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Shadysen:
finance will her/ his best attitude

Dont be flashing money on a woman let's see if she came for the money or for the love

Same thing with men, some men marry a woman because of her status and when he couldn't get control of the money he starts making her life unbearable

knowhowk:
You are Wrong...

Which Kain attitudes... Seen people with Amazing attitudes ,Angelic.. When Poverty was not seems to be leaving this Couple Na so wife former good attitudes changes immediately.

Then she has been pretending all the while

Fearyourcreator:
You dey mind them ... Some wealthy people can't keep marriage... Even the wealthiests ...

Only few my dear

1Alex:
you are correct. That's why it is very important to date before getting married. If she can truly put up with you knowing you are broke during dating (dating is different from courtship) , she can manage with you also in marriage.

Exactly my point

fineboynl:
Did your father build the house? If yes the house belongs to you and she has no right to send you away. Stop touching her things or money. Stay put there but spend yoir money for feeding and other things don’t use her things.

If she plans to bring a man into that house never allowed it. Destroyed the marriage and give reasons why it shouldn’t hold. Except they plan to rent house. Never allowed that in that house.

Your mum is on a deadly mission, she wants you out of her life if possible so don't try to challenge her

I think you should just move out peaceful before she and her man will pack in

You can visit her if you wish

For her to be planning her marriage without informing you shows that she no send any of you

Just move out and watch her from a distance

That man getting married to her without introducing himself to you is a dangerous man and don't be surprise he is coming to wreck your mum down

Dont quarrel with her, just move out

If God help you find your bearing and she comes to you for help

Deny her exactly the way she denied motherly love to you

fineboynl:
Did your father build the house? If yes the house belongs to you and she has no right to send you away. Stop touching her things or money. Stay put there but spend yoir money for feeding and other things don’t use her things.

If she plans to bring a man into that house never allowed it. Destroyed the marriage and give reasons why it shouldn’t hold. Except they plan to rent house. Never allowed that in that house.

If he should go with this, don't be surprise his mother may curse him to go mad

Some women are very wicked especially when you stand on her way

He doesn't even know if his father bought the land and the built it

He can't say much about the land and who owns the building

Rubbiish:
All these things u are saying happens in the movies. What do u mean by love & be ur friend? In marriage real stuff comes in, school fees, house rent, feeding etc. The word love is pure deception. Didn't u read a story of a guy on this section whose wife left him because he is unable to provide for the home? We should stop deceiving intending couples with love, it is misleading.

Until you are lucky to fall in love and get same in return, I mean true love
You won't understand the value of love in marriage

Karen2024:
I've been living with my maternal aunty and her husband for over two months now and I can testify that the family is good; no quarels; no disagreements and no any form of fight.

My aunty's husband is kind and gentle likewise his wife and they both treat me with care but what disturbs me is that i suspect my aunty is cheating. Whenever my uncle travels she brings in a man and tells me that this is her brother..she would usher him into the bedroom and they'd spend good time with before coming out. The man has never visited when her husband is around.

I don't want to reveal it as she'll see it as act of betrayal but i want her husband to know. How do I go about it?

You must learn to mind yourself and your business

Before one Jezebel will truncate your future

Whatever she is doing is not your business honestly

Her husband will catch her one day by himself

Incase you don't know, you are a potential threat to her dirty life

Dont even tell anyone what you saw
She will be the one that will expose herself

DoMeGood09:
You made a lot of sense. I have been avoiding the girl now and she’s not happy about it.

Though she told me a lot about her and said she does not keep a lot of boyfriends. That she’s monogamy.

Keep avoiding her if you can, at the end she will respect you for not falling into her trap

KeyEndurance:
There Was A Girl I Toasted Last Month And She accepted Me But Later Told Me That No Sex Till i Marry Her. And She Gave Me Her Reason That Her Ex Broke up With Her After Having Sex With Her, so That Thought Her A Lesson And Me I Dont know When I Can Marry Her Because Am Still Hustling. So What Will You Do If I Girl Tell You this?

Tell her that you are not ready for marriage so that she too will decide whether to accept it or not and if she refuses, she is you move

DoMeGood09:
I broke up with my girlfriend three months ago. The major reasons were

1. She’s lazy.
2. She doesn’t know her to cook.
3. She isn’t romantic.
4. She likes clubbing.
5. She’s moody.

Yesterday, her friend chatted me up online and asked me if I was still interested in the relationship. I replied no. Then, she asked if I liked her, I responded no. But we can be friends. Ever since then, she’s been calling me. Hope she’s not trying to fall in love?

Both of them have the same character

So if you want to go in and come out, is your decision

If you want to respect yourself

Looks else where

Princess80:
The sexual harassment by NLders is really annoying.
I do recieved mails from many people here(most especially from the guys). what most of them want is to get laid, as usual i do politely decline.
While some gentlemen backs off after knowing who i am, few becomes feral and throw insults at me for no reason whatsoever.

Maybe you lots are just always horney or most of the women back home are subjected to feel inferior in the society , or you probably meet sluts everyday of your life and you have no experience of being rejected but i dont think its nice to sexually harass a lady.
I think its immature, short and brutish.

The problem is not the guys send the dm

The problem is you accepting the mail

I get such mails and I reject it immediately

I don't even want to know the content

Osense10:
Any Man Who Doesn’t Own House, Car Before Marriage Doesn’t Have A Future
How true is this??

All the above mentioned doesn't guarantee that a man is complete to be able to face the future

Johndagr8t:
my younger brother that applied for electrical and electronic
engineering in unijos,was given vietenary medicine and
surgery today,his obviously not happy infact the guy is
depress now,
please how lucrative is vet medicine in nigeria,his 23 now
and he doesn't want to write another jamb again

He can accept that, do well in year one and apply to switch to medicine or pharmacy or even the engineering after year one, if he has a good grade

Mammie330:
I got married few months ago after dating my husband for some years.

Our relationship was really beautiful and I was the envy of most ladies.

At some point we had a long distance relationship but Communication was smooth.

The first time he came to visit , I discovered he had been chatting with one girl, having flirty conversations and all. He said he was just catching cruise and apologized for that. I forgave him.

Another time I discovered he doesn't know how to set boundaries with ladies.
I complained about all that and he promised to change.
This is someone that comes to visit me at any given opportunity.
Then recently I found out he had been chatting with one girl on Tiktok.
The girl already started calling him baby and I saw where he told the girl he likes her already.
As usual he said it’s not serious, that he hasn’t seen the girl and he didn’t mean that.
The girl chatted him up and he flowed because he was bored.
Truth Is I’m hurt and ashamed.
Where’s the self respect?
Someone you don’t know from anywhere.
He eventually blocked the girl but I don’t even trust him anymore.
When we were together, he wasn’t anything like that and I’m wondering what went wrong.

He keeps talking about how much he loves me and how he wouldn’t have been married to anyone else if he didn’t get married to me but at this point I’m not even moved again.

I’ve asked him countless times why he is flirting with ladies online.
He said nothing.

He said he hasn’t touched any lady apart from me.
I’m actually tired of asking, I want to know what I can do to get the pain away.

I’ll be alone for a while.

Should I stop talking to him?
Should I report him to my mum?
Should I play along and just develop a coping mechanism?
What coping mechanism can i develop?
Should I keep complaining?
I didn’t allow him touch me before he travelled and he was pained.
I really just want my man, I don’t like how he’s not making me trust him anymore.
I don’t go after other peoples’ men why should mine be like this?
Can he possibly change?

Just online flirt and you are getting angry
What happens if he does it real life, you will get mad, right ?

Just keep cautioning him until you get tired of it

Meanwhile he may be doing it for the fun of it
Men don't really get satisfied being with one woman

So he wants to explore and you are lucky he is doing so online

Is either he stops it or he does it in reality with them

Left for me, relax and concentrate on your marriage, he is just entertaining himself and nothing else

Nic3:
I tried linking it but I didn't know it didn't go through because it has never for once stopped working

VI while I am in Niger State

Go to their main office there

Messi1:
I started a work as a delivery boy in a drink distributor not long ago and everything is going right but one thing I dislike is my boss's fiancee's flirtuous move towards me. She fundiles my hair and caress them.

This lady behaves as if she doesn't know me in the presence of my boss, but in his absence she makes the environment uncomfortable for me with her amorous advances.

How do I avoid this woman? I don't want to have problem my boss.

Just ignore her with her move, if you can't open your mouth to give her a stern warning

Fireandforget:
.. Good day all. Pls I need advice from the elderly one's here .

I'm 23 years of age
I stay with my parents for now ( planning on getting my own apartment soon)
I'm a student of NOUN
I operate heavy equipment as my side hustle ( forklift)
I'm am responsible and a goal oriented person
I don't smoke but I drink occasionally..

My problem is carrying olosho... ( Sex worker)

It all started when I turned 18.. when my friend favor. Carried me to a sex brothel on December 31st./ New year Eve Night...

Since then.. I have been some how addicted to it .

I can't keep a girlfriend, not that I'm not able to get them is just that. I can't bond with them.

I just prefer fire and forget.

I get irritated easily when seeing the same female Time after Time..

I like exploring different varieties

Here's the issues.. how do I stop.. before It's affect me beyond repair or damage my future...

Pls.. I need mature advice.. cause I'm a reserved person... There is no one close by that I will explain to that will believe me..

Cause I'm most time mistaken as a pastor. Cause of my reserved and gentle nature..
.
But deep down in me I know i m the exact opposite.

Pls I need realistic advice from my elders who have been through this path in life .

Thanks

The major problem you have is getting tired of just one person, thats why you prefer fire and go

Going to ashawo is nit the bigger problem

Now tell me what makes you think that you will have a peaceful home because you like changing pussy because you feel it's easily available

The first step to take us to run to God for forgiveness and repent, then you can have the mind to stop such dirty life

After that get a girlfriend and learn how to be faithful with just one girlfriend

Once you make up your mind to go to God in with prayers and be serious about it, you will come out of it

SMJay:
What is the brutal truth about life after marriage?

What I can say is, make sure you marry someone you love very well and let that person be your friend

No matter the situation, if you respect each other, you guys will cope

Life after marriage will humble you no matter how tough, stupid or careless you are

MufasaLion:
If you're not financially buoyant, you will regret it.

Finance is not the major problem of marriage, the main problem is the attitude of the person you are married to

Nic3:
My phone got stolen so I tried doing my SIM welcome back, only to discover that my SIM wasn't linked to my MTN line.
So I went to their office only to discover that my SIM card bears a different name from mine and doesn't tally with the name on my NIN and welcome back can't be done. This is a SIM I have been using for the past 7 years and I registered it myself.
At that point I started crying like a baby....

Please who can assist me

If you want that particular line, go to MTN head quarters in VI that's where it can be solved

But for you not to have linked your NIN that's the punishment for you

Arrewa:
This is the Oil Prospecting Lease (OPL) 810, the Kolmani oil field site, located in Gombe/Bauchi States.

The first oil drilling in the Northeastern part of this country is taking place today, at the Oil Prospecting Lease (OPL) 809 and 810 at the Kolmani oil field site located in Bauchi and Gombe States.

The first oil field in the northern part of the country.

Thank you, Baba Buhari!!

Why are you thanking Buhari, is he the one that dropped the oil there or he is the one that discovered it himself

Omo4jesus:
Please I need advice concerning my life. I have two kids for two different fathers. My real love is the father of my first child. We lost contact after I discovered I'm pregnant for him immediately after our first degree. All efforts to get him back then proof abortive. I passed through the pain of pregnancy and birth alone but I have some one too that is disturbing me for marriage this time. When he discovered I'm pregnant for another person and I can't find him. He accepted to take me with the pregnancy despite the fact that his family members fought him seriously for dis. We both move on. After the birth of the baby after some few years I gave birth for him too. But I discovered he did not use to do anything for that my first child even school fees and buying of all things are always done by me and he sometimes use to abuse me with the issue. And later he stopped doing things for even his own child. That he is not even sure again if the two children are his. So I started working hard to train my children and stopped asking him for anything. But now I have been indebted in my business and I am owing much money that I'm dying every single day because of the disturbance from my creditors. And my first child is now in the university the burden is now much on me. Suddenly the father of my first child showed up that they asked him to look for me and do the needful for me that he has offended me. He said he is ready to take care of me and child because martially he has never been stable and did not have a child till today and he is already over 40years. I need your advice because as I am now I have developed high BP. But this my second husband said he will kill me and my child if I listen to him and he is not helping me. Even he is not helping me for his own daughter too. And we did not do any marriage,What will I do please I need help.

This is the time to mend your disorganized love life and birthing here and there

If you still love the first one go back to him but make sure he marry you properly

As for the present man you are staying with, if you know that you are tired of the relationship, pack out to where he can't trace you then your older man can go and perform your marriage rights amd pay your dowery and he becomes your husband

With time the second man will cope and move on too but you guys have to decide on where he can be seeing his daughter

Once you get settled down, start building all you left behind with your first man

Naijapolitics03:
Hi everyone. I'm a popular moniker on the Politics section, however, I am currently going through some turmoil in my marriage. I cant use my main moniker because of politics ish...

Few years ago (about 4 years now), I moved to Canada with an F1 Visa. At that point, I was only 28 and married with the woman I loved. We had a daughter. However, While I was in school doing my MSc, my wife came in the second year as a dependant, together with our baby. A little over a year, she started complainning about the mundane and boring lifestyle we were living in Canada. I convinced our stay in Canada is not forever, as I equally planned to move back home once I saved enough and had a child while we stay so the baby can be a citizen. Figured she could no longer cope, and perhaps the Winter wasnt really helping matter. Because of her, I wasnt staying in a Shared appartment and was paying heavily for rent, bought a decent TV so she could occupied herself with that while I am in school. Despite her mum's and family pleas, she turned deaf ears decided to move back to Nigeria, a situation I didnt find so comforting because I became terribly lonely after she left. I started working shortly after my program and made plan with her family to set her up in business in Nigeria.

Early this year, my guys back home started telling me how they often see her in club royale partying with friends. I didnt take this serious untill I started to noticed some strange whenever I called her. She stopped doing video call with me without reasons, and there are times when we would have plan to have some sexy talks on phone during the night and she would dissapoint. I asked her about the party things and she excused that with loneliness. I planned to go visit Naija by December because I missed my daughter and wife too, but tbh, I dont know the situation of things as I am scared my wife has probably been cheating on me. And I have not inform her yet of my coming home.

NB: for clarification F1 in this case is a study permit. I used this so everyone could understand since F1 is mostly common in the USA

She could be enjoying her freedom and doesn't want to miss her click that's why she decided to rush back home

When next you visit, take to her parents and ask her in the presence of her parents why she doesn't want to relocate with you

Whatever her reasons, it doesn't make sense

Therein on the presence of her parents, tell her that you want her to be staying with her parents because the stories of the dirty lives she has been leaving is bringing shame to you

After that, just stand up and leave and go back to your base

She will be the one to search for you

As for your daughter, she will be safe and fine

LivelyMandem:
Guys in the house, what is your experience like dating single mothers.

I recently met a beautiful young lady who has never been married but has a daughter with a guy who isn't taking up much of the responsibility.

I have a good job and can obviously take care of the basics. The issue started from when I started giving her some money randomly not for any particular purpose. She called me recently and said her daughter's school fee is due and how much am I bringing.

In my head, she is not my child so why do you want to push the responsibility on me so fast. If I ask about the dad, she'll say I shouldn't worry because he's irresponsible.

We're not intimate yet because she said no sex before marriage, na that one we still dey fight about.

My question is, is it ok for her to ask me for her child fees just because we're dating or am I supposed to automatically take up the girls upkeep because I'm dating her mother?

My problem with some single parents is that, once a man says I love you, they forget that they are second class and start billing the man, instead of gaining the man's heart

If you are a single parent by circumstance, then face it squarely and seat up

@Op
You can see that she is demandfull, if you are ready to tolerate that then deal with it

I don't even think your family will accept such nonsense if you should tell them

But how come you accepted no sex before marriage
Do we have anything call second hand virgin

I think you are a simp, no wonder she is pressing your mumu botton

preciousele:
How can i deal with these? He is not supportive, he does nt share bonds with his kids, insulted me he calls his wife in public, he doesnt care about our welfare. His only companion when at home is his phone

Have this been his character or he just developed it

If it has been his character, then you just have to deal with it and take care of things that you can

If he just developed it, then you have to find out why and you guys settle yourself well

No marriage is sweeter

Franciscabless:
He met me with 1 child who is 3 years 10 months we only did introduction ,I have 1 child for him 1 years 5 months and I am pregnant with another one, he is working but he won't provide for me and our children I am tired of begging my mum everyday for foods and money she doesn't have much but she is trying her best to provide for me and my children she is paying for my first daughter school fee which it is not her duty to do so. I am tired of the marriage and I want to leave him please I need advice no insult if you insult me I will insult you back

Leaving him is not the solution since you yourself is not contributing to the marriage except children

Now is not as if the issue just started
You know what you have been through while staying with him, yet you keep getting pregnant

I think you should take a look at break from having more children

Get something doing so that you can put something on the table, if he doesn't put

By the time you have a source of income, then if you want to pack out, it's going to be a decision you will take with our asking any one

Think of what to start doing and look for who to get the money from

You can even tell him that you need money to start doing something and he may give you that support

The men are tired of having women who adds nothing to the family up keep

They need help too to support the family

AquaPetals:
My friend just came crying to me today. Because of the strong words used on her by her hubby.
Apparently, they had a heated argument. She started it all by accusing her husband of not saving enough money from his earnings (this was 11 months after pressurizing her husband to reveal his actual monthly earnings to her) .
She does a little business on the side and her husband usually borrows money from her, of which he always pays back. But she felt this shouldn't be so and kept wondering if her husband has a family elsewhere.
Her husband had enough of her rebuke and vehemently told her to pack up and leave the marriage if she was not satisfied with the way he saves his earnings.

Was he right to use such a statement on her? wasn't he taking it too far?

So many people are in a tasteless marriage because of bad attitude and bad economy

Well I think the woman should focus on her business and children since the man is not making savings

I believe if the man can face feeding alone, that's OK for someone who can't make savings let's see if his family will not feed or if he can't feed tge family

While the wife should remain there and face school fees

Then both of them can handle house rent together

So many marriages these days are run by the wives and if the man humbles himself, she will carry the load and no one will know about it

But if the man is showing himself and yet he can't feed a whole day meal that's where the problem is

buJu234:
i don't think its juju..

it may be BP & heart attack..

the only problem is that lack of Utopsy is always the problem...;
that is why people run away..

because you hardly win any case, when it involves a dead body.

Islie:
https://pmnewsnigeria.com/2022/11/21/lagos-woman-muinat-found-dead-in-hotel-lover-flees/?amp=1

I think is BP not hard drugs

SUGARCyprian247:
Omo wahala, That will render my Degree Invalid

That's true

Andres28:
Help landers..what can I use to bring the shape of my head to normal.I wasn't born this way.

If this is actually you, you should be proud of yoor look

God have created you the way you should be and God is proud of you


If you get married ams have children, tell your wife, mother inlaw or any other person coming for Omugo to mould the head of your child with hot water towel, by so doing they will get a better shape of hair

SUGARCyprian247:
Please I need help!!!

My real Year of Birth is 1995, I have 1995 in all my documents BVN, NIN, B.Eng, Birth Cert, Passport, NYSC. etc

Everything is intact except WAEC, I was deceived by a friend/classmate when registering for WAEC that if i use 1995, I will be too young and they might cease my results. That I should use an older Year. That was How I used 1993 in WAEC.

Now, I don't even know how to correct this., I want apply for Student VISA next year

What do I do please ��

Its difficult to change every other documents that you have

I think you have to seat for GCE if you really want to go with student visa