliged, but she didn't know I'm always on Dutch mode when it comes to dates. LOL

So we got the place. A very expensive eatery. She was well-dressed but was all bleached - a big turn-off. I actually like light-skinned women, but not the bleached ones.

Okay, fine. She ordered a plate of rice, a bottle of champagne, a cup of ice-cream and three pieces of meat-pie. I began to wonder if we came for national eating competition. Anyhow sha, I ordered a plate of rice and a bottle of malt.

When it was time to pay, I paid for mine ONLY and told her to settle her bill. It led to an argument and all eyes were on us. I left the place and insisted she settled her debt.

A big lesson to all women out there. If you come across me, I won't pay a dime until you're my wife. Why should I act like I'm your husband when you aren't my wife?

And if you're a guy reading this: Spend what you're OK with and don't make yourself a fool. If you go broke tomorrow, you'll be forgotten.

PS: I'm not a redpiller and I'm not a feminist; I'm just human. Humans THINK.

You didn't act well because, while she was making her crazy order,
you should have told her Politely that, they are much and you can only afford a plate of rice and juice

That alone will show her that you are not a careless spender

Now you left her with her stupid request, to face the bill

Do you think she will change after that
No, she won't charge, it's in her that's why she was the one that requested for a date

Next time, make sure you make stand clear once you are uncomfortable with such person or situation

You did not even respect yourself when putting both of you into disgrace

Almaigaa:
Aswear Peter Obi too stingy. He dey share #50 Salt for Aba. Instead of him to share either Rice, Beans or any valuable thing.

People just dey insult am here. Most People no gree collect. Few that collected,swear that they will never vote Peter Obi.

Voting is by choice

Even if you give a bag of rice, they will collect because there is hunger

Yet on the day of elections, they will vote their choice

chokekachy:
https://dailytrust.com/breaking-lawmaker-who-slumped-at-tinubus-jos-rally-is-dead

The healthy one is gone

The sickly is still moving around the same campaign ground

What an exchange

DanielAlhassan:
Is it proper for a family to force their children in marrying someone they don't like or love

Reason why I asked is because I meet this girl for almost a year now after being friends for someone Months we started dating and we are really in love

Not until late last month when she told me someone she never knew went to her uncle and tell him he wants to marry her they uncle concur because the person is rich and her uncle told her she must marry him

But it seems like the re getting alone because they girl don't talk to me that much anymore

She keeps telling me she trying her best for us

But she done really want to tell me what going on

What should I do please

Leave her to go and marry the man

Or you go before the Man to marry her

Her family can decide any nonsense that is their affairs

LacyPantSniffer:
I think I'll have to make a thread on how the things we used to enjoy in the 90's have lost their taste and quality.

Back then Tomtom was like hot pepper but now it's sweet like candy....What of Milo? You don't even need milk then cos Milo was so thick and the smell was captivating.

I remember Digestive biscuits of the 90's Very delicious and munchful....Not the rubbish they're doing now.....What of Gala back in the 90's? Very delicious with thick and nutritious sausage But now everything they make is rubbish.

You are very right

Milo now is without milk and sugar
So you have to buy that and add to get the original Milo taste of those days

Obavoh:
Last weekend she went out with this evil friend to a wedding.

She left our 1 month old baby that is still sucking breast at home. She left the house very early in the morning and returned a few minutes after 9pm.

Her excuse was that she was helping them cook and wash plates at the wedding


That is the evil friend at the back

You are not man enough to handle your family

So before you do one stupid thing that will put you inside jail

One weekend, you and your family should visit your wife family

When you are ready to go back, tell your in laws that you want her to be staying with them, if they ask you for how long, tell them she is their child

If they ask you what happen, just tell them their daughter will explain everything to them

Leave them there and warn her not to come to your house as you will prefer to be visiting them if it's necessary

Having done that
Go back and face your business

If her parents calls you for settlement, keep posting them

By the time they are tired of keeping her they will know that it's not a small matter

Make sure you keep sending whatever you have for them

Let your child resume schooling there

Na she shame go catch say her husband return am to her parents

That alone will rest all her faults and her brain will reformat

When next she sees that other woman, she will remember what she went through staying with her parents

But if you know that you are a weakly and can't go with the above
Deal with it

DECENTBWOY:

Life is just hard, life is very hard.
A 25 year old boy, no job, no investments, no education, no career, nothing at all just being stagnant all this years.

What did I really do wrong that I can't be forgiven, I have prayed, fasted, gone to church, knelt on the alter, cried.
Depression is now my middle name, God why? God why? God why?
Worst of it all is that I have people that could help me but they have all turned their backs on me, my father, my mother, my sisters, my brothers, they don't even know if I still exist.

I don't even need to explain much.

I am going to get a very strong alcohol, get very high and take my life. I won't feel the pains because I will be very high.

Maybe this will make God happy for creating me into this wicked world

If your family don't care about you and you kill yourself, they have nothing to loose about you and your memories will be buried as you go into the grave

That's where you will remain in total darkness alone

But let me ask you a question

Your parents are alive and your siblings are there

Why can't they help you

Are you one of those people that feel entitled

Why not go to yours parents, seat them down and narrate yourself to them and let them look into your matter

They may not know what you are passing through because you don't regard them or go near them

Your siblings may have neglected you because you don't respect them and you perhaps behave differently from them, so they don't like your attitude
Which means that you can't visit them

I think there are some things that you don't want to open up on

When you are ready to be on the track, you can read this again and pick up yourself and move to your family

But if you feel that you don't need your family and you won't go close to them

Remember, if you don't gather them to sort out things
They will gather to bury you, incase you finally commit suicide

CrisNews:
“Where Are His Friends?”: Alleged Video Of Actor Hank Anuku Looking Rough, Roaming The Streets, Causes Stir

https://pejoweb.com/articles.php?epr=view&pagename=1668490233WhereAreHisFriendsAllegedVideoofActorHankAnukuLookingRoughRoamingtheStreetsCausesStirCrisben.html

People should be allowed to suffer what they brought upon themselves

His friends do drugs too and they were doing such with
caution

Have you ever seen cigarette company using a lungs cancer patient for advert

Have you ever seen the brewery using a drunk for advert

We must have sense

udofia234:
Hmmm!!! I'm encouraged already by this

Smiles, lol
Just follow your heart

RestructureNig1:
Africans have their own wedding but spend a lot doing European weddings and wearing fake hair. Africans are shameless have low self esteem. Tụfịakwa

They are not shameless

Its the way they want it

You can do yours in the shrine, no one will question you

culf:
God bless you

Amen

God bless you too

udofia234:
Good evening my people!!!

I know I can always count on your wonderful advice!!!


October this year I met this lady in one of our church programs and we became friends, from that friendship something deeper started and its eventually growing to become marriage.

Guys there is an issue at hand, she's older than me with 7years, she is rich and own her own business, house and other properties but she's not married, she just relocated from the US early this year before we met, Guys she's being nice and I won't hide that!!!



When she mentioned marriage I told her am not buoyant enough for an elaborate wedding that she wanted , she offered to sponsor everything, she even offered to buy me suit if I don't have the money to buy, she said she will carry everything from her side and my side. Guys all my life I've never met a lady like this!!! I'm scared and at the same time short of words!!! she's a worker , decent , respectful.

I rejected that offer because of my integrity as a man, she might want to use that against me in the future!!! Though I love her but u know women and their attitude, she might say I married her because of her wealth!!! Pls should I agree to it or reject this tempting offer and looking at it I'm in my early 30s and I really wanna get married.

At least I'm okay but not rich like her, and most times she offers me expensive gifts which I rejected , I have never collected any gift from her, the day I took her out payed the bills.

pls help me my able nairalanders!!!!

For how long will you keep rejecting gift from her

You got some one who is matured and loves you, you are confusing the whole issues by having a double mind

Well if you want less children, marry her

If you will not control her and her resources, marry her

If you can manage a woman with her fluctuating character, marry her

If you don't care what people say, marry her

If you love her, marry her

If you know that it will not work out even when you marry her, let her be free and don't collect anything

If you still get married and regrets leaving her because you didn't understand that she loves you more than any other thing

Go back to her and finally marry her

Psquare married Lola who is his senior by 5yrs and Lola assistes him and gave her car to him the day he went to present his first album and those that saw him, though it was his car

They stayed happily till they got married and living happily with no scandal

Chemlite:
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Big grammar : someone who takes responsibility for his/her actions

It has different meaning

Finnbaloroficia:
Not like she didn't enjoy it, but it was more or pain then pleasure for her. I'm thinking maybe it's due to fear and anxiety

Finnbaloroficia:
Not like she didn't enjoy it, but it was more or pain then pleasure for her. I'm thinking maybe it's due to fear and anxiety

For the fact that she is having sex for the first time

You dont expect her not to be paranoid about it

It affects psychologically and it goes with the mindset too

greenermodels:
Thanks for the advice but these qualities you listed are common sense qualities that an average Nigerian lady wanting to be married would also display, spend enough time with her and you realise she's faking it. Imagine a lady in her thirties that can't cook even basic soups like eqwusi but would rather die than admit it upfront, the girl would eat up the meat in the soup while eating and would rather argue endlessly than stop it among other even more serious red flags.

So what makes you think dating a lady that can argue from morning till night, will give you your desired joy in marriage

Virginprincesss:
Yes I am scared into getting into a relationship because I don't want to lose my virginity
I am in my middle twenties
Is it normal or I am just overprotective
Can guys really go into a faithful relationship with me without sleeping with me
I need your advice

The kind of guys in town now are not ready to delay you a second before they sleep with you

You can save or keep your virginity if you know how you have been keeping yourself without loosing guard

Dont ask any thing from any guy and don't accept any responsibility from any guy

If you can survive tge above then your wedding night will be supper for your husband

Finnbaloroficia:
Last month my girlfriend came visiting. She stayed for 1week. During her stay I broke her virginity. We had a lot of sex. Note that I'm very good when it comes to pre-intimacy.

So after her stay, this week we chat I discovered that she didn't enjoy the sex. It was more of pain than pleasure. Please house I want t know if it's the normal thing, because I wasn't happy that she didn't enjoy it.

Was it the normal thing. Is she going to start enjoying it very soon. I'm afraid because I had that some girls do not like sex, they don't enjoy it.

Please experienced people some help me.

*Note that I'm very good when it comes to pre-intimacy*

You did not teach her enough about sex and you expect her to enjoy some thing she just started with you

You have to go back and play it right this time around

You can't be good at pre intimacy and she didn't enjoy it

How come

CrisNews:
Lady Who Graduated Meets Her Mum Who Fries Akara, She Signs On Her Shirt With Neat Handwriting

https://pejoweb.com/articles.php?epr=view&pagename=1668436409LadyWhoGraduatedMeetsHerMumWhoFriesAkaraSheSignsonHerShirtWithNeatHandwritingCrisben.html

God bless all mothers who go extra miles to provide for her family and children's education

Your reward is on earth

Nicenancy:
I lost my job last year. Before this, I was providing for my husband and child. About a month ago, I was added onto my secondary School Whatsapp platform . Two weeks ago, my husband saw I had made a paltery 1,300 naira contribution towards an old school welfare project via the Whatsapp platform and hell has broken lose in the house . Saying, we are in hard times and that I should have informed him bla bla bla. Now he has exited me from the page without my authorization and warned me to never rejoin that page. I feel so disrespected. Please advise me

I think you have to be careful with him

Most frustrated husband's vent their angers on their wife, yours is not going to be an exemption

Hence forth, every thing you want to do that may trigger quarrel between you guys she be kept secret

Start something doing so that you dibt ask him for money, even if it means going into teaching

For him to deliberately remove you from a school whatsapp

He may deal with you in a ruthless way

greenermodels:
Guys,I'm more than ready to settle but I keep ending up with girls that I later discover very unpleasant things about. I have talked to my married friends about this problem but they would just say that all women are the same so you manage your wife till you become tired. I doubt they're are really happy in their marriages, they're likely managing the situation they found themselves as best as they can, so please I need advice on how to get a potential life partner worth keeping for life,I don't have energy for problematic ladies.

The problem you are having is that you are looking for a woman that have no faults and a woman you can trust

Those days sardine use to be three inside and that's all we get inside sardines

Now sardines is two inside, yet people still buy it and manage the two they found inside and they will keep buying it till its left with one fish inside

The meaning of the above narrative is that

If you want to get a woman, get one and don't expect her to have all the qualities you want, that's if you have aa high demands

Look out for behavioral attitudes

Internal and external character

Good cooking skills

Homely in her manners of approach

Finally one who is prudent enough to manage every little thing given to her

If you are not satisfied with the above

Then the problem is from you

ExudeLoveToAll:
I can't fathom how an adult won't contribute to the running of their home. Men shouldn't be fortunate to see a woman who contribution to her home. Women should see it as a duty to contribute to their home not as a luxury.

It is called partnership not a sole proprietorship.

What if she is working and refuses to support her husband financially and the man's salary can't even feed his family for one month

If the man fortunate to have her as a wife or unfortunate

Is the man in a fortunate situation or unfortunate situation considering the cost of things

HarlequinLekex:
I've heard different stories of couples having misunderstanding on the basis that "you are not a responsible husband/wife."

Parents in the house who is a responsible husband?

A responsible husband is a man who have a legitimate wife and married to her according to her tradition and custom, who also father the children born by the wife

He is called a responsible husband because he is willing to carry his family responsibilities by providing
Shelter
Food
Pay hospital bills
School fees and other unplanned and hidden expenses

He should be able to perform his manly duty on his wife and keep her warm

If he is very lucky to have a supportive wife, who assists him financially to run the home

Then he is a very fortunate man

ahnie:
Thanks frozen for the explanation.

Thanks my dear

maureensylvia:
This afternoon, I got a distress call that a good friend of mine is missing for few days.
I met her on Facebook, she refers lots of Customers to me... One of them chatted me up and told me that Esther is missing.

She has been having problem with her husband, (blackmail kind of) she couldn't endure it, she threatened to commit suicide

Since Friday till now no one has seen her

Esther whom did you leave your triplet for

Pls if you see her pls notify me

We don't even know if she's dead or alive

First pics is the message I got

Second pics is her last words

Third pics is her full picture

Cc: Lalasticlala Mynd44 Seun

Women should stop killing themselves when the marriage becomes problematic couple with a bad husband, same thing applicable with a bad wife

Just walk away especially with your children

Instead of killing yourself and leaving the children behind

Take your children to your parents and move on to feed them

Nonsense ❗

ahnie:
Well happy married life to them.
So there re men who loves marrying widows?

Yes there are lots of men who loves marrying widows

They are not stressful to handle like the younger ones

At a stage in a man's life he wants a woman that will give him peace of mind

The matured women fell into that category