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Salewabeau:
I hope I get the right � reasons here than other channel here since this is the dating thread

My husband and I got married in 2021. He got a job in the UK middle of last year as a skilled worker. He was into tech before he left. Since then I've been the only one in the motherland while he consistently sent something home to cater for myself and rent. Plans are underway to join him as soon as I'm done with NYSC.

Last week, one of my friends in the UK hinted me about something that keeps giving me sleepless nights and terrible unrest. She's a student there and we went to secondary school together. She happened to see my hubby on a dating website. She sent me screenshot of his profile and my husband pictures are all there. Everything. She's on the dating app too.

I confronted my husband after several investigation of the geniuty of what I know. He only yield in after I sent him all evidence that I have. Now he tells me dating app is a norm in the UK and everyone is there. He said he's only there to socialize and meet people, especially Nigerian, but not for dating.

This has caused some issues between us as I wasn't really satisfied with this excuse. I'm tired of constantly thinking my husband is cheating on me.

I love my husband and he's the only man I've ever known.

ahnie:
I have this beautiful chubby neighbor that's from my husband extraction (Igbo)
Babe is hard working, business oriented and an avid hustler.

But she's dating a chubby fuvk boy,a failed yahoo lazy lout that even in the next 50yrs I do not see him ever picking.

He's killing and bringing down my neighbors business and sucking her dry and she doesn't seemed to noticed.

She's always crying of bn broke everytime....and it's damn pissing me off like fvck.

On his birthday she baked cakes for him,printed his name on mugs, towels, got him clothes and even travelled to visit him,left her business and stayed days with him before coming back.

It's irking me because he's a bad market and to me he doesn't have a bright future,he's not working,he has no handiwork and no skills
He's just a rotund whale sucking her youthfulness and finances.

Let's assume he has a skill or he's learning a trade it's another thing, at least we would all assume that he's productive and her supporting him wouldn't be futile,but this one.... nothing nothing.

On her birthday he didn't even posted her pictures or got her a pin,he said he doesn't have data...just negodu the nonsense and he still demanded money from her....to me the guy is just miserably useless.

He's now proposing marriage to her,and he visited her some days ago na she use her money run everything from feeding down to blood test.

I have not met him before,but immediately I saw him....my spirit no conform with his at all...he's not only a liability,but also a robust reaper.

Now my neighbor is asking me what I think of him.....I told her outrightly that I don't like him,that he's going to be a liability to her in the future....person nor fit take care of her as girlfriend,how e go take care of her as wife.....I m one hundred percent sure,she's the one that's going to pay her prideprice, pay for the wedding and feed herself.

She's trying to convince me to like him....but this isoko woman ain't capping that shiit.

I just detest fvck lazy boiz.

Cypress042:
Good evening all

Please i need your mature and humble advise, My younger sister use to be an hardworking girl, but all of a sudden she stopped working just to focus properly on her hookup business with excuse that the Bet9ja work she's doing is giving her too much shortage

envoymedia:
IGBERETV report

Couple, Both Aged 100, Married For 79 years, Die Hours Apart (Photos)



https://www.instagram.com/p/Cl4CTVktNW-/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

co787:
My wife and daughter traveled to her village in August for 3weeks and they were supposed to be back before the school resumption but she changed her mind saying her mother was seriously ill that she has to extend her stay which was fine by me and when they returned back I noticed that she has lost so much weight which I asked her why she said it was due to the stress of caring for her sick mother which is normal.

She is her only daughter and oldest of 4 her younger ones are boys so they cannot take care of their mother better than her. Here is the reason I got her arrested, during her stay in the village, her 14 years old brother raped my daughter. This is one of the reason she overstayed in the village. She didn't tell me anything about my daughter being raped she and her mother had decided to give her treatment and cover the idiot that repeatedly raped her and when she came bck she didn't say anything to me but she confided in her prophetess which in her turn has started spreading news until it came to my ears that my own daughter was raped and her own mother has kept quiet and I can imagine if it was a member of my family that did the abominable acts the whole world would have heard it and she would have done everything in her power to put in prison.

But because it is her own brother, she has decided to keep quiet and not knowing the world is small and not secret is hidden forever. I took my daughter to the hospital the result has confirmed she was tampered i was devasted she has been the best wife to me and she has helped me and my sisters to reconciled in the past but what she has done to me it is unforgivable and I have arrested her and when I bail her I will divorce her and take custody of my daughter.

I don't know if I need advice or not but your input and suggestion are welcome I will be reading all your comments.

Malcolmprinzx:
A Twitter user identified as SirFreshSemi has taken to his page to announce that his girlfriend whom he sponsored through school has ditched him for another man.

According to him, he even bought a car for her last year. He added that he has been crying since he found out and doesn't think he can live anymore.

SirFreshSemi wrote:



https://twitter.com/Sirfreshsemi/status/1599655788309463045?s=20&t=o9qDzYpzCYZT9BHAe0gjgA[/quote]The man is no get sense, this will teach him lessons if he will learn

purehustle101:
Am tired of taking care of her! i Literally do everything for her, the only reason am with her is that she's hardworking but currently she's out of job. And have never caught her cheating, she's a nice girl but the spending is just too much.. As a federal employee salary no dey do again. Should i dump her sorry ass or stick with her, remember she's not cheating for now. And i forget to say she's still in University. My wish is to date someone that works but have not seen any for now. I need advice on these guys because getting an independent lady doesn't guarantee happiness cos ladies these days are something else.

Obavoh:
I provide everything I can for my wife as she is not working.

I know she loves me very much but sometimes I fear if I lose my job and stop providing, her love will die.

Fellow married men, do you have this fear too?

FaithELEFAN:
When i take alcohol, after like 3 hours, i get sleepy. Once i wake up, i wont feel my legs again
it will feel like my legs has disappeared from my waist.
whoelse feels this way and why

DCmaverick:
Hello nairalanders

Am about to take another challenge of life( leaving my parents care), i think am about to face another aspect of life. Am still a student but i think it high time i leave their care

Please i need ur advice on this or should i rethink my decisions

imagrg:
I have come across many ladies who tell me frankly that they moan during sexual acts to make men believe they enjoy this act. This makes me wonder if ladies actually enjoy sex.

miniziter:
Our last born of age of 18 has been staying with me and my wife since she was 12 years of age. Ever since she started staying with us, it has been one issue or the other. As we speak, the girl is temporarily not sleeping under thesame roof with us as I asked to move into an empty room in the other building (our Dad) beside my own house where my younger brother and his wife stays.

Some 3 years ago, her younger brother visited us and he was rushed to the hospital and was diagnosed of food poisoning (according to her) and because another issue came up of recent, she claimed my parents hated her to the extent of sending my younger sister to come and scatter her marriage and even poisoned her food of then so she can die during pregnancy.

I have been feeling so unrest since yesterday. Imagine if this kind of statement should get to my parent.

Islandlady:
Without long story, in what way can I tell my newly moved in couple neighbours who occupies the top apartment that they should reduce their moaning when having sex at night!

It's very awkward and annoying...

Matured Nairalanders I just need your advice on how to tell them politely without sounding rude or making them feel embarrassed. Thanks!

Nigeriancomrade:
Each time I make my daughter's hair, boils with pus hastily grow out overnight. It happened to my son too. Whenever he grew some hair, his scalp gots wet and itchy, then he would scratch it and wound up with injuries which makes it so hard for me so I would always shave it. Went to a few medical practitioners but they all wanted to sell their ineffective products. He has outgrown that now.

My daughter is my worry now, cos I have to make her hair. What causes this? Is there a definite product out there proven to be effective?


Sincerely, I wouldn't appreciate someone telling me about visiting hospitals. I work in one. We have been to several hospitals and spent a lot. I know about doctors. This is for PARENTS or someone who has had a child suffering from this. Someone with KNOWLEDGE. Preferably a woman. Men, please. I will send my husband to you soon for advice haha.

olaadi:
good evening everyone, everyone please i need your advice on how to deal with my family issues, my husband most time pass the night away from home, he will leave me and two kids home and sleep outside without any good reason. have tried to talk to him and even speak with his parents but his not changing his ways. how can i deal with this guys

BBBmall25:
sorry Madame. You are right!

Omooba77:
Why do people fear Man rather than God?

BBBmall25:
I agree sir

Justaskofficial:
That’s the very thing it will end up resulting to! Thanks , I will be waiting for the day they will absurdly come and what ever they see, they should face it

Angiewhite:
Good morning everyone ! Pls I have an issue bothering me and I haven’t slept for days, I need advice please. I’m a 30yrs old lady who is dating a guy of 35yrs old that’s the only child of his mother, his parents has separated since he was young and the mother later remarried but got divorced,the mother has been trying to have another child ever since then but she couldn’t. When we met after talking for some weeks he suddenly ghosted me for two years for no reason, no quarrel no nothing! He just stopped talking to me. Then after two years he resurfaced and started disturbing me again that he wants to settle down with me, since I had no one I was dating I accepted, he told me he had always wanted someone who he’s at least 10yrs older than so the person can respect him but since he likes me he doesn’t mind the age difference between us,I was surprised one day when after a little argument on phone over something that will actually favour him when he started yelling saying “ this is why he doesn’t like dating ladies who are 28,29,30 or 31” that they will be pressuring him for marriage that to be honest with me what he told me about dating someone he’s 10yrs Older than is not because of respect but so that by the time he’ll be ready for marriage the lady too will be ready that for example the girl his mother introduced him too is just 23yrs old and currently doing her NYSC and by the time she finish and ready for marriage he’ll be ready too” , I’m surprised at all these because I’ve never pestered him for marriage before even when he ghosted me for no reason I never asked why. I think the reason for such decision is because he once told me even up till now he’s mother who’s in her late 50’s is still trying to have a child, and that he had decided not to get married until his mother has another child because his mother will be lonely if he gets married but since time is going and his mother can’t conceive yet that’s why he has now decided to marry .
The following day he apologized, so I observed he has anger issue, he gets angry easily a lot and usually say a lot of mean and hurtful things after which he will start apologizing that he doesn’t mean any of what he said. He’s also a talkative, he talks a lot and he usually tell his mother EVERYTHING WE DISCUSS, at first I had no issue with that because since he’s the only child so I feel like he’s the only one the mother talks to, but there’s no privacy in the relationship at all! I mean even things that are meant to be between us he divulge everything to his mother.He also told me that immediately after we get married his mother is going to move in with us because she will be lonely, he didn’t say when she gets old and maybe needs someone to take care of her , he said IMMEDIATELY after our wedding meaning it’s me and his mom who will move in with him at the same time. As if that’s not enough we planned how he’s going to take me to his father to introduce me to his father and his relative , we’ve planned everything and I’ve even bought things I will take for his grandmother only for him to inform me that his mother said he shouldn’t take me there yet so he cancelled the whole thing, I was surprised but not hurt I felt his mum knows better.
But the one that happened now that has been giving me sleepless night and I’ve cried my eyes out , he called me some weeks back to inform my family that he wants to come with his people for introduction, which I did , only for him to come back again and tell me to inform them again that he’s not coming because his mother said it’s not yet time that when it’s time they will come and do it for him on his behalf, it really pained me because I’m an orphan and I had to call all my family members together I did a lot of traveling to pass his information across to them , so me now going back again to inform them sounds like I’m unserious and just messing with them and these are elderly people for God sake! I actually did that since he insisted that’s what his mother said, it really pained me and I cried and cried, he’s been telling me since then not to worry that when it’s time he’s sure according to what his mum said they will come and help him to do the introduction. Please advice me I’m tired, I really love this guy but this is getting too much, I would have said maybe his mother doesn’t want him to marry me but his mother talks to me everyday. I’m not desperate at all and I’ve already decided before I even met him that if by 35 I’m not married I will adopt and live my life since I’m doing well for myself, so It’s not like I’m desperate. Please has this happened to anyone before? I even overheard him on phone with his mother one day his mother was telling him not to over show me that he loves me that he shouldn’t love me too much I was surprised because this is same woman who talks to me everyday. Who has gone through this before or who has the slightest idea of what is happening?.

Denoh68:
Hello nairalanders, I am a young minister, I met a lady about 8 months ago while we were still attending bible college here in Benin city.She was married but had to leave her husband because the man joined a cult and nearly used her and her baby girl for rituals, all thanks to God who saved them. Now there was a prophecy that I am her rightful husband but I am not financially stable. My people including my pastors are worried about my condition because they know I haven't got enough money to take care of her and myself now. I can't wait anymore, there isn't much time as I want to get married before I head any church branch. The lady says she would be patient and manage with me.Please brethren advice me on what to do.

BBBmall25:
Considering the fact that we humans aren't perfect and can be easily trap by sensual lust; so I ask, what is that one unexplainable circumstances that may lead to this? Remember many want to learn from you and take corrections.
Mine is if you first pull the string first, I won't hesitate to activate my nuclear reactor at full force!

Nonexisting1:
The bolded is true which is why I keep saying that love does not exist in the hearts of Nigerian girls. Anybody who believes otherwise is a fool.

Justaskofficial:
I will try to be very brief ,Had to create a new account for this because at this junction I am confused but trying to stay strong!

My family is my problem..I came from a family that they like problems, if they notice you are having peace they would make sure you are not settled ..they believe if a couple are focused and agreed !they believe the wife is controlling the husband (Spiritual fallacy).

.!for everything have done for them has been used against me !2015 i got a land through my parent and ended up been scammed and lost so many money!recovered about 100k from 280!

The 100k was sent by my parent to her account to keep.This money was spent by my own sister till date no permission ?no accountability for the money !


I gave money about 400k to my father to start up a business and till date no accountability,no business!money gone...

I squatted my younger sister when she and her husband had housing problem for a year but she ended up telling me I sold one of her husband’s laptop ..I had to confront them and they started apologizing ..
There are more but I can’t be typing it all

Now i don’t have savings anymore and I am tired ,then decided to focus on my life and stop telling them things !immediately I started doing this ,they started giving me trouble saying my wife is controlling me,that she has lock me (this spiritual stuff)..someone who is innocent of all this have started been blamed for my decision of keeping them away!i actually was doing that to protect her because I know who they are ..

They sent my wife text to leave the house ,that they have reported her to her family and if she refuse they would come !

How do I handle this situation because I am pissed already !and they keep pushing me away the more ,it’s not easy to relocate ,I stay a bit far away from them .I have been living alone since 2015,I was actually chased out by my father..there is lot to say

Have also called and made this clear to them that this is my decision but they insisted that she is using jazz for me !

Why are they petty? Why are they not organized?

I am so angry but can’t say too much because they are getting out of hands

Please how do I stop them from constituting nuisance ?

No insults please

lajid:
Hello guys, I need advice regarding some things that are disturbing me. Okay I’m 22 yrs, 5’6ft and I just have a little issue with my height and weight.

And worst of it, I’m slim so I look short and like a small boy. Most of the people around me look puffed and mature but I look like a 20yr old boy cause of my weight and height.

I discovered I don’t eat well, like my appetite for food is low and so I don’t know how I can boost that. (I’ll appreciate advice)

My friend recently told me, that I don’t eat well ( not like I don’t have food but little appetite and junk foods) and that I look like someone that is suffering. Was hurt a little but she told me to be eating well cause I waste food a lot. Like I can see rice and chicken and just eat small and that is it, I throw the rest.

Dunno maybe it’s stress cause I just moved to Lagos and trying to figure my way out with a lot of things.

Like my friend said I should try to just achieve a lot so it builds my self confidence (cause I’m a first class graduate)

Also I think it is affecting my confidence cause now I feel somehow among other people and meetings. I don’t have confidence. I feel sad......

Aderewah:
Igbos marry themselves and if they marry outside, it’ll be outside or a beautiful Yoruba woman or otherwise a Yoruba demon. But Igbos never marry Hausa. Is it discrimination or something else?

Nextlife1:
Hi
I never expected that this day will come in my life.
I discovered that my wife I sent to school is cheating on me with her school matter and other married men.
Please I need advice on how to handle this.

Mmaduise:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/theeagle.com.ng/breaking-wall-gecko-wipes-out-family-of-six-at-once/%3famp=1

zubinike:
Talk smart: what is bad is bad, your boss have no right to talk you down, mentally it's deranging. Don't allow the fear of what to eat make you loose sense.

Kobojunkie:
Um....I was in boarding school from age 11 through 15, but one thing I knew wasn't sent there by a wicked stepmother on grounds of being an adopted child. Yeah, so this attack of yours still makes no sense.

Kobojunkie:
What in the world do you mean by that nonsense?

You single a child out for boarding school simply on grounds thaf is adopted? Very wicked idea!