Lol .. I won laugh die. Why would u study botany as a man in Nigeria. I won laugh die.
Years back... I wanted to major in Marine Engineering because I had a zeal for it. After writing jamb.. I pass jamb then I do not meet up post utme cut off. They always gv me stupid courses. I did watch all my set go into Uniben... Uniport.. Delsu. Landmark.. Futo... It was not funny oh. Everyone at home then looked at me like a failure. All my friends with the Estate were in school. Reading funny funny courses because they didn't want to stay at home.
ChizzyBuna: Thank you so much. The new girl is now fond of me, she now visits my office regularly for guidance. And the truth is that I'm beginning to catch feelings for her. But with the cleaner present st work, it's making things awkward and the cleaner girl acts like street girl sometimes, so if I shout at her, she might create a scene at work or sabotage my work which I don't want to happen. Thank you for your advice, I will think about it
Lol. Devil go soon play movie for you if you are not careful. Office romance never ends well. Forget the new girl.... Forget the old girl. No matter how your flesh no gree my guy give yourself some respect and class
Am married for 6 years with two kids. Some months ago, my wife started denying sex so much that we hardly have 2 times in a month. Because of this, I no longer disturb her this days cos it's better to let her be than to be rejected since most times I expected her to say no or give an excuse or the other which am always about 90 percent right about.
This days, I don't feel attracted to her sexually anymore. I have never cheated on her but this days, the thought of doing so is gradually creeping in. Have tried talking to her about this but no change. I don't want to start what extra marital affair but am tempted to.
I need your advise guys.
Tell you wife that in months time, you will be taking a second wife. You can no longer taking her sex starvation. Smile while you are telling her. No simp oo. She will change after that. But abeg, if she cook food during that duration with better fish head and all. No chop ohhh! As you dey chop, you dey go meet you maker. Lol.
Nonetheless, if she doesn't change after you have informed her about taking a second wife, you know what to do.
MrBrownJay1: as much as your wife is denying you sex, it doesnt mean you should go without it altogether. talk to her and let her know that:"due to your high libido and her constant excuses and denying you of sex, you will be looking for other ways to satisfy yourself sexually....EOD!"
Two times in a month is high libido ? I do not understand. The sex Na festival way suppose happen once a year?
CuriousMind2022: It's a known fact that most Nigerian girls marry who they consider ready for marriage and not necessarily who they love. I am exactly in that dilemma and the question I am asking myself is whether I should continue in this loveless marriage or slowly drift and walk away.
My marriage is barely 2 years and a few months, but it has been a rough journey for me. Things I never envisaged I would experience in my marriage, I have suffered, from utmost disrespect to verbal abuse.
I came to the conclusion that she doesn't love or care about me based on what happened yesterday. I was recently transferred from my base to a new location and because of that, I would only be able to visit weekends or twice a month. Prior to that, we barely had sex once a week.
We had already had sex the normal once we usually had it (Saturday morning), but I wanted more because I will only be coming back after two weeks. I initiated a move on Sunday morning, she declined because she was thinking of preparing food for our baby before we leave for church. We went to church and came back, and as usual, my wife was in her undies (just panties and bra) in the sitting room (This was what she wore throughout that Sunday).
I watched her walk around the house in that and that even turned me on the more. I am a practicing Christian, and I try not to look after other women lustfully, but common this is my wife, even God sanctions that. After being turned on throughout the day, I went to my wife in the night, (note she slept in the sitting room with our baby leaving me alone in the room) to enjoy my conjugal rights with her, but she gave me excuses that she is upset and not in the mood.
I left and went back, seriously konjified, I managed to sleep. The next morning, I woke up with my urges and went to the sitting room to have my morning devotion, but I could barely concentrate because I was still very Hot. I explained to her that so really wants me to go to my new station like this knowing fully well I will not be coming back until 2 weeks time. This woman did not care!
I took my bath, prepared myself, and set out for my office. I was not happy with her but I kept my cool and left for work. She had demanded that I dropped some money for her before leaving and despite the fact that I was not happy with her, I dropped the money in a conspicuous place where I know she will see it before leaving. This was my own way of saying I am not happy with what you did, but I still cared.
I try to do things I usually do for my wife even when I am angry with her. This is my own way of saying I may be angry with you, but I still cared about you and I am open to a resolution. On the other hand, my wife doesn't care what happens to me when she is upset. She immediately stops cooking for me ad any other thing she does for me when she is upset. It is obvious to me now that to my wife I don't really matter in the grand scheme of things. She is only caring and concerned, when she is not angry (when we are good and we don't have any issues). I believe that when you love somebody, you treat them right and show genuine love and care for them even when you're upset with them. This is what I have constantly shown to my wife in our 2+ years of marriage.
Back to my story of what happened weekend/Monday. My wife never bothered to call me to check if I arrived safely since I left the house yesterday. I even called her once (primarily to check on my daughter), but she didn't pick up and she didn't call back, and up till now, we have not spoken.
She obviously does not care whether I arrived safely in my station or not. In this country of insecurities, a family member of yours will travel and you do not care whether he/she arrived safely, that is the height for me, and in the actual sense, I should be the one upset here because she left me high and dry, despite knowing fully well I am very Hot.
I am a family-oriented person, I have always dreamt of having a peaceful, loving, and Godly home but unfortunately, the reverse is the case for my wife. I began to understand why family background is very important in a person's life, after getting married. My wife is from a family where they place little or no value on marriage. Her mother had children with 2 men, and my wife is obviously working very hard to follow that same path. She shows little or no enthusiasm in making our marriage work. I am always the one to initiate moves to resolve issues when we quarrel, whether I am right or wrong, I do not care, my focus is just on making my marriage work and my home peaceful.
This last episode shook me very hard, and I have been asking myself whether I want to continue in this loveless marriage or opt out. Working and living in a different city will even make it easier for me.
I needed to let my thoughts out and thanks to Nairaland, I have done so.
You didn't see all the red flags while you both were dating Abi una just dey chop fish dey smooch.
Truth be told. You wife no send you. The best you could do for you mental health is to find a distraction and be happy. When I said distraction it is up to Ur discretion... I no type sidechick..lol.
That Laliga President is a racist. Na today Vinicius begin complain? Instead of tackling racism with serious sanctions and fines the man will be active on twitter and If defending nonsense
All thanks to everyone for their immense contributions towards my elder brother predicament. This place is truly home away from home. For those getting to know or who just come across this thread, you can read through the link posted above to get a grasp of where I'm coming from.
Someone sent me a mail having gone through my post and we both shared contact. He works on the island and he was willing to absorb my elder brother into his organisation. It's an organisation where one learn a skills and get paid monthly. Then after being certified in your skills, you can be employed as a full staff into the organisation. He would be given #20,000 monthly as stipend while learning as an apprentice but the man promised to be adding #10,000 to it making a total of #30,000 monthly. This person didn't know me from Adam but was touched by my brother's condition and he developed interest in helping him in his own little way. He asked me to inform my elder brother and get back to him.
I discussed everything to my brother verbally. Infact, i relate everything to him in my mother's tongue for ease of communication. I asked him if he has any interest in the offer and he said yes. He has interest. He's very much interested. He said he'd specialised in plumbing. I reached out to the man and we both finalise everything. He asked my brother when would he love to resume and he said month end. After the call, i asked him why month end and he said he doesn't have anything. He needs to get some few clothes, toiletries and some money for upkeep. I asked him where would he get money from less than 2 weeks to month end. He claimed if he can see any bus to work with. I told him you've been out of job going to a year, you didn't get any bus. Why do you think you'd get a bus within a short space of time? I asked him what if i rally round for him, is he willing to resume before the month end, he said yes with happy face. I borrowed #10,000 from a friend, i had #5,000 left with me, making a total of #15,000. I gave him 2 pairs of trousers and shirt i had. He bought a small school bag of #3,000 to put his clothes and he left in two days time. That was last week Wednesday. Oh! God, i was the happiest man on earth that very day.. I was so happy for him believing that he would become somebody from there. I called him to know if he has gotten there and how the work was. He said everything was fine.
I was surprised to see my brother at home on Friday, two days after he left. I asked him hope all is well? He said yes. I asked him why did he came back home so soon considering the cost of transportation to island. He was given a room he'd put up with. I expected him to stay there and focus on his job, whenever i have any money i would send to him. The man that helped him with the job called me later in the day. He narrated the gross misconduct of my brother. My brother left the job on Friday during working hours. The work is Monday to Saturday. Though Saturday is half day. He explained every details of the job to my brother before he resumed work. My brother was assigned to someone else to work with, not directly the man that helped him. The man only came to check up on him daily to know how he's fairing. The man was there when my brother took his bag, headed outside with the claim that he was going home. The man told him he can't go home now till after work, which is on Saturday. My brother didn't listen to the boss he was assigned with nor the man that helped him. He left right in their presence.
They do give daily report, and the man he was assigned with reported that he doesn't have anyone to work with, particularly on Saturday. The management asked him about my brother assigned to him and he said he has left on Friday. My brother was dismissed for his attitude. I pleaded to give him a second chance, but the man said it was beyond his power. The management has decided. I asked him to report there today and apologise for his gross misconduct. He went but apology wasn't accepted. If i was the man that helped my brother with this job or if i was among the management. I would do the same thing. I'd gladly lay him off without thinking twice.
My mother had been crying having heard the outcome of everything. I myself had cry my eyes out, all because of this my elder brother. I am fed up. The burden is too much. I might be tempted to harm him living under the same roof with him. I had been trying to console my mum but she wouldn't listen. Landlord came to harass her last week, the very day my elder brother left, because of house rent. I had 3 younger siblings to look after. Here comes my elder brother problem again. I am responsible for all of these with my meagre pay. I don't know what else to do for this guy. I don't think i can put up with him anymore. I am tired. Why is this life full of problems? I am losing my mind completely.
dboY1123: I notice this particular thing, two out of every six ladies I meet are very young single mums with ages between 20-25.
I met one recently again and when we had this deep conversation she opened up that she's a single mum, and she showed me her 2 years old son's picture. The saddest part is that, all of these young single mums are into hookup, or lowkey olosho.
What is the cause? is it advisable to date or have se* with these single mums, cz I don't see it as the right thing to do. At least 3 of them had visited me, but immediately I know or they tell me they had a baby, I lose interest in them and I never had anything sexual with them infact I cut them off.
Our girls can do better than spreading legs like WiFi, and they should know if the guy is responsible.
Stop shaming single Mothers. It takes a man and a woman to make a baby. I have seen ladies conceive for men who they are dating... And the truth is even after the baby, the man will refuse to settle with her but some might take care of the child ignoring the mother probably because they never saw a future with the lady just sex for whatever reason best known to them.
As a man, if you know you can't deal with it be certain your contraceptive is solid.
manee2: I really can't give the best advice to my 24-year-old sister struggling with the frustrations of a married professor in his late 40s who wants to have a sexual affair with her.
The lecturer handles two different courses, each having a three-credit load and she is afraid of being failed for not complying with his sexual advances.
Having given many excuses for not meeting up for a date and refusing his gifts, tonight I found her crying after talking to him over the phone and it seems he is upset about the whole situation.
Let he record all the chats and phone call with the man. Let her play along. Then when she has enough evidence. Tell me the man no and act cool. If he goes ahead and fails her. She should not worry. Let her mssg the man on chat or sms. Leaving digital copy. Asking the man why he failed her... He definitely play smart then she tells him Ok . I am ready. Send an address. Then go straight to the school authorities with all you have. If the school slides it. Get a lawyer. Mind you it will be a tough battle but you will win. She just need to tag the school and the lecturer on Twitter.
EmekaStanley: I hired a lady last week Monday and fired her on Friday same week. I concluded she was not ready yet.
This lady came almost 2 hours late for interview without communicating her reason. If she was going to be late, she should inform the interviewer. Red flag.
I ignored that and decided to proceed with the interview. I decided not to conclude on her based on the interview outcome. I love giving people chances.
I offered her the job, she was excited. She was sent an offer letter which she accepted. On resumption date, this lady came late for work. First day at work. I was like 'Is this 24 year old lady innocently naïve or what?".
On Friday last week, this lady came to work by 10.55am. He work time is 8.00am, and she is an office admin. I was on my seat and sighted her walking in, I had to call her and told her to go back home, and that was it.
By the way, she lives like 15 minutes away from the office, and her route is always against traffic.
I wouldn't know when she resumed from Tuesday to Thursday because I came quite late on those days due to field engagements. When I resumed, I met her sleeping twice. After that, she abandoned her work and stepped out to answer a phone call for almost 1 hour.
My experience with this lady made me understand that a lot of people looking for work are not ready for/to work.
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Yea. You did exactly what every employee would do. To be honest but then again. That 24yr old might actually be going through a lot. Alot if people are going through a lot. Some people have to play father when Dem never born self. You could have at least just ask her what's really bothering her. Then if the reason was clumsy or a lie. You fire her.
Yungmil: Please guys am seriously in confusion right now on what to do, I work in a tomato company in Kano state.
My supervisor who is related to the owner of the stole my money about 70k.
Now my confusion is if I should report him or not because he is our supervisor and the company only listens to him and not the other workers.
Am scared if I go ahead and report him I might end up being affected. They all speak housa which I don't.
It is only both of us in the office, yet he denied it. I don't have any other job yet
Please should what should I do?
I have just three advises to give you.
1. Make an official report that your funds was stolen from you. Provide the timing and the amount but do not state you suspect ur supervisor. If you do state you suspect him, and at the end of the day there is no evidence against. He will either set u up or get u sacked
2. Look for palm front, red dress to tie. Rub the native chalk on ur face. Then go to him when u know only u both are alone. Just make some kind funny noise like incantations. Make sure there is no CCTV camera.
Lol. He will not only give u themoney but with extra.
3. Behave like u didn't loose funds. Keep smiling. The thief will come again. Set trap. You will have a serious case if u catch him red handed not just mere suspicions.
JungleJustice01: Thanks to everyone for the input. The problem is my brother isn't so well to do financially. His salary is barely enough for him to survive and he's also an SS.
For this reason, we have been taking care of him from time past. When parents passed, I gladly left him all the funds, cars and all just to help. I still send him support time and again so it's kind of out of place to sit him down and start discussing legal terms, it'd look more like I'm trying to kick him out from getting anything anymore.
I also can't sell the house in it's current state. That will be most unwise business wise.
I'm considering dividing the house but is there any reason one half should be good and the other crumbling? How do I share fixing borehole, compound lights, entire roofing, replacing all windows and interlocking the compound?
I could easily leave the house in it's state and build mine but that's not a good legacy either.
You have a good heart. From all I read here. Some brothers no send man. Go ahead and retrofit the house. The Universe will provide more for you.
Sit yourbro down and tell him about ur plans also. His idea might be the best.
Has he started producing sperm virile enough to impregnate ?
Yes... You need to see the growth rate of this people in USA. I do not know what they feed them. I saw my cousins who are below 15 and they are almost 6.7 .
This had me realize I have had it easy I thought things like that only happen in our grandmothers generation How do women manage, 8 child from the delicate vagina
I think nigerian men are abusive
These montessori people are wicked mehn
As long as their father has money to take care of all of them. Give them good education even after graduation. I see no problem there. But I won't practice that . 4 kids. I'm done.
While growing up in warri, we had two families as neighbors. One was Urhobo while the other were Igbos. Both families had seven boys each. No girl. They sent all to university. All are graduates .
ExAngel007: Friends mourn Nigerian man who died today hours before his flight to the UK for his Masters programme
Friends of a Nigerian man identified as Okpani Ugochukwu, have taken to social media to mourn him after he died today May 19, hours before his flight to the UK for his Master's degree.
According to his friends, late Okpani Ugochukwu secured a scholarship for a Masters program in a UK University and was to leave Nigeria on Friday.
He shared a post on his Facebook wall on Thursday night, informing his friends that them he will be leaving for his Master's.
His friends say he slept and did not wake up today. They have taken to social media to express their sadness over hissudden demise.
God1000: Lol, the ICC prosecutor doesn't care because he won't travel to Russia for anything, but Putin will be arrested if he travels to any country that is signatory to ICC
Ronaldo723: My girlfriend of 8 months has broken up with me because she says I have no plans for her
I was surprised by the outburst cus she is still very young just 19 I don't know what she means by this statement because non of us are ready to marry now
I love this girl so much... I suspect that because her birthday is coming up next month and I haven't said anything about it so she feels I don't take her seriously
I have pleaded and talked to her but she is adamant about her decision that she is tired as I'm wasting her time
I haven't talked about her birthday yet cuz I'm having a hard time, things are pretty tight with me but she just can't understand
Please guys what should I do I'm truly in love with this girl that I'm having a hard time moving on
Why would u be dating a 19yr old.you still doubt the hoeing phase? All they want to do is go on dates, have wild adventures and sex escapeds.
Reminderz: smh! why is it that those people who didn't do even half of all these showoffs and PDA didn't experience divorce and cheating cases unlike people of today? it only shows that people are marrying for the wrong reasons and not because they are truly ready to commit to their partners...
what most people see as genuine in this modern times is nothing more than fantasy and satisfaction of illusions which we created for ourselves... if you like go moon make una go do honeymoon, when shits hit the fan, you'll regret ever doing this and your so called soulmate might actually end up taking your soul if you choose wrong..
World people. People must not subscribe to your terms or perspective of life. Allow people to live and you live.
Pda doesn't mean you are a simp man. Most of these people forming Redpill here abuse their women in the name of Redpill.
So I was like wow! She gats to be mad rich to say stuffd like these na. I even Googled her. No net worth. Poor people and bride.
I do not need to spend months with a lady to know if she has sense. I just need to hear and speak and see how you treat people who you do not benefit anything from.
Woman way no get sense... Na her p...sy dey suffer am.
Zigzagman: this is hard to follow in nigeria. women are not designed to understand a man's problem. All men who try to carry their wives along, it always ends in tears
Na so my neighbor decided to carry his wife along. The man dey Canada send millions for the wife to purchase lands. Madam invest it all in MMM... You know the rest.
Family › Re: What Mistakes Did You Make And You Don't Want Your Children To Make? by IamtheTruth1(m): 2:45pm On May 25, 2023
