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Mercychen:
What kind of xmas gift can you suggest for a guy who wears and uses designer stuff.

He's not a card person. So let's not go there. He already has tons of perfs which was what I wanted to get but I don't want something that he'll abandon in his stash.

Please I'm on a budget here Biko. I already spent so much putting my house in shape.

Thanks.

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Sex.

The only reason he is wasting money on designers stuff is to boost his self-esteem because his game ain't tight. So validate him by giving him the sugar walls. He will appreciate it more than anything money can buy. Think outside the box.

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Supreme145:
Good day Nairalanders, there have been a lingering cold war in my family between my parents and it has created a tension in my family that as the first son I'm running out of options on how to dunce this tension. My parents have been married for almost 30 years and just like another has been full of ups and downs.

I will try not to sound biased but my dad's authoritarian nature has caused a serious crack in my our family and made my mom a very unhappy woman that is just enduring the marriage for the sake of her children. Instead of the children to find solace in our home we all prefer to be far away due to the continuous rift between our parents. My dad has never laid his hands on our mom but constantly talks down on her even in front of the kids, and knowing my father you would rather prefer to be mended with 2x2 plank rather than my father letting his tongue lose on you. His mouth is filled with venom.

A while ago one of my siblings got a job as a cashier in a bet shop without my father's knowledge, we kept it away from him because we knew very well he would object because he hated anything bet. My mom on the other hand knowing fully well that the boy has been idle for a while gave her consent reluctantly. My dad got to know after he observed that the boy was dropping money at home frequently and when he inquired about the source of the money and learnt that he was working in bet shop all hell was let loose.

He called me on phone in school, which he rarely does just to confirm if I was aware which I replied in the affirmative. He said all manner of derogatory things to me, because he felt his position as the head of the home was threatened, he felt we the children was siding my mom to override his authority in the home. My siblings would later call me the following day to complain about how he spoke to my mom, the poor woman cried for days. They said my dad would never see a dime of their money if they get rich even though I know it was childish talk but that's how serious thing are.

Almost all my siblings have grown to hate my dad though they conceal it very well. His tyrannical rule is not helping matters at all, my dad is the kinda father that if you spoil an appliance in the house, it would be in your best interest to repair it before he becomes aware because the funny part is he won't say much to you rather all the aggression would be transfered to my mom. If we use the generator we would have to replace the quantity of fuel that we used. I was sleeping in lecture hall in school, my pop man insisted there was no money and even advised I withdrew from school if I can't cope only to get home to meet the news that he just bought a land lol.

While I don't expect much from him cos I'm of age, I don't like how he keeps alienating himself from my other siblings due to his nonchalant attitude to their warfare. Those kids would spend weeks at home due to non payment of school fees but he would spend hundreds of thousands fixing his car if it breaks down.

My mom called me today in tears, p man just left the house without dropping anything for Xmas, and even a cube of maggi is not at home, and its not as if he doesn't have money, I'm away of the big contracts he's working on at the moment whereas he's been spending on his car putting it in shape for travelling him.
And he was the one that told momsi not to process her cassava and sell because she envisaged that something like this would happen.

Now my siblings have been bombarding me with complaints and this is why I preferred to stay back in school instead of traveling home.
How should I approach this issue? I can't call a man and tell him how to use his money, I've been struggling to make mine so that I can offset some of the expenses from his shoulder.

I love my dad and I understand his struggles, i know what people without a father figure goes through but how can I stop the hate that is brewing towards him from my siblings?
I want our home to be peaceful.
Please I need your advice.

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Take your dad on a family vacation to anywhere in Ogun State. Come back here and tell us the experience. Don't type R.I.P in advance or you may become the prime suspect.

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I don't see anything wrong in that.

As long as you refuse to be a man in your house, your wife has every right to use you as a door mat.

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Or11:
The question is for married women. What is/are the reasons that you would avoid or refuse sex with your husband?

My wife's own is when I get lazy at home and I don't help in the house chores e.g cleaning, cooking, bathing the kids etc. She won't fight with me or argue but when I touch her like this, she will find a meaningful excuse. She's tired, not in the mood, headache, tomorrow, I need to shower first and I'm too lazy now etc. I found out myself that it was when I helped at home that there were no excuses, it's always a happy ending.

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Look closely at Buhari and you have the answer.
Just like APC's list of broken campaign promises, your wife reeled you in with promises of a good marital life.
Just admit it. She is married now. Her campaign is over. Like Buhari's Nigeria, it is time for you to bear the cross.

By the way, sex is overrated especially with one partner. But that's not an excuse to cheat on her. Rather you should count it as a blessing that she denies you sex. Now that you know the only power she has over you, take it away from her by being indifferent to sex--reverse psychology!

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Cyntie55:
Good day nairalanders. Season greetings to y'all. I'm so angry right now. Please I need mature advice.

My father is not a learned person but he make sure all his children are graduates. My younger brother(last born and only son) rounded up his Nysc few months ago, we're just 2 girls. My elder sis and I. My elder sis is a nurse in Austria (3 years now), she's married with a kid in Austria. My big sister send money home once in 3 months, and I have been the one receiving the money. I share the money exactly as instructed by my big sis. I have never cheated anyone, Infact my Dad and Big sis communicate very well. My Dad trust me so much.

My younger brother is always angry, He said he feel cheated all the time. He shouts and talks to me anyhow like I'm his mate.
Honestly speaking, I gave my younger brother more love and respect that he could ever imagine. When he was serving, he would call telling me he need 10k urgently, sometimes 20k, that he will pay back. Immediately I will send it to him and he would never pay back. Same thing he does to my father.
If we ask him what's he using his allawee for?? He would angrily say so is becus we're sending him "chicken change" that's why we're asking jamb questions.

He said we don't regard him, he called my Dad a SIMP, he said my Dad listen more to my big sis and I....but he don't listen to any of his suggestions.

My brother is a 2:1 (second class upper) graduate in economics from UNIBEN. After his Nysc all he does is to sleep and eat. My Dad's good friend told my brother to come to Lagos and resume work with him. He refused. My Dad ask him if he wants to further his education (masters or professional courses)he said no....Okay follow my Dad to his cement shop and help him (my dad even promised to pay him salary) he refused....I overheard him on a call with a friend and i suspect he's now into yahoo yahoo.

Look at what happened. My big sis sent us money yesterday to celebrate this festive period. She said I should give my brother 50k, I should take 80k and give my father the rest (abt 250k). My Dad is always aware of everything.
I even added 20k out of my money and I transferred 70k to my brother, I was left with 60k (becus she also sent me hair and I plan to sell it becus I already had enough). You can imagine this ungrateful idiot started insulting me, that I cheated him. the fool angrily withdrawn the money from his account and SET IT ON FIRE (70k). He called my elder sister and started warning her saying "if he can't receive the money henceforth, she should stop sending him money again that he's the man of the house".
My Dad gave him a resetting, resounding, hot and dirty slaps. He pulled out a knife, deflated my Dad's car tyres and ran away from the house.

Everyone is not happy. I don't want my brother to live a wayward life. He's 24 years old. Please nairalanders Help!

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You guys keep spoiling him with the usual "only son" bullshit.
Mark my words and mark this date. He is going to commit murder in the family and the victim will be either you or your father.
Your father refused to train him as a man. Now he is back with vengeance. At 24, it is too late.
My only prayer at this point is for others to learn from your family mistakes. Una spared the rod and spoiled the child--too late to cry over spilled milk
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Abudu2000:
exactly my thoughts now making the second architect seem like the hero when most crucial and significant part of the planning was taken care off by the first.

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Interesting!

My major concern was patronizing such a low-budget Architect in the first place. The initial design lacked finesse like what I'd expect from an apprentice's first stab at house plan. I would have recommended tying him to a pole and giving him 24 lashes as if he took mkpurumiri. Of course, he could have been contracted to modify the design. But I bet he would have come up with something worse making it double wahala for dead body.
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Hope Uzodinma and his people!

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newswires:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8y5slMOJTGE

Nigerian Police officer gifts passengers in a tricycle cash to celebrate Christmas in Asaba, Delta state.

https://www.instagram.com/tv/CX2sQ2bB-Ze/?utm_medium=copy_link

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I bet you there is a checkpoint in front to extort the money out of the passengers.

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OreMI22:
Why focus on Ogun state alone?

Ogun state has not borrowed as much as many other states in Nigeria that borrowed massively and yet no projects to show for all the money!

We MUST probe all these loans taken by both Federal and State governments!

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How could Imo State be owing $3.4trillion? How much is the whole Nigeria worth or you are just pulling data out of your a$s?

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It is very difficult for a man of affluence and power to marry for love. I feel sorry for Ooni. He is the honey. Other bees will start hoovering.

Marry first. Become rich later. Then you can live happily ever after.
Become rich. Then try to marry. Only God in his divine mercy can guide and save you then.

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Too many risks associated with buying and building in Lagos. Every new government comes with a new reality.

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The sad reality is that the governors are worshipped as emperors instead of being held accountable as public “servants”. The hungry masses empower them more than the Constitution.

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It makes sense. 2022 is the year before an election. So that's the last chance for them to loot the treasury.

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Of what use are the numbers when they will end up telling the callers that they have no fuel in their vehicles?

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Inside life.

Just the thought that 99.9999% of the noisemakers you celebrate in Nigeria do not worth 0.1% ($11m) of Elon Musk's 2021 tax.

Stay humble.

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Ficient:
I'm a federal civil servant, wife just got a job in the UK as a nurse. This has been our plan, although she initiated the idea which I supported especially bcuz of our kids. As the time is getting closer I'm developing some cold feet, but eventually I'm sure I will move. Don't really know if leaving my civil service job and farming business is a good idea, I don't really have an Abroad game plan yet.

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Premium tears in 5 years or less.

You are very shortsighted.

Rule 1: Never let a woman feed you. It won't last long unless she is ugly.

Let's start the countdown...



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davodyguy:
I import quite a number of things and can't tell you that the exaggeration is high.

Yes, exchange rate us high, customs clearing duty is also high, but sellers have also raised prices astronomically taking advantage.

10 to 20% profit margin is not bad after cost price, but what we have now is close to 50% margin if not more.

A relative just brought in a car from Canada

Bought at Auction for $7500 (CAD) * ₦450
Shipping @ ₦600,000
Clearing @₦1,200,000
Total approximately ₦5.2million.

Similar car is advertised on Jiji for ₦6.5m to ₦6.7m

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No two cars are the same. Your relative bought a car at CAD$7500 does not mean another person cannot buy similar car for more or less the price (depending on many factors/conditions). If GAZZUZZ finds no buyers, he may be forced to adjust his price.

I don't think you should be in the position to dictate how much a dealer sells a vehicle. Market factors will do the needful. Let's think about it. Will you compare a car bought from non-snowy California to one used in Canada or East Coast, USA? The latter is prone to rusts because of salt. More also, West coast doesn't do RORO--so the overall cost of shipping will be higher. What's the brouhaha all about?

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The only people interested in Igbo Presidency are the politicians of Igbo extraction. The average Igbo person couldn’t care less considering that the people whose kins had been President are not living any better.

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BigSarah:
These people sef, even if she is sick Nigeria's tax money will treat her

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It is appointed for a human being to die once. Billions of naira couldn’t save Yar’Adua. Billions of dollars couldn’t save Steve Jobs. Health is wealth, and not vice versa.

We wish her well.
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Rastaramsey:
Then you know nothing about spiritualism......

And You call yourself a Yahoo boy

Abi you are just coming here to pretend for the likes and shares....

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Being in rich in present day Nigeria is next to godliness.

That's why everyone is giving Davido the benefit of doubts.

If you are rich and a giver in Nigeria and caught with a human head, some people will come and swear on their mothers' graves that it is the head of a Chimpanzee.

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While 40 years in Nigeria are still shouting BBN, Up WhiteMoney.

Or worse, they are doing thugs for Tinubu of Atiku.

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The project will be for three generations unborn.

Let them finish the Eko Atlantic first.

Nigeria loves to inaugurate projects. Take a look at the PDP house.

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newswires:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ephieJlvaX4

https://www.instagram.com/p/CXqe4HiLHIC/?utm_medium=copy_link

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These idiots should stop patronizing Ghana.

Use the power you have which is your money.

Must we cry for everything?

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ahmedaturboy:
There is this girl at my work place i always liked and vice versa. The feeling grew to the extent that my line manager called me to ask what's in-between us both. But since I was yet to ask her out i said nothing...along the line she started given me attitude and i just immediately distant my self from her guessing someone else has come in between us.

The dating didn'tast and she came back trying to mend things. But i rejected her cos i was pained with what happened. She latter won my heart but whenever i request for hangout she do always give one excuses or the order..lately, she started having an affair with another guy in my work place..I've tried avoiding her but since she's under me she needs to report to me every evening....

The problem here is i can't control my feelings for her anymore and given the environment where i work am scared of being set up cos my work place is a devil's kingdom...

Advice on what to do pls

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No advice necessary.

Na life go teach you the lesson you need.

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Afamsi:
Bella life no be race, na journey. Your bus stop no be their bus stop. Your destination no be their destination. Fulfill the purpose for which you were created. That is all that matters

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He just graduated this year.

Let's check back 2, 5, 10 years from now.

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greatdreamer:
The story is untrue.
1. Police asked for 200 million naira bail for doing nothing

2. You transferred 20 million naira worth of bitcoin to Austin. How many millions of naira worth of bitcoin do you have?

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When you or your family members pay ransom for kidnapping, you can tell us what you did. Kidnapping and ransom payment to men in uniform is still kidnapping. Why do you people get easily confused with English? Is it because they called it bail? Bail/ransom payment under threat of murder is the modus operandi of kidnappers.

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HardMirror:
It seems Nigerian girls are indeed created, designed, configured, trained, programmed, predetermined, orientated,... to collect collect and collect.

I started dating this girl and by our standards this girl is as good as they come. She is truly a good girl with good character. I cant be dashing her money, so I asked her to come and work for me. Already had 4 employees but her work experience would be valuable to us and honestly she has been an asset and worth the money i am paying her. But what surprises me is how she still manages to get me to buy food, airtime for her everyday ....

Naija girls.. una matter no be here

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I have never heard of a Nigerian girl holding a gun to a man's head to give her money. Work on yourself. You are your problem.

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Fasindo:




Empowerment?


What Nigerians call Empowerment will even shock God

This simply shows the rate of hunger in Abuja. Thank God it was not done Mararaba, Nyanya or Masaka axis if not the food will not even be enough

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It has nothing to do with God.

They have international sponsors that they show these pictures and videos as evidence. They take in millions and pay out thousands. It is purely business.

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Mylife89:
I and my gf started a new relationship and it's been going well, two weeks ago which was her birthday, we both came to lagos to spend quality time and have fun for two weeks.

while on the vacation, I checked her phone and noticed there was a guy who wished her happy birthday and told her he had a gift for her, she responded and deleted the message

The next day I checked her phone, I didn't see the chat with the guy and I was sure my eyes saw an unread message the previous day.

Four days ago she told me she wants to go she a female.friend, when I confronted her she then mentioned that she wants to go pick up the gift from her male friend, the same guy that she earlier told me about that he is just a friend.

I'm sad cos with all the love I'm beginning to show towards her she isn't satisfied but thinking about another guys gift and attention.

We both quarreled over the issue and I made it clear that if she ever goes to see the guy and I find out it will be the end of our relationship.


Women are truly strange.

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You spent all the money and she entertained you for 2 weeks. What else do you want?

The male friend will give her something of way less value and still collect the same benefit.

Look in the mirror. Who is the f00l? Actually I like the result you got.

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This must be a reverse logic.

It should be “Plan to protest the destabilization of the North uncovered”.

How can they plot to destabilize what has been destabilized for years?

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definitelyME:
Sorry for posting this here..but I really need answers because I don't understand what is going on here.. So I decided I wanted to learn computer programming so I started searching for where I could acquire the skill. I can across these guys yesterday but I would not mention their names here.. I asked how much it would cost to study software engineering because its a six months course..could you believe how much these guys mentioned for me? 850k...yes that right #850,000 and that's not all it still goes as far as 1.7million naira..

Please If i may ask, computer gurus in the house.. Is there any way this prices are justifiable? Because I don't get..

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What do you think will happen if nobody enrolls in their program?

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Whoever would have saved him must be capable and willing to solve the cause of his depression. Otherwise it is an exercise in futility. Saving him wouldn't have been enough.

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