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I'll advise that you still repeat the test before jumping into conclusion. This time, go to a lab scientist with experience, make sure the test is done by the lab scientist himself and not by quacks. That test can be tricky sometimes. I've carried out the test before.

Turn on --Ebony strong babes with banging body(moderate assz and fresh standing boobs, flat tommy and well curved and kissable lips). Has to be neat both in and out and wears sexy lingerie. Intelligent, classy, and doesn't pander to men but can stand her ground and correct her man when he is wrong. lolz


Turn off-- Dirtiness of any kind(i hate to see dirty under wears on a lady, yucks),
Lies, vulnerability, acting like a kid that has to be corrected all the time by her man(not saying she can't be corrected but some lady can't just get things done by themselves without looking up to a man, it turns me off!), laziness.

Hope i am not asking for too much

kenzysmith:
He is ryt he make someone look old and ugly and lost of memory

Masturrbation doesn't make people look ugly, lack of money does.

My brother run for your dear life oo. The signs are very clear for you to see. Don't let infatuation blind you.

Look for a decent girl with good family history and you would stand a chance of having a good marriage.

I wonder why you guys think that it is such a rocket science to code when your wife is cheating. The truth is that any man who doesn't decode a cheating wife is dull. The signs are always there for the smart ones to see, some men actually see it but overlook due to one reason or the other, maybe he too is cheating as well.

For me, even before a lady makes the move, I would know. My sixth sense is very active.

I'm studying pharmacy and I'll choose it over and over again. No alternative

Any lady that accepts a date with this guy in place of 200k deserves a resounding slap.

I'm sure the delta babe is a tigress in bed! She just fvccked the guy's brains out, hence he had to dump your boring assz.

This is the danger of female genital mutilation. People should know that men's sexuality is evolving. Men no longer want to just climb and satisfy themselves alone. The pleasure in sex is actually when you see your woman getting pleasured as well or even more. So, let's stop female genital mutilation and let women have their libido.

Sorry op, it's obvious the guy didn't want a sexless marriage.

Carry on girl!

I love you!

Gourdoinc:
please leave him be, he is enjoying life to the fullest. he should smoke and drink more dear. the food crisis and rising population needs urgent solution. we need fools to die young and serve as manure for future generations

Let me tell you what you don't know:
Some people smoke, drink and sniff all whatnot yet live healthier and longer than those who think they would die. You may die before this young man even when you think you are clean and free. That is the reality of life.

Not that i encourage anyone to smoke or drink, but i think your comment above is insensitive to say the least.

You are free to crush on a married lady but dating and sleeping with her is a no no

gloria34:
being a gentleman doesn't make a guy a weakling. u don't have to be authoritative to show u are d head, its a complete turn off. I detest guys who pass commands as if I was born to do his biddings.

Then he is not "in control" if he has to look at your face first before giving you order on what to do, if he does things because he doesn't want you to feel bad, then you are indirectly "in control", not him.

gloria34:
I won't b happy being called a player because i'm cute, i prefer u judge me by my character.

a girl cannot own d sole right to friend zone me. I don't even like that stuff else we both wanted it that way. if I were a guy, I would prefer to walk out of such relationship.

asking a girl out will b a privilege to that girl. when I love, I give my all, so if she does that, it's her loss. I will move on

I won't want to switch roles if I were a guy. as a girl, I like a guy being in control(not authoritative), doing those gentlemanly stuffs. y would I want to switch roles?

How can someone be in control without being authoritative?
I feel that if he is doing those gentlemanly things you enjoy so much, then he is not in control, instead you are!

spokesboy:
Oh blood of Zachariah . You mean a monthly salary of 20 - 50k after 6 years in the university including cramming of botanical names of all living animals

"Botanical names" for animals Lol

You should have simply typed "Scientific name" or "Systematic name" if you wanted to sound like a scientist.

Botanical names are for plants.

barallanee:
All dis is talk...Na wetin d trend now...is oshiomole attractive?? Or is danjuma attractive Go and see slay queens marrying dem ....dey love dem unattractive

I tell you !

When I see some ajepako children with their fine face, i just begin to wonder if it is not better to have worwor children who live in wealth. I think it is better o. The world does not care how ugly u are when money is talking. Trust me.

ubunja:
onpoint.
even in the US women are pushing for house chores to be listed as unpaid work.and so push forward this idea that women are doing more work than men.
but if a guy did the same work the story changes: house chores are nothing. lmfaoooo

bro you are right.women complain house work is hard work, but if a man were to do it suddenly house chores are easy work.

Lolz. I was just laughing while reading their comments on this thread.

kennygee:
I have a colleague whose husband is unemployed, so he does most of the chores in the house and even starts cooking dinner before she gets home.

It might be his way of being "useful" in the house since he's unable to pay the bills for now. But even she complains of how she is losing herself as a woman. And her hubby no dey hear, e go still wash clothes for her before she come house.

I thought she was lucky, but she said she'd prefer it if he had a job.

And I thought some ladies say that doing house chores is also a JOB ? I read that very often on nairaland, so ladies, why are you people changing the goal post now ? Because a man is involved ?

Anyway, I believe domestic chores should be shared. No one should be housewife or househusband.

Coldfeets:
Only women can do that!

Guys are not so willing to do settle down in love with someone they don't necessarily find physically attractive.

When guys settle for such a person, just know that 'condition na im make crayfish to bend'.

This is not true. Real men don't place to much emphasis on a lady's beauty as a basis for marriage, only boys do. What real men want is peace of mind and support, and any lady who can guarantee him both wins his love.

It should be noted that anyone who "loves" for physical attractiveness is not different from those who "love" for money because both are after their selfish desires. Hahaha....

Beauty is in the eyes of the "beer-holder", so is attractiveness.


Who fine gehs epp. Any lady that can give me peace of mind.

Meanwhile, I would rather have not so fine children who swim in wealth than fine ones who are ajepako.
So, if my wife is not so fine or attractive but gives me peace of mind and support to hussle and make money together, i will not only love her but adore her as well.

MissWrite:
Yes. But nobody was implying that majority of Nigerian men who cheat on their wives did so because they were affected by the Madonna-Wh.ore complex. In fact, I didn't give the relevance of any of the four factors I listed on the frequency of cheating.

Just accept that the so called madonna-w.hore syndrome is not a reason why Nigerian men cheat.


Nice chatting with you. Btw, you are intelligent and i like that.

MissWrite:
There you go. So those numbers are just pulled out of the blue.

I was just trying to imply that majority of Nigerian men who cheat on their wives do not cheat because they love and respect their wives like you typed. Was just playing around ! I know it isn't proper to give figures like that when arguing on a topic one has not really researched on, but that is when you are sure to some extent that there is a possibility of the counter argument being true. But based on my years of interaction with married men who cheat, and also based on stories we read on the media, i haven't come across any case where a cheating man claimed that he cheats because he loved and respected his wife.

MissWrite:
Chai! Let me see the questionnaires you made them fill out to arrive at that number.

Has any cheating Nigerian man ever told you he cheat on his wife because he loves and respects her

Agreed i never did a formal research on the subject but my dear, we already know the outcome of such research if we are to conduct one.

predmine20:
She already knows that that is why she is even fighting hard to have these relationship. She told me she like my sense of dressing,the way i speak and stuffs like that.
But i av already made it known to her that i came to school to study not for relationship.

Send her a text message expressing yourself, that you ain't into her,period !
Don't let any lady drag you into a relationship, you are the one to pay o !
When the infatuation clears from her eyes, you will see the real person in her.
Some guys think that because a girl is into them, she will take everything they throw at her, that is not true oo ! When it clears from her eyes, she may Bleep you up at slight provocation especially if you don't have money.

So Op, concentrate on your studies for now, when you graduate and make money, go and get your wife. That's how it is supposed to be done. You are to look for your woman not her looking for you, you are the one to spend in the relationship.

MissWrite:
Yes, it is a real real sickness. A psychological disorder that is quite common where a person has been taught to believe that sex is dirty and shameful.

Hmmmm....But my dear, 99.999percent of nigerian men know from puberty that sex is not dirty and shameful.

MissWrite:
The Madonna-Wh.ore complex is actually a real life disorder, I didn't just invent it. Maybe look it up?

If at all that disorder exists in Nigeria it will be so insignificant to constitute a reason why Nigerian men cheat, and I must say that such a man is really really siiiiick.

MissWrite:
First, this might not be true for all men who cheat; and for those that do fall into the category, I think those men are best suited to answer this question. But if I were to hazard a few guesses I would say......

1. Bride-Price: Some men erroneously feel that they own their wives after paying the bride price. In their minds, she's been paid for in full to perform her duties to him and so he shouldn't have to sweat to make her cum.

2. The Madonna-Wh.ore Complex: Some men cannot respect a woman and be sexually aroused by her at the same time. They marry the women they respect (the Madonna) because they may make better partners and mothers (in their opinion). But they put them on a pedestal and cannot treat them as sexual objects. They would rather sexualize the mistress.

3. Ego: Some of these men date mistresses half their age; and if she's impressed by his performance, it would be a feather to his cap. He knows he's in competition with a younger dick; and even though he might have the advantage of deeper pockets, he would still like to be regarded a stud. Mistresses are also more likely to spread the word than the wives.

4. Over time, they just take their wife's sexual needs for granted. They see her busy with the kids, work and chores; she may not have the time to get sexy very often and so, they stop seeing her that way.

Your number 2 point is very wrong. Only a foolish man would cheat on the wife he loves and respects. It is actually the reverse i.e men only cheat on their wife if they don't love and respect her.

I'll say your number 4 point maybe correct for some men.

Again, some men have crazy sexual fantasies which they may not want to share with their wive, instead with their mistress.

In any case, it is only morally bankrupt men that cheat on their wives for whatever reason.

SayNoToCheating

It's not always about beauty !

Who wants to marry a showbiz lady
The guy might have considered the pros and cons and decided that it's not worth it, therefore he settled for a lady who's not in the limelight.

Jes move on lady...