₦airaland Forum

flyingdutchman:
Thanks.
Met my lady when I was extremely lonely and sad. Heard a sermon in church that said if I wanted a good wife, I should start becoming a good man. So, tried to make my ways right with God. And asked him for a friend and a wife.

Met her, she was not perfect. I helped build her up emotionally, psychologically- thought I was, didnt realized she was building me up in the process! We have been open with eachother ever since and fight our battles together with God in control.

That's great. You are quite lucky. All we see these days are tyrants parading themselves as wives while still commiting adultery behind their men. Women no longer see adultery as anything these days. They can even chatting immorally online with naughty guys all with the excuse that they are looking for fun. A married woman looking for fun aside her husband. You can imagine that.

Whoever is lucky to have a well mannered, discipline and a caring wife like yours should treat her right.

Spanishmilf:
asper visit visa no dey. Think twice

In your first post, you claimed the Op is illegal. Now I am asking you how an illegal person can escape to Nigeria to get his family to join him abroad? How will that possibly happen?

You supposed know that an illegal immigrant can't do a professional work abroad, no employee will even grant you an interview let alone employ you. But the op is a professional. That supposed make you know that he is legal even without stating it categorically.

LinLinGentle:
Divorce has been filed. I got lucky as I was able to secure a restraining order when she messed up again and hit me daring me to do my worst. I called the police and made a proper case and she was arrested. She has been banned from the house for a month. The police advised me to talk to my lawyer and extend indefinitely if I want to. I hope to get this done ASAP. The law here does not only protect women but also protects innocent men. All you need is patience and wisdom. Thank you all for your ideas. Still several hurdles to cross but I am on the winning side for now.

Congratulation! One thing people don't know is that no one can change anyone if the person solely refused to change. She is not a wise woman. Permit me to use that expression. How can a woman who have already had children with a man not even have the thought of working things out with her man for the sake of the children rather her thought is to destroy the man? She believes she won't be affected.

Please, don't make the mistake of not extending that restrain. Talk to your lawyer and put an indefinitely restrain on her so she can't have access to you.

She is simply a typical foolish woman. No woman with sense will work against the father of her own children. She needs to be sent back to Nigeria if it is possible so she can go marry another man she will destroy.

Shinny1:
I understand everything you said but if you really want peace to reign in your home ask her for forgiveness...even for the things you don't know you did..most ladies are like that
Then make her understand that you most things available are yet to be paid for and that if you mistakenly are sent back to Nigeria that she with the children will suffer cos they have not mastered how things work over there...
Most importantly is prayer never relent in praying for your family and everything

Madam stop this advice. Ask who for forgiveness? Somebody he brought from Nigeria and still harbouring malice that he will beg for forgiveness? Will that stop her from actualizing her evil plan on the man?

Let's view things from a reality point of angle before dishing out selfish advice to someone who is at the losing end.

You are a woman that's why you are advicing the man to beg the troublesome wife for forgiveness. If she is a good wife she wouldn't have been harbouring grudges of what transpired between them in Nigeria just in a bid to pay the innocent man back.

It is only a devil incarnate type of woman will use her own hands to destroy a man who solely brought her abroad for a better life. That woman is not a wise woman. She reasons with her emotions without seeing the reality side of things.

Begging her will not prevent her from her misbehaviors rather it will worsen things. All what the man needs to do is send her back to Nigeria before it is too late.

flyingdutchman:
Oga, SOME women, not all. I've been living overseas with my wife for a very long time now, I no get wahala. We are even more in love. When I was sick, na she dey work dey feed family and kids. Tenkiu.

You are lucky. We all pray to have good wives some days. This is a serious issue that requires God intervention. Getting that cool wife who is not there to destroy you is not a day job.

How did you meet your wife? Did you ask God for a good wife when you were looking for a partner or you simply met your wife by luck?

Spanishmilf:
They are both illegal, they can't travel back to Nigeria. If they do bye bye to Nigeria.
They are on visit visa not immigrants visa.

How can illegal person go back to Nigeria to bring the full family abroad? Say what you know.

Snaagg:
Nigerians abroad, how many of you are considering relocating back to the 'motherland' once this whole pandemic/lockdown debacle is over?

If you are, state your reasons here..

Op has your visa expired? Come and join us. After all this is our mothers' land. We need people like you to come and have a taste of our golden paradise Nigeria.

We now have 24hrs light o. Have you heard? Our roads are all tide now and smooth to drive in. No more potholes. No more kidnapping. In fact, you can dress any how you want and walk the streets of Nigeria, no police man will term you yahoo boy for dressing nice.

We now have clean pipe borne water o. All streets are electrified. During this coronavirus, Nigeria government even gave all of us N150,000 as palliative. We are all living well now. no more kidnapping.

Bro, can you believe education is now free from Primary to University level? Our hospitals are now well equipped. In fact, politicians no longer travel abroad for treatment. Pls return, we will welcome you with open arms.

Happy arrival in advance!

Prof1994:
I have been shouting on twitter since.
I have called customer care several times
I have been to the bank several times
I still went there today

They even said I will be arrested
Threatened me with security
They no longer attend to me again since I have been too regular
Yet no refund.
I am frustrated

You were told to copy CBN and efcc. Also copy ecobank along with access bank in the same tweet.

Norahsthought:
I don't understand. How please?

Don't marry any of the guy cuz you will end up cheating if you marry any of them. Reason being that you do not love any of the guy. They are simply great you remember? The clause there is that you said you are not in love with any of them but they are great guys. Mark that expression. Not in love but they are great. Being great in your own way might means that they are doing well financially. I think that's what you meant by they are great guys. Not really that you are in love with any of them. That's one red flag.

Don't make the mistake of marrying out of pressure from family and friends. The marriage won't last.

Do you want to marry because you truly want to marry or because you being pressured by family and friends? Are you in love with any of the guy you are aiming at marrying or you simply want to rush into marriage because you think menopause will soon catch up with you?

Be sincere with yourself. Don't go into marriage with someone you have no feelings for. Don't forget the red flag I pointed out to you. You are not in love with any of the guy.

This is the kind of stories we hear every day of how a lady married a guy and within 6 months of the marriage, the lady will be complaining of how she no longer feels anything for her husband. It all started like this.

If you see stories like that just know that it is either the girl rushed into the marriage due to the fear of becoming an evening news paper or her family or friend pressured her into the marriage.

Don't let your story be like that. Marry because you are in love not because your family and friends want you to.

Bola146:
Good forbid I should be a burden to my husband in future, we are helpmates. We should be caring to one another. This Op might have borrowed more money from the wife that he never returned which might want to be a burden or debt to the woman. Some men will never say the truth when it's comes to this kind topic

You are right to an extent. Some persons will borrow money from their partners and won't pay back with the mindset that she is my wife. If that happens, she won't be so free to borrow the man cuz she knows he won't pay back.

In such a case, the refusal of a woman not to borrow her husband money can't be totally questioned.

GeneralPula:
Your dp is one reason why I like small and petite girls..

Something I’ll be able to carry and to place at any circumference..

Na wa o. We are discussing Jide and Paulina and you are here discussing punnani. If I nack u akpako now, they will say person do bad thing.

Twoclans:
Shaking my head and bum bum for this your comment.

A woman that is pregnant , no matter how slutty a woman is most women wont cheat in pregnancy because child birth is a life and death situation .

According to human reproduction, the truth is that pregnant women have high sexual urge during pregnancy.

Research that and you will see that their sexual libido is quite high during pregnancy that's why pregnant women still make out with their partners during pregnancy. It even help to open the way up in preparation for the birth of the child.

With that, it is quite surprising that op wife is giving op time table for sex when it supposed be the other way round.

delkuf:
I didn't marry her because of money. she is not from a wealthy family. The issue is not of money, the issue is she is not caring. Didn't you read that part where I said I am down with fever now for three days, it was some friends I sent to get drugs for me. The only thing she had ask me is how is your body. please you guys should read through. if you are not giving her money, then she is not doing anything.

The question that is bugging my mind and every other person's mind now is was that how she behaved when you were courting her? Did she show any sign of uncaring attitude during your Courtship with her? What's your answer to those questions?

Bola146:
""Something if am broke, and I ask for Small amount of money, most time I want to use that money to get means for bigger money, she won't give""
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Sir Kuku tell us the real truth that she didn't borrow you money You requested for Please tell us the full story not half story

Bola, hope you won't be like that to your husband.

"My husband money is my money but my money is not my husband money". Women!

Casper21:
Pls op, just pay me for transport fare, i live in lekki phase 1,I'll surely leave my house and visit that your junior brother and una mum. I'll make sure that boy bleeds heavy blood while your mum I'll flog her with dry wood till she starts crying. This is the kind of people i so much hate in this world. People who cause other people depression. God bless you and your elder sister oo. I'll advise you take care of ur dad for the meantime till he gets better. And if he gets better pls dnt send him back to ur mum okay? When I'm done with the beating then he can return

Lol you dey para o. You know one can't beat ones mother no matter what. That's curse on its own.

Na that rabbit Op's younger brother na I will like his brain to be reset.

Ope88:
He was too soft and cool, always listening to my mum and does everything he says like he was bewitched, but then my mum had no Frends, just goes to church and returns, so we had no evidence she was a witch whatsoever.

You girls are too soft. How can your little brother render all of you to that level? Nothing will harden him up. He needs to receive some senses.

Even the Bible said it, spare the rod and spoil the child. Bring up a child in the right way and he will never depart from it. He will end up beating your mother the way I am seeing that rabbit call your younger brother.

The next time that rabbit try that nonsense, go to any army Barack, they will help you drill the smally so he can receive some senses.

Don't be too soft for such demeaning disrespect from such an asss hole. You girls are sparing the rod and it will make him become worse as time goes on because he knows 3 of you girls won't do anything.

He needs some drillings.

Scot1255:
If u r sure she loves u. Religion is strong enough to make people sacrifice what is dear to them.. Even people sacrifice their own life because of religion. So if u know she loves u n religion is d only problem, then tell her u will change your religion to hers n be so serious about it. Let her see d seriousness in u. When u get married to her n she can no longer stand divorce, then change back to your religion. When people are not d ones in love, they find it very easy to tell u to leave d relationship.. If they were in your shoes, it won't be easy for them to leave too

I don't think there is anything like love between them. The girl doesn't love the guy. This love of a thing is just mere emotions. Yes, he will be heart broken but he will be OK with time.

Time heal broken hearts. When you look back, you will just smile how you cried like a baby over a girl that doesn't care whether you exist.

As a man, always guard your emotions when dealing with women. They are heartless and mostly self centered. As far it is not about them, they won't feel what the other person is feeling. They don't care whether you are heart broken or not once they make up their minds to do something. That's ladies for you.

That's why you need to toughen up your mind and kill your emotional side when handling women due to their insensitive natures.

A girl that loves you will shift a ground for you and make some compromises just to make things work. But when she sensed that you've completely built all your life around her and you can't let go of her, she will use you to play football.

Never build your life around any girl. That's the worst mistake some men make in this life, because when things do not work out, she will be the one to easily move on while you will be there crying and begging like a baby. Do you know when you beg a girl, that's when they become more insensitive?

I will strongly advice the OP to let go of that lady. I promise him, in 6 months times, he will get healed of his destabilised emotions and will forget this girl completely.

This is what you get when you build all your life around someone.

Measure to people with the same cup they measure to you. If a partner doesn't show any sign of love to you, don't show any sign of love to such a partner.

Even if both of you marry today, the gap is too far apart, the marriage won't work. Muslim vs Christian? Move on my brother.

tardell007:
I'm done with school,I'll be coming to live with my spouse a u.s citizen. for a foreign trained dentist to practice in the u.s he or she has to go back to a dental school in u.s for 2years to be licensed to practice.

Why not just man up and do the two years and leave well there after. Two years is not such a long period of time. When you begin, before you know it, you are done. By the well. Dentists are well paid once they start working.

victorian:
That's where u are wrong. He will never turn into my worst enemy if he stops spending money on me .

I don't love him cos of his money alone . i love him cos he has and he believes in giving . like i do to any guy i date and in love with.
I use to give and spend alot on my broke exes until i decided to call it quits with dating broke guys , because the ones i spent money on were ungrateful . that's typical of most nigerians. So i understand where u are coming from.

You feed and care for your broke girl or guy and in the first sign of trouble they disappear . i have been in such unfortunate relationships in the past .

That's why when i went under . i kept off men and focused on bouncing back before dating anyone and i vow i will never date a broke guy ever again. At least my head no suppose forbid successful guys like myself or higher than myself .

I abstained, worked tirelessly for 4 good years ! Determined in rising up again and i did , that's when my now bf gave me a call and asked for a date . which i obliged and the rest is history .

So God forbid he stops crediting my account ? I will never ever leave him. He has my complete loyalty till the end .
I will never be have like those scumbags i dated in my past.
In not ungrateful. And i won't be mean at this latter age of my life. Money is good no doubt but i don't base my lovelife just on money alone.
And moreover I'm not broke . if he stops giving money. I have mine . I will definitely share with him. God knows i will.

I see!

victorian:
Well that's you.

Other guys who used such formula of starving me for whatever are now begging and crying to date me. But sorry , it too late .
While my boo whose head is screwed right , a man of few words and lots of action is now the one in charge of my heart and body. His nickname is Mr capable . No wasting , no fake promises , his own way is Action paves way!
God help me to keep him so happy and at peace ,with the way he has blossomed my life with great joy and contentment .

So dnspro, all women are not the same likewise all men cannot and will not be like you.

Let the same guy stops giving you money and watch how the same person you are pouring encomium will turn your enemy. This is what we call no money, no love.

This is fake love my sister. You love the guy based on the money he is spending on you. Without the money, he will turn your worst enemy. Is this the kind of love our grand parents experienced in the past.

seanwilliam:
u see me ehn, If I dey vex, I go dey get temperature , my voice go dey shake, my eyes go red, I go feel like I'm in war.. that's why I dey always walk away at the slightest provocation...

That kind vex that all your body and legs will be shaking? I can relate. As body don dey shake everybody go yakpa. They know you want to explode now.

DNSPro:
who are u currently dating? A foreigner?

But bro you acted too desperate and needy. Why will you even send her 60k? You can never satisfy a typical Nigeria girl with money. The more you spend ,the more the demands keeps coming in.

You don't even need to bother yourself checking WhatsApp status just to know she blocked you.

Don't spend on a girl. Use the money to upgrade your look and wears. Show a girl you have the money but don't spend lavishly on any so called girlfriend. If any can't stay without you doing everything for them financially which will in turn make you look like a mugu spender, let her leave.

I prefer to use any money I will spend on a girl to give myself a nice treat or give it to a guy rather than spending it on a girl. You are not her husband.

Let a lady feel you have money by giving yourself a nice treat but don't ever think helping her with money will make her love you.

Move on. But let this serves as a lesson to you in the next girl you will meet.

Confusedgirlie:
Haba! It's still special thanks to her. Even though she was paid handsomely, do you think the money outweighs the physical and mental pain she went through. I don't think you should trivialize her efforts. Yes, of course, it's OP's eggs and that's all good.

No doubt. You're right. She tried.

IbrahimSkiba:
Okay

Perfect! Good girl. I owe you a plate of egusi soup and Eba.

Let me know when you need it so I can way bill it to you through DHL.

If I were you, I would have caught it alive and keep it as a pet.

Liposure:
my brother, dis girls need 2 go back 2 school ASAP. Upon all d shakara na KK, YHU and other jargons dem go de write up n down

No mind some girls. I just tire for their matter.

IbrahimSkiba:
Mine your business, please

It's not about minding my business. I do mind my business alot but not for this one. If I don't point this out to you right away, you might end up using it to chat with the guy you like and you will be wondering why he is not replying you. That word k can spoil a potential nice chat with a guy.

Once you send "k", it means you've potentially ended the chat. Your guy won't see a reason to reply you cuz you've indirectly spoiled everything by sending k as a reply. It doesn't make a lady look smart in chatting when she send the letter k as a reply.

Learn to take corrections. I am a guy and I am telling you the plane truth. That word k is pretty annoying for a smart lady to send as a reply.

IbrahimSkiba:
K

This is another thing girls are fond of doing. That letter k is pretty annnoying to send as a reply. It either makes you seem too lazy that you can't type the actual Ok or Okay or you are just being overly unserious.

What stops you from typing OK or Okay? Tell me you were just trying to recite the alphabet with the guy. I can help him recite it with you.

GreenDee:
Hmmn, guys Sha.. you snub ladies for no just reason and you act like its cool, you don't imagine putting yourselves in their shoes, will you like to be snubbed as a human being, that shit pains tho.

Some ladies don't know when to snub. Most do that as a mind game playing. They do that to get attention from guys and those pusssy simp type of guys will be flooding them with messages.

If a lady snub me, I waste no time; courtesy demands that I free such a lady. Yes, I will free her completely because ain't got that time to lick any girl's ass.

A lady is not replying your messages - a guy who is wise will ignore her as well. When she is not getting that attention she wants by snubbing a guy, thinking the guy will keep on messaging her but the opposite is the case, she will by herswlf starts to reach out to the said guy.

Most times, it is immaturity that makes girls to snub guys. The clamour for attention from the opposite sex. That time a girl is using to snub a guy, if she is the wise type, she will use it to engage a guy in a meaningful discussions.

Having such a girl contact on my phone will even be a waste of time. I will delete her number once. Only fake girls who always like playing mind games snub for no reason.

Trayceey:
okay. But I don't understand that surrogate part. Did u give birth to the children yourself? Or was it with the help of a surrogate mother? Please clarify me

Let me explain it to you so you understand it.

Op's eggs were harvested and placed in an optimum incubator medium to prepare them for fertility.

After that, the husband's sperm were taken and placed along side op's eggs so that the eggs can get fertilized by the husband's sperm. Several eggs were actually fertilized.

After fertility, the Doctor used a special syringe to introduce the fertilized eggs into the surrogate mother (The other woman they bargained with). The eggs finally got implanted into the other woman's womb.

The only job the woman played was to help them carried the babies till 9 months and born them.

Genetically, the babies are cardboard copy of op and her husband not the other woman cuz op donated her own eggs and and the eggs were fertilized by op's husband sperm.

I hope you now understand it with this brief explanation.

Confusedgirlie:
Thanks first to science and then to the surrogate mother.

Thanks to the surrogate mother no doubt, but she was paid . She only carried the babies for 9 months. The eggs were op's eggs fertilized by op husband's sperm. So the only role the surrogate mother played was helping them to carry the babies for 9 months as op womb couldn't expand enough to carry the babies.

Genetically, the babies will look like op and her husband, DNA wise.

I believe surrogate mother was paid handsomely. So no special thanks to that. It is trade by barter.