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Water101:
My husband does this even when am not pregnant.and i respect him for that.a loving man will do this over and over again.

The post only shows that men help only pregnant wives and guys here are still saying it's foolishness. Pregnant or not pregnant i enjoy much more. Men are brought up in different ways and different mindsets about family life. They dont see it as foolishness

Marriage is not by force. If you cannot respect the vows, remain single.

Freeheart:
be faithful in your marriage and don't be promiscuous........... that is the problem with so many of them that get abused

See talk. When the man is unfaithful who beats him? It's better to end the marriage if she is unfaithful. If you beat her and she dies, do you think anyone will care that it was because she waz unfaithful.

basic23111:
its still understandable when man cheat but for woman is total nonsense and unacceptable.....

Are you for real? I didnt know cheating was gender sensitive.

"Mercy Aigbe visits the toilet after domestic violence issue..."
*posts pictures

Ezedon:
I'm still wondering why married women cheats, if my wife cheats and I find out, na divorce be that o

What if you cheat? Still divorce?

olaife80:
It's okay mam don't be offended this is part of things that happened when kids take over the media forum. You shouldn't be bother about that, please don't take it personal

Haba! I am not offended. I know NL has a lot of uncaged animals.

dangotesmummy:
even if they were alive nko?

What difference does it make?

OK I know why they died. Na you use your smelling character send them to their early grave.

Born throway

So you now see how it feels having a taste of your words

See it barking up and down like rabid dog

Let's wait for you to kill yoirs then.

Crazy kid. You started with the insults and quoting me and acting like a rabies infected dog.

dangotesmummy:
your father is the unam ikot and your mother is the she-mbecile

She-diot

They are both dead and gone. Nice try. You can keep the insults for yours.

dangotesmummy:
you're just confused.please stop quoting me

And as for your gender


I.D.G.A.F

If you like be an haemaphrodite

You are the slowpoke that quoted me without having your facts straight. Covering your ignorance with loose talk. Unam ikot

dangotesmummy:
dude learn to comprehend

If u go and read from my first response, you would see that I am not a dude and that I do not see anything wrong in the car gift

Well he should better leave money for his burial.

dangotesmummy:
it's just a godamn gift for goodness sakes .must you read meaning to everything for goodness sakes?

Why everything be quarrel. Like the world must revolve around your ego

You are barking up the wrong tree

Justuceleague2:
Click my profile and read my posts I don't have time to sound correct to some people especially those whose balls haven't dropped


C ya

I see your balls on the floor.

innobarca:
And the woman that is driving a car while the husband is jumping a bus is MATURE for marriage?
After marriage, Husband and wife becomes one...Nobody wants the other to suffer if there is true love.

For the gift,A gift should be for husband and wife and some responsible father in-laws knows how to go about it,It doesn't matter where it is coming from,the most important thing is that the gift is for the NEW COUPLE.

If the father in law has to point that out, the couple should not even be getting married.

yaki84:
imaimammi. Abadie?

Se nanga aflesh nte flesh fish

Idem nfo isongo.

Justuceleague2:
If he had parents close by he'd have called them , he's probably from else where working as an agent elsewhere, lady works closely she should have checked on him


Period

So instead of discussing how the person that won 600k will be paid and how an alleged greedy person allegedly squandered money meant for someone else and kills himself, we instead blame the dead man's girlfriend for not going to check on him...
Kontinu!

sekem:
Very good

To you, you may think it is totally harmless

I totally understand

But sometimes, we just have to read in between the lines to understand certain human actions

If the said father in law wanted to show level of deftness, I believe he would have found a way to specifically specify that the house belongs to both his son in law and his daughter

That way, the young man will go home without necessarily having that sickening feeling that he is being controlled/owned.

You will probably never understand that feeling because you are not a guy

But that feeling is real, for men

Believe it or not, that feeling is probably one of the main reason why some ladies just can't find a man to marry them

The woman is not the problem.

She may be very understanding, very respectful, very humble, very submissive

But...

That's just the problem

Because according to James Hadley Chase, you never know with women!!!

That feeling is an overbloated ego that constantly needs massaging. It is not present in every man. Some men are not threatened by things like that.
When a wedding gift is given, the father does not need to.point out that it is for both of them. For both of them to come together to get married means that they agree and they have become one. The father doesnt owe them an explanation for a gift.
If you cannot handle being married to a lady from a wealthy family, it's better to marry someone that would depend completely on you and whatever you bring to avoid your ego being tampered with.

charain:
The question you should ask yourself is why an egoistic poor man will marry a rich woman ?
when a woman refuse to marry below her class you say; women are only after money,
when a rich woman fall for a poor guy you accuse her of disrespecting the husband by being rich.
What exactly do you want ?

Your brain is working well

padiga047:
There is a line between kindness and mumism.

The man who did what you said has unfortunately crossed that line.

Your mind is not yet mature for marriage. You still have a loooong way to go

padiga047:
I wonder how the marriage would look like the wife rides a car and he doesn't.


Why not transfer it to cash and give the couple to start their family.


That man is unknowingly causing trouble.

Does it matter who drives the car? Most responsible men allow their wives to drive the only car while they find their way. They put their wife's comfort above theirs. A car gift us a gift.

Some guys brains are just programmed to think one way. Very myopic and narrow minded and shallow thinking. First thing is to blame the girlfriend!!

I pity your unfortunate wives.

Justuceleague2:
Sorry if this sounds insensitive but I think his girlfriend wanted him to die


Why? First of all if you work at a filling station, you must be at work by 6-7, not 8 AM, that's the first kleg

Secondly boyfriend texts you he wants to commit suicide but you stayed at work, calling him, he didn't pick your call and you assumed everything is OK?



On a very good day, considering all the publicity suicide and depression has received, a sane person would rush home to meet bf , if sex would calm him, if it's weed if it's drinking to stupor , something will save him that day



But I guess these generation of ladies, majority of them are selfish money gobbling problems , and they don't love like our fore fathers and parents used to


That's a fact, you can mention or insult all you want it wouldn't change the fact that girls these days are after money only not love

Jeez!!! You guys must just somehow look for how to blame ladies for everything. Soon you will say ladies are the cause of the economic recession.
Do you think the girlfriend had nothing to do, no commitments at home, younger ones, parents,etc. Why are not blaming the culprit that squandered someone's money and took off without paying. Who will pay the guy?
You are there blaming the lady for not going to check on him.

dangotesmummy:
so if your own mother gave you gift,you need permission from your wife before you collect it?

No the mother needs to get permission from the wife..."my dear I want to give my son a car as a wedding gift,should i go ahead?"

Snow84:
Learn how to pass relationship-related comments from that Raine80 moniker. If the father had made it known that he gave the car to her daughter, that marriage is doomed, especially if the man is not rich enough to own a car. If the husband is not rich, and the wife is from a rich family, enrich the man, for charity sake, and see the man becoming grateful by loving his wife more, assuming what brought them together initially is genuine love. Before marriage, the father should have tested the man by giving him 1m naira to see r what he can do with it. If the 1m naira vanishes without making any good use of it, the father would advise her daughter to be wary of the man, and steer clear of interfering in the affairs of the upcoming family. You don't have to teach young people, adversities will teach them.

You lost me with your comment. Why is it that the fact that it is a car gift the problem. My colleague was given a car gift by her dad. And it was a surprise. They didn't know till the wedding day. An uncle of mine gave his daughter a car gift on her wedding day. Both marriages are yet to break up. If a man cannot handle the fact that his woman is from a well to do family, why go ahead?
Communication between a couple is very important. They have to be able to discuss anything and agree.

But if he had given them a tray as a gift he wouldn't need to ask permission in case they already have enough trays. Such myopic and egocentric mindset! Whatever they do with their gifts is left to them. It is a wedding gift and she is his daughter.
What broke the marriage might not be the gifts bit how the couple handled it.

At this rate, an earning wife will not be a back up plan but the major sponsor.
Firstly, u need to cut your clothes according to the fabric. Your expenses should not be more than your earning. Cut out some expenses. Maintaining a car with your salary is more like a liability venture.
You should also think about doing other things that would bring income.
Then also pray hard for God's intervention. U need it.

Billyonaire:
It is so scary. These days you cant tell a lady 'I like you', cos the moment you do, they transfer all their liabilities to your balance sheet. It kills the feeling, not because you can not do it, but because it was not your responsibility to do that. Love is now transactional. I guess we are all prostitutes now, it is no longer an issue of going to club or road to find a man. An average girl wants financial exchanges for love. Its a barter like never before.

This is really for some set of ladies, I believe. It still has to do with the kind of ladies. I never asked a guy I was dating to buy me a phone,pay my bills. It's either i buy my phones myself or disturb my siblings. I would rather task my brothers/sisters instead of asking my boyfriend. Same goes for my friends around me.
What I even see around me is men using different stories to collect/borrow from ladies. The men have turned the gold diggers. Borrowing and not returning. Coming up with one money story or the other.

Stop*
Slay*
Sorry about the typos joor

26andsearching stoo going for skay queens and girls that are all about their skin,fashion,appearance abd do not seem to have anything upstairs. Babes like that are looking for a guy to leech on and solve all their financial problems.
You should probably stop meeting girls at the club,mall,etc. How come you are not meeting working class ladies like doctors,bankers,civil servants,etc. Are they not your level? You keep getting attracted to jobless, wandering ladies who believe that their man is an ATM machine.
Change your strategy and location or else we will keep getting these stories of gold digging girls that you guys bring upon yourselves

mansakhalifa:
All these fraudsters be posing as pastors these days. Ride on pastor Romeo.

I don't even blame the pastor as much as i blame the person he kissed and the people standing and watching like zombies. Very blind and gullible lot.

EmekaBlue:
Sure its not consensual?!

How now? How?