₦airaland Forum

Alwaysking:
I've hanged out with alot of Nigerian girls so I know everything about them

You are obviously still very young from the way you sound.

As long as you haven't hung out with up to at least 25 of the population of ladies in the country which should be over 15million, this your assertion is irrelevant and inconsequential.

But as long as it gives you the thrill of bashing"Nigerian girls", you can keep basking in your ignorance.

Alwaysking:
Because y'all have refused to change, why will the guys here not keep castigating you, smh.

Keep it up. Like it has improved the situation in any way

aaronson:
Women are receivers by nature but other than that, there are many females who do it, you just have been unfortunate not to have found any. If a woman intends to spoil you, she will do it till her last penny. And why this is dangerous is because when a woman begins to spend on you, she never never listen to no one's advice to stop even if you a fraudster, she wouldn't stop until you(the guy) gives her reasons to stop but as long as you being loyal, committed to her and always bring her to o rgasm, she considers all her property and her body yours.

I have heard stories of women dropping thier ATM card for thier boyfriend and also a woman asking for permission from her boyfriend to spend her own money because she considers it thier money when she's in love. Love is crazy, making people do crazy things and not even think twice about it.

Guilty as charged. I don't hold too tightly to things. Even till now we have never fought about "my money, your money". Anyone can be with any ATM at any point in time.

Op is still busy with girls that only have superficiality to offer. When he himself has something to offer, he will attract his like

carter009:
Very very rare,, 90%of them are always bitter, sadist,
frustrated, harsh, Insulting, broke boys bashing, but only 10% of them are good, beautiful and caring so you can try your luck OP......

Have you thought of the fact that many of you guys here have a way of bringing out the worst in ladies here with of the constant prejudiced and derogatory comments? That is a possibility.

LINTUNE:
dude, don't waste ur time trying to explain something that is so apparent, to an obviously exposed lady, cos I deduced that from the way she writes, she knows the truth but just in self denial ... For women, the older she gets the higher the tendencies that she will give birth to an abnormal child, it's a medical fact...

Meanwhile, an inlaw of mine who married at below 30 had a child with down syndrome.

This is not denial as you presume. It's just that nothing is black or white or cast in stone. God is still the determinant of everything.

A lady in hee 40s will have a child that is normal and someone in her 20s will have the opposite. How do you explain that? Go to antenatal wards or ask a doctor friend to tell you about these things.

Marrying a 20s lady is not bad but there are no guarantees as far as the world is concerned. What about the ones who married early but didn't conceived until over a decade or two later. Didn't they still have healthy babies at that age?

We need to stop thinking one way because of our preferences or limited knowledge of some matters.

Biglittlelois:
Op you will be fine las las.

And he will still marry a Nigerian girl after all the ranting

Obsession with Nigerian girls.

This recycled write-up

Don't worry. Your reward is in heaven .

Please don't render such help to anyone at the detriment of your own studies except it is something life threatening.

She's ungrateful. Just leave her and her family to their problems. You have done what you can. Allow them do as they please from now.

That kind of girl is not just mentally broke but also broke physically and probably even spiritually broke. A lady should be able to pull her own weight no matter how small.

PUSSYWHORE:
Honestly i don't know how to be happy for them i don't know them.

How is saying the truth negativity? is saying plane moves faster than car negativity to cars?

You can't be happy for them because you don't know them. But you know them enough to imply that they won't last.

LordKO:
Refer to that your post I quoted.

I have. I didn't generalize. I mentioned a set of guys

LordKO:
Generalization is the mother of all nonsense, stop it. What most of us are saying is that, anyone who places financial standing above ethical standing in choosing a life partner - choice/liberty doesn't mean absence of conscientiousness - automatically personifies everything bad ethics. The only real class I know is ethical class, any other class is superficial - because it's the class that money can't buy. There's everything wrong with money and power conscious mindset - that's called self-unconquered greed.

Realistically, there's nothing wrong with anyone (man or woman) who wishes to marry/find love where there's money - most people who have money are equally of good ethical leanings. However, good ethics have no better alternative. This is the point.

Any consideration that places material thing above immaterial thing is evil. An economically poor person today can become an economically buoyant person within the next few days, all things being equal. But it's almost impossible for anyone with poor ethics to make such transformation, especially when it becomes strongly rooted in one's system. Greed for anything - be it money or power/other people's dominion - is personification of evil, I say.

Foundation remains the most important aspect of any structure. Love (goodness) over money, any day and any time. A man who loves you, whom you have what it takes (good ethics) to make him fall in love with you and remain in love with you, can move mountains for you, with or without money (better if he has money). I don't expect most of you women to understand this because one can't give what s/he isn't meant to give naturally, even when s/he has it innately. Truly, love is the man's forte, while submissiveness is the woman's forte - when goodness changes its form for mutuality to take place between a man and woman in marriage or serious romantic relationship.

But a man who has money and loves you, one who isn't in love with you just because you don't have the good ethics to make him fall in love with you and stay in love with you, can trade you for just a drink when the chips are down. When a man knows that you are with him for money, and other material/physical things, know that you're in a danger zone.

What did I generalize about in my comment?

PUSSYWHORE:
Enjoy it while it last both love and the body don't last, women are temporary pleasure.

Can't you just be happy for them. Why the negativity?

Quorax:
I stated clearly that what matter most is if he has a drive and u were the person who quoted me and said he should use the drive to take care of himself. I had to proceed to use my bros as an example to explain what I mean since you were so dumb to understand this.

A lot of guys might have job now but what happens if they loss that job? Do they have the drive and ruggedness to rise again?

You are the one building castle in the air and have refused to accept reality. You are living in Nigeria where over 20 million have lost their jobs in the last 4 years.. While a huge chunk of the workforce are underemployed.

A friend of mine currently works in the oil industry but dude has not been finding things easy. I know another friend in same oil job but constantly complains.

While another one does not have much money but I know dudes drive will beat the oil guys in the street and as matter of fact, the one without money has his own house bought with sweaty while the ones in the oil industry don't have a personal house.

You lack wisdom and that will be you ur undoing.

What is car? U must really think such things move me cos I used it as an example.

I guess u don't know that some of us don't see building houses as a wise investment but would rather use that money to do solid business and cash out in rocket time.


Car wey people dey sell on like pure water? I laff in pussy language.


Am I saying you should settle for less? No but I detest it when persons lack humility in their perspective.

You will hardly hear a man say he can't marry a lady that does not have money... But someone of you will go on talking senselessly.

You can decide to focus on the reality of people losing their jobs and being unemployed. I choose to focus on those with jobs and the optimistic part while you help carry the pessimistic part.

I have examples of people working and creating good lives for themselves despite the challenges that push at them contrary to the ones you keep coming up with.

Lastly, you are very dumb for calling me dumb. Since we cannot have a civil conversation.

AntiBrutus:
I also wonder why NL guys keep reasoning like a one-way traffic, yet they claim to be logical.

Life isn't all white and black. There are different shades of grey...

So, any lady that wouldn't marry a guy in this room, automatically wants a rich guy?

Lil wonder I mentioned "class" and people started having palpitations. One even said only the upper and elite class exist in Nigeria.

I guess all the working class and middle class Nigerians, living in flats and personal modest houses have automatically been eradicated, all because some Nigerian girls do not want a man in one-room.

You just have to love the MALE LOGIC.

At the bolded, they are also considered rich on NL.

Some of them claim to be "logical reasoners". Yet they cannot reason that ladies have a right to their choice of whether to marry a rich or poor guy.

Tallhero:
I definitely agree with the fact that people's choices should be respected.
Well offline,the 200k salary guys are getting married every Saturday,some girls understand that wealth isn't built in a day,so guys you don't have to be rich to get a decent girl,you just need to be comfortable at least and you are good to go.

The problem here is the guys trying to guilt-trip ladies to think that they can only find happiness marrying a poor guy. And that marrying a rich guy makes them golddiggers, leeches, etc.

ericsmith:
where did i say rich guys cannot find love, since when did "hard to" & "cannot". mean the same. you don't av to answer me the way i want buh stop mis interpreting me ... my expression are simple & clear enough.
why did dbanj sing " suddenly they are loving me" why did duncan mighty ft wizkid drop "fake love" ... what brought that inspiration if not what they've seen.
The logical truth is, every gurl can not marry a rich guy & every guy cannot be poor. so where does " only " comes in. why did your hubby not wait till he was rich b4 he found you. you are just a woman you can't understand

So now, you are going to validate your arguments with Dbanj' Suddenly and Duncan Mighty's Fake love

Enjoy the rest of your day.

Tallhero:
I guess he is trying to say MOST guys would wife that girl that dated them when they were still hustling than the OBIAGELI that showed up when money has come thinking God has answered her prayer by meeting a rich guy,a RESPONSIBLE rich guy would most likely trust the girl he was with to a girl he just met after getting the paper.

I get that. But not all guys marry at that stage. An not all ladies will marry a guy in that stage. It still balls down to choice. And both choices should be respected.

Besides, it's not all ladies that are leeches like guys here think. The girl may have a good job and is doing well for herself too.

I don't understand what it is with guys on this forum only advocating for ladies to marry poor guys. It's the mindset.

ericsmith:
Didnt i say women are incapable of logical reasoning i said the most appropriate time for a guy to find love not marriage, roger d difference.
There are lots of single ladies wasting daily becos men don't think of marriage when they're poor .. its only logical for men 2 find luv when they're poor becos its hard to love when they are rich.
its not only when a gurl marries a poor man we av true love, buh we are saying women should acknowledge destiny ... You want a rich guy so bad what if you aint destined for one, what if you are to marry b4 things can work 4 him, there are so many "what if" that must be put into consideration, lets face reality

The fact that I am.not answering the question the way you expect doesn't mean I cannot reason logically. You should quit boosting your ego and confidence by putting women down with your condescending jabs.

So if a man is rich, he cannot find love? So only poor guys find true love? Are you reasoning logically? Not everyone goes in search of rich or poor.

You can keep believing that ladies should only marry poor guys if they want true love. If that's what you believe, it's fine. It might be your truth but it doesn't mean it is the truth.

ericsmith:
women aint capable of logical reasoning ... am not surprise you are missing the point.
Most men won't even consider marriage when they are poor, The most appropriate time for a guy 2 find true love is when they're poor n hustling becos when guys get rich its fvckinc hard to find love.
It gives me so much pleasure to know gurls like imalma,pocohantas, antibrutus & co. aint different from any typical naija gurl am not askin any babe to consider poor guys buh make una stop to form different.

Your opinion of me is your problem.

I think you are the one missing the point. Marrying a guy at that level is a choice. If you won't shame a girl who decides to marry him, don't shame the one who decides not to.

The most appropriate time to marry is not when you are poor. It should be when you are able to accommodate and support an extra person.

I didn't marry a guy that was rich. I was even earning more but now he's earning almost double my salary.

But I never condemned my friends that married rich guys. It's not their fault that they happened to meet the rich guy. Or should they have quit the relationship because they discovered that he was rich? I doubt just get you guys here.

Quorax:
Are you married? It's very obvious you are not, reason why you are quoting every comment, including one's that does not concern you.

Will every girl get a rich guy? How many Nigerians are rich in this poverty HQ? You are allowing the cars you see to deceive you. I know a lot of guys with car but are broke.

Like I said, you know nothing.

I have made money and I have lost money. Few days ago, I lost 200k and within 3days I made back that money.

You are using "struggling" to describe my bros? Na Amadioha go bend that hand wey use type that thing. I learned not take you Nigerian Girls serious cos if we check well now, you don't have a car, u don't have a land, u don't have anything except your pusssy, boobbs and rapidly aging face.

That is how one idiot from nairaland I took serious thought she could make terms, despite the fact that she got nothing, absolutely nothing...just the aforementioned herein.

Never in your life try to make terms when you can't match same terms.

Madam, the worst thing that can even happen to you is u is marrying someone who doesn't like your siblings or family, that time u go know say u jam rock, that is if you even know the gravity of what that means.

You know freaking Nothing...

Your first paragraph is a reflection of your ignorance and a failed attempt to silence me.

Will every guy marry a poor guy? Is every bachelor in Nigeria poor? Why do you sound so condescending? What is it about cars? A car is luxury to you. Do you know if I drive my own? Do you know when I started working and making my own money?

You assume all the girls on this forum are like the ones you relate with who only have their "p...y, boobbbs" to offer. Please expand your mind; you are restricting your thinking.

You portrayed your brother in the struggling/hustling way first so Amadioha is coming for you.

Do not think I am like your average girl that you can run your foul mouth and try to use the usual "Nairaland guys tactic" of bullying and blackmailing on.

Kazeemakeem:
The fuss is rich does not guarantee good marriage

And poor does?

Kazeemakeem:
Selecting husband is not by rich or what he has, it is by religious fear of GOD, focus man and maturity to handle things

So will God only lead us to a poor guy? You guys talk like marrying a rich guy is a crime or that the marriage will not be successful. What is really the fuss?

Kazeemakeem:
I wonder who will marry some ladies in this forum, u ladies are looking for ready mademan ,men no we men not whT we are doing before proposing u cant build relationships u just want man who has arrived home woman

Make una go make money too and see how he easy

Tufiakwa

Calm down! Are you saying ladies should only marry poor guys? Haba!! You guys shame girls that want to marry rich guys and praise the ones that want to marry the poor guys. We have a right to our choices.

RiyadhGoddess:
Yes I will say YES.
I will help him bring his dream to pass with the help of God.
He definitely knows what he wants from life, together we will both achieve that...
Read my signature

Modified

All of you mentioning me because I said Yes na wa for una ooo.
What is your own definition of poverty please It could be that your own definition of poverty is different from mine.
To me, a man who is rich spiritually, morally, wisdom, knowledge, values is the definition of riches. With all that I have mentioned combined, financial wealth will flow in in due time if properly guided/managed and mentored, He will be super rich in no time.
A man who sleeps on a student size mattress or on the mat today can sleep on a king size bed tomorrow if he finds the wife the bible referred to as good thing because that good thing (Wife) comes with Favor from the Lord.
Read the story of the virtuous woman again in the book of proverb.
The woman is meant to help the man build/grow and not scatter.
What some of you don't know is that there are some men that God has destined to be blessed through their wife. There are some men that God will bless the woman first so she can use it to lift the man up.
You all need to understand the principles of marriage in order to understand what I am talking about.
That's why so many marriages can't stand the test of time today because many are built on money money money foundation...

Don't worry Nairaland guys will ask for your hand in marriage. You appeal to the demographics.

czarina:
You've been crying on people's mentions.

Na your room be that?

I can't stop laughing . I have tears in my eyes from laughing at this comment.

Mypeople2 is that your room?

nwaimoroseyaho:
I got married in that condition in 2008 but today we have our on house. I mean house we built with our own money. Even that our room then was 2 by 2 not up to this size. My colleagues that can to visi t me after the wedding didn't see a place to seat. But today non of them have a House but I do.

I guess everyone should marry poor guys now. If we marry rich guys, we are doomed

Quorax:
There are rich dumb men, which if they fall today they can never rise again. You don't know anything.

My bros had no job when he met his wife with a child not too long after. He hustled hard and manage to get a job, they moved from one room to two rooms and then 3 rooms and to another 3 rooms...
Then he moved all his family to the US, while he stayed back.

He reversed to a single room since he is alone in Nigeria.

I repeat, you know nothing. Parasites!

Do you guys on this forum not have examples of rich guys who married and are successful and happily married?

So because your SIL married a struggling you means every lady should. Not every lady will marry a poor guy. And there should be no issue there.

DrObiHogan:
A lot of women will settle down with a guy in this condition. You see my remaining 4% can still be called a lot because of the population. The difference between you and the 4% is strength of character and wittiness which you obviously lack.

These your words are as irrelevant and inconsequential as your opinion and stats.