₦airaland Forum

Ultimatesammie:
The calibre of some of the guys on this thread are very myopic and have a stupid way of thinking, i dont know if they didn't read it well or they just have one dimensional thinking.

Most of them have a thinks pattern...one way traffic. They make comments like "is he your father?" " Is relationship an occupation". Very myopic thinking

Obviously you are not his priority and he doesn't value you. You cherish and spend on whatever you value. Marrying such a person is risky.

Forget all those guys saying it is not an occupation. They spend on their women. I couldn't date a man who wouldn't spend on me. Waste of time. Being stingy is not about not having money...it is a thing of the mind and mentality.

ChiefAlex:
Your IQ is low. He is right. She shouldn’t give her boyfriend such attitude while on call with another guy and you keep making an excuse for the girl.

my IQ is fine. You should try to talk to people with respect especially as you are commenting about a lady who disrespected her man.

And I didn't make excuses for her or say what she did was ok. Try to face the topic and the op instead of trolling

Daniwes:
I have to come in here.
Downplayed what I really dont want to go TMI, but trust me, I am a gentleman in many ways. Imagine someone out of a moving car, stopped at a traffic light, just because I wouldnt turn down the volume of the music, when she is making spiteful remarks about me. I still had to act matured to stop and convice her to go back into the car. No way... absolutely no way... I personally felt it was all due to her immaturity and nothing else which is why despite my attempts to explain how what she did was disrespectful, she still continued saying crap. I wanted to have a normal proper conversation with her, but she will still continue with the attitude. People say I am soft, but I know that once I make up my mind, I could be a heartless devil.

Too much I cant say in here. I remember another incident when we had a fight and words were exchanged, she went calling one of my friends who private chats her right in my presence, despite warning and advising her that we both cannot share the same close friends... It doesnt make sense. I had to warn the guy to stay in his lane. I still blamed her cos at the end, you give the rappour you get.

In summary, Its all immaturity which I am not ready to deal with at all. Gladly, some time has passed, and its all waned off. She sure will be making a mistake to try to come back, cos then it will be pure revenge.

Wow! She really seems to have some deep issues and seems like a toxic person and one prone to abuse and violence. It is not only women who suffer abuse in relationships/marriage. So please be careful when it comes to matters of the heart.

I don't like to advise people to leave or stay with their partners except it is life threatening situation. But I am sure you know what to do.

openmine:
Clearly its obvious you don't even peruse or even comprehend your own comments before clicking the submit button!
I guess you know the meaning of being sentimental? right?

It is either your comprehension level is really low or you just are unable to see far from your own thoughts and words. I will keep reading your comments and respond if I have to.

You can go on.

openmine:
We all agree that cheating is not only resident in a lady...however in this case,instead of condemning the lady for what she did,you are shielding the lady...
In other words,you are trying to make excuses for her misbehavior and ill mannered nature!
My analogy is simple...
whats wrong is wrong and must be totally condemned no matter the gender involved!

Your bolded statement doesn't even indicate that I am being sentimental towards the girl. You just read your own meaning into it and that has informed your rant

ImaIma1:
She probably has an attitude issue then. She should be to talk when asked and understand your busy schedule to an extent. Because I know that even when we know our men are busy, we still want to spend time with him as much as we can .

She will learn eventually but I hope it won't be late then

Is this being sentimental or supportive of the lady?

openmine:
We all agree that cheating is not only resident in a lady...however in this case,instead of condemning the lady for what she did,you are shielding the lady...
In other words,you are trying to make excuses for her misbehavior and ill mannered nature!
My analogy is simple...
whats wrong is wrong and must be totally condemned no matter the gender involved!

ImaIma1:
She probably has an attitude issue then. She should be to talk when asked and understand your busy schedule to an extent. Because I know that even when we know our men are busy, we still want to spend time with him as much as we can .

She will learn eventually but I hope it won't be late then

Is the above comment sentimental or being supportive of the lady?

openmine:
The issue is you think or alleged am in support of the guy due to his side of his story which is rather unfounded and irrational!
You also assumed that i took the side of men and went on a bashing spree which is partly due to the fact that you just could not comprehend my comments clearly!
You said you are objective but clearly its the opposite!
Unless the word objective has a new meaning,i think [b]you are just trying to be sentimental towards the lady...
[/b]Its just too obvious that you are now saying what am saying....
Like i have said,from the trail of your comments and responses,its obvious that you just have issues with men or maybe you have a problem comprehending!

In which of my comments? Being sentimental towards the lady

openmine:
Your usage of words are hilarious to say the least....
Can you perceive an outburst from my comments?
My assertions are simple...No matter who is involved,no matter the "gender" involved....
They must totally be condemned rather than shielding such people all in the name of "girl bashing"

From observation,its either you have issues comprehending one's comments or You seriously and personally have a problem with men...!

I think the problem here is that you don't like the fact that I have a contrary opinion to yours.

Even the op understood my point but you have just been going on and on about nothing.

Is the girl wrong? Yes and I told the op she probably has an attitude problem. Could the op have a fault in the whole issue? Yes and I pointed that out.

I do not have issues with men. I usually speak from an objective stance but somehow you are not an easy person to talk with.

So take care and enjoy the rest of your Sunday.

Oreofepeters:
but not so common unlike the females counterpart..

Hmm...you are a guy now. You won't know about make gold diggers and these kind of guys

openmine:
OMG did you peruse the comment you quoted before you came to this hasty conclusion?
I made it explicitly obvious that that no matter the "gender" involved,being disrespectful should be condemned by all!
With all due respect,your reason for this response is totally baseless and unnecessary!

Your outburst is misplaced and unfounded. What hasty conclusion did you read in my comment?

openmine:
As much as you are entitled to your opinion,the foundation of your analogy is to say the least faulty!
Respect is non negotiable in any relationship and if you have lost respect in your partner,the best thing to do is quit rather than staying in the relationship and being annoying and disrespectful!

Secondly,Op came to tell us his version which for me is valid until we hear the other side of the story!
However,its like a norm for "some" ladies to flirt or seek the attention of another guys instead of resolving issues with their partners!
Which to me should be condemned by you instead of trying in vain to support her and make it sound as if its a girl bashing thread!

Finally,no one is bashing the girl but rather her acts and behaviour,however,if any one no matter the gender does something wrong or bad,it must be condemned outrightly rather than pointing fingers at the other gender as an excuse for being immature!

Obviously you speak from the standpoint of a guy. You think guys don't flirt with other girls instead of solving their issues. It is just that when a lady does it, it is termed "disrespect".

And at what point did I support the lady? By asking the guy if he offended and refused to apologize?

Did you even see my response to his reply? I guess you did not.

The op has obviously downplayed his own faults and involvement.

Crazychris:
Why is every girl you meet out there have this mentality? Could it be because there are so many poor people out there? I see no reason why she must use that as a yardstick to leech na. Well the deed has been done already....happy Sunday

It is not just girls funny enough. A guy will also leech when he perceives that a lady has money to spend.

Happier Sunday

openmine:
You are still missing point hence you are trying in vain to be evasive!
She should never be disrespectful no matter what!

I am not missing the point. It is a relationship between two people who know exactly how they have been running it. We talk about this respect as if it is only given by the lady. Does he also show respect to her?

We are only hearing from the side of the guy and he will say it to his favour. The funny thing is that if it were a lady who came here with a story, most guys will not support her but will say they need to hear the guy's part too. But a guy comes with this and it is "bash the girl galore"

Some men just carry the respect thing as a banner but meanwhile they are disrespectful towards their womem

openmine:
I guess you didn't read the part where he said "she was angry for no reason"

But let's say she was angry about something he did,why did she pick up calls from other guys just to spite him?
I guess you didn't see that part....

As much as I know that people can get angry in relationship, its not an excuse to start flirting with other guys....
Is that how she will make him admit his wrongdoing?
By being disrespectful?

In his response to my comment, he said the attitude started when he told her he could not see her because of his busy schedule...I guess you didn't see that part.

Crazychris:
Nairaland has deeply impacted me concerning relationship aspects. Atimes when I read some comments made by ladies here I just feel Nigerian girls are all the same...... Same shiit, same mentality (I stand to be corrected on this).

I got to summarize this,

I met a girl at shoprite early October when I went to buy food stuffs, I foot her bills and we exchanged digits..... I called her in the evening we talked, gist and she was so happy and excited.... Most times she calls, blow kisses through phone told me how I captured her heart, she said I'm the only guy she felt for so easily....
Hmmn I laughed, for my mind this one think say I dey love with my heart.....
Fast forward to 6th of this month, she called me that she needed money to do her hair..... I told her how much she said 10k I said okay come to my place I will give you my ATM to go and withdraw cos then I had issues with my mobile banking.... She came and I gave her my atm and the pin....

To my surprise between 1-5pm she left with my atm I was debited 3 times. N2,000, N20,000, N10,000 consecutively which is nothing....
When she came back I told her but you said you needed N10,000 why did you withdraw more than that without telling me. She said ehn she used the rest to buy shoes without feeling remorse. Immediately I sensed that common nigerian leech mentality in her.
I said okay no problem and she left. Fast forward to yesterday I called her to come to place.
She came, she cooked(which I didn't give a fvck) and we had very hot sex, my entire bed was wet she was so happy............

Immediately she left, I texted her "it's over between us, I owned you a fvck and I've given it" when she got the text she was so mad, she called, call and called but I didn't pick............. This morning she texted threatening to punish me, she wrote and I quote "You used me and dumped me, I swear I will punish you, I will make sure you suffer this before you die"...

I just felt I don't owe her any explanation since money is all you need to get girls nowadays,,,,it kind of easy for me......


Guys what i did was it wrong?

First time you met her, you paid for her items. Off course she thought you had plenty extra cash to spend. But it doesn't still justify withdrawing more than what you asked her to. That's if it's true

Is there a woman in this world who does not like money? Or a man for that matter.

Ladyhippolyta88:
I have heard of this story before.


Why would someone keep such a valid information from their spouse.This woman is the type that would sell her husband.She was even increasing it every two years.
If I were the man I do not think I can ever trust her again.

When a woman wamts to play a man at his game or revenge for being hurt, they are more ruthless than the men. They can be killing him while loving him.

God created marriage and this advice doesn't align with God's idea about marriage.

This kind of advice can make a marriage breakup. You should avoid giving these general advice... telling women to deprive their husbands of sex. As a counselor, you should tailor your counseling/advice to individuals or couples as it suits them.

It cannot be a one advice suits all madam

Carlmax:
Which offence he don commit now... walahi girls always like to dey cause wahala for relationship.. las las na she go still beg

Read to understand. I asked a question and he answered. So why are you tripping?

Please who is a slayqueen? What makes a person one? I keep seeing threads with the title "slayqueen" to categorize ladies.

Is it the dressing or the makeup that makes a lady one?

Glycolysis:
You just went on a long meaningless rant just so you sound thoughtful & impressive !
Alas, you ended up sounding dumb !
Maybe, i guess, you didn't read what the writer wrote up there, did you
The guy should apologize for what exactly
For being tolerance for too long Or for being foolish to accomodate those childish attitudes from the lady
Pls, if you don't have anything reasonable to say on a post next time, the honourable thing to do is silence !

You should try shedding off all this negativity you are carrying around like a badge. You just succeeded in exhibiting your low level of thinking, maturity and your lack of communication ethics.

There is no point telling you to read my next comment because your narrow mindedness clouds your reasoning.

What do you need University for? Please stay with her and forget school

Darkseid:
Na wa o, the more I read stories like this the more I get scared of women. The last time I had feelings for any girl should be in 2012, so e no dey hard me to easily end things.
Take heart bro, I'll advice that you find your way now because it's only going to get worse.

If you know how many wrong guys I crossed paths with...both the ones I dated and the one I related with, you would have expected me to closed up like you have done.

But I wasn't deterred by those bad eggs and I found the perfect one.

I don't understand why you are complaining. You have the money and you have decided to spend it lavishly on her. Did she hold a gun to your head? Have you been tied to her that you cannot leave?

You probably wooed her with these pretty and expensive things and showed her that you have plenty money to spend. And now you are complaining that she is a golddigger.

You don't need advice. Advise yourself.

Tinnytony24:
Arnold was a governor in the US not Nigeria
Jesse was a governor in the US not Nigeria

Nigeria is far different from their own political system
corruption everywhere....

Where is Yul edochie? I haven't heard from him since he wanted to run for governorship election the other day.




You think you can just enter political sit like that?
Nigga you played yourself. Next!

Well...it doesn't have to be an unknown face that can be eligible to run for office.

Actors, musicians, and other celebs are citizens and are also as eligible as lawyers or other proffessions. Desmond Elliot did it. So i don't think it is far fetched, impossible or out of place.

dairykidd:
She's a mÖŕon... She has already forgotten what she said

Just saw the Op profile, prolly one of those fake acct opened for trolling..

I guess she just wanted to rant

Daniwes:
I obviously didn't type much, but if I tell you I wanted to talk things with her and apologize where I did wrong, you wouldn't believe me. I asked what I did wrong, she wouldn't tell me... Meanwhile the attitude started when I told her I couldn't see her due to my busy schedule (After already meeting twice in the same week). Well, I did resolve not to bother myself with her poor level of communication and lack of respect. Its not my job.. Maybe the next guy can take care of that

She probably has an attitude issue then. She should be able to talk when asked and understand your busy schedule to an extent. Because I know that even when we know our men are busy, we still want to spend time with him as much as we can .

She will learn eventually but I hope it won't be late then

SweetBuns:
I will only do that for a sensible man.not the male dogs we have everywhere

I thought you said men are useless. How then can you find a useless man who is sensible?

You both are acting like children. And do you feel too proud to apologize to her when you have wronged her?

Because I have noticed that some guys will form ignorance and want to go on like nothing happened instead of acknowledging their offence and apologizing.That is disrespect.

Both of you are probably better of apart.

Furiosa:
Utter nonsense!





The size of your IQ in a photo!!

Too big