How many men even allow their wives to bring children from a previous relationship anywhere close to the home??
jessylaurel: I also went to boarding school. Your case is different because you never had the type of problem the girl is experiencing. Imagine finding out your dad isn't your biological father and your step mum maltreatment added with boarding school.
That's the more reason she has to be in boarding house
When she comes back home Every one would have missed her
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thisweekng: The shocking murder of a young Nigerian lady has shocked social media users. As An unidentified Nigerian man is believed to have murdered his young girlfriend aged 19 in Spintex, Accra. By beheading her
According to the report, the young man allegedly beheaded the young lady to get money rituals. His landlord caught him and reported him to the police for his arrest
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jessylaurel: Putting her in boarding school may affect the girl psychologically (abandonment issues). And what if he doesn't visit her on visiting day maybe because of work or the so called wife may cause him to either forget. Imagine how the child will feel knowing that the stepmother doesn't like her and might have influenced her dad. There's nothing more heartbreaking than for a child not to see her parents on visiting day it's better you come empty handed than not coming at all.
Well it depends on where the school is located
My children are in boarding house and they don't feel abandoned
I went to boarding school far away in the east, my parents never visited me and I don't feel bad about it because Lagos was too far to the east
Boarding home schools makes you to train yourself and be independent of yourself, especially catholic boarding schools
Give400: My gf is going for service beginning of next year. I'm planning of getting her pregnant so that she can still be mine. Yes I have planned to make her my wife and I was the one that disvirgined her. I just want to be sure if I am not rushing thinhs. At the same time I don't want her to go to the camp and get exposed and later change. What should I do guys?
PS: I never told her this. Because if I tell her she will probably decline and tell me to wait till she gets back. I just want everything to happen like it's unexpected. We have been doing contraceptives and she is a woman they can change in a second
You dont need to panic because being pregnant doesn't make any difference, men will still find her attractive
Some married women still cheats
A woman that have a good reason to cheat must cheat
Left to me, leave her let her go and come back, it's another opportunity for you to study her more
But if you can't wait, then go to her family for a small marriage introduction
BadRadio: Pretty ladies are just everywhere... u start something with her, thinking she's every inch perfect ...and you are seconds away to propose, another one comes along.
I'm clear about what I want, don't think I'm confused.
There's always someone more beautiful & handsome than the one you finally decide to settle with.
Some beauties can make you abandon a 15 years old relationship
Concentrate on character and behaviors of a person not beauty
Graciousheart01: This isn't suppose to be out here,but I have seen others healed ,and I believe I can also,aside eloping with another man,even under my roof,and finally packing everything in the house,and allowing me to see my son,any form to contact her to no avail.
It's fine Sha���,Shebi wen man turn beast una go start swearing up and down,true love doesn't exist.
No insult I no receive from this lady,I agreed to the breakup,and insults,but putting my son in a tight spot not to partake in his life,women una do well, biggest lie of the century her mother and relatives say they don't know where she is,aside the emotional damages,debts incurred ND many more,I believe am still here,I can't just die like a guinea fowl,almost 4 months since I saw my son,poor boy,Shit happens I just pity any incoming lady,men also hurt and they do so more especially when love is involved.
How can one be so brutal to the extent of saying am not the father,if she was desperate for a child , infact let me just say God take control
Mature advise needed I don't want to go into any destructive behavior and am tired of crying
Relax and plan how to recover and move on
She said is not your son, when the right time comes
You will locate her and do a DNA
Your son will grow and ask after your were about
If you had married her property all this drama will be handled by both in laws
That she became pregnant and have a baby for you, doesn't make her your wife, so she still have the freedom to be naughty
When you are ready to settle down, get married properly and have control over family matters
Women are drama queens and they have different displays, you may not beat that
One day she may come back to you, don't accept her as she may have realize that you are not strong enough to say no
And you will be trapped and she will keep dealing with you
Just go and hustle, when she tire she will return the child to you and move on
EvilRampage: Every weekday i take bread and soft drink, in the morning and afternoon. The nature of my work don't let me eat at home in the morning so i just pop a bottle of pepsi with bread to hold my stomach... Is there any health implications to it apart from blood sugar level? at night i take garlic and ginger to tackle that one sha.
You are not taking care of your body and overall health
Goodmarlian: I am igbo I was born and bred here in yorubaland but i have lived at least 3 years in igboland,igbo people are great people especially their men they are hustlers and goal getters, but you see igbo women they are a no no for me.
You see,just because nature blessed them with beauty and light skin they believe they world revolve around them. I have worked in jibowu,ladipo and some popular igbo markets because i have lots relatives in lagos markets,i have seen lots of nwaboy being brought from the village to serve their oga and one of the advice their oga always give them is to avoid girls during their years of service especially igbo girls,e get why igbo women are the most hypergamous women on earth and they dont hide it,they say it straight to your face.i think most igbo men from the village are narurally simps and have no game its not their fault it because of the hypergamous nature of igbo women over there. Yoruba are akwaibom ladies are the best,dont get me wrong,l its not that they dont like money,but it is lesser,i remember when i was still in a lagos polytechnic my dad died in my year 1 i had no choice than to look for a side job to be able to sustain myself and education that period i was so broke and lost my looks due to working in the sun,my yoruba female coursemates still respect and cherish me but the igbos ones looked down on me for real.can you believe one day an i was actually playing with one igbo girl in my photocopy shop in school and her friend aske her if its photocopy boys she now dates i just laughed.igbo women are just too hypergamous. Yoruba girl open their hearts to men irrespective of his financial status especially if he is serious and doing something but igbo women want a ready man and will be too ashamed of you if you are broke.
Its obvious you never wanted anything to do with Ibo in general and you being an Ibo blood was an error
You are free to date even people from cotounu, they have similar characteristics with Yoruba people
We Igbos don't care
You are already a Yoruba man by your birth and experience
You can adopt a Yoruba name, after all you hardly travel home so your kins men have little knowledge about you and they don't care because you don't identify with them
Do as you like it's your choice not ours
E wa wa nuta onye ofe nmanu, nkegi anago, e werezu umunna, umuaka gi efugo naka ka, afagi emechie, ndi bu nu echefu gi
MsJackson: Hello uncles and aunties. Please I need your opinion on this issue. First of all, I'm a married woman. Where I work presently, I have two colleagues i relate the most with. Mr A and Mr B. Both single. These two men are quite close, they go to bars at night to drink. I'm actually closer to Mr A than Mr B because he's facing some serious life challenges and has stepped in to help settle some issues I had with my hubby. Hubby even knows Mr A. Mr B is always complaining about my close rapport with Mr A, always asking Mr A if he wants to marry me. Mr B at one of our discussions told me that I'm attractive and someone would like to profess their love for me but would hesitate because not only was I married, I'm a strict, principled character. I can't help being that way. He likes dancing in front of me so much that I find it funny lol. We were having a discussion one-day at work about the best sex education to give youngsters. I was on the side of abstinence but Mr B was insisting on teaching youngsters to use contraceptives. Mr A remained neutral. I never condemned anyone's opinion and I'm entitled to mine also. Mr B got so angry and walked out on us. Since that day he has been keeping serious malice with me. It would have been ok if he did it with only me. But he also extended it to Mr A. Innocent Mr A oooo. Mr A and I kept wondering what exactly we did to offend him but no response. I kept asking him, but he said nothing. After like a month, he resumed talking to Mr A, but he dey bone me till date. Almost 6 months now. My question is: what reason can make a guy just bone a lady like that, because I still try to replay the events but it doesn't still make any sense to me.
Do I need to tell you that Mr Bis in love with you but your closeness with Mr A is his major problem
Mr A and Mr B ca is never ever quarrel, they can't
So he will keep keeping strait face on you until you make him fell comfortable that you don't have any secret affairs with Mr A
Meanwhile, balance your relationship with both of them and give them equal attention so tha one will not benefit more attention from the other
But be strict about it so that you don't fall carelessly for any of them, unless you are sure you don't care
ahnie: Credit alerts only. First was with my newly opened business acct of last month.
Then this evening own was sent to my daily acct.to be honest I don't remember doing business with the sender.
All my daily transactions money are paid into my daily acct with a particular pos vendor by me,then I transfer some of the funds into my business acct.
The person will appear soon and give you reasons for those transfers
I am a married man and I have six children. When I met with my first wife she was a single mother of 1 girl she was a years 6 months we got married when she was 5 years old. We had 3 children together making them 4 unfortunately we lost her in 2016 during the birth of our twins.
Before she passed on she asks me to promise her that if anything happened to her I should never send her daughter back to her family to experience the same thing she went through in there hands. I have promised her that the child is mine and she will never go anywhere the day she will leave my house will be on her wedding day. I have also promised her that nothing will happen to her and we will grow old together. Unfortunately we lost her and I have continued being a father to all four children and I have never treated my step daughter differently.
I have since remarried and we are blessed with twins. When I met with my current wife I didn't tell her that my step daughter is not my biological child she knew she was my first child. She has been a part of me ever since she was 1 plus and I didn't think it was necessary telling my wife she was not my child.
She was treating all four children good until my wicked aunty has spill the beans which I have apologised for not telling her in the first and I have asked her to continue being a good mother she was before knowing the truth. But she refused saying I didn't tell the truth and the child should go and leave with her mom family. I have explained to her the reason why she cannot stay with them to no avail and I ask her not to tell the child the truth but she has told her.
It wasn't easy for her knowing the truth she asks me if I will take her back to her mom people I said no. She is still my child and she will not go anywhere and I will resolve the problem very soon.
Unfortunately my wife has totally changed so much toward the child and I hate coming home seeing her crying all the time. She feel insecure in the house knowing that she is not the biological child of the house.
Talking to my wife was to no avail she has insist that the child must go back to her mother family or they will be not peace.
I reported the problem to her people nothing was done and we are still dealing with the same thing everyday.
Honestly speaking I hate being in such a messy situation but I will not send her back to her mom family she is my first child and I have made a promise to my late wife that the day the child will leave my house it will be the day she will get married. Since my wife want her to leave and the child is already depresses. I have come to conclusion I will not divorce her but I will rent a 2 bedroom apartment for her to be staying with the twins while I continue staying with the four children in my house I owe the house.
I haven't told her anything about my decision yet and I want to know if getting her own house will help the situation. This is where I need your advice nairalanders what do I do in this situation?
This is a very tight situation corner
She just want to frustrate you so that your girl will leave, but she doesn't know that the presence of that girl in that house means a lot
I think you will put her in boarding school and she can home during holidays
Am not happy over your wife attitude and she is doing it on purpose
If you can afford to rent an apartment for her, you can go ahead but a mini flat should be OK so that you can handle her house rent
But I think you can ask her to return to her family pending when she wants the issue to be resolved
I don't know why she wants to traumatize your life just because of an innocent girl
MethPedo: Mom asked me today how my dating life is going and why I never brought a gf home yet. I usually answer with I havent met the right one yet But this time I decided to be honest and told her that I never had a gf and gave up on dating. She was shocked and hit me with the most answers possible dont be silly cmon you are only 22 there are girls out there u just need to talk to them I have to admit I got mad and told her that women are whores that would betray you the first chance they get. I don't know even why I am posting this . Probably because I have no one else to tell this to
You have not grown fully as a man, you already hate women
You have not experience life that involves women , yet you hate women
You are not yet married, yet you hate women
You do t have kids yet, which will be birht by a woman, yet you hate women
When you get galvanized, you search for a woman to make love to, yet you hate women
When you get old, you must be looked after or cared for by a woman, yet you hate women
You just judged yourself and sentence yourself
Your problem was created by you and it has no remedy
Go and use hypo to wash your heart and mind over your impressions about women, because if you continue that way,
myke92: I know this topic has been severely over flogged, but, I still believe there's quite a lot yet to be said about it.
As a rational human being, I believe, before taking a decision as critical as getting married, one needs to put a lot of things into perspective, one of which is the reason for going in.
Now, we all know that, recent events relating to failed marriages has seen the woman getting quite a lot off of the union, aside that, the law favours the female folks more in that regard.
But, in spite of this, men still keep getting married every weekend, which begs the question.
And so..,Without being sentinmetal, utterly religious or biased, I ask this question once again.
Is Marriage truly beneficial to a Man.?
And if it is, what are the real benefits aside from the following :
- Companionship - Procreation
Let's hear once again from the experienced folks.
For the man, The wife and children belongs to him That alone is the real benefit
For the wife The husband doesn't belong to her alone, he belongs to others
For the children, they belong to dady but stays forever with mothers
They will all still bond and live happily if love exists and where love does not exist, the man feels the heat more
mjuvey3: At 34,No wife,no kids,no job,no apartment of my own,no savings.
Anyone that reads this will think I'm lazy and nonchalant but I'm not.
Powers from father's side have sworn that I'll never make it in life.... Powers from my mother's side too are waging a war on my life...The war is too much on my head.
What makes is worse is that I'm an only son.
What I need now is a job or someone with spiritual powers that can deliver me.
I'm intelligent, unproblematic and very creative yet life hasn't been fair to me.
I have fasted,prayed,gone to herbalists,alfas etc....Yet no changes....My sister who is a multi millionaire and well connected hates me with passion (My spiritualist said it's the work of the wicked ones... That they know that if she helps me,I'll be great)
I think of suicide everyday..... Nothing seems to work and I've stopped believing in God.
I just wish I was never born
I think you need to go closer to God to break free from this obstacles
Go to MFM prayer city and join their deliverance program with three days dry fasting
Your sister that is a billionaire, do you know where she belongs Have she been helping your parents and your siblings
There is nothing wrong with you but you have to be closer to God for him to hear your cry
SPAMBOX7: I heard you could sign in the agreement the number of years you want to be married to your spouse. Once the years have exhausted you two can go your separate ways unless you want to sign another contract again. How true is this guys?
We in Nigeria don't practice such because of our culture and traditions
aisha1314: As an adult, should you still listen to and follow your parents' advice or should you just use your own common sense and instincts to figure things out?
Parents advice depends on the situation they are advicing you on
When it's about life safety When it's about marriage When it's about how to save money When it's about the kind of relationship with friends
I will take their advice because they have more experience than me
However, there are other areas they don't have any idea of
In this case, I will advise myself properly to avoid mistakes that will affect me
Mainchip: I am a 28yr old lady .......pls I need advice I dnt know if something is wrong with me or it's my dad that is being over reactive cos I dnt have a mum anymore......my family thinks I am insane cos I stood my ground dat I do not want to get married....ryt frm time I had always wanted my own kids bt not marriage,cos I feel I haven't gotten anything out of life...I feel so unfulfilled with my level of success no1 believes I am normal...my parents marriage are d only peaceful marriage I ever experienced evryoda1 is a whack....I am currently pregnant and I am all excited Abt my pregnancy bt I dnt want to marry my baby daddy even if he is ready to take d big step.... nothing jst freaks me Abt d institution....I feel all d stress doesn't worth it,jst cos u want to be under a man,pple Even end up in psychiatric homes in d name of marriage,many unfulfilled dreams lies under d Institution to an extent I have it all planned out and I can take care of myself and my baby.... without my baby daddy.....I jst want to serve God make a nice footballer out of my kid..adopt another child and be happy does it mean something is wrong with me ...pls advice me ...I jst need other opinions apart from my family's own
If within uou, you know that you are capable of taking care of your plans and you don't need a man's contribution
I need advice from mature and married people on this issue. Anyone that have been following me for a while can relate with few things have brought here concerning my marriage. I and my wife had a serious issues recently and i sent her out of my apartment, i descover she was having emotional affair with a random guy which i found out. Though she apologize but i struggle to let go cos i felt heartbroken and betrayal. I never expected she could go that route even though out union hasn't been that joyous or peaceful either. When i sent her away then, she took all her loads to the parlour cos we leave in a big flat. We stop sharing room together ever since then and also she stop doing any wify duty for me. The problem is that, she works with the nigeria correctional services and ever since she has gotten the job, she has change totally. The job is stressing her alot that she doesn't have time for the family, the worst part is that the salary she earns is low that she spend all on transportation without any leftover. I have complain about this but she told me to be patient with her that things will get better saying the job is a federal job and have a future to behold. I kept ingnoring and managing things like that which wasnt easy for me as a man. We live in lagos and she spend close tk 4 hours go and from work daily. Attimes she won't be able to do her wify responsibility. Now becos of the issue we had together recently, my wife had made attempt to leave the home and rent an apartment in her working place to live there just ro reduce stress on her.. In as much as i know it was my fault that made her to take such drastic decision, i am not ready to let her go cos i don't want to leave seperately with my family. She is ok with the move but i am not, cos i dont have that confidence in her again what she might be doing by the time she start living alone. Now i cant relocate with them to the place cos my work is closer to when we stay presently and the environment is better than staying in barracks. Also the place we live presently is very economical cos we pay very low house rent dues to family connection which has help us to save and not paying rent at the moment. Now i dont know what to do whether to allow my wife go with my kids to stay at her working place while i stay where we are now presently. I can imagine myself living like a bachelor while am married.she agree i will be coming to visit them but we all know its not easy to meet up attimes. Now pls i need advice if i should let her go, or stay . Although we have settle our issues but she still insist she wants to go.
Her job is demanding and she spends all her income on transportation
I think you guys need an in house help probably from your family so that you won't be tempted to sleep with her because of family disgrace
She can rent an accommodation close to her work place and be coming home when she is off duty
You can stay with the kids if they are above 2 yrs
If she wants to flirt, she will flirt right under your roof and you may not know
In all, I hope she will save money too if this system is adopted and if she will spend more, then let her continue the way you guys are doing it
Moreover, she can take transfer to their zonal office at Alagbon, at the Lagos headquarters, they don't monitor as much as those on correctional centers
Pellahblaze: Please forgive me for making you read so much I'm just trying to make you understand what I put here
There is this lady who comes to work beside my shop who happens to be my neighbor we played together and share things together. It happened some months ago when I part ways with my baby mama, about 2 weeks after the incident, me and this lady were sitting in my shop, I was helping her to massage her finger where her husband caused her injury, suddenly this lady gave me a deep kiss on the lips. That was when we started the relationship she comes to my house anytime I need her and exchange things together.(material thing)fast forward to yesterday, we were both having conversation on the phone when she brought up the matter of taking an oath which I tell her I can't do such, since then I noticed some changes in her behavior which I asked her what was wrong with her and her reply was nothing until today when she called me telling me that she as already seen my true color I further asked her what she meant by that , I asked her if it's what I said yesterday she just said yes that if I'm not going to take an oath with her that I should forget the relationship between us, then I said it's ok that I know from the start this going to happen. Then she called immediately after reading my messages I didn't pick her call, she called many times but I refused to pick her call then I decided to pick it later, she asked why i didn't pick her calls then I tell her I was working she said really that so I can ignore her call, that was when she said ehnn she does not mean what she said the other time that she was just playing with me to see my reaction. I tell her immediately that she as already say it with her mouth, that have already accepted our breakup. She started begging me, she as being begging me to forgive her that she was just playing with me. But me as I am now I don't think I'm ready for any relationship both married or no married I'm done with relationship for now.....
Be polite with every thing you say to her but run away from her and whatever she has to offer
Jackanda1: Hello house. Is there any one that has this problem? It seems there is a part of my brain that is wired this way for years now.
While most people lie to escape punishment and blame etc, i tend to lie for no reason atall. Sometimes i need to lie further just to modify the initial lie.
Examples: 1. I went late to work because i had to take home some office files which i worked with all through the night. When asked, i lied to my boss that i had a compound dispute tha made me come late. Saying the truth would have earned me praises from my boss and saved me alot of stress.
2. I got injured at home. When my landlady asked how, i lied that i had a serious accident when going to work that morning. I told her a long story about the accident scene and all. She was sympatizing with me and almost wept.
These are just few examples i can type now, there is more.
I can't help but lie most of the time i have conversation with people. Any advice?
nlfpmod, seun
Is a bad habit you formed and it will keep developing to the extent that you will become a chronic liar and people will never trust you or believe you
If you take it up into marriage, your partner will never trust you and that will be the greatest problem of your marriage and work place
Family › Re: My Wife Hates My Step-Daughter. Please Help by frozen70(f): 1:45am On Dec 01, 2022
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