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ogohiochola:
My friend and his wife got married since 2015 and the Marriage is blessed with 4 Children but there's no True love, he feels nothing for her and she's like a stranger.

What can he do?

This here, is the mindset of a perpetual fornicator/adulterer who thought that, by getting married he can change his ways, obviously he's tired of sticking with one woman. A leopard can never change its skin. Something tells me the bastard is already cheating on his wife. May God punish him, if he does that.

Alexgman1:
Its up to two years since i broke up with my ex (ALEX MARVEY). But uptil now I haven't gotten over her. She has moved on & deeply in love with someone new who she profess to be engaged to.
She has blocked me on every social media platforms but yet i still find a way to stalk her. Following her updates & uploads using a different and fake id.

Whenever we cross paths on the road she ignores me like we never knew before.
Despite the fact that it was her that messed up and did all the lies & cheating, yet i still forgave her for everything she did.

How can i move on and let go of her totally & for good because anytime i and my new girl are eating, walking, bathing & romancing i do imagine my ex.

You are finding it difficult to get over her, simply because you don't love the person you are presently dating.

A common mistake some people make is that they jump immediately into another relationship, after they break-up, just to spite or forget their ex. You are supposed to wait (and heal) for about 6 - 12 months before going into another love relationship (I am not talking about having female friends). That way you can reflect and learn from your past mistakes.

Hannibal Lecter - Silence of the Lamb
Javier Bardem - No Country for Old men
Pin head - Hellraiser
Joker - Batman
Mickey Rourke - The Immortals
Nemesis - Resident Evil
Theodore Bagwell 'T-bag' - Prison break
Iceman - Undisputed

Will update more when I remember.

The social media is a bait to fools, while it's a tool to the wise.

Most Stupid Of All Time (M.O.A.T)

rawpadgin:
Okay, was having a drink with a friend of mine last night & he told me he no longer find his fiancée attractive. They got engaged a year ago & the babe is already pregnant for him. He is however still planning to wife her because the girl is a wife material & he will grow further financially with her by his side but believes he might be cheating on her after marriage.

According to him, the said girl has done a lot for him mostly during the pandemic period but believes he shouldn't be getting married to a girl simply because she has assisted him on many occasions. All my effort to convince him that the feelings will come after marriage proved abortive.

One thing is certain, God will punish that your 'friend'.

growtogeda:
bros,
1. go and marry
2. get busy. only idle people get the time to masturbate .

No 1 reason you mentioned is one of the most common wrong reasons why people get married. Why should sex be a major reason for getting married.

Most people (not all) below the age of 25 are unpredictable and unreliable in love relationship, anything can happen when you are in a relationship with them.

robosky02:
Life of a deceased slay queen has been exposed by her family with a dick shaped coffin.

Recently, many family use carved coffin to portray the life of their lost ones when they were alive . In many instances,some use bible shaped coffin whilst others use car shaped coffin but in this case,this deceased young lady was so unlucky that her family members used penis carved coffin to bury her.

The photo which went viral on social media picked attentions of many users. Even though people think what the family did is against our tradition,our underground checks got us informed that the slay queen wasn’t in good terms with the family and that triggered them to take revenge in a very simple manner.

https://theworldnews.net/mw-news/family-of-a-deceased-slay-queen-used-d-ck-carved-coffin-to-expose-her-exploit-when-she-was-alive

@op: That doesn't look like a Ghanaian funeral, in most (if not all) parts of Ghana, they wear black and red outfits for funerals.

13. With freedom comes huge amount of responsibilities.
14. As a man thinketh, so he his.

olabrinks:
1. Maintain your weight whilst your young. Not watching your weight will give you series of problem later on in life. Exercise and eat properly.

2. Dont be with someone who’s family do not like you. It is an everlasting battle that you will eventually lose.

3. You will not gain respect trying to please everyone. Stand up for yourself and always speak your mind.

4. Only share things when you are established. People are envious and will try to destroy your plans if you share too quickly.

5. Listen more than you talk.

6. Social skills are paramount for getting further in life. You must learn how to make solid connections.

7. Elders do not know it best

8. Confidence is more valuable than looks

9. Your family doesn’t always want the best for you

10. No one will values you until you hit it big.

11. Be careful with alcohol. It is addictive and very accessible, probably the worst drug out there.

These are just some of mine, feel free to contribute some of yours.

12. You will never feature in a future you cannot picture.

Chige777:
Hello everyone. Please bear with me because this might be lengthy. I have being dating a Jehovah witness lady for about two years now.

She is such a wonderful and caring lady. The type that would make sure I am happy at all times.

Around November last year, she found out that I cheat. She even found out that I cheated that same week she came to my house. After much apologies and all, she forgave me and we continued. We kept having issues and reconciling. We finally broke up in February because they don't marry outside their church (I am not even thinking about marriage now) and someone in her church has approached her for marriage.

They are planning the wedding but she still comes to my house and we Bleep each time she comes. Today she came and her husband to be was calling her she refused taking the call. I asked her why is she doing this to the guy, she said even if she gets married tomorrow she will still be fuc...king me. Although I don't know the guy but I feel pity for him

Karma just sent you a friend request.

Blackmoran:
Yea my ex..... She came all the way from benue to leave with me, every day she keeps bombarding me with pictures of people wedding, fantasising on babies and us having kid together... Though this girl was cool she is homely can cook clean and kind of intelligent to spice it up my family loves her so much especially my dad, she has this free spirit personality.. But my instinct wasn't good with the idea it was too good to be true.. And secondly I wasn't ready financially to take on the burden of marriage but this girl never mind.... During December she travelled with my junior sister to his home town, to cut the story short I followed my instinct and today am a surviver of what would have given me heart attack....... During the thick of the moment she started showing are true colour, that homely girl started showing arrogant trait, the change was fast that I thought this can't be true... I did the right thing I broke up with her... Though my dad was sad about it but I let him know I know her more Than Them and what she portray is not who she is... A week after we brokeup my junior sister gave me the shocking news of my life.... That my ex was pregnant. . I didn't believe her cause We haven't had sex up to 4 months meaning when she was with me she was banging another dick... I waited till eight month later to find out she gave birth to a baby boy...and here let me burst your brain the father of the baby was my best friend who I trust so much...na that one pain me pass ... Lesson when a girl is trying to rush you into marraige run for your life.... If you want to get married do it at your convenient time... All girls would be at there good behavior during courtship, this one even take it to the extreme she even dey cut grass for compound... Na after marriage woman go show you are real colour....

Bro, I agree with everything you typed here, but please note that, there is no "convenient" time for marriage.

In as much as it has its huge benefits, when used for good purposes, I have come to understand that the internet social media/platform is like a bait most fools cannot resist.

Most fools post/display extreme foolishness, just for likes on social platforms.

One fact a lot of people are struggling to understand is that, education does not guarantee wealth, it aims to make you a better person, give you a broader understanding of things, even in diverse fields, and most importantly it brings a form of fulfilment. Which reminds me of the common saying "if you think education is expensive, then try ignorance".

kiddkash:
Sergio Ramos looking at them like

see these learners

Let's not forget Pepe, the former Real Madrid Portuguese defender.

star4ever:
I have a 42 year old brother who for over 18 years has been on hard drugs. He started this habit while in secondary school and couldn't finish tertiary education for same reason. Efforts made by the family to stop him from substance abuse and rehabilitate him at several occasions failed. Each time such effort is made, he recovers after a while but returns to the habit. Currently, he has become mentally deranged and there seems to be no solution at sight.

He has been admitted to different psychiatric hospitals on two occasions. At both times, he was treated and confirmed fit and sound to return to the society. The moment he was discharged, he quickly went back to his old ways and all the resources spent went into the drain. In one of the occasions, we were strongly advised to engage him as joblessness was one of the greatest problem causing the abuse. We got him engaged by securing a fantastic job which he also left after a week of working there. Other meaningful efforts geared towards engaging him to enable him to become occupied and start earning a living as a man also didn’t work out.

We have organised prayer sessions by powerful men of God, nothing has happened yet. I do want to sound like someone without faith. I strongly believe that our able God will make things beautiful at His time. However, the situation has gone out of control and we need to act fast.

These, amongst many, are some of the interventions already done by the family and we cannot fold our arms and watch people mock us in shame every day due to his abnormal activities in the community.

Now what he does is forcefully, take money from our aged mum, sell any family property at sight in exchange for money to buy his drugs. Beat my mum up at any slightest refusal to give him money. He has been jailed many times for committing several offences related to this habit, yet the problem persists. Maybe we have not applied the best approach?

I am calling on fellow Nairalanders to assist with solutions. I believe there are some of us here who may have experienced this problem in one way or the other, or have an advise to give to solve this lingering painful situation. Your personal or professional experience (s) may go a long way in salvaging this situation for us.

I believe a problem shared is a problem solved.

There's a programme called CADAM (Christ Against Drugs and Alcohol abuse Ministry), being organized and sponsored by the RCCG (Redeemed Christian Church of God). Try enroll him in the programme.

Mikespecialone:
Very early this morning, this monkey came out of the bush into my house. I spotted it, called two guys to kill it......

God self know, I never chop meat for long and he sent me this....Front page please

Congratulations Mr. Killer.

1. Samuel L Jackson
2. Milla Jovovich (Resident evil)
3. Ben Afleck (Batman)
4. Anthony Hopkins (as Hannibal Lecter) Silence of the lambs
5. Eddie Murphy
6. Mickey Rourke
7. Javier Bardem (No Country for old men)

martinmiller:
Character they say is the beauty of a woman and money is the beauty of a man that's why every man desires success and a luxurious lifestyle.

Moreover, few are willing to go through the right part of success in order to achieve it. There are certain things men do in their daily life activities that hinders their opportunity to success. They may see it as a way out of poverty, but woefully, it's the gateway to the throne of poverty.

There are many habits that can keep a man in the circle of poverty. Check them out below.

1. Gambling.

There is no such thing as getting rich quick. Financial success takes time, takes initiative, and requires relentless effort to achieve.

People who engage in gambling are deluded into thinking there is a shortcut to success. A lot of self-made millionaires today didn’t pursue any get-rich quick schemes. Instead, they make a habit of pursuing their dreams and their goals one after the other.

A lot of Nigerian youths believe so much in gambling that they made it a job. They have the believe that a single one hundred naira note can fetch them fifteen million naira. How long do intend on spending before you achieve that goal. Every known successful man today never earned their wealth from gambling.

2. Drinking Too Much Alcohol.

While the occasional glass of wine or beer is fine, drinking too much could reduce your chances to financial success. Do you know drinking too much could affect your memory and ability to think clearly ?. If you can't think and remember things clearly, how do you intend to make a plan for your financial freedom ?.

I'm not saying alcohol is evil but there is a limit to everything in life including the same alcohol. Some men believe it's never okay till they feel drunk. Only a poor man with a poor mentality thinks like that. 1-2 bottles of beer or even 2 glasses of wine is very much okay for a man with a goal in life. It doesn't mean you have to start drinking two glasses everyday. There are times when things are required in life. Say no to excessive intake of alcohol for your financial freedom.

3. Your Type Of Friends.

A wise man once said, Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are. Those words are absolutely true. Who you hang out with matters more than you may think.

Many rich people today changed their friends the day they decided to make wealth. Make a habit of associating with other success-minded individuals like you.

If you sorround yourself with drunkards and smokers, even if you don't drink or smoke, definitely one day you will see yourself doing it.

You are only going to succeed in life if you surround yourself with the right type of people.

4. Spending Too Much Time Infront Of The TV.

In a success study, it is revealed that 80% of poor people today spend more than five hours Infront of their television screen daily. Complete precious five hours.

Have you ever wondered why the most expensive cars and properties are not putting their advertisements on TV ?. The answer is simple, the people who buy and patronise it doesn't spend time on television so probably they can't see it.

The rich or success-minded people would rather be educated than entertained. They replace TV time with reading, thinking, exercising, or any other form of self education.

I'm not saying watching TV is something not important, but spending too much time on it. Spend more time in planning your map to success instead of watching people who followed their path to success.

5. Thinking Negatively.

Long-term success is only possible when you have a positive mental outlook to it. You can never be successful if you always imagine yourself poor. If you don't believe in yourself, why trying ?. You always have the thoughts of I cannot make it, that's one of the reasons you have not made it to success.

The problem for most people is that they’re completely unaware of their thoughts, positive or negative. If you stop to listen to your thoughts, to be aware of them, you would find most of them are negative. But you only realize you are having these negative thoughts when you force yourself to be aware of them. Awareness is the key.

Take your mind of negative thoughts. Replace them with positiveness. They say a believer is an achiever. Believe in yourself.

6. Doing A Job You Don't Love.

Toiling away at a job you hate will not only leave you stressed out and dissatisfied with life, it could affect your chances at getting rich because you don't appreciate the outcome.

The wealthiest, most successful people pursue their passions, you should consider doing the same thing in your working days in life. Do what you have passion for, work is fun. Passion defeats education, intelligence, skills, and any other advantage those who lack passion might have in life.

Passion makes work fun. Passion gives you the energy, persistence, and focus needed to overcome failures, mistakes, and rejection. It infuses you with a fanatical tenacity that makes it possible to overcome obstacles and pitfalls that block your path.

7. Spending too much.

Spending more than you make is the fastest and surest road to financial breakdown.

You can't be earning a salary of 50 thousand naira and be driving a car that requires maintenance of 15 thousand naira monthly, it leaves you with 35 thousand naira salary. You have groceries and rent to pay the same month with other little things to do with money. What happened to saving ?, What you save and plan for is very important even before the salary comes.

People who spend too much faces a lot of challenges, they have no money for retirement, for their kids’ college, or for pursuing opportunities that present themselves. Spending more than you earn and putting saving on your back creates long-term poverty, with no hope of escape.

8. Ignoring customers feedback.

At the end of the day, you might already have a business established, ignoring customers feedback on your products and services pulls your business down faster than the change in currency.

Fear of criticism is the reason we do not seek feedback from others. You have more chances of improvement if you listen to your customers feedback.

Feedback is essential to learning what is working and what isn’t working. Feedback helps you understand if you are on the right track. Seeking criticism, good or bad, is a crucial element for learning and growth.

Feedback provides you with the information you will need in order to succeed in future and make improvements.

That will be all for now. I hope this helped and educated you on some of the things you need to stop doing in life if you want to achieve success.

See you at the top !

8. Excessive womanizing: This makes a lot of men to spend unreasonably just to impress strange women, who do not add any value to their lives.

Dreambeat:
I agree that they were wrong for doing that at this time but I am trying to be empathetic here. For those who make their living through daily sales, the lock down has been quite challenging. Moreover this ugly trend of brandishing photos of the accused but not proven guilty, on the internet just has to stop.

God bless you for this.

AfroKnight:
Bro haven’t you heard? Good guys finish last.

Most babes reserve a spot in their hearts for good guys. They treat such guys as a fall-back plan in case the cocky bastàrds they want, leave them broken. This is so they can carry their broken selves to the good guy to patch up and marry.

If they’re lucky, the bad boy sticks with them and they endure a tumultuous marriage. If not, it’s mr nice guy they’d be buzzing on Whatsapp after 5 years incommunicado.

Don’t be the nice guy. Don’t be the last option on the list of an unstable untrustworthy woman.

I think this comment sums it up.

Mandelus:
Never believe you did wrong by reading your hubby chat... Both of you are one and there is no 2 .
Secondly don't mind this quote up here.
Thirdly all the things you desire him to do for you do it for him with time he will reciprocate it...
Fix a date with him
Cook his favorite.
Play with him... Ask him to please you if not he will not get his phone do it laughing.
Tell him you miss him if he is outside late (call or text).
Tell him you missed those moments you cherished while you where dating.
Secondly dress nice, mannered not like a LovePeddler but in modesty..
Kia he will see you as a mother if you will treat him as your grown up son.
Never take advice from a divorcees or widow ...

Op I suggest you follow this advice.

NevetsIbot:
How Best Do I Handle This Issue With My Cousins August visit?

Hello everyone. I hope I don't get to bore you all too much with this palava I've found myself in.

I understand how sensitive family can be and that's why this is giving me a little bit of headache.

I have this Cousin; My aunts son from my father's side. We're almost age mates. We got to meet last year April. We had seen each other last about 17yrs ago. So it was more or less like Personalities coming in contact. As expected, we differed a lot. He was more of a rough guy, impatient with needless bravado and a penchant for letting people know how though he thinks he is.

He schools in Ogun state and I in Ondo. We met last year when he came to my school to see me. I overlooked his stupid acts as per that was our first time of meeting and he was going to spend just three days.

He told me he wanted to come again this year and I told him it'd have to be after exams ending by march - knowing fully well that by then, I'd drop another excuse. The semester is crazy right now and I have to divide my time between academics, executive duties in school, art and interior decorations I do. I get home earliest 10pm almost every day.

Last night around 1am... I was seated outside my villa enjoying the night breeze and trying to write a few articles when my neighbor asked me if this my cousin had come... I was confused. My cousin had told this girl he was coming and truly he was on his way.. all the way from Ogun state. At 1am. It was when it got a bit crazy in the street that he called me to help him get to my villa. Which I did but didn't speak to him... Wouldn't trash my cousin before a girl.

The issue is this.

1. I need my privacy.. Being alone helps me focus on work and academics. I need nobody around me. My grades need to be revamped.

2. I don't smoke and I laid down rules that he should never try it around me... I got home today to pick an artwork and my charlet was full of smoke. He did that.

3. Talks with the rural rugged guys in my area. I don't want any mix whatsoever with those guys

4. His bravado is next to foolishness. Where's he's supposed to stay low, he'll act up. He sags extra lower than normal, wears earrings and talks like a thug.

5. He seems to attract cultists to himself even in his school. He's more or less like a baby I need to monitor

I'm not an S.U but I try to show myself as responsible in wherever I stay. Ion smoke. I'm fashionable but don't go extra mile like a juvenile.

Please, I need the best way to eject this guy out of my place ASAP. I'm too busy to have someone around. I do not need this. Talking to him in a brotherly manner makes him flare up. I wouldn't want to make this rough as I tend to lose control when I get really angry.

Please advise

1. Allow your house to be used for house fellowship centre by your church members (assuming you are a Christian, if not, I believe the Muslim brethren should also have something similar to that). Mandate your cousin to attend.

2. Or sublet your apartment to another student, and move elsewhere.

BadRadio:
I just cant wrap my head around it. I ve observed overtime and I am still wondering how these things happen.

You see a very good looking dude/lady getting married to a not so physically appealing and compatible dude/lady.

Some might say it could be that the lady/dude has got some monetary influence or that his/her dad is Otedola, Sir Tony Elumelu or Dangote or something like that or that he/she has inner beauty/qualities and all that.

Some might say the definition of beauty can be personal sometimes which doesn't take any particular conventional explanation and that it usually lies in the eyes of the beholder.

But let me ask all the fine boys & pretty ladies on Nairaland. "

"Can u get married to a ladyGuy that doesn't measure up or complement you with his/her looks"

I believe that every good looking guy/ lady deserves an amazingly beautiful/ handsome woman/guy to get married to, at least for the sake of posterity... let the unborn kids be proud their dad/mum made the right choice

Some lessons are best learnt via experience. If you have suffered in the hands of an ex lover/partner, who possesses physical attractiveness without character, your views regarding this matter will change.

Attractiveness is a thing of the mind. What you value in people tells a lot about the kind of person you are. A person with shallow reasoning will typically value superficial things.

Pavore9:
God "created you" that way and still commands you not to commit fornication nor adultery? He created you in His own image, to be the physical and spiritual head of your home and not to sleep around like a dog.

God bless you!

northvietnam:
which MOD?


na until dey add the headlines below before them go pushy front page

Northern group bans Amotekun.. or Mercy broke the internet with her dressing, Tonto Dike attends holidays in Dubai .

You forgot to include snake-related matters

The guy painted the whole pvssies red!

henzy4life:
Mrdinno what evidence are u looking for? Is it circumstantial evidence or direct evidence?

Based on the report so far, there is no circumstantial evidence suggesting that he killed his wife, outside the rumor that he was forced to marry her. That's no enough proof that he killed her.

Pidginwhisper:
But where’s the evidence that he’d pushed her down? If women narrate story for you ehn you go just weak. Was she there when he beat her to death and also watched him throw the body down from 5th floor.


Fear women!

I share the same opinion. There is no evidence substantiating the fact that he killed his wife. So, he should be presumed innocent until proven guilty in the court of law.

Opexzy:
Died in active service... His manhood lives on.
He died on top single mom matter.

But wait, what will he tell his creator

'It is the work of the devil', I guess

The story said 'allegedly', so it's wrong to presume that he killed his wife, until he's proven guilty. Some nairalanders didn't read the story at all.