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Rubbish!

There are better things to worry my good head about than what women want or don't want.

Zee0007:
If the food you give your children was enough for them, they won't bother collecting from the cook.

Try dey give your children beta food go school and stop blaming the government everytime.

Y'all typing rubbish here fail to understand the true message being passed across here. Some people somewhere are busy looting the government funds through that school feeding scheme.

Billions of naira are being budgeted for this program while some few individuals are looting that fund, yet you don't see the evil in that.

One of the reasons Nigeria would remain the way it is that people like you are always quick to justify evil actions of the political class

With all these deaths and sicknesses befalling our political class, MOTHER NATURE is trying to pass a message across to them but many of them are too narrow-minded to think and understand.

The message is:

Stop these attitudes of looting our commonwealth dry with the hope of storing them up for yourselves and your children. Use these funds to develop your country so that your children and the children of the common man can have equal opportunities to thrive!

Develop our healthcare system for the betterment of all and sundry.

Fund education so that your children and children of the common man can have equal access to sound education.

Stop being dark-hearted and selfish!

When the likes of George Washington and other great Americans were fighting for the America of today, it was never about their selfish ends but about the idea of creating a great nation for ALL. Why can't we create a political system that would be driven by the ideology of building a Greater Nigeria for ALL?



RIP to the young man...

And if you had asked this lady when they were starting, she would have claimed she was "in love" with the guy.. Now the infatuation they called love could not sustain the marriage!

I'm sure other well-behaved and responsible men asked for her hand in marriage but she turned them down with the excuse of not loving them.

In any society where women mistake their infatuations for love and marry aszholes as a result, divorces and broken homes become the order of the day. This is because women's infatuation readily clears from their eyes when marriage realities set in. This is what obtains in most woke societies like the west and in southern Nigeria.

Rozross:
We call his type a Small Man. He forgot that the house belongs to his children as well. , people should learn to practice the habit of Paulse and not act in anger.

"Small Man" must be another blackmailing title for men who refuse to take sh1t from women.

The man did well. Kudos to him for having some balls

Remaining a virgin in this modern depraved world is an indication of a high level of discipline and self control. Being disciplined and having self control are great qualities that can help sustain marriage and make the couple successful in this 21st century.

Being a virgin means that the likelihood of the girl haven had an abortion is very low, so the womb and the entire reproductive organs are still intact. Therefore, the man would be less likely to go through the stresses and humiliations of struggling to bear children.

Also, being a virgin means less chances of some exes lurking around and possibly sleeping with your wife according to Okafor's law.

Such a wife you married as a virgin is also much more likely to impart good morals on your children thereby lifting the burdens of having immoral children off your head.

Northerners will continue to utilize their population advantage to teach the south political lessons until sense falls on all of us down south.

Ayooade:
I know pple would say this, but to some extent, the guy is ok and i also have my job, its not abt having money or not. Atleast all my relationships, most of my ex had nothing when i was with them. It just didn't work

Tell yourself the truth, relationship with those exes of yours didn't work because you considered yourself richer than the guys and so became disrespectful. No man wants to be disrespected by a richer wife, so those guys bailed.

You're simply looking for a richer man whose money would be deemed "ours" while your own money remains "yours". I'm sure that when such man comes along, you'll muster all the "emotional connections" in this world to be with him. Keep waiting while you age and become less desirable.

Like I have always said, the spiritual realm is a reality but organized religions like Christianity, Islam and the rest could make one doubt the spirituals due to various conflicting/competing teachings and believes.

The people who were closer to understanding the spirituals were the traditional worshippers of old, the witchcraft practitioners and early deep thinkers( philosophers and scientists). Provided they do not delve into doing evil using the negative (dark) energies, these people were the best in leading people to spiritual reality.

Wilgrea7:
So according to you, everyone that dies is evil?

The flood victims... The policemen.. all evil?

Even Jesus Christ that faced persecution and died gruesomely on the cross must have been evil according to that guy you quoted.

uche40:
How do you define a "mistake"? The way I see it, that epithet can only be ascribed to an action that is acknowledged to be flawed by the subject itself. Can you really have any say on what others besides yourself consider to be regrettable?



Lol. Are you THE authority on wisdom now?



I wasn't aware that there's a standard definition of LOVE approved by, and recommended for, ALL women. Perhaps you have citations for that claim?

Meanwhile, I've noticed that the majority of posters on this thread appear to be conflating love with infatuation. These two concepts aren't exactly synonymous. With love, there is also respect, and trust, and friendship, and communication, and acceptance. Any relationship built on these principles will last much longer than a relationship built on specious and misguided desires which are often mostly characterized by attraction to shallow features. For example, you can't just decide to spend the rest of your life with someone simply because he makes you laugh or he's a good-looking stud, or maybe because he's a walking encyclopedia or a walking bank.

Something else I find absurd is your casual rejection of mutual affection as a prerequisite for marriage. If you don't find such an idea appealing, it's perfectly fine. What's not fine is you trying to dictate to others what they should feel going into a marriage.



If you insist on making the implied assertion that a woman should marry a man who loves her, even when she feels no attraction towards him, you will have to explain how long you think such a union, which isn't based on mutual attraction that is meaningful, will possibly last.

People's idea of love is always about infatuation based on bodily attraction. When such infatuation is coming from a woman, it becomes worse because it hardly sustains a long term relationship as women lack the capacity to make the sacrifices required to sustain such relationship. So, they easily fall out of "love" and that explains why we have too many divorces and broken homes, especially among the woke western societies today where women have been made to believe that their "love" mattered in marriages.

UyaiIncomparabl:
There's no reality here. And also to inform you, staying single is not a crime. Pity how society has made and enforced women to think marriage is a means to an end and without it, they aren't achieved or complete. Not every woman has maternal instincts, and not every woman wants to marry and will marry.

See them. Always trying to have others make the same mistake they made.

To the wise girls reading my post, my point remains that you must not be fixated on the so called "mutual affection" or the women's definition of love if you want to get married and on time. You can only do that if our society changes to the point where a lady can walk up to the man of her choice, woo him, marry him and is expected to be responsible for him. Until then, you need to adapt to the biblical principle of " men love your wife and women submit to your husband".

The responsibility which the marriage institution places on a man can only be endured by a man with a large dose of love for his wife.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Sir, for women, there's nothing like "removing emotions". You are not a woman and you do not and may never understand how a woman's mind works. So, do not underestimate mutual affection. There are people with love to give out there and she'll find them.

No need arguing further with you! She, like many of her kind, will eventually find out the reality. I just hope it won't be too late for her.

UyaiIncomparabl:
They fell out of love because what they called LOVE was built on a shabby foundation. Go and verify. When you don't water love, it dies! A fragment of fondness is required. Do not underestimate mutual affection. Never do! If it worked for you, okay. Don't force it on her.

Anybody who's waiting for mutual affection in this generation is on a looooong thing!

Remove emotion for once and think logically about this, that is when you'll understand!

UyaiIncomparabl:
It's not.

It's in your head! That is why people easily fall out of it once they start living together.

How did he rape the woman abeg?

It was a case of consensual sex between two adults, so why arrest the man

See the yeye woman even claiming that he "lured" her into the sex. Women can never take responsibility for their actions!

Saintmary:
And so what?



You're not the first one to indulge in debauchery and mindless lasciviousness, neither will you be the last.


But when the true purpose of sex has eluded you while you were busy chasing shadows, you will have no one to come back to. No one will truly love you, no one will be faithful to you, you will spend your old age a grumpy old man, cynical like the foolish men who have gone on before you.

Loneliness will cut your life short, old age will add to your pains, you will have only money to console you, and that's if you didn't blow it all on women who will focus on their families when they're done with you.


What a pitiful inevitable end for foolish men.


Enjoy now, because you will pay later, it's the way of the world.



C'est la vie.

Bullsh1t!

As if anyone cares about a man before Men have always been used to loneliness and finding their own happiness their own way, so don't even threaten us with that loneliness at old age crap. It won't work!

Saintmary:
Your money that can barely feed the family, let alone cover all other expenses. In fact, nothing is left to buy the woman any treats.


Majority of women are working to supplement their family income, yet, they are saddled with house chores that is beneath men, double stress.


On top of that, you insensitive, selfish, callous, narrow minded nitwits are asking for porn style sex every night!



Just hold on to any woman foolish enough to kill herself in order to please you. But take this as fact: not all women are that foolish, so choose carefully.




Nonsense.

If you refuse to offer your husband great sex, small girls outside will offer him. In fact, the sex would even be more adventurous and fun.

Case closed

thebosstrevor1:
The man didn't commit any crime

I don't know what is wrong if a man goes after a 18 or 19 years old woman

As long as it is legal, it is his choice.

I wished the man in the video brought his Ferrari, he wont be disgraced like this

Evening newspapers are always envious of matured men dating younger girls.
Like this girl's mother is likely a single mother who is no longer getting hit on by men in the dating market, so attacking the man is her way of showing her frustrations at men who would rather choose her daughter over her old self.

It happens a lot even here on nairaland


They set the standards for the kind of men they want but men are not allowed to have their own standards.

IamMobisola:
Abegi. Nothing go do her.
She will move on to marry someone else happily

I pity the unlucky man that would go and put his head in that lady's matter.

gilgal7:
How I wish we can use the same juju energy to summon our political leaders for not doing what they promised us .... Naija problems would have reduced to 75% by now ... I always advice men to spend what you can afford to loose on ladies... Is the same thing as playing bet/gamble

Your individual juju cannot harm your elected/selected leaders, and that is why we need to be very careful with the kind of people we entrust with mantle of leadership. To harm your leaders, you'll need the collective spiritual efforts of the majority of the people that elected them. Achieving that spiritual feat is a Herculean task because that same leader you condemn has many other people singing his praises...

Saintmary:
Has the husband outlined how useful he is at home apart from dropping money?

If a man "drops" money like you put it, then the woman shouldn't complain of doing chores and also making out time to sex her husband. She could get a maid as well.

The last I checked, making money nor be beans! Or will you be comfortable switching roles

SeriouslySense:
I am curious, if you dnt mind, how where you spiritually enlightened.

Through personal experiences... like

1. Conversing with the spirits and getting to see things in the dream before they happen in real life. I have been able to help people avoid deaths by accidents after seeing the events in my dreams

2. I also experience trances where I interact with spiritual beings.

3. You might have heard that people receive unexpected financial favors after swimming in pools of feaces in their dreams, I have experienced that severally. The last one happened about 2 months ago. I was trapped in sewage water in my dream at night on for me to wake up to a heavy bank alert.

There are so many other experiences, but the spirits prefer to work with those who disclose less. So, I have learnt to keep things to myself, unless it's a life threatening experience.

Annahh:
Story. Demons speaking through him. Nothing like reincarnation. All jargons. It's not biblical. It is appointed unto a man to die once and after death comes judgement.

Get spiritually awakened my dear. Only then will you realize that religion is just a cage used to keep your mind limited.

gypsey:
And so what? What does that proves? Nothing! You said the death of your mother was painful, so it were still greaving and traumatized over your mother, you were seeking for anything that would remind you of your mother, ask your daughter when she is 20 years old and see if she would still repeat, dada me... you probarbly bombarded your kid daughter with pictures of your mother all over the house and kept tellling her about your mother, and how painful her death is to you. so the poor child became traumatized like you too. Child mental and emotional abuse comes to mind.

What you needed and still needs is a good psychiatrist , you need to accept that your mother is dead and gone. Your mother didn't come back as your daughter.

Good luck.

It's easy to spot spiritually blind people when they talk...

Bro, I'm a scientist but I have been spiritually enlightened enough to know that this life is spiritual.

That is one reason I see marriage as a setup against men in favour of women.

I know a man who traversed the nooks and crannies of Nigeria working with different construction companies. He took all manner of risks, sometimes sailing through a certain Nigerian sea every month just to bring home money for his family (sometimes he returned home at the dead of the night)--- bank transfer hadn't started working in Nigeria at the time.

The man was able to train all his children through the university and just as they were settling down, the man died of stress-induced disease. Today it is the wife that enjoys all the goodies from their children --- flying abroad for medical care and the rest.
Now, it is not like the wife didn't play her own roles sha, but of course, not as much as the sacrifices the man made.

The above example is why I believe that women are the major beneficiaries of marriage. Men are meant to only be drained until death. Even if he remains alive, the society will shame him should he become dependent on his children after training them. The life of a man!

Nigerians are inherently greedy and corrupt!

After all the exorbitant charges, managers of these schools would rather utilize the funds for self gratification--building private houses for themselves, buying the latest cars in town and flying their own children abroad for education.

Same thing is happening in private primary and secondary schools. Proprietors of such schools collect humongous school fees only to employ barely qualified teachers who they pay peanuts as salary.

Government needs to stop playing politics with key sectors like education and health!

Dissolve all the so called governing councils of the health and educational institutions and let the respective ministries work directly with managers of these institutions, under the supervision of government and nongovernmental regulatory agencies. These institutions' managers also need to be carefully selected and should be those with relevant managerial trainings and experiences. They shouldn't be restricted to people from a particular profession .

This way, it'll be easier for funds meant for these institutions to get to them and be utilized for the purposes they're meant for.
It'll also be easier for workers in these institutions to have their welfare needs known and attended to directly by government.

If we cannot directly privatize these institutions, then all the political bottlenecks should be removed. The last ASUU strike has made me to understand that it is the 'local' politicians in the various governing councils of government institutions that frustrate government efforts and cause us to run in vicious cycles without progress.

Michelle70:
And u think the population favours the north?

Do u ever think they are living a better life than u are?

But they're taking advantage of that politically. As it stands today, the north remains the determiners of who wins presidential elections in Nigeria due to their population.

While we are busy forming "woke" and embracing Western education in the south, the north is busy growing their population and taking political advantage of same.

We need a leveler, which is having only the civil law of Nigeria guiding every Nigerian and doing away with Sharia law and any other law outside the Nigerian civil law.

Sammy101111:
Bro why no focus on your academy and money
And stop playing with 20 years in prison

Does this same 20years in prison also apply to northerners I doubt.

Same country, different laws. Tell me why northerners won't have population advantage over southerners with such arrangements. Same population advantage they exploit during presidential elections.

All the different 'woke' women advocacy groups that fight against girl-child marriages down south really need to focus more on fighting such course up north. Anything outside that would continue to tilt the population balance in favor of the north.

Sorry for the epistle, just had to digress a bit to bare my mind on this.

One thing about most born footballers is that they always have the swag from childhood. When they play football with other children at that age, there's always a difference in the way they touch the ball.

Happy birthday to you, great baller.