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2Banty:
Don’t come crying and whining when your marriage crashes like a pack of cards IK.

Like the ones that covered up fully didn't get divorced

mimimile93:
No mind op..

Kids in relationship.

Relationship is not for everyone that's what most people don't know.

Someone like me relationship isn't meant for me..

Can't regret being in few relationships though.


Ufok aba'diah?

Mmo do. Mbok Afere. Di dia mkpo

MrJavaS:
Exactly,no one has approached me yet

The vibes you are giving might repel them. No one wants to be embarrassed.

If you handle it, you should try joining some activities like sports, department/faculty politics, etc.

Just make a conscious effort to be amiable and pleasant.

mimimile93:
Mpo aba'diah?

Idioko oo

SirMichael1:
I guess we read different stuffs 'cause from what I read, there wasn't any part that implied that he tried to adapt a bit to her standard. Why does he always force his opinions on her? The type of dress to put on, makeup type and the rest.

If he 'bends' for her, she won't be feeling suffocated in the relationship. The fiancé is control freak. My way or no way.

She is only complaining about his part. But she hasn't told us the parts where he also went out of his way for her. Or do you think a man in love won't go out of his way for his woman?

SirMichael1:
Oshey... Awon slay mama.

You want her to become a shape shifter??

If she doesn't want to party, why can't the fiancé understand her and remain at home? Does it 'hafta' be the Lady bending to his rules or ideology. Place yourself in her shoe, that's if you aren't slayed yet??

And you think he won't bend for her too.

She has to make an effort...whether party of other stuff.

I follow my hubby to watch him play ball most Saturday mornings. I might want to sleep but i go because it could be his way of bonding.

I watch football...other sports(infact i am watching Wimbledon at the moment).

But when i want to do my own stuff, he has to do it with me too.

So it is not about slay anything.

If she is not feeling him, she should shift for someone that will.

MISEDUCATIONS:
not really. im more like well-versed on general knowledge and random stuff. i used to be a huge geek with only books for friends. a long time ago.

Cool

Although i can't seem to imagine you as a geek.

Just free yourself and not be too uptight.

Don't expect too much from people...anticipate their let down

Don't take yourself too seriously so that you can be approachable.

You will be fine

As long as he can afford the things he wants you to wear, i see no problem.

If you don't like 3rd party interference, tell him to stop it.

He likes you to attend events with him. Would you prefer he leaves you at home? Many ladies are praying for a man that would take them everywhere with them.

You have not pointed out any fault in this guy. Your problem is that he is rich, flamboyant and wants to show you off.

What do you really want

MISEDUCATIONS:
a healthy vagina has no ordor. if it smells something is wrong.
and washing only with warm water will not mess up the flora of the vagina. those bacteria cultures are not harmed by water, but its when soap is used that damage happens. the fancier the soap the more vagina bacteria it will kill and the more damage will be done to the vagina since the vagina thrives on a delicate balance of good and bad bacteria.

Oshey!!

Expert on vagina matters.

Both of you are just deceiving yourselves.

You are both in an distance unserious open relationship.

Is a man that has a side chick loyal?

OneSentence:
it's baffling. these people are only fighting for their pockets. that's why they switch easily.

And people are carrying pdp and apc on their heads. I think many youth are mentally lazy.

BestDude:
yeah, he still send me gift to till this day. I was good to him too sha and he happens to be someone that never forget good done to him and always reward you for it. So when God lifted him up, he kept his promise.

Talk about a Nigerian who keeps his words, he is my first experience! Some others would have promised and failed but not him.

Though we haven't spoken since 2 months now due to his work but he is a great guy. I will postpone my wedding date cos of him if he is not available till the day he is available lol. Can't imagine that day without his presence. He like a father to me.

He really does have a good heart. Not every man gives without wanting something in return.

Don't let your spouse get jealous though.

lusen:
My take: We don't succeed by doing things right. we succeed by GRACE.

So God will give us grace to succeed even while we lie lazily in bed...continue

OneSentence:
I was beginning to think I was the only one on this forum that thought both pdp and apc are useless.
you have spoken well sir.

I really how people don't see it especially with all the defecting from one to the other at will.

Please why do people "those" instead of "does"?

BestDude:
okay. I love Akwa Ibom people. I have a very good brother from Ak and he was there for me during my trying times.

I know right.

Loving and caring are in our nature

BestDude:
pryme and ImaIma1 are you both from Akwa Ibom?

Akwa ibom...yes. what hapun?

Op i don't exactly see it as a reward. If the girl has been there when things were bad and she suffered with the guy, when things are good, he wants her to also enjoy with him.

Or shouldn't she also enjoy as things are now good?

Sleeping separately for whatever reason is a no no. Please correct that as soon as possible. It is a passion killer and you both are allowing caring for the children overshadow your relationship and marriage.

If you can, please get a help/nanny and if you already have one, please engage her.

And you guys need to talk so that you can be on the same page. Tell her not to take your fidelity for granted and misbehave. You two should also try to rekindle the fire...make conscious efforts.

Sometimes, children can be a distraction but we have to remember that we were two first before they came. All the best.

OfficialDad:
Idiot, but you talked about my manhood. How much more foolishness do you have hidden inside you?, or is it follow come.

Brow, go and grow beards then we can talk. Disgusting poor peasants

Check the meaning of manhood and stop disgracing yourself.

Try speaking English...i don't understand gibberish.

ItzBIM:
Why are u so aggressive he was only just trying to have a civilised conversation. Your blood dey hot oo

Stay out of this. It wasn't you he called useless.

OfficialDad:
While you walk away with your rotten pussy dismantled . Get lost weak ass nigga.

Crying already without a fight

That is all you've got? Attacking my genitals? Really cliché.

Try sounding clever. And don't forget to back up your claims with facts.

OfficialDad:
As if you even have brain let me look for the verse in the bible, because you need deliverance.

You don't want to start this with me. Just walk away with your manhood intact.

pryme:
We are not many on Nairaland (that's if you are Efik). It's good to have a kinsman here.

Naah. I am Ibibio. But we are all still family

Yusful131:
But I took her home after the whole thing and we are living comfortably until I realized her mind is somewhere else.

If that is the case, maybe the harm had already been done.

But the best thing is to talk to her.

pryme:
Which are you?
Efik or Ibibio

One of the two...

Why is this relevant?

MARRIAGE IS NOT DO OR DIE O.

PARENTS AND SOCIETY SHOULD STOP PUTTING PRESSURE ON THESE LADIES.

THEY WORRY ABOUT IT ALREADY. THEY DON'T NEED EVERYONE REFERRING TO IT.

I HAVE AUNTIES OF 45 AND ABOVE THAT ARE SINGLE AND I LOVE AND RESPECT THEM.

IT IS NOT A CURSE, NEITHER IS IT ALWAYS BECAUSE THEY WERE PICKY.