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DCmaverick:
Yh like the headline it true, am finding it difficult to make peace with her.

Am writing this with agony in my heart , it all started when my parent were having a misunderstanding so i got angry with both of them, i tried telling my mum her wrong rather for she to accept it she got angry and say i should get out of her sight, i angrily left the house to my uncles place. from that day till now it been up to 3 weeks now i no longer greet my mum, i even black list her line.

Honestly am feeling it,i miss her motherly care, i love my mum from the depth of my heart but am still finding it hard to talk to her even if we both pass the same road i dont greet her.
please and please i really need advice on this , i want to make peace with my beloved mum cus it only she i have.

Please help guys

The only help you need is, get some one she respects to reconcile both of you

Having done that, next time she and dad starts their drama, stand with mum

You dont know what she is passing through and you scolding her makes it loveless for her

You need to make peace with her and she will tell you somethings that made her react that way

By then you will understand better

Life2020:
Hi, first i want to thank you all for your advise the last time i was here.
the last time i brought up my problems here, i vented out about how my husband is being a total pain in the ass.
the problem is one, he's cheating on me with several girls and still want to have sex with me but i refused stating that until he does a full STD test we are not having sex, simply put i need to Know that he is STD free before we have sex again
Two, he's never at home, sometimes for two weeks he stays in hostels with girls, partying and spending his money, at first i tried to understand him because we did marry young, i felt that maybe he misses having his Independence, so at first i said nothing until it got worse. i now feel like a single mom, i do everything, the children don't even know anything about their dad, they see him as a stranger now, he's always cool towards them and i don't like it, have told him several times that i want the children to bound with him, i need them to have a good relationship with their father and have even advised him to take them out, maybe to a theme park or anything really but he has refused stating that he's busy.
thirdly he body shames me, telling me that i look like a clown, I'm fit, it's not like I'm dirty or anything i take care of myself, i know he's lying because i have admirers, like a lot of them, ever since i started making money and could afford to employ workers, i have done everything to make myself look good, i go to the gym, do facials and i make sure I look beautiful, honestly I don't know what's wrong with him. i have come to the conclusion that he is only saying it to be mean to me, maybe as a means of control, honestly i think he thinks if he makes me feel less than i am, to make me think i have no where else to go .
thirdly when we first got married, we both agreed that he will go to the university first then later, i will also attend, after finishing his university education he couldn't find a job so i gave him two of my lands to start a business, he because successful in the business and his now lavishing the money. i have a farming business, it's very successful, with it i have many lands and i built the home me and my husband live in, ever since he started making money i advised him to build his own house but he has refused, instead he bought a fancy car, i want to build an estate so that i can have another source for revenue but for one reason or other, my husband is advising me against it, now back to me wanting to attend the university, i want to study accounting so that i can take my business to a new level but my husband has refused saying that he wants more babies, we already have twins (two lovely girls). i told him later, after I finish my university degree and our girls are a little bit older, we will have more kids

now back to the present day, have decided I'm kicking my husband out, recently I noticed he was always at home, I was happy but surprised, I thought he had changed. I decided we need to spend time together as a family, I was even planning on us going on a vacation, give my children a life I wasn't opportune to live, I talked to him about it, we made plans, he agreed to go for a full STD test. I was happy
little did I know that my so called husband has fathered another child outside our marriage, he told me this himself, saying all sorts of nonsense on how I should advise the girl to abort it so that we can be one big happy family, I just looked at him, I haven't said anything to him in days. but I have decided that I'm kicking him out. I want to do this in a way that it doesn't affect my children, I really want them to build a relationship with their dad but as for me I clocked out of this marriage a long time ago.

I was advised my a friend to make a video while I kick him out but I'm not going to do, he's till the father of my child, and I don't want my children to grow up and find those videos
honestly I just need emotional support while I go through this divorce

You already know what to do, just go ahead, he is already giving you BP and depression

As for your children, they know and understand everything

You have to be strong and don't let anyone tell you less

Marriage is not a place to go through pains

Chinelo154:
Good afternoon to everyone my mum is really suffering in her marriage and I really need your advice , I am the first child in a family of 5 children I was born in 1998, my mum is a midwife in a local hospital and my dad is not working for like 10 years. My mum is the breadwinner of the house with her little salary , and I am also working my salary is 12k , out of my younger ones only one is in school the last born 14 years the burden is too much on my mum she cannot afford to train all of us to the university , we thank God we are ssce holders one of my brother is a bricklayer we are stuggling to survive sometime i cried alot when i see my mum stressing herself to put the house in order but my dad doesn't appreciate all her effort . The issue of ground is last wk Friday i returned from work only to find my uncle , his wife and their 5 children in the house , they came from the village i was shocked because we were not aware of their coming , I greeted them and went straight to my mum room, she was in a very bad mood , I asked her if she was fine she didn't say any single words to me, she was badly affected with the coming of my uncle and his family, I felt her pain because she is struggling to keep the family up and in the order side my dad is bending it how asked myself how are we going to survive in a 2 bedroom house with 14 0f us plus feeding and everythng will be in my mum head , my dad has instructed me and my 2 sisters to leave our room for my uncle and his 2 daughters , while we moved to their bedroom and my 2 brothers and my uncle 3 children will sleep in the parlour. How can a big woman like me to be sleeping in my parents room, I did not complain we went to the room we packed our belonging and moved it to my parents room. That night I didn't catch sleep seeing my mum loosing sleep she didn't say anything but she was awake all night , she was trouble a lot was going through her mind , in the morning I heard my uncle wife and mum having a discussion she told her , if she knew the condition we were living was this bad she wouldn't have come , she said my dad has told them to come because things are fine with us and she was disappointed with what she saw , so my mum asked her so my husband was the one that convinced you to moved in the city she said yes , my mum shook her head she didn't say anything else and I become very angry I confronted my dad asking him why did he do this to my mum when he knows the condition is not good, why did he tells his brother to come not just him alone but with his family, he started shouting at me I am not a wife material if I bring this my character of not liking my inlaw to my husband house he will send me packing and he will not allow me back to his house , I have told him he is very wicked he want mum to die so he can bring him another woman , he stood out he went inside the house he started shouting at my mum how dare she ask me to confront him and what's wrong with him bringing his brother to his house, my mum did not send me she is a quiet type and I am not i co fronted him by my own will , he said my mum is wicked woman he was shouting in the presence of my uncle and my uncle has started insulted me too , telling me the house belong to his brother if I am not happy seeing them in the house I should go and rent my own house because he is not leaving anytime soon , if I had somewhere else to go I would have left the same day but I had nowhere to go, I went inside my room crying and later on my aunty was telling me to not mind my uncle , she don't blame me for standing up for my mum because as a woman she is she will not tolerate it she told me she don't know if my dad and her brother are curse they are just lazy and they have left all the responsibility to the wives , she said she can't tell me everything she is also passing through the same thing with my mum , I thanked her for her understanding and for not supporting her husband and my dad. It is been few days now I don't greet nor talk to my dad and uncle , I go to work as usual and when I come home I sleep in the parlour with the boys me on the sofa them on the floor , I am not happy with my dad and I don't think I will ever be happy with him again , did I overreacted for confronting or I did the right thing I am just asking for your advise so i will know the right thing to do after please do not insult me I am wearing the shoe I know where it pinch

So sorry for the nonsense that have happened

To me you did well to confront your dad but his reactions was bad

He is a lazy man with a bad intention

Left for me

Every one will starve except my children because I will give them money to eat out and no one will know

Its time for your mum to speak as it's already too late for your dad to send her packing

Ignore your dad with his nonchalant attitude and focus on your mum on how to be wise

captainzee4life:
I'm so confused now as I pen down this.

Each time I call my brother to please send me money for upkeep in school, he won't give me. I asked him why but he will tell me he doesn't have it.

But whenever they tell him I'm sick in school by the sick bay head, he will rush and send money into the account for drugs.

During the long strike, I worked at a bread factory to raise money for my upkeep in school in school.

Now, my department has a compulsory excursion and it way expensive. I called him and told him and he said, "He doesn't have the money."

I used the money I saved to pay for the compulsory excursion. I will be down with nothing for upkeep.

I don't want to lie or keep lying about my health to get money from him.

Please senior and mature sirs/ma in the house what should I do? I have run out of options.

If he made a promise to you that he will sponsor your education and all these sate happening, then that's unfair

But if he is assisting to train you while your parents are the one that is supposed to train you, then don't blame him because you don't know the situation he is financially

Whatever, keep managing and don't expect much from him

You may not be part of his budget

megapriest:
A Friend of mine based in Canada discussed this with me recently about to help her husband, she mentioned all these pills too I told her they should stop as it could cause permanent inability then it could lead to heart attack..

The Woman dey complain seriously , she said the man go just left him half dead..
She's set in motion without completion of the Job

I told her they could try herbals anytime they visit Nigeria.

THEIR SHOULD BE A WAY FORE FATHERS DEY TREAT this kind thing nao.

Chai, I feel for her
Mastubation affects men to the extent that the dick won't know what to do with the pussy and everything will lead to frustration on both sides

Messi1:
I can't just imagine a matured woman like my mother dishing out advice that it's better for my mom to disown me. My mother complained about my behavious to her friend that i can't cook and that my behaviours are punishable with death. The woman advised her to disown me.

How am I sure that
you, your mum and your mum friend are all normal

Babaflenjor:
Good morning Nairalanders, my cousin wedding is next month just on month from now, His father fell sick two weeks ago, and except a miracle happens no sign of his father getting well b4 the wedding, a lot of money is going for hospital bills, and he is the first son, with a younger brother who is still in school. He came to me yesterday to seek advice on what to do, he lives in Lagos his father is in the village, and his mother is the only one taking care of his father, the wedding is planned to hold n Lagos.

I think him and his wife will need to visit his dad and get his consent and blessing for the marriage and ask for his mother to come for the wedding on Thursday, rest Friday, attend wedding on Saturday and rest Sunday then travel back

This grace period will worth their presence and they will have to make arrangements for some one to be with the sick father

It will be naughty if non of his parents are present in the wedding

Besides even if his dad is discharged from the hospital, Doctor must put him on bed rest, which means he won't even come in the first place

Dickson178:
Please someone should help before I kill myself and die for nothing.. I bought this taxi car for transportation , and I have spent much money and still nothing yet has done . Please what can be the cause of not trotuling(spell wrong). The car is firing well and the plugs are okay and the timing and the curl( maybe spell wrong) too .

Suzuki bus ,old model

Only a good mechanic can drive it the whole day and tell you exactly what the problem is

Hopemanfx:
am really confused of what to do with N15m i saved from my online freelancing/upwork and software programming.. am 37yrs still single! am not planning to get married now. should i build a house for myself or i should start a business? I need youR advice! plz, dont DM me because i wont reply u.

I think you should buy a land in the city where you want to reside, then build a house for yourself and put part of it out for rentals

Dont build in the village pls to avoid monitoring spirits

Enacto:
Good evening,this is my first time posting here and it because I'm kinda troubled pls I will need you guys to help me on this issue.
Since 2020 I have not been in good terms with my dad,and it all started with a little fight about drinking of the water in the fridge and my dad decided to lock the sitting room where the fridge was kept restricting my mom and myself to the room alone as at this time I was in 400lvl and 24years. My dad doesn't drop money and home so I had to look for means to feed myself which was really new to me cos he has been the one sending money to me in school even thou he doesn't drop at home. After then we kept having issues about him not giving me a private room in the house even up till now,then on a day like that an issue happened after I beating my 3years old niece he was so angry that he hits me severally at a conered spot that he almost hit my eyes I had to push him on the bed and ran out of the house, then the second day I packed my stuff's and left for school throughout 2021 I didn't come home till December and he didn't bother calling or sent me money not my school fee and project fee I did everything on my own. I came home late last year and apologized and later I asked him for my school fee which I had not paid as at that time, he kept giving me excuses which I Know he has and left after much talk he gave me #50,000 out of like #150,000 but sincerely I didn't collect it cos I don't know where to get the remains then I got a job and saved up and paid. Presently I'm very mad at him because he never cared about me or my mum, all he does with his money is to give it to his concubines. It really painful that I had to work for 7-9hours everyday while standing for 1k per day and my dad is out there spending his money for one LovePeddler. Do u think he deserves my forgiveness??

I think you should forgive him, so that you will have peace of mind

Having done that, if possible stop asking him for money

Continue your hustling so that you can raise your mum financially

Your dad may go for another wife

Don't dare stop him

I don't want him to see you as his perceived enemy in the family

Your mum must have been tired of him and she is patiently waiting for you guys to stand on your own

Pinkies171:
I finished service last month and I started job hunting, even before I finished because I didn’t want to go back home because my parents practically live in a village .now I had to come back home,my parents are super supportive and encouraging,no form of stress, i don’t do chores or anything but I’m depressed, I feel like I’m wasting my life here when I know I have so much potential, i am extremely smart and attractive too , i don’t know how long I’ll remain here I’ve been applying for jobs online but no response yet now I need advice as I have plans of traveling to either Abuja or Lagos to stay with either of my friends , i just want to know if it’s a good idea because I don’t want to waste my little savings on transportation and feeding and still end up with nothing or should I continue applying online and hope for the best.

I think you have to change your location to any of the two places you mentioned

And when you put up with uoir friends, just respect yourself and maintain your respect for them too

Its not easy searching for a job and it's not easy accommodating some one

HUSTLER001:
A colleague of mine who celebrated her birthday recently, offered me malt and snacks and I offered it to someone else because I was full already. I couldn't reject it because it may come as rude. I think she later got to know that i gave the drink out and she has been acting stupid ever since.

She is not acting stupid

You already know why she gift them to you and you know that you shouldn't have given it out because her eyes are on you

I think you need to explain to her why you gave it out and that ends the drama

Next time don't give her room to give you what you will reject or give out

If you don't want to relate with her then give her gap and let every thing you do with her be official

Shybeauty:
Hmmm! I feel like ranting. So, there is this guy who has been giving me attention since the beginning of this year. This attention is so glaring to everyone in my department that most of the girls are beefing me. Whenever he sees me in the department, he moves into close proximity to me without talking to me. He stares at me when I'm standing afar. He makes me feel special in the department. Sometimes, when i catch his eyes, he smiles discretely at me. Now, it's november and he's still not saying anything. I don't know what to do because earlier in the year, I didn't have much feeling for him. But now, I feel I have something for him. There is another girl in the department that is obviously trying to get him, but he doesn't give her attention but gives me attention. I am tired. I don't know what to do? I can't ask him out, that's out of it. I wouldn't.

If you've been in this situation before, how did you handle it? Please help me as I'm on the brink of asking him so i don't continue wasting my time?

You can start by sending him beautiful romantic quotes, that's if you have his contact

If you dont have his contact, get it from your group whatsapp

Go to him for lectures or courses you don't understand to put you through

Dont be surprise he too is finding a way to speak with you

The above suggestions will create a synergy for both of you to start relating more

You are a woman you are meant to be bold and courageous

lordsterlin:
Dear Nairalanders,

My name is Preston and I am 36yrs this year. I really need help. For the past 35yrs of my life I have never bleeped a girl or woman. The only thing I've done in the past was just to kiss, kiss and kiss. Another thing I do is to help myself through wanking.

Recently, I've got a girlfriend (actually my first). She loves me obviously from her actions. Because I feared I may not be able to satisfy her, I went to buy a drug from a drugstore. The Man told me to take it atleast 10-15mins before the actual sex. I did as instructed but it didn't work as just few thrust, and my yogurts were out. Another day she came when I least expected her. I attempted to do it with her this time. I allowed myself lie while she mounted my rod. Again, just few thrusts, and I was done. This is becoming quite embarrassing.

What can I do to solve this problem?

You need to discuss this with her because such failed satisfaction can make her look for a man to satisfy her

A woman expects a man to give her good satisfaction

Meanwhile, the major problem you have is the wanking, it has become so chronic that the only thing your dick recognizes are your palms and finger

Your dick may not feel anything inside the pussy

Taking drugs before sex is not even the solution either

You have to stop wanking so that your dick can overhaul it's self

Before it gets to proper erectile dysfunction and you become inpotent

FeliciaOja:
I use all the vex inside me and push the door open.
My room was smelling strong disgusting smell of Indian hemp. I saw this yeye boy snoring with music playing on speaker
I flog him belt as he was sleeping and we argued as I scolded him.
This morning he refuse to talk to me and even reject the fried egg I made

so I've started thinking of sending him out of my house. The trauma I experience last night still vexing me.
Should I punish him by not giving him money for 1 week
or
Should I purse him from my house?

Give him last warning

If possible tell your parents that you are not going to tolerate nonsense from him

The next time, may be you will see him with his smoking team and lots of drinks

Bekeey:
Ahead of 2023, Presidential candidate of NNPP Rabiu Musa Kwankwaso whilst in Enugu, he paid a courtesy visit to the former Governor of Enugu State, His Excellency Sulliva I. Chime at his Residence.

But his state of condition is confusing, is he sick or old age?

Like I don't understand.

Being in government keeps them young till they vacate that seat

Then their true appearance comes out

PapiSAYDOR:
Thank you for your kind advice again ma! So as to make good use of the money properly is why i decide to ask for advice on time. I'll definately look into the POS business

Ok Naw

PapiSAYDOR:
Good day everyone, hope you're all doing well. I'm here seeking for you advice on my future endeavour and every inputs will be highly appreciated. Firstly i wanna use this medium to say a very big thank you to frozen70, you literally saved my life a few days ago by giving me something to eat and thereby giving me energy to think more straight.
Without wasting much time, let me go straight to my point. So yesterday, i was able to meet up to one of my distant uncle, even though i knew nothing might come up from his side but i made up my mind and went anyway. So after talking, pleading, begging, everything and all, he has promised to assist me with 100k by month end or early next month. Now my reason for coming here is to seek for advice from different sources about what to do with the 100k, something reasonable that can multiply the money in folds, i promise to be very dedicated and extremely serious if i find a good business plan. Not that i cannot think for myself but I'm just so scared of losing this money and that's why I'm here, please advice me well.

Thanks once again for thanking me

I believe there is light at the end of the tunnel for you

I think you can look around for a POS business to start with

If you don't start making enquiries and getting a good location

Once the money arrives, feeding will reduce it

NBAjunior:
Most girls I have had sex don’t mourn at all I’m 5.8 inches in length is there anything I can do about it? This is really making me depressed!

The size of a man's dick is not as important as the way he is expected to use it in a woman

Go and master the ack of using your dick well on a woman

Going in and coming out is not the way out

There are other preambles before penetration

You can keep a lady busy with fore plays but some men don't have that patience

Then looks for girls that are not really exposed to sex, so that you can rock together at your le level

I think you are still at bogginers level

You need to step up or upgrade

Chaslemo:
What does a man mean when says use me I’m all yours

What else do you expect him to tell you

He means you can rock him as you like

Meanwhile he is the one going to enjoy pleasures more than you so far you are willing to offer him

Worriedguy6699:
What causes stretch marks, cause how can ladies less that 25 without kids have that mark on their breasts?

For those ladies who have not been pregnant before or carry pregnancy before, it's caused by cream

For those who have put to bed before, it's caused by pregnancy carried to full term as it stretches the stomach walls

miqos02:
operating routes

Ok thanks

Sammy07:
Red line will be pass different route
Blue line will pass different route

There's also provision for
Orange line
Purple line
Green line etc

I think about 10 lines

Thanks dear for the explanation

chisomkachy:
https://saharareporters.com/2022/11/08/chidinma-alleged-killer-super-tv-ceo-ataga-was-having-sex-foster-father-says-police

This Chidimma is the youth leader in the Devil's kingdom

idealogical:
Lagos State Red line train arrives NRC Yard,Alagomeji

Pls what's tge difference between red and blue line

Heathrow44:
Are u married,

Are you applying

Animegirl:
Recently have been meeting guys with receding hairline even at age 25-28 . I thought men don't age even though they clock 45 but I was wrong. Young men with bald head or receding hairline is a capital NO for me.

Receding hair or no receding hair, the most important thing is love and respect from a man

Most guys you see with clean extreme low hair cut, they are having such receding and decides to go on low cut

Some women too experienced that

Calvary247:
My husband is the man the world had ever given me. I love my husband. I'm enjoying my marriage to the fullest. Marriage full of joy, happiness and satisfaction. This union is powerful.

Just keep your marriage and home secret from bad eyes

Every marriage was blissful like yours until it became a night mare

Every married man is exposed to temptation

Just the grace of God is sustaining them

Deborah200299:
Thank you so much I will call her tommorow involving family will not help the matter because they are all supporting her including my grandmother she had witness most of the abuse and she had never for once tell her to stop abusing the child. Early this year when I reported the matter to the police they had denied everything painting me back and the police believed them. They had all ganged up against me and beat me up and I don't want the same to repeat again. I am trying to be away from her for as long as I can I hope my absence will make her a good person If she can't bear to lose me she should accept and love my sister the same way she loves my siblings and I.

I really feel your pains, someone that is supposed to take bullet for you is the one troubling your happiness

Well if that's the case
Call her and let her know that you are fine

Dont let her or anyone close to her know where you are

Since they other family members are supporting nonsense, keep them far

Any one that doesn't support you dreams is against your future

Anyone that is not interested in your happiness and peace of mind is an enemy to you

As you struggle to stand on your own,

You have to be bold and fearless

You will come across things that will break you but you must survive it to come out stronger

I wish you good luck

Deborah200299:
I left home last month with my 13 years old sister due to the abuse she had endure in the hands of my mother and 2 younger brothers. I have rented out a room in a different town, I have changed my number and deleted my Facebook account so nobody could locate me. Yesterday I opened a new Facebook account with a different name. I have searched for my elder brother Facebook account he posted about me being missing he has pleaded with anyone who has seen me to contact him because my mum is not in a good state. Funny enough he has posted me alone when it is me and my younger sister who are missing so they only care about me a 23 years old woman but no a single pity about a 13 years old girl. I am her only daughter among 4 boys she loves me more than my siblings but I have lost respect for her the day she has started abusing my innocent sister. I want my absence to teach her a lesson so she can feel the pain but I am also worrying about her what if she died , will I be able to forgive myself. I don't know if I should contact them with a private number and tell them we are fine where we are they shouldn't bother about us . I will not disclose my current adress to them. Should I do it or not ?

I think you need to call her so that she will know that you guys are better where you

That will give both of you peace of mind

If she says that you should come back home, tell her the reason why you left with your sister and that you don't trust her again

If she insist, then you have to tell her to involve a family relation whom she respects to be the one to ask you to visit her and if such person calls, tell him or her that, you will only come on the condition that he invites another family member so that you will tell them why you acted so

By so doing, you want your people to know what have been happening and you need a witness

After such meeting, don't sleep there, always visit and go back, don't even eat for the time being but get whatever you can for them

You know as it is now, you guys already have a discord so you don't know their plans on you

Meanwhile don't tell them where you are for security reasons

PapiSAYDOR:
I've gotten it ma, thanks you very much ma. God bless you abundantly, you will never know a better yesterday ma (Amen).

Thanks be to God for his mercies in our life

Be humble and you will overcome all these

PapiSAYDOR:
Thank you very much ma, i understand very well and I'll definitely appreciate anything you can help with. The teaching job you mentioned, i couldn't go for teaching job because am not very good at teaching people but i will work on myself and look around for anyone i can find. This is my account number ma, 3153274522, Gansallo Akinsola Micheal, First Bank.

I have credit your account

If you cant do teaching I understand that part but you need to convince yourself to do something

Those pupil in nursery are too small to challenge your teaching abilities

You can start from that level all you need is patience and tolerance because they are too small to grasp quickly

Then you can still look around for causual factory work

Or you look for who can get a Keke for you to drive on hire purchase

Just think of something