₦airaland Forum

Well every one knows that it's better to get a new blood to renew old blood than having a blood transfusion

Now I know why she was not married or be throneed to an old man

She schools abroad so her husband too

She is married to her age range

She is a governors daughter

Her bride price was #100, 000


No wander only the poor do child marriage to safe their girls from the poverty affected family

The difference is clear

Since she has a good attitude record and was lively, she wouldn't have committed suicide ordinarily

There must be a force coming from somewhere

NwaAmaikpe:



Kiki did not graduate from a University so she probably never heard the price Dele Giwa paid for venturing into investigative and expository journalism that's why she's bothered over threats.
Why do you think today's Nigerian journalists will rather collect brown envelopes and write praises instead?

You probably didn't consider how much your documentary would destroy those individuals indicted before you dabbled into it.

Their reputation in the community,
The peace of their homes,
The security of their jobs,
Plus the stigmatization of their friends and families.

It would have been safer for you to have appeared as a passive or undercover part of the investigation and allowed a white BBC staff play the major role.
But it is only typical of Nigerians to prefer taking credit above safety.
Threats may just be the price you'd pay for chasing clout because like they say, no price, no pay.

Good work Kiki, I'm proud of you.
May our nation have more ladies as brave as you.

This is the first time am reading sense from your post.

Am glad to see that you are changing your harsh responses to sensible comments

skin2care4:
There is this skin problem I have Been having on my body for quite a while now especially on my chest as you see in the pic below.

It doesn't seem to respond to all the treatments I have used on and it's not itchy, it doesn't hurt at all. and it seems it runs in the family including some of my cousins too. Please and please Doctors and skincare experts in the house can you help me with a solution to this problem? Am planning on getting married very soon. Thank you God bless.

Go for blood sample test, if nothing is found and it runs in the family, assume it to be Odinala

Funny as it seems, they will vote for him

I thought O-bike has there own specific brand of okada ❓

Anyway meet good family members to assist in getting you am okada for hire purchase

It may not be easy to get someone hear to assist you being that they don't know you up to your family

Believe in God and you will get it

URblogger:
Male passengers berate a man for backing his child.....Some male passengers lashed at him that some jobs are meant for men and others for women, while others mocked him telling him different method of carrying the child

Cc
Lalasticlala
Seun
Mynd44

Don't mind those uncaring men that are having complex

Some jobs are meant for women, but you guys want them to assist in school fees, house rent and feeding,

ARE these not not solely for men ❓

Blessedkingg:
Hello nairalanders,I have a brother who just found out his wife aborted what would have been their third child.
He is so heart broken and depressed.
She gave no reasons for doing this,instead she went to her Parent's place citing she needs to clear her head
Please any useful advise or suggestions would be appreciated.
As I speak my brother is so down never seen him in this state before.

Reasons are best known to her but if they are relating well, she will or would have informed him about it

If she is the bread winner of the family and the burden is on her, then she needs to clear her head

But if her contributions has nothing to do in her family, then something went wrong some where

Only she and her husband can explain

Vibesking:
Hello people,
am currently 19, working and schooling.
I have a big problem and that has to do with self esteem.. Am very shy when around people.
I can't even make eye contact with my brother. whenever my eye crosses his, I quickly move my face to another direction.
Same goes to outsiders, I can't look at my boss or my colleagues without me having some awkward feelings to look somewhere else. When am in a gathering and I'm to speak, I stutter regularly and I try not to make eye contact.
Am ok physically, tall and definitely not ugly, but I do have some brown spots on my incisors, they've been there since I was a child due to the red liquid drugs my mom used to give me back then as a child. I've tried getting rid of it but no much success.
To be honest, am usually very cautious about how I speak to people cus of this spots on my teeth, and I hardly laugh not to get it exposed, Just a lil smile.
Though my mom and brother have told me not to give it much thought.
That aside, my main issue is my self confidence, am not bold as I ought to be as a man. Am just always indecisive and somewhat uneasy....
Pls help.

Even people living with disabilities are bold and proud of themselves

Be a gentle that you are and learn to improve on how to stand your mates

You don't have to be Insultive to achieve that

Be a man and be brave, if you can't handle fellow men because of your low self esteem, you can never handle a woman

As for your mark in your denton, open up yourself and smile, anyone that loves you will accept it that way

hopefully:
I need help.

My husband lied to me and thinks I am naive.

We keep a joint account and it was his idea which is not so much of a problem to me. What baffles me is that he likes to have 100% control over my income, when I need to buy stuffs for myself and the kids, he questions it. When I need to give my parents anything, he knows about it and 90% of the time every penny that goes to my people goes through his account just so that they think he is the one responsible for it and same to his family. My parents asked me once that why is everything coming from your husband and you are working? It bothers me a bit but that is how my huaband wants it. My mother asked me for cash last Christmas but my husband declined saying there is no cash and that we already bought them xmas gift and why is she asking for money again.

I am very carefree when it comes to issues like this, he gives people cash at will. He forced me to withdraw 25% of my pension and put over half of it in his account. Out of my pension, he gave out 300k to his friend and I didnt complain but when my parents asks for stuffs he complains to the extent that he recently said they are liabilities. These are people who sent me to school for bsc and masters in UK, gave us 2k dollars when we had our kids. I make more money than him and will not complain. Sometimes he asks me to log into my bank account to see my transactions. He expects me to transfer every penny of my salary to our joint savings account after I take care of my portion of the bills. He is an advocate of telling the truth and transparency but yet I found him wanting.

Of recent he forgot his phone at home and I went through it. His friend asked to loan some cash which he did. When his friend was about to return the money, he asked his friend to use it to buy a tv for his mum in nigeria. Dont get me wrong, I will never ask him not to buy stuffs for his mum infact when his mum makes I demand, I push to wnsure that he gets it for her because I believe every parent suffered on their kids and they need to reap the benefits. But he bought the tv and never mentioned it to me till now. I kept quiet like I didnt know. Of recent, his mum called and mentioned something about delivery of something to her house and I asked him about it, he lied to me and said it was their uncle who bought something for her. Immediately after that conversation, he deleted his whatsapp conversation with his friend not knowing that I already saw it. I have been acting normally, we talk,gist have sex and all and I only think about it when I wake up in the middle of the night. I plan to talk to him about it this weekend but what concerns me is that why do people behave like this, how do I know he hasn't been doing this in a long time while I am 100% truthful to him. He goes through my phone, checks my account and yet he is not sincere. I dont have any cash called mine because he enforces me to put everything in our joint account, even my pension was withdrawn and over half of it in his account and the while cash is gone. I cant go out to but somethig for myself without him approving it orherwise trouble. Of recent my mum came visiting and I bought her powder and foundation of less than 30 dollars and when he saw it in my account, he complained saying that must I buy her stuffs each time we go out?

Am I being a good wife or am I just DUMB?

Please help!

Of all your exposure and education, why did you allow this man to manipulate you like this ❓

Were you trying to be a good wife or you were afraid of losing him ❓

You have to make or take a decision that will not make you a slave

You can't be working hard and making money, yet you don't have control over it

Pls use your head because of tomorrow

debbydee:
Good evening all. I just have to comment on this. The OP never mentioned that its because of the children that's why the brother is earning a low pay. Even with wife alone that money is extremely poor. Now back to the discussion on having children its God who gives children and he alone can decide if its going to be single or multiples. What if these children are triplets. What happens.
My thoughts though.

If you want just 2 or 3 kids and you have twins, triplet, quadruplet, quintuplet, sixtuplet, stop there, you can't be struggling to survive with those minors suffering from your inability to know when to stop breeding

Kkings11:
Dear God, i'm not asking for much just 10minutes of small thunder, small one oh abeg.

What's your intention of this post ❓

Sex Madness everywhere

End of the road

Idiot

achikolo:
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shatap

I can see that you are one of them, your time will come soon

Bhami:
I called her this morning to take those following steps.she agreed we go tomorrow.I believe she's scared of going under knife or something cos as at yday she denied ever telling me about the prophecy

OK naw, update us

Surgery shouldn't scare anyone because it can come up and its done to save one from medical trauma

Bhami:
Good day great people of nairaland, my situation is quite complicated of which I need help. Almost a year since I've been in a relationship with this lady,she's the typo woman I craved for and wish to get married to.

I learnt about her having stomach pains which she complain about occasionally first I thought it was about this their normal monthly dues which is mensuration. But she said no according to her she's been diagnosed of appendix when she was 16-17yrs now shes 21, also I discovered that each time she comes to visit her body temperature get hot. which I ask why didn't she go for surgery I heard that's the only solution to it. to

my surprise she said there was a revelation about her not to go for surgery.

Pls I need an advice on what to do she doesn't wanna go for the surgery this the Lady I love so much also wish to get married to.

Have you made efforts to find out from the doctor that advised her not to go for surgery and why ❓

Have you asked her parents why she hasn't been operated ❗

Have you cared to take her to another hospital to find out what her medical Condition is ❓

Try and do all the above findings and the out come will determine your decision on her

The most important thing is that you love her and she is your spec

Same way you will not miss the opportunity of going to prison

Firstorderwizard:
If Mercy can win 60m, you too can walk away with just 20k with little effort .

See below

A brother needs a 25 years old virgin for a very important prayer . He just need her to make some declarations (prayers) for him as requested by the prophet. He's willing to pay #20,000.
No physical contact needed. She just have to say the prayers in her location by mid night and that's all.
Pm me if you are interested.
FYI He's a Christian and very willing to provide all his details if you are in doubt.

Does it mean that you can't present any of your biological sisters or are there no Virgins among them ❓

damoobaba:
Roads highly congested but waterways free as air yet the Lagos state govt is buying more buses. Hopefully, these govt will get its priority right in the transport sector. The waterways is connected to almost all parts of Lagos, Epe, ikorodu and badagry inclusive. one wonders what has prevented the Lagos state govt from investing in water transport all these years.

The cost of a ferry with the capacity of carrying 50 people has been the greatest challenge in investing in water transport in lagos state

If they privatise it, private sector will handle it perfectly

Every one on earth has a look alike

But if you are rich and famous, you will be identified quickly

You see now, this boy would have wasted with his talent in the street

Can you imagine a foreigner rescued him for his destiny to shine

Am glad they saw their children, they will be fine and take care of these children as God permits it

NwaAmaikpe:



Pretty sad.

In your best interest and for safety sake.
If he has gone mad, take him to Oye Emene or Ogbete main market and leave him there.

There are so many other mad people there.

Tough decision for someone you love but once a mad person is always a mad person; before he wakes up one night and sends all of you to purgatory before your time.

Shalom.

You are clueless

Always think before you say anything

You could be wishing yourself what you wish others

munarule:
I am a kind of person that don't believe in voodoo or jazz but with what is happening in my family now, jazz dey o. my only sibling(we were 3 in family though but our last born of 15yrs died last year) that was doing well in minna suddenly returned to village in Enugu and don't want to go back again. My mum and some kindred took him to federal neuropsychiatric hospital Enugu where he spent one week and ran back to village. Though I spent over 60,000 during the period he was admitted there. We were thinking he will get better but he wasn't. A lot told us it is something spiritual. my parent visited some prayer house and they told them my brother is afflicted because they want to inherit my father's lands.
They went to a church today at Enugu and the pastor told them to bring 100,000 before he can do anything. is salvation not free again? my daddy has no amount of money and he already called me to send it which I won't send because that pastor sound so dubious. Giving him the money is not even the problem but what if he just collect the money and nothing changes? if you know anywhere I can take my brother to in Enugu or Enugu axis please do let me know. He's my only sibling and I love him so much

Pls take him to adoration ministry and leave him there

Meanwhile, if your dad is contesting any land, pls advise him and your immediate family to withdraw

Their target is to take your brother who is his only heirs

You guys can afford to buy land in future

Better still make peace with the people involve in the land matter and they will revert whatever they did

Your family should just remove shame or pride just to save your brother live

People are wicked and can do anything because of land

Blackivy27:
i guess so. Its my education now tho. Thanks.

Lol

enshi:
Good day guys .. Again I am still on my break up / reconciliation track with my gf.

Recall that I found out yesterday that my gf cheated..

She has been calling and sending in text messages to say sorry and promises not to ever allow such happen..

To be candid I love her , so I told her that I can only forgive and take her back on one condition..

I plan to get a *magu* for her. A friend had advised I do this if I want to continue with her as he is correctly using it with his gf( mutually agreed)

This will mean that she will have it in her body and the resultant effect of cheating will be boldly spelt out to us .. Also it could be removed when we both are in agreement..

This is my resolution and I will be calling her later today to let her know

You are about taking a decision that will affect an innocent person and it will affect you on the long run because you are not her God

Why putting magi when you can ask her to go you have had enough of the relationship

If a man puts magi on your daughter he us not married to and you heard of it, will you see it as a good thing on her

Don't dig your grave in advance

Bishopvic:
Good day my country people pls am in dilemma and need your matured advice.biko am not good in writing thank you. their is this girl I met 3 months ago via my friend girlfriend. about 2 weeks of our hangout she moved in with me and I realized she was into runz. Which I asked her to stop and i also told her our relationship conditions which she agree to cooperate with.conditions is we are not getting married and I advised her to stop her wired life styles of runz,smoking,drugs and getting a better life for her self. And yes am very proud of her she has stopped all this and seriously looking for a job.(was not easy sha) I won't blame her though she has a rough parental up bringing by the age of 20 she is already into full-time runz and living weird life styles.by 22 she was a victim of human traffic for sex slaves in one of West Africa countries she escaped and got her freedom early this year after she was 5 months pregnant.(her escape leed to the arrest of the people involved in the trafficking) she aborted the baby early this year after so many attempts with help from her mother. 2 months after abortion she is already back to the streets(She will be 23 next month) hustling from one guy house to the other 3 months ago she met me I advised her to stop and yes she has stopped. I actually want to help her by giving her little change to help her self but she might not mange it well. now my problems is I believe she is overstaying in my house am not that kind of person that keeps visitors for long(already told her these) also all my friends be like I should discharge her before something go wrong like she might get pregnant or be filling over comfortable in my house ( and yes she is really feeling comfortable these days) secondly since I don't know her or her baground she might be of harm spiritual or physical. i actually want her out but she will cry heavenly and say she don't want to stay with her mom or her girlfriends she is likely to go back in to her old life styles which she don't want to, as all her friends are runz girls things like this week me especially when she is emotional and be praying for me for all the help,money,gift and support I have render her to change. But I still want her out of my house as I can't be living with someone I am not getting married to I have never done that before.

You must be caring that's why she doesn't want to leave because of the comfort you gave her

But pls be real and serious

Sit her down and tell her that you want some privacy in your life

As she is going, let her know that, she has to start planning for her future because this is her time and if she doesn't start planning to be focused she will lose her balance

You can dash her some money if you have, but make sure you send it to her account not hand to hand

After this, reduce your communication with her
Stop making love to her
Leave her to find your bearing

Before you tell her that, try and make sure she has had her monthly period so that she won't cine back to tell you she is pregnant

If she wants to cry, let her cry her emotions out, the more you keep her the harder it will be to discharge her

In every relationship, women knows what they want more than the men that calls them fish brain

Next time don't allow a woman to pack into your house

Blackivy29:
He's babyish and thats why i loved him. I could be myself with him. So when i asked him to break up, heartbroken hoping he would say no, he wanted to please my by granting my wish! He agreed.
He still loves me. Im a wicked girl who broke his heart. I misunderstood him, bla bla bla. Im shocked, so now he's the victim? Wow. Guys are the most complex creatures to walk the earth.

Both of you are not matured enough to handle relationship, you are even more babyish than you think he is

Beat123:
Kenyans and running

Those people ❗❗

Them no dey take ear hear say marathon day for any where in the world

They will attend because they know that 1st to 3rd positions belongs to them