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What d'you think about a chick being a better handyman than her boo? E dey happen...nuffin spoil.

Is she a bad cook or just doesn't cook as well as u can? Initially from ur original post, I thot she was overreacting but from reading your comments, I think I'm with her on this. N yes, she's right again - u're incompatible. If she's already insecure pre marriage, what going to happen when she has to bear with your critical teaching on how to cook just so that it's up to your standard.

Unfortunately, the manner of correction might be telling her - U're not good enuf! Just imagine, being in a cooking competition for the rest of one's life! lai lai

Eyah. Try using a good mask. You can do at home facials. sometimes I mask my face with egg white. Black up IMHO is about the best foundation for oily skin. N it comes across as natural too. Sometimes, you can use loose white powder over the foundation. There's this cheap Ponds Oil control powder that you can use to set your foundation.

Cakes n cream always come thru

Japanese food in nyc. food was horrible. the soup - awwful! the noodles - tasteless! wanted my money back! yuck! hav never tried japanese again

No, except they failed while rearing the kids.

Unless I'm paid. Let's kip substituting hardwork with prayer n fasting....way to go

Physical and emotional abuse
Long term incompatibility
Insecure partner
Diabolical partner
If his family strongly dislikes me

Adoption doesn't mean selling ur child. Sometimes, pple give their children up for adoption cos they want the kids to have a life better than the one they can offer their children.

BTW, all Christians are adopted.

Honestly, I feel for u. I know what's it like to feel like ur life's at a standstill with others passing u by.

All, I can say is seek God with all ur being. Be genuinely born again n become a worker in God's house. Matt 6:33

have u tried teaching jobs. A couple of recruitment agencies I know include workforce, estymol,peopleplus/ peopleprime. Keep pushing and one day, U'll strike gold.

Also, du think u need to work on ur attitude? Quarreling with ur boss while ur still a temporary staff doesn't exactly put you in good light. The thing is evn wen u're being paid peanuts, its better cos potential employers typically frown at time gaps in cvs.

This too shall pass. (((((Hugs))))

No, I won't encourage a family member to get plastic surgery. But, I won't stop anyone bent on getting work done, except there are potential health complicatns.

TBH, I'm not sure u need plastic surgery. U'd be amazed what a good skin care regimen would do. Get ur hair done nicely, mild make up, develop a pleasant personality and not to forget self confidence - U'd be amazed at the transformation.

Sometimes, it's not bout being beautiful but ur carriage matters. I just can't get over the feelin that u're not ugly but just think u are. Heard of anorexia - slim people thinkin they're fat.

N parents will keep caring bout their children even if they r doing well in their studies, cos evry aspect of ur life is inter related. Say for instance, u have relatnship issues, u'd most likely be unable to concentrate and end up seeing a drop in ur performance at ur studies.

Cheers

hopefully not.

N what happens if the wife does household chores out of her own free will? Just think how organised ur home'll be, how well fed ur kids'll be...a typical model family

Nah. Don't c anything wrong with it. Check yr motives, tho

Hi Louis,

Epele. I think yu should work on ur CV? What did yu read? Du hav other skills like are you trying to improve urself. Be prayerful. Encourage yrself. N without fail, u shall recover all. (((((Hugs))))

Yep, Prayers work!!! I'm a Living testimony to that effect. Not all my prayers have been answered n sometimes I wonder what criteria God uses to choose the prayers to answer. Guess, that's Y He's sovereign.

Now for prayers to be answered, they have to be in accordance with God's will. N that's Y sometimes it appears that prayers don't work. Another reason Y prayers may not work is that God has principles which He can't break just because of U. Say for instance u violate his principles, no matter how much he luvs u - u got to reap the consequences of the actions, unless u confess and forsake the sin.

Often too, pple make noise n think they r praying - any prayer that is full of u singing ur praises is just going to bounce back and the prayer of a sinner is recorded in the Bible as an abomination.

N u'd know cos...Haff U seen the Book of Life? I guess the portion of the Good Book that says 'Judge not, that thou may not be judged' doesn't apply here? duh

Chaircover - learnt loads from her posts

The guy na Dangote

Please, ignore the poster above. He most likely thrives on attention.

At this time, have a good cry,focus on your hobbies, go shopping, go to the spa n play with ur kid. You could have also lied bout ur kid afterall single mothers r not usually accepted in Nig, but you were honest(hopefully ) with him.

I assure you n I bliv same in my heart - a better guy's coming. Keep ur head high

Yes o...Marriage for all by the year 2012 ba?

After not being myself for 3 months n hooking the fish, what next? Can't the bloke divorce if the real me is dramatically different from the projected me? Anyway, marriage na by hook or crook

Nah, he may not be doing anything wrong. A grown woman's definitely capable of making her choices n evn if the guy's a monster - 2 wrongs don't make a right

sexdntkillz: will this be a good time to ask what the husband is doing wrong??

Single for life. IVF/ adoption tins

Lai Lai. I'd be bored out of my wits

I dunno...Y would u believe this guy? One minute he's single n d next he's married. If you hadn't done extensive snooping, you wouldn't have been any wiser. Loose that man and let him go. Looked into the crystal ball n I can say - Hmm, the best who's ur Prince Charming is yet to come. Cheer up

I hear you but every individual has has been blessed with freewill - the right to make choices. There are several churches n u are not obliged to attend the church if you don't buy into their value system.

Not sure it's Biblical. The Bible says it's appointed unto man once to die and after that judgement. Haven't found any biblical evidence to support it.

Zodiac61: It did not take long,did it? I could have bet all the money I have that sooner or later one person would blame the girl.
I could also have bet that the person would be a female person.
She is the home wrecker now, is she?
What about the married pastor who could not keep his pecker in his trousers?
Does he not at least share some of the blame?
I am sure that he was also "looking unto Jesus" as he was poking a member of his congregation.

I'm certain you do not understand my post - the Looking unto Jesus is for Christians like me who are frustrated when people who are sposed to offer spiritual leadership fall. All, I'm saying is Look unto Jesus not your pastor since You never know who is in the right with God or not. While, this pastor was conducting an extra marital affair with this chorister, some church members may have asked him to seek the face of God with them, instead of praying to God directly. You may recall, that the old prophet lied to the young prophet and this caused the latter to die before his time.

I agree that the Pastor is wrong, but the girl's also wrong. I'm on the path of truth and refuse to camouflage because I'm of the same gender. If you reread my post, my beef with her is what's she even doing parading herself as a chorister when she's not born again. Gosh, I can understand a one off encounter but repeated romps, no way. As I said earlier, Y do pple go on to join churches they don't believe in and even become workers. When, I had a crisis of faith at some point, I skipped Church till I was sure I believed. Pple have to take responsibility for their actions, what if the pastor had asked her to put her hand in the fire, nko?

And yes, if you want to marry at 26, doesn't common sense tell you that at 24 you should be dating potential husbands who ideally should be SINGLE. The Pastor's definitely messed up and I'm sure he'll be adequately rewarded by God, if this story is true. Even David, a man after God's heart was still punished after adultery with Bathsheba, so. All, I'd say is like Jesus said, ' The Son of Man is going be betrayed, but woe unto that MAN by which the Son of Man's betrayed. The Pastor may/may not have made up his mind to sleep around and would have been sufficiently punished by God, but it did not have to be her, just as there was nothing that said it had to be Judas Iscariot that'll betray Jesus.

If we can't let our guard down in the church, pray tell where shall we be safe? the club?

Smartie gurl: Waking me up very early in the morning z wat actually helps me 2 feel remorse cuz my mum did'nt really flog me. So 2 me is beta u talk sense in2 the kid dan floging him cuz sooner or later he wil get used 2 flogn.

Yeah, but parents and would be parents (example me) have to be careful when holding talks. I particularly worry that 'talking' may be used as an excuse for emotional abuse, comparing your kids with the neighbours' or with their siblings and to the extreme- cursing kids saying words like u'd never amount to anything etc . These are just plain unacceptable IMO.

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