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Hmmm this is so complicated. The woman has a high libido arising from her experience with her former lover. But the issue is that if you love a man, you would really want to help him. There are ways to go about this rather than infidelity. Why not see a relationship / sex therapist or expert to help your husband get over this. Fine he is a hardworking and busy man, but he also needed to attend to his wife's sexual desires.. Where I blame the man was his refusal to listen to his wife. Where I blame the woman is her refusal to help her husband overcome this. Rather than having a fling outside. And having the guts to still come and tell him to his face is so painful. Nothing hurts a man's ego more than a woman downgrading his sexual organ or sexual prowess. It's very painful.. I am sure many men here will agree with me. But now the matter don become police matter now. They should settle it sha...

Why do African men who aren't ready to ne fathers love to go raw. Shebi there is rubber, you won't use because you want skin to skin.

Agree everything is a matter of mindset, but to implement it in this country alone is hard. Trust me. Nigeria will make you lose your calling. A lot of people doing a completely different thing from what they read in school or may be good at... You now end up doing something you might not have passion for, but it fetches you money. Then the market becomes saturated and you find yourself struggling..

To be honest, this is hard to say.. But expect the worst. The guy is about 90 percent. You are about 80 percent in her life. But the privilege you enjoy over the other guy is that you are close enough to her. She sees you everyday. You talk. Distance does a whole lot mehn. I swear.. It's never advisable to be too far apart from a babe. She will start to develop feelings for the closest guy she likes and vibes with... Its tough.. She is the one who has a big decision to make. It's all out of your own hands bro.. You can only try and get her pregnant to tie her down, but I won't advice that.. She has to make that decision so that there will not be hard feelings from either party.

I don't know why this MURIC guy loves to incite religious violence and no one says anything. Now you have started comparing the number of holidays Christians get with muslim holidays shey. Oya lets count. Asides the November holiday that is one day, all the other muslim holidays are two two days oh. And by my count, we have two holidays. That is breaking of fasting and salah. Breaking of fasting. Two days. Salah, two days. Making 4 days plus one day of birthday or so in November. Making 5 days. Christians get Good friday and Easter Monday. Christmas day and boxing day. Plus new year day which is a general holiday everwhere regardless of religion. So technically christians get only 4 days in a year, while muslim gets 5 days in a year. So what is this dude saying?

Can every Nigerian leave for Canada? Even if one Nigerian in every houshold goes to Canada, Canada won't contain us. We are too much in this country. We spoilt our own country, now we want to run away. Shey if Canadians too decide to spoil their own country, will there be somewhere Nigerians will go to? Why are Indians trooping to Nigeria. And Nigerians are running to India? Indians love Nigeria because we treat whites better than we treat ourselves. Even an Egyptian can come to Nigeria to work and claim white guy. I think it's a problem with the black race. Blacks have a serious problem. And the truth is we don't know we have a problem...

He just loves the limelight. He has paid his dues in football. He won't win the English premier league again as long as managers like Klopp remain in England.

Loool

Don't mind Nigerian babes. They too dey form. They are always insecure. See let me tell you. If a guy wan just chop you, you will know. Something will definitely give him away. A man who loves you genuinely will always be with you despite sleeping with you numerous times.. We men value the little things. Look at the simple thing that Harderonke babe did for her guy on his birthday. Very simple. How much is cake and hotel room? You won't even spend up to 15k. And sensible guys value these little things. It goes a long way if he truly loves you

Plus the pastor, the boy and his stupid mother are all foolish. Not like when you even do the ritual, you would be richer than Dangote or Otedola. So what is the point? You sent the unfortunate young girl to her early grave... So sad. The desperation amongst Nigerians is so alarming. The way we dey find money ehn... Truth is everyone will not be rich all at the same time. Life is turn by turn..

She is very possessive... So sit her down and have a heart to heart conversation with her. Tell her to start trusting you and you too start doing things that she will use to trust you.

Na 2-0 the match end oh. OP please edit that heading.

But Salisu hasn't won the league nah. Only FA Cup. How is he the best coach in Nigeria?

Nigerian police. They never disappoint. They will be looking for who to siphon money from. And once you resist, na to cock gun and shoot you. Naija Naija.

No wonder and she is most likely a yoruba girl

Lekside442:
shes just 20

We go gather hand beat that Joe Ajaero guy if he dares plunge the nation into darkness this festive season

Yes some women will open mouth and say "What have you done for me that no one has ever done". Nigerian men are overtrying sef. In the UK or US, couples love genuinely. Only in Nigeria does love equate money and vice versa. In Nigeria, spending money is a prerequisite for love.. We put the "Nigerian factor" in all that we do in this country.

Best comment so far. It's very shameful. We can only bleach our skin but we cannot change our name and our heritage.

Toks2008:
The Way people flaunt citizenship of western countries as if nah Heaven. SMH!

People even give testimony in church about getting a Visa.

This is what Nigeria has reduced into...dint get it twisted, it's not about bad belle at all but looking at it retrospectively, it's just so shameful.

Imagine seeing a U.S citizen flaunting British citizenship..

Believe it or not, it is tougher out there and worse still, if you like get British, U.S or Canadian Pali,.... You can never be considered one of them.

The popular question you and your generation unborn will always be asked is..."Where are you originally from"?

Crazy!

So sad in this country the way we celebrate what we shouldn't celebrate. Isn't it a shame on the Nigerian government that despite the huge resources God has given us, we have failed to properly utilize it to the best of our ability.. How can a graduate be carrying sachet water on his head and the EFCC is hailing him. I say no to crime, but it's so hard to earn legitimately in this country... Things are just not going on well in Nigeria. So sad...

Big shame on Nigerians. We are cowards. Na to dey do audio threat na im we sabi. If we hear gun shot now, we go pick race. We are not ready for change. And we deserve the leaders we are getting in this country. They know the youths are not ready and are easily induced by money. So the rot will continue. I just feel for Sowore. They should just let him go in peace. Sowore just travel out and leave this God forsaken country alone. Nigeria is a cursed nation and it can never be better again. It's beyond redemption.

We know ladies like that. They still wanna enjoy life and flex. Good thing is that she is just 21 or how old did you say she is. She is in her "hoe phase". Every woman passes through that phase. By the time she is 27, then common sense will start to prevail. Ladies don't know that their shelf life is very short. Just like a footballer's shelf life.

Your assertion reeks of hurt more than even pride. I think you are really hurt by your last relationship or previous relationships and now you don't even care anymore. Just do whatever that makes you happy. I cannot advice you because you have a mindset already that no one can change quite easily.

Harlequeen:
I am not under 25 sister, and your christian dogma won't sit with me. If i do become 35 and remain unmarried, i have decided that i will live life, adopt a child and get a boytoy. I have tasted what it is like to settle for a random guy(to be egging on a full grown man on what to do like his mother). Will never go through that again.
But thanks for your opinion but i will be avoiding Shiloh like the plague.

Poor girl. But the guys sef too harsh.. Girls you too be wary of the kind of men you associate yourselves with because of material things.

The harsh economic situation has made almost every Nigerian to become so angry and heartless. We have now imbibed killing tendencies..

My own two cents... You see this script is a typical Nigerian boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. Nigerian girls never learn. They never look at the bigger picture. Most importantly, they never pray. She left you because of money. That's how they usually do. Always money that causes the problem. They feel so entitled. And let me put it to you. No man is generous like that oh. Either he wants to sleep with you or not. So when another guy starts buying her things, she starts giving the main bf attitude. First its by not picking calls or not even calling back. Neither will she reply messages. But when their eye clear, that is when she would come running back.. But by then it will be a little too late. Don't take her back. Move on bro..

Ahn ahn Bro isn't this your comment too harsh?

Martinez39:
Stupidity is a curse. A stupid man is dangerous to himself and others. She left you without remorse and you gave her money when she asked? I have nothing much to o say to you. Don't take her back and keep in mind that female nature does not repent. If she sees another opportunity to branch to someone better, she would it over and over again.

Beside, you are a very stupid person. You should learn to think smart as an adult. I would have questioned the legitimacy of this story if not that I have seen such stupidity in display. Romantic love is a scam, forget about girls, hustle harder, and enjoy life. You don't need girls and you shouldn't be wasting money on girls. You claimed this is not the first time something like this is happening and it has happened with previous girlfriends yet you still think relationship, even with your most recent ex, is worth it? You are just a very stupid person.

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Na when the whole world is looking to do something else to curb this menace, that is when Naija is just approving Sex Offenders Register. We are way too backward in this country ehn.

Fantastic piece sir. Best comment so far

OladimejiRufai:
Well, I have an advice for you my boy @OP

From this moment, stop looking for true love

I'm not implying that you cannot find it but stop looking for it.

Rather start looking for a lady who is psychologically wired to always do the right thing and has a very advanced understanding of life.

See, in most cases, love is transient.

Sometimes, people fall in love because they fell into a moment where they perceived something that touched their heart from the other person. And then moments later, they find out that the feelings are lost.

sometimes, people fall in love because there's constant communication or commitment between both persons and they are just lost in the fun of it and think they are in love. If something happens that distracts one of them from achieving the constant communication or commitment to the other person, they find that they lose the love gradually.

sometimes, people's love for another person is usually connected to some features of that person that fascinates them or blows them away.

"oh, the guy is funny." "the girl is intelligent" "the guy is charming" "the girl is georgous" e.t.c and they continue to fall in love so far these qualities are present. But what happens when they lose those qualities or those qualities gradually fade away? that's how the love will also be lost or will gradually fade away.

So in most cases, love is transient. This is proven by the many broken relationships where you hear from both sides that they have fallen out of love.

So if a person were to enter a marriage because of love, he or she is likely to be no more interested in the marriage eventually and may crave attention or love elsewhere and may want to break up the marriage.

That's the reason why I said you should look for someone with a larger and better understanding of life and who is psychologically wired to do the right thing.

this is because when it gets to the stage in a marriage where both spouses have fallen out of love, for people who do not fulfil the said criteria (no understanding of life or being wired to do the right thing), they would want to break up or would start seeking love elsewhere and they many end up cheating etc.

But for someone who fulfils that criteria;

- someone who understands that this life is not a bed of roses and it is not everything you want that you get;

- someone who understands that the purpose of marriage is not necessarily to love rather it is to show care, support each other, become responsible, help each other achieve desired goals and for mankind to multiply (procreation);

- someone who understands that there is time for everything and there are some certain pleasures that should not be sought at all stages of life or the pleasures should be limited at some point in time (imagine a 45 year old woman complaining that her husband doesn't take her out for shopping or so like he used to when she was still 25 when she should be more concerned about caring for the kids that she didn't have then but have now and focus on making them successful in life)

- someone who understands that this life itself is a place of trials and there'll always be sour times or times when you would have to forgo your heart desires for the right thing to be done;

- someone who understands that the pleasures of the hereafter are far greater than those of this life and is more concerned about that and because of that, he or she gives up some pleasures in this world just for the right thing to be done.

- someone who has values, who understands cheating is bad, who understands that it is an evil thing to extort or deceive a partner for personal gains, who knows how to control anger and doesn't expect perfection from the other partner, who understands that for a marriage to work, both sides must be committed to it, who understands that deceiving a partner and extorting him should not be the measure by which you "make it in life", and who is psychologically wired to follow all those values;

So for someone who has a better understanding of life and is wired to do the right thing, such are the people who stay in a marriage when there's no more "love" or when they have fallen out of love and continue to try everything to make it work till the end.

So this is what you should be looking for, for "true love" Is scarce.

If eventually you are able to find true love in a partner that fulfils the above criteria, then consider it a plus, consider it a blessing and thank God for it.

My piece!

Abeg hook me up with one SA babe too nah. PM me

Deja93:
My girlfriend is from cape town South Africa and she’s a miner she’s been my backbone financially and morally for a while now trust me I’ve met Nigerian girls in the past they’re a disgrace to their womanhood

*spits*

Haaaaa it was not necessary nah. See what anger has caused. Wasnt someone there to separate them ni?

But 40k for a 2.1 BSc graduate? This Nigeria get as ee be ohhh

NairaMarley dey run your mouth oh. Until the Force headquarters people arrest you and charge you for a crime you know nothing about. Keep on running ya moutb ohhh. Don't shut the Bleep up..