₦airaland Forum

Pierohandsome:
Spiritual obedience is sensitive and personal. She acted based on the knowledge of ur spiritual level, decisions like that doesnt require any consultation frm third party especially if she knows the spiritual level of the person she is trying to confide with is low.

She did the right thing, be happy with Her and move on

Story for the gods !

You people should continue brainwashing gullible Nigerians especially women.

I wish i could meet a pretty atheist but logical lady for marriage.

KanwuliaExtra:
Poor you!
You have a lot to learn about marriage.
Stop living in a fantasy world.
2 people may ATTEMPT to become one.
You can NEVER be ONE.

After you warned her?
She means you should do your worst.

The “ex” is sweeeeter than you.

That's unfair !

Why didn't the ex marry her Why wait for another man to make commitment to the lady only for the ex to show up now

If the woman wanted an open relationship she should have just opted for that and not marry this man. This marriage thing sef. Getting more scary every day. It seems i would have to look for a girl who never had a boyfriend when i want to settle.


SayNoToCheating

Better than cheating with another man.

Anytime the husband is not around and conji comes knocking, she can always lock door and use that thing to do the needful instead of thinking about one stupid ex.



SayNoToCheating

Lawlahdey:
It's obvious from the chat that the woman is into masochism and submission.

You're right about the fact that she should have told him instead of cheating but perhaps the husband isn't that type of person.
But like I said...I can't blame her.

Why did she marry him in the first place

This why i said couples should try and know each other very well before marriage. Know the deepest fantasies your partner has. Ask questions, and observe how they react during sex.

Many people secretly fantasize being dominated by a superior sexual partner. It is a psychological thing and it is not even limited to females. You won't believe that some men keep dominant side chicks who control them, but when home they pretend to be dominant just because the Nigerian society expects men to be alpha and omega in the home.

I'm of the view that couples should open up to their partners on their fetishes instead of cheating on them. Dominants should seek for submissive partners while submissives should seek for dominant partners.Period

Medical Radiography is a good course. The job prospect is high because we haven't got many Radiographers in Nigeria. I have sec school mate who studied Radiography and he got employed immediately after service.

However, if your passion is to study medicine and surgery, then go for it. Meanwhile, you can accept the admission as an alternative while you retake JAMB to further seek admission for medicine.

It all boils down to irresponsibility. Many men are irresponsible and that is why a man would live his wife at home and be running after mistresses. Forget the lies about men being polygamous in nature. If men are truly polygamous in nature, we won't have those honourable men who are faithful to one wife.

Only irresponsible and foolish men cheat on their wives and unfortunately they are in large number in Nigeria, that is why Nigerian ladies see men as dogs

Juliearth:
I am sure all these married folks complaining had strategies mapped out,but things dont always go as planned. Pray for God's grace, wisdom and patience to handle things maturely.

My dear, in most cases it is lack of work and communication that kills marriages. After the initial euphoria, when the couple begin to get tired of the attractions that got them together, many people fail to work on the marriage to keep the union growing. Working on the marriage entails learning to be patient with each other, forgiveness, striving to play your roles very well and a lot of communication. It entails not giving your partner what you cannot take from him/her.
Marriage is not a bed of roses, but if the couple resolve to make it work, it will work.

Before I marry, I will take my fiance out on date in a quiet environment. We will sit down and have a heart to heart talk. We will fashion out a plan on how to make our marriage work. We'll develop methods of tackling issues that easily tear other people's marriages apart.

Even when we are married, we will still be going on such dates just to trash out any issues and forge a way forward. Marriage requires alot of work and those who fail in it are those who stopped working on it. Nothing good comes easy including a good marriage.

KushLyon:
If that's so, then go and build up an altar and start worshipping oracles since you are not "causing harm to anybody".....fornication is enjoyed by both parties involved, is it not a sin? Is one person harmed in the process?

I don't believe that any sexual act between two consenting adults who are not married to other people is a sin. Likewise, i don't believe that a solo sex done by an adult to satisfy his or her sexual urges is a sin. That's my believe and i am entitled to it.

vickydevoka:
omo na only 4 Enugu dem de do traditional marriage. omereo, ken eric now dis

Enugu ladies are in high demand.

KushLyon:
Masturbation and lust are 5 & 6.... While masturbating you usually have "someone" in mind you are smashing......that's lust ogbeni

Yet you are not causing harm to anybody, are you

Chukazu:
Why chose lesser evil when you can" avoid both?"

MastuRbation is not evil because you are not causing harm to anybody.
Provided you don't overdo it to the point of it affecting your sexual health, it's okay.

Nansense ! Better to mastuRbate than rape innocent girls.
Too many religious fanatics !

Espada211:
I am going to make this comment as a neutral person because I am not yoruba or igbo.

1)My observation, yoruba men should stop insulting themselves by the way they obsess and salivate over Igbo girls. It is sickining. How I wish you guys will direct some of that obsession towards yoruba women.You guys are embarrassing them and it is not Good. I was on Twitter when the real action started. Alot of yoruba women were lamenting on how yoruba men ( that is suppose to defend them ) left them in the thread they created and even follow other tribe to insult them .At the same time ,they were all over the igbo thread salivating and praising igbo women. Even dragging igbo women with igbo men. I am going to post some comments from yoruba woman lamenting on twitter-

a) Yoruba boys choosing igbo girls over Yoruba girls is what Jesus was referring to when he said "a prophet has no honour in his home"

b) @Adunnss_ I'm sha writing your names down, both men& women . Thread will finish & Igbo babes willcurve you . If you dare "Adunni ade" me, ma wo e nile bi aso akisa. LOOOOOOOL

2) Now over to Igbo men..you guys should stop defending una women , they are not all that..they are selfish and self centered and want to eat their cake and have it.....they are very quick to throw you igbo men under the bus...yoruba women ( in spite of everything ) will die for their men in an instant but igbo women won't die for you or even defend you guys as you are defending them..even here in Nairaland ..how many of them don come out in solidarity inspite of all una support..but check out the way few of them that even show face are trying to dimiss and belittle all una efforts...you know why because they love playing both sides to una detriment..they are too entitled because you guys make them feel that way and they are using it against you igbo men...Yoruba women have their own issues but I will take them over igbo women anyday ,anytime because they are more loyal and will follow whoever they love even to hell fire and back. Igbo women can never do that(they are too materialistic ). Igbo men stop making them feel entitled because you guys will regret it..go outside una tribe and marry like they do...many women of other tribe loves Igbo men with pasion and will do anything to get one, is just that they fear that
you don't love them too..and just want to use them and later on run back to igbo girls...stop that tribalistic behaviour. Belive me , if you guys just show half the same commitment and love to yoruba women..south east will be flooded with yoruba women and igbo girls will know they are nothing.
. That is why on twitter evn on NL...Most yoruba women are the one shouting men are scum ( because their heart has been broken to pieces)
while most igbo girls are the ones shouting broke guys bla bla


use una 3rd sense abeg

Sorry for all the typos.

I liked your post. Made alot of sense. As an igbo guy, I can't rule out the possibility of marrying a Yoruba girl if I meet good one. I'm into dark ebony ladies which yorubas have in large number. The problem will be in getting her to trust me and not think that I will treat her badly because of her tribe.

lizzypro:
Yes they are not mates but he is doing well than his friend that is a pharmacists. let him wait for another 365 days then

Stop lying !

Anatomy is the worst course anybody can study. Where would the person work ? Even in lecturing,their chances of getting employed are low because most of the Anatomy lecturers are doctors. So, tell me where an anatomy graduate would fit in.

On the other hand, Pharmacists are hot cakes in terms of employment because they are highly needed in pharmaceutical industries, hospitals, community pharmacy, administration, academia etc. Yet, we have few pharmacists on ground to take up the numerous job opportunities.

What matters is what you know and what you can bring on board not really your age.
Agreed that some companies place emphasis on age in their employment, but there are still many other companies who employ based on what you can contribute because they understand that age does not determine whether an individual would do well in a job or not.

I know many engineers who graduated even in their 35 and are gainfully employed. Meanwhile, hope you are not studying all those engineering courses with little or no job prospect ? If engineering is not Mechanical, Electrical, Civil, Computer and systems, Marine, Aeronautical, my brother I won't advice anybody to go for it.

Neenie:
Thank you dear.

Uwclm

Neenie:
Yoruba girls, we sef dey try nah. I am an average Yoruba girl nd Lord knows i’m not even photogenic

Yes,you are pretty i must admit.

Rainmaker69:
Written with the fire of youthful exuberance.
From experience, its so funny how quickly couples resolve their issues often against 3rd parties, esp extended family. Provided that she's an adult and in good physical and mental health, family members should as much as possible stay out of domestic altercations.

Not with my sister !

No man can turn my sister to a punching bag and expect me to clap for him. He will receive multiple doses of beating first before any other thing can be considered.

FTrebirth:
ikwerre girls beat both igbo and yoruba girls hands down!


no contest!

Ikwerre girls are igbo too

Afam4eva:
Even though people are fine irrespective of where they come from, i think Igbos are way finer than Yoruba girls on the average. Infact, it's not even a contest because Yoruba girls are not in the competition as far as physical beauty is concerned. Now, if we were talking of Igbo and Yoruba guys now, then the Yoruba guys could carry the day but not Yoruba girls.

Why do you think yoruba guys could carry the day ? Is it because of the media lies about so called "Yoruba demons"?

I'm asking because i stay in Lagos and meet Yoruba guys of different shapes and sizes and in my honest view they are not as handsome as their Igbo counterparts. The only fault I know that the Igbo guys have is that they are excessively arrogant and can do anything for money.

Afam4eva:
Even though people are fine irrespective of where they come from, i think Igbos are way finer than Yoruba girls on the average. Infact, it's not even a contest because Yoruba girls are not in the competition as far as physical beauty is concerned. Now, if we were talking of Igbo and Yoruba guys now, then the Yoruba guys could carry the day but not Yoruba girls.

Why do you think yoruba guys could carry the day ? Is it because of the media lies about so called "Yoruba demons"?

I'm asking because i stay in Lagos and meet Yoruba guys of different shapes and sizes and in my honest view they are not as handsome as their Igbo counterparts.

Op, one thing i have observed with Nigerians is that they are good at cooking up different false opinions and many gullible people take those opinions hook, line and sinker without even trying to find out the truth. An intelligent person would first analyze anything he hears and possibly carry out a research on that before concluding whether that is true or false, but NO, we don't do that hear. We live our lives on so many fallacies and that is why many people have continued to suffer.

Now, did you ask your friend how many married couples he studied before arriving at that conclusion ? I'm sure he didn't study any. Maybe someone else sold that fallacious claim to him and now he has sold same to you and that is how the lie would continue to spread.

You should know that people are very different in this life. It is possible that one ungrateful woman would not appreciate a dotting husband, but that doesn't mean that women generally show such attitude. It is only a foolish person that would prefer being treated without love to being shown love.

So, my advice is for you to keep being yourself. Even if you meet such a lady who doesn't appreciate being loved, dump her with immediate effect. It is her loss not yours. For every of such ladies, there are thousands of others who would appreciate being loved by her man.

keepingmum:
He was NEVER faithful to begin with. He already had a side piece at his base according to him.
He just decided to sleep with another side piece to massage his tiny dicck'ed ego.
He has no grounds to accuse his wife and demand ahe swears an oath.
Ask him if hes prepared to swear the same oath, same words as he is demanding off the wife

He never said he had a side chick before she cheated.

About the oath, yeah, i think the two of them should take it. I won't support a situation where he would force only his wife to take the oath. I'm all for equality in marriage. Do to your partner as you would love them to do unto you. That's my principle.

keepingmum:
You are unrepentantly, openly cheating on ur wife...even posted in on FB for friends and family to see yet you want ur wife to take an oath not to cheat on you? That you are Dangote or bill gates? Abi ur small dicck has become the size of Mandingo?
A common poor church rat like you that cant even afford to fly but rather jump buses is feeling like king kong.
Abeg, Madam Morgan if u see this post; you are a beautiful sexy woman, who after several kids, is still greatly desired by men outside...plz dont EVER take an oath with this wardrobe of a disease infected community peniis you call horseband.
Many men outside desire you and will treat you better thab this slowpoke

But you didn't chastise the woman that started it all the way you did above. Remember if she hadn't started cheating first the man wouldn't have reacted the way he did.
Sometimes women take faithful men for granted and cheat on them, this is why some men resort to cheating as a way to keep their women on the defense, because the woman will be fighting hard to keep off his side chicks and have him all for herself and would not have the time to cheat. It is a mind game !

I'm not trying to justify the fact that the man cheated in revenge but all the vituperations you poured on him were uncalled for considering that he was cheated on first.

This is pure scam !
Tell him to ignore the mail.

Missali:
The guy didn't have a flashy car or had money throw around. Go through the post again, you seem not to have grasped fully.

Besides, I reckon the best players are the ones who do not take on the attributes of a player.

The summary of what i am trying to pass across to you is that you should always try to scrutinize the guys you go out with, so that you can be able to pick the nice guys who would be honest and loyal. The signs are always there that the guy is not honest but many ladies ignore those signs. Bye

Missali:
I see no need for these questions. I never stated that I compelled him to rent a duplex, wear designer clothes or take me to a Chinese restaurant so what is your point?

You asked me how to know a guy who's gonna be loyal, and i just listed some attributes that may prevent you from recognizing a loyal guy because loyal guys are not players and i know that most ladies like to date players.

And i amsure that guy you dated is a player who may have exhibited attributes of players while you were dating.

Missali:
I see no need for these questions. I never stated that I compelled him to rent a duplex, wear designer clothes or take me to a Chinese restaurant so what is your point?

You asked me how to know a guy who's gonna be loyal, and i just listed some attributes that may prevent you from recognizing a loyal guy.

And i amsure that guy you dated is a player who may have exhibited attributes of players while you were dating.

Missali:
Kindly point out traits of the 'loyal gentlemen'. The last time I checked, the synonym for a purportedly good, single man on NL is one who has a job and is visionary. When a lady tries to seek out other qualities such as one who is very financially capable, she is termed all sorts of names.

Now when the so called loyal man turns disloyal it is somehow her fault still.

See, a loyal man is he who would tell you the truth and nothing but the truth. He may not have a job, but he is of sound character and treats you right.
If he doesn't have money to live in a porshe apartment he would comfortably rent a face me i face you room, while he works hard to rent a better place. Now would you agree to date him in that room

He may not have money to buy those flashy clothes and shoes, so he wears the cheap Aba made ones and not try to steal his brother or uncle's wears to dress cute and impress you, tell yourself the truth, would you not dump him

He may not be a brother in the lord, but a freethinker or atheist and doesn't pretend to believe in God, would you accept him like that

He may not tell you that he loves you more than his mom because he knows that no reasonable man would love another person more than his own mom. But that doesn't mean he doesn't love you but not just as much as he loves his mom. Would you not rather go for that player that lied to you that he loves you more than his mom.

He may not be the loud and outgoing type, but reserved,shy and introverted but still intelligent. Would you not rather fall for that loud player with sugar coated tongue

Lastly, your loyal guy may not be 6ft tall, dark in complexion with 6packs, but could just be an average-looking guy, would you honestly reason that all that glitters is not gold and focus on his character and loyalty instead of looking for that "fine boy" player

Answer these questions honestly and then you would see why you may not be able to meet that loyal and honest man who would keep to his promises.

xendra:
very true, I keep trying to tell people this, but I guess you'll all have to experience it to know. I know too many stories like this, I already feel sorry for a friend because she is about to experience this yet can't see it even tho its so obvious

This is not always the case. The problem is that you ladies like to fall for aszsholes but despise the loyal gentlemen. So, when these aszholes dump you you turn around and rope in all men as evil.

There are many honest guys out there but most of you ladies like to go after this dishonest ones and that's the problem.

ayoncox:
Because we nice guys are not skillful in the act of deceiving ladies. They do not love to hear the truth, as in Just tell an ugly lady you are beautiful and she will be running after you. The good thing about me is that I am nice but not foolish.

Is it even by force that one enter a relationship, I am 28 and have never been in one because of my personal ideologies. My business, my commitment is centered on making impacts for now, I won't let a lady divide my attention now. Someone here may say my own is too much, any way that is true the same applies to my mentors like Bill Gate, Mark Zuckerberg. Relationship is sweet when you have covered enough mile stones.

You are right ! Many ladies like to hear the lies instead of the truth. That is why if the nice guy tells a lady the truth about his financial status he'd get dumped while the ones that lie and deceive them with fake Porsche life are accepted.
This is why many of them end up being miserable in marriage.