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Ghostwon65:
What exactly does Benin have to do with this discussion ?
You Yoruba really like to mention Benin in every situation.

The emperor if Benin empire is titled:
OMO N'OBA N'EDO. Oba in short.

In the precolonial era, Yoruba chiefs didn't refer to themselves as "Oba". Rather they referred to themselves as ooni, alafin...
In the colonial era Yoruba chiefs started naming themselves in the following manner: "ooni of ife, sir adeyemi", "alafin of oyo, sir adetoye"...
Notice the introduction of two non Yoruba words: "of" and "sir".
The "sir" is a word from English nobility which the yorubas borrowed from the British in order to add some prestige to their titles.

However, later in the colonial era, the Yoruba dropped the word "sir" and replaced it with the word "Oba", yet an other non Yoruba word.

The word Oba belongs to Benin empire, it is how Benin empire calls it's emperor as witnessed by European visitors in the middle ages.

Basically, Yoruba copy other tribes a lot:
2) emir from Fulani
3) "sir" from the British
1) Oba from Benin

Even some Benin traditional swords were copied by the Yoruba.

You guys like to imitate other people's cultures, face this fact and live on.

femijamz:
Mr Man I know how you feel. Am once in your shoe, I masturbated for over 15yrs, ur problem is erectile dyfunction which cause by masturbation.
I also have similar problem for many years which make me spent over 50k to treatment myself but still it doesn't work out. But I later find solutions by myself which I no spend #1, right now am happily married with a kid

junior20202020:
Help Me Recover My Glory

THIS IS MY STORY

I started masturbating partially at the age of 19, I was a shy guy I don't have a girlfriend, everyone taught that I was a virgin. This masturbation became serious at the age of 24. I decided to quit Masturbation.

I said let me visit a prostitute, I paid her 3k, we started romancing each other, but I noticed that my dick did not erect. I was highly embarrassed, I thought because the lady was older than me, she was 33 yrs.

I visited 3 more prostitutes which are young girls in their twenties, it was the same thing, the dick did not erect at all.

Note: I normally have rock erection Even when a lady sit on my lap, early morning waking up I also use to have rock erection before I meet the first prostitute. From there I went back to masturbation again partially. At the age of 21 I made my first 1.5 million naira through business, but I noticed since I started visiting this prostitute my business collapse I could hardly boast of #200k in my account.

Around 2018 I decided to get a girlfriend, because all prostitute I meet my dick cannot rise to penetrate them. My first girlfriend was cute, I love her and she loves me. One certain day something led to something we got intimate, I romance her very well she was already screaming, she wanted me to put my dick inside but I noticed it was flaccid no erection at all. She noticed and got up and dress herself. After that day she started giving me attitude and that was how I broke up with her.

I got about 4 more girlfriend all of them broke up with me when the notice that my dick does not erect. After all this I felt like the whole world is gone, I finally got another girl friend. Anything that would lead to romance I normally tell her that as Christian we must not have sex until we are married. She would say that this is the first time she is dating a guy like me. That she loves me with all her heart. We have dated for one year now without sex, I promise her that we would have sex on our wedding night.

I am currently 27 yrs and I feel dejected. Does it mean that I may never have a child of mine own. I got tired of my situation I went into 3 days dry fasting praying to God to deliver me from sin and to restore my lost erection. ..

On the second day of the fast I was in a trance and I vommitted a lot of poison. I woke up and thanked God. After that fasting I don't normally have bad dreams of evil spirit pressing down my spirit. But I noticed that my erection have not yet been restored. Please I need help. I need God to restore my Glory. I would never use it for masturbation or fornication. Help me on what to do. I am in distress

Uckroot:
You’re stoopid sir. I’ve been wanking for 15 years there is NoThInG you can tell me about masturbation and side effects that I don’t know.

Most of you are spewing utter gutter.

Uckroot:
It does not. Anxiety does... especially when you dun first make mouth..... secondly many Nigerian women are fat donkeys in bed. Lazy to do anything. They can’t suck or stroke you or even try. eediots just expect deek to stand every time
Phucking dry smurfs.

22ndJune:
Masturbation doesn't cause erectile dysfunction.

junior20202020:
send me your phone number to juniornaidoo99@gmail.com. I need solution

manuelreports:
I just clocked 41 and I am yet to settle down.

Please house i want to know if I married too Late if i decide to settle down today.

I never expected to marry this late but you know one thing leads to another son of man is still trying to put somethings in order before marriage, in order to give my children the best life can offer.

Please fam
Your suggestions please

AreaFada2:
Lol. Despite their attack like a pack of wolves insult is all they can hurl at you.

Suddenly every traditional ruler is Oba. Why would they leave Oba title to Benin until about 1950s before they now suddenly realised "oh it belongs to us, let's begin using it?"

Their sniggering at you here is a sign of frustration. Not what they expected.

SW rulers began using Oba title simply because they wanted to bask in the glory similar to Oba of Benin, the owner of the title. Out of respect of tradition, virtually no traditional ruler in the South South uses that title as it became Synonymous with Emperor.

In SW they are creating kings everyday to use Oba title. Like one governor in Oyo. I guess they are friends with Ganduje churning out emirs like a cheap Chinese factory.

The idea that each SW Oba has own title is a fact. And that's simply all they had. They should better revert to their usual Ooni, Alaafin, Olugbo, Owa Bokun, Awujale, Deji, Osemawe, Olubadan and leave Oba title to the originator.

Our close relatives like Eleko as son of the real imperial Oba can use Oba title.

Quite fun to see how much headache you are giving our sophisticated SW people. They must have exhausted their Profanity Lexicon by now.

Crazeman03:
Hello Nairalanders, Hope you guys are staying Safe. Please don't mind my writing, I will make it short as possible.

I met this wonderful lady Last year and everything has been going good until 7 months ago when she told me she was Hiv+. That hit me hard but that didn't change anything, she was surprised I didnt react and opening up to me didn't scare me because I'm negative though we haven't had sex yet before the moment.

Now it has been 4 months we've been having unprotected sex. I'm not afraid of contracting the virus, as she keeps taking med and her viral load is low. I made sure before we went for test before having unprotected sex. Her CD4 count is above 750 and viral load is below 20, which makes hiv undetectable in her.

Now one night around 3months ago, she woke me up in the middle of the night to ask me, why do I love her knowing fully well about her status because she could not believe she will ever have a relationship with someone negative not even in this Nigeria by the way they stigmatize hiv+ people. I told her the reason and I'm not afraid hiv is not the worse or the baddest of diseases. There are more killer diseases than HIV and HIV is not a diseases but a virus. Only attack your immune system and its no longer a deadly virus.

The problem I have now is that whenever I imagine myself having it and how I will popping drugs everyday, make me kinda moody towards her, because I always keep telling her to always take her drugs. Last night she discovered she is pregnant and I'm just imagining things how everything will play out, I know when she will put to bed she won't be able to breastfeed. People will ask questions. I really need to tell someone in my family but I don't know who. My mom my react and the other person I trust is my younger sister.

On her own part, only her elder sister and brother knew she has the virus. And she had it since 2007.

I only need an advice if I need to tell any member of my family, looking to settle down with her this October.

meetme01:
That's where the problem lies. Even if the man is said to be sterile, nobody except thw wife knows and the wife cannot tell anybody.. However, the wife would be mocked and tagged "barren" just because of our mindset that solution to men's sterility is not drugs but enough mating. Women bear the brunt alot. Only few men accept and walk the path with their wife's to find the solution. Check the thread of IVF/IUI, it's full of women. Where are the men?

I totally agree with you on the African culture. It's way to archaic for this generation.

meetme01:
Not men. The society we live is the bane of these paternity fraud. Alot of men are sterile, they fail to accept. They put the blame on women who is handicapped but just have to find a way out. It's really sad how we stigmatize women who are yet to birth. Both parties are guilty.

Until we change our mindset and accept children are from God, paternity fraud has come to stay in our society.

Dueprince:
I am from akwa ibom, we don't eat humans neither calabar do. If it is so many indigens would have confirm it just like an ngwa man in abian state Will profusely tell you it true among some communities in ngwa.
But what is certain is that an Annang man can vehemently get angered and can kill without minding even if is his son. Be as it may be, if you still thought why not pay a visit.

Moneywomen17:
dumbass stop lying ijaw doesn’t acknowledge Benin whatsoever. So if ur king wax the one that lied and till today he still continued the same lie. His is that Yoruba fault. Ur king was licking Yoruba ass on his own and still doing the same thing till today. It’s either ur king are the greatest ass lickers of all time or he is telling the truth. Either way respect ur king and bow to ur Yoruba ruler.

Moneywomen17:
dumbass do u have any prove that ur oba lied and for political reason. And there was no political party called Yoruba. There were many tribes like uhrobo, ijaw and co. Why didn’t they lie too about connection to yoruba. If he did lie cuz of western region there is no more western region so why is ur current king still lying.

Moneywomen17:
if there was no connection how then did we borrowed the word oba from u. Why does ur oba claim his ancestors came from Ife. Why does he say he is number 40 king cuz oranmiyan was number cuz I don’t seem to remember Yoruba putting a gun to his head to say it. Why does ur edo son egrhaveba who wrote a book where his source according to him is the king and chiefs and lot of prominent families in edo wrote that ur king head is buried in ife and ur king came from ife. Cuz last time I checked those people are not Yoruba.

davidnazee:
The words ade, uwa, egbe, all have meanings in both Edo and Yoruba languages.. If tomorrow Edo uses any of these words as a powerful title, I bet the yorubas will immediately adopt the title too and start claiming its a Yoruba word only and Edo borrowed it.. we know what you guys are capable of..

luwiizy:
so who win...?

TAO11:
gayboy the one and only-female son of Benin Kingdom

The challenge is still open tho!

TAO11:
Gayboy answer the challenge its waiting for you for $700 for each.

Don't miss out!


(1) Provide any document from 1500 to 1930 to prove that your ancestor Ekaladerhan really existed.

(2) Provide any document from 1500 to 1930 to prove that Eweka has parents /s.

(3) Provide any document from 1500 to 1930 to prove that Eweka coined the word "Oba" for the Edos after the Yorubas have been using the word for millennia.

You have a prize of $700 to grab if you prove any one of the foregoing.

TAO11:
gayboy aka gregyboy, the one and only female-son of shine-shine-seki of Benin Kingdom.

Why are you not meeting this challenge??

Don't you want to chop at least $700??

See challenge again for a reminder:

Moneywomen17:
see painment. U said ur king is omo noba nedo the shining one. Oba means king. The kings market is called oja oba all over yoruba land. The right hand man of the king is called otunba. Those who are buried with the king in the olden days of oyo are called abobaku. But according to edo “YoRuBa BORoweD ThE WorD iN tHe 20Th CeNtuRY

davidnazee:
Why is it when you Yorubas are defeated you turn to insults?
even if you have the word Oba in your Yoruba language, you never used it as a title for your kings till after Benin kings started using it.. You copied it from Benin stop denying..
Oba is a benin word even if it doesn't mean king, it means shining in Benin.. just like Alaafin or Ooni doesn't mean king in yoruba language but a title adopted by your rulers.

Moneywomen17:
ode can u tell me one king in Yoruba that changed his title that he was using previously to the oba title u claimed they adopt cuz as far as I can see the aalafin is still called alalafin and so many more. Oba Lori ngbogbo is yoruba. Ur word for king is Ogie.

TAO11:
Gay-boy!

How is your gay life going?

You can't defend the challenge I gave. So you had to resort to slander.

The challenge remains as shown below:

(1) Provide any document from 1500 to 1930 to prove that your ancestor Ekaladerhan really existed.

(2) Provide any document from 1500 to 1930 to prove that Eweka has parents /s.

(3) Provide any document from 1500 to 1930 to prove that Eweka coined the word "Oba" for the Edos after the Yorubas have been using the word for millennia.

You have a prize of $700 to grab if you prove any one of the foregoing.

Moneywomen17:
I love this ur source lol.

TAO11:
Gay-boy!

He hates to be exposed!

I won't stop exposing you until you stop lying!

TAO11:
(1) Provide any document from 1500 to 1930 to prove that your ancestor Ekaladerhan really existed.

(2) Provide any document from 1500 to 1930 to prove that Eweka has parents /s.

(3) Provide any document from 1500 to 1930 to prove that Eweka coined the word "Oba" for the Edos after the Yorubas have been using the word for millennia.

You have a prize of $700 to grab if you prove any one of the foregoing.

Moneywomen17:
u talk too much. U said there is nothing like oba it’s just an appellation. It’s called omo noba nedo. So why do u call ur king omo noba nedo uku akpolopo then call him oba ewuare or eweka again. What does name like obaseki translates to. And am still waiting for the 30 kings that came from Benin in Yoruba land.

Moneywomen17:
TA011 replied u.

Moneywomen17:
Oba is undisputed Yoruba from Nigeria to Benin to Togo. The word ba in relation to leadership is ever present. Apart from ojo oba, ojude oba. Long term title like otunba has been present in Yoruba for centuries. Yoruba names with oba attaches to them.