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Unik3030:
u are the insensitive one here, check her comments n see how she calls people any name that suits her forgeting that to every action there is an equal n opposite reaction. so she got served

I didn't even use the word "insensitive "

Still doesn't justify the way you insulted her.

Unik3030:
like seriously if I saw this your comment earlier I wouldn't bother to reply u at all cos it's obvious u are an uncultured loose dingbat who got drilled behind dilapidated house n gave birth to a child who is probably gonna end up like u.

from your post it's obvious u are been push around like a ball from different guys, don't blame it on village people or those guys just know for sure u are the architect of your misfortune cos u are too toxic even with your comments here.

n if u don't change your ways they might pass u to d seventh guy b4 u know u are d problem. i really don't like insulting people but I just think I have to put u in your place, people air their opinion on a topic n d next thing is u start insulting them n calling them names, to what end? if u ain't comfortable with their opinion then u move on, y must u call names b4 passing your message accross? u have to get the fact that we are not responsible for your miserable life so don't transfer aggression to us.

Why are you so insultive?

You could have passed your message across without hurling hurtful and abusive words at her.

Take it easy

BABSSSOO:
we were going out one day,when we saw some people gathered under a canopy celebrating something I don't even no,my wife said I should park, make I help her go beg for ewedu..and she no dey take am on a normal day...

Let me guess...you went to beg for the ewedu?

sparko1:
Coming from a lady! How can you even say that! Virginity is a sacrifice, what you bring to the marriage is a complete different thing entirely!
Remember, marriage is about two people, look at the example the OP gave, do you want to blame the woman for being a virgin! She married a cheat, and now her life is miserable because of it.

A successful marriage entails lots of things, sacrifices from the couple, virginity is just an added advantage and a bragging right on the side of the woman.

Stop using a single occurrence of a reckless man (By the way, in this instance it is completely out of context) to judge the everyone.

Seems you quoted the wrong person or you didn't understand my comment.

Besides I was responding to a comment by someone else who claimed that it's only women who didn't marry as virgins who cheat.

And he portrayed those who married as virgins to be innocent of any kind of future cheating.

So maybe if you read his comment and read mine, you will understand my point better.

lollytk:
Craving is natural for pregnant women, a doctor once told me to eat whatever I crave for because it's what the baby feel like eating I normally crave for fresh pepper sauce made with palm oil without tomatoes And shawa fish which I don't normally eats when not pregnant. But I believe some women with excess craving are foodie type but pregnancy aggravates it.

I used to have a neighbor that lives in the next compound, she perceives foods across the fence. There was a day she trailed aroma of jollof rice to my compound and found my husband cooking it she said oga please I must eat this rice ooo ;Dna so my husband dish for her she stood in the middle of the compound ate it, dropped plate and went back to her compound. [But she's naturally the type that buys and eats whatever passes B4 pregnancy.

Something to ponder on.

LadySarah:
Are you the man being stressed, is it ur man? Why are you disturbed?

Have you seen a man who said he wouldn't do it and was killed.

Take a chill pill. Biko!

You take a chill pill Team "stress the man".

Why don't you also ask if the man has to be stressed? Or that is not an option. It's not everyone that subscribes to it. Deal with that.

biGDhAp:
does it apply to you also

Nope

pocohantas:
E be like they send you.

From where?

Be proud of what you stand for. I never subscribed to it. And I ended up not doing it.

pocohantas:
It is not how I get my pleasure. I want something, he is available, he can afford it, all other variables are in place, he should get it. Whether I am pregnant or not, he should go get it.

Ehen now! At least it makes you happy. So what is the issue? Are you not proud of being Team my husband must "get involved"?

pocohantas:
Maybe there was never love in the first place. If the man was always loving, a sane wife wouldn’t have to wait for specific periods to get some LOVE from him. You think if I am disorganizing my husband’s life with food and care, he will get mischievous all because he is down? Nahhhh.

As I said, if that's how you get your pleasure, then put him to work. At least you have cooked for him everyday, done things for him. So when you are pregnant, it's enough justification to let him "get involved ".

pocohantas:
He isn’t running around, he is getting me food to eat. If he is okay going to America to satisfy his wife’s craving, who am I to tag it “running around” and what makes me think mine is “relaxed” because he is seated in a place?

Nawa!

Getting you food to eat is not an issue. The problem is not having pity and consideration for him and demanding things that would make him go a long distance and even late into the night to get. That is not love my dear.

pocohantas:
I wonder the far distances he is going to. I simply said, if I need something and he can get it- then he better get it. It is just that simple, sis.

Very simple...

When you quoted me, I was speaking generally and not referring to you.

I know someone who went from surulere to egbeda at night to look for masa for his craving wife. That's an example.

So don't take it personally. Besides, we don't have to agree. You might want to make your husband run around when he gets back from work while I derive pleasure in seeing mine relaxed after a long day at work. Either way, we are both fulfilled.

It's that simple as you say.

pocohantas:
Never said it is payback, if I don’t see fixing his meals everyday as stress- I wonder why satisfying my cravings for a short period should be stress. He should continue going all the way out. It is not so deep.

I am sure preparing his meals doesn't involve going out to far distances late into the night to look for ingredients to satisfy his hunger.

This makes me believe that many.women just seize the opportunity to demand many things while the man runs helter skelter like a headless chicken looking for something that is not lost.

pocohantas:
I don’t see stress there. After all, women have been entering same Lagos traffic and getting home to cook for same men. He should be lucky his own has tenor, women own is everlasting.

Sounds more like payback time.

For a woman that has a good man that always goes out of his way for her, she needs to cut him some slack and show consideration for him.

pocohantas:
Then the ones with wives should be happy to share in the journey. I don’t understand why Nigerian men nag over everything. When I see people crying over menstrual pain, I can’t relate. Sometimes I think it can be MANAGED, sometimes I think their reactions are exaggerated, but I give them the pass. Same applies with pregnant women.

Single mothers do not have any body to bother, married women do. He should get his flat ass up and buy the damn thing- if he can afford them.

He should be happy to have a woman who wants to involve him. If he has sense, he won’t even wait to be asked. Nonsense and ingredients.

The journey doesn't have to be mostly suffering for the man na.

Yes he should be happy she wants to involve him. But that involvement doesn't have to be him being stressed everytime.

You can imagine going to work from morning till evening, entering endless Lagos traffic and finally getting home to rest. Then his pregnant wife says she wants to eat obalende suya .

biGDhAp:
this female sounds like she's pregnant and having cravings to get bashed with words

It's obviously not pregnancy that makes women rude and foul mouthed. That's already their nature. The pregnancy only magnifies it.

Paxie55:
Hush it!! You were obviously the one jobless mofo that took your body odour to my mention. Next time You wanna seek for male approval on this forum, look at the moniker twice.
Obviously your husband don't give you enough attention and approval. Piss off!!

Bitter woman. Save your rage for your husband. When you see him, you can explode like a bomb .

Because you seek male approval doesn't mean I do same. You are on your own.

One more thing...I will quote anyone I wanna quote.

Paxie55:
Just shut it please, if you have no reasonable comment to drop on my mention.
If you were fortunate/unfortunate to have experienced whatever, doesn't mean we should measure your body type with every woman. If it's what can be afforded, let it be for them, if not, they should manage. He said women intentionally suffer their husbands, and I pointed out where these cravings can lead to, like some smelling poo and all, were they intentionally suffering their husbands in that regard?
Don't ever come to my mention to type trash without understanding the rudiments of my comment.

You are obviously bitter. Just raging like this over a simple comment. How won't your hormones rage?

Don't bother mentioning me EVER! I don't want to be infected with this negative aura you are carrying around like a banner.

Prechy08:
I remember when I was still single my neighbors wife will Never eat in her house instead early morning she will knock on my door, wetin you cook. she would rather cook and bring it for me and eat what I made.

I have also one too the lady like gutter smell, as early as 7am she will bring a chair to seat close to the gutter just because of the smell.

I thank God my wife no too disturb me

I wonder how working women cope then. Will they leave their desks and go and sit by the dustbin or tell all their male colleagues not to spray perfume?

misreal:
I am soon going to be married.but i fear my fiancee will have a lot of cravings.

Why?

Paxie55:
Shut your trap. Internet f00l.
My aunt was craving for the smell of sh1ts. She sits on WC so she can be perceiving the odour. Was she also suffering her husband. You 1diotic men that are meant to be aborted will always have id1otic opinions about women.

You are getting worked up over his comments. He pointed out a valid argument.

What about the single pregnant women who don't have anyone to bother?

What about the teenage pregnant girl who hides her pregnancy till 7months under her parent's roof (I have seen one)

Some women are actually able to suppress the cravings. Some magnify it.

My sister craved the Bush meat they sell on Lagos Ibadan express. If her husband had travelled to Ibadan only to buy her bushmeat and had an accident...what would she have said? That she was craving.

From my experience with pregnant women, me included, I think it can be managed.

Korllami007:
Likewise marrying a non virgin girl does not guarantee successful marriage. I no fit carry ocean keep for house and the same ocean will have strong waves that can wreck big ships because I cannot come and go and kill myself.
If you marry a non virgin girl with good character, that's your luck. If I marry a virgin girl with good character, that's my double lucks.

Some ladies become oceans after that first week. After that you will go and look for another non-ocean.

The elasticity differs in different women.

samtinx:
lastly no sister would encourage her brother to go for a non-virgin,and no mother would encourage her son to marry a non-virgin

In this day and age, do men discuss with their siblings and mothers about whether their babes are virgins. Even the mother will ask him if he's a virgin and why he thinks he deserves one

Korllami007:
There are millions of non virgin women giving their men wahala by fvcking their exes a day before their marriage then probably give you someone else kid to train. There millions of non virgin women a cross the world that they characters can turn north pole to desert. Most infedelities in the world are mostly perpetrated by non virgin women.

I would rather marry virgin with wahala and enjoy my tight pussy than marry a community sperm depot with wahala.

It's a food for thought.

What about the millions who married as virgins that want to try out something different...that have known only their husbands and are adventurous, wanting to explore.

Remaining a vigin till marriage is admirable. However, it takes more than that to keep a marriage. Some ladies go into marriage with only that to offer. That's where the issue is

That was in 2019. Not now with all the travel bans and closing of borders.

xendra:
I pray it never does that to me, I no fit suffer person pikin

I had the same mindset too. And when I was pregnant, I didn't trouble him much. I think I was kind of stubborn with the cravings till I didn't feel it much anymore

cRobo:
Pregnant neighbor that don't even greet anybody before came knocking at my door because she perceived the aroma of the spaghetti I was preparing,

Thank God her husband was around and I insisted her husband eat from the food because I don't want any diabolic accusations

Cut story short

The pregnant lady finish my pot of spaghetti and asked me when next am I cooking it again

Her husband later apologized but I told him that there is nothing to apologize over

Las las she gave birth to a twins, a boy and a girl

Dat one na correct long throat

eni4real:
The Father might be a carefree type...
I think that is the way he brought them up!!

You can't be setting rule for him in his house after living with his own rules for more than 30years!!
He may not even count the appearance of his DIL when he entered the room sef!!!

The son/boy needs to grow up!!!

Get an accommodation and stop making your wife to hate your Parent!!!

It's not setting rules. The father should not even be told to knock. He's supposed to know when he's not a child.

I don't even understand why guys on this forum are defending the father's action like it's normal.

It's ok that's your stand. We can agree to disagree

eni4real:
Familiarity breeds contempt!!
They are not dating for God's sake!!

They are Married!!!!!

They caused it all!!!
Let's see if they will have the effrontery to complain!!!

I pity the young wife tho!! She will never feel like a woman in that house!!!

I agree.

However, the father lacks wisdom in his action. And that s actually th topic.

But you seem to see nothing wrong in what he did but just blaming the couple endlessly. It's his house, yes. But is what he did right? Be objective.

eni4real:
Get your own apartment!!!

That's not the point! In fact that would have been my advice too.

The point is that it's courtesy and common sense to knock before entering a room occupied by a husband and wife.

SpyAC:
I dnt see any common sence here,

Means when you have a son that happens to be under your roof even for holidays, you will badge into the room he shares with his wife without knocking because it's your house. Ok

nrexzy:
In his own house??
If it was the mother now u would be ok with it

Mother o, father o, whoever. You need to knock. It's common sense.

When we visited my MIL in her house, she knocked before entering our room...no matter what time of the day. That's wisdom. It's not rocket science or something advanced. It's the basic sense that a couple needs privacy.