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Davash222:
Use the remaining 4K to sub for her.

Ha ha ha... The guy na just idiot

Richnerd69:
Thanks man. My decision to bring her over to PH was not with ulterior motives as people actually perceive it to be. Before I raised the suggestion to help her, I understood the risks involved and I still went ahead anyways. She's told me her story and her visions. Her aunt is making her settle for lesser than she bargained for, but where she's going to be positioned to serve, she would be properly paid like a normal entry staff aside her monthly allowance, and well catered for as she isn't the only one I've connected that way... My plan is to make her independent, so I won't be her cash clown. I have so many other responsibilities on my neck.

I've only been slightly sceptical of late, with the way people I closely confided in have been condemning my decision and tagging it as "stupid". I somewhat feel a bit stupid, but not driven or motivated by lust but out of human kindness and likeness, and I will try as much as possible to avoid body contact. I don't want to appear manipulative or possessive. I've called my mom and I told her everything, she trusts my decision but also hopes I'm not gonna regret my gesture.

Plus, we are both having this discussion tonight. I'm gonna give her a chance to reconsider her choice.. we probably might be heading way fast, or probably not. Thanks again.

You somewhat sound sincere, but I think you're being presumptuous. The reason being, that you've taken up the approach of trying to control things. Somehow in your mind, you think "here's a damsel in distress who I could 'groom' into my ideal woman",and have her do my bidding. I'm sure you already know that you could never truly experience true love nor a healthy relationship with that sort of arrangement. Honestly speaking, this is at its core manipulative, however the good intentions that you've masked it with.

And this is a fully grown lady full of suprises, able to make her decisions. Don't not be suprised when disagreements begin to arise. My advise to you is to never be fully invested(and I mean emotionally) until you can fully guage where things are going. Best case scenario you've got the woman of your dreams who buys fully into you.And in between, if things don't work out, you were able to show someone a new experience in a state she'd never been to. Worse scenario, you get the "live-puppet" you seek

In life and love, it isn't by how fast nor how slow but, acting at the right time. But how do we know when is? Well no one can say actually, all we can do is speculate.But many who have made the right move have spoken about just "knowing", like an intuition. You're moving fast, aren't you? Well let's see where this takes you. Goodluck man

fykes:
Did u hear him say "we got down"?
Oga sex messes up things... If my assumptions are right BTW.
Op u can go ahead, it's that feeling u get when u feel u have arrived and have it all covered with a damn beautiful lady to warm ur bed and u tryna be the man for her and do the right thing after having sex just to prove that u are different from other guys, or to urself, that u are better.
Either way, it seems to me that u are sort of overcompensating for something somehow... Prolly things in ur past u ain't dealt with.
The good thing is, it's never easy having someone else in ur space and in a short while, d feeling and all d sex tips will be exhausted and u will realise that love is not a feeling...
Then u will create another thread and ask us how to get her to leave ur house "without " hurting her.
Ciao!!

Don't think I've got the wherewithal to read the whole comments here... But from the few I've read, you've made the most sense. I'd also like to add that OP hasn't quite 'healed' from his past relationship, part of the reason for his haste with this girl. I think he found the "void" unbearable hence the need to fill it as soon as possible . I didn't find his excuse of "trying something different" convincing to say the least.

JonDon12:
What he means to say is we are not Ibos. Shame that instead of supporting an ethnic group that is being clearly marginalised, he is helping to ostracise them. Ikwerre people better be careful. The day will come when you will NdiIgbo and you will be forced to eat your words.

The truth is Nobody is forcing anyone to be Igbo. When all these groups start crying that they are not Igbo, it is because their own members are claiming Ibo ,not the Ibo claiming them. So they are to discourage their own members by saying "We are not Ibo. Being Igbo or any ethnicity is a state of mind. You can exile yourself if you want. Nobody is trying to force you.

If igbos are being marginalized what would you say about the lesser tribes? I keep telling people that having an igbo man as president would not change anything,because we've got our priorities wrong. It would only continue the same nepotism and corruption that's been the norm. Because behind this fight for representation is the same selfish interest of greedy politicians also wanting a slice of the pie. As for the masses? As long as they have "their man" in power they wouldn't care if they still continued living impoverished lives, so far they boost their collective egos. This is the motive behind our voting habits, and it's just sad.

Our Zoning system is anti-nationalistic, it's just wrong.It wouid have been better if we'd gone our separate ways than continue in this sham of a federal system. No tribe should feel entitled to the seat of power. It is our collective responsibility as citizens to elect anybody we see fit, irrespective of gender, ethnicity, or religion. On the basis of a sound political ideology and an enviable track record. Let's wise up abeg

ijewejones:
But their hairs & body complexions isn't white


Some even came in with black colours too


Hope their drink is All WHITE like mine (dnt quote me on that)

Na akamu you dey drink wey white abi?

9jahotblog:
yes they spent money and body to make their gifts work. But I hope you know that it's almighty God that gave them the funds and body to make it work.

Yeah sure... But if you're a Christian, then it applies to you also. You're not something different, you've also got what secular people call "natural gifts". It's not something only applicable to Pastors and Musicians. But with that being said, these ppl do "depend" on you. To the degree that God "depends on people" in order to make things happen. Like it or not the money is gonna come through very formal means, and that's from the pockets of people. Unless of course, by personal conviction the musician decides to peddle his gift freely even though he's under "no obligation" to do that completely. It's still a profession bro, that's just the truth. Man must wack, whether child of God or not. I'm not a staunch Christian by any means but that's something I believe is true

9jahotblog:
but at least they received the gifts freely from God.

Yeah true... But it doesn't remove the work they had to put in order to hone their skills. Or have you seen any gospel musician who just became a master out of nowhere? The answer is No... They atleast deserve some compensation for their hard work,lets be honest.

9jahotblog:
nawaooooo ,so one need to get the ticket before you watch the gospel musicians live. Hmmm

Are you for real with that question? I didn't know being a gospel musician wasn't a profession... Or do you think their money falls from heaven. We too like awoof

sweetonugbu:
we are no longer third world country, we slipped into fourth world country since 2016

We're in the 4th dimension now

NaijaRoyalty:
Nigeria will be a lot better with Atiku

You're delusional

shogsman:
The man reportedly came for a spiritual bath,the vandals are dead,he is a victim.

Huh? If that's the case then he deserves my deepest sympathy

shogsman:
Wtf is wrong with you,how is this funny

I'll admit I was a bit insensitive, after it dawned on me, the pains he'd have to go through. But that was the risk involved for what he did, he is in no way innocent nor undeserving of what happened.

Now let's look at another scenario. What if, an unlucky passerby got caught in the flames and died? ... Would you still have your sympathy for this fellow?

Omor the last pic na instant bleaching o

Jig5aw:
As long as we have decided to be complacent with those who we have entrusted with our common wealth. You will continue to suffer for your inactions. Let's keep playing the tribal and religious games. Enjoy the next level. Fools

As in ehn my sister, I don tire for Nigerians. Their brains do not function properly once elections begin. It's then religious and tribal sentiments take over common sense and rational thought. Their complaints now evoke my anger rather than pity

All these "celeb" djs of nowadays spend more time on Instagram than they do honing their craft. That's why hiphop djs are the best imo.

Ariza:
And I wonder why it is the guy that must work on his conversation skills and keep the communication on.Is friendship/ relationship a one sided thing? Or communication a gender thing? .

Bros I'm telling you, it's just a very flawed mentality. But honestly, a vast majority of our girls actually follow this pattern. Atleast in the preliminary stages a guy does 90% of the work to keep a conversation going.

ambivert27:
Maybe both of them are too stubborn. Two captains can't be in a ship

Dem be Messi and C.Ronaldo

We're the ones that caused this madness that's being meted to us. I don't support this "traveling to a saner clime" mentality we have. Call it whatever you want, but it could also be a disguised way of running away from your problems. Not everyone has the means, and many have even ended up being worse off over there. Let's unite and fight for a better government. It's in our hands. Every developed country thst you see now went through this phase.

Nukilia:
Past politicians have destroyed Nigerians mindset and made them see basic amenities as herculean,,,

I'm telling you bros... It's just so embarrassing... And if you were to openly criticize, they'd blast your cynicism. 20yrs? just imagine... Nigerians don't know their rights

"We cannot go back" the cardboard in the 2nd pic boldy reads. Is it your country!? Humans ehn

Quickly went to goal.com to confirm. Today just keeps getting better

istina:
Although Mrs Sadiku herself is no saint but, most of the things she said about Bubu and his govt are true.

What does it matter when they're one and the same? Just look at how much public wastage goes on in our government offices. 40mil for doing what!?

Martinez39:
I have no pity for you. I have no pity for people who stupidly orchestrate their misery. If you don't know what to do, I cannot help you and nobody can. If your girlfriend can be like this and you haven't done the needful or don't know what you should do, then both of you deserve and belong to each other.
Stupidity is a curse that makes the stupid man potentially dangerous to himself and those around him. You are afflicted by this curse and the only cure is the singular act of fully using your brain. Start using your brain to think smart like an adult and get some boldness and spine. You are a weak and very stupid person.

Bros this your advice too funny abeg But you couldn't have said it better. Sometimes only a bitter dose would work. The dude is just preparing to mess up his life, I don't want to ever be in his shoes

Virus99:
I had typhoid based on the test result... And the Doctor's only solution is drip.
Even before the test result came out, he already put me on drip.

He was about to give me the 5th drip in just 2 days... When my brothers refused.

The man is notorious for giving people drip.

I heard someone fell into a well, upon the person's rescue and taken to the same hospital the doctor was busy administering drips!

Imagine! Someone rescued from inside water and yet being hammered with water

Lol... You sure say no be that Ghanaian quack doctor wey dem catch not long ago? Chai! naija is finished

SaintHilary:
You think making it big as a female artiste in Nigeria is easy naim Tiwa Savage dey allow Wizkid press her yansh on live TV every time he feels like

You should get a bestie too maam...Maybe Zlatan or Preferably Naira Marley..you guys should fvck and post it on IG den release your song the next day..If you dont have upto 10m views on YouTube mk NL close down!

Guy no kii me with laff abeg. You pity am na lol

popsy2:
women, anything just to please us.

No be me dem dey please, they're just being stupid

MelesZenawi:
Like You..Are you better.

I'm much better... Because I respect the rights of others, and don't feel my religion should be used as a political tool to impose my beliefs. Sharia isn't a law that protects the rights of the accused, it is archaic. It doesn't take a genius to realise that. What makes y'all so special that you can't abide by the state law?

Sure every religious person has certain aspects of the law they find incompatible with their beliefs, but for the most part it is "fair" because it was made in view of "all Nigerians" irrespective of religion.

If we weren't so hypocritical about this "One Nigeria" nonsense, I don't see why any state would be under sharia law. That being said you've got your priorities wrong, this isn't what we should be focusing on

MelesZenawi:
Continue shouting
E go soon clear you for eye.

Mtcheww! Backward set of ppl

MelesZenawi:
There is nothing you or anyone can do about it if Muslims decides to get their sharia courts.

Do am make we see. You go tell me whether Nigeria na Muslim country

MelesZenawi:
I disgree.

Establishing sharia court in SW is good. Saying it is not possible is like encroaching on their rights.

Muslims have laws and needs to be judged according to it.

Do you have sense? A court that rules in favor of maiming people for stealing!? Stoning to death adulterous women!? Pls we no want! It just reeks of political undertones. This is a country for all not just religious people. If y'all can't abide by the laws of the state, then y'all should fu*ck off!