 Family › Re: Pick Wife For Your Son? by JJYOU(op): 11:07am On Apr 28, 2009 |
kanayo74:
for me my parents did not make a choice of wife for me.
i still dont advice or buy the idea in which parents choose for their sons.
its always better that the man makes his choice and blames no one when it goes SOUR.
MAISUYA
Its better that your mum stays clear so that she does not have any blame form you, just in case u finally marries the onne she suggested.
JJYOU
who chose or wll choose yout partner for you?     why were you complaining about the clever girl you have at home. maybe if you allowed mum to marry for you all this hunger and anger would have been prevented. is your mum your enemy? mummy didnt choose but i never married any girl my mum disapproved. i am her first son of only 2. all she did in life was pleasing me and doing her best for me. we lived miles apart i loved her too much to do what she didnt want. she did suggest a girl some time in my earlier years all i said was i didnt like her and that was the end of it. i am satisfied and thankfull for the goodness of God which she is. just to help you she never cook or wash clothes . my mum knew that and liked her all the same. infact she always prayed to be our daughter if there was reincarnation. hope that answers your question. my mum married for my junior brother because he asked for a wife and he is glad he did. mummy was always our best freind so talking to her about anything was always easy. it is sad we reduce the value of a human being to the ability to cook and wash clothes. |
| Crime › Court Martial Jails 27 Ex-un Peacekeepers For Life by JJYOU(op): 10:38am On Apr 28, 2009 |
[size=18pt]Court martial jails 27 ex-UN peacekeepers for life[/size] By Femi Makinde, Akure Published: Tuesday, 28 Apr 2009 The Brig.-Gen. Ishaya Bauka-led court martial on Monday sentenced 27 former United Nations peacekeepers to life imprisonment for protesting the non-payment of their peacekeeping allowances. Skip to next paragraph click to expand image Femi Makinde. Some of the soldiers sentenced to life imprisonment while arriving for judgment at the 323 Artillery Regiment, Akure, Ondo State , on Monday. The convicts include three female members of the peace operation. The court, however, discharged and acquitted one of the 28 accused soldiers, Lance Corporal Bala Aliyu, for want of evidence. The female soldiers, Yetunde Olanihun, Mary Idoko and Esther Nkawor, and other convicted soldiers who have been in detention since July 2008, did not betray any emotion as the court handed them the maximum punishment for their offence. The defence counsel, Mr. Femi Falana, who appeared briefly during the judgment, described it as a charade, saying the soldiers would appeal the judgment. Falana had accused the president of the court martial of bias during the hearing. He claimed that Bauka had said that no matter what, the soldiers would be punished for protesting. The human rights lawyer and the president of the court martial had an altercation during the hearing which led to Bauka walked away from the court. In a judgment that was read for more than five hours, the president of the court martial said that the prosecution team, led by Lt.-Col. Sampson Nurseman, proved beyond reasonable doubt that the 27 soldiers, who served in the United Nations Mission in Liberia, were guilty of a one count charge of mutiny levelled against them. The court held that the soldiers violated Section 12 subsection 2 of the Armed Forces Act of 2004. It added that the punishment prescribed by the law was life imprisonment for the offenders, subject to the confirmation by the superior authorities. The 27 soldiers jailed for life include Sergeant Oliver Akwara, Corporals Princewill Onwunari, Corporals Abass Saliu and Paul Maikudi. Others are Lance Corporals Umar Abdukadir, Musa Salisu, Paschal Steven, Ibrahim Yusuf Loveday Nnadi, Yomi Ibukun, Bello Zaharadeen, Okani Pope, Wanogho Shadrack, Lawal Abubakar, Innocent Egbuna and John Felix. The rest are Kabiru Mohammed, Chukwudi Onwukanjo, Samuel Ogbe, Jonathan Komo, Adaraloye Olalekan, Salisu Ibrahim, Anthogah Jonathan and Kelechi Anukan. All the soldiers served under Lt. Col.-Godwin Umelo in NIBATT 15 at the United Nations Missions in Liberia. Bauka held that the soldiers disobeyed the order of the commanding officer of the 323 Artillery Regiment, Akure, Ondo State, where they staged a public protest to press for the payment of their compulsory savings. Bauka said, “A junior serving personnel is bound to obey the order of their superior once the order is legal. The refusal to obey the order fails to meet the military standard.” The soldiers had during the trial said that they were arrested at random, adding that one of the officers collected a bribe of $150 from some of those arrested for the same offence. They stated that the officer freed those who paid the bribe and refused to let go those of them who refused to cooperate with him. But while the soldiers were jailed for life, the officers who were responsible for the mix-up which triggered the protest were given a very light punishment. The Army paying team, led by Lt. Col. Paul Baba, who was the Deputy Director at the Army Finance Corps, Abuja, was said to have wrongly paid the allowance of the convicted soldiers to members of NIBATT 14, including the commanding officer who were drawn from the 72 Para-Battalion, Makurdi, Benue State . Baba and other paying officers and the former Commanding Officer of 72 Para-Battallion, Col. A. Awotoye, were charged with cheating, stealing and negligence of duty before the same court martial. They were, however, punished by demotion, while the 27 soldiers were jailed for life. Falana, while praying for freedom for the soldiers, told the court that the prosecution failed woefully to prove the offence of mutiny against the accused persons. He said that although the ex-peacekeepers protested the illegal diversion of their allowances, none of them engaged in violence or any act capable of putting the Nigerian Army in imminent danger. The lawyer added that the accused persons did not conspire with foreign forces to subvert the sovereignty of Nigeria. Falana also told the court that the accused persons had constitutional right to protest as provided under Section 38 and 40 of 1999 Constitution, arguing that as soldiers, they could not be denied of this right as citizens of Nigeria. He said, “ The conduct of the accused persons cannot be classified as mutiny. By virtue of Section (52) (3) of the Armed Forces Act, a mere protest by soldiers is not a mutiny because ingredients of the offence of mutiny have been judicially defined in the case of CPL Segun Oladele and 22 Others versus Nigerian Army (2004)” He said that Oladele’s case had to do with a similar protest by 23 soldiers over the illegal seizure of their estacode and lack of adequate medical treatment after serving Africa in ECOMOG Peace Keeping Force in Liberia and Sierra Leone. The 23 soldiers were tried, convicted and sentenced to various terms of imprisonment, including life imprisonment, but the Court of Appeal set aside their conviction and the sentences passed on them. [size=18pt]Comments:[/size]
* Let those who think that Nigeria could still change come together to work towards that change, let us not be bothered about how long it might take, as long as we continue to work for a better future then soon we can make a difference. There are so many duplicated organisations out there that have almost the same objectives but would not work together. If those leading the struggle in these organisations really want change, then they should be ready to work with anybody that shares the same ideas
Posted by: Olasunkanmi Ola, UK , on Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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* This is terrible,justice expeditely dispensed on this matter while the criminal oil stealing generals both serving and retired do not get justice.What about the corrupt politicians and government officials who have looted Nigeria dry?Any justice for them?Ooh what a terrible country,big SHAME.Another indication that the law is meant for the poor and ordinary Nigerians.Failed and backward country.This is really disgusting.Cursed country.
Posted by: Edu Ogbonna , on Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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* We have selfish Nigerians at the realm of affairs who only think about buying latest jeeps and building houses in various part of the country at the expense of the poor and suffering masses whose money they still steal to fund their lavish life style. Nigeria has more than is needed to meet our obligations to the poor masses but nobody is ready to do the necessary thing.
Posted by: Olasunkanmi Ola, UK , on Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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* I am going to challenge every one of us on this forum to look at ourselves and think about the ordinary man on the street of Nigeria who can not meet his daily needs because he is disabled or couldn’t get a job and the government keep saying that this same man should find a solution to his own problem. I live in UK, and the government give a weekly allowance of £50 to jobless individuals on top of housing benefit, free health, free training to get another job.
Posted by: Olasunkanmi Ola, Uk , on Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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* Its important to obey constituted authorities, But i feel pity for theses 27 young men who happen to be soldiers in a country where anything goes.I suggest that these laws/constitution be amended so that those that stole and embezzled their allowance receive the life sentences while the junior officers receive a warning against mutiny with light sentences of demotion from their present rank.That should be the proper order.
Posted by: STANLEY , on Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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* Most of us on this forum keep saying that the government should change, do anyone think that a house built on a bad foundation can ever be solid. Nigeria will still not change until great minds who don’t think about their own selfish interest lead a campaign to tell and then fight for the right of majority of ignorant Nigerians who can then cast votes from their mind to reliable people.
Posted by: Olasunkanmi Ola, Uk , on Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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* This story shows the same type of injustices that are being metted on ordinary civilians and until Nigerians get together and address the fundamental problems in our country, then it will always be business as usual. Political office holders who stole millions are been set free and those that get caught are given laughable sentences. In the developed countries anyone that steal from the people are sometimes given life imprisonment to deter others.
Posted by: Olasunkanmi Ola, UK , on Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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* No issue here let the legal team procced to the court of appeal.The good thing here is the right to appeal.
Posted by: Sonny Adenuga, Essex , on Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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* It is a shame that a country like Nigeria will still allow such type of injustice to be perpetrated on ordinary soldiers whose salary in the first instance is peanut in comparison to what is given to other workers in private banks or oil companies. Where does the head of the military want these brave soldiers to feed their family from if they don’t fight for their allowances? It is an absolute nonsence to jail them for life because of an obsolete law that was set up during military dictatorship.
Posted by: Olasunkanmi Ola, UK , on Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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* God works in mysterious ways.The good lord has set the mass murderers of niger deltans against themselves.these convicted criminals in uniform (convicted by fellow criminals in uniform!!nollywood could not have come up with a better story line!!)are only atoning for the sins the evil and criminal enterprise they work for has been commiting against niger deltans.THIS IS JUSTICE FROM ON HIGH!!
Posted by: Airlord , on Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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* Heeee.what a stupid,shameful and disgraceful country.How I wish the soldiers in barracks will execute the deciding judge immediately bc such can happen to any oneday.There is nothing that is not possible in Nigeria.What a wicked and dark reward.USA recruiting people around the world in their ARMY absolutely taking care of them.Here thwardted fellow punishing our prode men and women.What on earth can lead to such punihment.ANYWAY LET SEE WHAT THE PRESIDENT WILL ABOUT THIS. HEEEE YA,HEEE YA, HEEE
Posted by: Dominic peter , on Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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* They should have gotten a eternal injunction like the GREAT ODILI of Rivers State. Those criminals stole their money and now want to kill them.
Posted by: James Abam , on Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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* It is funny that in Nigerian Military corruption is welcomed .One that alerted the public of corruption was sentenced to life while the one who actually committed the crime got demotion. God is watching, Hope they are not bringing ruin to themselves and Family.
Posted by: kennedy , on Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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* Haba, this is disgraceful and just too harsh to these young soldiers. The end shall surely justify the means. I prophecy now that the power in blood of our Lord Jesus Christ shall set these young soldiers free in no distant future. This is a sad and sober moment for all mothers and fathers in this country. Sad indeed. Darkness if taking over the light.
Posted by: Usman Abdul-Azeez Adegoke , on Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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* what a useless country. i was shocked after reading this story. Is this the best way to reward these people for serving their country? I cant believe this.The UK government is busy making efforts to raise enough money that would serve as compensation to their wounded soldiers and here we are sentencing our own soldiers to life imprisonment. This is silly.
Posted by: Chukwuma Edozie , on Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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* THIS IS UNFAIR I DONT EVEN KNOW WHAT IS WRONG WITH ALL OUR PEOPLE IN NIGERIA CLAIMING THAT THEY ARE THE BEST.THIS WAS DUETO THE FACT IT IS ONLY IN NIGERIA THAT YOU WILL SERVE GOVERNMENT AND AT THE END OF THE DAY NOTHING TO RECIPROCATE THE GESTURE FOR YOU,NO WONDER PEOLPLE PREFER TO STAY AWAY FROM THE COUNTRY.IT IS A FACT THAT ALL THESE PEOPLE ARE ENTITLED TO ALLOWANWANCES.WHAT IS DELAYING IT THAT MUST BE THE QUESTION OF THE LAWYER NOT LIFE IN JAIL.KNOW THAT GOD IS IN CONTROL.
Posted by: IKENNA JANE , on Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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* This is over the top! Banana country. Is this how you toy with the lives of soldiers who put their lives in harm’s way to protect Nigeria? Probably this is also to tell civil society that Yar´Dua would become the real Frankenstein monster and met civil society with all nastiness if they embark on strike any day. Yar´Dua is trying seriously to cower the populace by this ruling. Life for what! And heavily corrupt politicians are having field day! This system can’t sustain itself. I’ll broke down
Posted by: S. Njokede , on Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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* WONDER SHALL NEVER END AND IT IS ONLY IN NIGERIA U SEE SUCH THINGS. HOW CAN U SENTENCE PATRIOTIC SOLDIERS THAT WENT TO LIBERIA FOR PEACE KEEPING, THIS ARE THE ONCE AMERICA DON'T PLAY WITH. AT THE SAME TIME THIS SAME SOLDIERS WERE SHORT CHANGED IN SALARY AND U SENTENCE THEM FOR LIFE IMPRISONMENT ?. ONLY GOD GO BAPTISE UNA FOR ALL THE WRONGS AND SHAME OUR LEADERS AND THOSE IN CHARGE OF ALL LEVEL OF AFFAIR IN THE COUNTRY HAS PUT US THROUGH. I JUST DEY SHAME FOR THIS COUNTRY.
Posted by: OTIS RAWL , on Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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* all this kangaroo judges will never no peace for thr rest of their life.how can you owe and even paid their money to another person and still sent them to jail because they ask for their money. this are the people who risk their life to fight for the name of the country,yet they were not be hpardon. injustice will never allow nigeria to grow.what do they want them to eat when their entitlement were not paid,who will take care of their family now? i no God in heaven will judge.
Posted by: charles babalola , on Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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* This is the consequence of unchecked corruption in the army! If the Nigerian soldiers can no longer be paid there entitlement timely but sent to jail for asking to be paid same then we are getting to the catastrophic point. We will continue to drift toward that catastrophic point unless there is a cleansing social revolution to get things working right. The jailed officers should have used their gun right away on the people holding their entitlement. Military protest shuldn't be civil at all.
Posted by: Ujams , on Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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* This is the consequence of unchecked corruption in the army! If the Nigerian soldier can no longer be paid there entitlement time but sent to jail for asking to be paid same then we are getting to the catastrophic point. We will continue to drift toward that catastrophic point unless there is a cleansing social revolution to get things working right. The jailed officers should have used their gun right away on the people holding entitlement. Military protest shuldn't be civil at all.
Posted by: Ujams , on Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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* This is complete bullshit. Woe betide the presiding judge. After the top military brass stole this soldiers money, then you want to sentence them to life jail. Bunch of Nonentities in power. The whole world will know about this, and the stupidity of u idiots.
Posted by: Wale Adeleye , on Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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* na wa for this home video called naiija. what's on the next episode?? some juniour forces agitating for for a coup?
Posted by: concritic , on Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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* Fact is that discipline in the Army is not negotiable. If you dont like it, you leave and join the civil service- PERIOD. I feel sorry for these guys, but they knew fully well what they were getting themselves into. I pray it is commuted to dishonorable discharge though,
Posted by: Gee , on Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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* This is unconcionable the justice handed down on the innocent soldiers after helping in the course of restoration of peace.They must appeal the sentence through UN PEACE-kEEPING FORCE they all represent .People protesting for non-payment of their wages-this is really unfair,they must appeal the sentence.What a blind eye judgement!
Posted by: abimbola kumapayi , on Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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* Don't bother. If you, a civilian, run into the convicts on the street while they are in uniform, they don't mind treating you far worse than what they are getting. Remember Uzoma. These people have no regard for civilised conduct. As a soldier and minister of Communications under IBB, the current senate president, David Mark, said telephone was not for the poor.
Posted by: Olukayode Anigilaje , on Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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* this is unfortunate
Posted by: crespo , on Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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* Well the defense lawyer rightly called a charade. This is just wasting peoples' time and money. The idiotic army tribunal should even be tried for coming up with such judgement. Nigeria keeps going backward in everything, Barbadash!
Posted by: Ejikeme Nwagboso , on Monday, April 27, 2009
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* IS THIS AN ARMY HEADED BY A SO CLLED PHD HOLDER,I DONT KNOW HOW HE GOT HIS SO CALLED PHD.THESE OFFICERS(GEN) ARE ILLITRATES WHILE SOME OF THEM ARE HALF BAKED EDUCATED OFFICERS,THEY DONT THINK RIGHT,HOW CAN U GIVE D MAJOR CRIMINALS LIGHT PUNISHMENT WHILE THOSE WHO WERE OPPRESSED ARE GIVEN MAX,I VE SAID IT IN MY PAST COMMENTS,SO ITS NOT NEW TO ME.IF TRULY THE ARMY HAVE A WAY OF DOING THEIR THING,DOES IT MEAN THAT AN OFFICERS CAN NATCH SOLDIERS WIFE & THE SOLDIERS WILL STILL GO TO JAIL FOR IT NAWAO
Posted by: OGBENI NAIJA , on Monday, April 27, 2009
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* This judgement is to harsh. what type of judgment is this? I don't know much about the procedure to help those soldiers have their life back. I thought the worst case they will be release from Nigeria Army without their allowance. I wish Akeredolu can talk about this instead of Ekiti election
Posted by: LASTP , on Monday, April 27, 2009
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* WHAT HOPELESS,USELESS & WORTHLESS ENTITY CALLED NIGERIAN ARMY,ROBBED THE SOLDIERS OF THEIR RIGHT AND CONVICTED THEM.THE WRATH OF GOD WILL DEFINATELY COME UPON ALL THE NIGERIAN OF OFFICERS WHO CAUSED,PROSECUTED,TRIED & JAILED THESE SOLDIERS FOR PROTESTING FOR THEIR RIGHT.YOUR FOURTH GENERATION TO COME WILL EVER SURFER WORST THAN WHAT YOU HAVE MADE THESE SOLDIERS TO SURFER.ARE THESE OFFICERS RIGHTEOUS? MALU DESTROYED SOLDIERS IN LIBERIA BUT WHERE IS HE TODAY HALF ALIVE HALF DIED .YOU WILL SURFER
Posted by: OGBENI NAIJA , on Monday, April 27, 2009
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* true individuals who would have this country at heart would help give Nigeria a forcus. This judgement is really going to demoralize the rank and file of the army and it is dangerous for a lawless country like Nigeria.May nemesis come soon.
Posted by: Akin Jacobs , on Monday, April 27, 2009
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* It is true that the army has its own laws and all under her must be seen to be subject to it, but this case is a slap on the face of that law. The dimension it has taken is very unfortunate because it implies that the long practice of dening individuals justice even for those that have served their father land at every capacity only concretize the assumption of Nigeria as a jungle, a failed state leaving on borrowed time. I pray for the families of the soildiers and look forward to someday when
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| Romance › Re: Help My Gf Hardly Calls Me by JJYOU: 10:31am On Apr 28, 2009 |
190:
well this topic is as bold as the subject
my Gf who happens 2 be in her finals @ a reputable
school somewhere in Nigeria hardly calls me,
she hardly even flashes, most tymes i send her airtyme and
she exhaust it on ONLY GOD KNOWS WHAT
I have talked,complained,[size=24pt]beaten[/size], done everytin but yet
no results,i recently met her family and things are kinda goin smoothly
although i cant fully say she's cheatin on me cos our relationship
is kinda a long distant one, we have been goin out 4 up 2 yrs now
and i dont fully trust her but yet still loves her like when i met her rite from day 1
pls 2 cut the long story short, i want 2 know why is it that she hardly calls me
she's not that busy 2 even flash or send a short i miss u message, is it that all these airtime
i send her,she uses it in calling other guys, im confused
ermac a close pal of 190 how many others do you beat? do they all call you? |
| Foreign Affairs › Re: Obama: What Family Is All About by JJYOU: 1:38am On Apr 26, 2009 |
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| Family › Pick Wife For Your Son? by JJYOU(op): 1:37am On Apr 26, 2009 |
[size=18pt]Pick wife for your son?[/size] By GIDEON OPARINDE {08076616717 tomgidops@yahoo.com] Sunday, April 26, 2009 http://www.sunnewsonline.com/webpages/features/wiveslive/2009/apr/26/wiveslive-26-04-2009-001.htm•Funmilayo A few decades ago, it was customary for parents to marry for their children, especially mothers, who take delight in match-making their children with family friends. The practice was so rampant that any marriage contracted outside this norm was unacceptable to parents. Most parents, at the time, believed they were more knowledgeable about life and marriage to pick the right wife or husband for their children. In fact, some children were even betrothed from birth or at infancy while the spouse, in this case the man waits for his ‘wife’ to mature. The trend is no more rampant, although it is still prevalent in some cultures. But not a few families still cherish the idea, especially those in the upper stratum of the society. They may not agree that it is for material benefit as they see it as a way of strengthening family ties. As a mother, would you pick a wife for your son? FUNMI ABISOYE I think he should be old enough to decide what is right for himself. This as well applies to my daughter. The only way I could come in is to guide against choosing the wrong person. It is a joyful thing that our children get married and live happily with their familes. That is the joy of every parent. MRS BANJO Not in this present generation anymore. During our own days, no one did such to me, so why should I do it? He is mature enough to make his choice and decision, whatever the case may be. Life is more than just suggesting or bringing a wife for one’s son. If anything goes wrong with the marriage, who would bear the brunt? Definitely, I would be blamed for introducing a wife to him. KARIMAT To me, it is not a problem at all. It is something we can resolve amicably. Although it happens, parents at times may want to guide against some odds or try to prevent marital problems in future. I don’t kick against parents doing this. After all, it is just a suggestion not enforcement. MRS AREMU I cannot choose for my son because my parents did not choose a husband for me. I can only pray for him that God should guide him aright and bless their home with every good thing in life. SHOLA BIODUN I won’t stop my son from marrying whoever he chooses to marry let alone a wife for him. All I’m concerned about is his happiness because if I choose a wife for him and he ends up not loving the girl, they will have problems for the rest of their lives. In this dishonour, I would regret it more. But if he brings home a girl of his choice, all I care about is love. If the lady has everything he desires in a woman, not after marriage he will discover they are no longer compatible. This I won’t accept as a mother. There must be no other marriage; all I’m interested in is their happiness and the blessings. MRS ADEDEJI I can suggest for him if I find out there is a responsible girl/lady I know her background and has confidence in. But that does not mean he does not have his own choice or opinion to make. For example, I might have a family friend, who has a responsible daughter. If she is a girl I like so much I may ask my son to give her a try. If he refuses, I wouldn’t have a choice than reason with him and pray for his success. More so, I will tell God to guide him to make the right choice and bless the home with happiness and everything that makes a successful home. EDIDIONG UDOH I don’t think there is anything bad for a mother to suggest a wife for her son so far she is not imposing her on him. In fact, it is a nice thing if every parent can do that because it shows clearly that such a parent does not want his/her child taking a wrong step. But some parents go the extra mile to impose a spouse on their children, which I consider an abuse of their right of freedom of choice and expression. Some parents match-make, especially between two rich families. MRS MOMOH Yes, because I have been a good mother that wants something good for myself and the children. I will recommend a very good and caring lady for him. It is now left to him to accept her as his wife. BRENDA It takes serious time and carefulness. Every good mother wouldn’t want her child to go astray. Suggesting who to marry is not at all bad. It is like giving your child an idea of the type of person parents want their wards to marry. It is a picture of the person she wants her son to live with for the rest of his days. I don’t think parents could do it with a negative mind, except for those who are greedy and are after material wealth of another person’s family. MRS BAMIJOKO I don’t think it is polite for a grown-up child to be forced on another person for marriage. After all, he has his own taste and kind of person he would love to spend the rest of his life with. You might suggest a wife for him but the true love might not be there. What actually sustains relationship is genuine love and nothing more. Any mother who wants happiness for her child shouldn’t attempt it. LAMIDE It is not bad; at least it is not imposition. If my mother suggests the guy I should marry, I will try to know if he is my taste. If I like him, why reject her suggestion? After all she can’t do it out of a wicked heart. It all depends on offer and acceptance. I would accept the offer if he is the type of man I want and if he is not, I’ll tell her he is not. 
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| Romance › Re: Men Would You Easily Forgive Ur Woman If She Rains Insults On You? by JJYOU: 1:26am On Apr 26, 2009 |
Lax75:
Diva 1.
It's cool. You will be ok because you have a conscience. That's why you are on here. I am fine. My upbringing and experience when I was married really made me a stronger and better person. It has given me a great testimony.
Always remember that Obama didn't get to where he is with a woman that pulled him down through insults. Sometimes I wish women knew how much power you guys have in a man's life. Be wise in your use of this power and build up, don't tear down. verbal and physical abuse are same in my book. never permit it. |
| Family › Re: What's A Woman's Duty In Marriage? by JJYOU: 1:22am On Apr 26, 2009 |
i have seen all your responses.
naturally as expected most women are in support of being idale cos of pregnancy.
they forget one thing that its a natural for them to do.
nobody is telling them to do anything from the extra ordinary.
women that are lazy see pregnancy as an excuse to idle and lazy away.
but in all i believe in support which i give to my wife and i expect her to supportive in all she does. u still get mouth dey talk kanayo. wetin be the meaning of kanayo? |
| Romance › Re: Men Would You Easily Forgive Ur Woman If She Rains Insults On You? by JJYOU: 1:19am On Apr 26, 2009 |
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| Islam › Re: Do We Have Testimonies In Islam As We Do Have In Xtianity by JJYOU: 2:28pm On Apr 24, 2009 |
todak:
Well, I mean tetimonies like rasing the dead, making the blind see, making the lame work, like a AIDS patience after the jumat service, going back to hospital and later told it is negative, and so many more like we do have in Christiandom. plz lets be discrete here, i am just a curious person who want to know. yea yea with some dodgy watches, batteries and loads of beggars too. mostly in front of churches they intend to burn down some day. more like creating victims and pains than curing. how can God hear people full of violence and hatred? if you were God for 1 minute would you hear a group of people like that? |
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| Family › Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Slowly by JJYOU: 2:15pm On Apr 24, 2009 |
Leilah:
my marriage is far from horrible. Thats why my husband is with me all the time. IF YOUR MARRIAGE IS WONDERFUL WHY DO YOU THINK NIGERIAN MEN ARE EVIL THEN? WHO GAVE YOU THAT IDEA? you are such a wicked twisted woman i am beginning to believe you hate yourself. you have moved to bashing morocco men so can you go enjoy your marriage and leave us alone please. gabrywyl:
Yes cause I love you ooo  gaby, pls go back and see leilah poisonous words. she is nasty. |
| Nairaland General › Re: What Will Happen When Nairaland Reaches 1 Million Users by JJYOU: 1:46pm On Apr 24, 2009 |
edojat:
What do yo think will happen when Nairaland reaches 1 million users,
When do you think this will happen.
Left to me I think the Nairaland server will crash due to insufficient hard disk space by then, SOME MODERATORS WONT GIVE U THE PLEASURE |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Edos Make We Represent Here Like True Edolite. by JJYOU: 1:41pm On Apr 24, 2009 |
registering my presence |
| Romance › Re: Will You Accept Your Ex After He Gets Married To Another Girl? by JJYOU: 1:36pm On Apr 24, 2009 |
sistawoman:
Children born out of wedlock here in the states are called bastards. I dont know the word for it in nigeiria, but why would she want to have a basterd.
Why would she want to have a child that would be a secret?
A child that could not acknowledge thier own father in public?
Live with the shame of having a baby out of wedlock and no father around because she cant tell people who the real father is? that is why the world is sinking in an ocean of sin. too many illegitimate people creating another sets of illegitimate generation. USA, UK AND NAIJA ARE DEFINATELY NO1 ON THE LIST. |
| Romance › Re: Can A Stingy Man Change? by JJYOU: 1:32pm On Apr 24, 2009 |
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| Crime › Re: Island Of Sin •untold Story Of Tarkwa Bay Lagos Nigeria by JJYOU(op): 1:20pm On Apr 24, 2009 |
tpia:
because I found the story interesting.
dont know what to say, really. tpia lost for words, that is a first. long may it last |
| Christianity Etc › Re: Is Television Evangelism By Force? by JJYOU: 1:17pm On Apr 24, 2009 |
KunleOshob:
You can post what you like but my opinions and posts are not fueled by baptist beliefs and doctrines: it is fueled by the holy spirit living within me  your critical and holier than thou spirit is more likely to be fueled by an unholy spirit than the Holy Spirit the bible showed us. did you not read the Spirit of God is a gentle Spirit that dont strive with men |
| Foreign Affairs › Re: Nigerian Girl Faces Racist Threat For Winning Uk Beauty Contest. by JJYOU: 1:04pm On Apr 24, 2009 |
Sky-walker:
Guy haba £600 no bad now. why u dey mess us?.
BUt i agree with you say dem be racist sha. Na everywhere.No b only UK.
Na only Naija i know wey dey treat foreigners with too much respect sha there are more tribalists in naija than you have racists in britain. Quote from: [size=18pt]LadyT [/size]on Today at 11:28:59 AM
Is your visa stuck at the embassy or something?
I suggest 3 days fasting and prayer with periodic screaming of Holy ghost fire! [size=22pt] WINNER BEST POST OF THE WEEK[/size]. many thanks |
| Romance › Re: Men Posing As Women And Vice Versa. by JJYOU: 12:49pm On Apr 24, 2009 |
tpiah:
people should shine their eyes I guess. i mentioned this last year cos while using a cyber cafe at ibadan i saw a guy typing away while the lady was sitting in front of the webcam |
| Christianity Etc › Re: Pastor W.F Kumuyi's Wife Is Dead? by JJYOU: 12:45pm On Apr 24, 2009 |
tpiah:
I watched part of today's service, and I really feel for Pastor Kumuyi and the kids.
Lord have mercy sha. A wonderful woman- her children look like they had a mother who was beautiful in spirit. First time I'm seeing them, btw.
I wish she'd received all these accolades before her death.
God is in control. One should give praise when its due- you never know if tomorrow will be too late. I'm really learning a lesson from her life. lady T, so you are now sister T? this is wonderful. i didnt know you wazzz a sister. NL is very good. what was your name yesterday? sherifatou or something like that? |
| Romance › Re: Can A Stingy Man Change? by JJYOU: 12:30pm On Apr 24, 2009 |
ammamat:
This is the problem we have in our part of the world. Women expect men to do everything for
them. You are hungry and because a man you just met did not over reach himself and rush
you to the nearest MR BIGGS or TANTALIZERS you quickly conclude that 'he is stingy'. With a
mentality such as this, no wonder our ladies fall for men who offer them food and take them
to bed the next minute. Are really that cheap?
George D:
I should say u do not know what u are talking why becoz u ve not read my reply well.
Fine if u did not have cash to take care of me at that moment why did u have to borther me coming to ur office when I alredy let u know my situation, Do u know what its mean for one to work since moring without eating, okay did u expect me disobey him or what?, Do u expect me go out while getting there to get food when the street is no go area, if am got and reap what will he do?, its seem u don't understand my point.
Please is rather adviceable to read well before contributing. what is all this nonsence about disobeying / obeying someone who cant buy ordinary food for your belle? did i hear you both went on one okada? what is the attraction to this kanayo type of a man? you wont run away now amebo no1.:
ammamat ignore the people insulting you
i myself misunderstood ur story until i read it all
my onl advice to u is,when u meet such a man again,dont do everything he tells u,if u do it,he will call u cheap and desperate
if i were u ,i would have told d okada man to stop,come down and walked away , instead of staying with him till 10.30pm
seriously i think u brought this insult upon urself,u acted desperate you are real no 1. some people give smart ladies a bad name. imagine a guy used to choping bole and epa being asked for dinner. the family member warned you before hand. |
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| Properties › Re: Get Ready For Property Price Crash In Lagos by JJYOU: 12:34pm On Apr 23, 2009 |
will price of anything ever come down in nigeria? |
| Romance › Re: Should I Move On? by JJYOU: 12:26pm On Apr 23, 2009 |
wbb |
| Literature › Re: Chimamanda's New Book: 'The Thing Around Your Neck' by JJYOU: 12:25pm On Apr 23, 2009 |
nuzo:
No offense, but is your brother intelligent as well? Abi him wan come spoil the Adichie's brilliant lineage?
Just curious. he must be judging by the sisters brain. Nestoville:
I have read Chimamanda's book Purple Hibiscus, which i ordered from the Kachifo store last year, and i must confess i was touched. For someone used to reading a lot of foreign literature it was a relief to be able to read an indigenous author and not want to keep the book down. Her understanding and expression of our culture is impressive. I look forward to reading her latest book! get the cd and hear her reading it. it is very good |
| Romance › Re: Re: Pls Tell Me. by JJYOU: 12:21pm On Apr 23, 2009 |
kanayo74:
poster
if u dont know what to do please blow whistle kanayo, you come out today. i think the home work don too much you no fit commot for house come cyber. why you open thread and run away without update? |
| Romance › Re: Please Where Do I Go From Here In This Present Situation? God forgive me. by JJYOU: 12:14pm On Apr 23, 2009 |
pasakosa Quote from: JJYOU on April 21, 2009, 11:05 AM
lhm
meaning Huh lhm means Lord have mercy. |
| Health › Re: New Insight To Condom by JJYOU: 12:10pm On Apr 23, 2009 |
amebo no1.:
whats my name doing here anyways u know how much some NLders love u. dont worry gossip is your reward |
| Family › Re: Friend's Wife Smuggled In A Preg by JJYOU: 12:07pm On Apr 23, 2009 |
sherifatou:
if the man has accepted the baby then what's the problem?
Was the baby a premmie and did they do another DNA test. problem is he is introducing foreigners into the family. tpia, wetin u do wey dem ban u now? not that it matters to NL nazis. u can be banned for asking questions |
| Literature › Re: Chimamanda's New Book: 'The Thing Around Your Neck' by JJYOU: 11:51am On Apr 23, 2009 |
Is she married?
my brother is looking for an intelligent wife sister nwabdo, your eyes sabi better thing. why you no give your bros NL comrades? dem no sharp reach abi? |
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| Nairaland General › Re: Fao Of Seun Site Administrator by JJYOU: 1:14pm On Apr 22, 2009 |
ElRazur:
Since you have kept your email hidden and I have no option of replying to your mail, I thought it would be logical to make an open post to you.
Well I see you posted this to me
Hi to you too. 
While I really don't know you, I will give you the element of doubt and think you are a reasonable person. Did you take time to investigate the matter before you sent me such pm, or are you just acting on impulse?
Here is a brief background information for you. RichyBlack made some ignorant statement and I pointed this out to him. He went ahead to claim that calling him "Ignorant" is an insult. I posted the definition of the word ignorant for him and showed him how his post are really ignorant. He ignored my post and instead went ahead to verbally insult me, calling me a swine. And then proceed to send this pm to me
Now, as far as am concerned, I never insulted him. He was the one doing all the name calling and what not.
I really do not see how you [seun] can now send me this pm. Look, I am the type that dont back down like I said before, most especially when I haven't done anything wrong. Your PM is nothing but a threat and to be quite honest, I expect better from you.
Please take time to investigate things properly.
Thank you. Seun:
I don't have as much time as you think I have. Be nice, obey the rules, and don't fight with moderators. what can i say> debosky dont do respect |
