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omooba969:
You be my oga for dis kind runz o 🙌

Na your steps I dey follow ooo..... May you never stumble.

ahnie:
Gboskii this is what I need right now.

You na chef na and expert for arranging chow. Enter market arrange am sharperly but no chop am with eggs sha ooo.

omooba969:
It's hilarious how much of soup you download in one sitting...amazing!

You're in deed an ardent soup fan.

Isn't vegetables good for the body again? I am following what/how you taught me, Sir!!!

pansophist:
Like cement, an over 40 years old man is already hardened in his ways, and even the spirit of God cannot change him. But you can compromise.

So since he decides for things to go his way, then he should bear the cost only. It's just a twist to the old saying that "he who plays the Piper dictates the tune".

You want things to go your way abi? Oya pay for it alone. E no hard.

No perfect man outside, and if this is the only flaw he has, then manage him like that, you're not perfect either. But if he beats, sleeps around and can't provide for you, then I'll personally come and drag you out of that marriage.

Keep talking to him that he should consider your opinion, but also know where to draw the line between been submissive, and being imposing. Things doesn't have to go your ways always.

[b]No offence to you, but my experience with over 30 year old women is that submission is hard for them. They've grown past the age of easy integration into a man's program[b].

Make sure this is not your problem. You've probably being with other men and have develop a taste of everything, and how you want your things done. A young woman will not care since she is inexperienced and helplessly in love.

Unlike relationship between matured couples that are mostly transactional, and engineered to the last bolt. These are some challenges associated with marrying older. Easy integration into your lives becomes hard.

The bolded is so hard for both sexes as it is difficult for a man at that age to also learn to compromise and amend his ways towards what gives his partner happiness. At that age, both sexes are set in their ways.

Pakwel:
Devil has started using you to spoil your own wedding. Wait a minute what business do you have with the wedding rings ?
Your village people deh give you ideas abi.. go ahead. Your age is not far from 40 ..

Who wears the female rings? They both should be able to decide what type of ring(s) each other wants while the man should get them. In this case, it seems she isn't involved as the mummy's boy has left it for his mom to get their rings hence, her complaints.

One part that amuses me most in all these spouse bashers is that they dare not try such with their bosses or even their neighbors. Why then do they do the same to their wives?

OP, you sound intelligent and I would suggest pending when you decide what you want from the marriage, report him at the ministry of justice so that he can be made responsible to at least provide for his daughter.

As for you, should you want to continue in the marriage, please ensure you have your economy first so that he understands you are not at his mercy. Your family should make it known that the next time he lifts his fingers to touch you (in a hurtful way), they will organize touts that will rearrange him physically and this should be made known to his family too. In our local Palance, na madness we dey take cure madness.

My only advice is that if he doesn't see you as his priority and vice versa, don't get married to him. It is better you are single than getting it wrong at this age.

I find it amusing that he has no mind of his at his age. You could think you will be submissive which you should be however to who? If his family starts running your home, are you still willing to be submissive?

Lastly, marriage requires determination, hardwork, and sacrifice therefore, it is better to count the cost and be willing to do all to pay before getting into it.

Dinner:

Yam flour and wheat flour (50/50) fufu with vegetable soup.

GreatKingg:
Thanks man! The only problem now go come be where to get fresh bitterleaf... also, i think most of those peanuts dem dey sell for store dey get added sweetener already... so e be like I go just make the peanut butter myself, then find where to get bitterleaf to take run am... I get fried meat for freezer.. nah to just put the meat for pot, add water, salt, seasoning, pepper, and palm oil, then after a while, add the peanut butter and bitterleaf, then everything don set... I greet you. Thanks.

Yeah, you could blend peanut but please toast it before blending it.

Dinner from last night:

Beans and dodo.

armyofone:
I like to eat peanut soup. My mom taught me to make it. We shall both visit GboyegaD.

Make una carry money follow body ooo because LV dey expensive and many things wey una fit do to catch fun join.

luminouz:
It's just sad cuz you be Yoruba guy like me. We are known to be way smarter and Alpha that you are behaving. How can you bear Gboyega and be behaving like a simp on any woman related topic. Shuuu!!!

No go kill yourself on top my matter ooo. Live your life, leave me make I leave my own. If I SIMP, e no concern you because your women bashing makes you no alpha and your whining/nagging makes you worse than a beta as I no sure say dem get class for your type.

luminouz:
Mark my words, nigga!!!

You will soon contact me!!! I can't wait for that time to come to pass.

Keep living in your delusion. Those I pity are those who choose to join in your misery thinking they are wise.

luminouz:
I know you will say something simpish like this. You NEVER disappoint me!!!

I'll be waiting for your breakfast story soon. E go sweet me die

Let me simp at least, it is my simping. You who keep worrying about people dumping is the real simp because you are pained your life isn't as beautiful as you want it and wish everyone be miserable as you. I understand misery wants company. You can go about looking for those who don't understand life and how to balance it to deceive.

Oga, go learn how to be a man so that you can enjoy your woman and all the privileges that comes with being a man. Trailing and tagging everyone a simp because they appreciate life and understand the act of living only tells of how much of a nuisance you are becoming.

As for breakfast story, na where your hair go very finish you dey so dey wait till eternity on top wetin no go happen.

MetaBroadband:
Thank you all for your excellent contributions. Please note the following:

1. They said the man abandoned them, but what if it's not actually what happened, so let's not be emotional.

2. I'm not paying the bride price to the biological father, but there should be an understanding between both fathers at this point. because if the child was taken away from the man or if he had acted as a child then, both parents can come to an understanding so that my wife won't hurt any part of the tradition in the course of our marriage.

3. I know that my mother inlaw would be angry, but I still feel it's my right to know. What if something bad happens to my wife because she married in a way that violates her tradition (give Caeser things to Caesar)

4. I'm doing this for my fiancee not me, because as far as I've paid my bride price nothing can come to me, but if anything comes to my wife, it automatically affects me. So it's not just her and her mum's business.

Thank you as you put this thoughts into consideration as well.

Please excuse typos

Whose name does she bear? The father or the stepfather?

That said, I don't understand why you want to poke your nose into what isn't your business. If you want to know the man just for the sake of it, all good. You should work on your fiancee and make her see reasons why she should at least have interactions with her dad and that way, you both can start having interactions with him. However, your objective of wanting to go investigate is unnecessary. The daughter is who you are getting married to and that is the person you need be united with and concerned about and not the extended family.

Lastly, your belief is very key however, is she also having same beliefs about anything happening to her due to some family rituals? That is the important thing for your last point.

Dinner:

Air fried chicken and oven roasted potatoes.

GreatKingg:
Baba, nah you dey make these foods yourself abi nah your wife? which store you dey buy all these food stuffs? I nor go mind if you share with me how you take run this groundnut soup. I greet you special.

Either part cooks depending on who is available but the weekend soups are mostly made by me while Saturday breakfast is her specialty 90% of the time.

The inspiration for the soup was that we have some peanut butter at home and rather than let it go to waste in November when its best before date is, I decided to use it for something else.

The process is the same as every soup. Cook your proteins with some salt, pepper, and seasoning. Once you know the proteins are tender, add some Palm oil and allow it cook. Then add the peanut butter and some bitterleaf, let them cook well on low heat.

Sanchez01:
I hate to admit but visiting the 7 magic mountains was not necessary. I was disappointed because the whole thing looked like coloured, stacked balewas. Driving from Salt Lake City straight there was longer than driving straight to the hotel. The distance between both was about 35 minutes on a single. Vegas is an extremely hot city. EXTREMELY HOT!

Vegas is cool at this period of the year you visited though. That said, it is less humid, so it is preferred to Houston hotness for me.

gstelly:
Pocohantas: I learn alot from her reading her diary, I wish I could be like her plus she's very nice and also scrupulous.

Ahnie: no nonsense woman, she's always positive nothing fazes her... I envy her spirit of hustling.

Folake4u: Despite us being age mate she has achieve things I can only dream of while I'm struggling to meet ends need and schooling, at times whenever I feel like giving up I just go and read her diary... Baby girl inspires me alot

Gboyegad: I call him my daddy (unknown to him) I like how he thinks, I think he have knowledge about lot of things, doesn't shy from saying his mind and he's very good at advising.

Thanks, I am honored.

ibkayee:
Allergic to peanuts but I’d risk a swollen face for this lol jk. Looks nice

Thanks. It tasted nice too.

Mom007:
Looks like banga soup. Enjoy bro

Thanks, it was nice and I enjoyed it too.

Every individual and every marriage is different. What you should do is to have real conversation that can expose her thoughts on marriage and divorce while you also share yours to know if your thoughts and values on marriage align.

If you know you don't love her, don't allow anyone to cajole you into marrying her because they wouldn't be living in the house with you. It is your life and at 41, you should be able to take charge fully.

Thank God. Can you please untagged my post?

Dinner:

Yam and plantain fufu and peanut soup.

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HacheNoire:
Good one!

We don’t support miscreants .

They should put on trial and made to face the full wrath of the law. Death if possible!

The Yoruba’s are a highly educated and enlightened tribe. Few unscrupulous lots cannot manipulate an intellectual base.

Keep living in deceit.

Barims:
By calling the police on her, I think I'm gonna put myself in more serious problem. Definitely after being released from police custody she would come after me again. She is a really crazy person (psychopath) and they don't back down, no matter what.....

You are not asking them to lock her up. You are only going to report a threat to your life and that way they get both party's statements.

Barims:
Why should I care? When she really wants me dead herself, she occasionally wishes me death! She has said to my face that she wishes I would die.

You are in no way different from your sister in the real sense. You both need help.

It is well. Glad to see you are working on your improvement and not brooding. May God answer you quickly.

What is there to know? You can't expect a better Nigeria when due processes are not followed. We all are big jokes.

Breakfast from yesterday:

Initial plan was an Apple Cake but it ended becoming an Apple crumble kind of.

Dinner from yesterday:

Rice garnished with carrot and creamy gizzard peanut sauce with beef from stew.

Food:

Potato casserole.

Will do later in the day. Can you please edit and remove my post.